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Joined: 5/5/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

Sex in relationships Posted: 12/11/2007 2:18:07 PM
because I didnt get enough or it wasnt good enough? lol. pretty sure there isnt many guys who would turn down a night of lovin but there are defiantly many that couldnt keep up with me. maybe we were just not as compatible as I thought but oh well... I do however believe the sex can get better with time. but if your going to make me wait, I might just have to look elsewhere. women have needs too you know!

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Needing single friends to go out with on the weekends Posted: 12/11/2007 2:05:34 PM
Hey im always looking for new ladies to hang out with. I only go to the clubs once and awhile one a week sometimes even though I have a baby I need to get out of the house and have fun..... some of my girl friends are fun to go out with.. but we have been friends for quite awhile now.. and im really starting to think I need some new friends. lol. and its difficult to meet decent girls who wont make you look bad, embarrassed or steal from you beat you up etc.. Wow tones of drama lately. I did however run into some girl that came solo to the bar once and I was quite amazed she did this.. probably on drugs.. probably a bisexual but whatever... she was quite rude to me and my friend asking if we were 17 or something, and I said no we are 22 and both have children but thanks anyways! ....and the fact we are both Scorpios im sure we could get into lots of trouble.lol. nice to meet you.... send me a message sometime if you would like to chat I will give you my email...

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Seeing POF people Coming Posted: 12/11/2007 1:24:00 PM
I just love it when im out somewhere and someone asks me if im off the internet its great i almost feel like a celebrity at times! haha. especially when one of the creepiest guys in the bar says oh i reconize you from somewhere.. or i come online after a day of shopping to find someone has been watching me at walmart and he thinks i would actually considering dating him after his stalker like behavior. my god people. I know there are other girls who resemble me quite alot.... because I have been hearing for years from random strangers that they think im someone else they have met before. i would rather be not recognized than recognized but thats just pretty damn difficult with blond hair so if you do see me out somewhere and you think asking me if im off the internet is gonna make me wanna talk to u well it isnt. so maybe start by introducing yourself first.

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Vibes Posted: 12/11/2007 1:13:25 PM
pretty sure last time i checked this was a dating site. if you want more messages from other people maybe consider checking out other forums that are on other sites of interests... people to chat with about issues etc. instead of this site. when i didnt have children i got twice as many more messages than when i changed my profile to has children... so it can also depend how often your online. the more i come online the more IMs i get because some people dont enjoy searching through profiles but instead just more so look at the ones already online to one person you could be giving positive vibes and to another negitive so its a really difficult question... people who are not single actually still get messages? lol

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Lose weight first ?? Posted: 12/11/2007 12:44:09 PM
yeah i have been wondering the same thing. unforchantly i have just given up and tried to date anyways even though i still cannot fit into alll my jeans. i said by my birthday which was 3 weeks ago now that i should fit into them ... and still not even close. but whatever.. if the guy is interested in more than your body (which hopefully you would want) then it shouldnt matter what size you are. but if you feel soo uncomfortable with yourself you cannot open up and be yourself while on a date then loose some weight first. 5 even 10 pounds you will notice you look and feel different already! so whos up for the gym? lol

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Sex on a car? Posted: 12/9/2007 7:23:41 PM
do i have to pay for the dents to come out?

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MILF vs Couger Posted: 12/9/2007 7:19:47 PM
most cougers dont have kids? yeah im definatly a milf because i dont go around looking for younger guys to hook up with they come looking for me! hahaha but yeah. i will never be a cougar. i do not call boys who are younger lookin for action... they call me. jk.

