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 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
respectfully discouraging mr.wrong?
Posted: 5/3/2007 6:18:51 PM
Good advice, Coruja. I'd just like to reinforce that most guys understand and appreciate directness the most. What girls often do for the sake of sparing feelings or avoiding confrontation, guys see as playing games or leading them on. If his attention is getting a little suffocating, I think a polite but firm "No, thank you" when he offers his help on something is in order, and enough of those might get him the message before he actually asks you out or whatever. But Coruja's right, just saying "I don't like you that way, you know" when he hasn't openly said he's interested could be extremely awkward for both of you. But, in general, directness is always best with men, because we're kind of dense when it comes to all the little hints and cues that women use to communicate.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Do guys test a woman?
Posted: 5/3/2007 6:03:33 PM
I think what you're experiencing is a guy who's read one of those "how to get girls" books and is playing games. He may be a nice guy underneath, and read one of those things because he kept getting rejected when he failed girls' tests (called back too soon, called too often, got too attached too quickly, etc.) Or, he may be a dog looking to score.

That kind of thing doesn't come naturally to most guys, but some learn the behavior through those self-help for losers books, and a few just act like that naturally because they're jerks. I don't do it. If a girl isn't interested in getting to know me without playing games, then I don't want her. I do have to admit, though, that a lot of women seem to respond better to that sort of thing than to directness and honesty. You know, if a guy emails too many times then he's "desperate" and if he shows too much interest too quickly then he's "creepy". I guess game-playing comes from both sides of the street.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 645 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 5/2/2007 9:53:49 PM

Keep that feministic crap as far away from me as possible. Don't want it, don't believe it. Won't do it.

I'm old school...a woman's place is at home serving her man.

*don't bother with the flack ladies, I am who I am and not about to change for anyone*




Now, feminists, try to tell us how this woman is a downtrodden, weak-willed doormat. Looks to me like she's got plenty of spirit, and is not afraid to stand up for what she believes. It also appears that she is living proof that feminists habitually harass women with these views, because their views are "incorrect". So much for being about "women's choices".


I think it depends on how one defines "feminism".
A true feminist is not a man hating , controlling , bra burning ****!
She is a woman who believes in Equality for all men and women..equal opportunity and equal rights in all aspects of life.


No, I think it's been pretty well evidenced here that a true feminist is not that at all. Although some try to keep the label because they see it as a positive, by feminists' own definition, they are not really feminists. Witness earlier posts about feminists like Wendy McElroy et al. If you speak against the PC policies of the core feminists, then you are excluded from the club. Kind of reminds me of a religion. Speak heresy and you are excommunicated.


It's truly a shame that so many feel threatened by such a possibility happening in this world.


Why is the answer to everything "You are threatened by (x)"?
"I don't agree with your politics."
"You are threatened by my beliefs."
"I disagree with your beliefs about women."
"You are threatened by strong women."
"Is that a burrito? I don't like burritos."
"You are threatened by food that comes wrapped in a tortilla."

It's like it's some kind of feminist garlic that's supposed to repel all male attacks. "You don't have to be able to debate them. Just attack their masculinity by saying that they're threatened by whatever it is with which they disagree."
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 635 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:42:56 PM
Did something get deleted?

Edit: May have had something to do with my reply to estrogen boy when he called me a racist. Told him what I would do if he called me that to my face, but not in specifics. I also made a joke about if people made certain comments about my daughters, whom I had posted about, but I think it was pretty clear that was humor. Probably what's-his-name went and cried that I was abusing him.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 622 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 5/1/2007 9:37:49 PM
I second Cedar's interest in Cubanguy's thoughts on communism and feminism.



I think that is extremely common. I agree that we need them, but try as I might, I can't bring myself to trust them.


I agree. What I usually do is try to find several studies that have come at a problem with differing methodologies, and find out all I can about the person/organization who did the work, compiled the statistics, and analyzed the data to look for possible bias or conflict of interest. For instance, it's hard to take a pharmaceutical company at its word in a study for its own drug, so I like to check independent testing done, anecdotal user accounts, etc. In fact, this is my method with all academic endeavor. I try to get as close to the original source material as possible in order to avoid the interpretive bias inherent in second and third-hand information. A well-done scholarly study in a field can be an excellent start, but it should never be taken as the final truth. University and school textbooks are just about worthless. This is the reason there's so much prejudice, ignorance, and just plain silliness going around about all of these things, as evidenced right here. People believe what they've been taught, but most of what they've been taught is garbage. I hate to steal a line from TV, but the truth is out there.



Oye..

Disagreements, differences of opinion... NOT ABUSE!


Thanks for coming in on the side of sanity.



If I let these psuedo-feminists take away the word with which I've defined my personal belief system practically since childhood, it won't stop the madness. If we retain it and act and speak and vote to promote TRUE equity - not the entitlement and superiority the betrayers lobby for - I'm convinced it will ultimately benefit all women and men.




Amen!

That sums up my feelings pretty well.


Although I disagree with you about the basic usefulness of feminism and will always regard the term with suspicion and animosity, I respect you for stating your position so clearly. This helps me to understand your exact position as well, El, and although I still disagree, I can at least see the logic in it. At least, with this type of feminism, I can disagree civilly and argue logically, rather than beating my head against a wall of nonsensical emotional ranting.

Like this, for instance:



feanor3791, just a few things id like to say to u. One is "Archie, stifle yourself".

The second is, feminists dont have to attribute male behaviour to testosterone fueled, red meat induced rage. Some men do a fine job of presenting themselves as unstable and dangerous all on their own.


I'm not even sure what this is supposed to mean, but I take it it's some type of insult. Guess I'll go cry myself to sleep.



Take Bacwardduck for example, He happened to have a different opinion than alot of other men on this thread. What did the other guys do, they berated hin and told him he needs to hand in his testicles, and showered him with all other kinds of abuse. This is typical male behaviour to try and control him. These are some of the issues men need to work on to control male violence. Its not that feminists dont care, but some of these issues need to be resolved by men themselves.


I actually ridicule backwarduck for his own good: I'm hoping to shock him out of his estrogen coma and help him regain his dignity and his manhood.

Ravincause, your view of history is ludicrous and borderline wacko. Oral tradition is only one of the avenues to study history, and is taken into account by genuine scholars. But it is certainly not among the most reliable. Ever play "pass it on" in kindergarten? If your "elders" were actually thousands of years old and could remember the events in question, then they would have a substantial claim to authority, but even then they would not be the only source to be taken seriously, because people's memories can vary significantly of the same event.



Why do you have such low self esteem?
Besides proving that you’re a bully, what’s your point?
Another bully that thinks degrading people proves his point. I am honoured you feel that way about me!
Such anger, you guys should get some counselling on anger management.


Do you honestly think you're being clever, or that your infantile attempts at amateur psychoanalytical insults are not transparent and ridiculous? And it's not even decent psychology: it's pop psychology from "I'm Ok, You're Ok". In case you're wondering why most of what you write is not getting any serious answer, it's because no one is taking you seriously, and nothing you say is worth taking the time to refute.

Dug, I think we've found the poster boy for the Omega male.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 571 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 5/1/2007 7:33:06 AM

Wow.
Lot of rage in here.


You can't reduce everything to emotion. Arguing vigorously for a cause one believes is right is not rage. But attributing any masculine behavior to male testosterone-fueled, red-meat induced rage is a common tactic used by feminists to portray men as unstable, dangerous, out-of-control beasts. I don't expect those of you who are entirely emotion-driven to understand that, for example, I am entirely calm and reasonable as I type this response. It is purely intellectual, and I have no emotional stake in it.


Many of our ancestors, actually most of them, if we go back over 5,000 years, created societies of equality of men and woman.


False. There is no historical record of any "matriarchal" society, nor of any which embraced the type of "equality" advocated by modern feminists. All of human history is characterized by the traditional (hence the term) dominant/submissive male/female social dynamic. Revisionist attempts to fabricate a mythical, pre-historical, goddess-centered matriarchy have no support in history, archeology, or anthropology. For proofs of this, look back in this thread. The closest thing to evidence they have is that a number of fertility goddess statues have been unearthed, but this is ridiculously slim evidence upon which to base an entire theoretical culture, and more likely reflects the practice of burying the fertility goddess's body in the fields to magically fertilize the crops.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 564 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/30/2007 10:53:36 PM
The debate with dreamcatcher and capegarden is turning into the classic male/female hurt feelings/misunderstanding argument.

Man: "Be reasonable."
Woman: "What do you mean, I'm incapable of reason?"
Man: "I didn't say that. Now you're just being ridiculous."
Woman: "Oh, so now I'm ridiculous, too!"
Man: "We need to stop this before it gets ugly."
Woman: "I knew it! You think I'm ugly! Is that why you've been working late? Who is she?"
Man: "Calm down and listen to what I'm saying!"
Woman: "Oh, so now I have to obey you because you're the big man?"

etc.

You ladies need to step back, calm your emotions, collect your wits, and actually pay attention to what's being said. When men talk, they usually mean exactly what they say in literal, explicit terms. There is no hidden message, no veiled insult. It's not about you. It's about your words and the position for which you are arguing. And before you continue with the "You're ignoring my statistcs and copying stuff from anti-feminist websites!" line, do some research on the logical process, argumentive reasoning, and fallacies. Also, take the time to actually follow the links we provide. Many of them are from neutral or even pro-feminist websites, and they all refer to respectible, reliable sources for the information they provide.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 562 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/30/2007 10:39:21 PM

Isn’t there a saying about small penis size being directly proportional to the need for horsepower?


Yes. And, remind me, what is it that they say about men who need to brag about their supposed sexual prowess and how much money they have in public forums?


And how many women have compliment you on this forum or e-mailed you in support of what you say?


Ummm....9, at a quick count, in the week or so I've been here. But since I don't depend on women for my self-respect I don't keep track of these things. I could've missed some.


Feminism started out as a civil rights movement and has ended up a bowel movement.


 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 525 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:01:22 PM

feanor:...Yeah right...My logic is "flawed" and my opinions are "wrong"..But the outcome is that single fathers maintain/keep custody of their children due my "flawed" logic and "wrong" opinions...The outcome is their mental health improves and their stress level goes down due to my so called "wrong" position here..My couples counseling helps keep marriages intact but, hey, that doesnt matter to you because my "logic" and opinions are still "flawed".....Those are my professional experiences as a mental health therapist with 20 years experience working with people, but that doesnt matter according to you because my experience somehow doesnt define "reality"....Now you are really talking crazy....Quit while you still have some dignity left


Translation: WWWWWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your success or lack thereof professionally has absolutely nothing to do with whether your social philosophies are correct. Red herring. How could proving myself right again and again by logical, reasoned argument have any but a positive effect on my dignity?


As we see, men that understand feminism make better lovers!

We have learned to listen and to communicate. We are empathetic to others needs. We have turned into our female intuition and have learned its better to nurture than to dominate.

We don’t blame, we take responsibility.

We have realized the way we are going is not working and we are willing to try something else.

That’s why I say; “great sex is saving the world”.

wage love capegardengirl!


Good grief. I see you followed my instructions on getting rid of your testicles. Let me further explain the loss of your man priveleges:

You may not drink beer; Zima and wine coolers only.
You may not eat pizza. If you are in a group which is ordering pizza, you must order a "big salad".
You may not watch sports, except figure skating and women's golf and tennis. You are especially enjoined never to watch the Ultimate Fighting Championship.
You may not pee standing up.
You may not hunt, fish, or own firearms.
You may not work on cars, and you may not own any car with an engine larger than four cylinders.
You may not fart, burp, or scratch in your living room. You must excuse yourself and discreetly "pass wind" in your bathroom.

Any violation of these rules will result in immediate gender reassignment surgery.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 522 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/30/2007 4:11:55 PM
Here is the basic premise of John Stuart Mill upon which he bases his argument that men and women are inherently the same:

"Hence, in regard to that most difficult question, what are the natural differences between the two sexes — a subject on which it is impossible in the present state of society to obtain complete and correct knowledge — while almost everybody dogmatises upon it, almost all neglect and make light of the only means by which any partial insight can be obtained into it. This is, an analytic study of the most important department of psychology, the laws of the influence of circumstances on character. For, however great and apparently ineradicable the moral and intellectual differences between men and women might be, the evidence of there being natural differences could only be negative. Those only could be inferred to be natural which could not possibly be artificial — the residuum, after deducting every characteristic of either sex which can admit of being explained from education or external circumstances. The profoundest knowledge of the laws of the formation of character is indispensable to entitle anyone to affirm even that there is any difference, much more what the difference is, between the two sexes considered as moral and rational beings; and since no one, as yet, has that knowledge (for there is hardly any subject which, in proportion to its importance, has been so little studied), no one is thus far entitled to any positive opinion on the subject. Conjectures are all that can at present be made; conjectures more or less probable, according as more or less authorised by such knowledge as we yet have of the laws of psychology, as applied to the formation of character." -- J.S. Mill, "The Subjugation of Women"

Basically, he is arguing from the negative here: that since, at the time of his writing, there was no scientific knowledge of the subject, that one opinion could not be held with any certainty over the other. Unfortunately, his premise was taken as gospel and irrefutable and no one ever bothered to go back and apply the science which didn't exist in J.S. Mill's time to his supposition in order to prove or refute it. It simply became a "fact" and was taken for granted by all writers coming after him who based their work upon his theories. This is the same thing that happened, as demonstrated above, with Lenore Walker's work on domestic violence (except that she was being intentionally dishonest, while he was genuinely working from a lack of information).

So, the critical mind must compare Mill's theory with what science has since uncovered about the nature of the difference between men and women. Here are some examples:

"The New Sex Scorecard" -- http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-2832.html

"Unisex brain a feminist myth" -- http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,20481760-5007146,00.html

"Males have greater G: sex differences in general mental ability" --http://cognews.com/1157772873/index_html

"THE ASSORTATIVE MATING THEORY" --http://www.edge.org/3rd_culture/baron-cohen05/baron-cohen05_index.html

"Anxiety and Depression in Women" -- http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/Anxiety/women_10.asp

These are just a few examples. There is lots more research out there showing the psychological differences between men and women. Of course, there's lots of feminist rhetoric trying to debunk this science as well, but most of it is basically more patriarchy conspiracy theory.

By the way; although some of Mill's theories were faulty because of his lack of scientific knowledge, and others were based upon bad social theory, he was right about some things. Like this:

"What women by nature cannot do, it is quite superfluous to forbid them from doing. What they can do, but not so well as the men who are their competitors, competition suffices to exclude them from; since nobody asks for protective duties and bounties in favour of women; it is only asked that the present bounties and protective duties in favour of men should be recalled."

As has been repeated here ad nauseum, modern feminism is a long way from this, its original stated intent.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 510 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/30/2007 10:32:00 AM
This is truly unbelievable. Are you completely incapable of critical thought? Men are NOT killing women in these numbers, because your statistics are NOT TRUE. Do you understand the difference between true and false? Between fact and fallacy? Apparently not, because you continue to use the numbers which have been factually disproven to justify your emotion-based opinions. Let's try it again: THE STATISTICS YOU QUOTED FROM LETSWRAP.ORG ARE NOT TRUE. THEY ARE FALSE. THEY COME FROM BIASED SOURCES AND ARE BASED UPON FAULTY METHODOLOGY. What do you not understand about this?

And here we go again with the "That's my personal experience" argument. Your personal experience does not define reality, Capegarden. No one's does. Yes, we get it: you work with men too. That doesn't change the fact that your logic is flawed and your opinions are, therefore, wrong. Yes, wrong. Believe it or not, there are such things as right and wrong, true and false, valid and invalid. And since your position is based upon false suppositions supported by invalid logic, your position is wrong.

Edit: Yes, I think you're right, Cedar. This is a waste of time. I'm going to do the research I promised on scientific gender inequality, and then I'm not sure if I'm going to continue to waste my effort here.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 507 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/30/2007 10:06:58 AM
I think u should be more ashamedof being a member of the male race. I know i would be.


And the truth comes out at last. Thanks for finally revealing your true opinion and agenda.

Did you even read Cedar's last post? It completely refutes your supposed statistics in a scholarly, supported manner. I also checked letswrap.org, and they give no source nor factual support for the numbers they claim. They are simply repeating something they've heard from somewhere else, and expecting it to be believed without question. But that doesn't matter to you, does it?

Your post about feminist "ways of knowing" was exactly correct, Cedar. They even have books and college courses on it. It's called "feminist epistemology". The truth doesn't matter; only the way the woman feels.

With every post, you feminists are proving more certainly that the old adage that women are incapable of logic has some truth to it.

And, by the way, male isn't a race, it's a sex. Our race is human. More truth revealed unintentionally in your words.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 501 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:15:54 AM
Dreamcatcher, your statistics are false, as has been repeatedly demostrated in this thread. You are simply repeating propaganda, with no sources or factual support. Those numbers undoubtedly come from some feminist source or other, and while that in itself doesn't invalidate them, they are easily invalidated by looking at other, more objective statistics. Look back through this thread to see the numbers I'm talking about.

I admire your last statement, though, and this is my position. I am advocating a return to CHIVALRY, where men love, honor, cherish, and protect women. Men who hurt women are recreant, anathema, and niederling to us.

Dug, those were excellent quotes, and precisely demonstrative of feminism's true goals. De Oppresso Liber.

