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GoodWitchBeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go? Posted: 11/8/2009 3:26:43 AM
Change your locks. Good riddance to bad rubbish. She is a gold-digging nutjob, and you don't want your kids picking up her habits. Beth

GoodWitchBeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Same group of friends breakup what to do? Posted: 11/7/2009 2:27:04 AM
You need to get over your feelings of jealousy. She is going to be friends with these people, because they like her and she likes them. When you see her, be polite, don't talk badly of her to your friends, be an adult. She obviously is a nice person, or they woudn't be still friends with her, so accept her as a friend, and move on Beth

GoodWitchBeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Have you ever fallen in love with a sociopath?? Posted: 11/7/2009 1:41:51 AM
Yes unfortunately I have. They have literally no emotional empathy for others. A child crying is just an an annoyance to them, not a cy for help meaningthe child needs assistance. When they hurt your feelings and are especially emotionally cruel, they don't care at all, or have an inkling why you should be hurt, and if you somehow do get an apology, it is for their personal gain, as in to get you to shut up, not to make you fel better, They go through life 'faking' emotions, they truly don't care or or have an understanding of how their actins harm people...and they don't want to. The sociopath will have sex to gratify themselves but they don't care really do it for pleasure,it is only for power. The sociopath I got involved with would rape me anally, without warning, just to hear me scream and when I would bleed profusely, sitting in the tub with blood running down the drain, he would laugh and say I needed to toughen up. He threatened me if I told anyone about it he would slit me from my anus to my mouth. He would also beat me to a pulp on a regular basis, it was a turn-on for him, then he would rape me...that was one of his biggest thrills, He didn't give a damn what I felt, it was all about his feelings of power. At work, he demanded his way at all times, he was the owner's son, so people let him get away with whatever he wanted. He took pride in working alongside his men, and outworking them every day.He made good money, but that wasn't the point. he was sadistic, They sucker you in at first, the present themselves as well-mannered, adjusted, and hard working men. Then after a bit, you start seeing the traits come out little at a time. It is not your fault if you get takn in by a sociopath, and it's hard as hell to get away one. But we live and learn.I hope to hgh heaven no one ever has to go through what I went through. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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A question about personality Posted: 11/5/2009 8:54:19 PM
I would love to send you a message, but I am one year too old, lol, can you open up your restrictions for a bit so I can send you a private message? (I'm not trying to hit on you, lol) Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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does he like me? Posted: 11/5/2009 8:51:19 PM
Landra So another parent can't be friendly without being accused of hitting on you? Can't another human being enjoy interacting with someone while standing around waiting without it having to turn into a romantic agenda? What do you want to happen here? LOL, not in my world!!! If a man has been checking me out for weeks, gets up the nerve to come over and talk to me, and makes conversation every day and makes a point of letting me know he's a single parent, he's definitely hitting on me. In the real world, guys who aren't interested in me don't go to that much trouble to get close to me...and men like me and I like them, so I know how to recognize the vibe. But then again, I am outgoing and friendly and have never had a problem attracting men. So OP, honey, he likes you! Before the kids come out and the bell rings, tell him you'd love to have a glass of wine sometime and really get to know him when you both have time and don't have the children to worry about. Don't be shy, it gets you nowhere. Go for it, life is short!!! Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 69 (view)