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Does great oral sex giving depend on how much you like/love that person? Posted: 12/9/2007 7:14:04 PM
yeah completely I have only done it a couple times to a couple different guys... and I dont really like receiving it especially from someone that I dont love, cuse it just feels weird to me. if i dont really like the person my tongue is not going anywhere close to them no matter how drunk i am lol

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Boyfriends in prison Posted: 12/9/2007 6:13:12 PM
if it was a year in prison fine then wait. do not hold yourself back in life because of his mistakes. as much as you love him... he should love you enough to want you to be happy! and obviously your not happy waiting for him. you dont need to forget about him all together just take some time to not think about him. Go back to your own life. If you really care about yourself then you will wait till hes out to decide what to do with him. prison changes people very significantly... even after a few months.. never mind what he will be like in 8 to 10 years. write him letters go for visits etc...be his friend because that is all he deserves and needs right now. Date other people so you can not think about him every 5 min. my ex went to jail for 2 weeks and it seemed like forever to me. I went and gave his lawyer money and wrote the judge a letter for him and everything so it really did help for me to do that for him and even though we are no longer together he totally respects me for it.. you dont sound insane or crazy you seem totally sad and confused. i totally understand what it must be like. such a difficult decision when you care about someone so much. if he cares so much about you he wont want you to be crying all the time upset because hes gone. if hes totally fine that your upset by all this it is because he loves being in love with you and doesnt really love the real you. be nice to him though because this is a really hard situation to be in can either bring out the best or worst in someone... so becareful. he will change and in another year you might not even know him at all. your in love with the past you had together not the present. the present is what matters most girl. so turn your phone off for his daily calls. talk to him once a week then soon once a month.. then write a couple letters a year and eventually by then you will have some other man that would love to stay out of prison to be with you! goodluck hun and dont let other peoples negative attitudes bring you down... especially his

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The Ecstasy of Intimacy Posted: 12/9/2007 5:26:56 PM
The meaning of intimacy varies from relationship to relationship, and within a given relationship. Intimacy has more to do with shared moments than sexual interactions. Intimate feelings may be connected or confused with sexual arousal. Intimacy is linked with feelings of closeness, safety, trust and transparency among partners in a collaborative relationship. For intimacy to be sustainable and nourishing it also requires trust, transparency and rituals of connection. It is possible to compete over intimacy but that is likely to be self-defeating. Intimacy requires empathy - the ability to stand in the other's shoes. Intimacy is both the ability and the choice to be close, loving and vulnerable. Intimacy requires identity development. You have to know yourself and your inner self in order to share your self with another. Knowing yourself makes it possible to stand for yourself in an intimate relationship without taking over the other or losing yourself to the other. This ability to be separate and together in an intimate relationship and being okay with that is called self-differentiation. Lacking the ability to differentiate one self from the other is a form of symbiosis. This too is different from intimacy though to some that kind of dependent closeness may feel the same.

