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happytogether72

Joined: 5/12/2012

Msg: 22 (view)

Long Distance Posted: 4/2/2013 3:10:54 PM
I totally agree.

happytogether72

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Things were going great, and then..? What to do next?? Posted: 2/17/2013 4:42:33 PM
When I was young-in my 20s-relationships might have been built quickly, especially if you have liked a person for some time. I find that when I meet someone from online I really just want to get to know them and see how it goes from there. Let is progress naturally. I don't think most women just meet a guy and want to make out with someone they just met-not now days especially. She probably enjoyed the date and wanted to start out casually, but you were too quick to try to make it a relationship. Take your time to know someone.

happytogether72

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Very distraught here Posted: 2/17/2013 4:34:13 PM
I meant vibes not fibs

happytogether72

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Very distraught here Posted: 2/17/2013 4:30:40 PM
If you want to find quality you can't give out fibs that you are easy. I see some poor women on here that degrade themselves on the forums with the way they talk and their pictures that really gives the impression they are out there for sex. Look for the qualities that you want long term and don't be so quick to sleep with them. If they aren't willing to build a relationship first and you want a long term relationship and/or marriage-don't sleep with them first. You are hoping they will develop feelings AFTER the fact.

happytogether72

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Dating in our 50's Posted: 2/3/2013 12:51:49 PM
I have had emails from perfect gentlemen, talk on the phone etc and then some of them expect sex. I don't know if I even really like a person on the first date to know if there should be a second, but I know there won't be a second if he is like an octopus.

happytogether72

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Dating in our 50's Posted: 2/3/2013 12:47:03 PM
I agree. The ones that write on line seem to mention hooking up in our first communication. I don't know if they mean it or just try to sound hep. I want to get to know someone, see if we are compatible and have similar interests and really like each other. The rest falls in line with a good relationship. It is discouraging.

happytogether72

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Do Others find it harder to meet other people in their 50s? Posted: 1/8/2013 5:22:02 PM
Well,that is looking on the bright side. Some men meet that description too, but it is never okay to be rude to people.

happytogether72

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Do Others find it harder to meet other people in their 50s? Posted: 1/8/2013 5:18:06 PM
It is a lot harder to meet people in St. George. When I was young I met people in school and at work. I worked in a large hospital and now I work with the elderly. I have had 85 year old guys have crushes, but I'm not going there. We don't have any night life in town either. In fact, a St George post card-says "night life" and it is black.

happytogether72

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Trying so hard.... No results? Posted: 5/23/2012 12:41:58 AM
If it has been a year and you still feel this way I hope you are seeing a counselor. Finding a new person when you are torturing yourself about this girl is not healthy.

happytogether72

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Icy cold streak after changing profile Posted: 5/22/2012 2:00:47 PM
First two pics are pretty good, but you are shouting I'm smart-I'm smart -I'm smart and it you aren't smart enough to know my "big" vocabulary I hope you aren't too lazy to look it up! It is already obvious that you are a nerd. That is why you are getting the cold shoulder-conceited. Are you smart enough to take me on at a game????? You can say that you have two jobs and one is SAT prep instruction. The right girls will get that. Write about things you enjoy and the kind of activities you would like to share. The ones who like the same things will respond if they are interested. I don't think you meant to come off so arrogant, but you did.

happytogether72

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2 months in, one profile change, no luck Posted: 5/22/2012 1:39:02 PM
I see quite a few problems you can change. Pictures are not good. First picture has sun glasses on and not that clear. No one should wear sunglasses, hat etc in the profile pictures. You need to leave off the first 3 paragraphs. People don't need to know you share an apartment. You are accentuating negatives. A person that is really interested won't care and the others don't need to know. The statement about enjoying conversations that start one place and naturally just flow to another is good, but you bring it up again further down and it just sounds rambling. That sentence was good enough. Just say you are a 26 year old male and you can say your are employed full time. If it is an interesting job say a little about it and if it isn't just quit there. Talk about the activities you enjoy and the kind that you would like to share with someone. Say a little something about the kind of girl you are looking for-honest, funny etc. First date: Maybe dinner and a movie or whatever. You mention all that conversation again. Of course you want that , but stick to the first statement above. Kind of sounds like you are a little needy and want to talk someone's ear off. Hope it helps.