I'm going to spend some time collecting support for my debunking of J.S. Mill, and will post it later today.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 486 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/29/2007 10:01:18 PM
There is unrest in the forest
There is trouble with the trees
For the maples want more sunlight
And the oaks ignore their pleas

The trouble with the maples
(And they're quite convinced they're right)
They say the oaks are just too lofty
And they grab up all the light
But the oaks can't help their feelings
If they like the way they're made
And they wonder why the maples
Can't be happy in their shade

There is trouble in the forest
And the creatures all have fled
As the maples scream 'Oppression!'
And the oaks just shake their heads

So the maples formed a union
And demanded equal rights
'The oaks are just too greedy
We will make them give us light'
Now there's no more oak oppression
For they passed a noble law
And the trees are all kept equal
By hatchet, axe and saw


"The Trees" --Rush
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 479 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:32:10 PM
2paths, you don't appear to be a feminist to me, but the best way to tell is to read through this thread and see if the descriptions of "feminist" fit what you believe. I would hazard a guess that since your profile says you are a Christian, that you are probably not, although there are some who call themselves Christian feminists. If you, as a Christian, believe in what the Bible teaches about male/female relationships (husbands are head of the house, men should be the leaders in church/society, etc.), then you are definitely not one.


The best thing for you to do is accept that it benefits her even though you may not understand why...


Here is what it all comes down to, folks. "We cannot support, justify, or adequately explain why we are right, you simply have to accept it because we know we are right. Aaaacccceeeeept it. Aaaaaaacccccccccceeeeeeeeeeeept iiiiiiiiit."

Just about all of the pro-feminist arguments on this thread boil down to this. It's like cult brainwashing; we can't understand because we are not among the chosen or the initiated. And, come to think of it, arguing with the feminists here feels exactly like trying to argue with a cult member. There's just no connection; we live in two completely separate realities.


Personally i move "towards an ecological feminine theology of nature"...

Feminism, the word, has been highjack by the male power elite to take away its power. As we see on this thread many people do not understand to concept of feminism or the fact that we are living in a male dominated reality that has made a toxic environment that is ruining the earth…

I’m attracted to feminist and people with strong beliefs and ideals of equality and nurturing the health and welfare of all the people on the planet!


Wow. I have no words. So many things I can't say without getting this thread deleted.... Turn in your testicles, backwardduck. Your man priveleges have been revoked.

What most of you cannot seem to face is that MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. J.S. Mill has been discredited by science, which has shown what those with common sense always knew: that we are different physically, mentally, and emotionally. Yes, there are shades of gray, and some women are more masculine than the norm and some men more feminine than the norm; like I said before, nothing is 100%. But these things hold true for the vast majority, and if you refuse to see this then your perception of reality is going to be permanently skewed. I'll find some links for some of these studies later; I'm too tired tonight. But if anyone does an objective and unbiased search on the internet he can find it for himself.

What almost everyone is doing is confounding equality of freedom, liberty, dignity, and opportunity with equality of function, form, and outcome. I think I can safely say that I am the most conservative/traditional on this thread, and no one, not even I, am trying to deny women equality of freedom, liberty, dignity, or opportunity. What most of us are trying to say is that feminism has been trying to force equal outcome, form, and function, and it hasn't worked. Not only has it not worked, but it has damaged society in general and men in particular.

How about an analogy? Think of a man as a sword and a woman as a knife. Neither tool is better overall; they're just both better suited to certain tasks. On a battlefield, you'd definitely rather have the sword. But when you're dressing a deer or eating your dinner, the knife is a much better choice. What feminism has done is force us to replace half the swords on the battlefield with knives, because the knives feel left out. Meanwhile, all those swords who have been pulled off the battlefield are having identity crises as they try to find a purpose, and the knives on the battlefield are stressed out and overworked because they're being pushed beyond the limits of their design.

A lot of the men on this forum are much less conservative than I am. They're not even advocating a return to traditional values; all they want is a fair chance in society again, but the feminists don't even want to allow them that. Yes, they'll pay it lip-service, but they refuse to recognize that their own philosophies and actions have caused this injustice. So, I'm going to borrow a page from the feminist book and attribute a reason to it. It is because the feminists have become accustomed to their power, and don't want to relinquish it. They can only be in power by the disenfranchisement of men, and if men take back their power it would disrupt the power structure that the feminists have spent the last 35 years or so building. So, what does this mean? It means that feminists are liars and hypocrites, and also that they are tyrants and bullies, and they must be brought down, as must all tyrants.

Liberte, egalite, fraternite.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 440 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/29/2007 1:52:02 PM
What you think is kind of irrelavent to me. I know what I believe, what I do about it, how to describe it. You know nothing about me except what I tell you about me, so trying to tell me what you think I am.. seems a little ridiculous.

Besides, I'd really appreciate not being told what I am and what I'm not by total strangers.


I was actually thinking that you were being rather reasonable, and meant that as a conciliatory statement. But you have now shown me that I was mistaken. Rhetorical question: How are your above statements logically reconciled with this one, which you made earlier?


If someone wants to re-label me to suit their interpretation of my beliefs and call me something else like humanist due to their issues with the term feminism, I can deal with that..



If I cared over much about being accepted, I wouldn't bother speaking my mind.


I'm not talking of being accepted in the social sense, but whether they would regard your position as valid and accept you as an ally.


Militant garbage is not at the core of feminist beliefs. Much of what feminism was intended as being has been twisted over the years. Just because many get it all wrong and go pretty much irrational with it, doesn't mean the rest of us got it wrong.


Saying this over and over doesn't make it true. The "militant garbage" forms the core texts and teachings of "women's studies" in universities, which are the headquarters of the feminist movement. This has been shown several times here, with references and citations. But I forgot, you don't like references and citations because:


No, you haven't. You've posted docs & links exposing bull. Goals of folks that are very far removed from actual feminism, but labelling themselves as such. Big difference.


So what you're saying here is that any supporting information which comes from a non-feminist (according to your definition of feminism) source is invalid. Doesn't that lead to just the teeniest little bit of bias? If you don't agree with it, then it's "bull" and that's the end of the debate. So much for rationality. You're right; that proves you are, in fact, a feminist.


The current dictionary data (and I posted it myself many many pages back) falls completely in line with my beliefs.


A dictionary conveys the basic meaning of a word at the time of the dictionary's publication. It does not encompass the full social implications of the word, nor is it the end-all summation of everything that the word can be used to denote. Dictionaries reflect word meanings in culture, they don't create them.


What I am saying is that while examples of what you say feminism is now.. militant, unreasonable and some just downright dumb.. as far as examples posted thus far.. I believe that the garbage being spouted by your examples are NOT feminists.. though that's their claim.


So your position here, and in several other posts, is that YOU define what feminism is. The radical feminists are not true feminists because they spout hateful nonsense that doesn't reflect the true goals of feminism, as you see it. But the conservative feminists (from whom several of us anti-feminists have quoted) are not true feminists, but really anti-feminists, because they also do not conform to your idea of feminism. Like I said before, you're like a Baptist who says that all other denominations are not really Christians because their beliefs are not exactly the same. Very narrow-minded and bigoted position, and totally indefensible.

And the "only I define what my reality is" argument doesn't work, either. That's called the relativist fallacy, and has no validity, especially when you're debating a large social movement with consequences that affect everyone in the society. To try to hold such a position is unbelievably self-centered.


As a college instructor, I can tell you why many young women don't use the label feminist because I have asked them:

1. Negative connotations from the media. They cannot discern the difference betweeen being a **** and fighting/wanting equal rights.


Absolute nonsense. The media is completely, 100% commited to a feminist worldview. Every TV show, every commercial, every movie, every news organization (even the so-called "conservative" ones like Fox), every major magazine, present all their content according to feminist ideology, up to and including "man-bashing" in most cases. You are, as another poster said above, clinging to a social situation that existed 40 years ago to justify the continued need for feminist reform.


2. Negative connotations from insecure men who can't quite face strong women--and a lot of young men are insecure--and a lot of young women are very concerned about what young men think. In addition, in places such as Missouri and other areas in the Bible Belt, there is still the idea that women are supposed to know their places and defer to men.


Oh, those poor, backward, unenlightened Bible Belt residents. Good thing they have people like you to show them the way to truth and freedom. How arrogant and elitist can you be? As for the "men who can't face strong women" part, you're just repeating tired old stereotypes that have no basis in reality. You and other feminists ASSUME that any man who doesn't agree with you is insecure, because what other reason could there be for him to reject so obvious a truth? Come on. How about some critical, rational, unbiased thinking here?


3. They are ignorant of history and have no concept that in the past, women went to jail so they can vote and wear pants in public. Many of them have not run into situations that older women encountered. The advances that the feminist movement made in the past are taken for granted by those who take little or no interest in history. If a man can no longer muzzle a woman and lead her around the town square for nagging, why worry about it?


No, I'm afraid you are the one who is ignorant of history. I addressed feminist revisionist history in an earlier post, so I won't go into too much detail here. Scolds' bridles went out of use long before anyone now alive was born, and are not examples of sexist tyrrany, because punishments for both sexes for all crimes was harsh, extreme, and humiliating in those times, when debtors were imprisoned, heretics were tortured and burned, and petty thieves were hanged. There was also an equivalent device for men who spoke blasphemy or sedition. And they didn't go out of use because of feminism, but because of Christian opposition to torture.


Capegardengirl, you are wasting your valuable breath and time trying to logically convince Scorpio of anything. You can argue with some ignorant people, but not those who choose to wallow in ignorance.


You have spoken the exact opposite of the truth here. Capegardengirl seems to be completely incapable of grasping the logical process, or of making any coherent argument. Her posts are emotional and rambling, and not ONCE has she bothered to back up anything she's said with any kind of factual evidence. She ignores the numerous posts that directly refute her arguments using logic and fact, and continues to make the same assertions over and over with no other justification than that she believes them to be true and that her personal experience validates her beliefs. For these reasons, I am no longer bothering to refute her posts point by point, because she has absolutely no credibility at this point, and I no longer wish to waste my time and effort.

On the other hand, if you look at the world objectively, how can you help being a feminist when

1) Woman are still paid less for doing the same jobs men do;
2) By a very substantial margin, it is women who are physically and emotionally abused in personal relationships;
3) Political and economic power is still predominantly wielded by men and in many or most cases they use this power to keep women for attaining an equal share of it;
4) When a man is referred to as a pr!ck, it is his beaviour that is condemned. When a woman is called a cvnt, it is an expression of contempt for her very essence.


All of your points here, except the last one, have already been shown by direct evidence to be false earlier in this thread. The last one is an emotional, rather than logical or factual statement, and cannot be supported. There are plenty of things that women call and say about men that express "contempt for [their] very essence". Some examples are given in one of my earlier posts.

So we continue, and still none of you can logically and factually refute the many, many valid arguments that have been presented here. Your responses continue to be "That's not what it means to me," "That's not my experience of it," and "You're all a bunch of misogynist, ignorant, unenlightened, hateful Archie Bunkers and don't know what women's realitiy is." None of those arguments are valid, or even make any sense. Perception is NOT reality. Reality is reality. People have varying degrees of accuracy in their perception of reality, but that does not change the reality itself: it just makes some people wrong.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 347 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:20:01 PM

I feel like participating in this thread is a waste of time now. There is little open-minded dialogue happening here, so, what's the point of contributing? I have provided links to statistics gathered by the Canadian Government which indicate that women have not obtained true equality with men on many levels. They were ignored, except for one poster who poo-pooed them without actually addressing what they were suggesting. Those stats are from the federal government, and not biased in the least. Yet, these are ignored while unsubstantiated articles are being touted as the gospel truth. The hostility towards women being shown here is beyond belief. It's sad. Insults and half truths don't win arguments, people.


Ooli, I'm sorry you feel your arguments are being ignored. I thought I had gone through them, point by point, and addressed them. And I commend you on the fact that you are being rational and presenting your argument in an intelligent manner. I'll try again:

On the gender "wage gap": These statistics seem to be skewed, not taking into account the different choices men and women make in their careers.
http://www.onenewsnow.com/2007/04/economics_expert_says_gender_w.php
http://www.ncpa.org/pub/ba/ba392/

Nevertheless: I, and every other man here, judging from their own statements, support equal pay IF the work done is equal. The problem we have is that feminism typically supports forced "equal outcome" instead of equal opportunity. Example: Have you ever asked yourself why it's almost always a woman holding the stop/go sign by the highway construction? It's because the road construction company is forced to hire (x) number of women, and forced to pay them equal wages with the men on the crew, but she is physically incapable of doing the same amount of actual work as the men. The other option is to promote her straight to heavy equipment operation, but this is unfair to the men, who are still stuck as "shovel-men" because getting on the equipment is a reward as one works his way up through hard work and doing a good job.

On the glass ceiling: Again, this is equal outcome theory rather than equal opportunity, and the same statistical bias applies as to the wage-gap theory.

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4208/is_19950325/ai_n10190358
http://www.iwf.org/archives/archive_detail.asp?ArticleID=536

On wife abuse: Although many studies show that an impartial examination of the statistics actually shows a roughly equal incidence of male abuse of females, and female abuse of males, I'm ready to grant that male abuse of females is more serious because of the higher potential for serious damage, and the simple fact that it's wrong to hit a woman (I'm old-fashioned). However, after 30-40 years of feminism, spousal abuse has become worse instead of better. I don't think I need to post statistics for that one, as it is abundantly obvious. Also, no man here is opposed to helping actual victims of DV, but feminism is not required for that; only compassion. What feminism has actually done is use the real victims, create many phoney victims, and create false statistics to support their anti-patriarchy arguments. Support for this has been posted several times on this thread.

On genital mutilation and other 3rd-world atrocities: Making it a feminist issue is, again, using the victims for the furtherance of one's own agenda. MANY groups are working and speaking out against this, from gay rights groups to the Catholic Church. The sudden disappearance of feminism would not stop the people in this fight from continuing.

On single-mother families living in poverty: I don't dispute this data. My answer to this is for families to stay together, and for society to once again embrace the ethics of family which feminism has worked so hard to destroy. If men were once again raised in a societal atmosphere that expected them to be honorable and provide for their families, fewer of them would wuss out and run away. Feminism is directly responsible for the vastly increased divorce rate; it has encouraged women, since the 60s, to liberate themselves from their oppressive husbands and seek their own paths in life. What you sow, you also reap.

I acknowledge that there have been uninformed and insulting outbursts on here from men as well as women, but I don't think there's any way to avoid that.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 342 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/28/2007 4:03:48 PM

"Men who embrace traditional family values take full repsonsibility for their children"...Not always...Ive worked with fathers from traditional, fundamentalist churches who insist that the mother do the majority of the childcare while he pitches in as her occasional "helper",..He doesnt initiate the care, and only does so when not tired/or when he feels like it


Firstly, no group is 100% anything. Exceptions always exist. Secondly, you are defining "being involved" according to feminist agenda. A stay-at-home mother is expected to do the majority of the childcare as well as the majority of the housework because that's her "job". The man who works to support his family alone only "pitches in occasionally" because he's usually gone working, and these days usually two or more jobs, and has very little time or energy for mundane childcare and housekeeping chores. His contribution is different from the mother's: he teaches, he guides, he disciplines, and he spends as much time with his children as he can. It is unfair, unrealistic, and selfish to expect a man to routinely come home after working all day, fix dinner, do the dishes, and perform all the childcare for the rest of the evening just so his wife can have some "her" time. When does he get time for himself, then? The problem here is selfishness. When you are a parent, you come second and the children come first.

Feminists talk a lot about "choices" but not a lot about duty. There was a movie once where Steve Martin said, "The difference between men and women is that women have choices and men have responsibilities." That is exactly correct in today's feminist culture. Don't want to have your baby because it will be a burden on your lifestyle? Have it cut to pieces and sucked from your womb with a vacuum cleaner. Don't like your husband? Cut off his **** and become the heroine of feminists everywhere. Bored and depressed with your life? Liberate yourself, abandon your family, get a new boyfriend and an exciting job, and go on Oprah so you can inspire women everywhere to do the same. But if a man does that, he's a deadbeat dad, a heel, a typical sexist pig, trading in the poor, loyal first wife for a new, younger model.


What you are not understanding is that forced societal or religious submissiveness on the part of women thats neither genuine nor wanted on her part is a major cause of mental illness and depression...Over 90% of the women I see in my therapy practice who do exackly what you want women to be like are on antidepressants and in therapy....How is that beneficial to men?....their children?....They are middle class, educated, have held responsible jobs, ...many with college educations...So its neither "normal", healthy or "natural" for them...So be aware of the consequences of what you desire women to be like...


I don't see any statistics backing this one up, either. What are your sources, other than your own anecdotal experience?


You may not be prepared for the negative fallout from it...A more recent study of isolated Iranian women found that major depression was detected in over 90% of them because they been been forced out of school, jobs, professions and a life by the Taliban...


This is where you say the Taliban is in Iran, and what was pointed out to you by others. Why not just admit you were wrong, instead of trying to twist your words? It doesn't work when your words are in black & white right here.

You can't use the oppression of the Taliban, or radical Islam in general, to argue against traditional Christian gender roles. It is a false comparison. No one here, especially me, is advocating that kind of sadistic cruelty. Of course those women are depressed. Who wouldn't be? I get depressed just watching them on the news.


