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 Becky_laf
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Herpes and me
Posted: 8/24/2011 3:34:21 AM
Honesty is great........to a point. You do not need to announce to the world all of your personal stuff. Once you get to a know a person, and you know you want to escalate the relationship, than you start bringing out your skeletons. If they stick around, great, if not, well......NEXT!! Really you might as well put on your profile that your looking to get married as well.....watch the men go running in the opposite direction.

We ALL have our skeletons, timing is key to when and if we decide to let them out.

Speaking from experience the good ones will stick around.
 Becky_laf
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
hard or soft?
Posted: 8/24/2011 3:14:09 AM
Its been so long since I have posted here, lets see if I can still do this....

Shoot! I thought we talkin' about tacos.


My favourite burrito at my local taco place is called a soft meat..........thats the only time I like my meat SOFT!!



NEVER understood why they have all those flaccid pics in playgirl....wtf for???
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Getting Married To My Fellow POFer...first dance song...
Posted: 9/4/2010 3:36:17 AM
^^^ you are cute Bob! Did I put letters in your zip code?? lol I dont think so. I did put letters in MY postal code. Cause that is the way we do it up here. You know you mean lots to me too.

I actually got some posts, thanks guys. So Bryan Adams it is.


If I could really have it my way it would be "Sexual Eruption" by Snoop Dog

Edit: I did try looking for an acoustic version, but could not find one done by Bryan Adams. Someone know of one?
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Getting Married To My Fellow POFer...first dance song...
Posted: 8/17/2010 3:16:39 AM
thanks a lot Bob! You are right, this place is not like it used to be.

I am doing the music myself, laptop, DJ speakers, and a play list. NO requests...and thats all Im saying about that...

...would be good to see your a$$ there, Im mailing out your invite in the morn.

 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Getting Married To My Fellow POFer...first dance song...
Posted: 8/16/2010 5:50:11 AM
We need help deciding between two songs, we were curious what the general census would be. Been together for quite awhile now, we have a lot of songs that remind us of each other, but we do not have a slow song to call "Our Song".

I have two songs that I really like and can not decide, he likes both and wants to leave it up to me. Go to youtube and have a listen to these two songs:

Alicia Keys - Un-thinkable (I'm Ready) original version with out Drake remix.

or

Bryan Adams - Inside out.


Whatcha think.....
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Internet Buffering Question
Posted: 1/25/2010 8:04:35 PM
Can someone please help me out. We are big downloaders, movies, t.v. series, etc, etc.

I don't know if most of you are aware that your internet provider monitors your downloading and uploading usage. With the internet provider we use, we can only use 60 gigs of downloading/uploading a month. I have got in trouble with them twice now, over the last 5 years. Nothing major just a warning.

So instead of downloading, we have been watching stuff that is buffering off of an internet site before we watch it, some movies it buffers for hours before it is done.

Is this buffering storing stuff on my computer, and would it count towards our downloading/uploading limit?

Any ideas?? Greatly appreciated.

 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Penis Size and Virginity
Posted: 12/26/2009 3:07:03 AM
OP is worried about length, and she shouldnt be. Different positions help if you find it hitting the cervix with every thrust, like basic missionary. OR of course there is a sex toy for any kind of problem.

NOT TOO DEEP LOVE DONUTS

Description:
Does your partner find your c*ck too big? Don't worry! There is a sex toy that will decrease the length of your pleasure rod! Seymore Butt's Not Too Deep Donut Set includes three soft jelly donuts each making your penis 0.75 inches shorter. Just slip a donut over the c*ck and be ready for action!

I actually think they are a pretty good invention/solution.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Can you ever become attracted to someone your NOT attracted to?
Posted: 9/8/2009 4:14:30 PM
Can you ever become attracted to someone your Not attracted to?

In one word: NO

Been there, done that, have the t-shirt. Only thing different was he wasnt financially secure.

I tried to make it work, but there were things I would do or wouldnt do just because I really didnt like him the way I should. He could sense the way I was and confront me, I always denied it.

Resentment builds up on both parties, and than it just turns ugly. Verbal, physical abuse, belittling, name calling. OH god the list goes on and on. It was 6 years of hell. I have two great kids from it and thats it.

