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slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Is being divorced hindering me? Posted: 11/22/2008 5:26:48 PM
There's so many reasons why a couple divorces... and NO! it doesnt mean that it's the guy's fault... Sometimes ppl just grow apart... it happens... some other times it might be cheating or abuse coming form either one of the spouses and the other just cant take it no more... that, too, happens... In my personal opinion... that's not a reason to overlook your profile... Now, I didnt go check your profile to see what could be the cause... and I'm not going to either... I'm just answering your question here... as for why you're divorced, that's nobody's business and shouldnt be mentioned in your profile... The thing is, OP, that the right woman for you wont care if you dont mention the reasons of your divorce on your profile... she wont care about the fact that you're divorced either... and putting in your profile that you're divorce is just stating the whole truth... which also implies that you're single now... So my advice to you... be patient!!! lol... the right one for you will overlook all those little details... Good Luck! :)~ Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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what should I do? Posted: 11/21/2008 6:56:06 AM
OP... I suggest that you part ways now and really make a conscious effort to work on your marriage to try to salvage what's left of it... You made a choice when you started cheating on your husband with this man (who will never leave his wife - dont fantasize about it coz we all know that's not gonna happen)... and now it's time to make a conscious choice to let go of that man and reconnect with your husband... I, personally, would admit everything to my husband... there's no real life when there's lies... nonetheless, that's me... some ppl choose not to say a word as if nothing happened... in those case, I always remember that sooner or later, the truth comes out... and not necessarily like we would like it to... that's why it's better if the truth comes out of your own mouth rather than coming from somebody else's... As for the ppl that insult you coz of it... well, guess they never read in the bible that if they never sinned, then they should be the first ones to throw the rock... Dont mind them... they dont matter... just choose wisely... and live your life the way YOU think it's best... If you both really love each other that much... and both cant be with your partners no more... well, then... that's a choice that both of you have to make together... but remember one thing OP... if he cheated on his wife with you... that means he could cheat on you with someone else too... Nobody can choose for you... it's your life... and yes it touches the lives around you... nonetheless... it's your choice so choose wisely... Good Luck... Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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post orgasmic cravings Posted: 11/20/2008 3:15:31 PM
water, a smoke and more sex...

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Hottest Movie Scenes Posted: 11/19/2008 5:31:31 PM
for me it's the one in 9 1/2 weeks... after Kim Bassinger and Mickey Rourke fought some guys, they ran like hell to hide in a back alley between 2 buildings where there was stairs and it was poring rain and they did there... that was so hot that I wished I was there instead of her lol

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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How many times do you have to mention it? Posted: 11/19/2008 10:35:01 AM
I'm with you on this one Alkalineprincess!!! I'm a single mom and did mention that status in my profile... and NO! I DO NOT put pictures nor names or any other personal info on the subject!!!... that's private... the men in here who are reading my profile dont need to know more about it than what's stated... Only when I think it's ok to do so, will I share that info but ONLY with the man I'll be dating... Besides that, men asking me questions about it... it's a big no no... some try to use that as an opening line... and I just see that as really creepy... as if they're trying to find a prey... As for other parents... dont care about them.. they dont matter! and if they want to "advertise" their kids online... that's their choice... and they should respect your choice of not doing the same as well... As the says goes... The people that mind dont matter... and the Ones that matter really dont mind... Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Wild Monkey Sex? Posted: 11/18/2008 8:19:50 PM
lol this thread is really funny lolol... nonetheless I'll be a bit serious here just for the OP to have a bit of insight on that expression (in case he hasnt figured it out yet with all those great replies lol)... Monkeys are one of the few species (besides humans) to have sex just for the fun of it... so they have sex after sex after sex (and so on lol).... So basically it's to f*ck non-end lol...

