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 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Help
Posted: 10/6/2012 7:35:54 PM
HahHHA!

Gals look at the thumbnail and figure you are contacting them for a threeway with you and your girlfriend!

Why would they bother to read your message? Duh.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Finding a job in a new city.
Posted: 10/6/2012 11:08:51 AM
Resume template:

http://makeitfly.aero/images/sample_resume.pdf

Recruiting sites:

Monster.com

Careerbuilder.com
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Awkward Dates.
Posted: 10/6/2012 10:49:52 AM
awkword- 1.Causing difficulty; hard to do or deal with: "one of the most awkward jobs is painting a ceiling"; "some awkward questions".


awkword - 1. An ornithological reference - Causing people to proclaim "The Bird is the Word ... Awk, Awk, Awk!"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WNrx2jq184&feature=youtube_gdata_player
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Living on Less
Posted: 10/6/2012 9:21:49 AM
Here is a website that contains money saving tips as well as printable coupons:

http://www.tipresource.com/

It was started by one of the TLC extreme couponers. She claims that clipping coupons from the paper and magazines is old school. The new approach is searching the Internet for items in store circulars, then printing the corresponding coupons off your computer.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
He emailed me two days ago
Posted: 10/5/2012 8:48:25 PM

what are some of the signs that he may be interest in me? I don't know how to proceed.


Not sure ... But have you checked amazon to see if they carry dart guns?
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
International dating
Posted: 10/5/2012 8:40:31 AM
OP - instead of going for a type of disembodied romance (seems contrived), why not join a foreign language learning site?

Meet real people in other locations that want to "trade" practicing skills in English/ Italian language.

www.busuu.com

Make acquaintances of both genders. Get a feel for the culture/ community/ locale in which you may be interested BEFORE making major life-changing decisions.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
I need help
Posted: 10/4/2012 5:54:36 PM
You hate the fields you have chosen.
Your Romantic life is like a roller coaster.
(Broke up this summer and dating as recently as 8/24, now in a "relationship.")
You hate your given name(s).
You went to the ER for help with depression.

Really ... You need to focus on getting yourself to a point of emotional/ mental stability before making any major decisions. Please seek help.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
They take pignapping very serious here in Texas!
Posted: 10/4/2012 11:27:37 AM

All was going well until this freaking little kid saw me and started pointing and screaming his lungs out.


He was probably a scared little city kid:

A city child came running into the farmhouse. "No wonder that mama pig is so big," he yelled. "There's a bunch of little pigs out there blowing her up!"

 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
They take pignapping very serious here in Texas!
Posted: 10/4/2012 11:15:39 AM
I can only imagine that they would of called in the FBI if I had tried to cross state lines with that baby pig!


You should probably be ok. Getting the FBI involved would be a consequence of violating the Mann Act which addresses the interstate transport of females for "immoral purposes." Since it was a boy piglet, it would just be seen as consensual porking and not actually "makin' bacon."

Maybe you'll be able to succeed this year! Best of luck!
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
They take pignapping very serious here in Texs!
Posted: 10/4/2012 6:38:30 AM
Oh come on now when they said to NEVER come back they surely only meant ljust ast year right? (wink)


So let me get this straight ...
You broke the petting zoo "site rules" and are now trying to circumvent their ban?


Should I perhaps wear a disguise when entering the petting zoo this year(just in case) ?


Are you attempting to create a second (stealth) profile?


Apparently some people have trouble with rules and authority. Read the back of your State Fair entry ticket for terms of use.

 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
He emailed me two days ago
Posted: 10/3/2012 4:29:38 PM
You have two threads on this same issue, OP.
That's against the rules.

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts15591795.aspx#15591795

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts15591761.aspx#15591761
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
He emailed me two days ago
Posted: 10/3/2012 4:23:09 PM
He did say that I can go walking with him and his BFF (who is a woman) anytime.


That just doesn't sound quite right to me. Maybe you're "friend zoned" already.
Don't get your hopes up.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 41 (view)
 
How honest ?
Posted: 10/3/2012 3:59:28 PM

Msg 1:
Long story but if I was to have access it would end up being detrimental to me and my other two children due to my ex-partners self confessed "issues", eg..commitment phobia, psychological bullying, manipulation etc.


Msg 37:
this guy came here asking for help and opinions, not baseless judgement. you should all be ashamed of yourselves.


