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engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

Help me Chaps Posted: 7/4/2009 10:31:02 AM
So you've been with this person for a year and a half. You've spent every spare moment with each other. Forget the abstract concept of 'men'. How can it be that you think a bunch of forumgoers know this man better than you? What have you spent a year and a half doing? It seems like this relationship has fundamental communication issues. I bet that's the root of all these troubles.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Is a younger age daunting? Posted: 7/4/2009 8:31:37 AM
Many people think maturity is a function of time. It is not. I've met 35 year olds, or even 60 year olds, who had the maturity of a 12 year old but figured they were special and wise because they had been around for a long time. If I were dating you, my question wouldn't be about the now, it would be about the future. What are you doing with your life? What are your plans, your dreams, your ambitions? It's true that a lot of 19 year olds just want to visit the bar and do that as long as they can, but a lot have more going on in their heads than that, and it's those people -- regardless of age -- that I'm interested in more than a couple dates with.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Is it okay to want to meet new men when... Posted: 7/4/2009 8:11:56 AM
If you spend your entire life waiting to let yourself be happy, you`ll be unhappy and dead. Go ahead, do whatever you think will make you happy. Just make it perfectly clear to any men who enter your life what`s going on.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Coming on strong, then disappearing Posted: 7/3/2009 5:45:31 PM
Ever heard of chaos theory? It's the idea that the beating of a set of butterfly wings in Toronto can cause hurricanes in Australia. Seems irrelevant, until you realise that people's lives are complicated. You'll get no definitive answer from forums, especially without knowing much about the person. I can think of a few different scenarios where you might want to contact him again to show you're interested. I can think of a few different scenarios where you don't want to contact him again because he's a goon. After all, we men like to hide it, but we have insecurities too. If you really had such a great time, maybe he's worried that it seems too good to be true? On the other hand, maybe he's a player and he's forcing you to come to him so he can try to get the dominant frame? If you want to try contacting him again, go ahead. You have nothing to lose if you keep your wits about you. Either you don't have this guy or you don't have this guy. You might get a feeling for what's going on for real if you try. Just remember to keep an open mind either way

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Suggestions for envy of male best friend Posted: 10/20/2008 12:32:34 AM
That's a tough call. I'm always reluctant when it comes to calls to self-censor. Those kinds of road-blocks to openness tend to create traffic jams in a person's behaviour which can seriously be damaging. I guess, the best thing to do is not ask him to stop, but rather simply tell him how you feel about him doing it. Whether he stops or not is his own business, but at least then you're not hiding anything either. If he's a best friend, he'll think of your feelings and stop. Honestly, it's possible he's trying to win your approval somehow by being so ostensibly successful.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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single-sided talking effort Posted: 10/20/2008 12:19:59 AM
I'm obviously not a girl, but maybe you should take a different track? If you ask about the music they listen to, you'll be the hundred million billion trillionth person to ask that. It's not that they don't like you, but you're not really providing anything interesting. Ask about things that actually interest them. If you don't know what interests them, then maybe that's a good starting point? The other thing, men are very facts based. Have a conversation about facts and you're making a man happy. Women are more visceral. They're more about how they feel about what's going on around them. Visceral conversations are more interesting to them. Try to keep that in mind and see if that gives you better results.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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How Do Men Like a Connection to Progress? Posted: 10/19/2008 10:52:53 PM
First, I don't believe you're 44. Next, sometimes you do have to take the initiative. Men can be very well trained, and part of the training society gives men is that being too forward will make you look like a crazy stalker rapist. Since 90% of men don't want to look like crazy stalker rapists, they'll tend to beat around the bush and try to get you to the point where you're comfortable enough to give it. It's sort of passive aggressive, but come on! What did you think would happen?