There is such a huge difference when you are in a relationship with a person you are attracted to. Respect, love, devotion.... oh the list goes on and on....

Tell your FRIEND to have some patience. After my ex I vowed I would never settle again!!

LIVE IS TOO SHORT
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 32 (view)
 
How do you let a guy know...
Posted: 9/8/2009 3:56:20 PM
Well, I'm just trying to figure this out. It seems to me that most guys I start chatting with on here (or anywhere for that matter) go pretty damn fast to the topic of sex. So, if the topic comes up that fast, I just want to be prepared.

I think it's weird that people ask about # of sexual partners, sexual experiences, etc. before even meeting me. I mean, what if we meet and there's less than no attraction from either side? It's such an irrelevant topic at that point.


OP, I have said this before and I will say it again, if a guy starts asking questions he really shouldnt be asking, *block* and NEXT. (you use this as a weeding tool, to find the right guy.) I have learned the hard way, like Im sure most women on line have learned. When a guy is asking sexual questions right off in the beginning, he is not looking at you for his next girlfriend, he is looking at you as his next sex quest.

If a guy has any respect toward women, he would never, never ask those kinds of questions.

If you are worried that he isnt going to know how sexual you are, he WILL find out after the first time you guys are together. If YOU let it get that far.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Hitachi Magic Wand
Posted: 9/8/2009 3:43:58 PM
I am surprised so many people havent heard of this massager. It has been around since the 1970's.

I saw an old 70's porn where a hairy women was using it, lol, I am kinda surprised that they still make them.

But I do agree with some of the other posters, it is WAY too powerful and WAY too loud. I havent owned one, but have owned one very similar. Had it for over 15 years, it died a couple of years ago (damn G-spot orgasm!) poor Stanley. It was awesome, worked every time. Had to use it when the furnace kicked in so I wouldnt wake up my kids, lol. After he died and I didnt have a good comparable replacement. It was very very hard to get used to anything else.

Now two years or so later, I am way more sensitive than I used too be. And being more sensitive has made life a lot easier.

So using these high powered devices may be awesome, but there is a price.

I recently found a new battery operated one, that is so different, its awesome and quiet and powerful. And you can take it in the shower, or use it while having a G-Spot O and not worry about electrocution . Cant do that with the HMW.

http://www.celebrator.nu/
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
ladies would you be willing to give up lifestyle for more time
Posted: 11/28/2008 11:03:17 AM
I know this exact type of woman you are talking about OP, and I cant stand them!!!!!!

I dont understand these women who think just because they have given birth to a couple of kids that they are now entitled to be taken care of. AND that it is solely the job of the father to take care of EVERYTHING!!! Thats CRAP.

Not every woman is like this. I have kids, they have a father who is active in their lives. If the kids need anything, I provide it, and I am happy to be the one that does do it. I enjoy a certain type of life style, but I am also willing to do the work to make that happen.

I was always told growing up, that it now takes TWO incomes to raise a family, we arent living in the "Leave it to Beaver" days any more.

Kids are in school for about 6 hours of the day, time for these ladies to get off their asses and work, show their kids what life is really about. Be able to show their daughters how wonderful it is to be empowered with their own income. To show their son's that there is strong working women out there, and hopefully they will attract the same kind of woman one day in their future, and not one of these "I am entitled!" type of women.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Why Can't he cum
Posted: 11/6/2008 1:29:59 PM
"Why Can't he cum"

he can, If he can get an erection, maintain an erection, and orgasm. But can only orgasm a certain way....yah its all mental.

any body that has this issue, male or female, it's all mental (in their minds).

If he already has it in his mindset that he won't cum during intercourse, than guess what, he won't.

THIS IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM OP. He is the only one that can fix this. If he needs to fix it at all. If you are getting off and he is getting off, thats all that really matters.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Meeting for first time w/o phone contact first...
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:27:13 AM
Always trust your first instinct.

I am glad you decided not to meet him OP. You are feeling uneasy for a reason, trust your gut reaction. Please.

