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AgapeMomma

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I CANNOT CHANGE MY AGE ON MY REGISTRATION BECAUSE IT'S BEEN TWO WEEKS? I NEED TO PUT IN CORRECT AGE Posted: 3/28/2009 4:22:55 PM
There seems to be only one thing to do: Delete the incorrect profile and set up another one, and if you want to keep the ID you had before, just add a 0 or 01 to it. Then be very careful.

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/28/2009 4:07:37 PM
MsDixie44: I don't think you get it, dear. It's not as cut-and-dry as a simple broken heart; it's pain beyond excruciating, so devastating that a person wants the pain to stop and will do anything to make that happen. It's not about revenge (revenge tactics rarely end in actual death, because that person wants to stick around to see if it worked). It's not about being inconsiderate of others (how can they consider others when their own pain blurs all reality). It's about real, painful suffering. I have a suggestion: try volunteering at a mental rehab/mental facility for a few months and get to know all those suffering people in there. If you have a heart at all, it will break for those patients. Then you MIGHT get a tiny notion of what it's like, Miss Know-It-All.

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/28/2009 4:01:54 PM
jamac1000: WHO are you talking to and about?

AgapeMomma

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/28/2009 3:57:47 PM
Pedro 1976: I am apalled at the number of hard-hearted, callous SOBs on here. Apparently pride works well for you, but just you wait until you have genuine heartbreak to deal with. WALK A MILE IN ........... SHOES! Bud!

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/28/2009 3:54:46 PM
Dear Angel756: Now that you've shown your piousness, tell me something -- have you ever felt such severe emotional pain that it became physical and you hurt all over? I seriously doubt it, my dear. AND Furthermore, DO NOT DARE PUT YOURSELF IN GOD'S PLACE. That comes mighty close to blasphemy, dear girl. YOU are no angel. Get that through your haughty head.

AgapeMomma

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Whats the problem with long hair on a guy ? Posted: 3/28/2009 3:44:22 PM
"It helps me screen out the gold diggers (or so I tell myself) " Amazing. I never would have considered that, but now that I think about it, perhaps it is true. I still think long hair on a man is one of the sexiest things ever, as long as he keeps it clean and in a nice style. I wish men my age didn't have a problem with long hair. PS: You're just gorgeous.

AgapeMomma

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Whats the problem with long hair on a guy ? Posted: 3/28/2009 3:30:02 PM
There really isn't a problem with long hair on a guy; the problem lies with the one who makes such a silly remark. Insecure people are the worst to criticize. I think you're a very good-looking young man, sweetie. My only suggestion would be that you try to stylize it more. Definitely keep the long hair but do something that covers your ears maybe? My son has long hair, and it's gorgeous - he wears a low-slung ponytail with celtic clasps, like that. Also, you obviously have a great face -- but it's eclipsed by that hat. Why not flaunt your good looks? Seriously. Go the gambit. My son's hair is shorter in front than in back, which lets him have little wisps dangling around his face no matter how he wears it. It appears you have natural curl, so if I were you, I would get it 'feathered' (I'm not sure that's the proper term) but have it so the bottom doesn't jut out so far. You're not trying to look like a girl; what you want to do is give Favio competition. Good luck, sweetie. EM me if you would like to discuss this further. I wouldn't steer you wrong. I always tell my son he's what most women deep down inside fantasize about, no matter what they say. Some female may feel threatened by a guy who looks better in long hair than she does.

AgapeMomma

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Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met? Posted: 3/16/2009 11:38:31 PM
It's possible to be in love with someone you never met because it's an escape clause if you will. It means you are safe from harm and nobody can ruin your illusion/fantasy by giving you facts. I don't think it matters what the guy is really like or even if you ever meet face to face as long as it serves your needs, and it seems that this fantasy world does. My son is into fantasy to the extreme, and it all started with a little fantasy world romance like yours. Now he's in so deep, he may never recover; he has become a stalker and S&M dominant male, that's how far his fantasy life took him -- it took him away from his job as a youth minister and landed him in jail and in the dark alley ways of sadism. It's very sad, so be careful you don't waste your life with it. You might want to consider seeing a good counselor, too. I have a good one; not everyone is so lucky.

AgapeMomma

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 3/16/2009 11:29:43 PM
Even in my younger days, I don't believe I would have dared. There's an essential element in a man's facial expression that tends to tell me a lot, maybe more than what he puts in writing.

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

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do any girls actually want nice guys? Posted: 3/16/2009 11:24:00 PM
WiggleMunch: you go girl!

