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 notdating-forumsonly
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Anyone do the leangains / IF eating schedule?
Posted: 2/12/2013 4:57:56 AM
Best to have lean protein before ( and after ) a workout. Fruit isn't enough. I have a protein shake with soy protein ( clean source etc), soy milk or milk ( clean source), almonds, banana- different things in it,,,or a fruit smoothie with a shot of wheatgrass and soy protein in it,,,or a glass of (organic) milk.

I don't go by fads or books. Best to have 3-6 small meals a day- mainly to have them balanced and at fairly equal times apart to maintain blood sugar etc.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Need your advise
Posted: 2/12/2013 4:34:04 AM
^^^That's likely a big part of the problem.

Yes, get a profile review.
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Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone???
Posted: 2/12/2013 4:27:50 AM

The reason I was thinking about this is because Im 38 now and have worked with elderly
patients for years. Most have been widowed or alone..but I have also had the happiness of
seeing people with caring supportive spouses who took care of them until their dying day..

Since I have never been married and have an everyday reminder of how precious life is..I do think.of
things like this.
As Im sure everyone else can agree....theres so many people saying they d rather be alone...well thats not me. I want marriage and hopefully
a lifelong happiness and love..


It's likely that most of us will die without a spouse or an SO around since one of us n the relationship will go first.
Having said that, it would be good to have a spouse or an SO until that happens.

My parents and grandparents etc have been my best examples. My parents are showing me by example what comes with aging and caring for one another. They have an agreement that one will take care of the other at home as long as they can when the time comes. They've had illnesses and a couple of health hiccups and are fully aware that at any time life can change things. So they have a big time NOW with each day that they've been given.
They're well aware that one will die before the other and have planned for it. But they live for today and have gratitude for one another. They have more appreciation for having one another in their lives each day and get more sappy with time ;)
I want the same thing, but I'm good to go if I don't have it if I live to be old.
I was on my own a long time before I found my current SO. It's likely that most people will be alone ( again) even if they marry or they are in a LTR, but great to be in a relationship unless and until that happens.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Ok I think I'm getting somewhere ..
Posted: 2/12/2013 3:53:00 AM
She doesn't have to share her name- she obviously doesn't want to. Just offer to meet somewhere and see if she goes for it. If not, move on. I would usually suggest talking on the phone next but she's obviously wanting to keep things private until after she meets people. You might offer your number and she can block her number and call you.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Need some advice
Posted: 2/12/2013 3:45:02 AM
you're making a lot of assumptions, posting a highly redundant topic, and not doing a thread search before posting-

read the threads on not posting photos (it will fail), the average response rate ( yours), and post this in the profile review forum

if your response rate is 1% with your current messages and photos logic would say that it will be much worse without photos
 notdating-forumsonly
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Have you ever wanted to write a book (a fiction story)?
Posted: 2/11/2013 4:44:19 PM

I present a portion to my Writers' Group and the reception isn't what I'd
hoped for


Don't allow others to dictate what you do. Write the book your way and the editor will take care of the rest with any slight corrections or revisions that may need to be made.

I suggest scheduling regular time each day- like an hour in the am for instance, and you will get there. Good for you for working on it ;)

I'm working on 2 books and have a series started that will come after that- historically based, but fictional.
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Broken Arm
Posted: 2/11/2013 4:31:15 PM
This is the time to allow it to heal. Actually this is your one shot at allowing it to heal without further complications or impairment. Walking and exercise will cause it to swell, cause inflammation, and can actually impede the healing process.
Do NOT watch the calories IMO. The body needs a bit more when healing, and certainly needs no less than the normal daily needs. A lot of people use the down time as a time to cut back to try not to gain weight- big mistake. Just eat well and eat what you need and then the calories are not a concern.

Eat well and do things like light stretching to stay mobile and limber.