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Men, does it sound like I have trust issues, be gentle! Posted: 9/23/2008 4:58:37 PM
You're scatterbrained. That much I can tell. You went through this whooooole long and meandering story, then in a total of two sentence fragments actually mentioned the things you're worried about. It sounds to me like your "sense" is nothing more than your sense of insecurity. You keep on checking on him, worried that he doesn't like you anymore. He spends all this time with you, then when he reschedules slightly because of an unexpected appointment with his friend, you break up with him? You shouldn't date for a while. Spend some time alone, and reflect on your own insecurity, and try to figure out where it comes from. You'll never be able to hold onto a healthy relationship in your current mental state. Oops, oldpost is old.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Commitment Phobia, Just a break, or completley over??? Posted: 9/21/2008 10:43:53 PM
I hate huge walls of text that go on and on ad infinitum forever without ever wanting to end because they just jeep going and it's like nobody realises that in order to read something that long and not get lost they'd have to be a monk like in a monastary in the 16th century because its just insanely long and complicated and hard to read and I'm not a fan of it at all for the above reasons no I hate it such things are terrible and indescribably undesirable in a negative manner I will make a note here epic fail great fail it's hard to understate my hatred of huge walls of text that just go on and on as if they've got something to say yet they refuse to use paragraphs because they're illiterate buffoons who are ***holes and I want to kill them but the law says I can't even though it would be self defence because I'm saving myself from getting lost and having to eat my family like the Donner party in the middle of their paragraph it's strange why is it that women do it most often I never see men do this men usually say their piece and stop but women keep on talking and it's absolutely insane it's like women don't realise nobody's listening any more just because they keep on typing I know I've tried to proofread for women in the past and I actually had to rewrite it in my own words simply because they keep on rambling and rambling and it's terrible I'm just so upset that they can do this on the internet there ought to be a law but there will never be because people never get laws made against them unless they do something really stupid like kill people directly and I'll miss my family but they were delicious. Ok, with that said! The guy just sounds really confused. I think you should stray away from imagining any decisiveness on his part. I'm certain he likes you, and he likes his ex, and he likes his job, but the way he said "he had some plans that weren't panning out", doesn't sound right. If there was ever a candidate for the vanted "fear of commitment", this guy sounds like it. It sounds like he's quite happy with you, but worried that if he commits to you, he's going to pass something even better up. It's not logical, and it's not coherent, but these things never are.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why do 40 yo guys hit on me? Posted: 9/21/2008 9:19:09 PM
You know, the strangest thing is that 40 year olds actually DO sometimes get 18 year olds. I'm not sure why they'd talk to you, from the looks of your profile, you've actually got a clue, which sort of precludes any insane old person lust. (Hey, another 'toban! Go fightin' creepy people on main street who make me lock my doors when I'm driving downtown!)

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

If he does this, what does it mean? Posted: 9/9/2008 10:17:16 PM
Any guy worth being with has things other than you in his life. If he likes you, and you like him, then sit back, relax, smile, be happy that you've found someone you like being with, and he'll come to you. Don't push any further though, because people value something more when they have to work for it. That is, unless you think he's a shy person, in which case, wait a couple days and mysteriously show up somewhere he'll be.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Need a guys persepective Posted: 9/1/2008 11:38:44 AM
Shit, I figured maybe the intimate encounter might've been because it's an old account, but if this is her second kid with this guy, they've been together at least 18 months. There's so much fail here no wonder sirens went off when I read the question.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why does he not like me? Posted: 8/31/2008 2:04:33 PM
I can't losen up and not be nervous without some drink inside me though. I don't know how people relax enough to just sit there with one drink, I have to have nearly a bottle of wine before I even go on the date. I know it's really bad but other wise I stutter and stammer, shake and generally look really nervous, which I find really embarrassing! Before you date again, you must meditate on these things. You must discover what it is that causes you to be so nervous around other people, and you must face it within yourself. As long as you're using alcohol as a crutch, instead of becoming truly centered, you'll never be able to succeed in love. You can do it. I did. I had the exact same problem. The solution was to force myself to head out, or force myself to get into a conversation, or force myself to get into that situation, and slowly make it so I could deal with those stressful situations. I had to look inside myself and understand the root reasons I was worrying in the first place. I'm still a pretty shy guy, but I've won against my demons. I can go out without relying on a crutch, and I can even have a good time.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why does he not like me? Posted: 8/31/2008 1:53:24 PM
I think you need to stop getting so drunk all the time. It sounds like every time you were with him, you got drunk.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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UPDATE!! He doesn't love me anymore! Posted: 8/31/2008 10:30:06 AM
Sounds like a classy guy. Give him space. To do otherwise will be to drive him away. You may or may not end up together romantically, but he sounds like the sort of person worth keeping in your life in one form or another. He'll come back on his own over time, as long as you don't drive him away during the interm.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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answer time between mails Posted: 8/31/2008 10:25:29 AM
I've got a lot going on in my life, sometimes it takes me a while to reply. For that reason, I'm thrilled if people get back to me quickly, but I don't mind much if it takes a while to reply, because sometimes it takes me a long time to reply too.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why do guys treat ex girlfriends cruelly? Posted: 8/30/2008 9:25:47 PM
Couldn't it be that he still resents you for the fighting and even though there is a part of him that likes or loves you, he can't get over the pain of the constant fighting in the past?