I said when women do things CONTRARY to what feels right to them, its a big casual factor in depression...For alot of women, thats being a full time homemaker with no outside interests to balance their life like school, friends, work.


The important phrase here is "with no outside interests to balance their life". Who's advocating that? Of course they'd be depressed. I'm afraid you're setting up a straw man again here, because I clearly said in my post about traditional roles that this was not what I sought.

Besides, you know who else is depressed? Men. Men who are stuck working long hours in jobs they hate, to support their families, and don't have time or energy for outside interests. And especially men who have to come home after work to listen to shrill, nagging, henpecking, unhappy wives harp about how miserable they are because their husbands don't make enough money to buy them the lifestyle they want and don't have time or energy to pay all the attention to them they want. Most people in Western society aren't happy with their lives these days, and it has nothing to do with male oppression. I have searched for statistics on depression in traditional wives and working women, and have found nothing. It is statistically valid that women in general suffer from depression twice as often as men, but women suffer from all mental illnesses more often than men. That actually lends weight to the supposedly "sexist" view that women are more emotionally fragile than men, doesn't it?

You know what else might have something to do with stay-at-home wives being depressed? How about this: "Stay At Home Moms: Lazy, Mooching Idiots" --http://www.datalounge.com/cgi-bin/iowa/forum/thread/gossip/4763031/page-1.html?findpage=4763660. This is not an isolated article; it's the message that women who choose traditional roles have been receiving from feminists, academia, the media, and the government since the 70s.


Problems women have in 3rd world countries are feminist issues..They are made so when the rest of the world repeatedly ignores or excuses violence that is particularly targeted against women, such, rape, forced marriage, genital mutiliation and ignoring the removal of the clitoris as "culture"..As long as that occurs and the world ignores that and women have to run for their lives to escape that, feminism will be needed...It is by no means dead...The irony is if you want feminism to be "dead" and not needed, pay attention to the worlds problems when they ARE still human rights issues.....Instead of ignoring or excusing them....What happens is sexism and the double standard kicks in and "but its the culture" or "thats what happens in a war" causes us to turn a blind eye to violence against females....Record numbers of women then escape those countries to avoid the mutiliation, the rape, the forced marriage, help for PTSD when they have been raped during a war ...


Again, these are not feminist issues, they are human rights issues. There are many groups working against these things, the Roman Catholic Church (a decidedly non-feminist organization) being prominent among them, and it is completely inaccurate to say that only feminists are doing so. I don't know of anyone in the civilized world who "turns a blind eye" to these things or tries to rationalize or justify them. This is more feminist propaganda with no basis in fact. Hell, I had, quite literally, planned to form a group of mercerneries/ex-special ops types to go and free women in eastern Europe and the third world from sexual slavery and the like once my kids were grown and gone. Unfortunately, I have become too physically disabled to do so, but I'm still trying to find some way to help.


The very same thing happened here in the USA when the police, the clergy and even health organizations ignored domestic violence until feminist groups started up grass roots shelters where women could escape batterers, thereby raising public awareness of the problem.....


Again, inaccurate generalization and revisionist history. Have their been instances of this? Yes, of course, and there still are. Is it accurate to portray all of past society in this light? Absolutely not. Society before feminism was more protective of women than current society is. If they sometimes erred in trying to balance the protection of women with the sanctity of the family unit, there mistakes were at least honest ones, and no more grevious than the injustices being perpetrated now against men and families, and the, yes, INTENTIONAL by their own admission, destruction of the family by feminists.


Instead of blaming feminism, and the scewed court systems, i think men should put the blame squarely where it belongs when women are awarded custody 70% of the time. That is with your brothers in the male race who have proven time and time again. they are not willing or able to take on that responsibility.


You are continuing to make unsupported, anti-male generalizations in the face of clear contradictory evidence presented to you by the men on this forum. There is absolutely no logic in your argument: you believe it to be true and therefore it is. Not convincing, I'm afraid.


One of the posters awhile back blamed feminism for women having to go out in the rat race. I strongly disagree, it was husbands who wanted to control there wives through financial means, who treated them like nothing more than hired help, who basically smothered them with control, who sent women into the workforce. feminism was just a vehicle to empower them.


Firstly, more revisionist history propaganda with no factual support. Secondly, your lack of logic here is astounding. How would a man financially control his wife by sending her into the workforce? Wouldn't that have the exact opposite effect? Isn't that one of feminisms primary assertions? Also, how can a movement whose primary, stated goal is to get women into the workforce not be responsible for that very thing happening? That's like saying that it was actually not the Nazis' fault that the Jews were sent to concentration camps. And no, feminism is not really about choice for women. As I demonstrated above, feminism tries to force all women into the workforce, and ridicules those who refuse. I remember during the early days of the Clinton occupation, I mean administration, Mrs. Clinton saying that she wanted to make sure that every woman in America was working by such & such a date.


That's probable. I would suggest that so were the men.


Yes, I fully agree. One of the problems now is that many men have become soft and effeminate, and won't act like men.


based my comments on what i have heard from working with the elderly.I have heard many times how unhappy many of these women and most of their friends were.They had no choice but to stay. They had nowhere else to go. So i can assure you to these women it was not an illusion it was there everyday reality. I have also heard the comment from them that they were secretly relieved when their husbands died. They were finally free to live their lives as they chose.


These women are called "evil, selfish harpies". No doubt there are many men who are secretly glad when their wives die, because they were nags or otherwise unsatisfactory, but that doesn't make all women bad, it makes those men horrible people. There have also always been many, many men who stayed in marriages in which they were unhappy because they believed it was the right thing to do, or because they were unable, for one reason or another, to leave. There used to be this thing called "keeping your word" that people tried to do. You know, they had promised to stay together "until death do us part" before God, the government, and the community, and they tried to live up to those vows, even if it meant a fair amount of personal sacrifice. I know this is a foreign concept to most these days, but it actually did exist.


Loonytunz, i dont think the witchhunt would be on if u were to stand up for your rights. When the feminist movement started, im sure much of them had the same thoughts. Instead of giving up and caving to the pressure, they stood their ground, and made alot of changes. It can be done. If alot of u feminist disliking men quit blaming feminists for your problems and confronted the real issues u had, u could probably make some good headway. If u really believe what u are saying is true, dont give up.


Wrong. Any man who dares to speak anti-feminist rhetoric is immediately labeled, persecuted, and called all kinds of unflattering things. In college classes they are literally shouted down in indignation (actual personal experience here). It usually ends in police or security being called on the man because he is being "disruptive" and the women "feel threatened". It's a fascist police state, and the sooner you recognize that the sooner you'll begin to be enlightened to the real truth. Most of the reactions on this thread are perfect examples of this.


People will just write them off as mysoginist whiners


See?


well, i havent been on this thread to long, i have already been told i have half a brain, now im told im not rational. Its no wonder we still need feminism. Proof positive of what women have put up with for along time. I guess maybe i should just be glad i havent been called a biatch, isnt that what men usually call a women with the guts to speak her mind.


Actually, the way you and most of the women on this thread are arguing seems to be proving that you are, indeed, not rational. This statement is a perfect example: Rather than argue your position logically, you're falling back on the "You're being mean to me" defense. Reminds me of arguing with my ex .


Those are your words, This feminst has NEVER said that I thought this way about men in ANY of my posts, so it seems that comprehension is lacking. Either that or you like to twist words around.


El, I'm starting to think, too, that you are not a feminist at all, except in name. Those views are the core of feminist teaching, and the thing which all of the social change is supposed to be correcting. You believe in women being treated well, and having rights and freedom, and so do I. That's not feminism, it's justice and common sense.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 271 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/27/2007 2:49:25 PM

There are two very seperate "equalities" :

1. Equal opportunity ....men and women are given an equal chance
2. Equal outcome ......men and women are made to achieve equally


Exactly. And I would argue that there has always been some degree of (though not full) equal opportunity. There were female queens and rulers all through history. There have always been women who ran businesses, maintained family farms inherited from fathers or husbands, bought land, led rebellions, aided in defense of their homes, functioned as prophetesses of God or gods, etc., etc. These women achieved what they did because they were exceptional, and EARNED the respect of the men around them rather than DEMANDING it.

What women in general and feminists in particular have failed to understand about the education system and workplace from early on, is that it is COMPETITIVE, as pointed out by an earlier poster. Women who went to college and established careers in a "man's world" had to compete at the same level as men, with no handicap. The men then treated them as competition, and the women took it as the men being mean to them. Were they singled out as being women? Yes, because that was the most convenient avenue of attack. Men in competetion attack each other at whatever is the most obvious weak spot: financial background, social status, academic performance, etc. It's just like that game of football with the neighborhood kids. There's always a girl who wants to play, but you're not allowed to hit her as hard as you would the other boys, because she'll cry about you being mean and picking on her because she's a girl. [from my post on another thread]

This story of how women from the beginning of history until the 1960s were kept enslaved at home, beaten on a regular basis, not allowed any freedom of thought or expression, and raped every night by their husbands is a LIE. It is propaganda and has no basis in fact. Read some history. No, not revisionist history books written by feminists (which is what you'll find in schools and colleges these days) but actual history: the original, primary sources. They're out there. In fact, you can find a large number of them in electronic form on the web, because they're old enough to be public domain.


No man I have ever dated in my entire dating history ever had issues with the fact that I am a feminist.


Could that be because no man who won't date feminists has ever dated you?


They said they liked a spirited woman with intelligence, with fire who spoke up for what she wanted...That it was refreshing....Just like Rhett Butler with Scarlett O' Hara....


For once, I agree with you. I, myself, find such women exciting. In fact, there are one or two women who have been posting on this thread who I would consider getting to know better, if the circumstances were conducive. But you don't have to espouse feminist doctrine to have fire and spirit. This is more of that categorizing: men who are anti-feminist are chauvinist, and women who are not feminists are pushover doormats. Wrong on both counts. Take Kat for example; plenty of spirit, intelligent, stood up to me when I wronged her, but rejects feminism and embraces the traditional role of submissive wife, by her own account.

Which leads me to the misunderstanding of the traditional feminine role as evidenced by several here. The ideal traditional relationship consists of: A man who is strong, honorable, and gentle, and leads by example, earning the respect, trust, and loyalty of his wife; and: A woman who chooses to submit voluntarily, because she recognizes and embraces the differences in male and female roles and nature, and fulfills her feminine responsibilities while her husband fulfills his masculine ones. Are all traditional marriages this idyllic? Of course not. But this is the goal, and I don't think the evidence from reading through the personal ads on this site supports that the ideal feminist/partnership of equals relationship has worked out very well, either.

Contrary to the way it is portrayed by those opposed to it, here is what the Bible says about the perfect wife:

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.

16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. (Proverbs 31: 10-30)


It never fails to amaze me, when i hear of men, who insist their wife stay home and raise the children. when this same couple seperate, and the men are ordered to pay spousal support, who is the first one you hear yelling about having to pay?

Women are most often responsible for the care of the children. The only time men want to share in the responsibility is when the couple separates, then they wonder why the courts give custody to the mothers.


Unfair and inaccurate generalizations. Men who embrace traditional family values take full responsibility for their children, are fully active in caring for and raising them, and, in the unfortunate event of a divorce, seek custody and pay child support without compulsion when they do not have custody. I am an example of all of these things. It's the men who embrace the post-modern "free sex" way of seeing the world who generally (with exceptions) don't want to take responsibility for their children.


I'm not about superiroity and I'm actually getting a tad tired of being told that since I choose to refer to myself as feminist, that I am about superiority. Though your comment likey wasn't directed right AT me, I still feel like I'm getting a concussion... from banging my head against seemingly deaf walls when I hear/read that feminism is (blanketly) about female superiority.

I've stated numerous times what I AM about.


I appreciate and understand your position, El, but the label is permanently damaged. Walk into the Anti-Defamation League and tell them you're a Nazi, but don't embrace the final solution, and see if they accept you.


Did you know that all men are actually women first ;) Thats why men have nipples haha... Then somewhere during the development stage they get that chromozone that makes them a man!!! Hehe.


Wrong. Both male and female fetuses begin as neuter, then develop sex characteristics when hormones begin to be produced. The Y chromosome is present in males from conception, and it's what causes the production of testosterone and the development of male characteristics during development.


If it were not for the women who decided to take a stand then I would probably still be wearing dresses in -20 weather with a hat and gloves and not allowed to work or vote or make my own decisions.


See statements on revisionist history, above.


There are also most probably thousands of assaults on males by females that go unreported, and I am quite certain that a percentage of those men arrested and charged were reacting to an assault by the woman BECAUSE WOMAN ALREADY HAVE EXCEEDED EQUAL RIGHTS UNDER THE LAW...in my case I had the presence of mind and understanding that if I raised a hand to defend myself that I would be charged with a crime, removed from my home and family, denied free unrestricted and unsupervised access and visitation with my children, and labelled for the rest of my life as an abuser...so rather than retaliate to being punched, kicked, whipped with a skipping rope, choked, bashed with a lamp, and having my few prized possesions within my home smashed to pieces! (etc.)


Thank you, Anybody. This is exactly what I was talking about in previous posts, and my experiences as a policeman and working in the correctional system match this account exactly.

I see the emotion and rhetoric has been toned down some. Perhaps we are making progress.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 246 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/27/2007 12:42:21 AM
Kat,

I did indeed misconstrue your meaning and intention, and I offer my sincere and unreserved apology. I have become defensive here because of all the attacks that actually were directed at me, and lumping you in with all of them I failed to grasp your subtle humor. Here is one area where I freely acknowledge the superiority of women: subtlety and tact. Sometimes these debates turn into a big game of "King of the Hill" for us men, and our flying fists hit everyone around us whether they deserve it or not. I ask your pardon.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 241 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:32:32 PM

It has been my experience that terms such as "feminazi" have simply replaced the phrase "uppity wimmen" and seems to be a thinly veiled attempt to marginalize anyone who dares speak out on the subject. Feminists are painted as jack-boot wearing dy-kes so that they be objectified and dismissed.

The question gets bogged down in these inflammatory terms


You mean inflammatory terms like "marginalize," "feminazi," "uppity wimmin," "jack-booted dy-kes," and "objectified"? Who exactly is it that's throwing these terms around again? Oh, wait, that's you, isn't it? This is a straw man. You're putting words into our mouths so you can argue against them. This statement is a thinly-veiled attempt to marginalize men who dare speak out against the abuses of feminism.


and examples of how men have suffered at the hands of this social change


Yes, and how could those examples possibly be valid, since they don't fit your agenda? And of course, feminists NEVER use examples of how women have suffered at the hands of the "patriarchy".


but rarely are the facts discussed


You're kidding, right? This thread is chock-full of facts, in post after post, complete with citations. Or are those facts not good enough for you because they are inconvenient?


This is a strong social signal to woman that, in order to be viewed as pleasing, she will keep her place -- one of submissiveness.


I'm glad you're understanding that much, at least.


I also note that it is one that is often painful for women, because every one of us has experienced some form of abuse, discrimination or hostility simply because we are women.


I'm going to coin a new logical fallacy for this one, and call it "Appeal to Victimization". This is when person A in the discussion says that person B cannot engage in meaningful dialogue because person A has experienced painful trauma, victimization, etc., and person B cannot possibly understand because he has not experienced it himself. This is the same logic that tells us that, if you had a loved one die in the World Trade Center, you are automatically an authority on terrorism and homeland security, and your views must not be challenged.

I'm not going to play the victim card here, but I will tell you that you have no idea of the "abuse, discrimination, or hostility" that many men have endured in this feminist society simply because they are men.


The real issue is whether women have equality with men as a gender.


No, the real issue is whether we're living in a society overrun with insanity, where logic has been banished and right and wrong are so mixed up that people don't know how to act anymore.


The reason men should become very interested in this topic is because their own rights may be jeopardized in the future. When you protect the rights of another, you are ensuring an environment which will foster and protect your own.

If you do not believe that everyone has the right to receive equal pay for equal work, there may be a day when these males find their own livelihoods threatened. When unwanted sexual advances are permitted in the workplace, they may very well be on the receiving end one day, finding themselves being the recipient of fondling by a person they find utterly repulsive -- and it may not be a woman. They may find that they do not have equal access to justice, health care or a decent home, based on their gender, race or some other factor.

I wonder how they will feel about equal rights then?


The thing that you choose to ignore, and what we men on this forum have been saying over and over and over and over again, is that OUR RIGHTS ARE ALREADY JEOPARDIZED, AS ARE OUR EQUAL ACCESS TO JUSTICE, EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITIES, AND GENERAL FAIR TREATMENT. THAT IS WHAT WE ARE PROTESTING, RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW. What does it take to get you people to understand that?

This poster seems to be suffering from the same idea as many others here: That if you make an emotional, heart-wrenching speech with a dramatic ending, you automatically win the argument. I'm sorry, but facts and truth are required to impress me.


...Thats gotta be one of the most ignorant posts here yet....Im a feminist who happens to love all three and have all of them in abundance: sex, a man and a life...Guess I better give up my friends, gardening, hiking, travel, bicycling, cooking, music concerts, etc, because as a feminist, according to you, Im not supposed to have a "life"...Maybe you better tell my sexy man to stop accepting invitations to my house, making out with me on my couch and to keep his hands off me that he cant seem to stop doing, since, according to you, I dont" like him or sex" and I "need" to get a life ...Oh, and remind me too that Im a "humourless zealot" because I cant keep my hands off him!