If it were me, I would be eating greens and calcium/magnesium rich foods ( and taking a 2:1 mag to cal supp) to help it heal and focus on the healing.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Christian?
Posted: 2/11/2013 3:36:22 PM
I wouldn't waste time over it. Just look for the ones who state they're a Christian and have something about it in their profile, or simply ask if they attend church regularly, etc. IOW- look for this compatibility through making a self-effort which is how it goes in the dating world online or IRL.

I'm a Christian and, to me, that means a believer in Christ. That has nothing to do with how or where I attend church IMO. It has nothing to do with anything that you listed IMO. If you think it's about a relationship with Christ, that's your personal opinion, not everyone elses- and perhaps no one elses. So- just look for someone who shares your beliefs if they are paramount to being part of a relationship for you.

Some people may suggest a Christian dating site. I personally think that there are a lot of people on those sites stating that they're a Christian when they're not, but perhaps the odds of finding someone who has your beliefs is greater.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Do we lose our passion for music with age ?
Posted: 2/11/2013 11:11:31 AM
I'm an artist and I love all that goes into the process of creating it- my love of family, history, my roots, archeaology, my zest for life, creative energy and my imagination, etc- the same for music- appreciation for the piece of work, the artist/musician and the quality of the sound, etc.
Music is a passion of mine, and IMO our passionate interests do not change but continue to grow and to resonate more and more within us. If the musical artist is a 'true' artist- singer, songwriter playing their own music, creative process generator, etc., then I appreciate it a lot more.

I'm always finding new music that I like, but I also like the tried-and-true music as well.
Why not have both? or even listen to period music from the 1700's etc?

 notdating-forumsonly
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The Lost Art of Dating
Posted: 2/11/2013 10:19:11 AM

I wonder what a dating coach says about texting.


I'm sure they say lose the phone except for calling to talk to the actual person- about looking forward to the date and following up after the date to calling to talk and get to know them better, share a tidbit about something that happened that day, etc.

E-flowers and E-anything are for the birds.

The thing is, that a guy who truly cares about a girl will want to take a minute and call, or to actually go into a florist and pick flowers to make it personal, just as I would want to do for the guy- write a personal note, hand pick a gift at a store, tuck a card or his favorite snack into his coat pocket, etc.

Little things do mean a lot.
 notdating-forumsonly
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By when do you Ladies know by?
Posted: 2/7/2013 4:59:01 PM

The problem is if you wait too long you end up in the friend
zone because you're such a good/nice guy!


Not really. I think it's safe to say that most women like a guy who's a gentleman, communicates well about this and allows a natural flow to things for both individuals. While most women like a nice guy, most of us don't want a guy who will defer to us on this/ most things/ all things,,, most of us want a guy who leads in a good way and talks about what we want in the relationship when it comes to sex- the timing etc.


My 2 longest relationships were 5 1/2 years and 3 1/2 years although my relationships started
through friends and never had to go this "blind" route and to go along with that it also seems
that now-a-days things have changed in courting and people being real etc.


Yet you still had to get to know them after being introduced, right? ;)
 notdating-forumsonly
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Critical thinking for the masses, a new frontier...
Posted: 2/7/2013 11:59:26 AM
I think you may be using the term too literally. Critical thinking is reflective reasoning about beliefs and actions.
It allows us to determine ( over time or in a one-on-one situation) if a person's statements and actions are always true, sometime true, or never true. It's about discerning judgment and problem solving whether that applies individually, professionally, etc.
It allows us to examine and analyze things- to figure out what to believe or what to do.
There are weak-sense critical thinkers and strong-sense critical thinkers, so this process varies with the individual, of course.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Where am I going wrong ?
Posted: 2/7/2013 11:46:15 AM
1. Don't message endlessly. If they mention sex or don't want to have a genuine chat, move on and block them.

2. Go to the profile review forum and have your profile reviewed. It's very average in my opinion.

3. Don't just send a flirt, send a message stating that you're interested in getting to know them.
 notdating-forumsonly
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How To Move On
Posted: 2/7/2013 11:36:29 AM
I like the common sense approach to life. Tell yourself it's over, that he's moved on an so should you.