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The Ecstasy of Intimacy Posted: 12/9/2007 3:27:05 PM
wow that was a pretty impressive post. im impressed lol. yeah theres something a man can do.. try to impress me ! I like to be surprised but I also enjoy constancy, if you change your mind or things too frequently my body and mind will get confused. * tunnel vision * only happens with me so often and usually I am all over the place. My body is telling my mind a 100 things, but my mind is trying to think about something different. overly emotional? yes. a little obsessive and impatient... yes that to. ive learned to live with it..... other guys havent yet. So yes maybe women need to make themselves more clear on how to be impressed...... but instead of her telling you verbally she could do it physically.... there are signs to look for. Body Language is important. If shes being distant from you, then approaching her closer is only going to make her want to back away. YOU CAN CREATE ATTRACTION YOU CANNOT FORCE IT!!! This is something some men dont understand and in some cases take things way too far. Men always want something to be happening, they get bored and need to be simulated from the outside. There are some men who can be stimulated from the inside but its more difficult for them compared to a woman. A womans body is easily stimulated from the inside because there is constant emotion within us. Theres always feelings that we hold onto and never let go of. If you can bring back a womans memory of a feeling she had before then she will most likely easily feel that same feeling she had before. (which is why we cry so frigen easily) we think and feel together which as men feel and think more separate. woman use both sides of their brain men use one mostly. So the other part we use is more likely feelings that we hold onto, feelings we always have, but sometimes just choose to ignore or because we are distracted easily. Im distracted very easily. So the less distractions you have around the better you will be able to amuse me with only yourself. Dont get me wrong though, there are good and bad distractions. There are times when I need/want to be distracted... Depends what... and at when..... communicating physically is the best distraction. Next is verbally... You could be saying anything to me but with the right stance, approach, the hand motions or touching your chest etc... will get my body thinking about feeling and more so ignoring what your saying. In that case I would be stimulated physically and mentally at the same time, thinking about your body and your voice, where your hands are etc. You can have sex for hours but if your mind is not into it your not going to feel as good or learn to let go. From experience there isnt alot of guys that talk much within the minutes proceeding up to sex or during sex. They tend to be pretty content with just feeling and dont really experience the need to continue talking. Some women can talk and talk and im sure most of you know they can be pretty distracting when your trying to just feel. If you distract us enough then we wouldnt be trying to distract ourselves all the time. Sometimes we do it to ourselves and we dont even enjoy it. but it is just difficult to balance all the distractions with emotions and logic thoughts etc. Other forms of distractions could be things in your room or house ... which guys love to use their cars toys houses etc to make a woman wanna date them. They can also make a woman not want to date you. If your room is too distracting I will just be looking around instead of at you. like watching the tv or whatever. If you really want my attention then turn the tv off or the music down a little lower or up higher depending on how im feel and what Im wanting. Focus is important. If you can get my attention with a distraction then you almost have me excited. But if you can keep my attention then im really excited. Then im really wanting more.....but leaving a woman wanting more is only going to frustrate them with their own feelings... so they will be focused on how they are feeling instead of how your both feeling.. intimacy needs two people. When a guy tells me how he feels it really gets to me. Being intimate is about feelings so I wanna know how your feeling. I want to feel you feel haha. If that makes any sense i dunno ? But it totally keeps my interest when I can see, know and feel how your feeling. That is one of the best distractions... because yes even women get bored with their own feelings. All we want is some of yours so be nice and share! haha...I mean all girls are different. But most are usually just wanting to be entertained....and if Im entertaining you then show it because that entertains me! confusing but true.

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Last names Posted: 12/9/2007 2:01:32 PM
because its just easier???? why is that so hard to believe¿my last name is super difficult for anyone to pronounce or spell, and everytime I say it I get that weird look from people like what country are you from? haha. so when my aunt got divorced she kept her exs name because it was easier, the same as her daughters name etc. im pretty sure it costs alot of money to change your last name going through the government nevermind just changing the information on a peice of id. as far as your own identity goes and wanting to be yourself... there are 100 other people in canada with your same name and well probably more in other parts of the world. yourself is simply that and your name doesnt make who you are it just gives people something else to call you instead of dumb*ss. lol.

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Too Much Perfume or Cologne Posted: 12/9/2007 1:35:46 PM
what smells good to you might smell bad to someone else. when people have worn the same perfume or cologne many times it starts to work with their bodies own natural sent to the point of them not being able to smell it at all.. so they end up putting more and more on just so they can smell themselves. maybe you didnt have to make your point so clearly. you spoke as if she completely ruined your day. if someone comes in smelling of bo your going to be rude and say who the hell smells so bad maybe they should consider wearing deodorant? have you ever wondered if maybe you have an extremely good sense of smell and are more sensitive to certain smells than other people? I know this is true for me because I have really bad allergies and the moment I walk into a dusty room it bothers me right away. some people are ammune to their own smell weather it be purfume or bo.. so yes maybe they do need to be told but do so in a nicer way!!!! so change your cologne, purfume, and deo frequently, wear less, buy less and smell the best! I frigen loooove purfume cologne but only the expensive brands. however lately im broke and have to settle for the cheaper brands (not body mist or any of that spray junk) and I must say I have quite the collection of bottles happening. yum!