happytogether72

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seriously... what can i do better..? please help! Posted: 5/22/2012 1:21:02 PM
I think underneath some of the things you say you are probably a really nice guy, but you come off a little bit as all that and kind of lecture the women about what they are suppose to want and questioning if they will be worth your time. You really get off on the wrong foot. Also, open shirt looks like a player-and smile. Women at 26 are also probably looking more than dating, but nothing serious. It sounds like dating you wouldn't go anywhere and I don't think that is the impression you want to give if you find one you really like. Hi- I have a really good job as a _______ and have great prospects for the future. I am sensible and live within my means. I enjoy ____________and _____________ and would really like to find a good woman who has similar interests and is goal oriented. I really like a woman who ( describe personality and maybe physcial characteristics) I would like to travel see the world and my first goal is to see________________. My friends say I am quite funny and__________. Keep all negative things about what you think they are look for out of it and the fact that they need to be deserving of "your time" You need to be deserving of theirs too. That is a given. Of course, it would be in your own words. You have some good sentences in there and I know the UK uses different verbage.

happytogether72

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what did I do wrong Posted: 5/21/2012 4:38:16 PM
I am very sorry. I have no idea why she cheated or ran off, but there really isn't any excuse. Even though she wouldn't go to counseling it might really help you. It is a good thing that you are involved in church and can have that kind of support. Focus on things you like to do or get a new hobby. You never know, you just might meet a wonderful person. Take your time and don't rush into another relationship. My husband died a few years ago and I really wasn't planning on being alone at 52 after 28 years. It gets easier and it actually would be better to be single than rush into the wrong relationship with the wrong person because you are lonely. Good luck to you.

happytogether72

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What is wrong with me? Posted: 5/21/2012 4:23:33 PM
I don't know about your lifestyle, but I imagine it is the same for a lot of people. I see women wanting relationships and others wanting sex, so then they have sex with strangers in hope of developing a relationship. Truly sad.

happytogether72

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just want 2 be loved ............ Posted: 5/21/2012 4:15:19 PM
I did that once. They seem pretty easy to pick out. First, they say they want someone to love them, but not for their money. RED FLAG. Why mention money? They seem to be in Florida a lot, but WORK out of the country. Family members tragically killed, but one teenager at home, etc.etc. I saw so many playing this game on E Harmony. Anyway, of course he said I was beautiful and he was falling for me within 24 hours. yada yada. I went along for entertainment. He asked me when my birthday was and then said his was in two weeks. I said maybe I would send a card. He told me he wanted a nice surprise-an IPOD, etc and oh by the way he would be in Ghana on his birthday and sends me a picture of the supposed hotel and wanted me to send his present to a PO Box. He was very persistant so I said "sure" ha ha. I told him I took it to Federal Express and then he asked why did I lie to him. I SAID I DID take it to them, but they wouldn't take a PO BOX. Yeh, right. Then he writes me and said he is back from Ghana and wants to fly to Vegas to see me, but of course his money is tied up for a couple of weeks because of all the corruption overseas etc. He would pay me back for the ticket. The next couple of days he is writing Mary, Mary? Where are you???? I am a honest and decent person and have no patience for people who USE others, especially my elderly patients.

happytogether72

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just want 2 be loved ............ Posted: 5/21/2012 3:59:48 PM
Nigeria??? That scam has been going on for 20 plus years! He isn't real. It is a scam and I can't believe people are still falling for it. Sorry.