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Woman who have difficulty having an orgasm Posted: 11/18/2008 7:39:34 PM
There's a lot of women like her and there's clinics where she can be tested at... They will test her vaginal sensitivity... How it works is that they will insert a "dildo" shaped sensor in her vagina and make her watch some porn (to stimulate her) and while watching it... the sensor will record data for the doctor to analyze... Another thing that can cause that is emotional trauma... sometimes the woman doesnt remember it but unconsciously blocks herself out so that she wont feel a thing sexually speaking, meaning that her vagina wont respond... and that includes the fact that she wont get wet... So the clinics that tests the vaginal sensitivity will help determine if it's something physical or emotional... if it's emotional... she'll probably need therapy to uncover the emotional trauma... Good Luck to both of you... Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Why do some girls act prude when they're not? Posted: 11/18/2008 5:19:37 PM
you dont give any specific info on when/how they appear to be prude... so I had to assume that you were talking about when you first have sex with them... so maybe they're like that coz it might be a bit intimidating for them to get in the sac with you or anybody else the first time around... and when I say first time around I mean with a new partner... as for your pictures... you did a good job at training... though I'd have to say that if you want to go for competition, you should focus on defining those arms muscles more... just like you did with your legs... we can see that you put more emphasis on them in terms of definitions... the same goes for your traps... As for your weight... I really doubt that you're on your way to 260 lbs... my ex is a bodybuilder and he's already at 260 lbs and is way bigger than... and his legs are good for doing 600 lbs squats (sorry for my spelling)... So basically, although it shows you like to train, I still think you have a long way to go before getting a trophy... nonetheless, keep at it and with time, perseverance, good diet and supplements, rest and balance between training and the rest of you activities... you'll get there... Good luck and keep up the good work ;) Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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ok ladies any idea whats holding be back? Posted: 11/16/2008 9:48:57 AM
My guess is that you dont know her enough to make the move... you gotta know a bit more about her personality, her likes and dislikes, etc... to feel confidant enough in making a move on her... I really dont think that you're afraid of her nor like her so much that it makes you afraid... I just think you need to gather more substantial info on her in order to have grounds to ask her out... knowing that she has a kid is info anybody can know... it doesnt tell you what kind of person she really is... so dig a bit deeper... and then ask her out... ;)~ Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Soulmates or 'The One'... Posted: 11/15/2008 11:15:08 AM
What will the "yay or nay" do for your moral Op!? Will it make you feel better to see that there's more yay than nay?... you're frustrated with the fact that some women have that concept of "the one" or the "soul-mate"... Too many of them pass you by without even a smile???... is that why you feel the need to come to the forum to DUMP that frustration on others?... You have your way of seeing life, your values and your opinions... cant you see that those women also have the right to believe in whatever they feel like believing in... without having somebody to come tell them to forget about those princes on white horses!?... I suggest that you take a good... and long.. cold shower... and that you look at those "soul-mates" and "the one" conceptions on a different angle... maybe "the one" just means "the one who's more compatible for me"... or "the one I can see myself spending the rest of my life with" (I have a friend who's getting married today... and that's what she told me... her ex was a good guy but she could never picture herself married to him nor spending the rest of her life with him... but the guy she's with now... she can picture that and more)... The whole "fairy tale" is not actually about a fairy tale... it's about who's more right for each of us... no princes on white horses... no palace... just "the one" who's better suited for us... and if you dont get that... then that's sad... coz frankly... it all comes down to the same thing that you said before... "at the end of the day it's all about compatibility"... So you not getting picked only means that you're not the MOST compatible one for the lady... or/and... she cant see herself with you.. but that's ok... coz one day... there will be one that will think that you're "THE ONE" for her... and that you're her "SOUL-MATE" coz of the level of connection you both will share... as if you're connected via the soul... so intimately that no matter what happens... you'll always find each other... as if you lost a piece of yourself that you need to find back to feel complete... So chill and stop being so frustrated about the dating scene... there's every style/type of beliefs... and it's a nice to respect other ppl's beliefs... and try to understand them a bit on a deeper level... Hope this helps you understand a bit more that concept that you so gladly try to run over with your frustration... (just a note though... with your post... you definitively showed, the ladies who likes those concepts, that you're not "the one" nor a potential "soul-mate" lol) Have a great day and enjoy your long cold shower... ;)~ Sly P.S.: Yay (I dont believe in prince charming either - I do believe in having somebody that's more compatible with me than his neighbour though)

