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chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 345 (view)

Red heads... Posted: 9/7/2008 9:04:25 AM
I myself prefer a strawberry blonde whcih gives me the best of both worlds, but no in all sincerity most men look at the looks of a woman not so much the hair color.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 281 (view)

why do men go for the ditsy thin girls? Posted: 9/7/2008 9:01:57 AM
Why do you say that. Maybe for the 20 year olds yes, but not for women that are in there 30's, 40's and 50's. Most woman in these years have had children and they have probably had c-sections which doesn't help your stomach muscles. It is something I have learned to live with and the other thing is having a little bit of "love handles" on them. Next time you see or date a man ask him this: Would you sooner have a lady that was a "10" for looks and a "2,3,4 " for intelligence, romance, and cooking or would you sooner have a lady that was a "7 or 8" and have "10's " in all areas. That should be a simple answer, the one who is a "7 or 8".

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

Why do men stay in dud marriages??? Posted: 9/7/2008 8:54:08 AM
I agree with some of the comments being made that some of the guys stay to not pay alimony or child support. Others try to stay to make things work because they do believe in the wedding vows, "for better or worst".

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 111 (view)

How do you know if its ok to kiss her? Posted: 9/7/2008 8:45:51 AM
I agree with the permission thing, but when is the best time depends again on the timing and situation. There has been times I have met a lady and not wanted to kiss them, and other times when I first met them I gave them a friendly kiss and later had a nice romantic kiss. Persmission thing, I always ask if I may kiss them.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

How long do you usually wait before meeting up with somebody you meet on POF? Posted: 9/7/2008 8:43:16 AM
This is a hard question, because I would tell you it depends on the situation and on the person. Some ladies it has taken me nine months of e-mailing to meet and some I have met after a few hours.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Does Being Married More Than Four Times Make You Less A Person For A Relationship Posted: 9/7/2008 8:38:01 AM
I read the entries and you are right in alot of cases that I was as much as fault as any of them. On my wives that had financial irresponsible I tried to teach them just how to account for money. They both have a problem with "have" and "need". You can need all you want but if you don't have then you got to make choices whcih they didn't want. Oh by the way, my 2nd wife left the divorce with no debt, courtesy of me, and now she is nearly bankrupt. On the romance issue and children issue I went though professional counseling. No, I don't marry everyone I have dated or had a relationship with. There were years between each one of the marriages except the last one, and the only reason why I decided to get married so soon after was her condition. She wanted to marry that soon because we were looking at a 50/50 chance of life. Nowadays her current doctor places her chances at 70/30 against. Not good!

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Does Being Married More Than Four Times Make You Less A Person For A Relationship Posted: 9/7/2008 8:28:43 AM
First of all, thank you all for your opinion so far. I guess I need to clarify who asked for the divorce. 1) 1st marriage: we mutually wanted the divorce, and actually talked about getting back together. 2) 2nd marriage: my wife asked for divorce. I stayed with her 7 years longer than I should have because of the kids. Just couldn't handle the financial irresponsibility, almost caused a bankrupty. 3) 3rd marriage: my wife asked for divorce. I offerred to go to counseling and everything to save it, but... she had her mind made up and remarried her ex-husband nine days after our divorce and on their original date. 4) 4th marriage: this was the sadest. wife asked for divorce. Yes, I married her for better or worst, and accepted the worst upfront. Knew about her condition going into the marriage. I hope this clariefies some things.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

