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 Author Thread: Why do folks flip out if asked do you have an STD
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Why do folks flip out if asked do you have an STD
Posted: 5/24/2012 3:35:41 AM
Ever since working at a sexual health clinic, have let any potential partner know that not being tested was a deal breaker, in the UK we don't get a piece of paper, but going with your partner and both getting everything done, and ringing up together on speaker phone for results or showing the tx works. After seeing whY came into the clinic, I usually go every year anyway, and especially when in a new relationship, being able to communicate well, includes talking about all aspects of sex, no need for a freak out. Someone having such a laid back attitude to multiple std's, might freak me out though, would think having just one would be enough to make you see the light.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Is ejaculation important?
Posted: 4/23/2012 3:25:53 PM
Totally agree you might be desensatised, so lay off the stimulus , porn handjobs, etc.

Those Circumcised sometimes find that they have more staying power as the fore skin usually protects the penis, so its more sensative .

obviously the fact that you have came with one woman, means that she either had the right technique, or you had a lot of feelings for her or some other factor that you have not figured out yet.

Having an emotional connection often helps.

As a lass not having reach the orgasm till nearly into my 30's, it would not bother me personally, but then again hours and hours of bonking does get old after a while.

Have these women watched you touch yourself and tried to do the same for you with pointers?

Also recomend tantra as you can teach yourself to come without winning, win win situation , good luck
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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After play
Posted: 4/23/2012 5:03:00 AM
After play great, talking, stroking and holding, and if that turns into foreplay again well..ermmh

NECK ROMANCER... With no 1 baby on this, love the weight and feeling connected, also don't like withdrawing as feel unpluged, especially if that happens straight after, nicer to linger for a bit.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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FANTASY RAPE
Posted: 4/23/2012 4:44:06 AM
If we changed the word 'rape' to 'forced lovemaking' wonder if that would make a difference, many people are getting upset about the wording, without realising this is within the context of a loving relationship, and these women feel safe enough to explore, pushing bounds and feeling overpowered, due to the fact there is love and trust, a fantasy made reality, within there own boundaries.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Tips on being more bedroom dominant
Posted: 4/23/2012 2:55:47 AM
Perhaps initiate sex more for a start, try catching her when washing up, spanking her and cupping her groin, biting and nibbling her ear lobe and neck, and whisper when she's finished you want her to say nothing but go and strip of slowly in the bedroom and lay naked on the bed, you stay fully clothed watching, then touching... My heads bursting with ideas to many to list, but communicate, perhaphs role play.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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latex-free condoms
Posted: 4/12/2012 2:25:47 AM
Read this http://www.pasante.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=69:sensitivepe&catid=36:condoms&Itemid=79 for extra info, and different products, but can get them cheeper so shop around, goodluck
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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latex-free condoms
Posted: 4/12/2012 2:18:03 AM
You can order pasante unique off internet, is also thinnest condom, and super strong, take a bit of getting used to putting them on, just follow the instructions, is worth it as can feel everything through them even heat, made from synthectic resin AT-10 ? Go www.pasante.com. They also are discreet, three come in a credit card

Love them wouldn't use anything else, and no more days of walking like john Wayne's a bonus.

There's also a thread on here about femidoms, but can't find it, but you might.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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No big O.
Posted: 4/7/2012 5:09:41 PM
How do you feel about the guys your with, personally only orgasm with someone have a deep emotional attachment with, and was 27 when I first did vut boy was that worth waiting for.

Kegals and tantra helped lots, goodluck
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Best friends ...can I leave the friend zone!
Posted: 4/5/2012 7:33:17 AM
Had the same kind of experience recently, but it was me that wanted to be friends as we both turned into bumbling fools when ever we tried to have a hug or a kiss, not sure if it was nerves or what, didn't actually see him for a while and missed him and his qualities, especially when couldn't see him due to out side factors, realise that he is very different to any other guy , and didn't really know how to respond, although, we love doing lots of the same things, but we have been getting closer, so hope it works out, good luck.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Sexiness clarification....how to really define it when searching for love in your profile?
Posted: 4/3/2012 3:48:27 AM
First off you the average size of a woman from my country,