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Guys. Are you more attracted to helpless women? Posted: 8/30/2008 8:22:45 PM
I hate to say it, but putting it like that makes you sound like a terrible, horrible person. People become helpful and friendly because you're hurt and they're being evil jackals and wolves? Where do you get off? Who the hell do you think you are? You seriously need a reality check. The world isn't out to get you every time somebody is nice. Sometimes, the world is out to help you when it looks like you need some help. I bet you lead a lonely life. I pity you.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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OK, am I translating this one right? Posted: 8/30/2008 8:16:07 PM
In all honesty, I could see the benefit of someone who is truly open-minded to extend past the bedroom. I have an ex-girlfriend who can't imagine why the supreme court would be against the police using dogs to search lockers without a warrant. This was a problem for me, because I strongly believe in children's rights; that if we're to have a government-run institution indoctrinating our children, it is only just and consistent to give them the same constitutionally mandated rights as adults, wherever we can. It's only just. Children are the future, they're going to be our leaders. Ironically, she WAS hot and freaky in bed, but I wouldn't call her open-minded. It's perfectly fine having a difference of opinion, but the problem is, without an open mind that is capable of stepping back and considering both sides of a discussion, you're not having a discussion, you're having a shouting match. It's only by understanding both sides of a discussion that you can ever come to a real understanding of the other person, whether you agree or disagree.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Gaming Girls... yea or nay? Posted: 8/30/2008 3:54:38 PM
I'm shocked and amazed at how many people are "eh" on the gamer girls thing. I mean, gaming and girls are two of my most favourite things. Combining them is like combining ice cream cones and skydiving. It's just so awesome anyone who says otherwise is obviously filled with hatred for his fellow man, and wants to misdirect all those who seek awesomeness.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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What happened to going out on a date? Posted: 8/30/2008 12:11:35 PM
Of course it's possible, you just need to find that kind of person. It's all about what a person is looking for out of not just a night, not just a relationship, but life. It's a big world out there, and there's a lot to see and do. Even in a category as seemingly limited as sex, there are experiences you'll never get to have by simple grabbing someone off the street and propositioning them for sex after an hour.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Help...psychological impotence Posted: 8/30/2008 11:01:08 AM
Please don't suggest he just pleasure me because that by itself is not enough. Have you tried? I think it might be enough. Get his mind off his boner by getting him to pleasure you. Once he has pleased you and you're starting to feel really great and get into it, he'll forget about it and it'll just happen on its own. Also, get him to stop masturbating. If you're trying to have sex, then getting rid of any stimulation should help. Oh, and don't drink. That can contribute to whiskey dick.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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What a man assumes when you write him... Posted: 8/30/2008 10:57:27 AM
That's a slightly different thing. I've posted to people to shoot one-off messages, and I've had people shoot one-off messages back. The thing is, they were obviously ABOUT something. By making the post about something, and by making it obvious that you're not looking for anything, that you're just sending a message, it's actually quite likely you'll get a reply back. On the other hand, I've experienced this a few times where you'll get a very generic message, and unless you're desperate, there's no real incentive to reply. What I tend to do is, whenever I get a truly generic introduction message, one that makes me question whether they've even checked out my profile, I challenge them on it. Sometimes people will come back and say something interesting, but more often than not, they stop messaging. Works great to separate the wheat from the chaff. At any rate, if someone has decided at step 0 to start acting like anyone who posts once is a romantic candidate, they need a reality check.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Who gets the second door? Posted: 8/30/2008 10:45:54 AM
e)Completely ignore societal norms like this one, because they're anachronistic throwbacks to a time when men and women weren't equals. I'll hold a door if I'd hold a door for anyone in that situation, but it's 2008. Women have equal rights and equal responsibilities. I think it all goes to what you want out of a relationship. I sort of think of it as, you find your best friend, and you just take that to the next level. I'm not sycophantic to my friends, why should I be sycophantic to potential lovers? That said, maybe women wouldn't notice, because I do open doors for friends, male or female, if the situation makes it more convenient to do so.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Need answers guys!! Posted: 8/30/2008 10:33:55 AM
I'd reframe it. "Good news, baby! I'm so good at talking dirty they PAY me for it!"