AgapeMomma

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do any girls actually want nice guys? Posted: 3/16/2009 11:23:24 PM
I imagine, from all appearances in my observations, 'girls' will say they want a nice guy but darn if they don't always prefer the bad boys. As for myself, being a woman of some maturity, I do like nice guys and steer clear of those wild child types. It's one of the perils of being young, I guess, to have to try to figure out what's going on with the opposite sex. There is a site ZDAILY with excerpts from a book titled Be Your Own Therapist which might give you some better insights than asking your peers -- I don't think young people for the most part are really into divulging what they really think, feel or believe.

AgapeMomma

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How About Adding Spellcheck for Essay Composition? Posted: 3/16/2009 11:08:15 PM
There are many men especially who can't seem to spell or compose a decent sentence to save their lives.

AgapeMomma

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Does Our Choice of Pet Reflect Who We Date? Posted: 3/16/2009 10:58:52 PM
I don't think it reflects WHO we date so much as perhaps who we shouldn't date IF:..... I have found over years of experience that men who have cats keep women at arm's length and aren't much into close relationships. I have found in every case, a cat-loving man is generally looking for a sexual relationship and damn the rest; they seem to feel they don't need all that love stuff. I guess a pet reflects a person's personality, and perhaps we could take our cues there. My dog is the most loving and people-oriented little creature that ever lived; he takes it to heart when he doesn't get attention or at least recognition. Quite like his mommie, I would venture to say, except I don't work on people like he does -- he continues seeking people's love til he gets it.

AgapeMomma

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Woman won't tell me her last name Posted: 3/16/2009 10:52:42 PM
forallintents: You're very funny, but I think this man's case is extreme. It sounds to me like she is freshly out of a psychiatric hospital or some such thing and should not be trying to get out there and meet people. I can't understand her need to keep her last name private, and the guy has reason to feel frustrated after having gone out with her several times. Not wanting to tell him where she lives is something that makes all the sense in the world.

AgapeMomma

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/16/2009 10:47:18 PM
Truelove68: Despite what people tell you -- that it's the easy way out (I know differently; it's just usually the only option one sees when amidst severe pain and anguish) -- and that you will go straight to hell if you do (I happen to believe God is far more forgiving than we are). However, if you are considering suicide, you need to find a way to look clearly at all your options. I know that I don't think about suicide anymore now that I have insulin-dependent diabetes, as I now have a perfect plan for the time when it seems there is no hope of it getting better or the pain going away. Somehow having a foolproof plan makes it easier to get thru the hard times.

AgapeMomma

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Single 46 year old full-time Dad has a few questions. Posted: 3/16/2009 12:56:45 AM
You are such a cutie pie, I don't know how a woman your age wouldn't find you incredibly interesting. It may sound crazy, but I believe you might be able to connect with a gal named Stephanie (I believe that's her name) who was on The Bachelor. She is incredibly pretty. She's widowed with a young daughter. And she came close to being one of the bachelor Jason's final choices. I would bet that if you contact The Bachelor show (on ABC) and indicate it's she you would like to contact, you would be put in touch with her somehow. Why I say this is that when she was sent home, she made a comment like "If my story reaches anyone out there, maybe I can still find love" You can watch the old segments online, too. That way, you will know for sure her name is Stephanie. I think she left about 5 shows from the last. She was, to be sure, among those who came to talk back to Jason after the final rose. I'm not too sure about that. But I believe you have a shot.

AgapeMomma

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What about honesty and honor? Are they character traits of the long past? Posted: 3/16/2009 12:41:50 AM
Thank you, but I didn't ask for advice on my profile. I have it just the way I want it. I use numbers to take less space. Apparently, you don't get it -- I do not want those dysfunctional men, or those with a short attention span. Substance isn't something one develops a taste for; either one has the character to appreciate it or not. I'd say sort of like yourself; ignorance is bliss sometimes, huh? You take care now, y'hear/

AgapeMomma

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What about honesty and honor? Are they character traits of the long past? Posted: 3/16/2009 12:37:12 AM
Thank you, sweetheart. I know you mean well (I am in sync with a lot of your listed interests) but to be honest, it makes me feel better about myself when these men try to wrangle a meeting anyway and I see right through them. I sometimes wonder why I haven't scared them off, but then I realize they either don't believe me or they take women like myself as a challenge, and some men cannot resist a challenge. I don't care if I scare them all away. I would rather be alone than in a bad or cold relationship. To see something in writing is hardly the whole picture. I am not afraid of being alone, either. I'm not sure if you thought I am, from your message. However, it would be much nicer to have someone to love and to love me other than my sweet dog Romey. Meantime, I'm okay as I am, and it's almost entertaining to see how men react to so much forthrightness. It calls most of them to task. It Will take a very special man for me. I have a lot of men-friends who would give their right arm as they say to have a personal relationship with me. I am still friends with my ex-beau and I tell him he makes a better buddy than beau. I have been talking to a man from POF for sometime now, and he seems to be a good bet -- if he could only stop having heart attacks and colds, we might meet and go from there. I don't take too much to heart.