That's such bs to go thru buying shoes and crying to your friends IMO. Sheesh.

Go on a date.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Do women want equality?
Posted: 2/7/2013 11:29:42 AM
The general idea is that all people have the same rights and opportunities; therefore, there is no ranting about men stating that women should be asking them out, paying for the date, etc. This argument and gripe is ooooold.
If that's the mentality with some, then water will seek its own level on regard to that. It's simply about having the same respect for one another, the same opportunities that we all have, etc. Period.

I couldn't agree more with femaleconnection:
If women actually did what some men in here say they want-did all the asking out, payed for all the dates, open all the jars etc...then you guys may as well just date other guys...seems you want humans who behave like men, so go date humans who behave like men and leave us to the men who enjoy women just the way we are...cause there are enough of those men to keep me occupied.

There are a LOT of men who value a woman as a woman- and treat her with defference- and have respect for the fact that she's equal as an individual, and collectively within society. And vice versa.
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Shaved or landing strip??
Posted: 2/6/2013 6:30:31 PM
Each guy will have his own preference. Ask the guy of interest when the time comes.

You'll get a lot of different opinions and you should do whatever you feel comfortable with and like for yourself.

If you are in a relationship it's nice to groom per your bf's preference if you're good with it.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Women: how often are you approached by guys?
Posted: 2/6/2013 6:21:58 PM
I'm approached a lot when I'm out- and every time I go to home depot lol.

I have men flirt a lot and make eye contact.

If I were looking I would say that I'm being approached enough- sometimes too much sts.

I have no idea why I'm being approached as much as I am- probably because I appear to not be looking- ha.
 notdating-forumsonly
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G.U. 'Geographically Undesirable'
Posted: 2/5/2013 4:43:32 PM
You're looking for excuses to justify your lack of communication on site.

I have the exact distances that you stated and I met a guy on site 15 months ago.

Have a full profile review done in the profile review forum. Quit changing your profile. Write one that says what you really want to say and stick with it.
Get the best photos that you can get and be proactive in messaging women of true interest.
In the meantime, get out in the outdoors, and find groups and organizations to join to meet local people- who just happen to know other locals, etc.

Also- nothing wrong with putting your location as the nearest suburb of the large city that you're near.
 notdating-forumsonly
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My kids a biter!
Posted: 2/5/2013 10:10:59 AM
I think that biting the child sends a negative message and doesn't solve the issue in their own mind and find it a horrid thing to do.

Here's some good advice:

http://www.supernanny.co.uk/Advice/-/Parenting-Skills/-/Discipline-and-Reward/Put-a-stop-to-biting.aspx
 notdating-forumsonly
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was he using her or did he want a relationship?
Posted: 2/5/2013 9:53:00 AM

My view is that he cheated on his wife, his girlfriend and would therefore cheat on her and shes better off without him. But she just feels if she had said yes to him they could of had something.
until the next woman becomes interested in him.
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Dow Jones Industrial Average closes above 14,000
Posted: 2/5/2013 9:41:32 AM
IMO, the Dow/ S &P et al don't have an impact on the jobs market; the jobs market has an impact on the stock(s) market.

I take the general info put out by the experts and then I look at the past economic cycles and blend that with what is currently going on- how I foresee manufacturing, housing, consumer spending and the O & G market ( mainly these- but I also look at all markets, the GDP etc) and I usually have a good feel for things.

Basically, consumer spending will stay constant ( from 2012) or increase a bit. There are simply more people each year here and I think that spending on consumer goods hit rock bottom in the beginning of the downturn when more people were losing jobs and homes and we were all trying to get a true grip of what was going on and how much of a downturn this might be. There were also a lot of people who were shifting from buying their goods where they were used to buying them who were going to the cheapest sources that they good- going from shopping at Macy's to going to Target, for instance, to save money. So, these people have already been spending the least amount possible and that amount won't be likely to go down- but up as things improve.