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why do men flirt if they already have a girlfriend? Posted: 8/28/2008 5:41:31 PM
Simple game theory, my dear. It's the opposite of the prisoner's dilemma. If neither of them leave, you've got two women. If one of them leaves, you've got as many women as you started with. More often than not, both won't leave. I'm not saying I agree with the logic. I'm just saying I understand.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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The comb-over... Posted: 8/28/2008 4:40:25 PM
Shoe polish. Then, you can even cover the really bald spots with just really thick stuff, and you'll look awesome and punk, without using a bad combover! (Not that I'd know...)

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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How & when do guys think women are being dramatic? Posted: 8/28/2008 4:36:24 PM
Her: OMG YOU DON'T LOVE ME ANYMORE, I KNEW IT! THERE'S SOMEONE ELSE, ISN'T THERE? WHERE DID I GO WRONG? IS THERE A CHANCE TO SAVE "US?" CAN WE GO TO COUNSELING? I WISH I WAS DEAD! Spoken for, you've sent shivers of terror down my spine. I had a girlfriend like that once. I was young and innocent, and figured maybe I was to blame for her outbursts. After I left her(Who could keep living like that?), I realised that wasn't the case.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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whats just happen? Posted: 8/27/2008 8:16:10 PM
whats just happen? Somebody set up you the bomb. We get signal!!! "HA HA HA" It's you!!! "ALL YOUR MAN ARE BELONG TO US. YOU ARE ON THE WAY TO SINGLE LIFE. YOU HAVE NO CHANCE TO SURVIVE MAKE YOUR TIME" What you say!!!

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

how can I get him to use viagra or cialis Posted: 8/27/2008 7:58:38 PM
First, if you put something into his food, you're posioning him. That's pretty evil. Second, I don't think dudes on a dating site can help you. This is something between you and him. If you've spent years with this person, you know him better than any of us could. It seems like you may have more fundamental problems with your marriage than simple premature ejaculation. I might be overanalyzing, but it seems like you're both way too self-centered to be happy in such a relationship. I mean, if he's not pleasing you, and doesn't seem to care that he's not pleasing you, that says something about his character. On the other hand, you don't really seem to be taking his feelings into account at all. You cheated on him, and that's a terrible thing to do. Now you're talking about drugging him so you can get off. That's a serious breach of trust -- As is telling everyone on the forums about your husband's "problem". It's possible that he's the problem, but I'd suggest you both slow down in bed. It's not a race. If you take it slow, find out what each other like, figure out what you can do and what you can't do, that's how you become great together. You probably need to spend some real quality time together, too. Not just sex, either. Do something together every day for a week. Don't even THINK about getting stressed out about the life stuff. Leave it behind and just enjoy being with the man you love. Go for a long walk and just talk. Head to the bar and dance together (no dancing with others, this is YOUR time). Often, sexual problems are really emotional or intellectual problems, relationship problems in disguise. A healthy erection needs a healthy body. Get him to cut down on caffeine and alcohol, not to mention salt. Get his fibre intake up, get him eating more salads. Drag him to the gym. Wear some tight shorts, make it fun for him. Make it a game, a fun thing to do together. Don't make it like work. Switch activities often, and if you can exercise as a couple, go for it. Consider that different positions hit different erogenous zones for you and him(Also, show him the other erogenous zones. Get him to try nibbling on your hear, or along your jugular vein, or on the inside of your arm). Experiment, and you may find you're just not getting where you need to be before sex, or that his short lasting power is a result of certain positions driving him crazy. Another thing that might work is, try giving him an orgasm about an hour before you actually intend to have sex. After his refractory period is over, he should have much greater staying power. Anyway, I can't give much real advice for a lot of stuff, but my relationships all had fireworks, so I hope this all helps. If it does help and your sex life becomes much better, do all mankind a favour and never cheat again. Good men you can trust are few and far between, it's not very nice to other women to go breaking one of the few out there.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why do men want sexual slaves? Posted: 8/27/2008 6:29:20 PM
I honestly don't think anyone who would ask something like that would be on the forums. If it makes you feel better, my ex girlfriend and I were once approached by swingers, right in public, and propositioned! Crazy, eh?

