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 Author Thread: Location, location, location?
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Location, location, location?
Posted: 6/2/2012 6:11:53 PM
I live in the suburbs and the guy I am seeing lives in a rural area about 200 miles away. The drive is a hassle, but we make it work. Instead of looking for women in cities close by, why not try for women in other rural areas? People living in the country generally expect to travel further for anything, so the distance may not be such a problem for them.....even if it is longer.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Motorcylces and dating
Posted: 5/25/2012 7:31:04 AM
Owning a bike IS fun, but it doesn't make the owner themselves hip, fun or cool. For me a guy who rode would be appealing, but not a necessity.......I have my own bike.......and its not a mid life crisis, I have been riding for decades.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 2861 (view)
 
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 5/24/2012 8:10:56 PM
in the wind and rain
we get cold and very wet
if we go outside
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 44 (view)
 
The best things in life are free
Posted: 5/24/2012 8:05:55 PM
Someone to love, who will love me back! Someone to snuggle up to at night. Someone who knows the heimlich maneuver, in case I choke on a chicken bone. Someone who is great company.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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not who i thought he was
Posted: 5/24/2012 8:21:57 AM
Im shaking my head that you even had to ask this question. He is obviously lazy, unprincipled, with no redeeming qualities - I personally would have no trouble at all telling him to f*** off, and I would have great pleasure telling him exactly why.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What are your retirement plans?
Posted: 5/23/2012 3:30:37 AM
Im going to live in a little cottage in a country town, grow vegetables and keep chickens, and spend my spare time in a rocking chair, on the porch sipping tea. Im 49 now, and I will have that cottage not too long after I am 50......though I will commute back to the city for work until I can find a local job to do until I retire.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 5/22/2012 11:49:57 PM
growing us flowers
gifting us with their beauty
delivering joy
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Ladies, do you even like...
Posted: 5/22/2012 6:17:53 PM
Its hard to know what a guy wants if he doesnt tell me. Ive known a man whose were so sensitive he could barely stand to have them touched at all, and another one who wanted me to crush them in my hands....different strokes for different folks I guess!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Any girls who don't love tattoos?
Posted: 5/22/2012 6:12:06 PM
Ive got several large tattoos of my own, and the guy I am seeing now doesnt have any. I think its not so much the tattoos these ladies love,but the whole perceived bad boy thing.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Awareness of a Guy's Intentions
Posted: 5/22/2012 6:09:56 PM
If Im interested in a man there is no way he doesnt know it. If she wanted to get in touch, she would find a way, and homework doesnt take up ALL her time.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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The Conversation Game
Posted: 5/22/2012 6:06:13 PM
I hate that sort of conversation.......because it feels like an interrogation. It's better if early in the questioning process you discover some common passion or you can use something they say to tell a story..."Oh you like playing golf? A funny thing happened to me when I played golf one time............................".
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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What do you make of this situation?
Posted: 5/21/2012 5:13:02 AM
This all sounds like a B grade movie, or a bad country song....Id be thanking her for screwing the guy you loved.....if he is the sort of man who would do that, and with a woman like that you are well rid of both of them!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Apparently I look different?
Posted: 5/20/2012 3:15:55 AM
I can tell its all you in each pic.....I especially like pic number 2!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Do women kiss on the first date to be just nice?
Posted: 5/16/2012 6:59:38 PM
A kiss is just a kiss. Even if a man isnt the one for me, I'll still kiss him, unless hes totally awful....equally, I have been kissed by men who werent interested in me....its just a quick peck, nothing to obsess over.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Stuck on younger women.
Posted: 5/12/2012 12:05:07 AM
Having a younger lover is no guarantee of great sex, and more likelihood that the 'brats' are going to be younger and louder! So far as great sex goes, age and experience does it for me every time......
