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mlm_mlm_mlm

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Msg: 18 (view)

1956 was a great year Posted: 9/25/2007 10:14:26 PM
I personally hate the snooze button... its like a big tease. When you get a non snooze button alarm clock, be sure to put it on a dresser or something on the other side of the room... so you will have to get out of bed to turn it off !~

mlm_mlm_mlm

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What's up with this sense of entitlement in our society? And can it be reversed? Posted: 9/25/2007 10:12:04 PM
You have some good points... the thing is, you cannot control other peoples actions or how they expect or view things ONLY YOUR REACTION TO THEM... so learn to say, wow, sorry and how about that... and keep yourself at a distance from them so they won't be able to use you too. Learn to have good boundries... it will save you loads of grief.

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Am I wrong? Posted: 9/25/2007 10:04:51 PM
No 13 year old kid NEEDS a birthday party for 40 of her friends ! sorry but apparently she does not know what is a NEED and a WANT. I agree your present to your daughter should be something from you that you can afford and not based on her WANTS... since you are broke anyway... it was a ploy set up by the ex to manipulate you and you fell for it. Let it be a lesson for the future and don't fall into that trap again

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Plentyoffish Really Works! Posted: 9/25/2007 9:54:41 PM
I know a single woman I see most every day and she is asking about how to meet someone.... says she is not on any sites and not tried internet dating. I would like to see her meet someone but since she has not been on any sites.... afraid the wolves in sheeps clothing would tear her up. I think if someone is going to do internet dating, they also need to do other things like learn to use the free county public records... not that they will tell you everything but its a good start to see someone history. I just cringe in the thought she would meet some of the freaks I did... so my plan is to mention the FREE PUBLIC RECORDS online when she tells me she has run a personal ad on this site or any other. She is an actual nice person with a very good job and just bought a very nice home 2 weeks ago.......... with any luck she will meet someone somewhere else

mlm_mlm_mlm

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Tell me the answer I probably already know. Posted: 9/25/2007 12:47:46 PM
who knows why she contacted you but in the future might be a good idea to ignore contacts made like that, where they dont want to say who they are. Just ignore them.

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Do guys really think that us women were born on the last banana boat ? Posted: 9/25/2007 12:43:26 PM
Lots of them seem decent and genuine at first... even the women. Get their full name and check on their history on your county public records. Learn to use the site if you don't know how. Then plan to meet them if they don't seem too bad... even then, you could wind up meeting a cry baby or some type of freak... with diseases or criminal behaviors that could end up getting YOU in big trouble legally or with your health. You should not assume its only the men.... there are maybe more women who fit this description

mlm_mlm_mlm

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Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts? Posted: 9/25/2007 11:47:03 AM
..........wonder how a guy would feel if a woman stared at his wallet

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Plentyoffish Really Works! Posted: 9/25/2007 11:42:56 AM
a few weeks is not very long... but hope things work out.

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love and sex - in what order? Posted: 9/25/2007 11:21:11 AM
love and sex ... in what order? you must be kidding ! ... how about this... child support to a slut who will raise your child... or a hour of casual sex with a prositiute? that should sum it up nicely.

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Too soon? Posted: 9/25/2007 11:13:21 AM
when the right one comes along.... he will know what he wants and know he wants you... you wont have to bring up chat like this.... until that happens, think of them as guys who could be playing games... and dont spend too much of your time or enegry with them.

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Exclusive dating - that chat Posted: 9/25/2007 11:01:59 AM
I dont think you have to being anything up since you've only been on a few dates.... things will evolve and you will see if you want him in your life soon enough.

mlm_mlm_mlm

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This Sucks!! Posted: 9/25/2007 10:43:47 AM
Sounds to me he is willing to sleep with you and not much else... dump him and stop wasting your time. He will only live with you if your playing room mate and FWB.... he's a loser and user. dump him

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HELP i'm being E-Stalked Posted: 9/25/2007 6:50:31 AM
First of all... tell him your not interested... ONE time... then ignore him totally. If he ever shows up in person call the police right away.

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Too soon? Posted: 9/25/2007 6:46:43 AM
I'd say it already got off on the wrong foot and your heading for FWB... I'd say who cares where he wants it to go... do you really want it to go? He is sending mixed signals and you werent even sure he would show up... I'd say don't drink with him or have sex with him.... keep your time open for someone who does not send mixed signals and wants you for more than FWB. Most communication is non verbal and I think he sent his message already.