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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My girlfriend brings up cheating a lot and I don't know what to think Posted: 11/11/2008 10:40:17 AM
In other words OP... Shes not THAT into you!... Move on to the next profile... hope you'll have more luck there! Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Do you see him differently if? Posted: 11/11/2008 7:40:36 AM
lol Impossible that he'd jump more than I hahahahahaha... believe me on that one!!!... Nonetheless, just for the purpose of answering your question... No I wouldnt see him in a different light... and yes I'd find that amusing... just like ppl find it amusing to see me jump while watching a scary movie... :)~ Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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cold, cold like the grave, lol Posted: 10/3/2008 8:39:09 PM
this one is easy to answer lol: poor circulation of the blood flow... and it has nothing to do with not having enough body fat coz having fat actually makes the person more prone to be cold... So the lady might have poor blood circulation or maybe she's was just nervous at that moment which can make the hands become cold too... and no lol it doesnt mean she has a "cold heart" lolol... :)~ Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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why do some women get jealouse over something they have already dicarded Posted: 9/12/2008 12:48:10 PM
She probably still have feelings for you... some that she represses but unconsciously comes back to the surface... yeah it's a bit of a territorial issue as well... coz you guys were married for like 5 years (min)... I wonder, from her side, what brought her to file for divorce(?)... coz sometimes ppl divorce coz , for example, there's a break in the communication lines which doesnt mean that the love is gone...

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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On his terms...but the chem. is incredible Posted: 9/10/2008 11:41:57 PM
He just not THAT into you! (read the book too if you want lol) Move on... you have better things to do than wait around for him to IM you when "he" feels like it...

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Did I handle this situation poorly? Posted: 9/10/2008 12:16:24 AM
First of all... I want to say that I'm sorry for the break up... I know how painful that can be and wish you well... In situations like these, it's difficult to really be diplomatic... no matter how hard you try... You should deal with the feelings that you still have for her... repressing them will only be temporary coz sooner or later they'll come back to the surface again (some situation might occur in the future that will put you face to face with them again)... So deal with them now while you can... As for expressing your concerns... I think it's good to do so... you're setting the boundaries for the friendship that you're both trying to built... it's important that she knows where you stand and vice versa... and that you both respect them... just dont be too stiff about it though coz real friends are the family you choose and are there when you need support in the good and bad periods of your life... You'll see that with time it will get better and easier... just be open about it... and like I previously said... not too stiff either (which could cause a total loss of communication and kinda alienate her)... give yourself time to heal and time for the friendship to take form... One of my ex and I went through that and now we're able to talk about everything and have fun together as friends... Stay true to yourself and your feelings... and keep on being straight forward about the things that you're ready to talk about/do or not.... and she'll do the same if she sees the communication line open for her to do so... Also remember that there's always light at the end of the tunnel... so dont despair and try to smile every day :)~ Good Luck! :)~ Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

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If the world was to end on wednesday, what's the one thing you would like to do Posted: 9/8/2008 5:19:16 PM
I'd spend time with family and friends... and I'd go skydiving for the first (and last) time ever... I'd enjoy horseback riding one last time with my daughter... And on the last night... I'd have my daughter sleep in my bed like when she was a little girl and hug her and kiss her one last time... and I'd sing to her and pet her hair until she'd fall asleep and I'd stay awake looking at my precious angel until my last breath had left me... Sly