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Deja Vu... Posted: 12/9/2007 1:11:23 PM
I used to get this alot as a child and not so much after my teenage years. So maybe I did make some wrong choices as a teen so what? lol. but seriously. this is something I have always wondered about too, because its such a strange feeling that is very difficult to describe kinda like my dreams are. I was talking with a guy maybe like 6 years ago I had just met and we got into some pretty interesting conversation, part of which made alot of sense to me and the rest that just kinda left me with that puzzled look on my face.. he was asking if i ever had deja vu and i told him yes but not for awhile. he was trying to say how there is a life path that your supposed to follow and that alot of people make other decisions and choose to go separate ways from their own ways path or it just ends up happening depending on the outcome of certain situations , people or things you have chosen... and that when you get deja vu that is when you have crossed paths with the way you were supposed to go (if you believe in something like fate or a purpose) and that you are back on the right path that you were supposed to follow. that its supposed to be a good thing kinda like a reminder sign or whichever. funny thing is the next day I did have deja vu after changing my mind about what road to walk down to be picked up... thinking that I had done it before or it felt like I had even though it wasnt the same situation , but it was a familiar area where I had been before numerous times. The experience of déjà vu seems to be very common; in formal studies 70% of people report having experienced it at least once. References to the experience of déjà vu are also found in literature of the past, indicating it is not a new phenomenon. It has been extremely difficult to invoke the déjà vu experience in laboratory settings, therefore making it a subject of few empirical studies. Recently, researchers have found ways to recreate this sensation using hypnosis. so if they can recreate this using hypnosis it must be something involving your memory otherwise they wouldnt be able to make it happen at all? im not really sure how they could be positive about that they are really recreating it like the real thing..... but maybe more so just recreating the feelings associated with it. there is more going on subconsciously and the feelings we get from deja vu are just letting us know that.

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Tattoo pics on Profiles Posted: 12/9/2007 12:11:24 PM
tramp stamp?? #1 reason I have no tattoos. haha. I really could care less about tattoos unless its tasteful. yes guys they really do make you look tougher.. but when I wake up in the morning the last thing I want to see is some crazy tattoo looking at me... I do think some are kinda cool though, if its designed by you or chosen wisely or original has special meaning or whichever. Its an art and should be treated like one instead of like a stamp or label or advertisement that is appealing to the eye and catches attention or whatever.. sorry having a big expensive fancy or scary tattoo isnt going to make you suddenly cool or better in bed... lol! as far as individuality goes.... maybe you should try speaking for yourself instead of letting the tattoos do it for you

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Pre made foods Posted: 12/9/2007 11:45:28 AM
depends what you buy. LOL. i guess you wouldnt know that because you eat out all the time. 30 bucks of groceries can last almost a week depending on what you buy and how much you eat. instead of spending 5 dollars at mcdonalds for breakfast and then again at lunch thats 10 dollars a day... and then what for dinner? spend another 10? instead of buying something healthy that you can make yourself like bread milk fruit, crackers, soups, pasta, chicken etc.. if you only buy stuff when its on sale you can save alot of money by looking through flyers for different stores.. again something you wouldnt know about because your probably too busy waiting in line at the drive through... which is wasting gas and polluting the environment, some wait 10 minutes if not 20 at tim hortons with their cars still on... i have seen 10 people in line in the am before work because they are too lazy to make their own damn cup of coffee at home. so in reality it isnt cheaper at all. and especially not healthy. all the foods that are easy to make have been frozen and pumped full of preservatives.. so they arnt really doing anything for your body besides tricking it into feeling full, which is really the fat and waste soaking into your bloodstream clogging your arteries, which then you will be spending years in doctors offices and hospitals checking your blood pressure and heart constantly, and then maybe you need medication and treatment or surgeries for numerous problems with your intestines and bowl. most people that have heart attacks it is because they smoke but mostly because they are overweight. so it may be easy for you to buy these fast foods, but in the long term it is only going to make your life extremely more difficult to get proper nutrition. think again when you order that chicken salad from wendys thinking its the healthier option. all of their products including their vegetables have been enhanced and treated with more chemicals than the foods at other smaller grocery stores, because they are mass producing the shit to fulfill your easy sleazy cravings and attitude.

