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 Author Thread: ultimate revenge
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
ultimate revenge
Posted: 11/12/2008 11:46:52 PM
love it leanworks!!
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 20 (view)
 
is it really over?
Posted: 11/12/2008 10:17:37 PM
thanks for the input WackMC but obviously you haven't read the entire thread.
I DID NOT talk about my ex
I never asked him to pay for anything (he's broke too & there's not much I can do about being a starving student)
& I never told him to get outta my face. it was more of a spending 5 -6 days a week together sitting around at home needed to change.

& I've been in Van for over a year. It's extremely cliquer
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
ultimate revenge
Posted: 11/12/2008 8:57:19 PM
I just had my heart broken..he was threatened by my friendship with an ex but masked it by saying that he felt we were falling into the same rut as his previous relationships & he wanted to stop it before we fell into the same trap & got more hurt than we'd be right now....I've done the crying thing & am slowly moving into the wanting revenge.
So....what's the best way to get it??
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
is it really over?
Posted: 11/12/2008 8:49:43 PM
he & I will never happen to run into each other. We run in completely different circles.
like I said before he's a heavy metal musician - I'm definitely not into the metal scene.
& all he does is hang out at his friends places & jam.
so if I just let it be.....its the end.
I just don't understand why if I've given up the friendship with the ex....that he doesn't want to even try to work on our issues together.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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is it really over?
Posted: 11/12/2008 8:01:42 PM
No. I never compared the 2.
He would get upset if I was going to spend some time with the ex. (who like I said, is only 1 of 3 friends I had here in Vancouver & well 1 of the others just moved to Ottawa so I currently only have 2 friends -the ex being one of them)
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
is it really over?
Posted: 11/12/2008 7:33:57 PM
thanks thunderstorms... but love is not a word I throw around. I haven't said it to someone who wasn't a family member or a very good dear friend in 4 yrs.
& I want to fight to stay together. He doesn't seem to want the same thing. How can he do a 180 in 1 week of being apart? was he the one throwing around the L word & not really meaning it?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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is it really over?
Posted: 11/12/2008 7:30:53 PM
How did I disrespect him Jim? I was totally upfront with him from our 1st meet.
I have never lied to him or cheated on him. (haven't touched the ex in years)
& I've just given up a good friend (my ex & I have been friends for 12 yrs) for this guy.
was it all for nothing?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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is it really over?
Posted: 11/12/2008 7:28:16 PM
truely ds.
Thing is, In the year I've been here in Vancouver, I really haven't made any friends. It's very hard to find a group /clique that's willing to accept new membership at my age. my ex was one of the few friends I have here. & I told my ex yesterday that we couldn't spend time together anymore due to the New guy. So I've just gotten rid of one of the 3 friends I had here for this guy to make things better. He a) doesn't believe I've actually done this & b) tells me it's too late.
So how can I prove this to him??
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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is it really over?
Posted: 11/12/2008 7:08:03 PM
I met a guy on here. Things went really fast really quickly. He fell in love with me.
I was up front about some feelings I had for my ex (who I am still friends with) from the start. New guy & I had some issues on that one. (totally understandable)
I just felt that he was continually pressuring me so we had a few fights regarding the ex. Things stopped being fun. We fell into a rut where we were both strapped for cash, didn't go out much. would stay home & well....we were spending way too much time together (5-6 days a week) so....we agreed to spend less time together & get back in touch with our old lives.
well....we went 1 week without seeing each other & all of a sudden, he stopped calling, stopped chatting with me on msn, stopped texting me. & then dumped me today. Saying he's had time to think & he sees us falling into the same rut as all his other relationships. He doesn't want that & figures that it would be easier to end things now than later.
I personally think that if you can identify the problem...you can fix it. He's unwilling to. (or so he says) saying his mind is made up & there's no going back but that we can still be friends & he still loves me but that we just can't be that way anymore.

Thing is....I didn't know how much I actually cared for him until it was too late.
Is there any possibility of salvaging this?
He & I are from 2 different worlds. (he's a heavy metal musician, I'm the sorority girl)
which is what I want. I want different. I've dated the jocks, the frat guys, I want different & was very happy when I found him. So how do I get him back?
how do I get him to work on things with me? or do I just have to accept the fact that it's over & try to forget about him. (I haven't felt this way about a guy in over 4 yrs)
help!
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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How many Homosexual friends do you have?
Posted: 7/31/2007 8:07:18 PM
I have no full on homosexual friends that I know of. but I do have 2-3 bi friends. (all guys)
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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can't deal
Posted: 7/24/2007 12:57:19 AM
I've gone from depressed to angry to indifferent in the space of 2 days...think I'm on the road to recovery.
thanks to those who replied.....just kicking him out not an option at this exact moment....I'll think about it though.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Pit Bull Rapes a Two Year Old Boy
Posted: 7/23/2007 4:01:44 PM
I may get a lot of slack from people on this one but whatever.

