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rmadonna05

Joined: 2/20/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

Man, how do you guys put up with this? Posted: 6/17/2009 8:47:48 AM
I'm going to put it this way This site, among others, is really a way for people to socialize Chances are, what you have found is someone who already has a good group to hang out with, or date, etc Am I right? Use this site,but also try to find someone while being out at a restaurant or something

rmadonna05

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Is she crazy or am I just an a-hole? Posted: 6/16/2009 5:03:14 PM
Sounds like she's already scared you don't like her anymore, but like you said, you just met. Here's what I think. I think she is wanting you to just date her exclusively, but knows that you may not want to, and my guess is she's assuming this all too soon. But if it sounds just too odd, then only you can judge that.

rmadonna05

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what is love to you ? Posted: 6/16/2009 4:12:05 PM
I think to be honest, it is giving. I've just been in love with people oftentimes that did not feel the same. It dawned on me that if someone is in love with you, or loves you , you know it.

rmadonna05

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Reducing content Posted: 6/16/2009 3:59:45 PM
Sometimes things just go sour, as you said, and you should just learn a lesson.

rmadonna05

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I guess I'm going to hell for this.... Posted: 6/16/2009 3:40:04 PM
If you've just been seeing Jon for two weeks, I would say just tell him you have some things you would like or need to do. I think it would even be easier for Jon if you'd see Rod(sounds like you really want to, and might do it anyways) for a day or just get together. It doesn't have to be a date. That way, if it works out with Rod, it happened early on and not after both you and Jon invested so much into it. Do you see what I mean? You can then decide who you want to be with. However, don't continue to put Jon on the backburner...it'll get old to him and he may not put up with it.

rmadonna05

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Been single for too long Posted: 6/16/2009 2:58:58 PM
I think that you are tired of waiting for someone to come along. Even with the bad economy, don't feel you can't afford to date. It's all down to giving, and what others are willing to give as well. Look at it this way, would you rather go into something, possibly get hurt with another breakup. Or, would you rather wait a little longer...find the right person. I know how you feel, my ex boyfriend gave me a very hard time. It's all been easy for him, and he's even married and happy. For me, it's a different story, of course.

rmadonna05

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Asking for a picture before meeting Posted: 6/16/2009 2:44:18 PM
Well, here's what she's not seeing. It's best to show a picture, at some point. I mean look at the advantages of it. You have more of a chance to know if it will work or not. Both of you do. If she is still insisting not to send a picture, then tell her she can send it in black and white or whatever she wants.

rmadonna05

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What if you suddenly find yourself very attrative to a married acquainance...? Posted: 3/18/2009 11:59:53 AM
I would just think that you could hurt yourself this way. It would be one thing if he was getting a divorce or something. The more you act on it, it'll just get worse.

rmadonna05

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Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB? Posted: 3/18/2009 11:24:40 AM
It sounds like when he is back with his SO or GF that he treats you the worse. Did he say he was with anyone? This does sound like that. If you are just wanting a FWB then you'll have to settle for what comes with it. Hate to sound blunt about it all, but... My take is this: he is either not serious (he told you he wasn't wanting a relationship), or he is taken. For all we know, this man could even be not telling you the whole story. He could be ignoring your texts when his GF is nearby, because he doesn't want to get in trouble with her. It could even be her computer for all we know. It might not be, but it's something to think about.

rmadonna05

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Msg: 45 (view)

what does it mean when a guy asks how many other guys he is competing with? translate please. Posted: 3/18/2009 10:51:07 AM
It could mean two different things. I will answer this even though I am a woman. He wants to know since you are dating casually, how many other men you see. You are dating around aren't you? Or, he is wanting to see you and for you to not date around. Maybe he just wants to date you only and is not up for any competition. He seems to feel he is having to compete too much with all the dating. However, tell him what you want. If you don't want to just be with him, go on and tell him that.

