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 Author Thread: Bug Report: New Plentyoffish Test
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Bug Report: New Plentyoffish Test
Posted: 8/13/2007 12:04:21 AM

The weighting on the last spectrum of the test seems to be a little off, I panned all the questions related to gift giving but gave mid to high marks on everything related to verbal feedback from the partner, but it listed receiving gifts as my preferred method of receiving affection and that I would dislike verbal feedback.


I have exactly the same issue. Pity, because the rest of the results seem interesting and more or less accurate. I won't be adding this to my profile now, since it paints an inaccurate picture of me. I don't want people to think I need them to give me gifts - I'm actually not that comfortable with receiving (many) gifts at all!
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 131 (view)
 
Plentyoffish Compatibility Test
Posted: 5/24/2007 7:32:48 AM
Mine was definitely off on one of the five aspects, and probably off on another as well (but I may be in denial on that one). Also, I don't seem to have any matches - am I really that unusual?
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Would you Date the Wallflower?
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:50:20 PM
Sure, as long as he could still keep a one-on-one conversation going. I don't really care if a guy is 'the life of the party', but if he's extremely quiet even when it's just the two of us... it's just not going to work. I can't keep a conversation going on my own.
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Do we.....?
Posted: 5/10/2007 10:01:36 AM
Either

a. Adam and Eve were not the only people God created, which aren't mentioned in the bible, because apparently they weren't important (which fits with Gen 4:13-16 where Cain worries about other people killing him if he leaves his homeland, although I suppose those people could also be other decendents of Adam and Eve),

or

b. Because Adam and Eve were made perfectly, there were no defects yet, so inbreeding didn't cause deformities yet. Over time, more and more mutations occurred, causing defects, which means that inbreeding is now not such a good idea. This fits with the diminishing lifespans in the first part of the bible.

Does this matter? Not really, in my opinion. But of course it is an interesting question to ponder.
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Faith and Works
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:54:17 AM
The short version:

It is faith which justifies you, not works, but... if there are no works, that shows that there is no real faith either.
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 116 (view)
 
Would you date yourself?
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:45:13 AM
You know, I actually think I would (if the other 'me' was of the opposite sex). This surprises me, because I do have some self esteem issues... I apparently do like myself on some level...
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
how old you are vs how old you look/act
Posted: 5/10/2007 8:29:30 AM
I look younger than I am (that's what people tell me, anyway), but I don't think that has anything to do with my mental age. I think in some respects I'm more mature than the average 22-year-old, and in others less mature. Sometimes I act my age, sometimes older, sometimes younger. Doesn't everyone?
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Do you feel that church is a requirement?
Posted: 5/4/2007 3:20:23 AM
I don't feel that I have to go to church, but I do feel that I have to meet with other Christians to share our faith. This can be in smaller/more informal gatherings as well. That being said, if/when I don't go to church for a while, I do find that it has a negative influence on my spiritual life. Apparently, I do get something out of church that I don't get anywhere else. That may be different for you, though.
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
The Value of Virginity: (Why) is a woman's worth more?
Posted: 5/3/2007 12:34:22 PM

How are you going to find that potential mate if you don't sift through the public? "Advertising" your values and reasons puts down a trail for you and your potential mate to find each other, and has the side effect of possibly convincing a new generation that values are worth holding on to. Think of all the girls out there saying to themselves "all men are pigs, why should I wait if they don't?" Well, if they read things like this, now they know that there are men who wait, too. If the "general public" doesn't want to hear about my values, I don't really care. If you don't want to know it, don't read it - most people have to put up with a LOT less virgin talk than I have to put up with slut/manslut talk.


At the risk of sounding like I'm contradicting myself... I agree with this as well. On a dating site, people are obviously looking for a potential mate, so things are a bit different her than in 'real life'. The 'general public' on here may get some information they don't need, but that's just a consequence of the nature of this site.

Oh, and even in real life it doesn't bother me if people tell me they are virgins. It bother me a little bit if they tell me they aren't, because I really don't want to think about them having sex... maybe I have issues .
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Men being the spiritual Leader in the marriage
Posted: 5/3/2007 7:56:40 AM
I find this a very difficult topic. There are certainly parts of Scripture that point this way, but I'm not sure how to actually apply this in practice. I certainly don't think all marriages should be the same, or that roles for husbands and wives should always be the same - all people are different, have different strong and weak points etc. I do think it can be a good idea to have a 'leader' in a marriage, but it can be dangerous as well. I have found previous posts very interesting; hopefully they will help me make up my mind about this before it actually becomes an issue in my own life. So keep posting .
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Mental illness and demon possession
Posted: 5/3/2007 7:46:44 AM
While I do believe in demon possession, I think it is dangerous to label mental illnesses as such. People who are possessed by demons may very well appear to have a mental illness, but I think most people who seem to have a mental illness do in fact have a mental illness. If your mother has been diagnosed as schizophrenic, and medicines have helped in the past, she should really get back on her medicines. If you really think she may be possessed by a demon, pray about it and for her, and maybe contact someone who has experience with it. Do not use this as a reason to stop her treatment, though.
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 109 (view)
 
