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ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Commonly Held Beliefs? Posted: 11/18/2009 11:57:08 PM
"we never outgrow our mothers". Never? And "revered" always? It's only true if it applies to the mothering you experienced. That sweeping generalization excludes alot of wonderful people who's very survival depended on them accepting just the opposite! Some parents really werent meant to be parents, even though they can procreate, there is no denying the damage their neglect or abuse has caused their children.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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It's still not working Posted: 11/16/2009 4:00:23 PM
You can tell a lot from a well-written photo even without a picture. Indeed! We knew what you meant, though!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

It's still not working Posted: 11/12/2009 12:47:11 PM
Not only does the mustache not flatter you ( or most men) it is really hell to kiss while feeling a sharp poke (from a closeup wirelike hair) no matter how well trimmed. I speak from experience. I had short grey hair for over a year here( ten in life) and no one replied nor wrote. I took a break, grew my hair back to (the always loved by men) shoulder length, coloured it back to my previous red ( used to be natural) and the mail came flying. I am me, long red or short grey hair. I am very limited by being middleaged and a bit picky physically, non smoker ( must be noticeably fit like me and at least my height) So what I could change, even though I preferred it for so many reasons, convenience being at the top of the list, I did! Now I have some social options with men I like in my city. Well worth the compromise, in my case. And my shortish silky grey hair did not EVER hurt to kiss! ; P Just offering some anecdotal evidence.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

AYE ! Whats uh ..whats with all the commotion!? Posted: 11/9/2009 11:33:04 AM
Yep! Silly ripped/flabby photos got to go! Had to stop and comment so I could tell DenverSky love your new main photo! ; )

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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What's the average number of responses/messages? Posted: 10/28/2009 12:36:47 PM
Msg 3 Gives you the best suggestions for where to post this. You have to re enter it in one of those forums, and ask a mod to delete this one.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

I get no responses! Posted: 10/28/2009 11:53:15 AM
HEhe thanks for the laugh HTD, Ann Margrock! ; ) Flintstones ... gotta love 'em! Thanks for the amendment UCL! Much appreciated! ; )

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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I get no responses! Posted: 10/28/2009 11:43:49 AM
Females, age 35-45, with brown or blonde hair: 474 Males, age 35-45, with brown or blonde hair: 496 Pretty even distribution. This is an outrage! Why do they include NO REDHEADS? And ... why do they include hair colour at all? Surely only the gender is needed to satisfy the question. OT: I hadn't noticed the gun pic before! I agree that it really should go, especially in Canada, it will offend more of your prospects than interest them. Now if you were looking for a guy ... 'nuther story!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

I get no responses! Posted: 10/28/2009 10:16:16 AM
Ok! That's it! I am getting myself to NY asap! lol

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Analyse this! Do your worst! I'm ready for it... lol Posted: 10/28/2009 7:50:25 AM
Rant rant rant rant! Do we not live in a democratic society my dear friend. Do I not have the free right to write what I like? No ... actually at this privately owned and run site you do not have the right to troll and flame as you have been for a few days. READ THE RULES! I asked you to stop yesterday and yet you continue. Who is it exactly, that is a loser and does not have a life? Those that are trying to improve themselves and those trying to help them or those that dive bomb every thread they can with inane put downs which have nothing to contribute to the topic at hand? The moderators will decide, as they always do. It's just matter of time before you will disappear, without any co operation from you, if you do not stop this ridiculous, counterproductive posting.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

I get no responses! Posted: 10/27/2009 7:07:09 PM
Lookit all the Canucks in this thread! Freakin, ey!!! lol

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Are women with breast augmentation cheating with false advertising? Posted: 10/27/2009 2:58:40 PM
Msg 105 Clarification is labelled drama to you? Of course anyone is entitled to post and I didn't say otherwise. Such a sarcastic retort seems far more "drama" than anything I posted. So, let's just move on, K?