My life has been turned upside down! Posted: 11/5/2009 8:28:57 PM
Hey UKindMan4U, Why don't you back the hell off of this poor girl? Didn't you ever fall in love at a young age? And by the way, I graduated high school at 17, started college full time while still in high school, and had completed two years worth of courses in college by the time I graduated high school, so not everyone at 17 is some dumb kid without goals or aspirations. I was a Junior in college at 18 and got married at 18 and a half. I had my daughter at 20 and was married for 6 years. I would have stayed married longer, but he was a total emotionless jerk, who paid no attention to me or my daughter...and yeah I said MY daughtet, because that SOB couldn't be trusted to watch her for an hour while I went for groceries...he never even changed a single diaper. So quit giving this young woman such a load of mysogynistic crap...accusing her of 'tricking' him into getting her pregnant, what a load of bs. It was his pr1ck, he knew where he was putting it, and they'd been living together for 5 years, she had good reason to believe he was trustworthy, and she said they BOTH agreed to having the child. Plus, if he didn't want the baby, he should have told her before 12 weeks, when abortion was a choice, instead of waiting 6 months and bailing. This dude is a real jerk, so quit defending him. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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STD/Mutual Testing Questions Posted: 11/5/2009 1:54:39 PM
Before I have sex with anyone, I have the discussion regarding testing and the dates of the last test. Then you use condoms religiosly, and still get tested whenever you have an appointment. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Was I wrong ?? Posted: 11/5/2009 1:34:18 PM
OK, go to the courthouse, anf file for child support immediately. Pack up all his shit in Hefty bags and put them out on your front lawm and call and leave a message that if he values his things he will come and pick them up immediately before someone else does. Inform him if he brings the girlfriend, you will have her arrested for tresspassing. After the court order goes through for child support and he is ordered to pay (make sure he has to pay at the courthouse, so you have an official record of his payments and if he skips, they will immediately go after his sorry butt). Then have Daddy fire him. Yeah, let the biotch come out. Screw this loser. He needs a good a$$kicking, but since that is illegal, do it with every other means possible. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Big Labia Lips On Women Posted: 11/5/2009 1:09:34 PM
Now that you've been clearly informed that it's purely genetics, how about making her feel good about her body? Go down on her, tell her how sexy it is, tell her she's beautiful down there, tell her how you love her lips, tell her how you want to suck on them, how good she tastes, and how you coul stay down there for hours bcause she looks and smells and tastes so wonderful. You would be doing her a world of good to give her positive reinforcements that she is beautiful in the nether regions. She will be able to relax and enjoy it, and possibly be able to orgasm. You need to be more sensitive to her insecurities. How would you feel if you had heard negative comments about your penis all your life? And everyone else looked different from you? It would make you a bit insecure too. Love her, all parts of her, and make her feel good about herself. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

Is porn ruining real live sex? Posted: 11/5/2009 12:56:12 PM
I have no problem with porn...some of it is ridiculous, but some porn scenes are actually really good, I have actually done the rewind and told my lover "see how he is going down on her? That's the right way to do it for me. Watch and learn!" And visa versa, I've seen some girls do some blowjobs that had a few really cool moves and my lover was like "hey baby, try that and let's see how it feels". So yeah, in the good ones, you can learn some new things, and sometimes it helps to make the sex better in real life. I also have seen things in porn that I didn't know about before, but turned me on, so they got incorporated into the sex with my lover. Some of the most fun times I had with my ex were when we would get a really good one and mimic everythng they were doing on the screen ourselves. It was almost like a game, but extremely sexy. Porn has it's place, and it can be a real boost in the bedroom. I've never had a man say he preferred to jack it to a porn rather than have me, so I don't get where that author got her information. I've had nothing but good times incorporating it into the sex with a partner, so I say it's fine with me. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Why to worry about when to give sex? Posted: 11/5/2009 12:01:19 PM
Some girls are an easy lay...and some respect themselves....the easy girls are usually desperate for acceptance and are usually insecure... A mans got a better chance of seeing God than getting me in bed early in a relationship That is the biggest load of horse manure I've seen posted today. If I want to have sex early in a relationship, it has absolutely nothing to do with being desperate or insecurity. I am about as secure as a woman can be, and I am completely comfortable with my sexuality. I sometimes have had the sexual chemistry and genuine liking for that person and I choose to experience sex with that man early in the relationship. Then there are times that I date someone for a long time and never feel enough sexual chemisty to ever want to share that part of myselff with them ever. Don't paint women with such a wide brush, just because you don't have the same feelings about your sexuality. There us no right or wrong in this situation, we are all individuals. Don't insult others. You can call those of us who make our decisions about sexuality desperate and insecure, but in the same respect those of us who are secure in our sexuality and with our bodies could call you repressed and a game player. Let's refrain from calling people names and keep this forum civilized and fair. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 69 (view)