AgapeMomma

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What about honesty and honor? Are they character traits of the long past? Posted: 3/16/2009 12:26:47 AM
lovelytonou LOVELY TO KNOW YOU, TOO, DARLING GIRL. Thanks for appreciating where I'm coming from. I sound like an old hippy, don't I? What a hoot. To be honest, I feel blessed when I see how it scares the men. If honesty scares them, I want them gone -- far, far away from me. It's ironic how I wasted so much time keeping things on the surface and expecting better results when I could have cut to the chase this way. It should have been my lesson in life when after leaving my ex-husband, it took 2 weeks to know how fortunate I was to be out of it. When men write me with a lot of hostility because my standards are set high, I feel much better about myself. Funny how that works. Thanks again, darlin. Hugs, Leah

AgapeMomma

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What about honesty and honor? Are they character traits of the long past? Posted: 3/16/2009 12:21:05 AM
Spoken like true desperation, too. I use numbers and such as a way to take less space. Once you grasp that concept, you won't be so kvetchy about sniping at me, obviously someone you consider competition. THE MEN I ADDRESS ARE THOSE WHO DON'T BOTHER TO SPELL SIMPLE WORDS CORRECTLY.

AgapeMomma

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Woman won't tell me her last name Posted: 3/16/2009 12:15:50 AM
Imtodamnice, I read your profile and found it very amusing. But the truth is, honesty is crucial. Do you not agree? You take care now, y'hear? Hugs, Leah

AgapeMomma

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Woman won't tell me her last name Posted: 3/16/2009 12:11:15 AM
Maybe you should consider leaving with your dignity still intact? She may be afraid of you. She might be married. She could be a celebrity of sorts. She may be afflicted with a strong case of paranoia. Whatever the case, she has an inability to be honest and you should run, baby, run. You take care now, y'hear? Hugs, Leah

AgapeMomma

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What about honesty and honor? Are they character traits of the long past? Posted: 3/16/2009 12:03:10 AM
After leaving out the brutal truth for so long and finding men who cover up very crucial character flaws by dressing up every piece of information just to get a first meeting -- I find this out by talking by phone -- There's nothing like the natural flow of conversation becoming quite revealing -- I decided to go with brutal honesty. I posted a profile that is as honest and open as you could hope to find in this venue, and wouldn't you know it -- it scares them to death. There was a time when men and women revered one's character above all else. It's so competitive; how can anyone hope to find love here?

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/15/2009 11:44:38 PM
Dear MaineFiddleHead: WHY would you be stuck in a lonely world like that? You are such a real cutie pie! I mean it. You are a darling young man, and I know for a fact that there are many young ladies who would love to come across someone like you. You seem like a real sweetheart, so why not get out there and mingle? Wish I lived in Maine, honey; this ole lady would get you out and about and meeting the ladies. I promise you this: once you've tried mingling for a year, tell me it was wasted effort. I dare you. Hugs, Leah

AgapeMomma

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/15/2009 11:41:06 PM
First of all, Raphael, Esquire, your writing betrays the image you try to project. Most importantly, it is true that the difference between a tragedy and opportunity is perception. That's easy to say for someone with many successes to comfort them.

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

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What do you think of a person committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/15/2009 11:34:04 PM
Lisa, there were probably many things that factored into his decision to take his life. If he had wanted to hurt you the way you seem to think, he would've done it where you would have to live with the memory of it, causing you post-traumatic-shock that might be hard to get past. It sounds like he was feeling very worthless and hopeless but that he went far away so as to NOT bring it down on your head the way you've allowed it to. He probably had in mind that the animals would lay waste to him and his body would never be found, which was the most kind and loving thought a suicidal person could have. What you need to do is recognize your limitations here; you could learn and grow from this tragedy so that you have more calm relations in the future. You really should get a good psychologist to discuss behavior-modification techniques and try very hard to overcome this. You are being as suicidal as he when you wallow in your self-hatred over this. What good is that going to do you, sweetie? Think about that. Breathe deep and understand you're not helping anyone, least of all yourself and that your mission in life may be to take this to heart to help someone else. The guy was in a tremendous amount of pain; that could be only partly due to the argument; the argument may have been the last necessary accelerant to his passion for dying -- and as simple as it may sound, he could've been bodily chemically askew or under the influence of drugs or both. You can't possibly know what was going on with him. But my best guess as to his intentions is that he did what he felt was the most loving thing he could do for you. In his mind, he loved you enough to die for you. It may sound warped to you, but to him it made all the sense in the world. Sounds like despite his pain, he wanted to be an honorable man in the end. Hugs, Leah