Plenty of other men out there.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why do men force themselves upon you?
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:13:43 AM
A first date/meet should be in a popular coffee shop. You show up in your own vehicle and leave in your own vehicle.

OP if you have put yourself in their vehicle or you are in their home....men are simple folk, you have given them the impression that, that is what you are looking for. no offense OP, or to the men out there.

Meeting people off of the net is hard, there is a lot of sleazy people who use this as a sexual smorgasbord. If you just go for coffee. You could be sitting there for hours talking and getting to know each other, without sending out the wrong impressions. And if the guy you meet isnt happy with this or pushes that you leave and go back to his place or something. Than you know what kind of guy you are dealing with.

Just chalk it up to another weeding tool, to find the right man.

I went out on 27 first meets over 2 years before I met the right one. Yah I have stories
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What will let a woman allow another man into her children's family?
Posted: 1/9/2008 2:06:55 PM
hhmmm well I got to tell yah OP, I did this exact thing, well sorta.

When I was dating, NO ONE met my kids, and NO ONE came over to my house when they were home. I stuck to my guns, and it worked. I waited months and months before my kids were ever involved and they only met my current BF. I dated lots of people over two years before I met my Dave. But I wanted to make sure it was serious and it would last for the long term.

The lady in question, if she really wanted you in her life she would make the effort if she truly felt you were "the one". but if she didnt feel you were "the one" using the kids is a great excuse, Ive done it myself.

OP I dont know how long this has been going on with you too, but if I were you I wouldnt contact her first anymore. Let her make the first move and contact you. and well if you dont hear from her, than you have your answer.

You say you have had sex with her twice, quickies??? maybe after the first quickie she gave you a second chance to see if you could out do your first performance, and maybe you failed?? (no offense) *shrugs* just a thought
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
does online dating really work???
Posted: 11/7/2007 10:46:52 AM
Does online dating really work? If you want it to it will.

and for how to separate the people who really do want to date, there is lots of tools.

first I think the online dating should be a quick introduction into reality. meaning, you shouldnt get too attached to anyone over the computer. Its really easy to put up some nice pics of your self, and say some nice things in your profile. and type some sweet nothings back and forth, but its reality that counts. If you do this for months and months, and after all that build up, and than you meet for the first time..... and it usually always ends badly.
It should be brief stages:
#1 a couple of emails
#2 a few IM's
#3 couple of phone conversations
#4 first coffee meet

There is lots of ways to weed out the wrong type of guys for you along the way. For example, from my experience if they talk about sex too much in stages 1-3 they arent serious about getting into a relationship. Most guys you can weed out in stages 1 or 2. If they want kids and you dont, ect.ect. You may have to weed through a lot of guys before you find one to go to coffee with (and may I suggest that its just a coffee and to say away from the booze ).
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 10/22/2007 10:40:07 AM
Gawd this is just wrong, you guys, sploppy seconds palease.^^^ She can be emotionally ready for the RIGHT relationship, but in the mean time a girl needs d*ck from time to time.

Oh I forgot men never have casual sex, and only hold out for the one woman they might think is "the one". yah right

I think part of the OP's problem is, she should be keeping her casual fun private. OP, I can tell you right now, there is many many woman who have or had the same set up that you have right now. Looking for the Mister Right, but having needs, and keeping someone on the side for the time being.

Nothing wrong with that in my opinion. But with society the way it is, and we all know how most men and people in general react to this. Best to keep it to your self.

But if you do find "the right one" he will understand.

so maybe you can use it as a weeding tool, tell them, and see who sticks around. *shrugs*
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
IS INTERCOURSE REALLY IMPORTANT TO YOU
Posted: 4/8/2007 2:06:37 PM
uumm my middle name is "suck clit".

dont need a hard d*ck to do that.

some of the best sexual experiences I have had, there was no penis in vagina penetration at all.

and YES the use of toys makes the experience just as satisfying!! When your guy is able to use your toys better than you do...thats love right there. seriously

I suggest reading the book, "she comes first". its all about pleasing a woman with out the actual intercourse part (its in there, just not the main focus). good read
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
I cant come!
Posted: 4/8/2007 1:49:32 PM
OP I have the solution for you....