Now totally agree about putting all the stuff you like and are into on your profile. But is this how you feel or have you just lost your va va voom, if that the case, recomend, volunteer for a naked artwork, or join a burlesque dance class to male you comfortable in your own skin, and once you feel that, you can't help but be sexy, x
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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pain of sex
Posted: 3/26/2012 7:06:48 AM
Can I surgest using dilators, go from smallest first, be well lubed and leave in for at least 10 min, x 3 or x 4 times daily, they look like glass dilldos, and go up gently in size, there by steaching you up and allowing you to become comfortable before the next, lube is your friend, use vast quantities, and make sure you are not only relaxed but excited and have lots of four play, also as the nearve endings reach up inside you a great stomack massage from your moms pubis to navel also heats up and wakes up that area, don't be self consious, or you will tense up have a teddy or over sexy number on, go ontop or where ever you want, and by crosssing your anckles and squeezing your thighs, will decrease the depth untill you finally dilate to the right size. Good luck , when it starts to hurt, add lube, breath and relaxing and breath, long and deep into the area that hurts, and go slow, x
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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The Late, Great Handjob
Posted: 3/12/2012 4:17:08 PM
Well guys, never in all the time I have seen a guy jack off, have I seen a guy use a nice warm oil and basket weave his c.ock with both hands, but also never had a guy that was having this done ask me to stop, lol.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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The Late, Great Handjob
Posted: 3/12/2012 8:43:01 AM
Winter, someone that thinks they can always do something better than everyone, deserves, especially in this case the title of real wanker.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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The Late, Great Handjob
Posted: 3/12/2012 6:43:15 AM
Totally agree, born in the 50 s^^^^

Mind you I still miss the days of good dry humping, and seeing a guy cream himself while clothed, lol
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Sex with a M2F post op female is as good or better then a real woman.
Posted: 3/2/2012 4:25:24 AM
Jee people, he's already said that he is not into guys. Do we really have to lable everyone to make them fit our mindset? , he loves having sex with a woman who has great sexual technique, and who used to have a penis.

Thlnk the whole point about trans folk, is they never belonged in their original body, so in essence they have always been in their minds the sex they change into.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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WINE ENEMA
Posted: 2/24/2012 3:51:55 AM
Domo, think those that commented where most shocked not that she did this, but that she did so in a room full of people at a party. Always wise to do a bit of investigating, if attempting some thing out of the norm or that could affect your health.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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WINE ENEMA
Posted: 2/22/2012 9:47:02 AM
No idea about this, but the anus is the easiest way to contract hepatitis b and c , so recomend testing beforehand, and no matter how clean you think it is, it prob isn't. The tissues in your anus are used to filter out nutrition, so are able to absorb large amounts, think this possibly be quite dangerous, would recomend more research and not 'ingest' more than you would normally drink.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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3's a crowd
Posted: 2/18/2012 9:31:56 AM
You said... if you dont want to have sex with me, why do I need to have some emotional feeling during your fantasy.

Think the whole thing was because she did want to have sex with you but wanted you to have strong feelings for her, but your better off without the games, good luck
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Paying half of the bill for Valentines Day meal
Posted: 2/17/2012 1:51:47 AM
Just to add my voice to the masses...

You made him go out, against his will, you should pay all, now if he'd managed to get you to stay home, he should of cooked, that's the compromise you get what you want but you have to put something in.

V day is more expensive for everything, but you should not be sat fumming the rest of the year, tell him its important to go out and do stuff, take in turns at least once a week to pick an activity, and do something fun to encourage him to go out, bowling, speedway, paintball, etc.

IF HE'S STILL NOT UP FOR IT, FIND OUT WHY, OR MOVE ON, CAUSE IF AFTER THREE MONTHS ING ANY ATTEMPT TO MEET YOU HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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What is the difference between good sex and great sex?
Posted: 2/16/2012 10:05:23 PM
Express how you feel for her sensuously and emotionally, and let her be confident and unreserved enough to totally let go... Took me 27 years to hit the jackpot, but hit it every time, if emotionally close to partner.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Feel Like Crap..
Posted: 2/16/2012 9:32:22 PM
Totally true, live each day to the fullest, enjoy the beauty that surrounds us in nature, and if you admire, Like love or are proud of someone, tell them.