Msg 25:
I have an even lower opinion of people who say their ex is so unstable that they can't be around them but leave a helpless infant with them to raise alone.


Ditto.
Get off your dead ass, OP, and if your ex is as bad as you claim, get the HELL off this site and make your priority the safety and well-being of your baby, FFS.

 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
is a cake ok ????
Posted: 10/3/2012 3:29:45 PM
she was gonna donate the table


I would tell her that you are so pleased about her gift, you would like to "pay it forward."
Ask if she has a favorite charity and tell her you would be honored to make a donation.

That way you benefit as well as the charity and your friend knows how much it means to you.

I just feel strange... kinda honored she would give me something that nice.
I think WOW........
yet I feel a little bad maybe?

I have "sold" things to friends and just requested a donation when they asked what they could do. It makes everyone more comfortable. I never checked up on them however.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What is wrong with me?
Posted: 10/3/2012 8:59:54 AM

What is wrong with me?

1) You plan to leave the country soon
2) your "Profession" is Traveler - so you are a paid courier?
3) you use the words "ze" for the and "ye" for your (?)
4) your hair looks as if it was styled with an egg beater.
5) "vidya" (games)
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
I need some honest feedback....
Posted: 10/2/2012 7:03:49 AM
Your profile is hostile and combative. Do you really think women are going to read through a whole paragraph that commands them not to contact you if ... Blah, blah, blah. ?

You sound like you don't suffer fools, but it comes off as being a jerk.

Try not to have such a confrontational vibe.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
When is it time to give up?
Posted: 9/30/2012 7:28:51 AM

Do you think its time to give Fish a rest and go out in to the real world to find love?


OMG !?!? Stop with all the craaaazzy talk!

You're scaring us!!
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Not sure what 1st message to send women on here
Posted: 9/29/2012 1:25:48 PM
My response rate is near zero, with the occasional pointless response answering my question by saying "no"


Well, then ... You have the perfect grounds to experiment!

Who do you contact?
Leverage your height. Contact tall women (say 5'10" +).
You need to choose overweight and a little unkempt looking, so that you are on a level playing field.

Good luck!
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 25 (view)
 
those big flat screens and decorating
Posted: 9/29/2012 11:58:19 AM
Sounds like you need a cabinet with a concealing hydraulic lift:

http://www.cabinet-tronix.com/modern_styles.html

 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
And the house burns...
Posted: 9/29/2012 9:52:52 AM

find this is one of the hardest things to get my mind around, feeling like you never meant anything to someone. Maybe you do mean more to her than you think, and this is just her way of letting you go without hurting herself too much over it.


two problems here:
1) You are telling yourself fairy tales about what you mean to someone else in order to soothe your own feelings. You will never truly know what someone else is feeling.

2) You are projecting your way of feeling about people onto others. Some people do NOT have the capacity to bond or have strong feelings (love) toward others. Just because you have certain feelings does not mean others have the same capacity.

It's best to recognize emotional incompatibility ASAP. It can rarely be mitigated.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
And the house burns...
Posted: 9/29/2012 7:20:01 AM
For someone who has such an astute insight into the types and depth of problems that plague your former girlfriend, you seem ignorant (or in denial) about the impact of her conditions on your relationship. In other words:
Borderline and narcissistic personality disorder is a largely misunderstood condition, defined as “a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image and marked impulsivity,” and can affect family members just as much as the diagnosed individuals.


I am surprised you are surprised that she can change her "feelings" so easily.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Sticky situation with a fake engagement ring ...
Posted: 9/28/2012 7:57:05 AM
Any peripheral comments I made about this woman personally were merely to make a point about what I thought her true intentions were.


But, how can you tell what her "true" intentions were? You'll never know, because the situation was manipulated and she was "set up" by at least one of her nasty and cruel co-workers who provoked her by saying:
"Are you sure it's real?"


That is almost as intrusive and rude as asking someone whether their teeth are "real" or they wear dentures.

Except, it is even more cruel, since it introduces the element of pushing doubt into her thoughts and undermining the relationship with her BF. How mean her co-workers must be. They must enjoy pulling wings off flies as well.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
On being aloof
Posted: 9/26/2012 10:50:42 AM
The OP's "clever" yet dismissive responses (in some cases), as well as his over-analytical and over-articulate style of expression is just one of the tools he has cultivated to keep people at a distance while having an "interaction" with them.