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Does Being Married More Than Four Times Make You Less A Person For A Relationship Posted: 9/7/2008 6:00:50 AM
I am looking for some opinion on this issue. I am 56 years old and I have been married four times. Also when to you tell someone that you have been married this many times and the reasons. I am a firm believer in honesty. 1) First marriage: College sweetheart. Engaged 2 yrs, and married for 9 1/2 yrs. Reason for divorce: Change of goals and she couldn't have children but didn't want to adopt. 2)Second marriage: Met at a Bar. Married for 18 years and had two beautiful boys. Reason for divorce: Financial irresponsible ($150k in debt), child rearing, and total lack of romance/sex after 10 years. 3)Third marriage: Met on internet dating. Friends for 3 yrs and married for 2 1/2 yrs. Reason for divorce: Divorced me to remarry her former husband. 4)Fourth marriage: Met in public. Friends for 10 months and married 9 months. She suffers from health issues (brain tumor and severe migraines). Reason for divorce: Financial irresponsible ($38k in 6 months), prior children were priority over the husband. To answer your question: Am I looking for No.5? The answer is real simple, I am looking for the LAST love of my life. I have been on a few dates. I have waited until during the date to talk the marriages and reasons, and scared the lady off. I have total them upfront in chat conversation that I was married this many times and reasons, and seen some results. Your thoughts? I am interested from a lady's point of few this issue. I have been asked several times why? My answer is "better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all." Goof luck to all

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 263 (view)

when is a man in love? Posted: 9/7/2008 5:36:48 AM
Actually that is a hard question for a woman to ask, because alot of guys are in lust but not in love. There is a big difference. I know one guy said on here that a man is in love when he said it, that is BS. The outward signs to a woman should be the more caring and more frequent calls. Looking at you a special way and seeing a sparkle in his eye, gentle touches, and doing things in a more spontaneous manner than deliberate. Other signs I show are the more charming and helpful I can toward her, and the lovemaking well is just GREAT when you are fully in touch with the other person.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 457 (view)

Do guys like single moms? Posted: 8/10/2008 10:51:32 AM
It doesn't bother me if a lady has a child or not. In fact I would probably perfer that she does because I have kids (23 and 20) myself. It is easier for a Mom to relate to a spouse's children than if they didn't. Saying that, my children are part of my life, but I believe like the "good book" says that your husband/wife should always come first. That doesn't mean you are putting your children out, but in a relationship/marriage they should play a 2nd part and the one you love should always come first. You must be dating some sick-o to want to date your daughter/hit on her. I had a 28 yr old photographer hit on me three weeks ago when I was doing a Make-A-Wish gig, and I finally had to say, how old is your father. It was a complement, because she thought I was 35.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 98 (view)

smell plays a big part......!!! Posted: 8/10/2008 10:40:45 AM
I agree with you Stephanie. I like the natural smells or soemtimes those of Bath and Body Wash. I feel that when you are with someone all of your senses are working and as most men don't want to admit there largest sex organ is in play, there brain.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 188 (view)

I hate it when men do this during lovemaking Posted: 8/10/2008 10:37:37 AM
Wow, what type of weirdos are you dating. I don't go the anal pleasure, maybe some stimulation, but that is it. I perfer oral stimulation to the point tha ti pleasure a lady twice before I even think about it. As far as pulling out, no I love to feel a mutual orgasasm where I can feel her and she me. This is what is very nice. As far as kissing the thighs and etc. That is part of foreplay and I like to do that when a lady is blindfolded. It drives them wild.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 107 (view)

whats your biggest fear Posted: 7/31/2008 2:46:36 PM
I agree with what she says, but not just a loving partner but the one special one that makes you smile and grin in the morning, that kisses you, and really means that she loves you.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

High level of energy over 50. Posted: 7/31/2008 2:44:06 PM
I am over 50 but I don't look like over 50 and I have always dted ladies that were younger than I were. As I have always said Age Is A Number. Like the phase "you are only as old as you want to be." If you keep in relative good shape and keep healthy than you have the energy you need.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 219 (view)

at what age was sex the best? Posted: 4/7/2008 8:14:41 AM
Interesting Question. I know medically that the doctors say that sex is suppose to be the best when a man is 18-25. For me I was still a virgin at 19 and I didn't know much of nothing when I was in my 20's. For ladies it is suppose to be best at late 30's to 40's; however, I have had ladies in their 30's, 40's, and 50's and I can say that probably late 40's to early 50's is their best period, but it really depends on the lady.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