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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What is it with guys? Posted: 8/27/2008 6:24:53 PM
How about because it works? It's pure marketing gimmick. Why do beer commercials have beautiful women in them, when beer actually reduces your chances of being anything other than a drunk? Why do cigarette commercials have fancy cars in them, when people with money don't smoke? Why do mountain dew commercials have pictures of extreme sports when the only extreme sports most mountain dew drinkers participate in is getting out of bed in the morning? The reason is simple. Men like women. Men like cars. Men like to be really cool. So beer commercials have women in them, because they're marketing towards men. So smoke commercials have cars in them, if they're marketing towards men. And mountain dew commercials have extreme sports in them, because men are part of a demographic who want to be cool. Many men on this site are going around thinking "How can I get as many women as possible talking to me?", and the answer goes something like "What do women like? Nice cars, babies, motorcycles...", and voila! And you know what? By clicking on their profiles, you're just proving those men right. Way to go.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why do I,inadvertently, attract so many married/involved men? Posted: 8/27/2008 6:01:53 PM
As you know, men are kinda jerks. SHUT UP OLD MAN! We men are kind and nurturing, and really just terribly misunderstood creatures. Wait a minute. What just happened?

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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why does success not work the same for both genders? Posted: 8/26/2008 7:31:11 PM
Lots of studies have shown that marriages where the woman makes the same or more than the man are more likely to fail. I assume by 'fail' you mean 'in divorce'. It's really no big conspiracy why marriages with large economic disparities stay together better. If I had no skills to speak of, couldn't make money easily, and was married to a successful person who was keeping my lifestyle reasonable, I'd do or say anything to keep that marriage together. A marriage failing and a relationship failing are two different things. One can exist without the other.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Can honesty deter the players? Posted: 8/26/2008 5:45:28 PM
You can probably deter those who are just sex seeking players by using some critical thinking skills. Anyone who thinks only with their penis probably has a pretty sloppy facade.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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He doesn't love me anymore?! Posted: 8/26/2008 4:15:58 AM
Sounds like this guy gave the relationship a try, but he just couldn't do it. If you're not quite compatible, or he's just not ready for that sort of relationship, it's just the unfortunate but natural conclusion. I fell in love with a girl last year, and we started a pretty intense and close relationship. We moved in together almost right away. Unfortunately, after about 10 months, I began to realize that our relationship wasn't built on anything. She didn't like any of the unique things about me, we couldn't talk about much, and eventually all we did was fight or ****. Oh, we did things, we'd watch a movie or head to the bar, or we'd go on a trip, but that only illustrated the problem. With hours to kill on the road, the conversation would degenerate to her talking about how terrible her ex was for hours on end. She took it really hard, and to this day, months later, she's still trying in her own way to get me back. Don't become that psycho ex-girlfriend.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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referring to vehicles as she. Posted: 8/20/2008 4:13:35 AM
You'd die in Germany. They've got a gender for nearly EVERY noun, and it's pretty much completely arbitrary. It's so bad that you can't use a german noun properly unless they tell you if it's going to be 'der' 'das' or 'die' to describe it(Thus determining if it's a male, female, or neuter noun). And for the record, my vehicles thus far have all been women. Tempermental, fussy, high maintenance, and sometimes they won't behave until I spend money on her, but if you know how to treat her right, she'll always listen to you. My bikes have been masculine.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Father and Son Posted: 8/19/2008 7:44:20 PM
I'm a pretty tribal sort of guy. If I had a son, and he brought a girl home, I'd be in pure "do I let this person into my tribe?" mode. I'm always like that. Granted, I'm polite so I won't try to be a controlling**** but in the back of my mind, that'll always be the case. If my son like a girl who liked him back, I'd pull him aside, buy him a box of rubbers, and tell him "don't forget to wrap it." Seriously, they're kids. You can try to stop it, or you can try to make sure they make good choices.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