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What Do You Think Of Mixed Marriages Posted: 9/25/2007 6:42:52 AM
I'd say if someone whoose to marry out of their race, its there life and nobody elses. I have a white friend who has a mixed race daughter and her daughter gets a lot of BS... and unfairness... its mainly where they live. I hoped the daughter would move away from the area when she turned 18 or 21 but she didn't... It's sad.

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Is there any value to generalizations/stereotypes? If not, why do people insist on using them? Posted: 9/25/2007 6:38:47 AM
Guess people are judging if they want to be around someone... we all judge as we all should, more so in dating.

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Is it a bad sign if a person comes on to strong before they even met you? Posted: 9/25/2007 6:35:37 AM
OP sounds like you have a case of boys playing games... no man in his right mind who actually is appealing to women would resort to cheap flattery.... everyone knows cheap flattery only works on cheap women.... maybe he looking for someone cheap and not too smart. There are plenty of them around... hence all the guys who disappear after sex threads. Whatever a guy is thinking to act like that, its not good.

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So, I found my father on google... Posted: 9/24/2007 11:50:54 AM
if you want none of those things from him (post 4)... why even bother to contact him at all? if I felt like you.. I wouldnt. leave himn alone since you want nothing from him... then you will sure not to stir up trouble or be disappointed. I looked up my biological mother when I was about 20... ( not the woman who raised me) I had never seen or known her at all... yes she knew about me but never made contact... I searched for her and found her after a long search over 2 continents... and BOY WAS THAT EVER A MISTAKE !!! If I could go back and change it.. I would have left it alone !!!

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Getting sick and dating... Posted: 9/24/2007 11:46:28 AM
no, I never had anything like that but it sounds as if your body and mind are having conflict about the men your dating....

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2nd date Posted: 9/24/2007 6:49:21 AM
usually its because they saw or learned something in those few dates that they felt it was best to not date that person again... could have been anything ( from your eating/ drinking habits to your lifestyle, your history or anything) but it all boils down to one thing... no further interest. Move on. Worst thing to do is email or call asking WHY. Why does not matter... after all.... all you can be is who and what you are... and that person had concluded... you are not someone for them. No explaination should be needed.

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The Man of My Dreams until he heard my voice..... Posted: 9/24/2007 6:42:00 AM
Sometimes it is a COMBINATION of voice and diction.... not just the voice alone. I talked to someone like that once... he looked ok until I heard him on the phone and he sounded like some country redneck hillbilly. I just couldn't believe how IGNORANT he sounded with his wimpy weenie voice and hillbilly diction. Needless to say... I have standards and don't meet people like that. Guess he may have felt like I did... only maybe you sounded like something other than a hillbilly... all the same... he did not like how you sounded. Dating and meeting people is a very personal thing. Sometimes makes no sense but alll you can say is: it was not meant to be.

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5 time loser! First time winner? Posted: 9/24/2007 6:33:28 AM
I think your instincts of red flag city are correct. I am a female so from my side of it... I have met guys who were "wronged" by ex's... employers and everyone in general and I just got away from them. Red flag city is right. Some people have a knack of BLAMING others for all their issues. I think you met one of them. It is a victim mentality and poison to healthy relationships and people.

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Pumpkin Month . . Posted: 9/22/2007 6:44:34 AM
In the large cities/ metro urban areas people take their kids to malls to go trick or treating where they have free xrays for candy... and vendors who have taken some accountablity as to what they are giving the kids. Only foolish people would let CHILDREN go out to houses where they dont know people and accept and eat food from them. Too many sick people out there to take such a chance. Halloween is a day in some cultures to honor the dead... where it may be better than what it has turned into. People in my area are maybe a little wiser and send flyers out all month as to the malls hours and areas to do the trick or treating. The ones who do pass anything out, pass out prayer cards ...... which makes the mall rather attractive to some of the kids. married on halloween... no thanks, not for me. I like live flowers and sunshine ;)

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Sleeping in seperate bedrooms Posted: 9/22/2007 6:37:54 AM
For people with busy schedules or early bedtime for one and not the other... this could work out great. A good sex life is not dependent on if you sleep in the same bed but does require two healthy people who get enough sleep... if it works for them, why not?

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Companies taking advantage of lonely hearts Posted: 9/22/2007 6:25:52 AM
? I can't believe this...... you get messages on your text saying its entertainment and horoscopes and you are warning us its not real? sorry I thought you meant pay dating sites.... I wouldnt even consider junk mail on the phone, in text or verbally real. Can't believe anyone would !