behavior specialist at Purrfect Paws in Amherst says, "Most likely this is not a learned behavior. Dogs in tact, not spayed or neutered have a higher hormonal drive."


the dog was NOT trained to do this. Are we to put every dog who humps a leg to sleep?? give me a break. Biggest question on my mind is what was a 2 yr old child doing left unsupervised?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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personal hygene and bad habits
Posted: 7/23/2007 3:53:55 PM
personally if he's that bad at the beginning of a relationship....it's just going to get worse. most people try to look good for their S/O when first dating...if he already doesn't give a crap....it's going to go from bad to worse.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Tips for dealing with a sunburn
Posted: 7/23/2007 3:51:46 PM
well the biggest help is prevention :P slap that SPF on before hand.
but when you've missed a spot or whatever....I usually use ALOE.
used to use Solarcaine. nozema also helps cool the burn.
when I got badly burnt in Mexico 15 yrs ago....was cold compresses & some lady suggested teabags but I never tried it.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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can't deal
Posted: 7/21/2007 4:01:22 PM
1st I never kicked him out of my bedroom. he moved in after we had only been dating a month & personally I find that too soon to be living together as a couple. so...it was like he had his apartment (his room) & I had mine & we'd date in the common areas of the apartment.
2nd inviting him back into the bedroom.....or the bed....he doesn't want anything to do with me at the moment. he won't touch me, he won't even talk to me. he feels that avoiding the situation is going to make it easier. which it won't. it's just going to piss me off & make me make his life a living hell. He used to call me the ice queen b/c of my blue "icy" eyes. well if he continues to avoid this...he's going to find out what that name really means.

& unfortunately I can't kick him out b/c it in the end will screw me over. I am moving to Vancouver to go back to school & am going to sublet the apartment to him. if I kick him out.....that's one more headache...trying to find someone to take over my lease.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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can't deal
Posted: 7/21/2007 3:18:16 PM
he does know how I feel but he feels that we aren't really compatible in the long run & that I don't understand him b/c I don't do drugs. haven't lived the lifestyle etc. so great. I get punished for being a good girl :(

I think one of my problems at the moment is that we both had this week as vacation. & stupidly I thought we were going to do things together. instead he spends all his time with her. goes to see her at work etc. things he never did for me while we were together.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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can't deal
Posted: 7/21/2007 2:14:55 PM
I was with a guy for 6 months. helped him out a lot which included letting him live with me. but b/c it was new I made him move into the spare room. little by little our relationship disolved. but I still have feelings for him & we were still sexual up until a week ago when he met someone new.

He keeps telling me he's not dating her. that they are just hanging out & getting to know each other & that b/c I'm not a pothead I wouldn't understand. but I know there's more to it then that. when she calls....he goes running. & he speaks softer on the phone so I know it's her who has called.
thing that bothers me & I don't know how to deal with is that he has basically cast me aside. I asked him to watch a movie with me. he didn't. few hours later...he's watching a movie with her. He's spent 5 out of 6 days with her sometimes 2x a day. I feel rejected & replaced.
Hell I'm not even allowed to touch him now. & this is super hard for me b/c I'm a touchy feely person. & to be cut off cold turkey, leaves me feeling very hurt.

so...how do I get over this FAST!? I'm moving to Vancouver in September to go back to school. But can't live here for another 2 months feeling hurt & rejected every day. I've considered moving a month earlier (have to give a months notice at work)but that's still 4 weeks of putting up with this.
He keeps telling me that he's not sure it will work out with her but that it just feels right. I'm trying to be the good friend here & be happy for him but I end up crying every night.