Hope your friend picks up and gets all her strength back. It's understandable that going through something like this is going to make you remember past losses and sadness, and maybe some of its been locked away that's been released by these events. Sometimes our grief makes us forget our blessings, of having that person in our lives, the impact of their lifes on ours, and the crazy stuff you both got up to. Talk about this with family and friends, remember the life that he lived and the joy, laughter and love you shared, with a smile, I wish you comfort and peace, x
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Heel pain
Posted: 2/15/2012 6:45:30 PM
Sounds like could also be from arch, do you have back pain that your suffering from too. Might be worth trying out some arch supports if so. To be shore go and get a docs opinion, everyone's different, all the best
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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sexual chemistry - deal breaker or deal with it
Posted: 2/15/2012 8:21:18 AM
^^^ totally agree - you make it entertaining .

Was in a relationship for three years, with little or no sex, and now realise just how important this is to me.
Think you need to get yourself out of the friend zone and start communicating about what you both like, you can get small 3 inch bullet vibrator's, that maybe would not intimidate him,

Why don't you both sit down with a bottle of wine and a pack of cards, one blue, one pink, and write down what you would like to do, and put them in a vase, from fantasies to, something new or romantic, maybe dressing up, being blind folded, and titilated with any thing from feathers etc. You might be supprised, pick one each out for each other and supprise your partner at some time during the week.

Think you also need to find your va va voom, if the extra weight is making you feel insecure your not going to be feeling sexy, get your confidence back, some sexy undies, do yourself up and, show him how you like it.

Think like most things you get out what you put in, but work on it cause you both deserve to be fullfilled, focus, on what you think is sexy about your partner...use your imagination
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Parents' objections to being together
Posted: 2/14/2012 6:26:05 PM
Ok just to clarify...

1. The rules are set by the people that own the house, or pay the majority of rent.

2. The rules are subject to change at any time.

3. If a child has left the house at any time for a prolonged period, ie, college, they supose familiarize them selves which new rules, and always keep rule 2 in mind

4. Staying = paying, maid service not included.

5. The child will always be their child in the parents eyes, growing ups allowed, respect is manditory.


Best advice, go to a hotel at least once a month, if you can talk to your parents and find out if its just a not under our roof kind of thing, or are they religious, etc.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
The Elderly
Posted: 2/14/2012 12:45:21 PM
Worked in care in some way or another for the last 25 years, and for the last 7 years or so my dads been in a home, due to aggression through dementia. Have seen the best and worst of care homes. Walked into places that smelt worse than a cats litter tray.

So yes definitely agree but those that are good, lift your spirit and give you hope, my dads in one of these, but due to the change in continuing care his placement is in jeopardy. He and my mums both worked in care and the nhs all their lives. Worked hard, saved there pennies, and now it might mean that they have to pay to keep him were he is, plus if he moves chances are his health would deteriorate from the impact on him.

So understand what your all going through and feel for you .
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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3's a crowd
Posted: 2/13/2012 1:50:06 PM
In any situation, you have to question what their motivation..., esp the friend, is it that this girlfriend, really has your attention and she feels pushed out, or that she's picking up your really intrested in the new girlfriend, watch out for flying spanners in the works.

We women are a bit weird at times but, the green eyed monster can stir up some feelings we never thought we'd have.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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3's a crowd
Posted: 2/13/2012 12:05:35 PM
Seriously if some guy was bringing this up to me, would be thinking WTF, and thinking that this platonic friend, just wanted a reason to get with you, which would possibly make you feel insecure, good way to lose both definitely, think twice.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Why do women want me to get rid of furniture that i had when i dated others?
Posted: 2/13/2012 10:48:42 AM
Are you getting it on, on this furniture with these new women, if so there proberbally thinking you have done the same before.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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whitney houston has died..
Posted: 2/12/2012 12:18:00 PM
Virago, if my comments bother you that is just the view I hold on death and not any indication of the failing in forays society, personally, I'd love a big party in the woods, with all my family and friends and a fire and tales and stories and dancing, before I die, that would be Ideal,

So yes some of us are cynical, some hold alternative views on life and death but is society doomed because we see a waisted potential and life, it is because of the value of life that we feel like this.

Dionne warwick was a family member, many people within her family and friends had the experience and knowledge to help, had also lived the life, and people don't get to being that famous, without determination, strength, and persistence, so to paint her as a poor prayed upon individual, easily led, can't see, but she had the ability resources and facilities to actually, change her life.

