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IWork4KyzrSoze

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What do you hate most about being single? Posted: 3/29/2006 5:14:09 PM
Honestly, I hate not having someone to talk to and just hang out with. Friends get "old" after a while, and I'm now finding that I could really enjoy a good conversation with someone new that I can get along with. I've been doing the "single" thing for quite a while and I feel like I've mastered it! LMAO. I think I'm stuck in a rut. I can't meet/find new people to connect with, and I'm tired of the old ones I already know.

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Why a virgin? Posted: 3/29/2006 4:48:27 PM
Someone recently told me that some men prefer virgins because they're seen as "loyal", meaning that they won't cheat on them and they have amazing willpower because they've gone without sex and resisted temptation for so long. That was the first I'd ever heard of it, but then it did kind of make sense.

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Donald Trumps' The Apprentice. Do you like this show? Posted: 3/29/2006 4:46:20 PM
why? Because you can beat them all!

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What do you really FEAR! Posted: 3/29/2006 4:35:25 PM
I really "fear" bored white guys with nothing to lose. I also get rather worried around "overly religious" white guys. Something about these two groups just make me uneasy because they're capable of doing some of the sickest and twisted shyt all in the name of some abstract theories that most sane people can't understand.

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Donald Trumps' The Apprentice. Do you like this show? Posted: 3/29/2006 4:32:29 PM
I used to watch the apprentice when it was on Thursday nights, but with the move to a new night (which night I don't remember because I already missed the first couple of shows), I just can't get into. Besides that, I think everything's already been done and DT is too predictable. He hired two white guys (1 self-made, 1 educated), a white woman, and a Black man. Next he needs to hire another minority (preferably a hispanic or asian) or a gay person to make sure that he hits all the "hot markets"! I think "apprentice fever" finally wore off for me once the Black guy won. He was such a stellar guy that there was no question that he'd win, and if he didn't everyone would have cried racism. As I watched the last season unfold I realized I only really tuned into the show because it was on between "Will & Grace" and "ER". I wasn't really "invested" in the show and who'd win as I had been in previous seasons. Also, carolyn, george, bill and his other advisors were starting to give me a headache.

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Actor Says Black History Month No Good Posted: 1/7/2006 8:03:12 AM
Why is it that you never hear about one of the largest slave owners in SouthCarolina was a BLACK MAN! If you're talking about William Ellison, the man had no more than 65 slaves! Are you really equating this man's actions with the whole atrocity of slavery on american soil? Get real! Your "re-telling" of history is just as faulty as the "brain washing governmental education system" that you crow about! Everyone is welcomed to research and find out all the information that they want! If you allow the "government" to mandate you and your child's education, YOU ARE THE FOOL! The information's out there for any intelligent person that wants to retrieve it!

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And The Most Hideous Song Of This Decade Goes To Black Eye Peas for My Humps Posted: 1/7/2006 7:51:27 AM
This is one of the stupidest songs I've ever heard. Sad thing is, the kids it's marketed towards have no idea what good music is, so it tops the charts and lets record companies know they should keep cranking out this crap!

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No more fake profiles one day? Posted: 1/7/2006 7:34:15 AM
I doubt that this new device will change the proliferation of fake profiles. Just as one technology is invented, there's always a technology made to work against it. It wouldn't surprise me if there's an anti-TPM software out there that serves to scramble your unique identifying code, or gives the user more control over the ways in which their code is broadcast over the net. Also, nothing will stop people that already have nefarious intentions online. Things might be set up to SLOW DOWN some of these folks, but a determined person can always achieve their goal. I for one like the anonymity of the web, though I'm not using it for nefarious purposes. I'm here to chat and have fun, and I don't think my identity needs to be revealed to everyone for a variety of reasons. I'm not a scammer, and I'm not up to anything illegal, but I definitely would stop using the internet for personal entertainment purposes if I thought for a second that all of my actions were being directly linked to me and people could "track me down" with very little effort (thanks to "advances" in modern technology). Bottom line, this is really a way for Microsoft and other big corporations to encroach more on our civil liberties and privacy, so they can make more money!