slyskys

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Who gets the second door? Posted: 8/30/2008 12:45:49 PM
the answer is "c": c) Open it, walk through herself, and brace it with her hand until she knows you’ve caught it as you’re on your way in behind her, I often thought that they (the ppl who come up with the etiquette stuff) should abolish the "c" option and have the lady open the second door for the gentleman... coz let's face it... who awkward and ridiculous is it to make the guy "run" to get the second door when the lady is already next to it and could just simply open it for the man... a bit of retribution would be much appreciated by men I'm pretty sure... Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Guys please help me get him to realize this. Posted: 8/27/2008 10:32:34 PM
OP... Are you out of your fcking mind!?!?!?!?! You want him to get a vasectomy, saying that it's the best thing for him... when in fact it's just for you... You're the kind of women that give us all a bad name! You're a selfish one to say the least! Go get your tubes tied and you'll do humanity a great favor! and FYI: you dont mess around with a man's jewels! Fck! I just cant believe how insensitive and "insane" you are! Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Women with ex's, ever regret dumping a guy? Posted: 8/27/2008 4:24:36 PM
I've never regretted dumping a guy coz I usually think thoroughly about it before doing so... and I've never ever dumped a guy for another one... I believe in working on my own "grass/lawn/garden" instead of trying to find another one that "might" be greener... and if it doesnt work and I have valid reasons to let go of the relationship, then I do so... Sly

SlySkyS

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Would you date a transplant surgeon Posted: 8/25/2008 6:41:47 PM
I didn't want to go into my field for the status, I wanted to do it to satisfy my intellectual drive, but I do laugh at your advice. Janitor's don't have a chance, being modest don't have a chance. And your "intellectual drive" couldnt answer your own question with the means of 'good sense' and analysis? And suppose that you go with one of those women who answered "yes" to your question lol... Now ask yourself this question: is that woman with you for you or for the material things that you can provide/bring her? Then ask yourself what kind of woman you actually want... a woman that will stand by your side no matter what or a FWB or a gold digger? As for a janitor and a modest person not standing a chance... not standing a chance for what? being happy? or are you still engrossed by the material side of life? Just for your information lol I'd take the janitor over a pompous @$$ like you anytime... coz I've never been driven by money or what it can bring... Guess it's way too difficult for your "intellectual drive" to comprehend lolol :)~ Oh! forgot to tell you... I do follow my own advices... you should follow them as well... at least you'd end up happier than what you are right now lol... Good luck finding the right woman... and exercising your analytical side that those years in medical school didnt teach you how to develop... Learning what's in the books and regurgitating them is one thing... learning to "think" for and by yourself is another... lol... Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Would you date a transplant surgeon Posted: 8/25/2008 4:49:50 PM
you will be truly dating a king among man A "king"!?!? says who??? You!!! lol... I think you need a HUGE dose of modesty... too bad it's not given in I.V. coz your system would get it faster.... Your job is just that! a job! and I dont care if you're a doctor or a janitor... every job is important and you shouldnt proclaim yourself a "king among man"... I'm assuming that you decided to study in that field for the 'status' that such job would give you... Now that you feel that you have it... How's that working for you? Do you enjoy the 100% divorce rate? Do you enjoy the nearly impossible personal/intimate life that it brings you? Tell me... who in their right mind would even consider getting into a relationship like that knowing that it's bound to fail 100% !?!?!? Do you really think that a woman would get in just for the "status" that your job offers? Get real about it before thinking that every single women on earth will fall for such a crappy proposition!... Best advice: become a janitor... you'll probably get your dose of modesty and a woman that loves you for you...

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Are girls into bellybuttons? Guys and/or their own? Posted: 8/24/2008 12:19:49 PM
lol Oh! I cant believe this subject came up lololol... pretty funny lolol... Well, I have to admit that I love bellybuttons, love playing with them (blowing in my kid's bellybutton for example)... and I... love to fall asleep, next to my man, with my index stuck in his bellybutton hahahahahaha... (or doing something else, but I'll leave that one for another topic lol)... Yep... love bellybuttons ;)~ Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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info about a girl Posted: 8/23/2008 9:44:27 PM
She's not interested in you! Period! Just move on to the next profile... Next question!? Sly