Face Down Ass UP

you can concentrate on cumming and not worrying about your facial expressions. once you have become a pro at having the O during sex, than you can turn over and try in different positions.

it really does help if you are really in love and connected to the guy who you are trying to cum with.

and like someone else posted, practice, practice, practice!!
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Meet and Greet - expectations?
Posted: 4/8/2007 1:08:08 PM
^^^^ eewww thats scary. you never met yet, but planning a weekend away together?!?! that's scary. you should always start out with a quick coffee meet before making any big plans together. just my opinion tho.

OP I think you are doing the right thing. But I would at least warn the person ahead of time.

"sure we can meet up for a coffee, I do have some family plans for later that evening, but I would love to met with you over a coffee first." (I would put family or something like that in there, so he doesnt think you are going on another meet and greet date.)

Most men say they want a non-clingy independent woman, I would think you showing that you do have a life would be a good thing.


quote from OP: am I sending out the signal that I'm really not interested?

nope I dont think so at all. If he asked you out again, and you said you had plans, well that would be a signal that you are not interested.

If you do hit it off at the coffee date, than you can arrange plans to go out again on another day.

The anticipation is half the fun.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
this is for men
Posted: 4/3/2007 9:54:33 AM

Not that sex is everything but a good healthy sex life is the glue that holds the relationship together.


why does a healthy sex life have to equate to a erect penis going in to a vagina??? The majority of women dont get off from that alone anyways.

"THE TONGUE IS MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD."

using your fingers, mouth, tongue, or toys is all you really need to get a chick off.

no penile penetration who cares, use what you got.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Does anyone know..if these really work?
Posted: 3/21/2007 11:20:27 AM
"I know a man who's a lousy f*ck, simply lousy, but he can eat p*ssy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him."

OP maybe its time to stop worrying about your small d*ck, and learn the art of sucking clit.



forget about the pills and pumps, work with what you got.

http://www2.freedomacres.com/library/cunnilingushow2.html
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
looking for latex/rubber free toys
Posted: 3/13/2007 7:08:08 PM
ahhhh the fleshlight, nice. ^^^^ so how has it been treating yah???

OP I totally hear yah, and have been through it all myself. For a good laugh check out my old "smelly dildo" thread.

anywyas, there is the latex, silicone, generic rubber, vinyl, and the cyberskin dildoes.

all of which have their bad points, and most of them you will never get that rubbery/plastic smell out of, lol, I know. the cyberskin is better, it is made out of a porous material, no smell, but it is a higher maintenance dildo. If you dont take care of it like they suggest, than it will end up drying out and cracking, and there goes your eighty bucks.

so after all the money I spent, and the headaches, and the burning puss. I ended up investing in the glass ones. they are about the same price as the cyberskin, and could last you a life time.

I currently have 4 different styles of the glass ones, and I will never go back to the plastic/rubbery ones again.


Really the glass ones are the best and they are sooooo pretty.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What Makes Love Love and not a Sales Contract?
Posted: 2/19/2007 6:01:54 PM
First off,

Being Thin doesnt = being able to be loved.

If you think for one second a man couldnt love a over weight woman, you are sadly mistaken.

and no offence OP, I do recall another big woman thread you have started before that was probably deleted. if you make your weight a issue with every man you come into contact with it will become an issue with them too. you have set it up that you keep getting turned down and hurt.

So with this thread and the other thread you had, it doesnt sound like you love your self very much. If YOU cant love and except ALL of you, how do you expect anybody else to either? Sorry but that isn’t a very attractive attitude/quality, whether you are thin or big.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Rainbow Kiss :)
Posted: 2/14/2007 9:08:14 PM
ahhh Dave ^^^ nice to see another mature post on the subject.

I dont understand all the bad responses. like eewwww, gross, disgusting, making people sick. like wtf??

there is nothing gross or disgusting about a females "cycle". did everyone forget, it is because of the woman's "cycle" that we are all here??? geeezus

last time I checked, I dont bleed from my clit. so whats the problem anyways???



Giddy up!