rmadonna05

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getting in your pants Posted: 3/18/2009 10:32:06 AM
I have typed that same thing before. It's just a way to say something but I think that he meant -the chemistry is there. That's what you want anyways.

rmadonna05

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Courage of a SLUG Posted: 3/9/2009 10:35:53 AM
You could see a therapist to help you feel more confident? Maybe u are just getting cold feet when it's time to meet. I really don't know how to help you, except that when something bad does happen...it's over quick.

rmadonna05

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what should i think of this Posted: 2/26/2009 5:34:13 PM
What has scared him exactly? The going from chat to meeting? I don't think it is easy for anyone, really, because you don't know enough about each other, then you meet all of a sudden. Well, he said he felt he needed a break. It either means he is nice and wants to make the right decision. Or, "I am done" "I don't think we should see one another " means that it's close to being over. Just take a break from it, and if it's over ...you'll find someone else.

rmadonna05

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Lovely but uneducated Posted: 2/26/2009 5:12:11 PM
Well, I admit I like good conversation too, and I think that that might be why women date older men sometimes. Some younger men are okay, but they usually don't like to talk as much. Here is another point. Yes, there are men who have gone through college, some even attaining doctorates. I have to say this, too, though: college does not always mean smarts. But you can always set your preferences in your profile.

rmadonna05

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dateing an older woman. Posted: 2/26/2009 4:59:30 PM
She may see you as a kid to her. I'm not saying she won't take you seriously, but unless she is a woman who is okay with dating younger men... I see nothing wrong with it though. It's a good way to grow--i mean both of you.

rmadonna05

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How do you weed out? Posted: 2/26/2009 4:54:06 PM
It's up to you how you do it. I never set certain standards, but always allow them to tell me more about them...whether they are married, have kids, etc. I think that the problem is I even find things that don't work for me...although I'm hesitant to say so.

rmadonna05

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what is wrong with me Posted: 2/26/2009 4:38:35 PM
I would try things with the new guy, even if it's just once. Try to see if bf is serious about you is what I am saying. It doesn't mean you are doing it to hurt your bf, but you need to stop being so available to him from the sounds of this. If you play hard to get a little bit, maybe he'll change his actions.

rmadonna05

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Am I too quick to judge on msn chat? Posted: 2/14/2009 6:32:48 PM
If that's what it is, then don't tell yourself it will change with those people. Are you continuing it in hopes of different results? Until they match your criteria in what you want, don't msg. That's the only solution.

rmadonna05

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Msg: 31 (view)

I don't date men with kids. What's the best way to let him know this? Posted: 2/14/2009 6:28:23 PM
Well, I think that dating a person with children would be harder, because it's more responsibility. It does pay to think about it, but i'd say that if you think you can handle it--go for it. But you say you aren't a "kid person" so maybe you could just say you aren't good with kids. Or, at least you feel that you aren't. It is your choice, anyways. You could test it out for a while and then explain all that to him. Then, say something Like "See, I told you that it couldn't work."

rmadonna05

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confused help Posted: 2/10/2009 8:05:55 AM
I have never been a big dater either. Maybe you will feel at ease if you start meeting and all. I wasn't at ease dating this man who I was really into, in fact, I got so nervous I got the giggles at Hardees with him. Now that has been a really long time ago, but my point is that you just have to go through it.

rmadonna05

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Is this a cruel joke???? Posted: 2/9/2009 7:40:08 PM
Can't you just be friends? I know it's not that easy, but you have to decide. You can try that or see if it goes further.

rmadonna05

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Is It Worth It To Rewrite A Few Months Later? Posted: 2/9/2009 6:58:30 PM
Yes, it can be worth it. It depends on the person, though. I once went out with a man who emailed me and called--when at first I wouldn't respond.

rmadonna05

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Just a card - or something more? Posted: 2/8/2009 6:16:22 PM
He either feels you have moved on, he has moved on, or he is just writing you as a dear friend. Well, it's kind of vague. It could be something more, but you won't know until you write him or whatever.