No Protection Needed? Posted: 4/6/2008 8:45:30 AM
Wow, this was an interesting question. First of all, I can see where she is coming from and I can also see where you are coming from. The first question to you would be how long in the relationship are you having sex? If it is awhile then you have talked about things and how many relationships. In most cases if I was far enough in a relationship to know the woman that the woman was sleeping around alot and I knew she felt comforatable, then I would probably not use protection. Saying that, I have only used protection in a few cases even after I knew the lady, and that was becasue I wasn't shooting blanks and we didn't need anothe child right now.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

turning women down for sex Posted: 3/31/2008 9:18:27 AM
Had this happen twice when I was in Washington DC. The first time happened shortly after I got up there and I would partying in Crystal City. I was staying at this 5 star hotel and they had a happy hour. They had happy hour from 4-7 pm on Friday. I showed up in uniform (Army dress green) and I was dancing with a few gals on the floor. I noticed this beautiful German woman sitting at a table alone, so I went over and asked her to dance. We danced a few dances (5) and had a few drinks, when she whispered in my ear that she wanted to take me to bed. At first I was a little taken back, because I didn't know if she wasn't a prostitute. I agnored her and told her I would like to know her first. We met each other the next Friday and she asked if she could change in my room. I took her to my room, and between changing we had a GREAT time. In her defense, I found out that she was a widow and hadn't had sex in awhile. The second time it occurred, was a few months later. One of my friends had broken up with the lady a few weeks prior. I met her at the bar and we had a few drinks together, and she told me that she always wanted to see what I was like in bed. I told her that my friend still liked her and I didn't think it was appropriate. She reminded me that he had broke off the relationship with her, and she just needed some loving. This time I didn't refuse. I took her up to my room and ...GREAT! So you see it can depend on the situation. I think women today are getting bolder and wanting things like men.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 131 (view)

Married Women Looking For Sex Posted: 3/31/2008 9:05:04 AM
Personally I have chatted with alot of women who were married or separated and wanted to have sex. The majority of these ladies I found were having problems with their husbands in a emotional or sexual way. Most cases I heard them say that their husband came home ,were too tired to make love, or didn't think they were attractive anymore. Some cases I found that the husband suffered from ED and didn't want to admit that he needed a little blue pill. In alot of cases I have been able to save a marriage where the woman was looking by just giving her the perspective of a man. Do I look down on these woman? No. I personally have been there, MWM looking and was able to meet and talk to a MWF with problems.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

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Are women on the East coast more difficult to approach than other areas of the country? Posted: 3/31/2008 8:45:08 AM
I tend you believe it is two people involved with meeting is the problem. I can say that because I have traveled to all but 2 of the 50 states. I will agree that NE ladies are somewhat different as to Southern or Mid-East/West ladies. Now Washington DC women are the only ones that I have encountered where they invited you to bed. The ladies out in Pacific NW are very conservative and the California women are forward.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

Dead F*ck? Excuse my french. Posted: 2/21/2008 2:34:29 PM
I suffer from Fibromyalgia and there are times where it is very painful to move in some of those gymnastic positions...so could one enjoy sex without all the Olympics? Don't know about your man, but if you did normal sex I would think it was great. I would be more concerned about being together than worrying about the different positions. The majority of the women I have been with only want it missionary, on top, or doggie, and the heck with Kama Sultra Book. I showed that to one of my wives, and she told me not in her life time. (I was lucky I got it once a month with her- that is is a reason why I divorced her.) So you know I had a wife that had Fibromyalgia and she has gotten relief from doing something called "Juice Plus". You might try it. She started seeing results after two weeks taking the pills. Good Luck!

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 215 (view)

Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless? Posted: 2/10/2008 10:51:45 AM
Kirstie, Most of my friends feel the same way as I. First, a man is attracted to a woman and in most cases it is a physical attraction. Now depending on how long you both go without having sex, that relationship can be nothing more than physical (one nite stand) or the relationship can foster into something more. But, to answer your question, men do get emotionally involved with a woman. There has NEVER been a woman that I have gone to bed with that I don't care something for her now. Now saying that what is care, care is caring for the other person, and can also not be love. Good Luck.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 68 (view)