Housing is improving- values are going up a bit. I'm a real estate investor and a broker and I'm in in daily and I see the interest rates going up slowly as housing improves- so it will improve slowly but have a leveling off period on refinances due to the rate changes. Some people who bought within the past 5-10 years don't have the equity to refi yet- just a sidenote.

Manufacturing- Unfortunately we're still making a lot of our goods overseas and we still import way more than we export, but overall I think it will remain stable and will improve a bit.

O & G- The O & G co's are running a large natural gas line from Canada to the Gulf- so it's safe to say that they see continued profits in the future, and consumers are still going to consume gasoline and heating oil, etc.

Constant with moderate improvement is my outlook.

Also- each economic cycle from downturn to upturn has been about 7-10 years historically-- we've been through 6 years of it and I think we'll follow this cycle 0f 7-10 years for the upturn.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Hidden Profile/Unhidden Profile Questions???
Posted: 2/5/2013 9:14:03 AM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts15779372.aspx

i did a search and used the keyword 'hidden'- lotsa threads on this topic

yes I believe they see that you viewed them
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Pretty Gals and the Slut-Shaming Phenomenon...
Posted: 2/5/2013 8:42:07 AM
I think you over generalize.

The big misconception with this thought process, IMO, is linking dating with looks.

People who are very attractive are looking for the same things that less attractive people are looking for- we're all human at the end of the day.

An attractive male or female may be looking for a relationship, may be between relationships and looking but not wanting anything right NOW, may not want to date other than very casually or just meet friends.

NO difference with someone less attractive.

SOME may be using their looks to their advantage and gaining whatever they can from it- some may be doing this if they aren't as attractive as well- in their own way. There are all kinds out there, going through all kinds of timing issues, different personalities, etc, etc.
 notdating-forumsonly
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First date, Great Chemistry, no kiss?
Posted: 2/4/2013 8:02:03 PM
He's setting the tone to take it slowly. If he wasn't interested he wouldn't have asked you out again. I'd say let him set the tone to see how it goes.
I'm not being negative, just be sure he isn't acting decent to try to win you over if hes just looking for sex. IOW, take the time to get to know him well and don't worry about the kiss.
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Favorite documentary?
Posted: 2/4/2013 7:54:46 PM

And the History of New York City by his brother Ric Burns.


Ditto. Put me in front of a good history documentary and I'm all over it.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Favorite documentary?
Posted: 2/4/2013 6:17:28 PM
There are quite a few. I don't watch tv and instead watch a lot of documentaries- often from the history channel.

As well as:

Anything by Ken Burns- especially the Civil War series

The Mayans and how they used astrology

Travel docs

Planet earth/ nature docs (March of the Penguins)

here's a decent list: http://www.imdb.com/list/CfHXhW5C4fo/
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Using steriods to heal a back injury...
Posted: 2/4/2013 6:04:18 PM
If the anti-inflammatory is working ( advil), and it is slowly improving, I would personally use the R.I.C.E. method:
Rest
Ice ( 15 minutes on and off 2-3 times a day)
Compression ( wrap it)
Elevation

Do the exercises that helped before and keep them in your exercise regimen
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Anyone know anything about gallbladder issues?
Posted: 2/4/2013 6:00:56 PM
heres a good link for natural ways to help with the gallbladder attacks

http://www.speedyremedies.com/home-remedies-for-gallbladder-attacks.html

My patients used the apple cider vinegar blend mentioned and most did well with this- look into apple cider vinegar- Bragg brand-

as for removal- I would personally do a gallbladder cleanse and would make a personal decision to eat well- omitting fried foods and the culprits that allow the stones to form- it can also be a mineral imbalance, but that, too, is often brought on by an unhealthy diet in sodas, white sugar and flour use, etc.
gotta be careful not to eclude the bile duct and get it stopped up with a stone trying to pass while doing this- I would do it very slowly and I would eat lighter and lighter the 3-4 days before doing this- and monitor things closely:

http://www.naturalnews.com/007733_gall_bladder_surgery.html

gallbladder surgery is one of the most common and unnecessary surgeries that I know of- not saying that some are not necessary- most often getting to the point where the pain comes more often and is unbearable- but not doing anything about the diet at the first signs of inflammation- perhaps find a good natural doctor for their opinion, do a lot of your own research, and get 2-4 opinions or whatever it takes to make a good decision- best of luck with it all
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what do you expect?
Posted: 2/4/2013 5:28:43 PM
^^^High value men have the capacity to care, yes. You might be surprised how few men actually engage in a half decent convo. Most relegate talk to entertainment and banal interests.