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how long does it take for there to be sparks Posted: 12/3/2007 6:56:07 PM
everyone seems to have different ideas about what sparks are. usually by the first or second time meeting I know if we do or could have sparks.. something about the guy that intrigues me, if i find him interesting, goodlooking, you get that nervous kinda feeling and a little overwhelming, I find myself thinking about them for the rest of the next day etc.. some people have so much they are thinking about and other stuff thats distracting them they dont realize certain things they like about each other right away. some people are more open to others and easier to read... so for certain types of people it may take longer for them to feel sparks depending on what they are looking for.

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child support in bc Posted: 12/3/2007 5:00:15 PM
i also think its hilarious that some people seem to think that some girls had babies just to get money from their exs.. and even if they do get money supposibly they are sitting around on their asses doing nothing? and theres even some women sticking up for them too?? excuse me but i didnt purposly get pregnant to piss my ex off. im pretty sure he did it to me on purpose to keep me in his life or something .my ex told me he didnt want to see her when she was born cause him and his gf were trying for their own baby. he already has a three year old he will owe major backpay for.. a criminal record... after his gf dumping him hes threatening to grab her away from me because i wont let him see her!! hes been acting crazy, has been to jail, has an aggressive pitbull, and an has a major attitude problem! he hasnt given our daughter anything!!!! ive spent thousands of dollars on my baby already nevermind the stuff that was given to me... so my ex taking me to court to be allowed visitation rights????? hes been following me around town and sending me harassing phone calls and emails !! no matter how much child support i get it still wont undo all the bullshit pain and suffering i have gone through for this baby girl. if he didnt want to make babies he should learn to listen when i tell him to wear a condom! also however much money he will owe monthly for her will be not even half compared to what i have and will spend on her. the money may go to the mother and she might spend it however she thinks is right.. but at least the child will know their dad is actually helping them out instead of being a deadbeat. any man who thinks paying for his own child is unfair should be kicked in the face

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some people love to hate Posted: 12/3/2007 2:39:26 PM
some people love to hate i see it everyday they way they look at me their smiles with so much dishonesty they fake being interested when they are bored they pretend to care wondering asking what why and where even though i know it doesnt really matter its just something to talk about after a party, a gathering, friends or family arguments or positive criticism laughing, talking behind your back i cant believe they did.... i cant believe they said.... i cant believe they want... i cant believe they are... just like how you wanted or didnt want to be wondering or realizing bragging or explaining discriminating or disagreeing when it all breaks down whos side will you be on?

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My life and yours... (post other poems not comments please!) Posted: 12/3/2007 1:45:59 PM
as the years go by as the years go by.. i stop and realize its not only my cries that im bothered by it hasnt always been about me it hasnt always been about you it was about everything we choose some of my memories were sweet but not thought about enough frequently they faded away into the cold focused on the moment only something to hold something to feel something to believe in a memory a warning a mistake a sin whatever you call it we all have felt it regret, alot or just a little bit outside and in waiting, being excited and aggrivated loved and hated life is what we make of it

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Do Real men like Cats? Posted: 11/28/2007 8:39:31 PM
NO i dont consider guys who have cats real men. hahaha nothing like a guy meowing back at his **** and having it jump up on the couch as they cuddle with it and then the cat farts on them or something....ahahah .sorry guys but i seriously hate cats. i guess because im really alergic. dogs are awesome. i dont like little ones though has to be big . aha! my dogs not mans best friend....hes my best friend... aww. im gonna go play some ball rite now. cats dont bring anything to people except bugs, dead mice or birds... a dog will protect you and probably would die trying to save you while your cat ran and hid under the couch.