What do you think about getting flowers from your better half? Posted: 2/10/2008 10:44:42 AM
Being a guy and receiving flowers from your wife is not normal, but what is normal. Guys enjoy flowers and they are a way of expressing your emotion. I recently received three different kinds of rose bouquets from my wife. I received a yellow rose bouquet, a red rose bouquet, and a white rose bouquet. She told me each one resprented something different. After I heard this I understood.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 112 (view)

Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to? Posted: 2/7/2008 2:57:51 PM
Well Buddy I asked the same question of myself a few months ago. I was marrid for my third time, and my wife told me one night that she wanted a divorce with no notice, fight/arguement, or anything. Fact is I don't to this day really know what happen. Enough about that. I thought to myself that I got burnt so bad that I wouldn't love another woman again or even think about marriage. That was in Feb 07. I started dating to forget my ex-wife in May. At the end of June I met my current wife, and we got married in Aug 07. I will say it was quick, only due to her health condition, she has a rare brain tumor with a 50/50 chance of living and was due to undergo surgery on 3 oct. FYI: this has been postponed to Mar 08 due to puemonia. Little advise. I am 56 yrs old like you, but my wife is 41. I am thinking I should have gone younger earlier. How many times have I fallen in love, serious love? eight times now. Remember what has always been said- "it is better to have love and loss, then to never have loved at all." Advise: Don't look for love, it will find you. It will also find you when you don't suspect or expect it. Good Luck my friend.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

Advice/Opinion Needed- Who Comes First Husband or Kids? Posted: 2/7/2008 6:06:37 AM
I took the same vows you took, and may I say only recently, 18 Aug. We are newly weds, but... I also realize that it time to blend families. I get blamed alot because I was in the military and was raised in a military family, but I think the values of first a "husband and wife are one" is universal and common in most religions. The fact that I am asking a family member, and not a guest to make certain her area is clean, her clothes are clean, and contribute to the household is very basic. I haven't asked her to contribute money, and believe me the grocery bill is over $1k/month. The only other thing that I was taught and is in the bible is "honor your father and mother". I was also taught to honor by elders and not to be disrepectful. All basic ideas that all of us probably were taught.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

Advice/Opinion Needed- Who Comes First Husband or Kids? Posted: 2/7/2008 5:57:44 AM
Marriage counseling. I have asked my wife to go, and haven't gotten the response.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Advice/Opinion Needed- Who Comes First Husband or Kids? Posted: 2/7/2008 5:56:59 AM
Don't know if you have thesame situation or if you have children. This 20 yr old lives under my roof free of charge and the only contribution she makes to the household is she puts some money into the gas tank. This is only because she doesn't have a car and we have to drive her to work, and still the contribution is minimal. She is not a guest, she is family. I do agree with you in that my wife should take care of her own child, but her daughter has walked over her. If you read my profile, you also understand my concern in that my wife does have a rare brain tumor. Her daughter knows which buttons to push and pushes them frequently to get her way. I have asked her daughter to "bring light of her mo's condition" what would you do if your Mom died. It set her back, but still she will continue. Thank you for the contribution.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Advice/Opinion Needed- Who Comes First Husband or Kids? Posted: 2/6/2008 9:15:56 AM
What a response to my question. First of all, I appreciate all the responses and honesty. One question was did my wife know I am on this site. The answer is yes. I stated that clearly in my profile. No, she does not know I put it into a forum, because it isn't a public forum. Update: I received a card from my wife telling me that she overheard me talking to a old (girl) friend saying that I regretted getting married. After I finished the card, I immediately went to her to talk. I told her part of the reason why I was unhappy with the marriage was because of the fact that she wants to put her children before me, and if I had known that I would not have married her. I told her I had told my own children before and after the marriage that my wife always comes before them, but I would always still love them and I expected them to respect her as my wife. Her 20 yr old daughter was NEVER a part of the equation. She was living with her father, and he "showed her the door because she didn't want to obey his rules." My wife and I agreed on the rules of the house prior to her moving in. I also got the father to agree to support us on our decisions. (So everyone knows, it was my house prior to my wife moving into the house.) The daughter agreed to live by the rules, or move out. Now, the wife thinks I am too demanding, but what is demanding about normal things like cleaning your room, cleaning your clothes, and helping out. Oh Well!!!!