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 105 (view)

Are women with breast augmentation cheating with false advertising? Posted: 10/27/2009 2:38:18 PM
The original questions was also framed with reference to advertising. I already answered the original question very early on in this thread! I was specifically addressing the incomplete/inaccurate info in the post above me (based on some pretty extensive exposure to women with implants that most do not have, btw) and clearly "^^^^" indicated I was posting to that message.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Analyse this! Do your worst! I'm ready for it... lol Posted: 10/27/2009 2:22:54 PM
Well! All I can say is I wish you were ten years older, or I were ten years younger, and we both lived on the same side of the planet because YOU and your profile rock, in my eyes! Sure 38/52 isn't THAT horrible to me or anyone. But, 48/62 sure would be! Edit to add ... This site and dating online in general is a very vanilla culture. Count on not getting many replies for all kinds of good reasons. Creative often reads "eccentric" that's what I like the most about your profile. Most won't. So, you do the searching by reading profiles by women with the same interests, in your area, that are attractive to you. Then YOU do the writing. It's the only way. Keep it short and personalized (mention something in the lady's profile) and ask a question about it, or anything that feels right, so she has something specific to answer with and hence, reply! Best of luck!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Many check my profile yet no Response Posted: 10/27/2009 1:48:44 PM
Wow! I can't believe no one has mentioned this, but your fifth photo with the smile and yes, a tat showing below your short sleeve should be your main profile pic ASAP! YOU are freaking gorgeous, imo. What a movie star smile! As you say you want guys who really dig a woman with tats because yours are large and it's ridiculous to hide them. But, hide that 1000 watt smile? Never! Besides you are way too far away in your main pic for anyone to have any clue what you look like in a thumbnail search. Do keep it for your body shot, it's fine.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

Profile review please! Posted: 10/27/2009 12:53:02 PM
You are very welcome! Looks good! ; )

ritawayward

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Profile review please! Posted: 10/27/2009 12:51:30 PM
Listen Trixie dear! When you have no profile advice to give here it is YOU that is stalking! and trolling. Please stop.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Profile review please! Posted: 10/27/2009 12:47:17 PM
Change your main pic to the third one in the scarf. It's not very sharp(focus) so take more in that pose as soon as you can! The one you have now distorts the size of your forehead (and the shine is highlighting what looks like skin issues) to unusually big and since you have tipped your chin down, completely eliminates the impression that you have a chin or neck! You look quite appealing in that scarf pic. If it comes off too dark in the thumbnail version use a simple pc included program to lighten it. Prevailing wisdom here states that wide toothy grins are the only best way to go for main photos. I have found if you aren't comfortable with that a pleasant expression, no teeth or smile really, can really work better than a tough, scowl, sad or quirky face (like the one you are using now).

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Are women with breast augmentation cheating with false advertising? Posted: 10/27/2009 12:13:01 PM
^^^^ Actually, that is far from ALL true. When very skinny girls are greedy and want much bigger breasts than their body and skin can accomodate, what you described, is how they look! It is awful, and I don't get it. However, there are very many less greedy women who had little more than nipples well into adulthood(or a mastectomy) and got smaller/average sizes to enjoy having adult clothes fit for the first time and to stop feeling like they look 12! Those ones you aren't going to notice as fake, as they look very real. They just will never FEEL real!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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I get no responses! Posted: 10/27/2009 11:59:58 AM
Hey schiz! You live in Kitsilano mebbe? lol, good play on words, if you do! Change your main pic(asap!) to the seventh one in your gallery labeled "dressy", not because you are dressed up but because you look much more handsome in it. Hats hide too much and yours is casting a shadow on your "almost closed eyes" your expression, on that one, isn't doing you any favours either, whereas the one I suggested is definitely your best look. Best of Luck!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Whats wrong with this profile anyone? Posted: 10/27/2009 11:40:18 AM
It's rare that I find a need to say this but, pull back on the pics! Your main photo and a few others are TOO close up! That distorts your features and isn't doing you any favours, when you are a decent looking guy, The one in glasses with a full smile is better for the smile and for the fact that it includes a neck and shoulders! lol IF you prefer not to have your searchable main pic with glasses take another just like it without and I would bet on a change in your success, here. Great eyes!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Revist after a few months Posted: 10/27/2009 11:34:26 AM
Your face is not close up in any of your photos. Close up means head and shoulders only or slightly more. Preferably not cropped from a long shot ( the ones you have now) as blowing them up from that far away will make them fuzzy and even more difficult to determine what you look like, especially in thumbnail searches. You have a great smile. Maximize that gift and take a new pic, or use a photo you already have, close up, as described above. I'll leave the text part of your profile to those who enjoy working with that.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Looking for Female input Posted: 10/27/2009 11:28:16 AM
I'm pretty sure you already have a profile review thread here and that's the one you need to pull up and ask for advice, again. You did get plenty of good advice last time, if you don't have an identical twin. If you do ... my apologies and carry on.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Is my profile broken? Posted: 10/27/2009 10:57:25 AM
My post had nothing to do with worry! Jeesh! It did comment on the volume of off topic chat here and that is the only thing worth considering, imo. You have ignored the gist of what I was saying, that THAT can and does keep people from returning. Especially if it's not about them! lol