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Actor Says Black History Month No Good Posted: 1/7/2006 7:18:21 AM
I for one am glad to see Black leaders taking a more logical approach to issues. First, I don't consider Morgan Freeman to be a Black leader. Second, I think that there should continue to be a Black History Month, no matter how "useless" Mr. Freeman feels it is. Yes, Black History is in essence American history, but at the same time, it needs to be celebrated separately, or else it will be lost. Especially in light of the fact that Blacks are no longer the majority minority, everything "Black" will soon be on the "back burner". I think there should be a "Black History" for as long as their is a "Black" box to check on census forms and applications that ask you to identify your racial heritage for WHATEVER reason!

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Stereotypes you'd luv 2 eliminate Posted: 1/7/2006 7:09:17 AM
When exactly did this combination of educated, opinionated , and "independant" become an asset anyway? You tell em cave man! LMAO.

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The opposite sex Posted: 1/7/2006 7:07:12 AM
Don't be afraid to just come out and ASK for what you want! Be direct! The worst I can do is say "no", and even that won't kill you! (in theory...LMAO).

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Paranoia Posted: 1/7/2006 7:05:20 AM
I don't know if I say I have a "fear", but I am intelligently cautious about my surroundings, especially when getting out of my car at night. I don't consider myself to be a paranoid person, but I do believe in karma. I've done so many things in my life that I'm sure are coming back to me, that when I look over my shoulder, it's with good reason! Someone IS out to get me, I just don't know who! Revenge is a b*tch! LMAO. No seriously, I think too much paranoia can lead one to medication and mandatory court-appointed counseling, so you might want to get that checked out! Also, always remember: Just because you're paranoid, that doesn't mean someone's NOT watching you! LMAO.

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Can women really be friends with eachother? Posted: 1/7/2006 6:56:38 AM
I think women can be friends, but it really depends on the woman. I'm often skeptical of a woman that only has male friends for a number of reasons. First, I think it says something not just about other women, but about you that you can't seem to maintain ANY good relationshipis with females. Second, I think your ability to make good female friends is directly related to the relationships you have with the women in your family (especially your mom). I have one friend who before me had mostly female friends, and she was very distrustful of women and thought they were catty, but then she had a very strained relationship with her mother, and I noticed that she also felt that men were better than women in so many other ways. Our friendship has always been strange and there's tension (for a number of reasons, not just because we're females), but again I do think it's possible to be friends with other women. Somewhat ironically, most of my close friends (all females) are actually females that are very similar to me, meaning that we don't see ourselves as being one of the stereotypically "catty" or petty types of females. Our friendships and our bonds go past all sorts of petty squabbles and disagreements. We're generally the ones to sit back at a club and shake our heads at all the other "catty females" carrying on and acting foolish. I will say this thought, as I've gotten older, I realize it's very hard to make NEW female friends, because there does seem to be something wired within many women that makes them naturally want to compete against one another (especially when a man is at stake).

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Ladies for Black Men in IL!! Posted: 1/7/2006 6:39:55 AM
I am Laughing My A$$ Off at you right now!

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why do nice guys finish last? Posted: 1/7/2006 6:35:34 AM
You know, no offense to you, but I generally think that guys that label themselves as "nice guys" are generally full of it! They say their nice guys, but when you get to know them they're just jerks that can hide their jerkiness a little bit longer than others. Perhaps it's because I've been "burned" by allegedly "nice" guys (not too badly, but enough to carry a small chip on my shoulder about it...LOL), but then again, that's just my experience. I'm sure there are some genuinely "nice guys" out there, just the same as I'm a "nice girl". However, I can't imagine there's a person on POF that would agree with that statement! LMAO.

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Hello My Wonderful Illinoisians! Posted: 1/7/2006 6:32:47 AM
Is "illinoisians" a word, or should I say "Illini" and if I say "Illini" will the Native American anti-defamation league come after me for slander? Anyway, I just recently learned that there's an Illinois section of this board (then again, I might have already known that but blocked it out for purposes of national security...LOL), so I just thought I'd stop by and say "Hello"! HELLO!

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do women really know inthe first 5 min. if they will have sex with a man Posted: 1/7/2006 6:19:11 AM
In my experience, I'd say "yes". It's definitely within those first 5 minutes that you determine if a guy is fckable or not. If you're deemed fckable, we'll probably give you a chance and a few more days, weeks, etc. to say something stupid that'll totally take you out of the running, but if something goes "awry" in the first 5 minutes of meeting you that makes the lower half of our bodies "lock up" (figuratively speaking), then you're already on the outs, and we're trying to figure out how long we can string you along without you knowing you're never going to get it, yet still agreeing to help us move into our new apartment and set up the entertainment system! LOL.