So yes maybe we shouldn't speak ill of the dead, and maybe these talented performers should realise 'the drugs don't work, they just make you worse', and even of we say it in a nice way, were all entitled to our opinion.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
whitney houston has died..
Posted: 2/12/2012 8:41:26 AM
As they say in show biz the show (party) must go on.

And to be honest, who doesn't want a good send off.

Did they know at the time? Maybe they needed a drink to steady their nerves.

Does it matter?
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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whitney houston has died..
Posted: 2/12/2012 6:06:25 AM
Marmite, she didn't know she wasnt aware how awful as she was off her head.

This news has no impact on me, I feel sorry that the last 20 years of her life she waisted her amazing musical talent, and the effect that could have on the world in favour for self annilation and abuse, we all saw it coming,how any one is shocked, is shocking. And the life that her child has lived, and will continue to live is most shocking, and horrific to do so without there mum.

I hope in death she has the peace she never had in life, and I wish her family strength.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Unusual but safe and healthy ways to loose weight
Posted: 2/10/2012 8:30:39 AM
Ok first the scientifically proven ways...


Eat a 600 calorie diet for two days a week and normal diet in moderation rest of week.

Reduce the size of your plate size

Eating your meal in soup form, keeps you fuller for longer

A small portion of dairy product with each meal reduces your fat consumed day by a third


Others not proven...

Eat grapefruit or juice daily,

Cabbage soup diet



Excercise is a must if you want to lose weight, there's no quick fit
Eat x5 + fruit and veg a day, but veg has less sugars so better.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Best sex toys, anyone use a radio controlled remote vibrator?
Posted: 2/9/2012 5:22:35 PM
Did have a very quiet egg, but open for abuse off your partner, especially when out in public, lol, think I hid the remote so well its never been found.

But his and hers, now we're talking, lol
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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the time is ticking ....
Posted: 2/8/2012 5:30:33 PM
Bint is actually an Arabic name for women

Get busy living or get busy dieing, shawshank redemption

One of the oldest men that lived, in his late 80' s invested in housing in Florida, every one asked him why, he said to have something for the future, in his 90 s he travelled the states with his 60 year old girlfriend, when asked if he should slow down especially in the bedroom, cause something might happen, he said, well no if she drops down dead, I'll just have to get me another one. He was over 105 when he settled down.

Guess like anything in life you get out what you put in, just some get to tired to put any in, so they don't have much life left.

Don't go quietly ...
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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What is the shortest date you have had
Posted: 2/7/2012 4:51:42 AM
Once met a guy that was twice as old and twice as wide as his online photo, was ment to be a meet and coffee, but then instead he wanted me to go and sit in the cinema to watch a film he had been waiting ages to see, no thanks ,

4 mins total, lol
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Squirting
Posted: 2/7/2012 3:07:51 AM
No myth, do a tread search on either, squirtin or gushing, has been talked over loads, but be prepaired to change the sheets lots, once you learn.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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May have to try a different birth control method?
Posted: 2/5/2012 5:23:32 PM
Have an implant, needs changing every three years, do sometimes spot inbetween periods for the first couple of months, but usually settles down . Periods resume but lighter, usually put in after local or elma (freezing cream) used, pretty painless, like injection and small bruise to site.

Usually put in lower half of upper ARM, between tricept and bingo wing. About 1 1/2 ince long, feels like a hair grip under the skin,

Think you can become pregnant within a month of having it out, Google implanol. Am on my third one, so would recomend, origionally was having heavy periods, but after settled have been fine.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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clit sticking to leg
Posted: 2/5/2012 4:19:52 PM
Does it work for you, can you have good clit orgasms, if so, and it ain't broke don't fix it, operations may decrease senaitivity, invest In some good undies, and find someone your comfortable with and vice versa, you are more than the size of your clit, don't let it define who you are ;),
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Are there any alternative people here?
Posted: 2/4/2012 8:31:48 AM
This thread was to my mind was brought up to see if there was like minded individuals that had or lived an alternative lifestyle. And although the OP has given benefits of his life style in no way has he attacked society or house dwellers.