caught my fiance having cyber sex and text sex with other women Posted: 11/5/2009 11:27:14 AM
Porn is not that big of a deal in my opinion, men and women both enjoy it whether alone to get off, or together as to add some spice in the bedroom, so that wouldn't be an issue for me. However having cyber sex, or text sex is one one one with someone else, and that would definitely be a red flag that this man is not getting what he needs at home. You state that there is no communication between the two of you, so that tells me that he doesn't feel comfortable discussing his sexual needs with you. This is a serious issue between the two of you. He is finding his sexual gratification from other women whom he can be completely open and free due to the anonymity. You have read his texts, obviously, so why don't you see what he is actually writing, what turns him on, and maybe you can get a deeper understanding of what turns him on. Men and women cheat for a lot of different reasons. If he is not physically cheating yet, but is using texting and cyber sex, then now is he time to open the dialogue between the two of you, and perhaps learn what he needs to fulfill his sexual needs. It is going to take a lot of work, and it may get very tense, but you need to work to recapture your man's attention and rekindle that sexual bond between the two of you. He is obviously not able to ask for what he needs right n0w, so you're going to have to do the work, make yourself more desireable, and get his attention away from the cybering and onto you. Good luck, I wish you all the best, Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Is a person cheating if the are 'seeing someone yet maintain a open profile Posted: 11/5/2009 10:19:15 AM
Hey, I'm seeing someone, and my profile is open for everyone to see...what's that any of your business? I make no bones about being in a relationship when someone contacts me, so it's all good. I like being contacted by those who read my posts in the forums, male or female, and am often contacted for advice or just friendly conversation. If my profile was hidden, that wouldn't happen, and I would miss out on meeting some really great people. Just because people are free to contact me doesn't mean tht I'm gong to do anything, and to be honest, if you don't like the fact that I have an open profile, then don't contact me. But keep your judgements to yourself. Not everyone who is in a relationship is exclusive, some have open relationships. "Judge not lest ye be judged' Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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My life has been turned upside down! Posted: 11/5/2009 10:00:00 AM
Ok, honey, you have a real situation on your hands. I know you have a plethora of emotions going on right now, but you have to be logical right now. First, do you have a job that will allow you to support you and your child? Do you have the education that will allow you to continue to further your career and allow you to succeed in the world, so you will be able to give your child the things and opportunities she/he is going to want and need as they grow up? Will you be able to provide insurance, and start a college fund, and have a decent place to live that will be safe and let your child grow up in a good environment? These are all things you need to consider. If you are smart and strong, you can most certainly raise that baby on your own, but you definitely need good parents that will help with things like babysitting, and help you provide the environment that will turn that little being into a good, moral person, and become a healthy contributing member of society. This is all on you right now, it's going to take a ton of work and strength on your part. Being a good parent is a hard job, harder than anything you'll ever do in your life, and certainly more important than anything else you'll ever do. If you are sure you're up for it, then there are going to be some very important things you're going to need to do now, and decisions you need to make. If you're not, then I'll go over some options with you as well. If you want to keep this child, and you feel you are up to the task, you're going to have to immediately grow up. I'm not saying this as an insult, or insinuating that you are not an adult now, but you need to recognize that this child is going to become the number one priority in your life. That means it becomes more important than going out with friends, going to parties, dating, and any type of social functions. While your friends are out having fun, you are going to be home changing diapers, washing bottles, giving baths, doing laundry, and playing with that little bundle of joy. Your biggest friend will be the television when your child is asleep. You will be lonely a lot of times, but that will be made up for by the adoration of your child. You are going to be your baby's world, and that is exactly what you need to be. Your friends will help, as will your family, they will come and visit and there are certainly places to go where you can take your child, but that baby comes first! But one of these days you'll look back and be glad you did it. Now, I know it sounds a bit grim, and very hard, but that's not always the way it is. There is a lot of bliss in being a mother, and if you have the support of friends and family, your life can be very good. Now as for that man who fathered your child, you need to get really serious about making sure that he helps support his offspring. That means getting a lawyer, and going to court and getting him to pay support from prenatal care all the way through age eighteen. He may not like it, but he fathered that baby willingly, and he has a responsibility to make sure she has what she needs. And that is not just paying for food and diapers, that is making sure that baby has a decent roof over their head, electricity, and other utilities. Child support is to help cover all of that. Now if he balks at it, too bad, you get in there and fight for your child. He fathered that child, and he needs to step up and help with the care. If he doesn't want to be a part of the child's life, then he doesn't need to have liberal visitation, but he damn sure needs to pay support. If he tries to give up his parental rights to get out of paying, you fight that. That's just an ***hole's way of getting out of paying support. You fight and fight hard for your child's due support. You're going to need it if you're going to raise that child on your own. OK, now, if you don't think you are ready for the responsibilities of everything that comes with raising a child, there is no shame in that. You are young, and having a child and all that comes with it is scary. If your choice is to not be a single mother, then I would suggest getting in touch with an adoption agency. I would look at several ones, and be very selective and interview prospective couples very carefully. Find a couple who is prosperous, stable, and has a good marriage. I would ask for a psych evaluation for the couple to weed out any prospective problems in the home or with every candidate. Make sure they have stable jobs, and if it were me, I would choose a couple where the man works and the wife stays at home, so she can give your child all the love and attention he/she could possibly want. Ask them what activities they would offer your child, like dance, sports, music, and what types of education they have themselves and what type of education they can provide for your child. Also ask the prospective parents what type of childhoods they had...that can give you a good insight into what kind of parents they may be. Ask about their views on discipline, how they might handle different situations that may occur when your child becomes and unruly toddler or teen. Don't leave anything out. Remember that is your little bundle of joy you are entrusting them with, so you are in control entirely. Now, I beg you, while being careful in interviewing prospective parents, once you make your decision on who will have your child, don't be one of those cruel people who change their mind at the last minute. That is a horrible thing to do, and is not only a huge blow to people who have their hopes up at bringing a child into their home, but it is just wrong to do to someone. There are several options with adoptions. You can do an open adoption, where you visit your child on occasion, she/he knows who you are and you are an extended part of their life. It may be good for you to do this, so you can see your child grow into a healthy adult. Then there is the closed adoption, where the child is not a part of your life, and you do not visit or spend time with the child. Some mothers find this easier, especially younger mothers, because they can go on with their lives and leave whole pregnancy and child in the past. But there is always the issue that your child may want to find you and find out who you are. You also may desire to see your child and reaquaint yourself with them, more as a friend than a mother. These are your choices, and if I had to make the choice, I would do the open adoption, that way the child can know you are the birth mother, and you can be like an 'aunt', but you can share in the important moments of the whole growing up process. You have some hard choices to make, but they are there and have to be made. God bless you, and whatever option you choose, know that it is the right one for you...there is no wrong choice. You have to know that the main concern is for the best interest of the child. I feel so bad for you being put in this situation. Your ex is a total jerk for doing this to you and making you have to make these choices. Personally, I think he needs a good beat down for being such a pr1ck, but you are a better person than that. If you ever need to talk or a shoulder to lean on, all you have to do is send me an email. I'll always be here to talk. Good luck and God bless you. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Sex Frequency compatability question Posted: 11/1/2009 2:19:40 AM
If she was getting it enough, she would have never mentioned her ex. He needs to step it up, and give it to her more often and better. If she was getting it all she wanted, she would never have said a thing. That's a fact. And if she was satisfied in the sack, the only comparison she would have made would have been in his favor. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 69 (view)