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Would you sleep with... Posted: 2/6/2008 8:48:57 AM
Don't agree. I feel it depends on the gentleman's moral and character. I have turned it down a few times when it was offered, because it wasn't right and I didn't feel right about doing it. But, let me say this, it has taken me awhile to develop this. I realize that most men are involved physically before they are involved emotionally, where women are involved emotionally. I have met some women that were only physically involved (into screwing around only). I prefer now to be involved with the lady whether than physically motivated. "Don't be so quick to judge the book, by only the cover, look at the content."

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

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Advice/Opinion Needed- Who Comes First Husband or Kids? Posted: 2/5/2008 7:05:13 AM
Recently got married to a lovely lady that had children from a prior marriage and I ahve children also from a prior marriage. My children are not living with us, but I have told my children that when it came down to who I would support or back , I would always back my wife. My wife's kids are younger (14 yr old boy, and 20 yr old girl). Before we got married she made it clear that she was a package deal and she had a son. The problem is with the daughter who moved in two months after we got married. She is disrespectful and she doesn't follow the rules of the house, clean your room, clean your clothes, and she wants to stay up all nite and sleep until 1:00 PM before she goes to work at 2:00 PM. I spoke several times to the wife about getting her to conform, but her daughter walks all over the mother. Last week things came to a head after I was asked to go get her to do something after her mother asked thre times to do the same thing. I told her do now! I then confronted the daughter telling her how I didn't like the fact that she was not obeying her mother. Told her this was the last time on that. Then told her that she needed to develop a chore list and she would be getting up earlier than 1:00 PM. She told me she worked, which I told her EVERYONE WORKS. She then smarted off again, and I asked her if she had plans for Friday, she said she did, and I told her to cancel the plans that she was staying home. She told me that she wouldn't, and I told her she could OR she could find another place to live. The wife got upset because I confronted the daughter. She also told me that the punishment was not appropriate for the crime. I asked her what was I to do, and was told that when she wised off to her Dad, he woudl slap her. I told her I WOULDN'T DO this and the punishment was appropraite. The wife said she wouldn't support me. The question is this. Who in a relationship should come first? The wife should support the husband or support the children. So you know our relationship is very fractured due to my wife saying she would always have the Children come first over her Husband.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 312 (view)

Hillary or Barack: Who Is Your Choice and Why Posted: 2/5/2008 6:47:38 AM
Neither. Why, they are both Junior Senators and NO experience at nothing. Hillary was the first lady, but... she has NEVER impressed me. Barack, not wanting to wear an American flag on his suit, he lost my vote and those of my fellow veterans. Who would I vote for? Senator John McClain. He is a Senior Senator with tons of experience. War Hero. Pretty honest, if you know what I mea, no dirt yet.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 228 (view)

Bad Blow-Jobs Posted: 2/5/2008 6:37:20 AM
I agree with you Rick. 10 minutes is too short, but 30 minutes is probably right. I also agree that ladies sometimes know how to give a good blow job. Saying that, I have met in my time alot of ladies who when you asked or tried to get them to go there, they thought it was gross. Out of the ones that did know how or wanted to, only a few really knew how to properly do it and could get me off. The ones that couldn't get me to cum normally were just sucking or too gentle. They also didn't know where the prostrate gland was to excite the man (directly below and under your balls).

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

betrayal online: is this cheating or fun? Posted: 2/3/2008 5:55:12 AM
First of all, I am a strong believer in being Honest and Sincere. I have a rule, don't ask a question you can't answer yourself. I don't think it is cheating until you have met the person face to face and are actually in a comitted relationship. On-line dating is like normal dating. Until the person is willing to commit to the realtionship, then and only then can you say it is cheating. For your information, I do chat with a lot of ladies, and yes, my wife knows that I do this. Not cheating!