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Stereotypes you'd luv 2 eliminate Posted: 1/7/2006 6:08:36 AM
I also personally hate the stereotype that a combination of being educated, opinionated, independant and female makes you a ball busting dyke. Ok, perhaps I didn't get the memo on this, but when did this stop being true?! LMAO. and that if your broke, your a bad parent I don't know if that's a "stereotype" as much as it is THE TRUTH! Good parents provide for their children and anticipate having them by securing their finances and making wise financial choices.

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Stereotypes you'd luv 2 eliminate Posted: 1/7/2006 6:06:15 AM
What is this stereotype that white men have small penis's!!!! We all know that white men have huge penis's! And by "we" you mean who exactly?!

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Have the tables turned, or am I just strange? Posted: 1/7/2006 5:58:26 AM
Well...by looking at the pics on your profile and the info on there...I'll agree with you that you'r strange and possibly a bit too high maintenance. I'll concede to the "strange" part, however I question the alleged "high maintenance" reference. I believe I hide that part QUITE well! LMAO.

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Reply To #1 Posted: 1/7/2006 5:56:21 AM
I'm not a whiner by far but I'll tell you this you need to go get laid, the tension is just glittering off you. I hate when guys respond like this! As if sex cures all problems!!

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Have the tables turned, or am I just strange? Posted: 1/7/2006 5:52:29 AM
it takes a very masculine man to be able to show his feminine side. Part of me believes this, then the other part believes that it's just a wuss showing his true colors!

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Have the tables turned, or am I just strange? Posted: 1/7/2006 5:51:27 AM
Or it is likely that when a woman is with a softer man she might subconsciously not feel free to show the more femminine aspects of her personality.When a man is softer and more emotional instead of being the proverbial "rock" in the relationship,maybe its tougher to feel "safe" letting go because you dont feel he could handle it if you needed a shoulder.A lot of uber competent women who are very independent need a strong place to fall and to just be a woman once and awhile.I think we all love to let go and just relax like that sometimes Wow! Thank you for the cyberanalysis! That's probably it! At this point in my life, I'm so tired of wine drinking intellectuals that wear their heart on their sleeve! I'm looking for a beer chuggin' guy that can fix a damn flat tire without requiring a call to AAA! Perhaps I need a change of scenery! LMAO.

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Have the tables turned, or am I just strange? Posted: 1/6/2006 2:57:27 AM
I think you're just at a point in your life where you need a man to be a stereotypical man...when the need that drives this feeling is satisfied you'll find that your tastes will change. Maybe that's what it is. I'm so sick of "soft" men! Perhaps it's my environment, but I keep coming across so many weak, crybaby guys lately. My friends do to (and we don't even live in the same places).

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Have the tables turned, or am I just strange? Posted: 1/6/2006 2:19:46 AM
Lately I've noticed a lot of "touchy feely" guys out there that are talking about feelings and emotions and crap, and I'm like "Man up! Quit UR snivelin' wussy boy"! LOL I could care less about long walks on the beach and holding hands. Though I can cook, I wouldn't even if you held a gun to my head (why should I, there are restaurants everywhere). I can run a business, balance a checkbook, and change a tire (though admittingly I don't care to ever do the latter). If I see a man cry and his mother hasn't just died, I'm usually turned off. Anyway, I say all this to ask "have the tables turned in gender roles, or am I just a strange woman that's out of touch with the realities of male/female relationships"?

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Why a virgin? Posted: 1/6/2006 2:11:46 AM
i have actually discussed this with men and it's apparently becuase they prefer to go where no other men have been before if you know what i mean. Hell, even as a woman, I'd prefer to marry a man that's a virgin. I'd love to not have to worry about STDs and out-of-wedlock children. I know it's highly unlikely that I'd ever find a man that's a virgin that's of a certain age and isn't a total screwball that no one wants (I didn't think steve carell was all that bad in "the 40 year old virgin"...LOL), but I've promised myself if I ever come across another one, I'd marry him in a flash! LMAO. Aside from that, people that are "strictly" into virgins do so mostly because of their ego. They don't like the idea of "competing" with others in that arena. Also, I think in many guys virgins (both girls and guys) can make things simpler when you're looking to settle down and get serious in a relationship. That and YOU ALWAYS REMEMBER YOUR FIRST! If you're an ego maniac, you've GOT to love that!