Have some class and tact. This is kinda gross.


I suppose that makes us equals in some respect. That's a weird irony.


This is the reason none of you can hear what we're saying. Your reasoning is, that if a man is anti-feminist, then he is anti-woman, misogynist, chauvinist, boorish, backwards, unenlightened, and mean. You make assumptions, you apply labels, you categorize, you polarize, you dichotomize, you marginalize, and you judge. But still, none of you have bothered to dispute the facts and evidence that I and others have offered throughout this thread. We really must be speaking different languages.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 227 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 5:20:23 PM
Doug; I thought I sensed a kindred spirit. Well said, and well-lived. Here is a man who understands chivalry. De Oppresso Liber.


I don't think I made reference to women as a "class," just as I don't consider African-Americans a class. But the fact that African-Americans aren't a class doesn't mean that when they were being denied the vote and equal educational access they weren't "oppressed," and the same is true of women, unless you want to claim that they DID always have the vote and access to education on the same terms as men of their various "classes" at any given moment in history.


You're reading much more into the word "class" than I intended. I can claim that women weren't oppressed without claiming that they always had the vote or any of that. Women's roles were different from what is conceived by modern feminists as right, but that does not make them oppressed. My contention is that generalizing that women were oppressed before feminism is innacurate at best, and an intentional lie at worst.

Were some women oppressed then by cruel husbands? Yes. Are some women still oppressed now by cruel husbands? Yes. Has the number gone down since the advent of feminism? No. In order to make that claim, you have to include all women who were in traditional roles among the oppressed, which is why feminism has to make such claims.


I'm well aware of historiographical debate over whether or not women have historically constituted a "class" to themselves, or a "fourth estate" and I tend to contest that position in my own work.


Good for you. That earns you some respect from me, as a scholar.


And of course my summary of some broad historical develoments is a simplified "view", as you put it, of a huge historical topic. I don't actually have either the time or the inclination to write a book on the subject for this forum--I was making an observation about broad trends that do have historical veracity to them.


Fair enough. But remember that your opinion about the broad trends is not necessarily accurate, and is open to being contested.


But then, I am, actually, a historian--are you?


I'll pretend you didn't say that, because you and I both know that's a red herring.

And seriously, why take such offense when none is intended? Are you so insecure in your convictions that they cannot stand a challenge? I had many professors in college with whom I disagreed, but the ones who earned my respect were the ones who could take a challenge in good humor, debate it civilly, and not let their egos get in the way.


Like Ooli_Oop, I was also pushed towards a career in nursing by highschool counselors and parents...


All of these arguments are based upon the pre-formed conclusion that it is better for women to be in the workplace en masse than to fulfill traditional roles. I do not grant that assumption, because I do not agree that it's better for society. There always have been, and always will be, exceptional women who contribute intellectually, creatively, and scientifically to society. But many women did that before feminism, and the argument that no avenues were open to women until feminism is false.


I was also "groped", but much more intimately, on the job and was told by the attorney for the very famous ivy league medical school where I worked that I had "asked for it" and "had no case" to pursue for sexual molestation. Later, I discovered that the the Administration had covered up four other virtually identical cases.


Again, I'm sorry that happened to you. See my above post for what I consider the proper response.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 220 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 4:20:27 PM
Thank you for posting a well-reasoned and supported argument instead of more emotional tirade. My response:


1.) When I was in public school, I was made to stand up in front of the class because I had a pant suit on and everyone was told, "Nice girls don't dress like this." Then I was sent home to put on a dress because it was gender appropriate. Feminism helped ensure this will not happen to any other little girls in North America and Europe.


It's unfortunate that that happened to you. If that's all feminism did, I would support it. National Socialism dramatically improved the lives of Germans within the Reich, but I don't think that justifies it.


2.) It was recommended that I go into nursing or become a secretary, even though I had one of the highest grade averages in my graduating class and an IQ of 150. I was discouraged from being a doctor by school career counselors…and even my parents at the time. Feminism has changed the view that women should limit themselves to “girl careers”.


There were women in law and medicine long before you went to school. Your school and family may have made less-than-perfect decisions, but you cannot generalize that to an entire society based on your experience. I will grant you, however, that such was common practice in past ages, but it wasn't because of "oppression". Family decisions were made back then by families, not government social agencies with way too much power and a political agenda. In most cases, the boys were sent to school in preference to the girls because it was expected that the boys would have to support their families throughout their lives. If a woman's higher education was viewed as a "waste" it was because it was assumed that she would stay home and care for the children once they were born, and then all the money put into her higher education would not have been a good investment. It was not because women were considered as having less intrinsic value, or that they were intentionally kept ignorant and oppressed. On the contrary, it was expected that a woman would be educated and informed at a comparable level of the class she married into, and be able to engage in intelligent conversation with her husband's peers. Perhaps not in their specialized field of work, but in general liberal arts, current events, politics, history, etc. (I pasted part of this from my post on another thread).


3.) When I worked as a securities broker for a prestigious Toronto brokerage, my male manager thought it was appropriate to push me up against a wall, stick his tongue down my throat and fondle my breasts. He said it was my “birthday present” from him. Feminism is responsible for creating workplace laws to protect women against male predators like this boss. He was fired, by the way. Without feminism, he wouldn’t have been fired. I would have been forced to either put up with it, or leave.


That type of behavior would not have been acceptable before feminism, and will never be acceptable. To say "He wouldn't have been fired" is a generalization that you cannot prove. Current sexual harrassment laws are more often used as a tool by women to take revenge on a man they don't like or to eliminate competition than to address actual wrongs. What that man did was sexual assault, which is a felony, and you don't need redundant employment laws to cover the same thing. Also, back during the "awful patriarchy" days, that man would have faced other consequences as well. If you had been my wife, mother, sister, or whatever, I would have beaten him to a bloody pulp.


4.) At a different brokerage house I worked, a man with exactly the same education that I had and less experience, was hired at $9,000 more than I was making for the doing same job. This wasn’t that long ago! Feminism is helping to raise public awareness that this goes on, and has helped created labour laws that are trying to create wage parity. It’s not there yet. Women still make less than men, on average. Further, there has actually been a dip in the rate that women are gaining on men when it comes to wage parity.

Statistics Canada, 2006: http://www.statcan.ca/Daily/English/060307/d060307a.htm


Those statistics may not be reliable.
http://www.ncpa.org/pub/ba/ba392/

An unfortunate occurance, but how about this? After attending the police academy, I tested for the Colorado Springs Police Department. My scores were all at the very top in every test, and I was placed in what they call "band 1", meaning the most qualified applicants. I did not get hired, however, because the department had quotas of women and minorities which had to be filled before any white males were hired. Consequently, not one, but quite a few people less qualified than me were hired and I was not. Who is raising awareness about this kind of thing?


5.) I have male friends in senior management positions (i.e. CEO's) who will not hire women of child bearing age for senior positions, or those who have young families. There is a belief that being a mother will compromise a woman's ability to do a good job. They do not assess men in the same way. Feminism has raised awareness about the “glass ceiling”, but change is slow here. Women are more likely to obtain low level management positions, but the vast majority of senior positions are still held by men.

Statistics Canada, 2006: http://www.statcan.ca/Daily/English/060307/d060307a.htm


Is there not some validity to that belief? Do not the responsibilities of motherhood come before the responsibilities of work? The same is true of other things than women of child-bearing age. Men with disabilities, for instance, have trouble with jobs and promotions because it is assumed that they will take a lot of time off for medical reasons. There is also reason to doubt the "glass ceiling" theory: http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4208/is_19950325/ai_n10190358


6.) I volunteered at a woman's shelter for a period of time. The night that sticks the most in my mind was when I consoled a woman who had had her ear bit off by a raging boyfriend while her toddler looked on in horror. Another woman with a severely autistic child arrived on the same night, who had been beaten black and blue by her boyfriend. She had a broken nose, a smashed cheekbone and several cracked ribs. Then there was another woman who had been living with her three children in a car after her wealthy husband of 30 years had kicked them out without a penny and moved in his young lover. I could go on and on about what I’ve seen in shelters. The point is that violence against women still does occur, and feminism has helped raise awareness and funds to set up shelters so that women like the ones I mentioned, have a sanctuary to go to.


See my post above on this topic, which includes some different statistics. Violence against women is not a feminist issue, it is a human issue, and men of character are equally appalled by it. There are lots of non-feminists involved in helping battered women and children. I won't go into the things I've seen as a policeman related to this topic, but I will make a couple of general points based upon my experience and backed up by others. 1) In most true domestic violence cases, the woman refuses to leave, refuses to prosecute, and often attacks the police when they try to arrest the abuser. This is not a case of oppression by men, but of women being unwilling to do what needs to be done. 2) The main effect of current DV laws and policy has been a horrifying miscarriage of justice towards men. Basically, men are guilty until proven innocent whenever a DV complaint is made, and even if they are proven innocent, the stain is on their records forever.


7.) Genital mutilation (removing clitoris and sewing shut labia) and honour killings and maimings of women and children still occur in Canada and other industrialized nations. Feminism has resulted in laws being passed against these horrendous practices.

http://www.religioustolerance.org/fem_cira.htm


It doesn't take a feminist to be horrified and outraged by such things, and feminists can't take all the credit: "Religious organizations have actively sought to eliminate this practice since the beginning of the 20th century. The Presbyterian Church of East Africa and various Protestant churches continue to raise awareness and to discourage the practice. The Catholic Church has also condemned the practice."
--http://www.state.gov/g/wi/rls/rep/crfgm/10103.htm


8.) Women head up most of the single households and bear the brunt of the costs of raising a family when it comes to time and money, yet job parity does not exist in the workplace.

9.) There are more children living in poverty in households led by women than any other family group. Feminism has resulted in laws being passed to ensure that child support will be paid by non-custodial parents. Yes, the laws were primarily set up to protect women and children, but they apply to male custodial parents, too.


Unfortunate, but not necessarily the result of "workplace inequity". The link I gave in #4, above applies here too. And let me tell you from experience, it is not any easier, and perhaps harder, for a man to support his family at the lower socio-economic levels. It has become harder for men to get jobs than women at these levels (as most of the low-level managers are women), and of all the social and economic programs designed to help struggling families, families with a man present do not qualify for many. Neither are there special "displaced breadwinner" offices at colleges and universities to help struggling fathers.

Feminism claims to be about righting social injustice, but it has created more social injustice than it has corrected.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 217 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 3:23:25 PM

I actually know what a feminist is--or at least what most "feminists" consider feminism to be--and no cut and pasted articles and/or snide comments and/or rantings by people who loathe feminism is going to convince me that I'm wrong about something that is actually about me, my social consciousness, and my view of myself and my role in society.


What would this statement look like if you substituted "Nazi" for "feminist"? Would it be a valid argument? Just because some members of the party didn't know about or didn't approve of the death camps, and didn't regard themselves as racist or ani-Jew doesn't make National Socialism any less evil. A social movement's value is determined by the overall effect it has on society, not the "feelings" of the individuals involved in it. This is more of the "My truth is the only one valid for me" argument.


As more and more people over the last couple of centuries have gained literacy and with that increasing access to the kind of public voice that allows them to attempt to assert their autonomy in the societies in which they live, a struggle to exersize that autonomy by various groups has inevitably ensued. And just as inevitably, some members of those groups losing their monopoloy on power and the exclusive right and access to autonomy have objected to that process, because of course they feel their relative positions shifting. This was the case as royal power across Europe began diminishing during the seventeenth and eighteenth ceturies, as legislative bodies formed and/or began asserting their sovereignty. It was the case as the middle classes began fighting for the vote in the nineteenth century. It was the case as the working classes began fighting for their rights, following the success of the middling groups. It has been the case as members of racial and ethnic minorities in any number of countries have attempted to assert their rights to equal access to things like education and the vote, equality before the law, and entry into the world of well-paid work. And it has been the case when women have done the same.


This is standard post-colonial/post-modern/feminist rhetoric, and is no more valid now than when it was first spoken. Even if the myth of female class oppression were true, it wouldn't justify the excesses that have come about through feminism. It's also a simplistic and distorted view of history.

Excellent writing, though.

I keep seeing statements in these posts that seem to be coming from hurt feelings, as if we are saying we don't like women, or we don't like the particular women who we are refuting, etc. It's not personal: it's a philisophical debate, and my vigorously defending my position does not make my hateful or mean. That is one of the major problems in discussing this topic: any man who dares to oppose feminism is accused of being mean-spirited, hateful, ungentlemanly, unmanly, insecure, etc., etc. When I start saying things like "I want to see a woman beaten to a bloody pulp with a workboot shoved in her mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig" (a paraphrase of something a feminist said about men), then you can call me mean and hateful with justification.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 240 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/26/2007 2:40:55 PM
I haven't bothered to do this so far, because it seems so obvious, but here goes.

Those of you who advocate gun control have told us that there is no correlation between gun laws and loss of liberty; "post hoc, ergo propter hoc". Then you turn around and quote questionable statistics saying that lower violent crime rates in countries with strict gun control laws prove that gun control works. However, you are committing the same, as well as other, logical fallacies here.

Comparing violent crime rates in different societies is apples and oranges. Unless you can isolate all other factors and compare the effect of the gun laws alone, the argument is invalid. Even in nations which are fairly close societally, like Canada and America, it doesn't work because there are too many other factors to take into account: things like societal homogeneity, general respect for law and law enforcement, poverty, social programs, etc. The best one can do in comparing statistics like this is to compare change in a single area when gun laws are put into effect, or compare areas of similar population within the same country. So; here are some statistics:



Florida adopted a right-to-carry law in 1987. At the time the law was passed, critics predicted increases in violence. The founder of the National Organization of Women, Betty Friedan stated:

"lethal violence, even in self defense, only engenders more violence." (13)


* When the law went into effect, the Dade County Police began a program to record all arrest and non arrest incidents involving concealed carry licensees. Between September of 1987 and August of 1992, Dade County recorded 4 crimes committed by licensees with firearms. None of these crimes resulted in an injury. The record keeping program was abandoned in 1992 because there were not enough incidents to justify tracking them. (13)(15)

* Florida adopted a right-to-carry law in 1987. Between 1987 and 1996, these changes occurred:







homicide rate
Florida: -36%
United States: -0.4%

firearm homicide rate
Florida: -37%
United States: 15%

handgun homicide rate
Florida: -41%
United States: 24%


(3)

* 221,443 concealed carry licenses were issued in Florida between October of 1987 and April of 1994. During that time, Florida recorded 18 crimes committed by licensees with firearms. (15)

* As of 1998, nationwide, there has been 1 recorded incident in which a permit holder shot someone following a traffic accident. The permit holder was not charged, as the grand jury ruled the shooting was in self defense. (7)

* As of 1998, no permit holder has ever shot a police officer. There have been several cases in which a permit holder has protected an officer's life. (7)

--http://www.justfacts.com/issues.guncontrol.asp



After enacting stringent gun control laws in 1991 and 1995, Canada has not made its citizens any safer. "The contrast between the criminal violence rates in the United States and in Canada is dramatic," says Canadian criminologist Gary Mauser in 2003. "Over the past decade, the rate of violent crime in Canada has increased while in the United States the violent crime rate has plummeted."

--http://www.fraserinstitute.org/shared/readmore.asp?sNav=pb&id=604



A new study suggests the use of handguns in crime rose by 40% in the two years after the weapons were banned.
The research, commissioned by the Countryside Alliance's Campaign for Shooting, has concluded that existing laws are targeting legitimate users of firearms rather than criminals.

The ban on ownership of handguns was introduced in 1997 as a result of the Dunblane massacre, when Thomas Hamilton opened fire at a primary school leaving 16 children and their teacher dead.

But the report suggests that despite the restrictions on ownership the use of handguns in crime is rising.
The Centre for Defence Studies at Kings College in London, which carried out the research, said the number of crimes in which a handgun was reported increased from 2,648 in 1997/98 to 3,685 in 1999/2000.

It also said there was no link between high levels of gun crime and areas where there were still high levels of lawful gun possession.

Of the 20 police areas with the lowest number of legally held firearms, 10 had an above average level of gun crime.

And of the 20 police areas with the highest levels of legally held guns only two had armed crime levels above the average.

--http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/low/uk_news/1440764.stm



Sorting FBI data by violent crime rate uncovers some interesting results. The seven least violent states are all shall-issue right-to-carry (RTC). Of the seven most violent states, three are non-RTC (includes D.C.) Since about 75% of all states are RTC, 43% of the worst being non-RTC makes these states over-represented at the unpleasant end. The five states with the lowest murder rate are RTC, but two of the five worst are non-RTC. The eleven states with the lowest robbery rate are RTC, but of the eleven worst, 5 are non-RTC. Nine of 10 states with the lowest assault rates are RTC, while 3 of 10 with the highest rates are non-RTC. The only exception is in rates of rape, where three of the 10 lowest are non-RTC, while only one non-RTC state is in the 10 worst.