SlySkyS

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am I wrong? Posted: 8/19/2008 2:03:16 AM
Yup, Tim's gay or bi... Obviously he didnt feel comfortable talking to you about it, maybe coz you're his ex and doesnt want you to have a different image of him than the one you've had so far... I know that you wanna know everything about your ex... but it's his private life and he doesnt have to share "everything" with you... you're his ex and now friend... and men often make a separation in the way they relate to a woman that was his gf at one point in time... Besides that, maybe Tim hasnt come out of the closet yet (obviously not coz he has been hiding his relationship from you... and probably from everybody else as well... nonetheless, I have to add that he doesnt "have to" tell anybody coz that's his business)... and therefore is not ready, nor comfortable in sharing that part of his life maybe coz he doesnt know how ppl will react towards him... will they look at him differently? will they still love him? will they be supportive or not?... In my opinion, what happens in Tim's private life it's his business and it's not even a question of being supportive or not... it's question of treating him the same way you've treated him... he's your friend... and having a gay/bi relationship doesnt change who he is... So why would he be treated differently!? You dont see ppl treating others differently just because they're straight... do you!?... well, same thing here... somebody's sexual life is not anybody's business and is not open for discussion if the person doesnt want to talk about it... If and/or when Tim will feel ready/comfortable to talk about it, he will... he might or might not... just respect his choice and keep on being the good friend you've been so far... Oh! another thing... you might wanna welcome Tim's boyfriend... it will make it easier on everybody... and Tim will see that there was no point in fussing about it... Just keep an open mind and keep on loving your friend the way you've always loved him... as a friend.... :)~ Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Was SUPPOSED to just be a booty call... Posted: 8/18/2008 10:24:11 PM
Well OP, although I dont think that you were playing games with him at all (I think most women went through that "not ready for a relationship, but has feelings for the guy" period in life)... I think it's time for you to detach yourself completely from him... no matter how much you miss him, etc... There's a lot of (justifiable) resentment from his part and keeping in touch with him will only deteriorate the "relationship" even more... The guy does has feelings for you... but at this point, you need to cut all ties and let him mend his broken heart on his own... Answering to his txt msg, phone calls, emails, and going for lunch, etc... just gives hopes when there's not (hence the guy saying that you're playing games when you had told the poor guy that you wouldnt date him... and telling him how you felt when he was dating this other woman - You dont go to lunch and other places with the guy when you know that he has feelings for you and you said that you're not ready for a relationship... Might as well stab the guy in the heart... it's more efficient, less painful and it's not dragged over time!)... Even though you dont feel like you're playing games... to him it feels like it, and he sees it as such... So if you love him like you do... then set him free... and just get out of his life... and get your emotional life back in order... Move on!... Yeah, it's possible that he's gonna try to contact you but let go... first things first... delete his phone number, like that you wont be tempted to call or text him... same for his email address... etc... You're in a love/hate relationship and that's not healthy for him nor for you... it's like an addiction and you both will end up hurting each other more and more each time... Just be strong and make the steps to move on... do whatever it takes to not know what's happening with him... ask your friends to help you in this... and for them not to give any info about you to him either... Just move out of his life... let him get back on his feet... and get back on yours too... At first it will feel as if you dont have the strength to do so... but persevere and you'll see that, as time passes by, you'll feel more free and you'll be able to move on... And one day, another guy will come along... if you have feelings for him... please, dont let him hang on to the hopes that he'll date you... just tell him how you feel... and even if you're afraid... take a leap of faith!... Dont let fear stop you from having a great loving relationship... Fear Stops Everything!... Now chin up, be strong and move on... for your own sake... and especially for his... Good Luck! Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Guys...wondering about meaning of lots of kissing?? Posted: 8/17/2008 9:24:41 PM
Interesting the "eyes" part when it comes to the interesting and not interesting women... I personally like to have my eyes close to feel everything... and I certainly dont like having my mate looking at me while we're kissing lolol... Guess it's different strokes for different folks... nonetheless very interesting to see the angle that it has taken... lol... tx for that insight Born... ;)~ Sly

SlySkyS

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I want to ride on a motorcycle! Posted: 8/17/2008 6:08:50 PM
@ Karrpilot lol if you wanna give the OP a ride in a private plane... lol why dont you tell her straight out instead of trying to be subtle lolol :)~ Oh! Sorry I forgot... you might be the shy type... lol I'm gonna help you then lolol... ***** ATTENTION OP *** Karrpilot would like to invite you to take a ride in a private plane with him... you wont have to touch him - you can stand still - lol and you dont have to wear any special gear for that... and as another poster said... it's much safer lol... *************************** P.S: You can do both... lol... Enjoy the rides lolol Sly