happytogether72

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Why do they underestimate me? Posted: 5/21/2012 3:03:43 PM
Are you in college? You seem young and are young. Get other pictures beside one looking into a car. Talk about your real interests in life and talk about your goals and things that would interest a woman. It sounds like you just have fun "hanging out" and that is okay if that is what you want. It sounds like you want something more or the lack of response would bother you. Write about what makes you stand out in a crowd.

happytogether72

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Been on and off here for three years now with no success.. Help please? Posted: 5/21/2012 2:50:48 PM
You are not looking at the camera in your profile. The cartoon characters seem more like the interest of someone in his teens and so do video games. You say some nice things about the type of woman you are interested in, but what kind of interests do you have that you could ahre with a woman? Good luck.

happytogether72

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Updated profile, looking to get some more opinions Posted: 5/21/2012 2:39:33 PM
I am not sure about the pictures with the hats. How about a picture playing baseball? I would start your first paragrah about things that you like to do that would be specifically interesting to women and then talk about solving things, etc. I think the type of person you are looking for sounds sincere. What would you like to be able to do together? You seem like a nice guy. Good luck in your search.

happytogether72

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Would appreciate opinions Posted: 5/21/2012 2:32:57 PM
That would make it a little more risky for you. I guess you go to medical conventions or have some other hobby or interest where you might people like like interests? Any church groups? I did not check back to see if you have a religious affliation.

happytogether72

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Please Help!! Posted: 5/21/2012 6:51:34 AM
Your pictures seem okay I would like out the first couple of sentences saying you think it is rubbish,etc. You don't actually say anything about your life or the things you like to do and it doesn't say what kind of man you are looking for, except for tall. What about his personality and the kind of activites you might like to share with someone.

happytogether72

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ladies i need honest opinions Posted: 5/20/2012 11:12:32 PM
Picture 2 is better than number 1, but not smiiling in either. I would refrain from dead things in pictures. It sounds like mostly you like to fish. What kind of interests would you share with a woman? You sound like a decent guy.

happytogether72

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Please review my profile! Thanks! Posted: 5/20/2012 10:02:42 PM
I realize I am not in your target range, but don't think I would like that picture at 18 or 28. What is that? Your profile read better than your picture would indicate.

happytogether72

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Too much Information on my profile? Do you think women will be turned -off by my occupation Posted: 5/20/2012 9:53:47 PM
Well, it might just be that I am older, but is your profile picture of you throwing a punch and am I looking at a tattoo of the devil?? I see an upside down flag and a few other things that appear a tad worrisome for someone stating he is Christian. I read your profile, but I already forgot what it said because I was disturbed by the pictures.

happytogether72

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New profile tips and advice wanted Posted: 5/20/2012 9:37:06 PM
Close up on the standing photo because you are looking straight ahead.

happytogether72

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can i get a little help? Posted: 5/20/2012 9:34:11 PM
Profile picture has you wearing sunglasses with a cigarette hanging out of your mouth. You look friendlier and more approachable with your dog. Get a good close up looking at the camera and smiling without the shades. Your interests are okay, but it doesn't say much in type of activities you enjoy. Do you want to share meditation and politics. You actually sound like a nice guy and the fact that you aren't here "for sex" , but a good relationship is a GOOD thing.

happytogether72

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Lots of visits not many messages Posted: 5/20/2012 2:58:35 PM
I do think the sentences are a little rough. Just try to make them flow a little better. You sound like a nice guy and even though there are people in the profile picture I think it is a good picture of you. (without people would be better)

happytogether72

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New profile tips and advice wanted Posted: 5/20/2012 2:45:59 PM
I would maybe zoom and crop the other picture of you so you that you are looking directly at camera. Your profile seems like you are a nice guy. Good luck.

happytogether72

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I need help deciding what photos to keep or delete Posted: 5/20/2012 2:41:08 PM
I think your profile is pretty good and descriptive. You sound like a nice guy. Your profile picture would be good, except you are far down in the right corner. You need a good center picture smiling like that. I would get rid of pictures 2,3,4. The last two aren't bad, but get a friend to take some good-centered pictures instead of your cell phone.