It's sort of like a condom for his mind.

P.S. You may already know this OP, but in case you don't - FYI:
1) the phrase "I now feel like I air a little too much in the opposite direction" should be "I now feel like I err a little too much in the opposite direction."

2) Consider holding a wine glass by the stem versus the bowl, so as to avoid your body temp "warming" the wine.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
On being aloof
Posted: 9/26/2012 10:31:59 AM
Here are my thoughts:
All the smoke and mirrors about being "unconventional" along with the contrived nature and over-structuring of your personal interactions (as indicated by your thread as well as your profile) points to the possibility of an Avoidant Personality as partially described below:
Ultimately, we may find ways to "cope." We might decide that being alone is preferable to being with others. We may find our own company though lonely...safer than what we had experienced before. We think - If we don't risk then we can keep others from hurting us. If we can build walls around our hearts, around our bodies then we can cocoon and find solace within the quiet peace of ourselves. We want a soulful existence but the FEAR is strong, the vulnerability just too much and so...we go inward.


avoidantpersonality.com

You know you are "different," and so do those around you. Hard to put your finger on exactly why you come off that way, though, isn't it? You spend most of your time in your head and feel safe and secure among your own over-analytical thoughts. That is the only place you can really control. Unfortunately, this is one of those "can't see the forest" things, since your frame of reference is skewed.

Anyway ... No shame in it. Just a unique personality type and plenty of room for satisfying relationships, although they may not look like everyone else's. There are no rules about how many friends you need to have, what type of intimate relationships you may foster, or how long they may last.

I encourage you to consider the feasibility of this shoe fitting. You are young enough that you can re/learn some effective coping strategies and have your own brand of "happiness." Good luck!
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 60 (view)
 
girlfriends history
Posted: 9/26/2012 6:28:14 AM
iv not cheated on my partner i do need to change my profile granted


Oh ... Good for you. I see you have updated your profile with a naked chest shot (how mature) and indicated you are "living together" while seeking an Intimate Encounter (truly evolved).


What a lucky gal to be living with an illiterate, lying, cheating, hypocritical, self-absorbed buffoon.
Why don't you tell her you are not being monogamous?

You think her past is any justification for exposing her to the dangers of STIs and the emotional devastation that accompanies unfaithfulness?
Tell her NOW, you &@*%!
Hopefully, your blissfully unaware girlfriend will find an older man to bang as soon as possible so she can dump your cheating ass.

BTW ... Posting a profile in hopes of finding an "off the books" hook up IS cheating.

How nauseating.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
On being aloof
Posted: 9/26/2012 3:31:30 AM

Anyway, I'm hoping that this isn't overly wordy or boring. :) Thoughts?


I am sorry to report, your hopes have been dashed. :(
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Should I go or should I stay?
Posted: 9/25/2012 12:43:29 PM
Telling someone they should take responsibility is far from blame - and it certainly does not mean I assert some hypothesis about someone else (who is not even telling his side) being a victim. you seem to have a very emotional reaction and attachment to those terms.

I find it amusing you think you are justified in giving the OP a "diagnosis" of being co-dependent, yet when someone else gives her some straight up observations about how she got where she is (and thus, how she can change herself), it is Blaming. Holy krap.

She can only change herself, not him. Just repeating a chorus of "stop caring and kick him to the curb" is not going to help her change.
She's in too deep to her own control over him - threatening to leave so he will promise to get a job, etc.
She's not going anywhere until she can see what she needs to change in herself.
But, good luck with your approach.

P.S. You talk like he is a predator. You really want her to feel victimized? That only reinforces the concept she can't take some control over the situation. How do you know she didn't reel him in with this deal of taking care of him until he gets on his feet?

Something is keeping her there. It isn't the first time he threatened suicide. Go read the OP's stuff again.
It's working for her.

P.P.S. OMG, hearton64, are you for real? I went to look at your history in this thread where you diagnose and chastise the OP:
I just checked out your profile and it seems you are in your 50's and probably have been in abusive relationships in the past and stayed due to some amount of codependency on your part.The way you have reacted is no less dysfucntional than he has.Not saying you are totally messed up,but in reality,your reasoning is scewed thanks to your own relationship history and low self esteem
.I suggest getting some professional help for yourself ASAP.