rmadonna05

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This nice girl..... Posted: 2/8/2009 5:43:05 PM
She could have gotten busy or tied up. If you can't find her in the msn, then maybe you should call her and see. She may have accidently deleted herself from msn--that can happen.

rmadonna05

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Next Move? Posted: 2/8/2009 4:04:21 PM
I agree it's best to ask in person and she has to answer...instead of like you said test your interest. Hope that helped.

rmadonna05

Joined: 2/20/2005

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Classmate Crush: What to do? Posted: 2/8/2009 3:33:40 PM
Yeah, it seems like you are totally into her. Since you just want a shot at it, why not give her a little more of a hint or just ask her out? If she has a boyfriend, she'll let you know. That's usually why us women seem uninterested. YOu said your crush is getting worse. Take a chance. Ask her to go to lunch with you on campus or go to a movie.

rmadonna05

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Should I Apologize again? Posted: 2/7/2009 7:09:32 PM
I think that he is not sure what to do . He may be wanting to get to know you better, but in truth he could still want to get back with his girlfriend. IN a way he does need to know you want it to progress, but in the end he'll end up with you or tell you that he wants to talk it over with her before moving on, I mean.

rmadonna05

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Sensual dreams Posted: 2/7/2009 2:50:08 PM
I have had some sensual dreams myself. On another topic, I have had dreams that did come true. Let me say this, I think a lot of what we dream comes from stress, music (played before bedtime), etc. It sounds like you were fantasizing about this person, though. Let me say this. I had a crazy dream once, myself. It doesn't mean it's meant to happen, in fact, it probably isn't.

rmadonna05

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Dogs and emotions. Posted: 10/15/2008 5:22:45 PM
I think in some ways dogs are smarter. They always know when a storm is coming and they can find you. The favorite dog of mine used to be able to find my school, of course that was a long time ago. He'd be outside in the parking lot waiting on me.

rmadonna05

Joined: 2/20/2005

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Have you ever met someone and the picture they gave you wasn't them? Posted: 10/13/2008 10:16:38 AM
Internet dating is fine, but yes, people sometimes lie. They can lie about age or marital status more easily.

rmadonna05

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Dating for a year but I've never been to his/her place. Posted: 10/13/2008 10:07:05 AM
It depends. Is he a good housekeeper? Could be scared of what you would think. Myself, I'm not messy, but I don't like to clean all the time either. Or, it could be that he prefers the comfort of your place instead. However, it could even be that he has a girlfriend living with him. It's been a year, and you need to know.

rmadonna05

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Chemistry/compatibility Posted: 10/4/2008 5:29:57 PM
I think some people have that chemistry together and others don't. However, I think it' s possible to grow to love as well, even if you don't share a strong chemistry. If there is good chemistry and a fire or spark, you know somehow.

rmadonna05

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i asked a guy out .......... Posted: 10/4/2008 5:10:36 PM
I think that's why many people turn to the online thing-because they are busy. He needs to either make time or let you know in advance he's too busy.

rmadonna05

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the ex fiance wants to hang out... Posted: 9/16/2008 6:07:21 PM
I was going to say that if it was mutual it would be fine. However, if you aren't comfortable with it, tell someone. Did you actually end it back then? He may be thinking it's not over and that you wanted to get back together someday. Has he moved on with someone else?

rmadonna05

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Out of my league Posted: 9/16/2008 12:12:01 PM
I know in high school I had a tendency to like people out of my league. Had a friend tell me to stop picking out rich people. Now, in a way she had a point. Social class matters to some. The point is that with this online thing, it's hard. It's too hard to know a personality. I don't know if your friends are right, but sometimes you can get lucky. If the girl doesn't want to get to know you, then don't waste more time.

rmadonna05

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Women 18-30 Please, Sending Messages. Posted: 9/9/2008 7:25:28 PM
Every few days at first, then as it progresses (if it does) every day.