Overall, non-RTC states average 27.8% higher violent crime rates, most notably 43.8% higher murder and 85% higher robbery rates, than RTC states. (See Table 4) The exception is rape: non-RTC states averaged 21.1% lower rates, reversing a 9-year trend where 10 states with RTC laws enacted during 1995-1996 saw their rates of rape drop faster than non-RTC states.[8]

Table 4 – Violent Crime Rate Averages, 2005[9]

Population Violent Crime Homicide Rape Robbery Assault

RTC 394.4 4.8 35.6 93.6 260.4

Non-RTC 504.0 6.9 28.1 173.2 295.7

Pct Difference 27.8 43.8 (21.1) 85.0 13.6



Between 2004 and 2005, RTC states saw a 1.1% increase in their violent crime rate, compared to non-RTC states’ 2.1% increase. (See Table 5) The main influences in non-RTC states experiencing a greater increase in the violent crime rate is due to the first two categories noted in the CNN article: murder and robbery.



Table 5 – RTC Violent Crime Rate Trend Comparison, 2004-2005[10]
(Negative Percent = Decreasing Rate)

Population Violent Crime Homicide Rape Robbery Assault

RTC 1.1 0.3 (2.0) 1.6 1.4

Non-RTC 2.1 1.9 (4.4) 6.8 0.2



Separating community types by RTC status indicates a moderate benefit imparted by personal self-defense. Of the 15 different categories–five violent crime categories for each of the three community types–RTC states were better in 10 of 15. In all three community types, RTC states bettered the national rate change for overall violent crime, while non-RTC states saw larger increases in MSAs and non-MSA cities. The one exception is in rape, where non-RTC states led in two of three community type comparisons, though some counterbalance occurs because RTC MSAs saw a greater drop than the national one-year rate change and non-MSA cities without RTC saw a 19.2% increase in rape. (See Table 6)

Table 6 – One-Year Violent Crime Trends by Community Type and RTC Status, 2004-2005[11] (Percent Average Rate Change)

Community Violent Crime Homicide Rape Robbery Assault

MSA RTC 0.7 6.5 (2.1) 0.3 1.1

MSA non-RTC 2.8 2.9 (4.8) 7.7 0.7

Non-MSA RTC (2.1) (0.8) 4.7 (1.3) (3.1)

Non-MSA non-RTC 8.1 9.7 19.2 15.1 5.4

Non-Metro RTC 0.9 (6.6) 3.0 4.1 0.7

Non-Metro non-RTC 1.1 15.1 1.2 (10.5) 2.1

U.S. 1.8 1.9 (1.7) 3.8 1.5



It should be noted, however, that RTC communities remain less violent, leading their non-RTC counterparts in eleven of 15 categories, including the overall violent crime rate. (See Table 7)



Table 7 – Average Violent Crime Rates by Community Type and RTC Status, 2005[12]

Community Violent Crime Homicide Rape Robbery Assault

MSA RTC 417.3 5.2 37.0 110.3 264.9

MSA non-RTC 523.8 7.2 27.6 185.5 303.5

Non-MSA RTC 354.0 3.4 35.8 54.1 260.6

Non-MSA non-RTC 438.2 1.9 44.5 67.7 324.1

Non-Metro RTC 194.9 3.1 22.0 13.7 158.5

Non-Metro non-RTC 201.1 2.2 21.4 14.5 163.1

Conclusion
Yes, violent crime rates increased in 2005, especially in the categories of murder and robbery. Most of this increase occurred in large metropolitan areas and in cities not part of a larger metropolitan area that reside in non-RTC states. Right-to-carry communities are generally the safest places to live, and non-metropolitan counties in RTC states are the safest places for women. So the next time a gun controller says we need to ban guns because crime is going up, kindly give them this paper and remind them that they have already contributed enough, thank you very much.

About the Author
Howard Nemerov publishes with ChronWatch, News Busters and other sites, and is a frequent guest on NRA News. He can be reached at HNemerov [at sign] Netvista.net.

Endnotes




[1] Terry Frieden, Violent crime takes first big jump since ’91, CNN, June 12, 2006. http://www.cnn.com/2006/LAW/06/12/crime.rate/

[2] Ibid.

[3] Table 1 – Crime in the United States by Volume and Rate per 100,000 Inhabitants, 1986-2005. http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/05cius/data/documents/05tbl01.xls


[4] Compiled from Table 8 – Offenses Known to Law Enforcement by State by City, 2005. http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/05cius/data/documents/05tbl08.xls Email request for spreadsheet.


[5] FBI Crime in the United States, 2004, Appendix III – Uniform Crime Reporting Area Definitions, page 507. http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/cius_04/documents/CIUS2004.pdf

[6] Compiled from Table 5 – Crime in the United States by State, 2005. http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/05cius/data/documents/05tbl05.xls Email request for spreadsheet.


[7] Ibid.


[8] Rape rate trends compiled from FBI crime data 1995, 1996, 2004, and 2005. Email request for spreadsheet.

[9] Compiled from Table 4 – Crime in the United States by Region, Geographic Division, and State, 2004-2005. http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/05cius/data/documents/05tbl04.xls and Table 5 – Crime in the United States by State, 2005. http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/05cius/data/documents/05tbl05.xls Email request for spreadsheet.


[10] Compiled from Table 4 – Crime in the United States by Region, Geographic Division, and State, 2004-2005. http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/05cius/data/documents/05tbl04.xls Email request for spreadsheet.


[11] Ibid.


[12] Ibid.

--http://newsbusters.org/node/9140

There is, of course, much more available for anyone who wants to do an unbiased search on the topic. Note here that, although the articles quoted are in many cases from pro-gun websites, the studies and statistics they use are from neutral sources, such as the U.S. government. This is in contrast to the only contradictory statistics I came across, (here http://www.commondreams.org/pressreleases/jan99/011899a.htm) where the study itself was performed by handgun control, inc. Highly suspect.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 201 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 1:07:33 PM
Here's a nice bit of logic:

We are accused of being closed-minded, ignorant, hateful, etc. for lumping all feminists together, and told we are not listening to the feminists here who don't agree with the "hateful" form of feminism.

Yet, when we quote from feminists who we don't find to be evil, shrieking harpies, like Camille Paglia, Christina Hoff-Summers, and Wendy McElroy, we are told that it is unacceptable, because they are not true feminists. Am I the only one who sees contradiction here?
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 197 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 12:45:09 PM
I have been following this thread and must the level of anger towards feminists and feminism as an ideology is very disturbing.


Not as disturbing as feminism itself, as illustrated by the quotes I listed previously.


LMAO. You don't know what I believe or what my stance on the subject of feminism is, because Sir, you haven't read enough of the posts in this particular thread to have read that I, personally, don't relate to the movement in the past or the arguments of today's less extremist feministic views. Had you taken time to read the entire thread, you would have seen my views long ago and would not have resorted to such juvenile retorts.


Sorry you object to my paraphrase of your statement. Of course, adding little flame faces and saying things like "spewing idiocies" and "like it or don't" are examples of maturity and aren't hateful at all, right?


Post at will, it speaks volumes to those single ladies here who may have, under different circumstances, found you remotely likable, maybe even datable. Awww, the glory of forums...true colors fly out of the fingers. Good luck with your search.


Another personal attack. I think I made it pretty clear in my profile how I feel about feminism, and I welcome any woman who's interested in me to read all of my posts. Those of sufficient intellect, objectivity, and moral fibre will be impressed rather than offended. Seriously, though, I didn't intend to make you angry; I was just pointing out that your statement was illogical and emotion-based.


Your distorted and politically correct dogma
Republicans who agree with her politically correct dogma


I think you need to do some research on the phrase "politically correct". Feminism is PC, Republicans, conservatives, and anti-feminists are definitely not.


"State your thesis and support it with facts"..The facts are I have worked with domestic violence as a therapist for 20 years, dealing with real people and real events..My experience is that the vast majority of feminists are not those wacked out hate filled extremists you keep posting and insisting are "facts"...Your distorted and politically correct dogma from the likes of extremists no more constitute the "facts" of feminism than your own opinion......Ive studied feminism for 25 years..I dont need to post dogma to illustrate the reality of my life and that of my clients.."you imply that ours is based on some sort of insecurity"...You bet is it!...Having an opinion is one thing...Not listening to whats being said and hanging onto extremst dogma dispite the contrary here because you dont want to be "wrong" about feminists is another...Thats emotional immaturity, and insecurity...Time to grow up.


Most of my quotes are directly from feminists themselves. Your argument here is no more than "You must listen to me because my study and experience have made me an expert!" Doesn't work.

You're also having trouble with the term "dogma". Here's what Webster says: " dogma: a: something held as an established opinion; especially : a definite authoritative tenet b : a code of such tenets c : a point of view or tenet put forth as authoritative without adequate grounds." That's exactly what you're doing. "I am the authority because of my experience and study, and everyone else agrees with me, so you must accept what I say."


It is also very disturbing that this is mainly coming from men quoting leaders in the anti-feminist camp (like Paglia or Hoff Sommers).


"A non partisan source?"...And yours are?....Me thinks not....Look in the mirror on that one...Christina Hoff Sommers as well as Camille Paglia are given perks and academic appointments from well know Republicans who agree with her politically correct dogma.....Look at your own sources as well


These women are both feminists, they just happen to be a type of feminist with whom you don't agree. This is like a Presbyterian saying a Baptist isn't a Christian. Theresa even mentions that there are other types of feminism in her post, so she is contradicting herself. You are also using the invalid "poisoned well" argument here. You can't dispute the facts by trying to discredit the source. Your argument here is basically, "Those facts come from a source with whom I do not agree, therefore they are not valid." Illogical and false.

I still see nothing but emotion and assertion here.


I hate discussions like this. All this nonsense about feminism being this or not being that. I wonder how many people participating in this thread have actually read any of the works of some of the more important feminists of the past few decades? Probably very, very few if any. Its amazing how everybody feels they are entitled to an opinion, yet at the same time feel no obligation to make sure said opinion is informed. Most of what I have read in this thread is pure BS by people who have absolutely no idea what feminism is.

Most of these posts read like they are simply people repeating the moronic ramblings of the pundits they see on TV or hear on the radio. Not surprising, since his is what usually passes for debate amongst the mentally stunted these days. And yes, if you are reading this and are one of those who hasn't actualy read a feminist but still thinks you know about feminism, then you are indeed mentally stunted.


Emotion, assertion, personal attack.... Don't tell me it's B.S., prove it's B.S. If you can't form a coherent argument, then who's mentally stunted? I do agree with you, though, that "Its amazing how everybody feels they are entitled to an opinion, yet at the same time feel no obligation to make sure said opinion is informed." But you are making some dangerous and unfounded assumptions here about who is informed about what. Same old "If your position is not mine, you are not informed" argument.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 185 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 11:36:45 AM
Many men on this thread have not even listened to what the women are saying here..


If you want to be heard, EARN the right to be heard by making a decent argument. State your thesis and support it with facts. That's what an "educated" person does.


But most men here think they know the "reality" of what its like being a woman in this patriarchal system but most really havent a clue and wont get a clue because they wont stop to get off their high horse and listen to whats being said...Womens' reality of what happens needs to be listened to and accepted...Its not YOUR reality , your life so accept it and deal with if you want to have a life with a woman..


Relativist fallacy. "It may be true for you, but it's not for me." Nonsense. True is true and false is false, period. "You're not taking us seriously because we're women!" No, I'm not taking you seriously because your arguments have not earned you the privelege of being taken seriously.


Its amazing that my sexy guy Im dating understands that perfectly.... As a feminist, Im no threat to his ego because hes a mature man secure in his masculinity that understands the plight of women and doesnt need to argue, minimize or get defensive.....He doesnt need to "best" women in order to feel like a man..And under no circumstances would he ever defend domestic violence or argue women/the society/the courts are the cause of that.....He takes responsibility for his actions and expects other men to do as well....Several here could learn some lessons from him


Personal attack. You cannot support your position, so you imply that ours is based in some sort of insecurity about our manhood, and that if we were real men, we wouldn't believe as we do.

And so we continue. Emotion, emotion, emotion, emotion. How about some logic?
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 181 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 11:24:33 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^AUGH ~ talk about off-topic. Spewing such idiocies in a thread about feminism....take it to private email....some of us want to discuss feminism. Not rape, sodomy, domestic violence or the weather. This is nothing more than an example of how NOT to debate a subject!!! (And, at least this topic is reasonably discussable. Versus the usual "who is cheating on who" threads) all the good threads get high-jacked with this bs. PRIVATE EMAIL is where you spew hate folks...

On topic: I just exerted my equal rights to voice my opinion. Like it or don't. Extremists are the real problem, as is evident right here. PFT...all of you need to take a college course or two in Women's Studies. Enlightenment makes for a much better discussion than Wikipedia and outdated website stats which are skewed depending upon which side one is on. Another good discussion turned into a battle of mysogomy and misandry.


More emotional tirade.

"Your words are hateful and wrong because they contradict what I believe! I cannot rebut your arguments, so I'll call you hateful extremists! Grrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!"

As I just said, emotional outbursts with no factual support are how NOT to debate a subject. Reasoned, supported arguments is how it is supposed to be done. Trying to discredit the factual support through ridicule and disparagement of the source does not change the fact that they are true. Are the statistics skewed? Prove it.

And again, the "enlightenment" argument. It's getting older, but not any better.

Domestic abuse and all of the other things you mentioned (except the weather) are intrinsically linked to feminism, and cogent to the discussion.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 177 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:47:44 AM
"using domestic violence as an "excuse" to destroy the family"...You are way off on that one...


http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,197550,00.html
http://www.lewrockwell.com/mcelroy/mcelroy45.html

The same study which found that a woman is abused by her spouse every 15 seconds, also found that a man is abused by his spouse every 14 seconds.[1]

In the USA, wives or girlfriends assault 2 million men every year, 1.8 million women are assaulted by their spouses or boyfriends.[2]

54% of all domestic violence termed 'severe' is committed by women against their husbands or boyfriends.[3]

Over 2/3 of the child abuse committed by a parent is committed by the mother.[4]

Mothers (55%) are more likely than fathers (45%) to murder their children.[5]

Mothers kill sons (64%) more often than daughters (36%) and 78% of the child victims are under age 11.[6]

A study of inner city child abuse found that 49% of all child abuse is committed by single parent mothers.[7]

Studies of domestic violence . . . . . have shown both sexes to be equally culpable. Some of the research, such as a recent Canadian national survey, "left out data on women abusing men... because it's politically embarrassing." [8]

Women and men are almost identical in terms of the frequency of attacks such a slapping, shoving, and kicking. [9]

The rate for assaults by wives is 124 per 1,000 couples, compared with 122 per 1,000 for assaults by husbands. [10]

The rate of minor assaults by wives was 78 per 1,000 couples, and the rate of minor assaults by husbands was 72 per 1,000. [11]

The rate for severe assaults is 46 per 1,000 couples for assaults by wives and 50 per 1,000 for assaults by husbands. [12] [Note: With respect to the preceding five items, Mr. Strauss wrote in the journal Issues in Definition and Measurement. "As these rates are based exclusively on information provided by women respondents, the near equality in assault rates cannot be attributed to a gender bias in reporting."]

Half of spousal murders are committed by wives, a statistic that has been stable over time. Wives reported that they were more often the aggressors. Using weapons to make up for physical disadvantage, they were not just fighting back. [13]

The Journal for the National Association of Social Workers found in 1986 that among teenagers who date, girls were violent more frequently than boys. [14]

Mothers abuse their children at a rate approaching twice that of fathers.[15]

ALL violence is responsible for about 3% of women's INJURY-RELATED visits to emergency rooms, and domestic violence for about 1%. Since fewer than a third of women's emergency-room visits are injury-related, this means that domestic violence accounts for fewer than 0.3% of these visits. While it is possible that some domestic violence cases were not identified in the study, it is noteworthy that its estimates include not only positively established but probable cases of violence from injuries. [16] [That means that even these low numbers are quite likely over-estimated with respect to them being caused by domestic violence -WHS]

The leading cause of injury, to both women and men, is accidental falls, followed by motor vehicle accidents. 13.6% of injuries to women seen in emergency room are from car accidents-a total of nearly 2 million, or almost 10 times the number of injuries from domestic violence. [17]

More than twice as many women visit emergency rooms due to being injured by an animal (459,000 a year) than by a male partner. [18]

The primary victims of interpersonal violence in the United States are men: Men account for 60% of patients with injuries from violence. [19]

Of the first hundred women coming into the first battered women's refuge in the world in Chiswick, London, 62 were as violent as the partner they left. [20]
--http://fathersforlife.org/fv/DV_news_letter_971223.htm

As I'm sure I've said before, no one is more sickened by TRUE violence against women than the chivalrous gentleman. "Never hit a girl" is one of the primary tenets of being a real man. But the supposed epidemic of men battering women because of their "Hate and out of control anger towards women" is a lie designed to foster hostility between the sexes and create anger to fuel feminist social change. See my previous post, which no one seems able to directly answer.


Women are not responsible for the actions of men nor are they required by "religion" to stay with an abuser in order to "keep" the marriage


You shouldn't tell people of other religions what their religions do and don't require. Some religions require just that, and others allow for a separation for abuse, but not a divorce. Be that as it may, I'm not sure what statement of mine you're responding to, here.


as well as women remaining a sick doormat by remaining in a violent marriage and exposing her children to the violence isnt "family values" nor is it healthy...Its pathology..Seen that many times as a therapist for 20 years and its no good for anyone...Unless you think 20 years of preventable trauma therapy for the victims is "good"


This is a straw man. You cannot dispute my actual argument, so you pretend I said something I didn't so you'll have something you can argue against.