Where in his/her career do you expect a potential date/mate to be by age 30? How much experience in dating so you expect them to have? Any specific life experiences they should have gone through by 30? What do you expect from a possible love interest by the time they're 30?


I didn't have any expectations when I was looking. I think that most of us are looking for someone with similar drive, life experiences, etc for compatibility and having a companion and partner who has a lot of the same strengths, etc.
At 30 I had already worked for 16 years, so my perspective is a lot different than someone who may be trying to find themself sts.
At 30 I would like to think that someone has completed their education and has established themselves in their career, or is at least in the inroads of knowing what they want and working to attain it even if it's taking one night course a semester to complete a masters degree while they work.

I looked for someone who had enough relationship experience to know what he wanted and to want to know why his past choices didn't work out- and did the work to understand it all and who took the time afterward to get in a good place,,, to make the solid decision to look for a relationship, just as I did.
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How to make a print from an original
Posted: 2/4/2013 4:33:02 PM
Aristotle, thank you for the links. The first one is a very good, broad-based resource; the second one appears to be a good overall site for artists to sell their work.

How do you find so much precise information online? I read your posts in the forums and you cite references and links like these that go right to the subject matter. When I do searches I get broad information. Thank you.
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The Meet Me feature
Posted: 2/4/2013 2:31:58 PM
I would think so, and it can't hurt to message them and see if they respond. Don't take it personally if they don't. Basically, no response on here means no interest. The "maybe" hit on the meet me feature signals a yes on your side, and some women using the feature may not know this, so it could be a 'false positive' in that case.
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Parents Religion
Posted: 2/4/2013 2:27:44 PM
I can only share what I chose to do as a parent. I wanted my children to be aware of all things that they would be exposed to in mainstream life. I wanted them to form their own opinions about things and not to have them come from a source that was pro- or against whatever it was.
My children attended church with me growing up. I wouldn't have had them in a church where it was anything but mainstream with a very traditional views on religion- where people attend church to learn about things in the Bible, etc., with the complete ability to form and uphold their own views. I attended a church that had a good study of the Bible- not one that was trying to drive a lot of their views home.
I also wanted my kids exposed to other religions/ beliefs and when the opportunity arose to go to church with a friend of another religion I thought it was great. My son was in a scout troop where all of the parents/ families were Mormon and they met a lot of the time at their church for activities and meetings. I felt it offered him the opportunity as above mentioned in addition to being in a great scout troop.
IMO being a parent is not about exposing our children to our prejudices. It's about exposing them to free choice, with the understanding of the basics- what's right and wrong, honesty, having good character, etc.
 notdating-forumsonly
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How to make a print from an original
Posted: 2/4/2013 2:09:18 PM

They use drum scanners.

Most commercial printing operations will have one of these.


Thank you. I looked this up (wiki) and it also states that digital cameras have a way of being used as a scanner so I'll be reading about that as well.


Most people will have their own site and then maybe license through other sites like Getty and ones that specialize in selling art.

The best way to market your stuff is to produce great stuff, aside from that it is getting your stuff seen by the right people and to do this you need the right connections.

Contact a local art dealer and see if they will give you some time with how the system works and who you need to talk to with regards to representation.