happytogether72

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Not getting many replies, anything i can do to improve? Posted: 5/20/2012 2:34:21 PM
I kind of like your profile. Maybe change the pictures. The last one would be the best picture, but the coloring isn't good and you still aren't looking at the camera. Have a friend take a dozen or so good pictures and pick the best up close looking at the camera and add the others.

happytogether72

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whats wrong getting hardly any replies Posted: 5/20/2012 2:28:03 PM
Your profile picture has a girl's arm around you. The last one on the end would have been good with a smile and no hat or glasses. Your paragraph isn't bad, except when I read your likes I thought walks and movies would interest a girl, but then you said Horror was your favorite-okay, walks then. Quite a few probably don't like smoking. You might find someone that smokes and likes horror.

happytogether72

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opinions please :) Posted: 5/20/2012 2:04:24 PM
Maybe have a picture with your head not bent in a car and smile. You have a long list of "bad stuff" and I don't think most would bother to read past it and it looks like you value yourself plenty enough. also, you say I might have looked at your profile, but kind of say I am busy and I will get to you when I get to you and I won't do this or that to go out of my way. etc etc. The last part where you mentioned including children and a couple of statements below that were fairly decent and then you mess up again. I can see why they don't write. Too negative and fond of yourself.

happytogether72

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Not Getting Many Bites Posted: 5/20/2012 1:54:16 PM
I agree. I would get rid of the drinks. Pick a few pictures without the beer, but maybe keep the one of you dressed up with the wine-just not the profile pic.

happytogether72

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Used to get responses but not anymore Posted: 5/20/2012 1:48:47 PM
I think the profile picture might have been okay without the cap on your head. You say you are a sharp dressers, but the full shot doesn't indicate it. Nothing wrong with the picture-just not a fashion statement. Put on something else, keep the cap off and say what you are really looking for in a woman.

happytogether72

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Need a review Posted: 5/20/2012 1:41:59 PM
Are you looking for a gun admirer? You aren't looking in the direction of the camera. I don't think most girls would "get that" Playing video games and getting tattoos as a goal. Get a good profile picture tat you didn't take with a cell and talk about something interesting. Good luck.

happytogether72

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Need a review Posted: 5/20/2012 1:41:49 PM
Are you looking for a gun admirer? You aren't looking in the direction of the camera. I don't think most girls would "get that" Playing video games and getting tattoos as a goal. Get a good profile picture tat you didn't take with a cell and talk about something interesting. Good luck.

happytogether72

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585 Messages Posted: 5/20/2012 1:35:31 PM
I noticed you didn't change a thing. You just wanted attention.

happytogether72

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Would appreciate opinions Posted: 5/20/2012 1:29:43 PM
I don't know why you are so adverse to one good picture. There is nothing to draw attention to a blank spot. You will NOT get any mail because you have to open it up and scroll to read and who would do that with no picture? I have seen all sizes listed, but some say they are average when they are way overweight and changing to average won't change a thing without a picture. I am somewhat over weight-like 25#s. I wouldn't ut average and then worry when a guy actually wants to meet you. Put a picture or you will get nowhere.

happytogether72

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Men 40+ and Childless Posted: 5/20/2012 6:29:49 AM
Godless for sure. Go forth and multiply. We NEED more children raised by two parents and taught to be prtoductive citizens. What do you think about more minority babies are being born in the U.S. than caucasians. \ If being Godless is progress, we are all progessing to the destruction of society.

happytogether72

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Men 40+ and Childless Posted: 5/20/2012 6:21:44 AM
there are many reasons people don't marry and multiple, but one of them can be just selfish behavior. Somtheone who only thinks of themselves and not the big picture of life. However, there are some we wish wouldn't have them . People use to be a lot more interdependent on each other. Why would people get married when they can have sex without any thought or commitment.