 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Perfect But No Pizzaz!
Posted: 2/7/2007 9:33:05 AM
hhmm yah its sad that it has been brain washed into us women's heads about the fairy tale romance. and in this online meat market that we are on, where we seem to have a smorgasbord of people to chose from. when we dont get that instant attraction/spark on a first meet, we just go onto the next.

Jessica, i did that the whole time I was meeting people as well. no spark, on to the next. Realized I wasnt getting anywhere closer to finding the person or relationship I was looking for. I changed my whole perspective and went into meeting people as just friends. dont need spark for a coffee friend.

and than I met my Dave. went to our first meet, no spark, but a awesome guy. I continued to see him and after our 3rd date, (and a lot of his nervousness was gone), I saw him in a whole new light, the real Dave. I wanted him big time. sparks galore, and they are still there.

Its been over a year since than, now we are in the process of buying a house together, things couldnt be any better.

I hate to think where I would be now if I dismissed him like the rest of my non-spark dates.

just my story, but I thought it might help.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
sex after baby a no.... need help
Posted: 11/25/2006 1:47:24 PM
hhmm, It might be Post partum. but if it was, you would be feeling more signs besides the lack of sexual desire. do you get overly irritable, mood swings, crying fits for no apparent reason, cant even get out of bed, shower, brush your teeth...??? you know, stuff like that.

A good friend of mine was put on some medication; she was on it for years. she blamed her lack of sexual desire on the pills she was on. I asked her, "Do you even masturbate, and get your self off?" she said no, she didnt even own a vibrator. "WHAT?!?!?" so I went out and got her one. Now that she took her own sexual desires into her own hands, literally, lol, she has become a completely different person.

I would forget about a guy trying to get you back to what you are used to, and try and get yourself there by yourself. once you have gotten that down to an art form I am totally sure you would want to throw a man into the mix.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Semen Allergy
Posted: 11/25/2006 12:19:43 PM
^^^^ OMG that is tooo funny. he has been told that lots before, I never saw it. but I recently saw Danny on a CSI episode, and yah they look very similar.


Becky by any chance are you vegetarian/vegan?? Some people choose to stop eating meat because it messes up their systems because there is an allergy/intolerance to the proteins. I imagine if your partner is taking those protein shakes which are/can be high in creatine/L-creatinine that could very well be the explanation. Interesting....


no_1_bby yes that is very interesting, he was taking those protein shakes, and he was also taking extra creatine with it. he hasnt been on the shakes in about 6 months or more. now there is absolutely no problem what so ever, I almost forgot there was a problem before, till I saw this thread pulled up.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Question on inside Ejaculation
Posted: 11/25/2006 12:12:18 PM

Do you guys realize that when you cum inside of your lady that it drains out, gradually, over a 3 day period? I cannot stand that feeling.


Tara, thats called the ooze factor. That is the best part about it.

uummm dont know about draining your butt, lol, yah that doesnt sound fun at all.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 55 (view)
 
*New Sex Aide, Great for Him and Her*
Posted: 10/11/2006 9:37:48 AM
Look at all the single guys putting down the Body Bouncer. If you guys were in a LTR and your woman brought one of these home so she could bounce around on your d*ck, while you just laid there. Like you are going to turn her down, and call her lazy to boot. palease

Didnt anybody watch the short vid?? There is 3 or 4 positions that my BF said right away he would love to try.

And like webwanderer said, Its not something you would use everyday, its just something different to do than the usual, face down ass up position.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
using condems......in the last half of sex
Posted: 10/1/2006 4:42:18 PM
gawd, I wish people would stop suggesting women to use IUD's.

again, IUD's do not stop you from getting pregnant, they are supposed to prevent a fertilized egg from attaching it self to the lining of the uterus. In other words, it is an aborting tool placed into your body.