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Abortion Posted: 10/29/2007 11:05:22 PM
pretty sure you cant do blood tests for homosexuals!! as on bbc news... Nearly all pregnant women should and do undergo genetic tests to see if the child they are carrying has a disorder... The study by an expert panel to draw up national guidelines and standards for prenatal genetic testing has put forward the proposal as a means of pinpointing rare diseases at an early stage of pregnancy. It raises the prospect of genetic screening for most pregnant women with advice on how they can then have an abortion if the test provides evidence of a serious abnormality. The draft guidelines by the Advisory Committee on Genetic Testing (ACGT) have been submitted to health authorities across the country for consultation ahead of final standards being issued later this year. Pregnant women with a family history of illness or an increased risk of abnormality, such as Down's Syndrome due to the age of the mother, should be automatically offered a test, according to the report. But the study also suggests a more radical departure. It says a large proportion, if not all, pregnant women could be tested to identify those whose unborn child is at higher risk of developing genetic disease. Termination It said: "An offer of screening the whole pregnant population or a large sub-group, which is collectively at a low risk, may be undertaken with the aim of identifying those at higher risk so that more specific tests may be offered. "Where a potential abnormality is identified, there is a need for urgent detailed counselling about the options available, often when the pregnancy is fairly well advanced." The document by the ACGT, which is now part of the government's Human Genetics Commission, underlines that women found to have an abnormal foetus should be provided with advice on an abortion within legal guidelines. It said: "Those who undergo prenatal diagnosis have the wish to have a healthy child. "Thus, when a foetus is found to have a genetic, chromosomal or structural abnormality, some may, when provided with information on the effects of the abnormality, may choose to seek a termination of the pregnancy." The report found that the vast majority of genetic tests carried out so far showed normal results. importance of consent Just 4.1% of more than 36,000 samples of fluid taken from the womb and tested between 1997 and 1998 provided an abnormal reading. The study underlines the importance of consent from the mother and need for the procedures and their implications to be explained with clarity and support provided once the result is known. A Department of Health spokeswoman emphasised the findings were in draft form. But anti-abortion campaigners criticised the suggestion of large-scale testing, saying it amounted to a plan to filter out disabled children before they were born. Nuala Scarisbrick, of charity Life, said: "The reality is the reason for these tests is to destroy disabled children. "They look to root out Down's Syndrome or spina bifida and deny the rights of unborn child." I dont like the idea of abortion especially now after having a child but.. I do believe that some pregnancys are terminated for the better, some happen naturally and some are forced. Most women would not want to have an unhealthy disabled child... just as most people wouldnt want to be disabled if it be mentally or physically. Children and people die everyday, its a a part of life... some people want to die and some wish they could live longer or forever... its a cruel world and I really think that if we can prevent someone from suffering through a difficult life than circumstances like abortion are good for certain people in certain situations.. but definatly shouldnt be used as a form of birth control!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Pets in Bed Posted: 10/16/2007 11:39:10 PM
NO! uhhg. some people have never herd of dogs beds ?? maybe dog house?? uhg cats are worse im sooo alergic.

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HATE Posted: 10/16/2007 10:22:14 PM
if it wasnt for hate, love wouldnt be as amazing

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What is gross to you? Posted: 10/16/2007 10:18:49 PM
soggy worms on the street. ear wigs. spiders on my pillow. guys that dont brush their teeth. that old musty smell. people who do not wash regularly. public bathrooms. yuck!!!

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What you do if you got pregnant by a fling? Posted: 10/16/2007 9:46:57 PM
i was with my ex for maybe 4 months and after breaking up with him realized i was pregnant. if i had known sooner i might have gotten an abortion and that would have been such a horrible thing. im so glad i decided to keep her and im so lucky to have her. she has transformed my life into such a happier place and so many things to look forward to. her biological father didnt want anything to do with her because he had a girlfriend when she was born and now that they have broken up he then wants me back and to see her! now he has decided to make my life more stressful so I would prefer to not have any contact with him. I think an attempt should be made and if things dont work out go your seperate ways. its easier on everyone,. i dont want my daughter to get her hopes up one day and then be let down again... she can definatly tell when im stressed and vise versa. it may have not been responsible for me to have a unplanned child but it might have just been the best thing I have ever done! and I definatly dont regret it. I could be missing out on alot of selfish things for myself by having a child, but by not having a child I would be missing out on even more things. sex=reproduction ... and its a natural,necessary and an amazing wonderful experience. to those mothers who got pregnant at 16 or 20 or whatever someone else considers irresponsible you should be proud of yourselves and hold your head up high when those older women look down upon you. because when the day is done you have put someone ahead of yourself and thats something to really be proud of. anyone can say they are a woman but only those who have children know what its really like to be one.