What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/1/2009 2:12:41 AM
Cause FAT WOMEN FEEL GOOD!!!!! You can grab us, and roll around with us, we've got big boobies to put your head in between, or any other part in between, you can grab out big butts and squeeze it, when you're on top and going at it you never hit bone, you hit cushion which feels amazingly good, when you've got us on our knees, you see that round butt which curves into our waist and it's just downright sexy!!! We look really good in stockings and garters and heels and when you take our clothes off our bras hold up our breasts and we look much more like pinup girls than twigs. And I'm not fat, I'm fluffy. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Freezing sperm Posted: 11/1/2009 2:03:01 AM
LOL, yeah, just go get some of those Tupperware popsicle molds and make a bunch of spermsicles...that'll be just lovely to explain to the kids on a hot summer day. The only reason to freeze sperm is if you're going to go through chemo or radiation or going to die. And then only under a doctor's supervision. Good Lord, men can reproduce literally all their life...as long as they can get that thing up and off it will keep making babies, I don't know where some people get their information! Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Making an Excuse to Party on Halloween - Roadblocks if any? Posted: 11/1/2009 1:40:19 AM
Staying at home on what has always been my favorite holiday due to the fact that I am sick as hell and feel like dying. Planning on loading up the trick or treaters with tons of candy though, and watching scary movies on my couch. I may be a corpse by morning. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 54 (view)

HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN? Posted: 10/31/2009 3:21:09 AM
Only if she hates you to begin with.

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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How far before you cross the line? Posted: 10/31/2009 3:19:55 AM
If she's spending time outside of work with him, and there is a romantic spark, holding hands, he's buying meals, they're having drinks, going to movies, out to eat, sitting closely,walking closely, intimate talk, snuggling. Overnight stays, well, that's really pushing the limit, obviously they are sleepig together. Don't be a fool. This girl is seeing this guy. You better figure out what you're away what you're going to do. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Does being a father scare women away? Posted: 10/31/2009 3:12:11 AM
Depends on the man and the way he handles being a dad. Some treat their kids like they are really nothing more than than a check than they send a check a to once a month to, or those wonderful dads who love their kids, play football and baseball in the backyard when the weather is nice, curl up on the couch and eat popcorn and watch cartoons and footwall when the wather is cold, do homework at the kitchen after school and eat pizza with extra cheese before wrestling in the den before bedtime. Those are the kinds of daddies I adore. They make me want to make homemade cookies and meatloaf and mash potatoes and southern style biscuits and pie, and sit on his lap and kiss him and be blissfully happy in his big strong arms. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Unapproachable...? Posted: 10/29/2009 8:58:10 PM
You have the look that turns women in the other direction, like you don't want women to talk to you, or be around you. You probably don't have a friendly expression on your face, you may cross your arms, and you probably look everywhere but into people's eyes. Try smiling and looking friendly, uncross the arms, and look people in the eye and grin. It's not that hard, just look like you're enjoying yourself and having fun. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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dating a drug (ecstasy) user Posted: 10/28/2009 1:02:23 AM
Recommend he go into treatment. Offer to help support him emotionally throughout his treatment, and offer to be there when he gets out. Write letters to him every day while he's in rehab, and visit him whenever they allow visitors, but tell him unless he goes into treatment, that you cannot involve yourself in his lifestyle. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Did I do the right thing in telling... Posted: 10/28/2009 12:55:20 AM
HMMMMM..... he said he'd been on a few dates, but hadn't had any chemistry...but he'd sent her flowers the day before and was texting her at the same time he was emailing you and asking you for your number? LOL yeah, I'd say he was trying to be a player,he just got busted before he got his game going. I don't think you did a thing wrong by calling him out to your friend. I'd have done the same thing. If you had kept his 'secret' then you would have been just as guilty as he in keeping the 'game' going. Now, if she chooses to keep seeing him after knowing what he said and what kind of a man he is, then that's on her. Personally, I would have dropped him like a hot potato for not at least being honest about dating other people, and especially for saying there had been no chemistry, while texting her and sending her flowers. He's obviously a liar. You did the right thing. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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What does it mean Posted: 10/28/2009 12:38:35 AM
LOL, she wants to see just how 'bad' you can be!!! At least that's what it has meant when I've said it!! Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Whats it mean..when a girl looks to the side when you kiss? Posted: 10/28/2009 12:37:31 AM
If you don't like it, close your eyes. Just be grateful you're getting kissed. Hey, if all else fails, kiss her somewhere besides her mouth! Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Young engaged woman needs advice... Posted: 10/28/2009 12:12:35 AM
OK, all of these flaws are certainly fixable, but not in the immediate future. If he pushes you to set a date, tell him that he needs to do some things before you will consider it. 1) get in shape physically. You do not want him dying on you or teaching your children unhealthy habits. Also, the sex is uncomfortable due to his weight, and that is making you unhappy. 2) his credit needs to be in order before you marry him. You will not jeapordize your credit because he cannot handle money. Suggest he get an acc0untant to handle his money, or that he learn to do so himself, but one way or another, the money troubles need to end. 3) he needs to become sober, and that means no more boozing three nights a week with the guys. You are not willing to marry an alcoholic. It's as simple as that. These are not unreasonable things to ask. If he loves you, he will deal with his issues. If not, then tell him it's over. Good luck, from a woman who has been there and done that. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc Posted: 10/27/2009 6:30:35 PM
You're girlfriend is either very immature, or else she is cheating on you and wants to have a reason to 'flip the script' on you so you look guilty before she does...stupid but it happens all the time. Watch and see... Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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fake improvements Posted: 10/27/2009 1:10:52 AM
If you want to wear lifts, I don't care. If you want to get plastic surgery, please make it with a good doctor, don't do anything that looks stupid. And leave off of the tanning, all of it. It's out of style anyway. Tanning beds are proven to be more cancer causing than cigarettes, they have been proven to cause roughly 50% of their users to get cancer...gross. And the orange carrot looking fake tan is laughable. Go natural and be yourself. Get a good haircut, take care of yourself, lose the unibrow if you have one, and if you have skin issues, go to a dermatologist. Oh, and take care of your hands and feet. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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How do you tell your lover they`re too loud in bed? Posted: 10/26/2009 11:30:56 PM
OK, I'm a bit loud...usually he just shoves my face into the pillow. Works every time. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Clitoral vs. Vaginal orgasms Posted: 10/26/2009 11:26:37 PM
Quit faking it. You are just doing yourself a disservice, and not letting your partner know what's really going on down there with you, so he can learn what really feels best on your end, too.