I know the OP cannot use hormones, how about Delfan sp? It is spermicidal foam that comes with an applicator that you shoot up inside you before you start having sex. That will kill the sperm so there shouldnt be any chance of pregnancy. You can buy this stuff from any grocery or drug store.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Are men and women sexually attracted to different things?
Posted: 10/1/2006 4:29:19 PM
I have talked about this topic lots over the years. most guys assume if something turns them on, it would turn on women too. WRONG

a guy watching a female stranger whackin off, would probably be turned on by it, or intrigued like someone else posted.

a female seeing a male stranger whackin off, would be grossed out, or afraid for her safety.

there was a thread a while back asking if women would let a complete stranger give them oral sex. most all of the women posted, no way. a lot of the guys couldnt believe we would turn down oral sex from a stranger. I know it might be a major turn on for a lot of guys. some strange chick just coming up and sucking on their d*ck but for us women we need to be more intimately connected to the guy.

seeing my man whackin off my man dropping to his knee's and giving me oral

some stranger doing this


It is sad to say, but it has happened to me on 3 separate occasions. where they guy has whipped out his d*ck thinking it would some how impress me, or some how turn me on enough that i would jump on it. yah right. "put that f*ckin thing back in your pants!!"
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Trick Question for everyone
Posted: 10/1/2006 4:00:01 PM
this reminds me of an episode of CSI I saw. The woman in question a BBW, said she killed the guy. but after the CSI team did their investigating, it turned out that the woman had sex with this guy, she was on top of him. she ended up passing out because of some medication she was on or something. and she ended up crushing him and killing him accidentally. she was so embarrassed that she accidentally killed him, that she lied and said she did it on purpose.

they never charged her in TV land anyways they called it an accidental death.


so to the OP's question, I would thing it would be considered an accident. But what a way to go for those p*ssy lovers out there.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
using condems......in the last half of sex
Posted: 10/1/2006 3:44:23 PM
I got pregnant once from the method the OP is questioning. My current boyfriend had two kids with his ex that came from the same method.

not a good idea if you have health problems and you are trying to avoid pregnancy. as far as the whole pre-cum issue. I was always told there is the same amount of sperm in pre-cum as there is in ejaculate. so why risk it?

There is a device that uses your morning saliva to tell you if you are fertile or not. Woman use this to help them in getting pregnant, but you could also use it to not get pregnant. On the days you test fertile make sure you use extra precautions. Its another option anyways besides being put on hormones. http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/saliva-fertility-test.html

I like the bare d*ck too, so I can understand the OP's dilemma. thank god my BF has had a vasectomy so I dont have to worry about unwanted pregnancies.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Ignores sexual advances.....wassup?
Posted: 9/11/2006 3:51:51 PM

He's on this system, but I don't think he's very diligent about reading the forums and he only posts about his things and keeps track of that, so I don't think I'm in any danger of that.


He is into the forums and you dont think he has checked out your posts? yah OK.

so you say you have been dating this guy for 3 weeks, is this the same guy you started a thread about 2 weeks ago. you know your first date with the guy with the 3 cell phones??

I wouldnt be surprised if he read your last 25 posts like I just did. and if your dating other people at the same time your dating him, I am surprised he still talks to you at all. even if he just looks at your profile, your last 5 posts on your profile are pretty much all about him.

again, communication!!! If you would of just talked to the guy one on one, instead of airing your dating woes to all of POF. I think you would of had a better chance with this "keeper" guy.

just my opinion tho.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Ignores sexual advances.....wassup?
Posted: 9/10/2006 2:48:53 PM
maybe? maybe? maybe?

what the hell happened to communication? besides wanting to jump this guys bones, do you want him for more than that?? Or is the sex the deciding factor?

if you do want something more with this guy, you should be having a mature conversation. a conversation about expectations, needs and wants, and you should be asking his as well.

and if you met him from this site, he will see your posts on your profile about him anyways. good luck with that one.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 30 (view)
 
RAIN... Does it make the sex better?
Posted: 9/10/2006 1:47:08 PM
I live in BC, we dont tan, we rust. there is a reason why I was born and raised here, I love the rain.

about the first three months that I was dating my current BF it rained non-stop the whole time. ahhhhh good times, good times.


One of the things I always wanted to do, but havent done it yet is.... You know when you have a really hot sticky day, and than all of a sudden for no reason it starts to rain. yah i wanna do it then outdoors, it would be soooo refreshing on a hot day.