This is the area where I need help. I'm very good at marketing, but I don't know a lot about the best way to utilize a web site. Specifically, I just had a site built. It was suggested to have it hosted by go daddy due to its online efficacy.
My art mentor is a well known artist. He suggested the site that he uses. He has his own website and then the art site suggested for professionals. You mentioned Getty, and there are others that are quite prominent.
How do I take my site and link it to the other sites, and will most sites allow this? Who would be the best host for my site in your opinion?
I'm also having a tough time finding the best resource for building/ rebuilding my site. A friend of mine had a go at it and while it looks good I'm finding out the the format he used may not interface ( ?) with the language that's more prominent now ( for lack of a better way of explaining it). I'm also looking into watermarking my art without affecting the quality of the view online.
I'll put up a piece of my art on my profile if anyone wants to give an honest critique- won't hurt my feelings if you don't like it, and I'm definitely not billboarding- just interested in sincere opinions.
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How to make a print from an original
Posted: 2/4/2013 10:24:32 AM
Thanks springsdiver. I appreciate the link and the effort.

Ah, photography. Now that comes easy for me. I do digital and non-digital photography. It's easy to produce prints that are 4 x6, 5x 7, 8 x 10.

I took fine arts at university and one of my first profs told me to do the art that you like and that there is a buyer in every market. It's very true. Everyone likes something a bit different and I had doubts starting out but a lot of people like my art, so it helps to reaffirm what I like to do. So do what you like and put it in the marketplace and it will sell.

I've seen some pretty cool programs with digital photo. I used to meet with a group of artist and we would do gestural drawing and drawings at each sitting. One of the guys would photograph the subject matter and then had a software program on his laptop to take it and kind of 'paint' it on the laptop and do several other things to it and then print his work, and it sold well. It's good to experiment with the mediums that we all like to discover something new that we love about art.

The link info is basically what I've been reading. It references making prints but it does not get into the 'how to's' on the larger drawings.

What I'm wanting to share on this thread is how artists have done it and what was the most successful way of achieving good quality, larger prints ( 16 x 20 and larger) and the most successful way(s) that they have marketed their prints, etc.

Thank you very much.
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How to make a print from an original
Posted: 2/4/2013 9:04:32 AM
I draw and paint ( mixed media) and I'm wanting to take the originals and make limited edition copies of them myself.
Up to the present I've had a gallery making the prints but the quality isn't there anymore as well as having issues with delays, etc.
I've been reading about it and the issue seems to (first) be with the size. Most of the work I want to print is 24 x 36- others are larger ( and a few that are smaller). Obviously, I would have to have a way to scan the ones that are larger than 8 x 11.
How have you gone about it most successfully? Thank you for your replies.
I'm hoping that there are responses from the artisan community as well as the tech community- which bridge a lot in the arts.
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Girls don't pay attention
Posted: 2/4/2013 8:05:30 AM
One consideration is not to have expectations that others will have the same way of going about things that we do.

I could waste time thinking that it would be nice if a guy read my profile that has the answers to the questions he's asking me, or I could not think about it and answer the questions and get a better feel for him.
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A question of timing
Posted: 2/4/2013 7:48:36 AM
the third voice may say to just be an adult about it and ask her out on a date- not just getting together. That sets the tone for all else.
it doesnt matter if you ask her out and she says no or not now, etc- just go about work as usual. so many people make such a big deal about this when it really isnt.
if you wait to ask her out until the end of the production she may have met someone by then. if she has interest but she chooses to wait until the production is over, let that be her call, but be very direct (now) about going out when the production ends. life is short- be direct.
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Questions from a man (it's my bday tomorrow!!!)
Posted: 2/4/2013 7:43:57 AM
1-2) waxing

3) I shower and scrub my feet well, trim the nails- can't imagine going in otherwise, but apparently everyone else does because they always say, wow, you trimmed your nails- thank you!

4) I like a guy who doesn't do anything but have his brows trimmed a bit at the barber- not too short.
I feel like a guy who shapes his brows it too effeminate.