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What will be different for you in 2006? Posted: 1/6/2006 2:05:42 AM
Hmm, this is a good question. I've only got a few months to get my life together before reaching a major crossroads, so I'm hoping in 2006 I will be more organized and professionally focused so that I can continue to be successful. I'm planning to exercise more and eat healthier. I've decided that I do actually want to get married and have kids, so I'm using this year to help get myself into shape (both mentally and physically) so that hopefully in 2007, I can embark on a relationship!

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Am I a Prude? This Seems Wrong... Posted: 1/6/2006 2:02:47 AM
Hey, I am a prude, but I still think this is wrong! LOL. I was in a store like this a few days ago, and I was a bit takenaback when I turned from looking at Simpsons/Family Guy/South Park memorabila to dildos, vibrators, etc. I was surprised that it took almost nothing to get from the "friendlier" side of the store to the SUPERFRIENDLY side of the store. There was a small pink sign that said "you must be 18 years or older to walk in this section of the store", but by the time I saw that sign, I was already IN that section of the store, knee deep in fuzzy handcuffs! LOL. I think it would have been a good idea of the clerk working in the store was keeping an eye out on that section, because when I left that section, I saw some teenagers heading over there, and there was virtually nothing to stop them. As I ventured around the rest of the store, I noticed that sexually suggestive items were peppered throughout, but the really strong stuff (i.e. dildos, vibrator, d1ck shaped shot glasses, bongs, etc.) were in that little section. Since I was familiar with that store and the items they carry, I wasn't TOTALLY SHOCKED however I can imagine how a parent would feel if they went into that store to get a family guy sticker and had to trasp through dildos to get it! LMAO.

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Stereotypes you'd luv 2 eliminate Posted: 1/6/2006 1:54:22 AM
Hmm, stereotypes I'd like to eliminate: 1) All Black guys have big d1cks. 2) All white guys have small d1cks. 3) All skinny people are cute. 4) All fat people are ugly. 5) All really smart people are losers or nerds.

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How do you feel about beggers on the streets? Posted: 1/6/2006 1:50:12 AM
Well, I'm not a complete btch, but I don't have too many feelings for beggars on the street. Perhaps it's a result of my own personal feelings about responsibility and an old TV news show I saw on homelessness, but I think a lot of those people are out there because they CHOOSE to be out there. I feel really bad for someone that's homeless and doesn't have any options, but for a lot of people I come across (especially those in major metro cities) it's just a bunch of folks to lazy to join the "real world" that would prefer to beg all day. Ok, maybe I am a complete btch! LOL.

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Why a virgin? Posted: 1/6/2006 1:39:19 AM
with AIDS and all the STD's on the rampage...virgins aren't so bad now are they? You know, I was thinking the same thing! LOL

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the famous, i just dont want a relationship right now line?? Posted: 1/6/2006 1:34:14 AM
I'd imagine that people probably use this phrase more times than not to brush someone else off. But for me, when I say it, I mean it. Of course, that leads some guys to think that I'm just playing hard to get (and maybe I am subconsciously), but more than likely I'm trying to say "I want and need my own space right now"!

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Strange movie question Posted: 5/1/2005 6:26:45 PM
Ok, since apparently there's NO SUCH THING AS THE MOVIE and this "alledged" quote. I'm willing to concede that this thread should be removed. This movie scene didn't happen. It's ALL made up! We ALL imagined it! What's that you say? You wanna prove me wrong? WELL THEN DO IT! I figured I'd try reverse psychology and see if that got me anywhere!

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Following tats and piercings, gold teeth go mainstream... Posted: 5/1/2005 6:15:17 PM
Bow, I haven't missed the point, but I think perhaps you've missed my point. But okay, let's agree to disagree and move on. In terms of your concern about "glorifying criminals", what about the "hells angels" and the whole leather jacket/motorcycle/biker genre? Were people wearing leather jackets and riding motorcycles glorifying their criminal culture too?