 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Why girls are so persistant??
Posted: 9/8/2006 3:12:37 PM

girls, you need to learn to just step back, don't pick up that phone, don't send that email, like seriously, get some pride


that was the hardest things I had to learn. Our minds can create so many different scenarios of what is going on, that it makes us crazy, and we react on them. even when in a good relationship with a man, we can end up doing that when we don't hear from them when we thought we would.

no guy wants to be with a clingy, psycho chick. just like we dont want a clingy psycho man. The key is to let him come to you, and if he doesnt well, than you know.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
sexual delemma
Posted: 9/7/2006 2:45:02 PM
vinny, its just in your nature, you are just going to have to deal with it, and stick to your guns. you are sadly mistaken if you think girls in their early 20's are going to be more experienced than you. yes some will be, but not all of them.

my BF is a virgo too, he is older than me in chronological age. but sexually he was way behind me. not a big deal, just more things to do to him or with him, that he hasnt done before. I kinda like the idea of being the first to give him these new experiences.

brief quote of the male virgo sexuality:
The Virgo male must have intelligence in his women. He is the least likely sign to go to the strip club and pick up a surgically/chemically altered female buzzing on some type of stimulant. Think of all the diseases the woman could have! A woman with nothing up there between the ears will not see any bedroom action from a Virgo male. He isn't into one night stands, but maybe he has succumbed once or twice. He needs romance and a hint of security in order to feel attracted to a woman.


you are not alone in your thinking, and it has nothing to do with your lack of experience. you will know when it feels right, with the right person.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is it right?
Posted: 8/25/2006 10:41:45 PM
well "here is you sign" she isnt interested in you, she has no balls and took the chicken sh*t route. and really would you want to be with someone like that LT anyways? Why ask why and dwell on it?

chalk it up to a learning experience and onto the NEXT.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Carpet matching the drapes.
Posted: 8/25/2006 10:28:21 PM

hardwood only matches if your bald


ahhhh I guess you missed the part about the throw rugs.

My mom was a hairdresser, and she would dye people's hair and say, "Do you need a batch (of hair dye) to match the snatch?"

 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 86 (view)
 
What are the side effects of using the vibrator too much???
Posted: 8/25/2006 10:17:11 PM
hhmm side effects....you get really excited when you see a sale on batteries.

and you get wayyy to used to them and become lazy to even try anything else. why would you when they work so well. "this is taking too long, pass me Stanley."

I do need a vibrator intervention for myself.

edit: VVV me too, I thought all women only use clit vibes?? lol and yet again a man who hears the word vibrator and gets it confused with a dildo. There is a difference you know? but there is a catch, some dildo's do vibrate.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Carpet matching the drapes.
Posted: 8/25/2006 10:08:52 PM
<<< check out the almost non existing eyebrows. I think vindicator has it right.

I have had many people over the years ask if I was a real blonde. *unzips pants* "yes I am, Do you wanna check?"

It might have to do with their heritage?? Both of my parents are from Holland (Netherlands), and Im almost 100% Dutch.
I dont know, dont really care either. Especially since the carpet went out years ago, and its strictly smooth hardwood floors and throw rugs for me.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Pain
Posted: 8/20/2006 7:20:39 PM
I have in the past quite often used the pain to get me "there", if that makes any sense. being that I am quite open about sex and what not, have talked about the pain issue with partners. apparently, certain body parts of mine, are not as sensitive as other females. what ever, i thought i was normal. what ever, you gotta do what yah gotta do to get off.

Now I find myself craving even rougher stuff. we will see what comes of that. I know for myself if I have one more O in me that just wont seem to happen, it wants to come, but its just hanging there. a finger/dildo in the ass, a hard hair pull or big ole smack on the ass, will set me over the edge every time.
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 218 (view)
 
Circumcision...
Posted: 8/18/2006 7:15:58 PM
^^ I do not agree that a circumcised penis is much more aseptically appealing than an uncut one. we are talking about an erect penis right?? if so, I have said it before I will say it again, most of the uncut d*cks look just like a cut d*ck when hard.

I have been in 4 ltr, 2 were cut, 2 werent. I have never experienced the 'smelly penis' or smegma from the uncut ones.

a d*ck is a d*ck, you fall in love with what ever kind is attached to the man you love.