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Am I really not that interesting? Posted: 10/27/2009 10:51:53 AM
I am not your honey, nor am I willing to be anyone elses. I have never addressed you in any other thread so using the term "stalking" is totally off base, a very nasty slur and uncalled for. Calling you on your Sh*t , once, since it's all over the threads in this forum, YES, stalker, never!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Am I really not that interesting? Posted: 10/27/2009 10:26:17 AM
This is a big improvement on the "just take your shirt off the chics love it" comment that filled your above post a moment ago! Thought better of it? Not enough to keep your shirt on! lol

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Is my profile broken? Posted: 10/27/2009 10:22:11 AM
Well... considering there are 25 messages and only four with profile advice that basically give it up to inane off topic chat after message 7. I can see that he doesn't have much advice to change with and even less reason to come back and follow up!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 110 (view)

The 3 date rule Posted: 10/27/2009 9:36:22 AM
Well there's your difference! I am talking about WOMEN, you are referring to girls. If it's just semantics, fine. But, I doubt it. And ... at 23 you are talking about a generation who routinely "hooks up" after a couple of hours( I am not assuming this I have a 21 year old son with tons of friends who all operate, or want to, similarly.) You also are speaking from the perspective of someone who has five maybe eight years of sexual experience! I am speaking from several decades of experience. The simple passage of great lengths of time and many events does add to your awareness and knowlege if you keep your eyes and ears open, which I have. Two hours? That's all about the physical. I was not referring to just the physical "rightness" of something and thought I put the effort into my post to be clear about that! After I know I am attracted to the person, for a potential relationship to blossom, I need to let substantial time pass so any "front" to impress me is given the opportunity to subside and "true colours" tend to leak out.( and they invariably do, good or bad!) If I bond myself with the emotional glue that sex instantly produces, for me, and then the true colours rear their ugly head. It is much messier and difficult to correct that error! Some people STAY miserable, in relationships, started just that way! AND ... they love to say, "but, the sex is still so great"! lol Big Deal! If the other twenty hours of your day with them bites the big one!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