SlySkyS

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Guys...wondering about meaning of lots of kissing?? Posted: 8/17/2008 5:58:24 PM
;) salut mon cher lol!! Tous dames adores embrasser! Tu veux dire "salut ma chère" lol ;) Oui c'est possible que toutes les femmes aiment embrasser... certaines plus que d'autres hahahahahaha ;) Ok so let's move on with what other men have to say shall we :)~ Sly

SlySkyS

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Guys...wondering about meaning of lots of kissing?? Posted: 8/17/2008 5:47:53 PM
@ Born Too bad I'm not a cougar hahahahahahaha... Parce que j'adore embrasser!!! :)~ Ahhhh... la jeunesse lolol... :)~ Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Activity Partners? Posted: 8/17/2008 5:29:48 PM
lolol... I must have my mind deep in the gutter then lolol coz, for me, activity partner has a sexual connotation to it... IMHO lol... :)~ Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Is she bi/lesbian? Posted: 8/17/2008 4:01:53 PM
woow... you're good OP!!! it does have a meaning... the "kitty" stands for "p*ssy" and the 2 intertwined flowers represents 2 women sharing their deep love for one another... ARE YOU FOR REAL!?!??!?!?!?!?! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA My goodness!!!! lololol... I cant believe what I just read lololool... Now let's be serious for a minute... you like that woman... does it really matter to you if she did or not have any lesbian affair/relationship in the past ??? You have to remember that before you came along, she already existed and that also means that she dated other ppl... You have a past too... should she be concerned about your past sexual life too!?!?!? lolol... If she starts behaving like you, she might want to start discriminating against you based on some stuff that you might've done with somebody else from your past... lololol... Get real man!!! lolol... if you like her... then respect the fact that there might be things that she's not ready to tell you... probably coz 1) she likes you... and 2) the stick stuck up your @$$ makes her uncomfortable and shows her that you dont accept her for who she is right now (not the "her" from the past!!! the "her" at the present moment)... it shows her that you're judging her... Who likes to be judge huh!?... Besides that, you should remember that her past experiences help mold her character and personality that she has now... that character/personality that you like so much... Just give her space... let her be comfortable... and remember that the day she decides to open up to you... dont judge her... coz she might just turn around and judge you! for your narrow mindedness and for the stick you have up your @$$... lolol... Good Luck to you... and stop being homophobe... lolol.... Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Kinky at what stage should you tell? Posted: 8/17/2008 12:00:19 PM
You should talk about it when (and if) you feel comfortable doing so... The best thing is to know right away, in the beginning, if the person's compatible with you... like that you dont loose your time on somebody who isnt... And it's not true that women dont think about sex coz we're "ladies" hahahahahaha... women do think about sex and some more than others... depending how open-minded they are... and other times... how "prude" they are lolol... and if one tells you that they dont think about it... they're lying... it's part of human nature to have desires and want to fulfill them... there's no shame in that at all... You could even mention it in your profile... that way the ppl who are interested will drop you a line and the ones that arent, will stay away... So dont be shy about it... bring the convo to it when you'll feel comfy... and dont mind if you see that some arent open to talk about it... it's normal... most ppl are not comfy to talk about it so early in the convo... but like I say... ppl have a tendency to eliminate themselves until you're left with the right match for you... Good Luck and Enjoy your sexuality :)~ Sly

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Girls going COMMANDO Posted: 8/16/2008 11:41:52 PM
On the commandos site, it seems half the testimonials are from equestrian riders. Nice one!!!

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Girls going COMMANDO Posted: 8/16/2008 9:02:53 PM
** ... sitting here in front of the computer ... no wait ... A$$ isn't covered ... So isnt mine hahahaha... thong and tank top...