My son is uncut, but if one day he decides he wants it, or has medical reason's for doing so, I will back him 100%. Until than, Im not worried about it. All the boys born now, are not being cut anymore around here. very rare that a parent pays for it to be done. it will be the cut ones that will be made fun of in school.

all you guys arguing about this is pretty silly, I thought us women were the ones that are obsessed with the penis. you guys not telling us something?!?!?!?!
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Moving out west...can he stop us?
Posted: 8/18/2006 2:44:01 PM
Well OP, have you learned anything from all the comments??

uumm Wizard..... you are 40 years old and have your own kids, i can see you are probably seeing all this from your perspective. The OP is 21 and so is the father. and I might ad, the father is 21 with 3 different children from three different mothers, who doesnt pay a dime for any of them. How is her wanting a better life for her and her child being selfish?? I can think of someone that is selfish tho...

The OP has an opportunity to maybe get a head in life, and get off social assistance.

The father giving her the guilt treatment for wanting a better life, is crap. Especially since he doesnt help out financially. watching her a couple times a week, so the OP can stay at her dead end job, and keep living in her small crappy apartment. yah thats helpful.

OP I will assume your parents help you out a lot and Im sure you probably couldnt of made it as far as you have without them. Why give that up?? you need all the support you can get. If the father really wants to keep being apart of his daughters life, he will make every effort possible to do so. I know your good friends with him, but really why??

You need a change, this move could be it. I have said before, never live with any regrets. a year from now you dont want to be sitting in your crappy apartment in Ontario, with your crappy job, still sitting on assistance, watching your ex smoking his weed, wondering... I wonder what would of happened.....

I say give it a year...6 months out in alberta, if you dont like it Im sure your parents will help you move back. Really what do you have to lose??
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
How to let go of your baby??
Posted: 8/16/2006 4:54:17 PM
I am right there with yah OP my daughter is starting school too. i have a couple of added concerns tho. I have been dreading September coming for the last year.

first concern, my son who is less than a year younger than her, has never been without his sister. probably will be good for him, but it is something on my mind. the fact she will be off in school, and he will be in daycare by himself.

second BIG concern, my daughter is a type one diabetic. so that means i have to rely on complete strangers to monitor her blood sugar levels, and snacks, possibly give her needles, ect ect. This is a hard one for me, and on her too. she only likes mom to give her needles and check her blood 4 times a day. its going to be a huge adjustment on both of us.

yep the days are ticking down, and I was trying not to think about. thanks to this thread, its all I can think about now. thanks a lot OP
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Vasectomy is A wonderful thing!
Posted: 8/16/2006 4:08:11 PM
^^^ somebody who hasnt read all the posts.

verygreen, you dont like the oozing/dripping/seeping/running/spewing, thats the best part. or The OOOZE Factor as I like to call it. "ick" factor, thats funny.

My man, and as far as I know most men's ejaculate amounts dont change much after the surgery. Sperm makes up a very small part of the total ejaculate volume. Your man must of had smaller amounts before his surgery, because really it doesnt change much at all.

and I will have to say again, YES, Vasectomy's are a very wonderful thing!!
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Female Desire for Sex
Posted: 8/16/2006 3:56:37 PM
Bob you say you still yearn for sex. and really its all about the closeness and the intimacy between two people. ahhhh what am I talking about, its all about the O. I would figure as long as you got your woman off, she would be happy. whether you use your fingers, or toys.

ever thought about investing in a strap-on??
 Becky B
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 171 (view)
 
Circumcision...
Posted: 8/15/2006 11:22:45 PM
^^ silly girl that is what they look like when they are not completely erect.

when erect there is no difference between looking at a uncut penis or a cut penis. the few i have seen uncut look like that pic, but only in their flaccid state. and how often do we woman actually get to see a flaccid d*ck?? It doesnt happen too often.

Im sure half these women who say they would never want to be with an uncut penis, probably already have but never knew.

and most uncut guys, have the extra room to grow longer than their cut brothers.

a d*ck is a d*ck, you fall in love with what ever kind is attached to the man you love.
 
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