So, it's OK for you to offer your "insight," but mine is assigning "blame?"

Obviously, the OP is not the only one in this thread who can use a little "recalibration" in the self-awareness arena.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Should I go or should I stay?
Posted: 9/25/2012 8:17:45 AM
Talk about total blameshifting Iona bob



OMG ... A 54 year old woman has a BF for 5 months who has previously threatened suicide and has no job (maybe since they met), yet she lets him live with her and takes care of him and then comes here to ask if she should leave him because he didn't walk her home?


Have some compassion and stop making him out to be some sort of victim in this.
He knows he's exploiting and manipulating her!How about he OWN that!

Exactly where have I made him out to be the victim? How about the OP OWN her part in this little drama fest? There are NO victims in this symbiotic little drama fest that both parties have set up for themselves. They are each controlling and manipulating the other. Sounds idyllic to me.

I think that people who would believe one partner is more to "blame" than the other should look at their own issues.

I believe they may be perfectly suited to each other, frankly.

ETA: read MSG 17 again. She seems satisfied that her dramatic threat to leave (haha!) was "successful"
He did get the seriousness of needing to get a job.


WTF? She is focused on HIM getting a job versus him killing himself and HER getting out?

This is just Act 102, Scene 87 in a long drama-filled odyssey. If other people want to blow sunshine up her skirt, fine by me!
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Should I go or should I stay?
Posted: 9/25/2012 7:49:47 AM
OP - you, yourself, are a type of emotional manipulator. In your opening post (MSG 1) you say:
there have been a couple of smallish things bothering me all along, and one very big one--he's not trying very hard to look for a job.

And then in MSG 13, you casually let it drop that:
He's talked about suicide and I don't ever want to be the cause of that

Seriously?
You start a thread about seeing a possible "red flag" in the failure of your BF to see you safely home, and then later let the cat out of the bag about him holding you hostage with suicide threats?

Why would you let a guy move in with you after knowing him for a few months?
On top of that ... He hasn't had a job since you got together?
Where is the motivation for him to help himself when you take care of him?

You have issues.

Either you like to be in control by wielding the financial power, or you are a rescuer that gets a payoff when he shows his emotional instability. Does it make you feel superior to know that your "issues" pale in comparison to his?

I wouldn't be so sure about that.
I don't know why you would have entertained a relationship with someone who you had known for such a brief period after they have already threatened suicide.

What's the payoff here?
Get yourself some help.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Thoughts on Profile?
Posted: 9/24/2012 3:13:32 PM
Your new main pic is nice. Do you really think "flipping the bird" in another shot is going to convince people you are, as you proclaim, "classy?"

You seem very conflicted and uncomfortable/awkward in your own body. Good luck!
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Thoughts on Profile?
Posted: 9/24/2012 12:22:41 PM
Here's some hairstyle suggestions for a square face. You can use their "virtual hairstyle tool." I like the hairstyle you had in the "vampires everywhere" interview.

http://www.thehairstyler.com/features/articles/hairstyles/the-right-hairstyle-for-your-square-face-shape
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Dating Confusion!
Posted: 9/24/2012 7:23:55 AM
Well, the OP is gone, however, I still wonder what she told the guy and if he felt as "confused" as she did?


MSG 18: I had a hysterectomy.. so, yeah, no sex. Which he knew before our first date.


MSG 47: I didn't necessarily lie about my surgery. Yes, I could have had it and told him that.


I doubt she thought through how she would come off when her story flip-flopped like that.
If I am not inclined to have sex, I don't have it. I don't feel the need to make excuses or offer up lies. Frankly, I think her behavior scared him away.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 50 (view)
 
girlfriends history
Posted: 9/24/2012 3:17:30 AM

so judging from all the replies the majority think i should just forget about it and move on ( like its that easy !)


Actually, the majority seem to think you are a hypocritical, cheating, douche bag and she deserves someone better than you.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Thoughts on Profile?
Posted: 9/23/2012 10:07:40 PM
Vampynapy - you already had some feedback about your appearance during a previous thread. You need to accept that your facial and body proportions are unique.
1) get rid of all photos that make you appear as if you have no neck : 1, 3 & 4 (they make your already prominent jaw appear more squared-off and blocky)
2) get rid of all photos that make your clothes look as if they do not fit or are dirty/ not pressed : 6 & 7

That leaves you with 2, 5 & 8. Better to have fewer/ better photos than a bunch of crummy ones.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Dating Confusion!
Posted: 9/23/2012 9:46:46 PM
^^^^ What was in his head?!?!?