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How to avoid a premature relationship... Posted: 5/1/2005 6:10:59 PM
Actually, this is not uncommon....most guys just think they are in a relationship just because they have been spending time with a person of the opposite sex. Wow, that's news to me! That seems creepy to me. Maybe, if we'd been on two DATES I MIGHT be able to see how he could misconstrue things to thinking that there's a relationship, but we've simply went out together on 2 separate occasions because we were both hungry at the same time. Nothing more. Until the comments I got from the mutual friend, I really thought of him in the same category as any of my other friends (both male and female). -- Well, I haven't been leading him on in ANY way. I'm a very straight forward person (even moreso than I am on POF), so I'd find it very hard for somene to get "mixed signals" from me. I started to wonder if I was seeing some early signs of a "control freak" or overly possessive type of guy. I'm going to try to open up the lines of communication with him, by mentioning our mutual friend's comments. I don't want to scare him off or freak him out or embarrass him, and actually I don't feel like having this conversation now, but I figure I'd better do it now and not "drag" things out.

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Following tats and piercings, gold teeth go mainstream... Posted: 5/1/2005 5:31:14 PM
Bow, the comments I made weren't necessarily EXCLUSIVELY directed at elwood (someone I understand you're very close too ), they were directed at WHOMEVER thinks the way that was portrayed in that initial post. I assume (which perhaps I shouldn't) that he posted that information from some kind of article or newsgroups, so my comments were directed at ANYONE that believes that gold teeth (in and of themselves) have their origins with BLACK CRIMINALS. The thought behind that idea (and whomever would express such an idea, be it elwood or anyone else) is RACIST! It's like saying that "white trash started the 'missing/rotted tooth craze'". To place something like that on someone on the basis of RACE is racist. So, the "you" in my last message wasn't EXCLUSIVELY for elwood, though I can see how you'd read it that way. I don't know much about elwood and his white-guilt-a$$kissing, but the sentiment behind the information posted in his initial post is RACIST and OFFENSIVE, and I am offended by it! I agree that there were fashion styles that were originally created (or appear to be created) in the criminal/rapper culture (something I don't think is synonmous with BLACK by the way), but gold teeth isn't one of them. Also, I don't care for the way the terms "Black criminal" are thrown together in this thread as if they are one in the same, like whites and other races don't commit crimes! Alright, I'm done again.

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Following tats and piercings, gold teeth go mainstream... Posted: 5/1/2005 3:00:14 AM
Another afro-american criminal lifestyle feature gets taken up by the US white middle class.... That's a racist statement, and it comes from someone that obviously has NO understanding of "Black culture" (this is put in quotes because in actuality there is not ONE culture, but I simplify it here for brevity's sake). Gold teeth were not strictly reserved for "Black criminals" and perhaps if you had any exposure to Black people, other than what the media portrays to you, you'd know that. There are a number or reasons why people get gold teeth (i.e. fashion statement, rotten teeth, etc.), and maybe if the U.S. white middle class had ANY idea of who they were, they wouldn't need to STEAL everyone else's culture. I'm not going to go back and forth about this issue, because this thread was posted with a level of insensitivity that is BEGGING for a flame war. I'm done.

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LADIES-ARE YOU OUT HERE TO MEET MEN OR NOT Posted: 5/1/2005 2:48:09 AM
I'm not here to play games, but I'm not here specifically to meet a man either. I'm generally not one to delete messages without responding, unless I find that the guy has said NOTHING that warrants a response.

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Do good looking men and women truly get more dates Posted: 5/1/2005 2:45:11 AM
^^^Sounds like a disappointment just WAITING to happen!

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what put a major smile on your face today? Posted: 5/1/2005 12:56:43 AM
^^^ Jay put a smile on my face today! Was I being too obvious?! I'm trying to play "hard to get". Is it working?!

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Computer Purchasing Question Posted: 5/1/2005 12:54:01 AM
you should stop drinking so much ketchup if it makes your eyes glaze over like that! --> P.S. I thought about being proactive and putting this in the forum that you mentioned, but I figured I'd make the moderators "earn their keep" and move it!

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Computer Purchasing Question Posted: 5/1/2005 12:45:24 AM
Now you just look crazy, handsome!!