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 236 (view)

How long for cunnilingus? Posted: 2/2/2008 6:29:14 AM
30 and 45 mins seems too long. My experience is normally 5-15 minutes she is cuming and normally has the second or third one shortly after. If she hasn't cum in 15 minutes I would be fingering her and doing other stimulation to get her to the point of no return.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Doesn't it seem we are trying to order our mates like we order dinner? Posted: 1/27/2008 4:47:47 PM
talkalot2, When we were younger, we would meet folks in a bar, dance hall, or at church. Nowadays, there are very few of all these other than the bars, and you have to watch out for being caught DUI. I feel that a dating service on the internet is a great way to meet and chat with folks of the opposite sex. You have an initial profile of what you look like, but do you really look that way? Then there are pictures, again are they real? But then there are essays in which you write about yourself and your dream person. First of all, I would say get to know the person through e-mail. You can tell if a person is "for real" or is "BS". THen after awhile exchange a phone number and talk on the phone. Phone numbers can be traced. Then have a "look see", ie., I met a lady at a bowling alley one time and I was in coat and tie, very obvious who I was. Then set a meeting in a public place for coffee. If all goes well, set the second meeting. Good Luck!

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 79 (view)

sex on a 1st date Posted: 1/27/2008 4:21:47 PM
It depends on the lady and the situation. Have done this a few times, but generally speaking it was a situation where once the lady was traveling and met me at a bar, and she was horny. Then there was a lady who had not had sex in a year, and it was the right time and the right mood for me. Did I feel any lessor of the ladies, no. I look at the situation only. Genrally I would give the advise to wait and get to know the person, why. Let's face it there is too much "stuff going around" and "there is always the gift that keeps giving."

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 201 (view)

Would you date a pregnant woman? Posted: 1/27/2008 4:13:51 PM
I would say yes. Years ago I had a lady, Linda, that lived with me. We weren't in a relationship at first. She was in an arrangement like three is company, and the guy was selling the house. She needed a place to live, and a lady, who was like my sister approached me with the idea of her living with me. At the time I was an Advisor to the National Guard and Army Reserves and I spent 21 to 25 days on the road. I thought it would be great that she could stay and watch the house. I then found out before she moved in that she was "with child" and this was caused by a guy that gave her a date rape drug. She was in her mid 30"s and decided that she wanted to have the child. Things were friendly at first, and then in her fourth month she started to come on to me, and we ended up with in a sexual relationship. Things got pretty "mixed up" because of the baby coming and all the things that go with it. The sex was some of the greatest sex I have had to date, and she was always there for me. She gave birth to a little girl, now my God child. After the child was born, things cooled down alot sexually and emotionally. We then ended up being just friends, and she moved out. It now has been 24 years since that incident, and I wonder how Linda is doing and my God child, Ginny Lynn.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

No Sex Tonight Posted: 1/21/2008 3:01:11 PM
I would say if you have been married for awhile then you have experienced this. With my first wife she had a medical problem, and in fact, we had to go to the hospital the day after we were married. Intrepenasios (spelling). A lot of woman suffer from this. It thems they get frequent infections and it hurts to have sex. I got like you and I didn't want sex because I was afraid I would hurt her. We went through counseling and saw medical doctors, but we also talked openly about it. My advice to you is just "open up" in your on way and talk about it. We ended up in a divorce due to goals, but we still love each other even today.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 215 (view)

My profile says a few extra pounds but men still expect to meet someone who's skinny. Posted: 1/21/2008 2:36:37 PM
Velvet Bunny, First of all I don't know how old you are. Saying that let me say that I am 56 . I have been in the single set for awhile and settled down with one woman now. Most ladies I was seeing were in their 30's, 40's and 50's, and they didn't have to say a few extra pounds. Most ladies this age have had children and as a man let face it, I haven't seen very many ladies that were "10"s at this age. In fact I have learned that I would prefer to have a lady that was a "7" or maybe an "8" but had "10" in the other areas. What other areas: cooking, intelligence, conversation, sex, romance, common sense, and sense of humor. My advise to you, I would say average for body, why? All of us could lose a few pounds and lets face it if we all need to lose a few pounds then we all are average.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