5) Lots. A good scrub is simply oatmeal with a little face soap in it-lather the soap and water and add a bit of ground oatmeal.
Use a good face cleanser with warm water and then rinse with colder water with lemon in it- first use a cucumber-water rinse and leave that on for a few minutes.
Milk as a cleanser.
Lavender water as a soothing and calming wash before bed after cleansing.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Am I in the ballpark?
Posted: 2/4/2013 7:30:08 AM
^^^And one other big one- talk to people as you would if you were meeting them in real life, not with a list of do's and don'ts.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 10 (view)
 
Not Compatible
Posted: 1/30/2013 3:01:14 PM
There are 10 major areas of compatibility, not to mention simply meshing well with that individual, life experience, how you were raised ( mannerisms, issues, etc), the 'get it' factor of knowing who you are and understanding the path you've taken to get where you are today in terms of relationships, etc. And yes, they all matter and the person who 'gets' all of this as being important in forming a potential relationship will simply know if you interest them or not.

Dating is about finding someone of general interest, knowing the above will play a part at some point if they are looking for a relationship,,,and there will be a lot of first dates, way fewer second dates, and so forth. It IS challenging finding that ONE person.

Just have fun going on dates until someone comes along of interest. If we couldn't enjoy dating we might as well all be meeting at the DMV while we renew our license to get an errand done while we're out.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
At what point do you know you are in love?
Posted: 1/30/2013 2:44:37 PM
I can like someone a lot but I want to have time go by and see how stable they are emotionally, mentally, and physically. Things he does and who he is as a man and an individual start to grow on me and I suddenly know at some point that the depth of what I know and feel has become something incredibly good, tangible and lasting. My life has become richer having them in my life, and they're the one who floats my boat in all of the relational ways of being with someone.

I also know that I've begun to care for them in a way that can only be described as feeling like he's part of my core family- close and protected, but with all of the romantic feelings that come along with having a partner, as well as the depth of trust and love that I have with him.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 12 (view)
 
Vegetarian Calories
Posted: 1/30/2013 11:15:03 AM
The idea with eating raw foods is to get what nature made ( I suggest buying organic foods these days to get it) by getting the raw enzymes etc- part of eating 'cleanly' as referred to above. A lot of people who aren't fully familiar with eating (primarily) raw foods is that they go all or nothing, as is common for most 'diets' and they can throw a toxic load of crap into their system from the junk that they may have been eating before, combined with the cleansing effects of the raw food.

Most people who eat a largely raw diet find that if you shoot for 90-100% during the day and eat a cooked meal ( at least part of it) that it works better- lotsa reasons why.

To truly empower your body with good health, the heirarchy of eating is to go for the macro and micro nutrients in raw foods and foods that have optimal nutrition, and to go for alkalizing foods as well, IMO. I've been doing this a long time and I can get into extreme detail with it if you want me to.

Coconut and almond milk were mentioned- almost no protein btw. I'd suggest a pure soy milk like westbrae, unsweetened, made from soybeans, not soy flour, etc. Use the raw coconut and almonds instead would be my offering.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
can you understand my situation?
Posted: 1/30/2013 10:54:30 AM
I'm well aware about the controls of prescribing amphetamines and that it would require you to go to a dr. on a regular basis. That wasn't my concern. My concern is that you are being PROPERLY evaluated currently and that you aren't just getting the meds prescribed because it's the general way to go with your current and complete diagnosis. The use of these 2 meds have me thinking that the (main) thing that you are being treated for is ADHD. Is this correct?

I was also stating close to what flaneur shared- that the weed will affect the meds. Weed is also highly acidic and has precautionaries, especially when used long term, just as the meds do.

I would offer that you might consider going to an M.D. or N.D. who is heavily trained in a possible natural approach, if possible, to treating you. At least to find a way to determine exactly what you need, the exact doses, and to help find a way to help you sleep better without just drugging yourself more.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 3 (view)
 
Are Men Intimiated by Financially Secure Women
Posted: 1/30/2013 10:17:49 AM
This is a redundant thread- please run a thread search before posting.

Date men who are compatible- financially, sexually, health-wise, socially, etc.,,, or date those you choose to and don't think about the finances- just do your thing.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 93 (view)
 
car sex
Posted: 1/30/2013 9:44:11 AM

Remember those Chevy Nova's with the bench seat in the front?