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I'm having some funky dreams Posted: 10/16/2007 9:39:14 PM
i hardly ever have good dreams, and remember only mostly the bad ones. i try not to think about them as they usually have more normal meanings once i have looked them up in the dream dictionary. usually smoking weed prevents me from having such intense nightmares.

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favourite halloween/horror movies Posted: 10/16/2007 9:29:48 PM
dawn of the dead, resident evil, 28 days later, underworld, grindhouse, cabin fever, wrong turn, jeepers creepers, thirteen ghosts, dreamcatcher, house of 1000 corpses, the texas chain saw massacre, the hills have eyes, saw, the messengers, and so many more and all the sequels.

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5 tips for avoiding another hurtful relationship Posted: 10/16/2007 9:04:05 PM
1. hide and lock your own cell phone with a code to prevent major debt, delete previous messages. 2. hide and change pin number on bank cards frequently 3. hide spare keys to your car to prevent them from making a copy 4. hide pictures/ cards from previous relationships throw or give away their items that were left behind 5. buy new underwear, use birth control/condoms and get tested for stds reguarly

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Can a carnivor date a vegetarian? Posted: 10/16/2007 8:58:20 PM
I think I would feel strange eating meat with a man with a salad.. something about that just seems wrong.

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Evil Curses Posted: 10/16/2007 8:39:40 PM
in my experience the relationship ends because one person ( the man ) becomes possessed by an evil spirit and becomes crazy and psychotic, forcing the pure and wholesome one ( the woman ) into the arms (legs) of another man. But she is so stressed and vulnerable from the previous relationship she usually makes the wrong decision and ends up dating someone quite similiar in ways like the previous relationship because she is possibly has a love curse placed on her to fall for someone of certain evil traits.... in which case it may seem like she is having a difficult time finding someone who is not possessed by evil demons from the underworld, so often it takes many tries to find a perfect/pure or decent man. Since so many of them are alike it can become quite difficult as many men will purposly try to ruin and control a womans life and when they are finally finished their games...... their friends that are also possessed by demons then attempt to get the woman into a rebound relationship thinking that they could do a better job trying to be controlling and possessive... by pretending to be better for her than her ex was. When in reality he is the same if not worse than the previous ex but he thinks that maybe he has changed. And once they are together long enough (a month maybe 6) the woman then realizes that she was probably cursed and that is why she has fallen for a man that was so similar to her ex. this is how you know you have been cursed by a man. if his friends or other men that are very similiar to him are trying to get into your life when you have just become single. If the woman has gotten over her issues with her previous relationship and recognizes these evil traits a man possesses he will then try to search out one of the womans friends to then turn the womans friends against her in which case the woman becomes even more stressed and vulnerable without support from her friends... suggestion: warn your female friends and dont date your exs friends and maybe you can break the curse lol! these men seriously need some

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Msg: 133 (view)

What do you find most sexy about the opposite sex? Posted: 10/9/2007 3:45:03 PM
confidence can be sexy... but good hair, nice eyes and a strong body is good too. a good sense of humor and someone who knows what they are doing in the bedroom !

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Msg: 23 (view)

Slacks versus pants Posted: 10/9/2007 3:30:26 PM
the only time I have herd the words slacks or blouses it was from my grandparents or maybe an older teacher. lol.

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Msg: 13 (view)

When they owe you something... Posted: 9/27/2007 12:42:11 AM
oh god. yeah im pretty sure i told my ex today that he can just keep the money and the satisfaction of knowing he ripped me off and I will just never talk to him again. so he said yeah I will come see you tomorrow then and bring you some money, because I love you and your baby. aww. I seriously think he cant handle not having me in his life and ive tried to get away so many times. why the hell am I so nice and trusting to such complete idiots! well at least I can say im not the using abusing **** who took everything! ahah! you can only not deal with them for so long.. I say get whats owed to you, but dont let it ruin your life or become the center of your universe. there are better things to worry about than money all the time, and it will destroy you if you continue to. ;) revenge can be pretty sweet, but trying to forget about something can be pretty hurtin. no regrets!