How often per week is a normal sex life? Posted: 1/19/2008 1:51:17 PM
Normal sex life depends on the relationship you have and you should always want quality not quanity. I have been married four times. My first wife and I had great sex for 2 1/2 year prior to getting married, then once we got married (married 9 years) I was cut back to her parents schedule of once every Sunday afternoon. Wife 2 was similar to Wife 1 in that prior was great and then after it went to once a week or less. Married to her 18 yrs and confronted her with the problem, but got no where. Wife 3 was totally different, because she was married before and didn't get it. Had a great sex life prior to and during. Married only 3 1/2 yrs. My present wife, Wife 4, is not like any of the rest. We both enjoy sex and we could and would do it everyday or even twice a day, and four times on Sunday, but her health is a factor and sometimes I am just too tired. Now my present wife is 15 years by younger and we both keep up with each other. Again I would say for a normal relationship you both should have it as much as you both want, but... go for quality not quanity.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

high sex drive, higher chance of cheating? Posted: 1/19/2008 12:47:13 PM
Margo, You are right on! Sex drive has nothing to do with cheating. Cheating does have to do with moral and character.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 938 (view)

Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 1/19/2008 12:21:27 PM
I don't about you but NEVER had that problem with getting younger women. My biggest problem with the younger women was relating to them, ie., my wife is 41 and I am 56. Example: I attended the Kennedy funeral in DC and yet she wasn't born. My wife says that relating is not the problem, but they don't try. We also have different music and movie interest, but we compromise and want to be with each other.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

burning bridges or remain friends? Posted: 12/17/2007 9:32:54 PM
If a person was in a "true" relationship, then you should have been friends first. What happens if you meet the perfect woman? You can still have friends and your friends have to understand that it didn't progress to a relationship. It is harder to be friends once someone is intimate with another. Once friends are intimate then it is sharing a part of oneself that you haven't shared with another, or are sharing with another.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 50 (view)

In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before? Posted: 11/26/2007 8:23:48 PM
Although I didn't meet my present wife on POF, I still stay on here to corespond with the ladies I had met in the past. Yes, I am honest with my wife and she is permitted to read my e-mails at anytime. Now getting to your concern. POF gives you a good means to meet different people. Do I believe you have to be able to write to have a good relationship, possibly? Someone told me before that a person that could write could also converse. The same lady also told me that men that were good dancers made good lovers. POF is a safe means to meet and converse with new folks. When I am starting to talk to someone, I establish the rules upfront: first, honesty, and second, don't ask a question you can't answer yourself. Two basic rules. There also an unwritten rule for gentlemen, do not, do not talk about sex unless the lady ask a question, and only answer the question.

chivaltree

Joined: 4/18/2007

Msg: 808 (view)

Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 11/26/2007 7:54:25 PM
Dear Stargazer46, First of all, I am 56 yrs of age a person who has been there and done that. I am a professional in that I am retired military officer and traveled alot. I am current on my fourth wife now, not that I am proud of, but I do believe in the saying "it is better to love and lost, then not loved at all." Saying that let me say that age is just a number. After my last divorce I did my time on the dating sites, and found my wife in a most unlikely place at a drive-thru for a fast food place. But... saying that my wife is not your normal person, she is a teacher, with as I have learned a PhD, and a Para Medic. I didn't learn alot about my wife until after we were married. She told me that her education bothered alot of men. Now how old is my wife, she is 41. I thought the age factor would be an issue until I learned her father is 67 married to a 43 yr old, her step-mom. What was I looking for: A person who could carry on a normal conversation without using "four letter" words and could talk intellectually about any and all subjects. A person who had normal looks or as guys say "6 or 7". I have learned that the "Barbie Dolls" and the "10's" normally are only 10 in looks and 1 and 2's in the other areas. What do I mean about the other areas: conversation, cooking, fun, excitement, sex, and having a relationship. I think you under estimate men over 45 for what they really want. Alot would love to have a lady that is 20, but the fact is men over 45 sometimes have a problem with keeping up with a lady over 45 or their own age. In addition, a financiallly and emotionally secure lady sometimes "scares" these men. I wish you luck in your search. I would tell you you might look "south" because us "southerners" know how to treat our ladies.

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