AgapeMomma

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 3/5/2009 7:06:21 PM
I got quite a kick out of your opinion. You must not know what it's like to go through the agony of that kind of pain, pain that seems endless with no light at the end. I've attempted suicide before because I was in so much emotional pain it was physical and it wasn't always about a man who broke my heart -- family can put you thru some awful hell, too. When you know the situation isn't going to change, it's hard to live with a devastating pain like that. However, with the help of a fantastic shrink, I have gotten to a place where I love myself and for now that's enough. Besides, my dog loves and adores me.

AgapeMomma

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 7/11/2008 9:42:39 AM
You have my sympathy, but have you ever been told you're too good for your own good? You are a pretty woman, and I can see from your expressions that you have a loving spirit. "He" sounds like a real pig, and you should count your blessings to be rid of him. Of course! he will try to make it your fault -- that's what warthogs do. He got a girlfriend (1) because he could (2) out of anger over some petty thing that his kind fumes about (3) because it's more fun than getting real with the wife. You know what? I was distraught when my marriage failed but it took me about 2 weeks of grief and hearing my mother tell me over and over "You're lucky to be out of that mess" for me to realize I had suffered no real loss but gained my freedom - freedom to find someone who was more sincere about creating a good marriage -- and further to realize it was his loss all along. He refused to work w.me (criticized me for wanting more from him) and I stayed 6 months longer than I wanted to, just to make sure I had left no stone unturned and under the illusion that somehow I could discover the magic cure. There's no cure for the worthless sort. They're in it for what they get not to give anything. They think they rule the world. It's like I told his next wife at church: "Better you than me, honey." Once you come to terms with the truth - that it was never your fault, that he was a weazel & lower than pond scum, moreover that he's dumber than a box of rocks to mess up with you not to mention try to blame you but that you are better than that, better than him and probably too good for your own good. Best of luck, sweetie. Leah

AgapeMomma

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Matt, at least you're not stalking her..... Posted: 12/12/2007 8:11:02 PM
Sounds like you figured her out eventually. She probably was holding onto you til she found somebody she felt was better. That's absolute insecurity, immaturity and superficiality for starters. Do you really want to waste your emotions grieving over this kind of nonsense? Any kind of history is NOT necessarily better than no history and sounds like you two had a lot of BS going down for the most part. My son fell for a woman who wanted to live a double life like that; she was a sex addict and was just using him for sex. His heart and soul were in it, and he was devastated. He still wanted her back, even if she would be using him. That's tragic and a terrible waste. Don't go down that path, darlin. All that negativity when you could better put your energy into getting to know a girl of real substance and morals, frankly.

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

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Geeze, Kat! Posted: 12/12/2007 8:02:12 PM
Get a little gumption about yourself, honey, and don't you dare go back to looking to 'find a good man that will complete you'. If you're not complete on your own, you need to work on that FIRST. It is possible, you know. Any man who expects you to suffer for "love" doesn't offer love, honey; he has no idea what love is, nor does he care to know. Say that over and over until you understand it. You are not some animal that needs to be trained to behave properly. Did you see the Oprah segment with the woman who put her husband in prison after years of abuse? He had her calling him Master! She did it out of fear. My God! Don't cheapen the love you have to give by throwing it around like dime-store glitter. It's better than that, isn't it?

AgapeMomma

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Could Cry Again Posted: 12/12/2007 7:55:57 PM
Sounds like she's a very troubled person, but then so are you for allowing her to get to you. Do you deserve that kind of treatment? You're the only one who can decide that. Then move on. The best revenge, you know, is living well. Don't let those 2 drag you down in the mud with them. Maybe they belong there, but do you?

AgapeMomma

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 12/12/2007 7:53:01 PM
Funny how I just remembered that my mother was on the receiving end of a long line of women wanting her to know that daddy wasn't being true, but my mother, for whatever her reasons (I suspect she liked the title of preacher's wife), chose to stay with him -- and her comment to each one was "It's not the first time the little tom cat fell out of the basket". When daddy took on a fulltime girlfriend, I think she was actually grateful she didn't have to put up with him pawing her at night. As long as he paid the bills and she could get up and go to work every day without being bothered, she was satisfied.