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Guess or ask? Posted: 9/22/2007 6:20:32 AM
open and honest are not negotiable... anyone you meet should already be that way... if not... dont try to figure them out... take it as them being closed and dishonest and use your time better in meeting people who dont play games.

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what's the relationship between tolerance & good looks Posted: 9/22/2007 6:18:32 AM
I had zero ( and I do mean zero) tolerance with meeting people from online... guess that makes me very good looking...

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What happens when you run out of things to say on a first date? Posted: 9/22/2007 6:16:44 AM
If you feel you have run out of things to say and want to get away you can bet that person you have met is not one you should meet again or talk to anymore. Best thing to say is... ITS BEEN NICE, GOT TO RUN NOW... and don't hesitate... leave quickly.

mlm_mlm_mlm

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Companies taking advantage of lonely hearts Posted: 9/22/2007 6:10:52 AM
I met my now husband on a pay site... so what are you going to warn people of? that they may meet someone, fall in love and get married?

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How old is too old ?? Posted: 9/22/2007 6:05:27 AM
Really depends on your health and attitude... also if you really want children. Sounds like your man is the one who is too old... or just does not want kids. If this is the case and you want kids you should get away from him and look for someone who wants what you do. Would be sad for someone who wanted kids to not have them.... due to a selfish partner. I think from what he is saying.... that you are both too old.... he is just thinking of his own position where he does not want kids. Too old is when your physical health and desire are not there. Both my grandparents had kids in late 30's and early 40's... that is FIRST children. They did ok with it... and lived a long time too.

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Companies taking advantage of lonely hearts Posted: 9/22/2007 6:02:17 AM
Its not just companies, individuals can take advantage too. This is modern life... learn to work around it. The pay sites work for some people, not for others.

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One of the Worst Flaws of internet dating Posted: 9/21/2007 12:31:24 PM
not having 3 dimensional pics... the wahoo site had some option briefly to record yourself saying a message but it didn't go over well, because most people are not truthful about how they look... bad teeth, overweight, bad skin, poor health, bad grammer, are things hard to hide when doing a audio visual commercial

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Wizard of Oz Posted: 9/21/2007 12:26:49 PM
The whole movie had some wild characters from living trees that threw their fruit to munchkins ( the lollypop kids) and the mayor of munchkin land. The bad witch had pet monkeys who could fly and OZ was filled with people who provided all kinds of services. Guess it would be hard to decide but guess I'd be the wizard ... ( or pretend to be one) if I had to be any of them... the manager of OZ. Bet he had nice quarters and people waited on him lol

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HAS ANYBODY ELSE NOTICED Posted: 9/21/2007 12:16:43 PM
I agree and you should know... many of the guys match them !

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My Experience On POF Posted: 9/21/2007 12:10:25 PM
at 20 minutes an interview... 100 meetings only equal 34 hours. I am very good with time management.... and that was spread out over 2 years. I could have met hundreds more ( my mailbox stayed full, up to 50 men making contact a day, sometimes more)....but they never got that far. I have high standards.

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...that's why you are single. Posted: 9/21/2007 11:55:36 AM
I did not find my soulmate and spouse until later in life. Many of my friends married very young and started having babies at 18..... I thought it was a big mistake and did not follow the pack. Years go by and all of them who married young have horrible marriages and brats for kids. They also have ruined credit and having to start an occupation from square one ( many of the women)... and all of them divorcing. none of that is for me... give me early retirement and an easier life after 40, which is what I have.

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The heeby-jeebies Posted: 9/21/2007 11:47:00 AM
Ihad this guy I met one time who started to follow me around like some love sick puppy calling me several times a day and much of that type nonsense... he even told me he would give me 200,000 dollars...buy me a house... if I married him UGH.... Had to break it off with him, he was some kinda obsessive person and I had to get really nasty to get him to stop calling. It was big time heebie geebie time.