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Oral anal play? Posted: 10/26/2009 11:22:56 PM
Way to go!!!!! Now your inbox should be full with all those guys who like their buttholes licked!!! LOL. Isn't this like a guy who puts it out there how hard it is to have a 9 incher, while loving to give oral? Yeah, this is cute!!!! Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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What is it about manners that is such a turn off? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:14:35 PM
I don't know who this woman is that you were dating, but if I like you and have been dating you long enough to be comfortable enough to go to France with you, you better believe I'm going to be sharing a bed with you, and I'll expect lots of affection, and cuddling, and hand holding, and snuggling, and PDA. Who is this woman, is she stupid? I don't take trips with guys I date unless we're to the point that affection and sex is in the cards. You see, I happen to LIKE stuff like that. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

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Why did my wife marry me when she's bi-sexual? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:09:15 PM
Bi-sexual means she like both men and women. It does not mean she did not love you or want to have children, it just means that she was also attracted to women. It does not mean that she wanted to cheat on you with a woman either. Different bisexual women have different desires. Some want to just have the fantasy, some want to live the lifestyle. Don't persecute your wife for her desires or feelings. Accept her for who she is. But in my opinion, and it is mine and may not be yours, cheating is cheating, so that means no sleeping with anyone other than the person you are married to. Discuss your feelings with your wife, and get to know what she wants your relationship to be, fully. Her being bisexual doesn't mean she can't love you fully. Open your heart and listen to her. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 20 (view)

Do women think you can get any guy? Posted: 10/25/2009 8:56:52 PM
Yes, of course I can....with the magic power of alcohol and desperation so can pretty much any woman, this is why so many guys wake up with 2's and try to gnaw their arms off in an effort to get away and spend the next week beating themselves up out of total remorse. LOL Men are guided by that little guy between their legs for the most part, and they don't make good decisions when he hasn't been paid enough attention, I've seen so many of my guy friends do some of the DUMBEST things when they let their 'little men' take control. LOL, poor guys. Y'all are so funny. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 2 (view)

Why do so many think these things turn ladies away... Posted: 10/25/2009 8:24:25 PM
Not really...depends on where you are, what the circumstances are, how the conversations goes...there is no topic of conversation that is potentially off limits, as long as you use tact and respect and keep an open mind. Who are you talking to? In mixed company, it is common knowledge you don't discuss politics, sex or religion, just as a matter of good taste, but that doesn't apply on a date. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