Am I really not that interesting? Posted: 10/27/2009 9:14:22 AM
In answer to your original question. "Am I really not that interesting"? YES! You ARE really not that interesting. 'nuf said.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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The 3 date rule Posted: 10/27/2009 9:00:12 AM
As for me I have no different opinion of a woman if she sleeps with you on any particular date even the first, it seems to be something the female tribe came up with. I think that is incorrect. Women may have defined it and named it but, in my experience many men ( those who are looking for more than sex that is) established it with their reaction to those who sleep with them on the first date or even meet. Not once has any of my past gf's ( way past ... as in the early eighties b4 aids changed timing for most) or myself slept with someone on the first date, given a chance for a second date. In many cases, the sex was actually amazing, so it wasn't that. Though in twisted insecure minds,maybe it was a part of it. "Yikes she had mind boggling good sex with me and we just met, must do that with ALL the guys, pass"! Ya, I sound like my mother ( funny I never USED to, lol) but I base it on the behaviours of men I know, NOT a bunch of words that include a number of dates. I find it hilarious that so many here think a third date is waiting long enough to know a person. How much time elapses between dates? How much is revealed about each other ( other than their physicality). This varies greatly and should matter much more than a number placed on social outings. I realize I was the target of third date thinking from someone I dated, only three times, over the course of TWO years! We had our first meet and knew we were both attracted but only said so later while talking online. Then we talked the whole winter. We went to a live performance in the Spring for our first date and that ended with a very inviting kiss. We talked some more and more and more, while HE played the field and I knew it, then finally had our second date in the early fall with a full blown dinner out and a drive and park at the beach( my suggestion ). The third date was a few weeks later ( I guess the submarine races at the beach speeded up the motivation for him to see me again). The third date was at his place. I brought a movie (Gia,with Angelina Jolie, oh oh) and he cooked an incredible "surf and turf" dinner. Half way through the movie, during a fairly romantic( as opposed to lusty) kiss, he jumped me. He's a big guy and a labourer with the power in his arms to prove it. I am in my fifties and so is he. So two years of talking to death with him, meeting his friends and asking him directly about sexual expectations went for naught. I didn't have sex with him, per se, but made a compromise to diffuse the heat ( and perceived danger) which I did not want to do and left with him all gushy and affectionate during the ride home. I never heard from him again. Even though he had made arrangements to get a small piece of essential camera equipment online (with my money). I contacted him a couple of times about that and only that (since he had blown it in my eyes) and never received a response. So three dates over three days or over two years, doesn't seem to make a difference to plenty of men. Still does to me.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 130 (view)

Is a guy that cooks so rare? Posted: 10/26/2009 5:37:32 PM
Dodo bird? Bah! I don't know one woman anywhere, all my life, that doesn't cook or clean daily, simply for mere survival, but often because, (perish the thought, in my case) they take pride in it and enjoy it! So, if you have only distant memories of women cooking and cleaning Walts, you ARE picking the wrong women! If that's what you want. Cooking and cleaning that is, not the wrong women! lol

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Am I really not that interesting? Posted: 10/26/2009 4:19:05 PM
People generally don't "try" to be defensive, they just are, or come off that way. It's important info and you are defending again! No one responded about the defensiveness because they heard you saying you wouldn't change your profile or take the advice. I responded to it because your answers said it for you! You have clarified, but sure sounds like defending to me, and thou doth protest too much. I wrote a really careful, thoughtful post advising you to absorb and consider before rejecting or explaining why certain advice doesn't work for you. You seemed to have ignored all that with this last speedy rebutal ( no time to absorb when you are all over replying first!) and that just reinforces the take I pointed out about you in my first message. It's info worth considering, that is all, arguing back and forth, or trying to, is a waste of precious time that you could be learning something new about how to do things and applying it. If the results aren' t there, go right back to doing it all "your way" and listening that way too.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Profile Review please Posted: 10/26/2009 4:02:17 PM
Your main pic is much too far away and has far too much stuff all around you in the background. Your facial expression is no where near as approachable as some of your other photos, so I suggest you get rid of it completely as it does nothing for you as a gallery pic either. I can tell that in most light and most angles you are very photogenic. So don't cop out with the "that's just how I look in pics". Smile and laugh, close up, for some new ones and then pick one and crop it to head and shoulders and post it for your main photo. THAT alone will change your results dramatically. It's solid advice, that you nix the photo with the girl AND the group photo. You mentioned showing that "you have a life" already (twice in this thread) and it has very few replies, yet. This sounds like it is more important to you to prove that, than suceeding and meeting the women you would like to. You can show that you have a life by getting friends to photograph you living one and by talking about it in your profile! You think that's what the photos you have show, but really , they come off as showing off AND goofing around. Fine, but that is something that definitely comes off better in person, at any age, than in photos.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Am I really not that interesting? Posted: 10/26/2009 3:16:34 PM
I just want to weigh in that " Something's fishy" and "Hey ladies"(especially) is instantly smarmy to me and anyone of ANY age I know. It's seen all over the net (no fish named dating sites as well) and is so often done that it's the biggest way anyone can shoot themselves in the foot in regard to getting people past that to read a profile and respond to it. At the moment the woman is reading, SHE is the only one (to her) reading your profile and is much more receptive if that concept is not stepped on with a plural greeting that completely elimates that impression. This is wise , when describing who you would like to meet. It is infinitely better to say, I like a woman who ..., rather than I like women who ... . Small distinction to you, perhaps, not so for any woman with dignity and respect for who she is and what she has to offer. You do, like many attractive young men here, with red flags in their profiles that can be solved, sound very defensive in your last reply to advice here. If you don't want to take advice, ignore it, no need to answer to each point defending why you won't change something. That too, happens way to often here and seems very revealing. Listen, absorb and reflect on the information given, before deciding what you will and will not change. Then, take what you will and leave the rest. Otherwise, you really are getting in the way of your own success here.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Advice needed on my profile Posted: 10/25/2009 11:42:05 AM
As mentioned directly above, 10 - 15 interests is an appropriate, not too overwhelming to the reader, amount of interests to list. In my mind, 12 is perfect because it fits so nicely into the space! ; ) However, you don't want to miss mentioning some that really matter JUST because of appearance. You are doing very well with the advice you have been given. Best of luck!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