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Computer Purchasing Question Posted: 5/1/2005 12:40:26 AM
Ok, so I'm thinking of buying a laptop, and I'm pretty knowledgeable about computers and such, but I wanted to get some opinions on "must have" items you need when purchasing a WINDOWS LAPTOP. I definitely know I need a DVD-burner (though not sure what kind) and lots of hard drive space. I've researched a variety of models and brands and configurations, but I want to have a clear idea of what I want before I walk into the store and the sales man "lays it on me" and I end up with a $4000 super-mega-machine that I only use to surf the net on POF! Alright so, what should a NEWLY PURCHASED WINDOWS LAPTOP contain? P.S. I thought about buying a Mac, but I'm going to wait a year for strategic business-related reasons.

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Strange movie question Posted: 5/1/2005 12:36:29 AM
It's Kill Bill, that's for sure. I own it, have nearly memorised every scene since I watched it so many times. It can't be Kill Bill, because I didn't see that until about 3 weeks ago (that and it was released AFTER July 2002).

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SHould you start to see a guy who says he is leaving his current girlfriend?? Posted: 5/1/2005 12:33:01 AM
Should you start to see a guy who says he is leaving his current girlfriend?? The answer to your question (in my opinion) is: NO! I believe if someone WANTS to leave, they'll LEAVE. If they're sticking around "looking for a reason", I tend to believe it's something else that keeping them there (i.e. kids, financial issues, mental instability issues, etc.). My advice would be to back off. It's unfortunate that you seem to have fallen for this guy, but I think it would be in your best interest to leave him alone. First, he lied to you when you first met (by saying he wasn't married {which he wasn't}, but he neglected to mention that he had a girlfriend; I believe PURPOSEFUL DECEPTION IS LYING!). Second, he's lying/cheating on his current girlfriend now by trying to start a relationship with you. Seems to me like the guy lacks integrity. Finally, it's been my experience that a guy that trashes his current or "soon-to-be ex-girlfriend" and uses that as an excuse to stop seeing her is SUSPECT because it's really unnecessary for you to "bash" someone else especially if you're on the verge of not being together anymore (unless you're looking for sympathy, which in itself is pathetic). Well, that's my two cents. I think it's a rarity that you find a woman that was the "other woman" that isn't soon scorned by ANOTHER WOMAN down the road, so you might want to keep that in mind too.

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How to avoid a "premature relationship"... Posted: 5/1/2005 12:25:54 AM
Ok, I've gone out CASUALLY with this guy about 2 times (and I mean casually like "hey, we're both hungry now, let's eat at the same establishment and have a conversation in the process). NOTHING SERIOUS. No relationship talk about the two of us, just general talk about the things we like/dislike in a relationship. So, here's the issue: We have a number of mutual friends (some that he's closer to, and vice versa), and recently, he's taken it upon himself to start informing these friends about things concerning me, as if we are an "us". For example, when one of our mutual friends mentioned that they were planning on going on a trip next week, he replied something like "she's not going to be able to go, because I'm planning on doing this or that with her at that time" (without make ME aware of these plans mind you, and it wasn't a "surprise" type of thing either). Another time, I went off somewhere and purposely did not tell one of our mutual friends, and when that friend inquired about my whereabouts, the guy told him! Not only where I was, but what I was doing, when I was planning on coming back, and what I was doing while I was away. This prompted the mutual friend to ask me "are you guys an item?", and I was TOTALLY BLINDSIDED! Then this got me to thinking about some of the little things that have occurred over the past few days (i.e. him constantly checking in on me, wanting to know my whereabouts, etc.). It's not like I originally thought he was being possessive, but given how our "relationship" looks to other people, I'm starting to wonder. I mean, he's a nice guy (though I don't know much more about him than that), and I don't really have a reason to dislike him or think that a relationship couldn't be in the cards sometime FAR in the future, but I just didn't even think we were heading in this direction and especially not this FAST. This has never happened to me before. Is this a common occurrence and I just haven't experienced it yet? Am I being overly paranoid? Is there nothing to worry about? Anyone had an experience like this? If so, how did you handle it? Thanks.