Get educated


Here we are, back at the "I don't agree with you, so you are ignorant, because I am right and anyone who disagrees with me is uneducated" argument. I have argued with logic and reason, backed by supporting evidence. You have responded with emotion and assertion, backed by your own vague anecdotal experience. Who's educated here?


Protecting children agains sex offenders, isn't a result of feminism, it's the right thing to do. Rape/molestation is very serious and those who have been victims carry life long scars.


I guarantee no one is more horrified by sex offences against children than I am, and I am cautious to the point of overprotection with my own children. In fact, I lost a job teaching in a prison because I told a roomful of rapists and child molesters that their punishment was much less than they deserved, and that most of them deserved death. I think everyone convicted of molestation should be beaten to death, and I'd like to be the one to do it. All of that goes for rapists as well. What I'm talking about is the stigma that comes from the assumption that all men are potential molesters (since all men are inherently violent, evil monsters anyway; see my previous post) and that any time a man gets near a child not his own he must be viewed with suspicion and hostility. Here is one example: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,231238,00.html.


I just read a couple of Merfs posts.

She is correct in some things.


No, I don't see anything that she's right about. Especially this part: "this is NOT how you have intelligent discussion, or even simply useful discussion." Emotional outbursts with no factual support is not how you have intelligent discussion. Calm, logical, reasoned arguments supported by evidence is. If my arguments make people angry, that's their problem, not mine.


Brought to you by entities/people CLAIMING to be feminists. I think it should be obvious to just about anyone that women doing spiteful, mean things without any good/logical reasons are merely trying to excuse themselves with a claim of fighting for women's rights.

They aren't feminists, they're cretins.


I'm glad you agree about how bad they are. However, you are mistaken. They not only are feminists, they are the feminists who have written some of the core texts and defined what feminism is over the last 30-40 years. Check my list of quotes above.

I see only two rational choices for the thinking, unhateful person: Become an ifeminist, if you believe in the basic premise of J.S. Mill, that men and women are essentially the same, and almost all differences are social constructs. Or, if you hold more traditional views of the nature of men and women, like those taught in Christianity, reject feminism altogether, and embrace the full yin/yang interaction of masculinity and femininity. I choose the latter.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 172 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/26/2007 12:37:24 AM
To me, the most sickening example of this was Lorena Bobbit. (sp?) Not so much the fact that she got off, which was just your run-of-the-mill miscarriage of justice, but that she was praised as a heroine for what she did by feminists; a clear example of the kind of hatred expressed in the quotes I posted above.

Another example of gender inequity: Women are routinely advised to take out restraining orders against their husbands during a break-up, whether justified or not, just to add leverage to the woman's divorce case. This means that, even if the order is dismissed as groundless when it comes time for the hearing, there is forever a mark upon that man's record saying there was a case open against him for domestic violence. And in today's world, all a potential employer, girlfriend, adoption agency, etc., has to do is check the county records where the guy has lived, and he's a domestic abuser in their eyes.

Or the guy who was convicted of a sex offense for grabbing a teenage girl's arm and lecturing her on safety after she walked out in front of his car. I think it was in Chicago. Now he's an S.O. for life, and has to register everywhere he goes.

The most tragic example is the guy who didn't help the drowning child, in England I think, because he didn't want to be labeled a perv.

All of this brought to you by feminism. Stay tuned for more.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/25/2007 8:07:14 PM
Acknowledged. And I, for one, am doing my best to do so. It is hard, though, when there are so many legal and social handicaps that are in place to try to keep us from doing exactly that. That is why I don't advocate a "men's rights" movement. I think men should just start being men again, and that most women will naturally follow our example. It's just that we've got to discredit all of these lies that have become embedded in our societal consciousness, and move back toward some sanity in politics, the legal system, and especially the education system (I mean, seriously, look at merf's post above. These are the people that are shaping the young minds of our nation!)
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 224 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/25/2007 7:38:12 PM
Except you do attack people personally, and are now a liar on top of everything else. You're so blinded by your neo conservative/racist/sexist views, that anybody who disagrees with you is insufferable rude and arrogant


No, I freely admit that I was attacking you personally. Insufferably rude and arrogant means someone who says things like this:


You see all countries have these "borders" so Canada's southern border is your northern border.

I can't believe I'm explaining this to an adult.

Ever wonder what all those little (per 100,000) things you see when you look at stats pages mean?

Anyway, I'm sick of refuting this inane post fact by fact. I can destroy this with one simple statement.

Post Hoc, Ergo Propter Hoc.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post_hoc_ergo_propter_hoc

Just because it came after, doesn't mean a damn thing. Especially because it's so easy to list countries that this DIDN'T happen.

"maby" I do, or maybe I read very quickly, and maybe this is a field in which I studied. But I guess you probably hold my education against me. Your type usually does.

Also don't blame me that some logical fallicies are refered to by their latin names, it's not my fault you suffer from ant-intellectualism, I hardly named the things. You're appeals to emotion and personal attacks don't make your possition any stronger. They just indicate your own inability to deal with statistics.

Yes I remember in nazi germany and cambodia how it started, first they came for the people who defended themselves against home invaders..... PLEASE. Some perspective here.

Plus, I'm not taking it out of context, if I'm making you look like a fool, it has to do with what you're saying, you don't need any help.

As for anti-intellectualism by the way...


Anti-intellectualism describes a sentiment of hostility towards, or mistrust of, intellectuals and intellectual pursuits. This may be expressed in various ways, such as attacks on the merits of science, education, or literature.

It's a well-known phenomenon. Glad I could educate you about it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-intellectualism


And what happened to:


Fine, you know what? You have nothing to add to the conversation, and frankly its not worth going through your arguments point by point. Instead, I'll just report you for your (see I know which your to use) direct personal attack, and you can deal with any consequences, in the meantime, this snot nosed brat of a loser is doing the mature thing, and ignoring your posts.


?

You need to just let it go. I was going to leave you alone, but if you continue, we're going to get this thread deleted.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 160 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/25/2007 7:00:50 PM
I see that rather than debating with logic and reason, the feminists are responding with emotion and assertion. What a surprise. Ah, well, you can use words like "hogwash" and "B.S." Well, you must be right, then. Why don't you try refuting some of the facts here, "Professor," instead of just making a blanket statement that we're all too stupid for you to waste your time with us? I think what you're actually suffering from is shock, that anyone can actually hold such "wrong" beliefs, because you've been too long in your protected microcosm of liberal academia, where no one is allowed to speak such blasphemy.


everyone here talks about "those extremists" who took feminism in the wrong direction, but no one has named these man hating extremist 'b*tches' -- and why? because they can't. because they don't know what they're talking about. because they don't know who these extremists are. because they do not exist. because these posters listen to rush limbaugh and his 'femi nazi' rhetoric and then THINK they know something about feminism. when what they KNOW is precisely nothing.


How about these?


"I feel that 'man-hating' is an honorable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them." -- Robin Morgan, Ms. Magazine Editor.

"To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he's a machine, a walking dildo." -- Valerie Solanas

"I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig." -- Andrea Dworkin

"When a woman reaches orgasm with a man she is only collaborating with the patriarchal system, eroticizing her own oppression." -- Sheila Jeffrys

"All sex, even consensual sex between a married couple, is an act of violence perpetrated against a woman." -- Catherine MacKinnon

"The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men." -- Sharon Stone

"The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at approximately 10% of the human race." -- Sally Miller Gearhart

"If life is to survive on this planet, there must be a decontamination of the Earth. I think this will be accompanied by an evolutionary process that will result in a drastic reduction of the population of males." -- Mary Daly, former Professor at Boston College, 2001.

"Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometimes gain from the experience." - Catherine Comins

"All men are rapists and that's all they are" -- Marilyn French

"Probably the only place where a man can feel really secure is in a maximum security prison, except for the imminent threat of release." -- Germaine Greer

"Men's sexuality is mean and violent, and men so powerful that they can 'reach WITHIN women to ****/construct us from the inside out.' Satan-like, men possess women, making their wicked fantasies and desires women's own. A woman who has sex with a man, therefore, does so against her will, 'even if she does not feel forced." -- Judith Levine

"All men are good for is ****ing, and running over with a truck". Statement made by A University of Maine Feminist Administrator, quoted by Richard Dinsmore, who brought a successful civil suit against the University in the amount of $600,000. Richard had protested the quote; was dismissed thereafter on the grounds of harassment; and responded by bringing suit against the University. 1995 settlement.

"Women have their faults / men have only two: / everything they say / everything they do." -- Popular Feminist Graffiti

"I've reached the point where I'm no longer afraid of or irritated with men who are proud of their masculinity." -- Trille Nielsen

“Men are from another planet, sent here by spaceships to copulate with female earthlings and propagate the species—a task for which science has rendered them all but redundant. We need keep only a handful of donors on a sperm farm for that purpose, where they can subsist on pizza and beer” -- Columnist Rosie DiManno

“Only when manhood is dead--and it will perish when ravaged femininity no longer sustains it” -- Andrea Dworkin

"Perhaps the most compelling question these texts raise and leave unanswered is whether male violence can be eliminated without eliminating men..." -- Susan Stone-Blackburn

“We must startle them (flush them out) again and again and destroy them as a power, until even their last voice falls silent... when we have destroyed the cell of family, the heterosexual norm ... as our contribution to world events (world history)” -- Françoise d'Eaubonne

"I do want to be able to explain to a 9-year-old boy in terms he will understand why I think it's OK for girls to wear shirts that revel in their superiority over boys." -- Treena Shapiro

"In general, I support a girl's right to offend any member of the opposite sex who happens to cross her path. In fact, I'd much rather see a little girl wearing a shirt that mocks boys than one that turns them on." -- Treena Shapiro

"I believe that women have a capacity for understanding and compassion which a man structurally does not have, does not have it because he cannot have it. He's just incapable of it." -- Former Congresswoman Barbara Jordan

"Heterosexual intercourse is the pure, formalized expression of contempt for women's bodies." -- Andrea Dworkin

"And if the professional rapist is to be separated from the average dominant heterosexual male, it may be mainly a quantitative difference." -- Susan Griffin "Rape: The All-American Crime"

"The institution of sexual intercourse is anti-feminist" -- Ti-Grace Atkinson "Amazon Odyssey" (p. 86)




people say "feminism is inherently sexist" -- that is perhaps the funniest wrong thing which has been said here, LOL -- yes sure, if you feel that a movement for which the aim is to establish equality between the sexes is SEXIST, uh er ummmm sure..


See above. I think people can deduce for themselves whether feminism is really interested in equality, or in female superiority.


the misinformation? the obvious biases? the hostility? the shockingly faulty logic? the downright dumb thinking? all these things (and more!) have made it so that this thread gets my vote for the stupidest POF thread in the history of POF discussion forums. i have never read postings on any single thread that have been this stupid, this wrong or this uninformed in combination with being so sure of themselves and so brazenly opinionated.


What was that my mother used to say, about the pot and the kettle? Faulty logic? How can you talk about faulty logic when you're using NO logic?
"Uninformed" - translation - "I don't agree with your philosophy, therefore you are not informed, because my philosophy is correct, and anyone who disagrees with it must be ignorant."


are you kidding me? you think it is MY job to educate a bunch of people who are hostile to feminism and are ALREADY sure they know what it is? already think it means being a man hating extremist? puhleez!!!!


Uhh..., didn't you just say you were a teacher? Umm, when I was a teacher, I thought my job was to teach. Silly of me, I guess.


It is all equally important..Ive agreed with several wrong things about militant man haters with men here but I dont see acknowledgement of that or them coming around to what Ive said...So if anything, Ive accepted THEIR reality but they havent accepted MINE.....Stop being so defensive and LISTEN to whats being said....The difference is my truth as a woman and many women here isnt being heard or listened to by many men here.....THATS the problem...It has nothing to do with whether or not someone agrees with me...It has to do with whether or not they are being heard....So far, few men here understand that..


You are arguing the "middle ground" fallacy here, Garden. I won't meet you halfway because I'm already right. However,


Everyone wants to feel protected and cared for, thats a given..But I will second that one on the "lead" thing ... For the most part thats a bunch of BS.... Men being dominant is fine and desirable some of time as long as I can be dominant some of the time also....Otherwise its a slippery slope where somehow Im "expected" to be passive when I dont want to be and the man is supposed to be "dominant" when he doesnt want to be.....It should be a give and take... As far as making my own choices and living my own life, I dont want anyone leading me except myself....My man can give me advice and I can CHOOSE to follow it or not...The ultimate decision is mine....Not be bound by some archaic rule that states I have to be passive and listen to him cos hes the man and has to lead over me BS.....If my own father and past work supervisors had trouble "leading" me, what makes you think you are gonna have an easier time?...lol...I ask the men here:..Would you want a woman constantly leading you and telling you what to do??...I thought so.....I think thats called being "henpecked"....Ironically some claim thats what feminism does to them....So why do you expect women to want that?...Im no different from you in that matter and dont like it either....And it has never compromised my femininity.....Surprise!.


I will say that the part about male leadership is a religious conviction, and therefore is something that needs to be determined by individual couples. What I insist upon, however, is social and legal recognition that the majority of us (82% of Americans self-identify as Christians as of 2002 -- http://www.adherents.com/rel_USA.html) hold these beliefs and that we have the moral and legal right to adhere to them--publicly and privately.

The one type of feminism with which I could peacefully coexist is ifeminism: http://www.ifeminists.net. Although I still disagree with their basic premise (see my post here: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/5624061datingPostpage11.aspx), they are at least logical and fair, and reject the use of political correctness, man-hating, using "domestic violence" as an excuse to destroy the family, etc.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 220 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:05:54 PM

feanor I must point out that "liberal" is not an insult it is only an ideology different from your own. Conservative or "neo-con" is actually more of an insult denoting a person that sticks to a flawed thhinking for no better reason than "this is the way it has always been", which would leave you with slaves and women with no vote still.


1. a person who favors an economic theory of laissez-faire and self-regulating markets

2.a person who favors a political philosophy of progress and reform and the protection of civil liberties.


Arguing the semantics of the word liberal is getting off-topic. Suffice it to say that I am using the word in its current, political sense; i.e., someone with a Marxist or pseudo-Marxist political ideology, usually espousing such things as feminism, gay rights, gun-control, abortion, weak foreign policy, and weak law enforcement/corrections. I am aware of its other meanings. In 1776, I would have been a Liberal, because it meant something completely different, in political and moral terms, than it does now. If you want to continue this debate, start another thread and I'll engage you on it if you wish.


Your points lack
1 facts to back them up


What are all of those historical facts I included, then? What about the direct quotes from the Constitution and Declaration of Independence? Or the summary of American militia law from a world-respected military website?


2 even a modicum of a semi-informed view


Translation: "I don't agree with your philosophy, therefore you are not informed, because my philosophy is correct, and anyone who disagrees with it must be ignorant."
Charles can probably tell you which logical fallacy you are engaging in here.


3 sound reasonning


Continuation of the same reasoning as #2.


(which you seem to try to cover up by attacking anyone that opposes your view)


No, I only attack people who are insufferably rude and arrogant, and cannot debate civilly and rationally. Sometimes people take direct refutation of their positions as attack, when it is not so intended. Just because I attack your position does not mean I am attacking you personally.


I have never seen a gun or know of anyone that has one. Can you say the same???


You say this as if it is indisputable evidence of your moral superiority. No, I cannot say the same, nor would I want to. I have carried and used guns while I was putting my life in harm's way in defense of liberty and freedom, and in defense of the innocent and the victimized. Have you ever hazarded your life for anyone else's sake? That also goes for those who would label me as neo-nazi, fascist, etc. I value liberty enough to give my life for it, even if it's not my own, or even that of my own people. Do you?

In the end, JerryinTampa is absolutely correct. Without the protection of men with guns, none of you would be enjoying the luxury of sitting at your computers talking about how bad men with guns are.


Then there are those of us who dare to choose to work to help create a better world. We refuse to resign ourselves to eternal strife and instead choose to believe that all those extra brain cells we cart around just might be able to one day create a society where violence is as socially unacceptable as slavery has become. Personally I see a whole lot more liberty in that world.


I think you've found the heart of the matter, there. Those of you who think that everyone is basically good, and would live in peace and harmony if given a chance, are naïve, unrealistic dreamers. It sounds nice, and I acknowledge that many of you have good motives, but the evidence from 6,000 years of recorded history contradicts your position in no uncertain terms. There will always be bad men who wish to hurt, to kill, to take, and to conquer, and so there must always be good men who are willing to fight them. And the good men must be armed. That utopian society thing has been tried many times before, and has always failed. Remember the Soviet Union?
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 202 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/25/2007 2:19:15 PM

Gee, I thought a well regulated malitia meant just that-well regulated.

Yes there was no national guard at the time. Does that make one unconstitutional? Or not the "well regulated militia" governments are wont to support.


You should read the posts that have already been made. The militia includes, by law, all able-bodied males.


and until you stop listening to the silly nonsense about the world wanting to invade you and take all your rights away, therre is no real hope of you ever ending the violence you purpetrate on each other. My reason for having an interest is this madness is creeping across the border and our kids are adopting your stupid ideas.