43 y/o male needing a make over Posted: 10/24/2009 2:24:41 PM
I'd rethink the name "scooter". It works for someone under 12 in a cartoon or children's series, but even as humour, it doesn't work for a grown man, who is well into adulthood. If it's something you are/were called it's still not a good enough reason to shoot yourself in the foot before anyone even clicks on your profile. Jeesh! We've got a Scooter AND a Sparky all looking for reviews in one day. Just makes you sound like puppies or boys with slingshots hanging out of the back pocket of your overalls. lol The rest of the suggestions, by others, are well worth doing!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Tell me i'm onto something here! Honest reviews please. Posted: 10/24/2009 2:14:25 PM
So all opinions will be greatly appreciated and perhaps i will get a couple new ideas. The above sentiment seems to be in direct opposition to this one This is supposed to be hinting that i also carry this type of personality. Each word listed can be used to describe ones self, maybe people just need to expand the mind more and read between the lines. It seems to be working. It's sarcastic and yes, you have a good vocabulary and yes, I know what each word means. But, that is rare, around these parts, so if you want to eliminate anyone who doesnt know what some of them mean or does but doesn't meet those descriptors all the way (or hates lists, which is the most common around here) fine, keep them all! If, as you say, it's working for you. That does put into question why you are asking for a review, though. Hinting is a loser's game just like assuming. Nothing indicates you offer the same. Your comment that "maybe people just need to expand the mind more" here, is condescending and comes off as holier than thou. Is that how your email will be if someone actually writes and asks what some of the list means and why it is necessary?

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Rate My Thread? thanks............. Posted: 10/24/2009 1:52:47 PM
Another profile pic with a hat and sunglasses! Take em off, otherwise we have no clue what you look like and that seems like what you want, which is not a good start. Check other guys profiles. You are going to see a slew of them with pics just like yours. Many of them are hiding their identity for all kinds of unsavoury reasons. If you aren't, get one close up with a smile if you can and an upbeat look if you just won't smile. That would be a good start. Chances are, with that pic, your profile is passed over and not read as much as it would be with a pic that shows what YOU look like, so what's in your profile is not that important, till the pic changes.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Tell me i'm onto something here! Honest reviews please. Posted: 10/24/2009 1:45:01 PM
And fifty of those "must haves" to boot! Two for each letter of the alphabet, novel, but nothing to do with appealing to women through the written word. Or words in your case, lol. Considering we can't even see your eyes it's unlikely that women will read that list or scroll all the way down to the bottom of your profile to see that you amend it by saying "one or two will do".

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Should I put this in my profile? Posted: 10/24/2009 1:35:58 PM
It's a sarcasm riddled, preachy, train wreck right from the start. Based on your profile review request post here and your profile I'd say you have an agenda, perhaps based on SOME negative experience/s, that makes tips on improving your profile, premature, to say the least. You'll date someone up to 40 but call anyone 45 or over Gramma? That's just one example.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