IWork4KyzrSoze

Joined: 2/20/2005

Msg: 44 (view)

African-American, a mis-nomer?? Posted: 5/1/2005 12:10:58 AM
So whats the prob? You have or would have a bone to pick with me from my last post where I wrote "them be fighting words"? You gotta be sh*ttin me. I believe I said, if I'd have been feeling COMBATIVE I would have had a bone to pick with you (but I wasn't, so I didn't). I just thought I'd point out how some could misread your choice of phrasing as a racial epithet paramount to the Black face impersonation or "foot-shuffling" imitation of 1930s media. So, I didn't take it that way, but I thought you should know that under a different set of circumstances, it could be viewed as racist (whether you're from the South of not). --> Related Sidenote: I remember Hank Hill on "King of the Hill" pointing out that if he says that a Black man is lazy, all of a sudden he's a racist, even if the Black man IS LAZY and it's a proven fact. He asked the question why was it that HE couldn't say that without it being looked upon as racist....of course there was no answer given, because it is an animated series! Question" Why is a derrogatory word, I presume created and or applied by white people to black (the "n" word) something the black community wishes to adopt or claim ownership and use it amongst themselves as some sort of reference to affection, but God help you if anyone else use it. The word was used, in historical context here in the US, as a degrading, terrible and awful thing. This is a good question. First, you have to understand that even when Black people use the word, it can have a multiplicity of meanings. It can be said as a term of affection, and it can also be used as an insult. Because we're capable of being able to take BACK ownership of the word (i.e. by choosing to use it among ourselves, towards one another), we can use it in a variety of contexts and MOST TIMES when the word is sad to you by another Black person (friend or foe) you understand the context it's being said in, and you usually act accordingly. The problem is, when a white person says it YOU NEVER KNOW WHERE THEY'RE COMING FROM, and history shows us that it's best to be defensive about it, since most white people with good damn sense know IT'S NOT OKAY to use that word. Finally, I want to point out that you have Black people that are totally disgusted by the word and won't use it in ANY context, AND you have Black people that use it among themselves AND their non-Black friends, but OVERALL (i.e. IN GENERAL) EVERYONE knows that the word is racially charged and has the potential to CAUSE more problems then it could ever SOLVE. Ok, I'm done for today. Jack, feel free to keep asking questions if you've still got them. I'm an open book, and besides I LOVE speaking on behalf of ALL BLACK PEOPLE! Thank you, THE Black Spokesperson IWork4KyzrSoze P.S. I can't WAIT until some Black person comes along and tries to refute my status as THE BLACK SPOKESPERSON! It's almost inevitable, but the suspense is killing me! Then again, there might not be ANY other Black people on this site OR perhaps there aren't any that care to respond ('cause they know I'm right!).

IWork4KyzrSoze

Joined: 2/20/2005

Msg: 42 (view)

Strange movie question Posted: 4/30/2005 11:45:52 PM
would you believe that i actually spent 1/2 hour on google looking for the answer and couldn't find it? YES! Because that's about the same amount of time I've spent looking for this answer! Believe me, posting here was my LAST resort. I've been wondering about this for MONTHS! I can't remember what movie it was. I'm almost sure it's NOT "Very Bad Things" (although, given what the movie was about, it could have been"). I know it wasn't "The whole TEN yards" or "Pulp fiction", and for some reason, I keep seeing Ben Affleck as being part of the scene. I'm going to have to check "Jay & Silent Bob Strike BacK". I feel like that movie's in a later time frame then I remember it, but that might be it. I know that the movie occurred BEFORE July 2002, but that's about all I can think of. I can't believe that after 3 days, no one has an answer! Since more than one of us has heard of this scene, WE CAN'T ALL BE CRAZY!! (Although surprisingly enough, we do all have terrible memories for inane details ) P.S. Has anyone recently watched any of the movies that have been listed here, so that we can rule them out?

IWork4KyzrSoze

Joined: 2/20/2005

Msg: 27 (view)

Strange movie question Posted: 4/30/2005 2:16:22 AM
It was a film. I remember the guys talking about it, because at the time, that's the "ruler" by which I decided to judge my friends! Of course, I lost a few friends, when I found out how many were "yellow bellies" when it came to crime!! "

IWork4KyzrSoze

Joined: 2/20/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

funny words Posted: 4/30/2005 1:51:37 AM
Tomfoolery. Shenanigans. Brouhaha. Skullduggery. Bamboozled. Ballyhoo. Hubbub. Hoodwinked.

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