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Can i get some advice from girls that are clued in to the game? I'm looking to improve my profile.
Posted: 5/11/2012 1:13:11 AM
I have some fantastic advice for you, but being a somewhat less than hot female who has been a woman since before you were even born....Ill keep it to myself!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Really need advice. Help Me!
Posted: 5/8/2012 6:25:37 PM
An I Love You banner on facebook the next day? Then the banner comes down, and she is avoiding you....seems to me she is no longer into you. I think that things that start 'fast' burn out quicker than those that grow slowly. You need to move on.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Grandma's With a Package Deal!
Posted: 5/8/2012 6:12:48 PM
I had my son when I was 18, and Im now a 49 year old granny of two boys of 2 and 4. I work fulltime, and its MY mother who does the school pickups, I just get called to cover the occasional movie date. However if both my son and daughter in law were to come to a tragic end, God forbid, its me who would take the boys in, I would never see them in foster care. I dont want to date a man with small children. I would prefer not to date a man with teenagers, or young adults still living at home. This is MY time now, Im still young enough to be carefree and have a a good time, but it wont last forever.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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wanting to meet....
Posted: 5/8/2012 5:53:16 PM
That's ridiculous! Two years, really? He has enjoyed your chats, but he doesnt want to meet you for a reason, hes married or he weighs 600 pounds and never leaves his house. Move on.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Date idea in brisnane
Posted: 5/8/2012 8:31:57 AM
Somewhere you can sit and talk. Buy her dinner some place, that always works for me!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Is lots of talking pre-first date a good idea or bad idea?
Posted: 5/7/2012 7:35:15 PM
Any chemistry developed before you actually meet the person, is not chemistry for them, but chemistry for the person you imagine them to be. I prefer a few messages back and forth, and one or two phone calls before I meet someone. I dont have any interest in hours on the phone, or dozens of pointless texts with someone I dont know and may not like if I did know.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Why do women lack initiative?
Posted: 5/7/2012 9:46:42 AM
I have had several conversations on here.....some men have a warmth about them, they seem confident and chat easily, we might share common interests, or perhaps they are very funny.....and its great to talk to them. Some guys though will ask closed questions, and its one after another....makes talking to them feel like an interrogation. I dont feel as if a man has to do all the conversational work, but hes got to give me something to work with....like share a piece of information about himself....something he likes to do, a place he likes to go, movies he likes, whatever....something I can ask him about.....but I swear, if one more man starts firing questions at me I will scream!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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What is the first mental thing you look for in a partner?
Posted: 5/7/2012 9:39:05 AM
Kindness. A man who doesn't speak ill of his previous partners, who takes the time to chat to an old lady, a man who is polite to wait staff, nice to small children and animals, who compliments me. I get turned off if a man is abrupt or impatient with anyone, even more so if he is very rude.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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What is your take on interracial relationships
Posted: 5/7/2012 9:24:48 AM
My family is multiracial, and it matters little to me what ethnicity someone I date is. I would prefer though, that the person grew up here, as I have found that some people from overseas, have no idea of Australian culture and no desire to become part of it, and this would bother me more than the colour of their skin.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Should I settle?
Posted: 5/7/2012 9:20:22 AM
I can see how you would see the irony in that sentence, but that was not how I meant it. I think Im a pretty good catch, and I dont believe a man would be settling for me! It's possible, but Im not privy to their thought processes before they decide they want to meet me. Between this and another dating site in recent times I have met 8 men, and 6 of them I either saw again, or they wanted to see me again. Two of them I saw several more times before deciding they werent for me....one of these turned out to be not such a good person, and the other was a lovely guy, but I just didnt feel any chemistry. Perhaps I shouldnt have asked if I should settle, but instead asked if I am being too fussy. Given that most men arent looking for someone like me.....should I persevere a little longer with the ones who show interest?
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 195 (view)
 