Stripping and relationship.... Posted: 10/25/2009 8:06:04 PM
Anyone with a good body, or even a half decent body can be a stripper...personally if that was a route I was going to even consider, I'd go into burlesque, and really go all out, with the great costumes, the shows, the awesome sets...hitting a pole is nothing special, nor is getting naked...half the world's population has a twat and t1ts, but you see, I happen to be able to sing and dance, so I'd bring it full out Broadway style. And to the half naked chick that equates c0cktail waitressing with sex workers, um you need to a) put some clothes on in your profile, and b) get a clue...the c0cktail waitresses in good clubs probably wear better outfits than you do at your dinky restaurant and make triple what you do...back it up, baby. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

Insecurity issues Posted: 10/24/2009 11:53:17 PM
Honey, if you have the money, go get the skin removed.I have several friends who lost tons of weight like you have (congrats by the way) and nothing worked other than the surgery. And I Mean NOTHING. You are beautiful. You do whatever it takes to make you feel as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside!!! Get a boob lift, a tummy tuck, and get the batwings on the arms removed. You go girl!! Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 226 (view)

Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice in Dating scary music swells Posted: 10/24/2009 10:56:26 PM
Seriously, in 2009, are we actually discussing this? Isn't this a personal choice, to be between a woman and her own personal morals and ethics, and if she is involved and in a relationship with someone she cares about, and feels comfortable telling about the pregnancy, then she can certainly talk to him about his feelings on the matter, but if say it was a one night stand or rape, she may have to make the choice on her own. Every situation is different, and no one has the right to step in the middle and tell anyone else what decision to make. The government certainly does not have the right to refuse this medical procedure to women who need it, and act responsibly and within the law. If there are medical problems that force a woman to have an abortion later on in the pregnancy, that is a horrible to decision for anyone to have to make, but that is between the doctor, the mother-to be, and hopefully the father. Believe me, no one in their RIGHT MIND would have an abortion as a means of birth control rather than taking the pill or using condoms...safe sex is just too important in this day and age. And married and monogamous couples have plenty of options that are much cheaper and a lot less emotionally traumatic. These 'Right-to-Lifers' who stand outside of abortion clinics with their huge signs of massacred bloody late term fetuses that scream at already upset women who are making what is probably the hardest decision of their lives make me want to vomit. If you want to do something good for babies, go adopt one of the millions of unwanted minority children that are dumped every year in the system as unplaceable because they have AIDS or HIV or are addicted or abused...because they were brought into this world by a mother who couldn't afford an abortion, much less prenatal care, or medicine, or help. Yeah, this is a sore subject with me. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 345 (view)

Liberal vs conserative Posted: 10/24/2009 10:39:14 PM
LOL, I date people, not their voting record. I vote for the person, not the party. I am seeing someone who's father is a politician, a fairly prominent one, who happens to be in the Democratic party. But would you like to know a secret? He is probably one of the most conservative guys you would ever meet! His voting record, if you take a chance to look at it, is really conservative, which his constituents absolutely love...but they are hung up on the big 'D' at the end of his name when they go into the voting booth. He totally represents the people, he does an excellent job on all of the committees he in on, and really is a credit to the area he is from. But if he had that 'R' behind his name, he would have never gotten elected. Gotta watch the voting records of your elected representatives, and for those who are challenging the incumbents, look at who their backers are, who is funding them, where their TRUE interests lie. DON'T listen to the rhetoric, look at the official sites that list their supporters. That's where you'll get your real information. Education is the key when it comes to voting. And to be honest, 90% of the voters in this country don't take the time to learn jack about the people they are casting their votes for, they just watch tv and get fed the crap the media decides to put into their brains, which is mostly lies and propaganda. Some of the biggest talkers are full of the most crap. I've dated guys who proclaimed to be liberals who didn't even know what that meant, conversely I've dated conservatives who didn't know what that was either. It amazes me. If I'm bored, I'll pick them apart, but usually I just roll my eyes and move on to men with brains. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

cheating with a stripper Posted: 10/24/2009 10:17:41 PM
LOL, you've never been to a strip club, tipped really big, and had the stripper slip her number to you? You must not tip very well. This happens everywhere, at least to regulars who dress well and are known to pay top dollar for 'extra services'. And yeah, some of the strippers will skip the 'safer sex' if you pay high enough. tsk tsk tsk...no sex in the champagne room boys! Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