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My Experience On POF Posted: 9/21/2007 11:39:49 AM
it helps to learn to use your public free county records and I strongly suggest criminal background checks ( you will have to pay for that but its not much, about 10-20 dollars and well worth it)... in my area... when I was looking.... one in 4 guys turned out to be felons, 2 of them convicted child molesters, several for robbery, assault, burglary...drugs and all kinds of things... so I ditched them quickly despite how nice they "acted" and "seemed"... also many are married... living with the unknowing spouse drop them fast and quickly. do not dwell on it... just move on... another tip is to not get any preconcieved notions about someone before meeting... most of them will not look anything or act anything like they would seem to from your brief phone calls ( that are used not to chit vchat but ask important questions. You will have very unattractive people show up, people who will freak you out how bad they are with common manners and social skills, guys with awful diseases and sickly... from swollen livers to people showing up in a wheelchair and not telling you this info prior to meeting them. all kinds of things including once a man being followed by his wife.... One some kind of perv writer sicko... one was a rapist out on parole ( ugh) You can learn much about someone from history... criminal background won't tell you everything but its a good start. Meet in a public place and keep it all business until you check out that person... which won't add up to very many... as most are not going to be someone you want to meet again. Learn to ask pertinant questions, do background checks... assess mental capacity for emotional problems or mental health problems and ditch them quick... do lunch or coffee dates... keep it to 20-30 minutes. You can learn much about a person when meeting face to face. Not knowing if you like them is a NO... keep seraching. bottom line: take care of yourself and you will have a good result. I met a handsome, healthy guy who is a eye doctor... stable and wonderful ;) and we married after a year of dating.

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Dont like to beg... Posted: 9/21/2007 11:31:41 AM
msg 1 sounds like your not compatible with that person.... dont try to change them... just exit and keep your time free to look for someone more to your liking.... and comfort. will be not only time better spent but well worth it !!!

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If Mr./Mrs. Right was terminally ill... Posted: 9/21/2007 11:27:52 AM
being related to someone or previously married to them for some time is not the same as going out to persue a new romantic relationship with someone. not hardly.

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If Mr./Mrs. Right was terminally ill... Posted: 9/21/2007 11:20:45 AM
terminally ill? what is someone terminally ill wanting with a romantic relationship ? Thats not fair to the non terminal person. I am healthy and when I was looking, was only interested in healthy people. One time met a guy with super bad breath... dental issues I guess.... unresolved ones from neglect and he had to go. I have no use for someone terminally ill. To start a relationship with someone knowing your going to be sick and maybe dependent for care.... just ain't right. To each their own... some people have no options and have to take whatever they can get.

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Long hair or short hair? Posted: 9/21/2007 7:05:16 AM
for many men being over 35 and still having hair is a miracle.

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Do Girls Like Guys Who Can Cook? Posted: 9/21/2007 7:04:23 AM
All a person needs to do to be able to cook is be able to read directions.... would be really pathetic is someone clamined to not be "able" to cook.... not wanting to, being too lazy is more likely the problem. Anyone who can read can follow directions and cook.

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Is this commitment phobia or just selfishness (or both?) Posted: 9/21/2007 7:02:16 AM
Some people just are not the types to be in a relationship of any type.... they do not even make good pet owners. Not everyone was meant to be with someone... even the bible tells us that. I'd say if you meet someone who shows no interest in a relationship with you or not in the type your interested in.... get away from them. Many will try to stick around to work on them and change them... what a waste of time

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be who you wanna be? Posted: 9/21/2007 5:54:09 AM
Maybe since your young and maybe fresh out of high school, she thought it was a phase ... and that you were done with playing rebel dress up... I'd say when she found out it wasn't... she tried to help you dress but saw your problems were deeper than she suspected.... I am betting she does not care she lost the friendship. She may have done an inventory of her makeup to be sure you didnt steal any too. Wondering... ? did she want you to dress in baggy pants that dont cover your butt?

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Can Long Distance/Short Term romance turn into Short Distance/Long Term Relationship?? Posted: 9/21/2007 5:43:06 AM
If one wants to move and the other has plenty of money ... could work but no garentees because being around each other in person is not like phone/ IM.

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How do you get a parent to stop driving????? Posted: 9/20/2007 11:33:58 AM
if all else fails... learn to disconnect the rotor cap so the spark plugs do not fire... epseccially if they are old and drink

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I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!! Posted: 9/20/2007 11:31:09 AM
fetal alcohol syndrome......... bad stuff... boo to a woman who is preg and drinks !

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My Experience On POF Posted: 9/20/2007 11:28:22 AM
First meetings are not dates, they are interviews... maybe thats where you and I differ. I did meet and marry someone from a dating site and so have many people I know. We all had the same code in interviews, not dates when meeting... dates are only for people who you meet, like, have more than just a physical attraction for and that leaves a very small percent.... but there are some good ones out there. Trick is not to waste your time with the rest who are hardly worth your time. good luck

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No wallet syndrome Posted: 9/20/2007 11:24:28 AM
no wallet? if they asked you to dinner and had no wallet... then that is a problem, but who in their right mind meets someone for the fiorst time and plans an extravagent date?

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