FLR...Female-Led-Relationships.
Posted: 5/6/2012 11:50:56 PM
Uh, no thanks, no how, no way! I would prefer a give and take relationship where each of us make decisions, sometimes together, sometimes one or the other chooses. I could have a FLR in times of ill health, or some other particular circumstance, but not as an all the time thing.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship?
Posted: 5/6/2012 11:46:56 PM
I think if the other person really feels something for y ou, whether you have sex on the first date or not isnt going to make a lot of difference. If they like you, but aren't 100% sure then sex too soon will probably lead them to have doubts, that stronger initial feelings would dispel. I have had sex on the first date, and had it turn into a relationship....I have also had it turn out to be just a one night stand.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Is it OK to make out on the first date??
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:59:03 PM
There is nothing wrong with it, and you may not do this with every guy, but if you do it with this one, then he is going to assume you do it with every man.....and may judge you accordingly.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Bowling?
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:57:14 PM
My mother has been trying to get me to take up bowling for years, because my stepsister met both of her husbands at a bowling alley........having known both of them is reason enough for me not to bowl I say......added to that is the noise......every time that ball hits the floor I feel like Ive been punched in the head........there is nothing I hate more in this world than bowling.......so if a new man tells me he likes to bowl it's more of a dealbreaker for me than rotting teeth and 7 ex wives.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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How important is personal transport?
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:52:00 PM
I 'likely wouldn't date anyone who didnt have a car, unless there was a very good reason for it, and if they wanted me to come pick them up all the time, they had better be prepared to pay for the majority of the movie tickets/dinners.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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What do girls do
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:48:59 PM
Saying "so not to be mean or disrespectful of anything like that".....is a waste of time, because that is exactly what you are doing. YES you are wrong, shame on you! Talk to women you are attracted to, and take your chances like everyone else does, yes you might get shot down in flames, but at least it will be real, women arent here for you to practise on, they are human beings with feelings.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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What do you talk about on a first date?
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:37:26 PM
I start by saying something like it's nice to meet them, maybe asking if they live around here or did they have far to drive, what would they have been doing this afternoon if they weren't meeting me.......nothing deep and meaningful, but if they just give monosyllabic answers, and dont elaborate at all, then Im going to assume the date/meet isnt going anywhere.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Wondering....
Posted: 5/4/2012 10:47:33 PM
Perhaps just be yourself, and let a man like the real you....or not.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Why do people say they are gonna call you right back and then don't?
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:19:01 PM
She isnt interested in you.....if she was she would want to talk!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Should I settle?
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:15:00 PM
I dont believe I have a self debasing attitude.......Im just aware of who and what I am, and I realise most men would prefer someone more mainstream than me. Good luck to them.. ...Im not morbidly obese, I have a good job, and I think Im a good person - they could do worse!
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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I Know It Shouldn't Be All About Money But ..
Posted: 5/4/2012 7:57:50 PM
Your take on this is spot on.......those red flags are waving! When I was a teenager in my first job I spent every cent I earned, but when I left home and was responsible for paying for the roof over my head I eventually wised up, and now that I am approaching 50 Im in a reasonably good place financially. I would never, ever date a man who blew away all his money and expected someone else would look after him.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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How long should you wait for a FIRST DATE?
Posted: 5/4/2012 3:55:39 AM
I dont think there is a hard and fast rule for this. Some like to get to know someone a bit first, some are more spur of the moment. Personally I would prefer to share a few messages, and a phone conversation........I must hear them speak before I go meet them. How long I would wait for them would depend on how far they had to travel to meet me. If a guy is driving 300 miles, and doesnt know my area, and they have to use a highway I know is often backed up with traffic then Im going to wait until a lot longer than I would if he is a local. If he lives within 10 miles, I will wait 10 minutes then Im out of there.....if he doesnt call with a really good reason......then I might wait another 10.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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First meeting...coffee
Posted: 5/3/2012 5:15:20 AM
I met this guy for coffee at a place about 2 miles from my house, on a Wednesday I think and about 9 miles from his, we talked for about 3 hours, he texted me the next day, and we met again on the Sunday and played bocce at a park in my street.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Too analytical?...really???
Posted: 5/3/2012 2:26:59 AM
Either an eatery is a fine dining establishment or it is not......I wouldn't have thought a bakery casual or super serious qualified. I think he is trying to build up his job to sound something better than it actually is.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Girls claim they want this, but dont really pursue it...
Posted: 4/30/2012 7:56:36 AM
You look good, but your profile is long and rambling, and way heavy with self promotion. You claim to be a respectful gentleman, yet you mention pornography and c**k and p***y in your blurb.... You dont come across as a gentleman at all.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Is seeking chemistry realistic?
Posted: 4/29/2012 9:23:41 PM
I probably wouldnt see them again, I think there has to be some sor tof chemistry, even if you are very sick of being alone. If they were willing to be friends only, and you as you learned more about their personality you got to like them a lot chemistry might develop, but you can't lead them to think there will ever be anything more.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Potential dates or are they wasting your time?
Posted: 4/29/2012 9:17:16 PM
Yes, what Pami said! A friend coming in from out of town is not good enough reason to cancel. He could have asked you to meet him for breakfast or an early coffee....Im sure his friend could have waited an hour or two. Then to stand you up again the next day....pffffft. I wouldn't get upset with a man for having to work, but I would be upset with one who messed me around like that....for about 3 minutes, that is all the time he deserves on my mind.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 4/29/2012 9:10:53 PM
It would depend on the man. In the case of this man, if I were you, I would be grabbing on with both hands and not letting go. How wonderful it would be to be courted like that, I know it would make me melt all the way down to my toes......that he not minds about you having five kids including two with special needs goes to show what sort of man he is. I work with people with special needs, and I know that this is something most men can't handle. Good luck.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Should I get my own apartment?
Posted: 4/29/2012 9:02:38 PM
Yes. Get your own apartment.