How about a prisoner exchange? You can have all of our liberals, and we'll take all of your people who have "adopted [our] stupid ideas".
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 146 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/25/2007 2:03:55 PM
The feminists here are using the same tired and discredited rhetoric that we have been force-fed over the last 30 or so years. Read this article "Eleven Cognitive Biases that Help Sustain the Anti-male Double Standard in Society" on a feminist website for details. http://www.ifeminists.net/e107_plugins/content/content.php?content.110

Male class oppression of females as a class is a fiction fabricated by feminists to create emotional outrage, thereby giving power to their movement. If you're going to try to start a war or revolution, you've got to create an enemy and get people angry. Think of Pearl Harbor; Americans didn't want to enter the war until we were attacked, then public outcry demanded that we fight, and that anger carried us through the entire Pacific War.

The basic premise underlying the "patriarchy" theories cited above is that men are inherently violent, oppressive rapists and abusers, and cannot be trusted with responsible positions in society. Wars are the result of inbred male aggression, and if women were in charge, there would be no wars. Guns are phallic symbols of male dominance, aggression, and violence, and are to be shunned. Domestic violence and sexual assault are systematic methods of male oppression to keep women in servitude and fear. Economic oppression of the poor and minorities is the result of the male competitive drive to succeed and accumulate wealth and power. Blah, blah, blah, etc., etc. We've heard it all for all of our lives, and for the last 30 years it has dominated all public discourse.

The problem is that none of it stands up to scrutiny. All of these arguments, and all discourse in the public arena (especially including public school and college classrooms) begins with the assumption that all of these things are true, and proceeds from there, never bothering to prove that it is so. The best proof they can offer is skewed statistics that the feminists, themselves, have constructed to fit their theories.
http://www.wendymcelroy.com/ifeminists/2004/0421.html. Again, from a feminist.

In other words, their entire argument is assertion and appeals to emotion. They assert that these these are true over and over until the assertion has been repeated so often that people come to accept it. Reminds me of Hitler's philosophy: If you're going to lie, lie big and repeat it often. That may be a paraphrase. Then they use the now-accepted assertions to stir up emotion, by which they can initiate action to implement their agendas.

Are there abusive men, rapists, and violent criminals? Yes. But they no more represent men as a class than radical lesbian feminists represent women as a class. Most men loathe and abhor the abusers, rapists, etc. And back when the family and the "patriarchy" were still intact, men had ways of dealing with those type of men that were much more effective that what we've got today.

Consider objectively: Has domestic violence increased or decreased since the advent of radical feminism? Rape? Violent crime? Are the majority of men and women more or less happy and satisfied with their lives? The truth is that women are hard-wired to want men who will lead, protect, and care for them. Down in the core of their being, they want to be feminine, and to be in the company of strong, masculine men. Do some research on the need of women to be dominated sexually. There was just a story in the news about some actress who was desperate for that. No, not abused, just having a man who will take charge.

I can already hear the hysterical shrieking in response to this post, so let me address some of your accusations preemptively. No, I do not advocate the jerkoff chauvinist model of marriage ("Get me another beer, woman!"). No, I do not advocate abuse of women. No, I do not advocate "rape fantasies," S&M, or any of that sickness. I advocate strong, chivalrous gentlemen treating their wives (and the other women in their lives) with courtesy, respect, consideration, and especially love. I advocate those men going out of their way to do things for their women, because they love them and want to protect them, provide for them, and make them happy. I advocate those women accepting those gestures from their men, and giving, in return, the love, respect, and support that only a woman can give a man. I advocate a return to family, to commitment, to societal standards of decent behavior, and to the expectation that a man should be a gentleman and a woman should be a lady.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 186 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:53:52 PM
"Americans" is the name by which we call ourselves, and we don't care to have dictated to us by others what we may or may not name our people and our country. It has always been America and Americans, and we are not changing it now. Canadians and Mexicans can rightly be called "North Americans", but we are not going to change our name at this late date because the rest of you have now decided that you want in on it, too. What do you suggest? U.S.ians? United Statesians? North America and South America are continents. America is the short form of the name for the U.S.A.

You misquoted the Bill of Rights. Here is what it actually says:

"A well regulated militia being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the People to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed."

It does not say that the militia is the only reason for the People to keep and bear arms. And the reasoning is closely linked to the language of the Declaration of Independence which says, "That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness."

The militia is not just the National Guard. The militia is the call-up of every able-bodied man in the country for national defense.

"Total Mobilization: Once a state of national emergency exists, Congress can extend full mobilization by activating and organizing additional units beyond the currently approved force structure. Total mobilization brings the industrial base up to full capacity to provide the additional resources, equipment and production facilities needed to support the armed forces of the nation, as done in World War II. Total mobilization involves not only the A(ctive) C(omponent) and R(eserve) C(omponent) but the entire Militia of the United States. The Militia of the United States consists of the Organized Militia and the Unorganized Militia. The Organized Militia consists of the National Guard and the Naval Militia. The Unorganized Militia consists of every able-bodied male citizen or person wishing to be a citizen between the ages of 17 and 45 as well as female members of the National Guard. Exceptions to this are: The Vice President, Judicial & Executive officers of the United States, territories and Puerto Rico; postal employees/contractors; custom house agents; workers in armories, a***nals and naval shipyards; pilots on navigable waterways and mariners in the sea service of a citizen, or a merchant in, the United States"
--http://www.globalsecurity.org/military/agency/army/usar-mob.htm

This means that every able-bodied man in the United States has a responsibility to be armed and prepared to act in national defense. Yes, it's highly unlikely that it will happen in the near future, but it's part of our heritage, and there may come a time when it is needed. Does the government have enough obsolete M16A1s, M16s, M14s, and M1s to arm every able-bodied man in America? Maybe. I don't know how many have been warehoused and how many have been sold or destroyed. But in a true emergency, how will they be distributed? And just knowing that this provision and tradition exists is a deterrent to any would-be aggressor. Very much like in Switzerland. Why does everyone leave Switzerland alone? Because they've learned, through history, that the people are too stubborn and it's not worth the cost in lives, manpower, and money it would take to conquer and occupy the country. And everyone knows that every able-bodied man in the country is a militiaman waiting to be called up.


Yes a very christian attitude you have there.

but hey, if you think that insults from a sexist, overweight, neonazi really hurt my feelings you misunderstand. Anybody who equates tyranny to liberalism (it's root word is liberty) and then states that amnesty international is a liberal organization (and therefore tyrannical) obviously lives in some alternate dimension, we can't communicate because I don't think the words I'm using and you're using mean the same thing.


I thought you were ignoring me? Don't stop now, I was just starting to enjoy it.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 129 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:15:14 PM
A lot of this has already been covered in this thread, especially in the last few pages:

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5624061.aspx
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 180 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/24/2007 10:38:56 PM

You have nothing to add to the conversation, and frankly its not worth going through your arguments point by point. Instead, I'll just report you for your (see I know which your to use) direct personal attack, and you can deal with any consequences, in the meantime, this snot nosed brat of a loser is doing the mature thing, and ignoring your posts.


Good, because your arguments are becoming increasingly inane as you desperately grasp at straws trying to prove how smart you are. And, frankly, I'm becoming quite bored with you. And, in case you want to learn something from this, it was your insulting behaviour towards other people that made me go after you like I did.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 173 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:19:50 PM

Oh, I see your indulging in the classic I know what you are but what am I defense. Brilliant.


You seem to believe that sarcasm lends weight to your arguments, but it really only supports mine: that you are an insufferable prig. What you are engaging in is the classic "If I throw out an accusation first, then engage in that very behavior, then I can't be accused of it in return because it will look like he's just copying me" offense. Yes, I am mocking you. And it's "you're" not "your", Mr. Intellectual.


Way to throw the "liberal" term around like it's an insult.


I'm glad to see you actually understood something I said. "Liberal" is an insult exactly as are its synonyms "Socialist," "Communist," and "Marxist," as well as the related terms "Totalitarian," and "Tyranny".


Hmmm maybe this?


That was a rhetorical question. I assume you know what that is?


You know, where he seems to hold my knowledge of statistics against me? Don't let get in the way of you rant however. Lets continue.


You included that in one of your attacks on me. Get your facts straight. And it's "your", not "you", and "let's", not "lets". And you said "Don't let get in the way..."


Your constitution came into operation in 1789.


Yes, and before that we were operating on a provisional democratic government, beginning in 1776. The French democracy didn't reach its final, permanent form until 1870. And I wouldn't exactly call the tyrannical despotism of post-revolutionary France a democracy, either. Unless you're using the term "democracy" in the same sense that it was used by the German Democratic Republic, i.e., as a euphemism for socialist tyranny. Is it just plain denial, or are you really having that much trouble with chronology? 1776 came 13 years before 1789. And even if you weren't skipping the 13 years of provisional democratic government before the adoption of the Constitution, you'd still be wrong. The U.S. Constitution went into effect March 4, 1789. The storming of the Bastille was July 14, 1789. Perhaps you are the one who needs to study history.


Like white land owning free males? Oops! that was your countries requirement. Both of you massively restricted the franchise. The Greeks had the excuse that they did it thousands of years earlier. Nice try though. (also restricting it to "modern" times doesn't change the fact that you were not the first)


I didn't say we didn't have a hegemony, just that the Greeks' was narrower. You're still using the same tired tricks. And it's "country's", not "countries", and you missed several commas and capitalizations.


Simple logic doesn't make it true logic, you can't show causation, because as I said many countries have banned firearms (and some for literally decades) without becoming totalitarian. While other rather nasty regimes have a massive gun culture. Iraq, Iran. Afghanistan. For somebody who states logic, you don't seem to understand the post hoc fallacy.

http://www.nizkor.org/features/fallacies/post-hoc.html

Just because it came before in some cases, doesn't mean it's a step towards it. No more than massively chaotic failed states require a lack of weapons control.

Plus, I'm not taking it out of context, if I'm making you look like a fool, it has to do with what you're saying, you don't need any help.


For the third time , I'm not claiming to show direct causation. Again, you're trying to put words in my mouth that you can contradict, rather than addressing my actual thesis. Anger is a step toward, and a warning sign of, murder, but it doesn't ALWAYS lead to it. Lust is the same for adultery, but doesn't always lead there. But anger and lust should nevertheless be viewed with caution and sometimes alarm. I've made this point abundantly clear, and I think everyone reading this who's not in denial (like you) can see that, so I will not make it again.


See above. You don't actually make your argument any stronger by repeating yourself. Gun control no more leads to totalitarianism than lack of fire arm control is a step on the process to the USA becoming a chaotic hell hole such as Sierra Leon in the late 90s, or Afghanistan as it is now. (Read the link to the logic page)


"Massively chaotic failed states" are an entirely different matter, since they suffer from too little government rather than too much. But I guarantee I'd also want to own guns if I lived in one of those. Private gun ownership, alone, does not ensure domestic tranquility. It is simply one element in the equation, and same is true of restricting private gun ownership and totalitarianism. "Firearm" is one word, and it's "Sierra Leone".


Ok you don't like my posting style, that’s your right, although for somebody who was just ****ing about personal attacks, you sure don't have a problem with throwing them around, but conservatives are all about the hypocrisy these days. I personally appreciate links when somebody makes a claim, or statement. I'm sorry that me showing sources and information on why a person is wrong offends you so much.


I'm not "****ing" about personal attacks, just pointing out what a hypocrite you are for criticizing someone else for them while engaging in them yourself. And you didn't post a reference or citation to support your argument, you posted a link to explain to everyone a term you used, and which you assumed that no one else would understand, to show how clever you are.

As for anti-intellectualism by the way...

Anti-intellectualism describes a sentiment of hostility towards, or mistrust of, intellectuals and intellectual pursuits. This may be expressed in various ways, such as attacks on the merits of science, education, or literature.

It's a well-known phenomenon. Glad I could educate you about it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-intellectualism

Your mistake here is in assuming that you are intellectually superior and more educated than anyone else in the discussion. You are a fool, and an arrogant fool at that, to make such an assumption. You have no idea who any of us are, or what our education or I.Q.s may be, nor how well-read and informed we are. I'm guessing here that, in your smug naïveté, you are equating "intellectualism" with liberalism, following the rhetoric with which you were indoctrinated which speaks of Marxists as "enlightened", and those who reject it as uninformed.


Oh I don't claim our history is perfect by any means, although we did end slavery decades before you, (and peacefully, no nasty civil war for us) White women were free not to vote or have any political office. Free blacks were free to be treated horribly and not to vote.

As for natives? Well there is a reason that the native population is a concern in Canada and not in the USA. While we have mistreated them (and it is tragic) we didn't take to exterminating them with quite the gusto your country has. This is a tu quoque logical fallacy by the way. My country could have shot democracy loving, African American Jews in the face and it wouldn't make your history any better than it is, or change the fact that the Greeks beat you to democracy.


Free to live and pursue happiness, and free to vote are not the same thing. My point here is not that your mistakes make ours any better, but "Let him who is without sin cast the first stone."


Hmmmmm seems to me I responded exactly to what you said. That people being put in prison for using guns to defend their lives and property is the beginning of totalitarianism. Don't blame me if when I reflect that back to you it looks foolish or stupid. *I* was being sarcastic.


Again, you are either dishonest or stupid. In the very text that you quoted from my post, I stated that my argument is:

that disarming citizens is necessary to make oppression workable, because you can't engage in the kind of mass arrests and murder in the streets that the Nazis and Khmer Rouge did if all of those citizens are armed. Or at least, not so easily.

Yet, you insist that my argument is:

That people being put in prison for using guns to defend their lives and property is the beginning of totalitarianism.

As I pointed out before, you have to try to change my words into something that you can respond to, because you cannot refute my actual argument.


Supreme court, Majority white male. Every president, White male. Congress and Senate, Majority white male. Wealthiest group in North America? White male.

Feel free to be concerned.


http://www.foxnews.com/column_archive/0,2976,13,00.html

Or run a search on the Duke Lacrosse case. Just a few examples among the many.


I love how you falsely imply that anybody who doesn't agree with the current administration doesn't love America. Here is a link to the fallacy you're using in this segment by the way, because I know how much you appreciate them.

http://www.nizkor.org/features/fallacies/poisoning-the-well.html


I imply no such thing. Once again, you are putting words into my mouth. My statement is much more general than that, encompassing the sacrifices we've made during previous wars as well.


I guess the right to due process and facing your accuser and not being held without charge isn't considered a pressing issue for you. Also, lack of due process is what has led to innocent people being mistreated in Guantanamo Bay and Abu Ghraib.


Due process is for citizens, residents, and guests, not for enemy combatants. Enemies of the U.S. are not entitled to the protection of its laws. They are under a different set of rules, called the Geneva Convention. They don't need to be charged with anything, because they are captured in the act of bearing arms against, or aiding and abetting the enemies of, the United States. But since you don't recognize the right of individuals to defend themselves, why would you recognize the right of nations to do the same?


I find it interesting that the same groups that have been doing their best to reduce the excesses of various horrible regimes throughout the world such as Amnesty International and the Red Cross, are now expressing concerns about your own treatment of prisoners. Apparently your love of your country is best expressed through the gradual destruction of your freedoms through the patriot act.


The Red Cross and Amnesty International are both liberal organizations. Although they both do some good work in the world, they also have a political agenda. And neither of those organizations has freed as many people as the U.S. Army. As for the Patriot Act, I do have some concerns about it, but not as many as about RICO, "hate crime" legislation, and gun control.


awwww I'm your enemy? Wow you take posts in web forums rather seriously. I find it amusing that you complained about other countries restricting free speech, but now apparently you think we don't have the right to be critical of your country? Sorry, but your on a Canadian owned companies webpage, and the Internet is a great venue for international communication. Maybe you should ask yourself if you love your country so much, why do you think it's so fragile it can't take a little foreign criticism?


I am not your enemy because of a forum post. I am your enemy because you represent a worldview and political philosophy which is a threat to the things that I hold dear: my faith, my family, my country, and my freedom. In my estimation, liberalism (aka Marxism, socialism, communism, or whatever euphemism you want to use) is a bigger threat to us than radical Islam is now, or National Socialism ever was.

On another note,


Ok so no one outside of Rwanda should worry about the tribal violence, or Somalia (wait you meddled there didn't you), or Vietnam (my bad you meddled in their "internal affairs" aswell), or Iran or Iraq (Oh wait you are still meddling in Iraq and were gearring up for Iran until the bested you in a poker hand with the Brits).


Vast difference here. We act to aid those who need (and want) our help, because we have the strength to do so. But, like Livefire said above, we're not telling you that Canada needs to repeal its gun control legislation. Keep it, if you want. Just don't try to tell us we've got to do the same. It's not your business.