happytogether72

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Men 40+ and Childless Posted: 5/20/2012 6:06:17 AM
Don't forget. Some are just unable to have kids or their wives weren't able. I have met a few that feel that missed the opportunity and do being around kids. Never married-I do find that different. I have an aunt who married a man that had never been married and he was in his 50s. They are going on 20 years now.

happytogether72

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I could use a little constructive criticism. Thanks. Posted: 5/19/2012 9:07:17 PM
You have done pretty well with other people's profiles so I am a little surprised by yours. Born here-florida native. Kind of redundant, tan, (can tell in the picture) caucasian-(can tell in the picture) straight-(don't we put that in our settings? A lot of guys put work hard, play hard. Over used statement. If you read the "about you" section-really only use a few generalized terms to refer to her. If you hadn't said I definitely would not think you were from the U.S.-just some of your wording. Anyway, say Florida native and leave out the other givens. Some women wonder about guys that have never married and no children by your age. That could be another issue. Never committed to anyone more than a year.

happytogether72

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I could use a little constructive criticism. Thanks. Posted: 5/19/2012 9:03:28 PM
You have done pretty well with other people's profiles so I am a little surprised by yours. Born here-florida native. Kind of redundant, tan, (can tell in the picture) caucasian-(can tell in the picture) straight-(don't we put that in our settings? A lot of guys put work hard, play hard. Over used statement. If you read the "about you" section-really only use a few generalized terms to refer to her. If you hadn't said I definitely would not think you were from the U.S.-just some of your wording. Anyway, say Florida native and leave out the other givens. Some women wonder about guys that have never married and no children by your age. That could be another issue. Never committed to anyone more than a year.

happytogether72

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Zero interest Posted: 5/19/2012 7:48:34 PM
No to the profile picture. Looks conceited. Maybe number 3. Work as an AV tech, works on car and hangs out with friends and family. Find leisure activites boring. So, if I were a young girl you don't really want to do anything except eat lima beans and the Peace/love bit of the 60s. You don't describe the kind of girl you are looking for You sound kind of nice in part of your letter about wanting a home and family, but not a single girl wants to do nothing in her leisure time.

happytogether72

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Not a profile review, but a person review! Posted: 5/19/2012 7:35:12 PM
LOL!!! You expressed it better than me.

happytogether72

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Not a profile review, but a person review! Posted: 5/19/2012 7:32:13 PM
You sound like you are in high school. Video games, comics, roller blades. Heck , when my husband and I were 27 years old he had been an ER nurse for 5 years and I had 3 kids and worked as a nurse too. Seem quite immature for stated age. Don't wear sun glasses in your main picture. Good luck.

happytogether72

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 5/19/2012 6:59:25 PM
Why not. Don't you deserve a real relationship? I think some girls act like they want to hook up because then guys will be interested, when they really want to be loved and understood. Starting out with random men doesn't equal relationships and the other leaves emptiness. In the mean time a lot of guys are happy.

happytogether72

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585 Messages Posted: 5/19/2012 5:23:52 PM
I agree with the others and why do you need to be on a dating site? There are plenty of places for up and coming young professionals to meet.

happytogether72

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How would you retaliate when cheated on? Posted: 5/18/2012 10:06:58 PM
I understand that you were hurt and that you wanted to get even. I don't think destroying the wife by sending the info to her was the right thing to do. It will come out and she probably needs to know, but not in the way you did it. Maybe she has several children and is pregnant or any number of things. You could have pushed an innocent person right over the edge. Let someone who cares about her be the one if someone needs to "tell" her. Believe me, I think cheating is despicable.

happytogether72

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Taken for a ride Posted: 5/18/2012 9:50:58 PM
I have a feeling that she had this"girlfriend" prior to meeting you and just took you for a ride. Somehow she thought you were an easy mark. Was she a lot younger?

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