Would you date/marry a person in the military
Posted: 5/3/2007 7:34:58 AM
I don't think I could. I'm somewhat of a pacifist, so I just don't think I could deal with it...
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Drinking Socially
Posted: 5/3/2007 6:52:27 AM
I put this down because I drink very rarely, and when I do, it's with other people. I probably have a drink about once every few months - never more than one drink, never anything stronger than wine, and never when I'm alone. I'm not a huge fan of alcohol, and there are very few alcoholic beverages I actually like, but sometimes it just seems to fit the social context. Maybe that makes me weak, or a follower; I don't know. Sometimes it's just easier to go along with everyone else... and it's not like hate it or anything (I do hate smoking, which is why I wouldn't even do it 'socially' - not that I'm ever in a situation where nearly everyone else is smoking). I do hate the idea of getting drunk/losing control over myself, so I never let that happen.
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
The Value of Virginity: (Why) is a woman's worth more?
Posted: 5/3/2007 6:43:54 AM

Shouldn't it only matter what it is worth to you and a potential mate? Why would you care what the general public's opinion is on this very important and very personal matter. Do you go around advertising this? It is only of interest to you and whomever you plan to share your body with.


I agree with this. I would want my partner to share my values, but I don't really care what other people do or don't do with their bodies. If asked, I'll give my opinion on the matter, but otherwise... I really don't even want to know about other people's sex lives (or lack thereof).
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Ever Feel Invisible?
Posted: 4/30/2007 3:27:20 PM
I seem to be invisible until I do something stupid and/or embarrassing. Then suddenly everyone seems to be looking my way...
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What would make you want to go on a 2nd Date With Someone?
Posted: 4/29/2007 12:55:01 PM
If I could talk with him. That's really the main thing. I'm the kind of person who cannot keep a conversation going on with everyone. Either the other person has to be very talkative (which, with me, is contagious - around talkative people I'm talkative as well) or there just has to be... something... which I cannot define which keeps the conversation going.

If the first date is filled with awkward pauses, and I constantly feel like I have to keep the conversation going, but fail to actually do so... I don't think either of us would be interested in a second date.
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Funny Names For Kids
Posted: 4/29/2007 12:35:40 PM
Lemonjello and Orangejello are urban legends (check Snopes).

Unfortunately not an urban legend: Urhines Kendall Icy Eight Special K (Google it, you'll find his birth announcement).
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Are there no REAL christian men left ?
Posted: 4/29/2007 12:06:56 PM
I know plenty of 'real' Christian men (in real life, not so much on the internet, but that's just because I don't know all that many men through the internet). By 'real' Christians I mean people who at least try to live by the 'rules' that are put forward in the bible. I do not mean perfect Christians who never sin, because those do not exist.

As for premarital sex: there are people who do not think the bible actually teaches that. I don't agree with them, but if they really believe that, they cannot be expected to live by a rule they don't believe in. There are also people who do believe the bible teaches this, but find themselves unable to live by it. This does not make them 'fake' Christians: all Christians have trouble living the way God wants them too. All Christians sometimes fail - not necessarily by having premarital sex, but in some way, we all do: all Christians sin.

In the OP men are mentioned who don't seem to even try to refrain from having premarital sex. They could be examples of the first group: people who don't think that's what the bible teaches. They could also be people who consciously go against their beliefs, and don't even try to follow rules they do believe God has set. This, in my opinion, is wrong: Christians should at least try to live according to God's rules. Also, whatever religion you are, or even if you're non-religious, it's pretty hypocritical not to try to follow rules you believe in. A third possibility is that these men are not really Christians; i.e. they are lying about this. This, of course, is also wrong, but I suppose it should be expected that some people do lie on dating sites...
 Caerulea
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
The most interesting question of all
Posted: 4/29/2007 11:51:25 AM
Since I believe my God (the God of the bible) is real, I do think that if there is intelligent life in another part of the universe (which I don't think is likely), they would have the same God. They would have a different bible (or whatever it would be called), though, because the bible tells the story of this planet. These creatures would have a different history, so God's story about/for them would also be different (though it might be similar).
 
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