rmadonna05

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Intelligent Conversation Posted: 9/9/2008 7:19:54 PM
I think it's a matter of talking about what is interesting to you both. 1) If i'm not into the topic, I usually won't say as much. 3)Yes, to the third question...definitely.

rmadonna05

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What do women look for first? If they plan on being serious.. Posted: 9/9/2008 7:11:18 PM
It depends on the woman. Some go for looks only, or intelligence. Me, I tend to look for people I just feel more compatible with.

rmadonna05

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A Compliment Gone Terribly Wrong.... Posted: 9/9/2008 6:58:45 PM
did you say it because you were upset it didn't progress? Just asking. She might be thinking that's why you said it, even if that's not the case. Maybe it did hurt her feelings, but you spoke your opinion.

rmadonna05

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Stocky or A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 9/9/2008 6:36:58 PM
Stocky, IMO, could mean just stout, not necessarily overweight. A few extra pounds is not always the same as stocky but can be. I'm not one to be particular about a man's body size, but most people just want you to guess, you know, or estimate.

rmadonna05

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I keep being dumped for other women Posted: 9/6/2008 6:26:15 PM
Have you been trying to get them to commit if they don't want to? I mean I just read an article about that very thing but forgot the link. It sounds like the men just did not want to be in the committed relationship. At your age, stuff like that happens a lot. You can wait until you find someone who is settled, and just date around a while.

rmadonna05

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Why are there so many crazy women in this world? Posted: 9/3/2008 7:03:31 PM
Well, you need to know if you are reading off the same page. She could see you as a weekend buddy, while she is seeing another man. I don't know if that is the case, but if it happens again...it's either that or she doesn't want to talk anymore.

rmadonna05

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Players-do they tarnish your view? Posted: 8/28/2008 10:13:02 AM
Sometimes I have come here to chat, just to get my mind off of a bad day. Yes, I have had chats, but they were never serious. So, my answer is that players don't tarnish my view.

rmadonna05

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Internet Dating Awkwardness Posted: 8/28/2008 9:46:32 AM
well, my advice is this. I think that your chances of it going over well for you is to just meet like you said coffee shops, or stores. In those situations, it's more likely to find someone who might want to talk or get to know you. Online dating is...well... it is a lot of different things. It's a good option, but you have to know what you want.

rmadonna05

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how do you tell if a guy is married? Posted: 8/28/2008 9:34:31 AM
Usually we find out later if the person is married or cheating, you know. I know people don't think of this often either, but sometimes we find that they are already chatting with dozens or even hundreds.

rmadonna05

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Msg: 34 (view)

I am officially FUBAR Posted: 8/20/2008 6:31:38 PM
Just give it time. You can dwell on it and hurt. Or, you can remember the good and move on. Also, pick up lessons that you learned.

rmadonna05

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Does the type of job/education reflect respect Posted: 8/19/2008 9:16:20 AM
While it's not true, sometimes people assume that a partner or boyfriend having a certain job or certain degree will ensure they are treated with more respect. Like I said, although it's not true, people still assume that.

rmadonna05

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broken heart but i guess moving on... Posted: 8/7/2008 9:27:51 AM
She can't make up her mind. Sounds like she might be pulling you along a little bit, too. If she does contact you again, tell her to make her mind up.

rmadonna05

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New possible romantic interest. Please help. :) Posted: 8/1/2008 7:40:23 PM
Yeah, I think that is always a huge problem.--timing. Sometimes it's just not the right time, they're taken or either we don't have the confidence to show interest. Hey, at least you tried.

rmadonna05

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New possible romantic interest. Please help. :) Posted: 7/25/2008 11:09:51 AM
Well, if you are going to ask her out, just be prepared to deal with it. Yes, it also matters that you don't know her that well. You don't know what she'd say. Since you don't know if she has a bf, just ask her something like, " So, you going out this weekend?"

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