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 Author Thread: A bit more research makes me astonished.....
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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A bit more research makes me astonished.....
Posted: 4/14/2012 6:38:27 AM
I thought this was in a different section. Still new to the whole forum thing. I guess I can not delete it only a moderator.
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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A bit more research makes me astonished.....
Posted: 4/13/2012 4:17:08 PM
Not sure why somoene gets on a dating website with this personality trait. A woman said do not email if you will not approach me in real life. From what I read people seem to assume certain types of people will not approach them. Yet I am one of those people and I can approach anyone.

There are millions of women I can find attractive but that does not mean I am going to approach them. Now what most women do not realize is when a man does approach you automatically give him a certain look. Most likely it is a negative one. Many women have already decided if they will even speak to the man long before he actually approaches so what does it matter?

Some women will consider a man a creep, weird, or dumb before he says anything. My deal is I have been to war twice. Done more good for this country and for people in need then you have probably done for your family. Yet you judge me long before you know me?

I am really trying to understand this mentality but everyone that has the mentality makes it hard to understand. Almost nearly impossible to support. There is nothing that can support it so does anyone have any light they can shed on it?
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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If you won't approach me in public, don't email me here.
Posted: 4/13/2012 12:13:07 PM
Thank you that is what I have been thinking all week. I messaged 3 people and there reply is you are to far. Distance was roughly 60 miles. For me though 60 miles is not all that far. If 60 miles is all that stands between you and a shot at true love why hesitate? That is just me though.
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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If you won't approach me in public, don't email me here.
Posted: 4/13/2012 12:09:55 PM
I agree with that!!!
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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If you won't approach me in public, don't email me here.
Posted: 4/13/2012 12:08:06 PM
Mam no offense but what you said is no better then what the lady posted in her profile. You ever stop to think that guys that aren't the best looking are confident also? I will approach anyone. I have nothing to fear. I have proven my self in this society and this country. Dating is messed up for those reasons. People rather put bars for people to pass rather then excepting a person for who they are.

Then you want to say those people are delusional. The only thing delusional is people putting people in categories. Your sea has now become a pond and guess what you will likely never find anyone truely great through this type of dating.
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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50 Percent Divorce Rate-Fact or Fiction
Posted: 4/13/2012 11:56:41 AM
That is very true but I think it is something like 80% of all divorces are started by women. Many of the issues are about money, children, and sex. I mean there are extreme cases but if you are getting divorced over things that can actually be compromised over then you should not even consider marriage in the future.

If you can not:

1. compromise
2. be loyal and faithful
3. communicate

you are set up for complete failure.
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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50 Percent Divorce Rate-Fact or Fiction
Posted: 4/13/2012 11:53:47 AM
100% True! I am 27 and feel like I am lost. People close to my age have been divorced once or twice and have 2 or 3 kids. I do not know what to do. Yet those people that have been divorced 2 or 3 times and have 2 or 3 kids are expecting way to much by putting their standards where no one can reach them.

I was in the Army for 5 years. I have little patience for non sense any more. I can seriously see my self never being married if things continue this way.
 The_Best_Choice
Joined: 4/8/2012
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Not sure what to think.
Posted: 4/13/2012 11:43:56 AM
I am 27 and very much past all dating games. Now a question that is much discussed is that is it ok to date multiple people? In my experiences NO. Why? Because it is a cycle. Women and men both. You basically put people to compete against each other. Now men they will compete even if it means no being honest and telling you what you want to hear to get you. So this happens and the woman chooses that man. Three months later the woman comes back to me or another friend crying talking about how no good guys are out there yet never gives you a chance. So please people dating multiple people thinking it is alright check these 3 things:

1. Are you in a cycle described above?
2. Can you be honest about dating multiple people when websites tell you to say nothing?
3. Are you choosing the best person or the person that acts as the best?

Now in my experiences everyone I know falls into all 3 categories.

I am a pretty honest guy. There is not much I will not tell people. The lack of communication on this website though is HORRENDOUS. This is the way I look at dating. It is like a box and you have to think outside of it. So why is it people put themselves in small ponds where they never find that "perfect" match? Personally I think people put to much into looks. I agree you need attraction but if you are putting the bar higher then you are there is a problem with that. I read 99% of all profiles but the ones I refuse to read are people who post their life stories. I want to get to know you by personally getting to know you. We can put anything we want in those profiles whether it be true or false.

That is one thing that bothers me. No one tries to get to know me. I reply to every message even if not interested. I always hear people speak about we can at least be friends if nothing else. How is that possible if you do not talk to the people? If you think that way then theoretically I could be the best friend you ever had.

I may not be completely right but I know I speak a lot of common sense here. Is it to much to ask for people in the dating scene to just open their minds a little bit? Maybe you are having troubles because that person you over look is the one you should be looking at?
 
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