Guess I'm just looking for other's experiences & advice to help me get through this....so...any input?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Hamilton Harbour Cruise
Posted: 6/28/2007 8:50:24 AM
I would think of going since I'm in town for a family function all by my lonesome with nothing to do Friday night but...I'm stuck downtown TO with no transport.
so have fun guys!
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Moving to Vancouver...need some advice please.
Posted: 5/11/2007 5:11:49 PM
I thought you already had this all planned out hun.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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I helped him financially and then he diasappeared...
Posted: 5/6/2007 10:15:23 AM
well I'm guessing since you dated you have his name, address etc. you could always take him to small claims court to get your $ back.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Who would be a Stalker ??
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:14:29 AM
I had one guy I call my stalker boy. we had gone out on 3 dates. things seemed ok until he invited me over to his place one day but told me he had other plans & would be getting ready to go out while I was there. Well, why invite someone over if you have other plans so I declined. He got angry. Started calling me names etc. Next day on msn he asks me if we can talk. I told him we can talk but I only wanted to be friends with him after what had happened the night before. well this made him angry again. started calling me names again. then told me he wanted to talk to me & asked me what my phone # was. He HAD my # but said that he had misplaced it. I refused to give it to him again & every line of msn was "what's your #, I want your #, what's your #"
finally I told him I had had enough & didn't want to talk to him anymore. He said he wanted to talk & was coming over.
Since he had driven me home from a date, he knew where I lived. I told him it was late & I didn't feel like company. 30 minutes later my doorbell rang. Friends & family know to call before they ring my bell so I'm convinced it was Stalker boy. I never answered & blocked him.
Occasionally, he changes profiles & emails me saying things like no one wants me, I'm bad in bed (we never had sex so....) I block him, he goes away for a few months & then he'll pop up under a new profile with the same crap.
& that's my stalker story!
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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furniture donation
Posted: 4/26/2007 7:14:27 PM
thanks all....the Quebec handicap federation (or something like that) is coming on May 2nd to pick it up :)
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Lets all hate Toronto
Posted: 4/20/2007 7:51:42 PM
umm...lyrical girl.....Montreal has a lot of other ethnicities in it too. most Montrealers speak at least 3 languages.
it's funny how you think people shouldn't be hating on TO yet you're hating on Mtl. how's that work?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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i truly think most girls are lesbians
Posted: 4/17/2007 2:15:01 PM
girls are just saying that to get your interest. it's the "trendy" thing to do now.
they think you want to hear that...so they say it.
not every girl is like that. hell I'm not like that. no fantasy about other girls. sorry. I like what men have to offer too much to ever go without.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
furniture donation
Posted: 4/17/2007 11:00:54 AM
I have a question for all you out there.
I have a couch to donate. 8feet long. I called the salvation army to find out if they do pickups. they will not accept it if it's over 6 feet long.
Does ANYONE know of anyplace that will pick up a couch for donation??
I'm a girl, live alone, drive a little hatchback. I can't bring it anywhere on my own.
so how do I get rid of it?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Lets all hate Toronto
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:58:55 PM

Is this the same Quebec that wants to seperate because they are DIFFERENT than Canadians?

not everyone in Quebec wants to separate which is the reason why the referendums have never actually gone through. the ones who want to separate are the french who don't know any better & don't feel that canada is actually doing anything for them. actually...it's usually the uneducated french who want to separate not realizing that it would do more damage to our economy than benefit.

& I have been to the GTA on several occasions. I've been to Cabbagetown (actually rather liked it there) as well as Chinatown, the Danforth etc. I still feel that Mtl has more culture. so...I'm not talking about of my ass when I talk about TO.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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question to all the girls
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:13:37 PM
if she's messed up about a past relationship....then this is actually sort of normal behavior. she's confused. not sure where she wants it to go & therefor is trying to figure things out before they get out of control or she does something she's going to regret or might mess things up with this guy.
course her doing all this could also mess things up with this guy.
she needs time to figure things out & unfortunately by the time she does....he may have moved on.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Lets all hate Toronto
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:07:32 PM

Toronto -- usually acknowledged as the country's financial center and the cultural capital of English Canada

what?! Montreal has more culture in it's little finger than TO has.
main reason most people I know hate TO is that they are too americanized. they are actually losing their individuality we as canadians cherish so much.
most Torontonians are getting the Big egos the americans have of "i'm the best"

although...coming from Montreal....it's imbred in us to hate TO.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Grow some balls - What do you think?
Posted: 4/14/2007 8:24:51 PM
gotta love guys who tell you you're not creative or as creative as they are....yet they write generic hate mail. (nothing creative in his insults etc)
I had one of those once....blocked him. they are a waste of time & space.

& I agree....go for your dreams. sooner or later you'll find one that at least comes close. you shouldn't have to settle.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Suicide of an Acquaintance........
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:45:02 PM
I went to school with a guy once who overdosed on pills & put a bag over his head.
we had sat next to each other in class...had done a project together & he introduced me to a friend of his that I ended up dating for awhile.
when he died...no one saw it coming. not even his best friend (who was the guy he introduced me to)
in the letter he left said he was addicted to pain meds & didn't want to continue on.
none of us knew.