Yes I do. I love classic cars and the nova was one that brings back memories- also the Mach 1 mustang- dated a guy with one and it was fun to drive- never had sex in either one but they were great cars.

As to the comment about the back seat being too small- well, that's part of the fun and leads to a lot of creativity.
Good times. Gotta share this with my bf spontaneously.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 13 (view)
 
browser takeover
Posted: 1/30/2013 9:11:39 AM
UPDATE: I think I corrected the problem. Thanks to the guys posting on here and to Cowboy who has been helping behind the scenes.

I ran malware and the hijack software that cowboy recommended- both shown no issues.

I went back to GentlePlus's post and used the second link- bot et al- and walked thru each manual step. I deleted the '(search) certified' entry from the start screen ----> all programs---->LTMC. Trial and error using the suggestions on the bot link and seeing that my browser (google) didn't have the exact same things that it walked me thru.

I also went into settings --->manage search engines and tried to delete the default engine of 'search certified'. It would not delete so I went in and went just to the left of of the 'manage search engines' and put google as the default engine- went back in to manage search engines and deleted the 'search certifed' and rebooted.

On start up, my laptop now directs me to google. Holy mother- what a process to go through. I learned from you guys and appreciate it all very much. ::fistbump::
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 19 (view)
 
my son had cancer
Posted: 1/30/2013 7:38:42 AM
^^^Agreed

I'm so glad that you're son is doing well. Many hugs to both of you, OP.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 12 (view)
 
browser takeover
Posted: 1/30/2013 7:24:41 AM
I wrote gentle plus behind the scenes. The first link he sent leads to the exact issue that I am having. For anyone reading this, apparently the "search certified" link is a huge issue online and clicking on any ads, etc- accidentally- can lead to this browser hijacking issue.

I don't do any online banking, have credit card use, etc- just for this reason.

I'll post on how this goes. I plan on following the first link that gentle plus offered, as well as loading the malware.

Barney, thank you for your post.

I may go in and do this action a well- I will first see the outcome of the above.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
The Catfish
Posted: 1/30/2013 7:10:26 AM
Just keep it simple and only talk with men who are going to meet- exchange enough email to make a decision to talk on the phone and see how that goes and set up a date. If he strings it along even once- move on.
Don't date outside of your area and that takes care of the distance issue. JMO and experience.
 notdating-forumsonly
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Msg: 38 (view)
 
Is this a normal “cooling off” period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?
Posted: 1/30/2013 6:59:31 AM

Why couldn't you just say...

OK, stay home this time, BUT next time, if we agree to do something, know that it IS important to me and I'd appreciate it if you made it a priority and didn't cancel.


Yes, and actually, you should have shared how you felt about it before you left his house, rather than feeling hurt and waiting half an hour to text him how you felt. You didn't give him the opportunity to respond in person. He didn't knw that you have a role in the event until you told him when it was too late for him to do anything about it.
I find it best to take people at face value. He offered to go and you didn't just roll with it and instead chose to keep some sort of " no way now I'm going to show you how hurt I am even thought I didn't take you at face value" stance on the whole matter. Not only THAT, you are choosing to perpetuate this attitude of hurt and hiding your feelings based on fear- your words- and then holding it against him. For gawd's sake, he's not a mind reader. Just act like an adult and CALL him on the phone and set up a time to go have coffee an talk about it. Own up to your part in it.
Go back and read what you wrote about how you told him. You told him and you were surprised by the fact that he may not have remembered or that he didn't want to go. He's entitled to feel that way. You didn't make it clear- right then- that you'd really like his company there and that you had a role in the event.

Now you're still adding fuel to the fire instead of just seeing it for what it is.
BTW, just call the guy. WHy can't you just tell him that now you like to call because you want to and leave it at that?
It's fine if he likes to text but you also need to do what you want to do within this relationship. You're doing everything his way and then griping about it.
 
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