SlySkyS

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Is he trying to blow me off? Posted: 8/16/2008 8:55:09 PM
I think he already did... Sorry about that... Chin up and Smile... coz there's Plenty Of Fishes in the sea... Good Luck to ya... Sly

slyskys

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

delayed interest = cold sholder? Posted: 8/13/2008 11:24:31 PM
Once your health is better, you wont be under a doctor's supervision anymore and that's when those health care rules wont apply to her no more... So get better :) and then go ask her out... I think it's pretty romantic... and you never know what will happen... Love has no boundaries and no man-made rules could ever stop it... Go get her tiger! :)~ And keep us posted please... :)~ Sly

slyskys

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Msg: 48 (view)

Do women understand how trivial the Olympics are? Espeically with a BSOD... Posted: 8/13/2008 11:54:12 AM
lol yeah... I'm an IT so I was giggling lol... a lot when I saw that lol... I just really love BSOD lol... they always appear when you least expected and when you really wished everything would go smoothly lol... Just LOVE! artificial intelligence lolol :)~ Sly

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Msg: 46 (view)

Do women understand how trivial the Olympics are? Espeically with a BSOD... Posted: 8/13/2008 11:27:12 AM
lol Well, talking Olympics... I just received a link, from my boss, about it... Seems that you can see BSOD (Blue Screen Of Death) at the Olympics too lol... http://gizmodo.com/5035456/blue-screen-of-death-strikes-birds-nest-during-opening-ceremonies-torch-lighting Enjoy the Olympics lol... :)~ Sly

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Msg: 3 (view)

IM, Do Women Hate It Posted: 8/13/2008 12:11:40 AM
I dont like having an IM from a total stranger pop up in my screen... I rather have an email sent to me first... just to start getting to know each other and then, when we'll both feel we'd like to IM each other... then so be it... But getting an IM without any introduction at all makes me feel like my space is being invaded... and the worst part is that if I refuse the IM... some men dont get the message and send a request over and over in the hopes that I'm gonna change my mind... lolol yeah I'll change my mind alright... I'll accept it just to be able to click on that wonderful "block" button lolol :)~ Sly

slyskys

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Msg: 6 (view)

Friends after a relationship? Posted: 8/12/2008 11:27:36 PM
I dated one of my ex's for 5 years and it's been almost 2 years since I broke up with him... nonetheless we remain very good friends no matter what... The thing is that you need to guard your heart coz if you're gonna be friends with her you gotta prepare yourself mentally to the fact that you'll probably see her with her ex, kiss and hold him... are you able to stand there and witness that as a friend ? A bit of distance, in terms of not talking about relationships (hers or yours) with her for a while, might help... take it slow and go with the flow... coz there's not need for you to get badly hurt in the process of having that relationship become a friendship... Good Luck! :)~ Sly

slyskys

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Msg: 12 (view)

What does that weird behavior mean? Posted: 8/12/2008 5:20:29 PM
@ eng_bimmer Thanx alot, but you know what, sometimes she really break my heart with this creepy odd behavior then couple of days & try to fix up the thing. Well, if that's the case... here's my advice to you: Never make a decision based on what a somebody else wants... What do you need? if the relationship's "status" doesnt feel right to you... talk to her about it and let her know how it makes you feel... she loves you... then she'll probably feel compelled to make a stand... but seeing how the situation is right now... I'm pretty sure you'll have to put your foot down... the sad part in all this is that no matter what's happening, she's not standing on her own two feet... she's letting others decide for her and she's going along with it coz she fears the consequences... Just be straightforward with her... tell her that you dont want to only be "friends" and that the relationship you share is deeper than that and that standing on her feet wont kill her... it will only make her stronger... If the relationship is not like you want it to be... YOU also have the free will to chose to stand on your own two feet... you have many options to choose from... so choose wisely... You have a say in it even though it sometimes feels like you dont... It only takes ONE partner to change the synergy of the relationship... :)~ (action reaction) lol... Not everything is as it seems... sometimes you need to dig deeper... So roll up your sleeves to be able to make a decision based on facts and NOT on assumptions... Smile and Chin Up ! :)~ There's always a light at the end of the tunnel... ;)~ Sly