I want to ride on a motorcycle! Posted: 8/19/2008 7:33:48 PM
Ok, first things first. You WILL touch the drivers, or you'll fly off the bike and become very unhappy because of the road rash covering your body. You've got to hold on tightly to the driver to be safe on a motorcycle. Second thing is now first. Who is to say that all the bikes are owned by men? If a woman owns just one of the bikes, then it should be easy to get a ride (eventually. Nobody should let you ride without a helmet and probably a riding jacket, and most people don't ride around with a spare). Final thing is now first. Just ask. If they start to hit on you, then it is THEY who are being unprofessional, and you can simply change your mind. You know your intentions, and most of the time, intentions come through strongly. Sometimes people will get the wrong idea, but not for too long. We ARE social creatures after all.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Just Lunch? Posted: 8/19/2008 6:35:48 PM
If you trust him, and he's never given you reasons not to trust him, why not continue to trust him until he gives you a reason not to?

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

construction work Posted: 8/19/2008 6:33:33 PM
It's true! In fact, I'm talking about you RIGHT NOW! Wait...

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

construction work Posted: 8/18/2008 8:08:42 PM
Karma is real. Treat others with respect, and they'll treat you with respect. If they start to disrespect you by treating you like a piece of "meat", then they'll soon find themselves in trouble, because there are consequences for people's actions. Your ex is an idiot. Plant construction isn't "beneath" anyone. It's honourable work, it's hard work, it pays very well, and if you get into it, I think you'll find tradesmen(Sadly, tradeswomen are relatively rare) are some of the best people you'll ever have the pleasure of meeting.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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How can a guy who says he loves you walk away when you need him most? Posted: 8/18/2008 7:28:23 PM
Be strong. It's the hardest challenges which define your greatest strength. And sometimes it's not meant to be.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Guys...wondering about meaning of lots of kissing?? Posted: 8/18/2008 7:20:38 PM
I think it's really really dangerous to choose one feature and try to make a generalisation. Also, men can physically have sex, sure, but women can too. Just because something is physically possible doesn't mean it's worthwhile. I guess what you really need is to get to know the person behind the face so you can decide for yourself. Everyone is different.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

Why doesn't he GET IT? Posted: 8/18/2008 5:55:50 PM
There's a serious problem here. You're desperate, needy, clingy, and jealous over a man who isn't even yours. Step back. If you hate most guys so much, good. You need to spend some time with yourself and become centred, or even if he breaks up with this other girl, you're not going to be able to attract him, and even if you can attract him, you won't be able to keep him. I mean, if I heard you talking like that about me, I'd make sure to walk away smiling and nodding.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

why men want women to have all this.. Posted: 8/18/2008 5:32:49 PM
In this thread, a woman decides to attack "shallow" men, not realising that she's the one being shallow by generalising 50% of the population.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

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Why do guys play such games? Posted: 8/18/2008 3:25:06 AM
Depends how you freaked out, and what you did. Actions have consequences. How you treat others is reflected back in how others treat you. Karma doesn't need to be an elemental force of nature, it exists in a far simpler form. Oh, and the fact that your ex continues to be the smart, funny, sexy guy he was before you broke up isn't a game. Attractive personalities don't have "Do-me heels". It's not a state you can turn on and off.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 122 (view)

birthday blow job Posted: 7/25/2008 7:25:04 PM
ITT: The most unbelievably bad judgement since Michael Jackson decided to keep sleeping with little boys again.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Gender-based condiments? Posted: 7/25/2008 7:15:20 PM
OP-Most guys I know don't have mayo. Sometimes not even Ranch. I've asked some of them why and they said it reminds them of cum. ~Welder's girl~ Wow. That's probably the gayest reason not to like mayo ever.

engineeringemo

Joined: 4/29/2007

Msg: 50 (view)

Dating a woman with an HIV+ child Posted: 7/25/2008 7:00:48 PM
Babes43, I think it's safe to say there are a number of people in this thread who haven't ever engaged in a one night stand, for the very reason that it puts someone at undue risk for HIV and other STDs(or pregnancy, but that's another story). That being the case, it's only rational that a risk-averse person would be leery about starting a life with a family with an HIV positive child. HIV is deadly and incurable. It can be spread through relatively benign ways, such as kissing with parched lips. There is a non-zero risk of dying terribly if you date this girl and become a part of this family. It's selfish to attack anyone who decides the risks are too great, especially when the foster mother had a choice in whether to let this kid into their life.

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