SHE is the one who is swinging from one place to another:
she doesn't want anything serious / she wants a relationship.
he told her he is not "for" her, he doesn't want a relationship / she tries to convince him otherwise.

She lies about not being "cleared" for intercourse before they even go out (who gives a pre-emptive "warning" like that?) / she "relieves" his backed up pipes using alternate methods.

The OP sounds like a real piece of manipulative, inconsistent and lying piece of work.

Gee ... Can't imagine why he bailed.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Dating Confusion!
Posted: 9/23/2012 5:18:46 PM
maybe he was just as shocked as me that he actually liked me, thus backing off?


Yeah! That's the ticket!! He was just skeered of falling for you because he was so intensely attracted, that he had to run away in order to protect his fragile heart!

Geeze ... The krap people come up with to soothe themselves.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Dating Confusion!
Posted: 9/23/2012 4:58:21 PM

I met him again, and again he asked me to stay the night. (Please note that I made him aware that I was recovering from surgery and sex was not possible


Not sure what "surgery" has to do with sex ... Impacted wisdom teeth removed? No BJ
Finger amputated? No handjob

Surgery below the waist? No intercourse

Well, if the only reason you couldn't have "sex" was because of surgery, surely, you were thoughtful enough to provide an alternative.

Maybe he just doesn't like your BJs.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Too Outgoing Is this possible?
Posted: 9/23/2012 2:05:29 PM
Yes. Very possible. Some people have personality "quirks" that impede their healthy interaction with others.

It could be that you have a personality disorder or "tendencies" associated with that disorder. The Histrionic Personality Disorder is described in Wiki:
"HPD lies in the dramatic cluster of personality disorders.[3] People with HPD have a high need for attention, make loud and inappropriate appearances, exaggerate their behaviors and emotions, and crave stimulation.[3] They may exhibit sexually provocative behavior, express strong emotions with an impressionistic style, and can be easily influenced by others. Associated features include egocentrism, self-indulgence, continuous longing for appreciation, and persistent manipulative behavior to achieve their own needs."

Only you know whether you have a long history of difficulty establishing and maintaining relationships. If so, it may be worthwhile to seek evaluation and perhaps therapy. On the other hand, if you and those around you are satisfied with the relationship(s) you have, perhaps you are indeed "harmless" in your quest for attention (though I do find it telling you associate "outgoing" with "attention").

ETA: I looked at your profile. 34 yrs old. You say you want kids. A couple of your photos are "frat boy" style. How did you already celebrate Halloween in 2012?

Anyway, it is not healthy for kids to grow up in an environment where their own father competes with them for attention. I think you may want to evaluate your suitability for fatherhood before going down that road.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
girlfriends history
Posted: 9/22/2012 3:12:38 AM
So you live with your great GF, but came here looking to find a woman to date?
HeeHeehee. Are you looking for justification for your sleazy behavior?

oh, yeah. YOU should dump HER.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Maybe it's just me?
Posted: 9/22/2012 2:35:24 AM

What's a woman to do?


Well, if you want to be taken seriously, you may want to reconsider displaying your assets in what looks like a bare bottom photo.

You supposedly have a graduate degree and a professional position. Would you want someone from work to see that image?
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 9/21/2012 12:05:45 PM
What is it that you KNOW you can do in two months to improve yourself and likely make new friends by the Holidays 2012?


I'm practically perfect in EVERY way!

Seriously ... Having an elderly parent in serious decline is a little limiting.
Have other priorities at this point.



So what are YOU doing, _Tall_IQ2_ ?

I do note you have improved your spelling!
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
friendship, relationship, both or nothing at all
Posted: 9/21/2012 11:41:35 AM
That is the problem tho, he did call and we did spend an amazing evening together. A few days later I sent him an e-mail on a subject which he is very interested in. I did mention that I had the e-mail and that I would send it, and still nothing.


Verrrry high school.
Instead of dangling a carrot in front of him and getting him to perform like a trained seal (I will send you something you want, if you contact me), WHY didn't you just send him the email in the first place?