AgapeMomma

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 12/12/2007 7:45:55 PM
I hadn't considered that possibility. Of course, men get mean when they don't get what they want. However, I think that Hall of Shame idea could be productive for the women. So, now what, oh wise one? There are lots of women who would want to be forewarned. I once told another woman what a jerk a certain guy was, but she said, "I don't care what you say about him. I like him, I'm attracted to him and I intend to be his wife if I can." That's how silly some women can be.

AgapeMomma

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 12/12/2007 7:42:07 PM
Hey, girls! Tombstone Tom is absolutely correct! If you go to his wife with emotional mumbo jumbo, she'll think you're a crazed stalker or some such thing. You do need proof. Pictures of you and him. Affadavits from family and friends who knew him and your relationship with him, if necessary. I also like the idea of Hall of Shame. Can somebody set that up? Thanks, Tom!

AgapeMomma

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 12/12/2007 7:38:34 PM
You, sir, sound like as big a louse as the man she encountered. Hey, ladies. Pay attention here. Avoid this slimeball.

AgapeMomma

Joined: 4/12/2007

Msg: 273 (view)

Should I tell his wife? Posted: 12/12/2007 7:36:53 PM
You might feel better telling her, but I dare say she would not want to know and that it wouldn't change anything. I did that once when a man was coming on to me in a store and because he gave me only his business number, I looked up his home number in the phone book. His wife answered, so I explained to her that I was simply calling him to finish a conversation that was interrupted by a business call and that he never once indicated he was married or separated. She was crushed but she said she had a feeling he had been doing stuff like that. She asked me to describe him and the vehicle he drove away in -- she said sadly "That's him alright." She thanked me for telling her and asked if she could call me back in the future. She never did but I felt awful for her and very angry at him. However, I know that he had to have serious problems to conduct himself in such a way, and I was ever so grateful to have found out before I was more invested. You say you have learned from this experience, but that's not what you need to gain from it. You can never know even with what seems to be firm evidence. Time and exposure to his whole life is probably a good ground rule; however, my best advice to you is to take everything a man says with a grain of salt (wait and see), give benefit of doubt but don't give your heart until you know his is healthy and in the right place. One tip-off would be if he limits what you can know of his life -- if he won't take you to his place, for instance, or introduce you to his friends, family and co-workers. Another good tip is if he says he attends church or synagogue but never asks you to join him. It sounds like he was hiding in plain sight -- hanging with Your family and focused solely on You, Your family, Your friends. It's a good distraction. It's like a magic act in a way. You know, slight of hand tactics. He disrespected you in the worst way and took advantage of your precious heart. That's a reflection on him, not you. But don't be victimized again, sweetie. You can do something about that. Be smart from now on. Okay?

AgapeMomma

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lost dad nearly 17 years ago and told mum has cancer today and nearly christmas Posted: 12/12/2007 7:16:44 PM
Honey, you teach him to be thankful for what he has been allowed to experience. My older sister lost her husband of 32 years to horrible cancer -- she grieved so hard and for what seemed like an eternity. But I pointed out to her that at least she had 32 years with a good man and as a result all those sweet memories, but I had 1 awful year with a husband who didn't deserve that much of my time. My dad was an evil, evil man, and I can only feel envy that you had a dad you will miss. Count your blessings, darling. You have had a good life.

AgapeMomma

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Why Is it you do everything for a woman and then you get thrown to the curb like a piece of trash? Posted: 12/12/2007 5:54:11 PM
I'm curious about this question. I'm an extremely giving, caring, loving person, and I always try to help anyone in need if I possibly can. In my apartment building, I'm known for taking bowls of my delicious soups to those who just aren't able to cook for themselves or who have too much struggle to do so. I will say: a man who is 'kicked to the curb after giving everything' needs to ask himself how much of it had to do with her and how much was him. Sometimes, a man considers himself too giving if he takes a woman out to eat and doesn't get sex in return. True giving is not done with expectations. I've had man talk about me in perhaps a similar way as the above quote but what they Gave was their needs, their woes, their excuses for: nursing anger, distrusting women, not communicating, not learning from experience, being unfair or even being abusive. I'd rather a man come to me with a dysfunctional body than a warped mind. If I wanted to excuse bad behavior, I could dig up old childhood horrors but I don't believe in the abuse excuse. When I was a child, I had no control over my life, but as an adult, I am responsible for me in the now and future.

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