Yes. It is a turn off.

No. There really is no way to spin it into something good.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Men in late 40's, early 50's wanting children?
Posted: 4/29/2012 5:28:13 PM
My parents divorced when I was 17, and my father who was a lot older than my mother later married a woman only 6 years older than me. They had a child, and when she was 19 her mother died of cancer, and my father of a stroke a year later.....leaving her an orphan. Granted she was an adult, but a very young one.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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i would like your help with something!!
Posted: 4/29/2012 8:29:10 AM
You've heard about red flags right?? Those things that indicate you should take off running? Your might as well be waving a handful of them, the shirtless pic of you in bed...you arent looking for a relationship and find women boring.....are you that in love with yourself, really?
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Figuring signals out
Posted: 4/29/2012 8:25:29 AM
People will treat you like you let them treat you. Is there some reason she couldn't have taken you to the party with her? Im sure she does like you, or she wouldn't keep going out with you, but either she doesn't like you enough, or she woudn't treat you this way.......or she thinks you are so crazy about her she can treat you as she wishes and you will keep coming back for more.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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break up and post sex
Posted: 4/29/2012 8:21:35 AM
You broke up with her on my birthday! She probably missed you, had sex with you then felt guilty about it. She shouldnt have been mean, but she may have been thoughtless and not considered how it would make you feel.

 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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men who can fix anything(your thoughts)
Posted: 4/29/2012 8:14:48 AM
I live in a house that needs a lot of fixing, so a handyman type is wonderful for me, and I will let him fix stuff to his hearts content. I would always make him a nice dinner, and offer to help him with anything that is in my area of expertise...cooking, sewing, and so on. Having said that.....I have known of a woman who had a steady series of boyfriends who fitted in whatever she needed done around her house...an electrician was followed by a plumber by a tiler by a renderer and so on....that is just plain wrong. If I wasnt interested in pursuing a relationship with a man I wouldn't allow him do things like that for me.
 ecochick1962
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Overseas contacts
Posted: 4/29/2012 3:45:32 AM
I chat to them....but I dont see them as dating possibles.
 
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