And, speaking of Livefire, he has better kept his emotions in check than I have, and makes some good points. I am justly rebuked. I do not hate Canada, the U.K., Australia, France, etc. I have visited all of them except Australia, and have lived in Europe on three different occasions, and loved them all. They are our brothers in democracy, as is the rest of Western Europe and Japan. Furthermore, the British, Canadians, Australians, and French have stood beside us in some of our hardest and most desperate battles. My anger is directed, not towards the people of those nations, but towards the Marxists in all of them, as well as our own. Unfortunately, they seem to constitute a majority in most of those other countries, and that concerns me, not only because it isolates us, but because I care about the people in those countries. We may have been first in modern democracy, but our culture, our religion, and the ideas upon which our democracy is based all came from Europe, as did we. And, of course, how could I be anti-European, when I am myself of European descent? Their history is our history, and if I am a bit hard on France, it is because I am of French descent, and am disappointed in the direction they have now taken. But, no excuses; I extend my apology to those who were the undeserving targets of my anger.

And, of course, those of you who have pointed out that you have a right to express concern are correct. I was hasty and general in what I said before. What you don't have the (moral) right to do, although you do have the legal right, is to engage in the type of smug, superior, self-important, condescending attacks that are coming from the idiot to whom most of this post is addressed. If you want to discuss these things rationally and in good fellowship, you are welcome. But if you are a 27-year-old snot-nosed brat of a loser who is so foolish as to consider himself the smartest person around, then you should really go learn some wisdom and humility to go with your modest knowledge of the liberal arts.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 149 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/23/2007 9:53:26 PM
You are engaging in the usual liberal tactic of misquoting, editing, and, to use your own words, "appeals to emotion". One of the favorite tricks of the accomplished liar is to accuse his enemy of the thing which he is, himself, guilty.


"maby" I do, or maybe I read very quickly, and maybe this is a field in which I studied. But I guess you probably hold my education against me. Your type usually does.


If this isn't a personal attack, what is?


The french beat you by several years. (Despite you calling them liars, oddly enough)


In which calendar does 1789 come before 1776?


and the greeks beat you by several thousand years.


You decided to overlook the fact that I clearly said "in the modern world". And Greek democracy was much different from American democracy. You speak of ours as a hegemony of white males, but the Greek democracy was a much narrower hegemony, with only certain social classes being entitled to its freedoms.


of course the actual laws don't corespond to the years you're putting forward, they're off by several decades. Many of those restrictions were put on by democratic instutions.


Again, you cannot argue my actual point, so you take a piece of it out of context and act like you're saying something original. The gun control laws would have to be passed by democratic (or otherwise pre-totalitarian) institutions, because the gun control is a step ON THE WAY to totalitarianism. It's quite simple logic, really, and since you've apparently studied logic, I'll assume that you're being intentionally obtuse in order to be dishonest in your arguments.


You claim there is a pattern, well I showed you a counter pattern. The simple fact is is that many countries have existed in democracies with firearms restrictions for many decades and none of these countries have suddenly become totalitarian.


Your logic contradicts itself here. You point out that the gun laws predate the oppressions, sometimes by over a decade, then derisively say that none of these countries have "suddenly" become totalitarian. But your own argument shows that it is a PROCESS, not a sudden event. You also, again, choose to ignore the part of my post that acknowledges that the gun-control is not THE immediate and only causative factor in this process, but rather a symptom and one of its enabling steps.


Also don't blame me that some logical fallicies are refered to by their latin names, it's not my fault you suffer from ant-intellectualism, I hardly named the things.


No, you didn't name them, but that wasn't my point, was it? My point was that your conspicuous and vain use of the term (including a link for us poor, undereducated buffoons and a condescending explanation) shows that your opinion of your own intellectual ability is much higher than your actual command of logic (and grammar) justify, and that you are an arrogant, pretentious ass. As for "ant-intellectualism" as you call it (is that some sort of anti-formian remark?) I hardly need to respond to such childish and unsupported insults. By the way, if you make fun of other people's spelling and grammar, you should probably check your own writing before you post it.


You're appeals to emotion and personal attacks don't make your possition any stronger. They just indicate your own inability to deal with statistics.


Where, exactly, did I make an appeal to emotion? I expressed some of my own, at the end, but that's hardly part of my argument. And, pardon me, statistics? To what statistics are you referring? Do you need me to point you to a Wikipedia article with the definition of the word? And, again the personal attacks that you act as if you are above.


Well except for the blacks. and women, and well you know....


See comments on hegemony, above. Also, I notice that you don't mention the Indians. Is that because you are all too aware of your own nation's shortcomings in that area? And, in case they've edited it out of your history books, Canada practice African slavery until 1833. As for women, white women (and free blacks and others) were free. I won't get into feminism here, you can read about it in other threads.


Yes I remember in nazi germany and cambodia how it started, first they came for the people who defended themselves against home invaders..... PLEASE. Some perspective here.


Once again, you're engaging in an imaginary argument. To paraphrase your snotty remark (but with better grammar) "Your snide sarcasm and personal attacks don't make your position any stronger." Why don't you address my ACTUAL argument, that disarming citizens is necessary to make oppression workable, because you can't engage in the kind of mass arrests and murder in the streets that the Nazis and Khmer Rouge did if all of those citizens are armed. Or at least, not so easily.


You know how they started? By appealing to fear, and the hatred of minority groups, and abusing groups they blamed for their problems.


Yes, exactly. And this time, the minority groups are fundamentalist Christians, conservative Catholics, Republicans, and white males in general. That's why we're concerned.


Look at wiretaps and guantanamo bay buddy, your priorities and fears are all mixed up.


Those of us who actually love America and care about our national security (and whose business it is) are willing to make some temporary sacrifices during time of war to further the cause. Is there potential for abuse? Absolutely. Our government is by no means perfect, and there are many things that we're not happy about. But wiretaps aimed at rooting out our enemies are relatively low on that list. And as far as Guantanamo, what P.O.W.s in history have been treated half so well? Those people are enemy combatants, and I, personally, don't give a **** whether they're comfortable or not.

And I am by no means your buddy. I am your enemy.

Why is it that people from all over the world believe that they have the right to meddle in our internal politics? Seriously, if you're not an American, you have no business commenting in a thread on gun control in the U.S. In other words, butt out.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 147 (view)
 
gun control in the usa
Posted: 4/23/2007 8:32:04 PM
Excellent post, Livefire.

If you want to get pedantic, charlesedm, let's look at your argument. Quoting the one Latin phrase you remember from rhetoric class doesn't make you smart, it makes you pretentious.

You say that there is no causative link between the gun control measures and the oppression that followed, and it is true that no causative link is posted in the quotes. But let's take a look at each situation and see if we can make some logical hypothesis.

Guatemala, 1964-1981: A series of dictatorships in power by questionable elections and military coups.

China, 1948-1952: Communist

Germany, 1939-1945: National Socialist

Uganda, 1971-1979: Islamic dictatorship

Cambodia, 1975-1977: Communist

USSR, 1928-1953: Communist

Turkey, 1914-1917: Islamic dictatorship

What kind of pattern do we see emerging here? To me it appears that certain types of governments seem to be disproportiately represented in this list. They are all either dictatorships or socialist states. But beyond that there's something even more significant: they are all totalitarian. And disarming the citizens is one of the first steps to forming a totalitarian state. If you are going to oppress the people and take away their civil rights, you don't want them to be armed.

No one is claiming here that gun control is the sole causative factor in genocide and mass murder of citizens by government. The point is that it is one of the early warning signs of coming totalitarianism, and something that Americans (and it seems still a few Canadians) want to avoid. And just because it hasn't happened in certain countries yet, doesn't mean it can't or won't. We Americans look with horror on reports (as mentioned above) of innocent homeowners, business owners, and other citizens being sent to prison in places like Australia and UK because they used guns to defend their lives and property. That IS the beginning of totalitarianism, as is the suppression of free speech (for example, you can be sent to prison in UK and France for "hate speech" which basically means saying things that are politically incorrect). And for the Englishman above, whose name I don't remember, sometimes you have to take a guilty life in order to spare an innocent one. I would rather kill a thousand intruders in my home than allow one of them to hurt or kill one of my children.

It's easy to cast aspersions on America from up there in the security of our shadow. How about we separate, and you become responsible for your own defense from now on? And for all of you liberal Canadians, Australians, British, French, and the rest: don't lecture US about freedom and democracy. WE INVENTED IT. I know the French like to claim that honor, but they are liars. U.S.A., democracy 1776; France, democracy (sort-of) 1789, democracy (actual) 1870. None of you would be free if not for us. You weren't complaining of "U.S. military aggression" in 1944. We were the first nation of free men in the modern world, and we will be the last, as one by one the rest of you sink into the mire of socialist totalitarianism. But remember this, before you start the America-bashing up again. More Americans have died in defense of the freedoms and lives of foreigners and strangers than any other nation in history. And once the war is won, what do we do? Do we build an empire and rule the world from Washington? No, we help the nations reconstruct, at the cost of our own blood, sweat, and money, and then we politely give the people back their countries, when they are able to run them as responsible citizens of the free world. So, all of you America-haters, including the traitorous ones within our own borders, can take your Marxist rhetoric and choke on it.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Do men see women's virginity as sexy?
Posted: 4/23/2007 12:42:01 PM
Michael,

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vestal_Virgin


I think some do yes. In their silly minds they think they can be the one and only the rest of this virgin's life.... HAHA


There's one to stay away from, gentlemen.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Do men see women's virginity as sexy?
Posted: 4/22/2007 2:23:26 PM
Thanks for clarifying, TBH. I was concerned that I might have been coming across as one of those dirtbags.

Many societies, Roman and Medieval just to name two, would have valued an eighty-year-old virgin. In most cases such a woman would be so because she had dedicated herself to God or the gods, and she would have been treated as holy and with reverence and respect.

It's always easier to make insulting accusations and insinuations to slander the perceived character and undermine the credibility of one with whom one disagrees than to debate the point with well-reasoned arguments and intelligent dialogue. Your remarks about sexual performance are adolescent and ignorant, and they are beneath my contempt, so I will not answer them.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 252 (view)
 
did women kill chivalry? what do we need to do to bring it back?
Posted: 4/22/2007 2:04:56 PM
Your arguments are illogical and unsupported, and you contradict yourself. "Many" colleges were closed to women, but some were not. There were women's colleges, and there were men's colleges, and there were coed colleges. What women in general and feminists in particular have failed to understand about the education system and workplace from early on, is that it is COMPETITIVE, as pointed out by an earlier poster. Women who went to college and established careers in a "man's world" had to compete at the same level as men with no handicap. The men then treated them as competition, and the women took it as the men being mean to them. Were they singled out as being women? Yes, because that was the most convenient avenue of attack. Men in competetion attack each other at whatever is the most obvious weak spot: financial background, social status, academic performance, etc. It's just like that game of neighborhood football with the neighborhood kids. There's always a girl who wants to play, but you're not allowed to hit her as hard as you would the other boys because she'll cry about you being mean and picking on her because she's a girl.

It wasn't men who gave women the vote? Then how did it happen? If only men could vote, how was the amendment made to allow women to vote, if a majority of men didn't vote for it? If I'm not mistaken, an amendment to the Constitution has to be passed by a 2/3 majority in both houses of Congress, then ratified by all the states. Weren't all of those voting members men in 1920?

Women were not considered "separate entities" from their husbands because society was based upon Christian morality, which teaches that a husband and wife become one flesh upon marriage, and that the husband is head of the household. The family unit was considered sacred and government or other external interference was minimized. That covers the reason for most of the other things you cited as well. Were there abuses? Of course. No system can fully overcome the tendency of humans to be selfish and evil. But I certainly don't see our present situation as better, when parents are afraid to discipline their children for fear that they'll be taken away by the SS, and husbands are routinely arrested and labeled "abusers" for things like holding a wife's wrists so she can't hit him anymore. "Battered women" have been used as a tool by feminists to undermine the traditional family structure and destroy the "patriarchy" without discretion, pity, or remorse. The chivalric man abhors true violence against women with all his being, but most of what is cited as such now is manipulation and spin by those with an agenda.

Family decisions were made back then by families, not government social agencies with way too much power and a political agenda. In most cases, the boys were sent to school in preference to the girls because it was expected that the boys would have to support their families throughout their lives. If a woman's higher education was viewed as a "waste" it was because it was assumed that she would stay home and care for the children once they were born, and then all the money put into her higher education would not have been a good investment. It was not because women were considered as having less intrinsic value, or that they were intentionally kept ignorant and oppressed. On the contrary, it was expected that a woman would be educated and informed at a comparable level of the class she married into, and be able to engage in intelligent conversation with her husband's peers. Perhaps not in their specialized field of work, but in general liberal arts, current events, politics, history, etc.

Men don't want partners who are unhappy because they don't have the same rights as men. Men want wives who are happy because they are loved, protected, and cared for, and who appreciate all the things that their men do for them. Feminism has not given us partners who are happy because they have equal rights. It has given us ever more demanding shrews who are unhappy at the core of their being, don't know why, and take it out on us because it's got be our fault simply because we are men, and everything is our fault.

I acknowledge that their are different types of feminists, some of which are worse than others. The least offensive kind is the ifeminst, represented by Wendy McElroy. Most women who think of themselves as feminists are, as you said, mainly interested in fair wages, job opportunities, etc. But, as I said earlier, that's only the cover, and the surface level of what's going on. Most party members in Germany didn't know about the Final Solution. But even those who are not on the extreme of insanity like the ones I quoted above have a basic world view that is incompatible with that of the chivalrist. Feminism teaches that men and women are basically the same, as expressed by J.S. Mill (a man, by the way) and that any apparent differences are social constructs. Some feminists in recent years have been forced to modify this position somewhat by the advance of science which has shown significant differences beyond the obvious physical ones, but most are still in denial about even that. Chivalry is a product of Christian belief, which teaches that man was created first and woman was created to be his helpmate. It assumes that the man is to be the head of the family, and its protector and provider, and that the woman is to be afforded extra priveleges because of her femininity. Yes, the Bible actually used the phrase "the weaker sex". These two philosophies are diametrically opposed and irreconcilable. You can have feminism (theoretically, though it hasn't seemed to work out that way so far) with courtesy, respect, and consideration, but you absolutely CANNOT have it with chivalry. You have to choose. You can't have your cake and eat it, too.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 243 (view)
 
did women kill chivalry? what do we need to do to bring it back?
Posted: 4/22/2007 12:05:14 AM
Capegardengirl, you're not talking about chivalry, you're talking about courtesy and consideration, a common misconception.

Contrary to feminist propaganda, women were able to work, go to school, own property, live where they wanted, and all of those other things long before feminism. There were women physicians and lawyers in the 19th century. Feminists like to claim suffrage as one of their works, but they are really quite separate. I don't think anyone can seriously argue that women in 1920 (when the 19th Amendment was passed) were feminists of the type that we've seen since the 1960s. And, as far as birth control, why shouldn't your husband have a say too? It affects him as much as it does you. And if you're a minor, your parents should absolutely have control over your sex life. That's what parents are for: to make decisions that their children are not ready to make for themselves.

Feminism is about women being able to work and go to school like Communism is about the welfare of the workers, or National Socialism is about patriotism and cultural pride. It's a good cover, and it draws a lot of people in, but there's an entirely different agenda at its core; one much more sinister and dangerous. Here are a few actual quotes from feminists:

"I believe that women have a capacity for understanding and compassion which a man structurally does not have, does not have it because he cannot have it. He's just incapable of it." -- Former Congresswoman Barbara Jordan

"All men are rapists and that's all they are" -- Marilyn French, Author, "The Women's Room"

"I feel that 'man-hating' is an honorable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them." -- Robin Morgan, MS. Magazine Editor

"Heterosexual intercourse is the pure, formalized expression of contempt for women's bodies." -- Andrea Dworkin

"And if the professional rapist is to be separated from the average dominant heterosexual male, it may be mainly a quantitative difference." -- Susan Griffin "Rape: The All-American Crime"

"The institution of sexual intercourse is anti-feminist" -- Ti-Grace Atkinson "Amazon Odyssey" (p. 86)

I know these things are hard to accept after a public education that has spent 12, 16, or more years indoctrinating us into this system of belief, backed by constant propaganda in TV, film, and print media. But all the brainwashing in the world doesn't change the truth.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Do men see women's virginity as sexy?
Posted: 4/21/2007 3:41:00 PM
No, I think we have de-volved in most ways except for science, medicine, & technology.

If you want to question motives, I question the motives of men who talk too loudly about women being entitled to "do whatever they want" with their bodies. The ulterior motive is too obvious to need stating, especially when one compares those statements with the general character of the man making them and evaluates whether he is truly commited to "women's rights" or simply enjoys the benefits of a free-sex society.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Do men see women's virginity as sexy?
Posted: 4/21/2007 3:15:04 PM
I don't know if TigerBlackHawk misunderstood me, or was talking about someone else, but I feel compelled to qualify my earlier post. I only find virginity attractive within the context of marriage. I am by no means a trophy-hunter, and I agree with TBH that those men are repugnant, selfish, and evil.

Also, virginity is a lie? So no one is actually a virgin? Assuming that your incoherent attack is actually referring to placing value on virginity, you should read a history book sometime. ALL societies throughout history have valued virginity, pre-dating Christianity and Medieval society (which is the usual target of such rants) by a substantial margin.
 feanor3791
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 132 (view)
 
Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 4/21/2007 3:01:45 PM
Well said, Cdnjackal. I think you give people more credit for being fair-minded and nonjudgemental than I do. Also, what the people actually think is not as much at issue as what the guy thinks they're thinking, if you follow me. Either way, we all seem to be in agreement about the course of action. RUN! Never look back. Take your daughter with you.
 
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