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Msg: 4 (view)

Do women understand how trivial the Olympics are? Posted: 8/12/2008 2:28:25 PM
lol I stopped watching the Olympics many years ago lol... :)~ Sly

slyskys

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Msg: 8 (view)

What does that weird behavior mean? Posted: 8/12/2008 2:27:06 PM
I agree with what "my.dogs.your.tractor" said: my guess would be that her calling things "just friends" is the psychological tactic she has used to side-step the issue of her family's disapproval and still see you. unless she can ultimately discount their control on her personal life, or change their minds about it, or convert you to their religion, it probably won't change. Saying that she's only your friend will also allow her (in her mind) to tell her family that and not feel as if she's lying. At one point, she'll have to decide to stand up for herself (in regards to her family and brush them off the issue) or to simply let go of the relationship in order to follow her family's want... Just enjoy while it lasts... you never know what the future holds... she might one day be strong enough to stand on her own two feet and decide to be with you coz you make her happy instead of going with what her family wants and be miserable... Good Luck to you! :)~ Sly

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Msg: 3 (view)

What do you think I should do here? Posted: 8/12/2008 12:07:19 PM
IMHO I dont think she's interested in you the same way that you're interested in her... and I think you should see her as a friend only... and not expect the relationship to pass that point... She doesnt seem that into you at all... Good Luck with your fishing Sly

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Msg: 6 (view)

Should a guy list red flags in his profile? Posted: 8/12/2008 9:20:14 AM
You should ask yourself if you would date the women who's profiles you quoted. The conclusion you come to is your answer. I was thinking exactly the same thing! :)~ Sly

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Msg: 61 (view)

Flirting at the gym? Posted: 8/12/2008 8:11:02 AM
I hate... but HATE!!! when men try to flirt with me at the gym! I'm there to train... not to find a FF (FWB) nor a mate!... and I certainly dont appreciate to be looked at as if I was a piece of meat!... And if I needed to be spotted... I'd bring a friend to be my gym buddy! I for sure wouldnt turn to a man at the gym to help me... plans for him to get the wrong idea and think that the door is open for him to flirt with me!... Training is actually serious stuff for me and I really dont want some testosterone bloated, soldier standing man to even look at me at the gym! lol Just leave us alone there... if you want some piece of meat... go to the meat market!... lol Sly

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Msg: 39 (view)

Just Admit That You Are Wrong Posted: 8/12/2008 7:41:44 AM
@ Rambling Nose Oh and I should add, the minute you start quoting scripture (out of context I might add) toward your own ends, you are treading on VERY dangerous ground. lol Oh come on!!! lol... dont tell him that lol... I was just getting ready for that "delicious" moment when he was going to... fall... lolol

slyskys

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Msg: 34 (view)

Just Admit That You Are Wrong Posted: 8/12/2008 5:53:21 AM
@ Love=Insanity Proverbs 8: 12-14 I, wisdom, dwell together with prudence; I possess knowledge and discretion. To fear the LORD is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. Counsel and sound judgment are mine; I have understanding and power. Proverbs 11:1-3 The LORD abhors dishonest scales, but accurate weights are his delight. When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity. Should I understand that you're "assuming" something with what I said ? lol Should I feel that those quotes are directed at me? lolol... Well if that's your intent my dear... just know that it's not good to "assume" anything about somebody... lol... Now... should I say to YOU: "Just admit that you are wrong" !? lololol... I really dont think the Lord likes it when you assume coz that's when you do make mistakes... lol... BTW... you dont need to quote verses of the bible... if I want to read it... I do so... I own bibles too! lol...

slyskys

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Msg: 28 (view)

Just Admit That You Are Wrong Posted: 8/12/2008 12:24:04 AM
it's just question of maturity... mature enough to admit it... and let's face it... sometimes, there's some things that people will have difficulty admitting that they are wrong... just coz of their pride... Dont get all worked up over it lol... give it time, and the person will probably come back to you to admit his/her faults... lol... Sly

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