Why would you have to send him an email asking if he wants to receive another email? You could have just forwarded it with the message - "Something I thought would be of interest!" and had ONE email.

If you have demonstrated traits of immaturity and manipulation in your previous interactions with him, he is most likely turned off .
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
friendship, relationship, both or nothing at all
Posted: 9/21/2012 9:39:27 AM
?!?!?
Your profile states you seek a man for "friends" and want to date but nothing serious.
Sounds like you got that for which you were advertising.
I don't understand why you are seeking more from him.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Photos of Kate
Posted: 9/20/2012 12:29:43 PM
I think the whole episode was a carefully calculated ploy by the Palace PR machine to immortalize the Duchess' breastahsuz before the ravages of royal infants having had their way with breastfeeding.

She learned a lesson and should be glad it was the "before" version versus the "after."
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Should I give up on him?
Posted: 9/20/2012 6:25:31 AM
Really Bob?? Jeez, who pissed in your cornflakes this morning...


Well, Pety, I don't condone underage children using this site. She was 17 when she met her "BF" on here. Perhaps he was an adult. I don't blame the mom for not "liking" an adult that met her child on a dating site. I blame the mom for not supervising her daughter's activities on the Internet and I blame the OP for fraudulently opening an account and portraying herself as an adult. That makes her a liar AND a cheater of the system that we can only continue to enjoy if it does not get shut down due to abuse by minors.

I'm not even convinced the mom knows she met the "BF" in person or that the OP is an adult at this time. Maybe you don't see an issue.

Hopefully, anyone who is the parent of minors would care about their Internet safety enough to help them see adulthood.

OP: Oddly enough I have the same thing going on. I met a guy online 4 years ago and we have been friends ever since. We always talk about meeting (he is from NY and I from DC)


You're comparing your adult interactions with those of a teenager? Not quite the same on several accounts (I would hope). This case places them at 50 miles apart. They met at Disneyland after 3 years of online contact. I wonder if the OP had to lie to her mother to get a ride there since she does not have her own transportation or means to get together. Remember, that mom doesn't "like" him. What rebellious daughter doesn't eat up a scenario like this? This seems off to me.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Should I give up on him?
Posted: 9/20/2012 5:49:39 AM
Well, if you really are 20 now and you met on PoF 3 years ago, you violated the terms of service, since you were under 18.

You are a liar and cheater to start with and your current post sounds like it was written by a 15 year old.
No wonder you don't have a car. You probably aren't old enough to drive.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What's so bad about not having kids/previous marriages?
Posted: 9/20/2012 2:51:06 AM
It is not clear to me how you determined that these two hypothetical "deficiencies" (never married, and no children) are at the root of your problems with attracting and/ or retaining women.

Sounds more like a convenient rationalization that has the payoff of absolving you from being responsible for a lack of attraction on a personal level and puts the onus on the women for overlooking your obvious qualities as a provider, etc.

That makes this just another "nice guy" thread.

Trust me ... Your inability to attract women is not due to the reasons you mention.

You would be well served to be more honest with yourself about your avoidant personality and other issues you may be hosting that would result in your undesirability as a mate.

P.S.

It is incorrect to state "how eloquent I may speak," it is "how eloquently I may speak."
Your profile is also rife with typos.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Sticky situation with a fake engagement ring ...
Posted: 9/19/2012 4:57:24 PM

I was just wondering if anyone else would go have the diamond checked, or just be happy with what you got? I think it would be so tacky to have it checked, but that's just me.

?!?!?
Yes. Of course. You need an appraisal of any items for which you may have an insurance rider.

Seriously ... People don't get jewelry appraisals? Precious metals have gone up so much.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Thought i meant more then that
Posted: 9/19/2012 8:18:02 AM
I just cant seem to disconnect myself from him.

Perhaps that is due to having more children AFTER you discovered his addiction.

He is not the only one making poor decisions. Please get your head straight.
 Iona_bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 169 (view)
 
Crossdressing; tell up front, or wait? Another bad experience.
Posted: 9/18/2012 1:33:47 AM

Is the center also for cross dressers?

Yes.
Did you see the link? I provided it so you could do a little of your own research, if you are sincerely interested.
They have meetings for cross dressers.
They are likely private, but there are plenty of opportunities to help.
Please check out the link.
 
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