Closed Minded Sugarcoated Love Posted: 10/24/2009 9:56:07 PM
Honey, you're 27, you really still give a shit what your Mom says about your girlfriends? When she starts spouting opinions, pat her on the head, and tell her you're looking for the next mary Magdalene to convert, could she loan you a $50? Then laugh, kiss her on the cheek and ask her what she's cooking. Moms are supposed to be a pain in the butt. Laugh it off. I tell my Mom crazy stuff all the time, it keeps her on her toes. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

Are people that have been in FAITHFUL ltr's better lovers? Posted: 10/24/2009 9:46:00 PM
Men use that as a bullshit excuse to their girlfriends as to why they are cheating on their wives. They say she is a cold fish, or just lays there, or is boring...when in all reality he is going home and banging her through the wall as soon as he gets out of the shower. I had a fiance who screwed around on me, yeah, and later on after we had split and I had moved on, I happened to have to opportunity to have a long talk with her, and it seems that he had been telling her all along that I held out on him, would just lay there, never did anything oral or unusual, basically that sex with me was such a downer, that's why he turned to her. I laughed so hard I almost choked to death. I set her straight pretty quick, and told her not to be so naive next time. And I told her thank you, that she had taught me a valuable lesson, a man in a relationship who wants to cheat will do so no matter what, and say anything to get what he wants. Live and learn. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

Been there done that, what advice to you give to someone getting married? Posted: 10/24/2009 9:38:56 PM
Love one another, respect one another in all ways, honor your vows and commitments. Be the the woman or man that your partner deserves and needs...get that? NEEDS!!! Don't let selfishness or anger or jealousy or envy creep into your heart, they do horrible things that can never be forgotten or fixed. Finally, be kind. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 19 (view)

Drug use and men Posted: 10/23/2009 11:16:13 PM
Are you sure he's the only one using? I mean, this whole thing is like a soap opera. Dum, dum, dummmmmmmmmmmmm Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 19 (view)

Why would a guy cancel 2 dates? Posted: 10/23/2009 11:09:11 PM
Dump the chump So not worth the effort. Move on and enjoy someone who wants to be with you. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 4 (view)

online dating advice Posted: 10/23/2009 11:07:34 PM
You're in the 'kissing frogs' stage of the internet dating thing. You have to get better at seeing the red flags during the im stage and phone conversations so you don't waste time meeting doofuses, and don't spend forever and a day interviewing the guys on every single detail of their lives before you meet or you'll have nothing to talk about when you do get together. Get the good stuff, so you can get a good idea that the dude isn't a psycho or mass murderer, but leave some stuff for the actual dates. Keep at it, you'll do fine. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

flipped turned upside down...? Posted: 10/23/2009 10:18:44 PM
LOL, haven't you learned? Like Chris Rock says, women don't go for LOGIC, we go for DISTANCE and IRRITATION. If we can drive you crazy, it doesn't matter if we're making any sense at the end, all that matters is that you're pulling your hair out and we can walk out of the room with a hair flip. LOL Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

Deja-Vu for her, should this matter to her? Posted: 10/23/2009 10:05:10 PM
Sell her the car cheap. Get your chit out of her basement, it's not a storage facility, and it ridiculous to leave it there after all this time. She should pay her part of the cell bill until the contract is up, then get her own phone. Buy your girlfriend a really nice bracelet for not doing these things earlier and tell her you're sorry for being insensitive. Problem solved. Do this and you'll get some lovin' and brownie points all around. Beth

goodwitchbeth

Joined: 2/21/2005

Msg: 49 (view)

The morning of the one-night stand Posted: 10/23/2009 9:24:58 PM
If the sex was good, I'll offer them breakfast, naked, and then go for another round...I mean, hey, why waste a good thing when it's right there in front of you? If the sex was bad, they don't get to stay the night, I'll make sure they're gone before daylight...I really don't want a second round if the first fizzled. Buh-bye. Beth

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