COULD WE THEREFORE KEEP THIS IN MIND RATHER THAN PEDANTIC NIT PICKING ON WHO IS PAYING MORE TOWARDS THIS COUNTRY'S UPKEEP AND PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL RARTHER THAN ATTACKING.

thanks
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Great Books to read..
Posted: 2/3/2012 6:10:42 PM
The magician, silver thorn and darkness at sethathon ? All by Raymond e fiest, along the tolkin linear with a twist, he wrote others but the first three are epic, the others later, watery versions.

Also the Thomas covernant chronicals, David eddings
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Are there any alternative people here?
Posted: 2/3/2012 5:54:08 PM
Spent five months living in a tent, one of the most happy and carefree times of my life, even when a hurricane demolished the site. Along with backpacking.

Amongst the five wishes of the dying, is that people had not worked so hard, and had spent more time with family and friends. Maybe living in a different way allows this,
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Bad experience,
Posted: 2/3/2012 8:38:17 AM
On the bright side, at least she didn't string you along for a while in a relationship, and has saved you from neo.g with a cow bag like her, hey, still some good ones out here hon, x
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Sex sells!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/3/2012 8:09:33 AM
Yes sex sells ...

But personally, my orgasms and emotions are pretty intertwined, so if I have no emotional attachment or feelings for someone then, no matter what or how good they are, just ain't going to float my boat. So what the use, just meaning less and cheep.,

The dilema is that actually do really love a great sex life, and if get a snifter with someone have emotional connection, then kind of turn into cookie monster in a cookie factory,(one is never enough, more, more).

Unfortunately guys want gratification pretty quick and therefore either never get it, or get a watered down version of it. Without emotional input from a lot of women, and never get to find out exactly what they are missing.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Is it an orgasm?
Posted: 2/2/2012 4:14:16 PM
No one orgasms the same and even a woman orgasms in different ways, depending on stimulation etc, and different strengths, just keep doing what feels good to you, maybe try continuing on after the nice feeling and see if it intensifies, you will soon recognise yourself and your different ways that you come, don't stress, enjoy
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Morning Erection
Posted: 2/2/2012 10:00:52 AM
Always thought 'morning glory' was due to lads dreaming and waking up horny, no idea about testosterone.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Dumb question about male orgasms
Posted: 2/2/2012 5:31:41 AM
Men usually get a flush over chest or face when coming, nipples more senitive or erect, skin more sensative to touch , eyes rolling back, tensing all muscles or hand arms, curling toes, gasping, or a pause in breathing, grimace or clenching teeth, being tired afterwards, wanting to sleep or rest, being hungry after rest..

The muscles you use to stop yourself peeing by squeezing these (kegals) afterwards on the toilet you can push the seamen back out of you, shore sign.

Best way, ask or watch, its all still new to you, and remember safe sex, you always know, if he's got a condom on.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Women...would you pay for sex with a man?
Posted: 2/1/2012 3:23:02 AM
Msg 511 , Zen^^^ I thank a man for making me a coffee, to feel cheep if thanked for an incredible O. What a same to feel that way, and your name sounds so much more omnipotent than that.

Back on topic

Have read several mags were women in their, 50-80's hooked up with good time guys, that basically escorted them, in return for gifts and money, as though a full time job .

Personally not for me as get most from the emotional connection. Can see that this could work for many women though.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Great Books to read..
Posted: 1/31/2012 10:23:08 AM
Re terry goodkind ^^^ first three books ok, then story gets repeated and diluted, last couple in the series, bit without substance have found, but ok if you just want a diversion, or easy reading.
 soulsmilin
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Great Books to read..
Posted: 1/31/2012 10:17:45 AM
For sci fi, Robert heinlem, the man from mars, or any of his

Book examining what it is to be human,

Clan of the cave bear, earths children series, jean m anyone

Story set in the age of cave men
 soulsmilin
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Charity Shops!
Posted: 1/30/2012 9:42:57 AM
Bought a designer suitcase from one for £15, normally would of been over 80 .

Books great, wooden or plastic toys you can sterilise in the dishwasher, and stone wear or pottery

My sister got a life vest for her nipper for 30 p , new costs you £15.

Mom, SIS and me spent £20 on a day out in the charity shops, came home with five bags, best to buy stuff you have been looking for or wanted for a while, better than impulse buys, or getting tat. Best buy for me was a brand new pair of Clark airwalks, retail for £45 + but were sized wrong, said size 7 but actually a size smaller, was£3, bargin.
 
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