there's nothing you could have done. & would have been worse if you had actually dated. you'd be feeling much more.
it's a sad thing. but you have to live your life.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
I have a honest qustion and you cant laugh k
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:18:59 PM
I lost my virginity 3 months before I turned 18. 18 is not such a strange #.
my 1st time was romantic & I loved him. (were together for 3 yrs)
stop letting other people pressure you & tell you it's not normal.
just wait until it's right for you.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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acid mouth
Posted: 4/13/2007 3:10:56 PM
why would you want to neutralize the acid in your mouth?? I understand, yes, excessive acid can errode your tooth enamel...but so can brushing your teeth too hard/long. & isn't the Ph of your mouth supposed to help kill off some of the bacteria?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Man's Voice
Posted: 4/10/2007 12:28:51 PM
voice definitely has an effect for me. I've had some really great online chats but when it gets to the phone call....they mumble or have a thick accent where I can't understand a word they were saying. & obviously if communication is a problem on the phone.....it's not going to be much better in person :(
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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What's the first stat you look at?
Posted: 4/8/2007 11:58:51 PM
for me it's height. I just prefer taller guys.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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hardcore hockey fan thinking about a hockey player way too much
Posted: 3/30/2007 5:42:50 AM
man I've dated pro hockey players before....both nhl & the minors....tell her to stay away...far far away. support her. but man....if she ever leaves you for a hockey player...she's going to get hurt in the end.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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The Power To Delete )_ new Feature
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:59:22 PM
do a search. we've covered this topic. & the posting goes to an admin for review.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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What is the craziest gift ever received on a date?
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:13:46 PM
^^^ wow. I wish a date would give me 14 firemen (minus the fire though)
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Ummm...why is this happening?
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:07:05 PM
^^^ good to know
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Ummm...why is this happening?
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:03:21 PM
I'm more worried that others will abuse this new found power.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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impatient men
Posted: 3/29/2007 4:01:03 PM

How do you know he didn't except it?

b/c where it usually says window open....I got "user chose not to ...."
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
impatient men
Posted: 3/29/2007 3:38:50 PM
I was in the forums so didn't get the IM bubble from a guy until I went back to the profile page. when I chose to respond to him....he chose not to accept the IM.
why would that be?? why would you want to chat with a girl & then when she does respond chose not to. are guys really THAT impatient?
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Email deletion
Posted: 3/29/2007 3:32:32 PM
or how about "obviously you didn't read my profile before emailing me"
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Would you date a bi man??
Posted: 3/29/2007 1:14:13 PM
I've dated a bi guy before. nothing wrong with it. & he didn't tell me he was bi until 3 weeks into the relationship. so those narrow minded people who are saying they'd never do it....you've probably already done it & not known. I've also recently found out 2 of my really good male friends are bi.
as long as he doesn't cheat on me with a guy. s'all good.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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What is the craziest gift ever received on a date?
Posted: 3/28/2007 8:57:53 PM
pumpkin seeds! (they weren't even roasted...just raw pumpkin seeds)
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What kind of signals does this send?
Posted: 3/28/2007 8:54:38 PM

Here in Canada, I don't meet sailors, or military men..uh..ever.


Clearly you've never spent time in Edmonton. Or any other town near a base.

I was thinking the same thing. where the hell are you that you never met a military man?? they are ALL OVER the place.

OP all I can say is don't get brainwashed into the "gun ho" type of thinking. that turns a lady off. other than that....I don't think you'd really have a problem as long as you find the right girl.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Why is it that women have become really poor mannered?
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:53:04 PM
Women look at a profile and are just so rude, that they do not introduce themselves

do I have to introduce myself to every single guy who's profile I land on? I mean after reading some of the profiles I know for a fact they aren't for me...yet by your logic I should email them anyways??
I introduce myself to guys I feel have common interests or may be able to hold an intelligent conversation with me. By no way does this make me "date lazy" or "rude"

you're post leaves me with the impression that you are bitter towards women who have not responded to your emails or that you are bitter that you don't get many emails from women. maybe you should go to the profile review section & find out the real reason behind this. just a suggestion but trust me after reading your profile....you need some adjustments.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What some descriptions really mean
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:44:26 PM

I'm still trying to figure out how a beer belly translates into "athletic" on guys' profiles


it's called molson muscle
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why do so few women wear dresses anymore
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:27:21 AM
well I know that up here women don't wear dresses when it's -35degrees out. too damn cold. bu t in the summer...they're everywhere. maybe it's just your neck of the woods.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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She just disappeared!!!
Posted: 3/27/2007 11:10:07 PM
I've actually had the same thing happen to me a few times. guess some people are just impatient.
 sass393
Joined: 2/20/2005
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Are You CLEAN?
Posted: 3/26/2007 10:58:15 AM
any time a guy mentions that he's "clean" I think stds. doesn't matter if he isn't looking for I.E. I automatically take it as to mean sexually. & no. I wouldn't normally contact someone who had that mentioned in their profile.
 
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