what am I doing wrong? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:01:58 PM
That Mr Darcy thing really rules out anyone who doesn't know who he is. Men like to win and that immediately puts them on the losing end if they don't know (they won't get the bonus points and may go away crying, lol) As a headline ... ok,(if you insist) they can use it as a conversation starter and ask who he is. I missed the first version of your profile (tried but it was gone). This one is a little dry and missing personality, as HTD mentions.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Profile Review For JAWSOME DUDE (Me) Posted: 10/24/2009 11:46:27 AM
Lists suck. Chics hate em. And yep, you ARE a tad blind. It always seems to happen that the defensive edgy ones go all black and white on sincere critques by giving ridiculously exaggerated examples of the "Vanilla" they don't want to be or do to get women. No need to be that glaringly mainstream. You certainly aren't! But, there is a happy medium where you don't give the impression that anyone reading is worth about as much as shit on your shoes!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

profile reveiw please Posted: 10/24/2009 11:24:28 AM
Smile without your teeth showing, I feel your pain, and it can be done! I should know!

ritawayward

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Msg: 35 (view)

3 years... Posted: 10/24/2009 11:07:04 AM
Wow! Great smile on the new pic you have chosen! I know you won't stop there, but good start!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 24 (view)

what am I doing wrong? Posted: 10/24/2009 9:25:13 AM
I don't think Mel's look is anymore "staring" than yours is, Fred! You have big beautiful eyes and they are very noticeable. That is a good thing, imo. They don't even close up when you smile wide, lucky one! When the content of your profile returns I will take a look and see what's up.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Hmmmm Posted: 10/24/2009 9:21:10 AM
and these are the threads so many of the pof vets pine over for their "entertainment" value!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

Just updated my Profile. What does everyone think? Posted: 10/24/2009 9:17:11 AM
Hehe! Mel ... you fit in just beautifully here! Welcome.

ritawayward

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Msg: 17 (view)

3 years... Posted: 10/24/2009 8:40:41 AM
^^^^ Indeed! I have been to NYC recently and often. Only a certain subsection of young men wear the type of clothes you are defending. If you want to stubbornly limit yourself right out of the market don't say you need advice and are not happy with what your profile is reaping right now. I did not say suit or suit and tie.I said plain and classic. A shirt, not patterned, dark or light, t or dress shirt, is the best choice, visually, no matter your age. Your face should be so close up in your main profile pic that you will only see head and shoulders at most. But that bit you do see, makes a difference. If its patterned it translates poorly to this medium. In person, as Tommy said, it's all good.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

3 years... Posted: 10/24/2009 8:06:17 AM
Well that's good that you are really going to listen to some of the advice, put some effort into it and write a better profile! Also, please get a different main picture and get rid of the one you have entirely. You are too far away and that patterned shirt/jacket is really awful, no matter what your age! Something plain and classic will focus the viewer on you and not your clothing choice. Your new name, comes off really full of yourself. It's like saying "perfectforyou" let the reader decide how perfect you are to be a candidate for them!

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

review please???? what am i doing wrong what is wrong with me should i just goive up 27 male Posted: 10/24/2009 4:46:34 AM
Jeesh! Tell how you really feel HTD! lol The smoking really is an issue. In your case, still in your twenties, it has yellowed your teeth substantially and that as well as the smell of it is a big turn off to many women of every type. Yes, better pictures. Yours are out of focus, blurry, fuzzy, etc. But, not until you invest some time and money on improving the appearance of your teeth. Otherwise, clearer photos will just make that problem stand out even more. My remark is intended to aid in your success with women, here or anywhere. Not to make you feel uncomfortable or bad about yourself.

ritawayward

Joined: 4/17/2007

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Is CPP Childrens benifits considered child support? Posted: 10/22/2009 8:48:27 AM
least 90,000$ a year that it takes in this province raise a child and take care of you If it cost you that much you are spending way too much money and not enough time with your child! I did it on 24, 000$ a year ( some years much less, no subsidies or handouts) and raised a son who was consistantly on the honour roll (with distinction) throughout high school and who became an accomplished musician. He has full time work that advances him based on his performance and has done so since high school. Aside from his day job, he composes, records and sells his own work and plays live whenever he can squeeze it in to earn an extra paycheck and some connections and experience. I have worked side by side with many women ( who due to the financial and emotional abandonment of their child by their father) have accomplished the same or similar on an equal amount.

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