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Msg: 123 (view)

leaving socks on during sex Posted: 9/27/2007 12:30:50 AM
maybe their feet smell really nasty.. in that case please leave your sock on but if their work socks and not clean ..yuck get them away from me! what if my feet are cold???? not making love to his toes.. why not?? lmao! the feet have so much feeling though! tickle tickle

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Msg: 27 (view)

Scent and attraction Posted: 9/19/2007 9:32:27 PM
if its a clean smell. im not into the smell of construction guys.. its weird like my dad .

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Msg: 341 (view)

Can women really go without sex???? Posted: 9/19/2007 9:28:57 PM
yes its possible. sometimes sex changes a relationship. i havent had it in 6months. and not really by choice, but i havent wanted to run out and have sex with just anyone especially while pregnant. sometimes the longer you wait to have it with someone the better it is because you have been wanting it for so long. i definatly couldnt wait a whole year. but it already feels like its been a year. if someone really loves you they will do what they can to spend time with you.. and not make up excuses. sounds like you need to find some lovin elsewhere and tell her to let you know when she has time to spend with you.. if you really loved her maybe you would wait a year too?

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Msg: 60 (view)

20 somethings after 40 somethings!!! Why??? Posted: 8/21/2007 10:48:21 PM
ahh im sure its the 40 something year olds that have been messaging me and not the other way around

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Msg: 38 (view)

Dating a single mom has it's perks. Posted: 8/21/2007 10:44:15 PM
aww this was great. thanks for the post alot of other people ruined it though. assholes.

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Msg: 91 (view)

Partner keeping mementos of ex /exes ! Posted: 8/21/2007 10:26:05 PM
haha I would throw it all away. Ive gotten rid of everything well almost everything from exs, keeping it is a sign that you were afraid of moving on, leaving the past behind you. if your holding onto things from your exs your still holding onto alot of other things too.

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Msg: 102 (view)

Got a fake diamond ring from fiance, he lied and said it was a 3 carat, 30,000 dollar ring! Posted: 7/9/2007 3:22:57 PM
what does being blonde have to do with anything? there are alot of brown haired women that are just as bad, if not worse when it comes to using men for money. you did not say if your friend was blond or not.. maybe he felt she was too dumb to even have the ring checked out, and was trying to pull a fast one on her. maybe its not that he thinks she was dumb, he was trying to prove a point to her or just try to keep her around.. I imagine that would be difficult with a women of such high expectations, he feels the need to have to lie once and awhile...it is the thought that counts.. doesnt mean he doesnt want to marry her.. but it could mean that he thought she deserved his love instead of just his money. I see nothing wrong with it, except for the fact that he lied. but he was just telling her what she wanted to hear anyways. and if money is all she cares about, she only deserves a chunck of glass anyways.

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Msg: 31 (view)

Conspiracy Theory..... Posted: 7/6/2007 10:46:54 AM
distractions come in many forms weather they are planned out on purpose or not is the question... maybe they thought up aliens visiting earth to prevent you from worrying about a metor visiting earth instead... The government,/politics/media has always been about control and creating more consumers/customers... they premote paranoia because it creates money.. to prevent you from..... taking over the world... I too believe in the sock fairy... intelligent life on other planets...ummm not really.. dinosaurs just maybe. better hope they dont come visit us.... lmao...big brother is watching all of us....

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Msg: 142 (view)

What do you find beautiful? Posted: 7/6/2007 10:32:59 AM
A reflection of the mountain side in a calm lake, the rustling of leaves on a big tree during a warm breeze, blossoms on trees falling off into the wind resembling a snow storm, a purple and pink sunset, the sunshine sparkling off the snow covered hills

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Msg: 30 (view)

Tarot cards, astrology, palmistry, do you believe them? Posted: 7/6/2007 10:11:42 AM
I believe to some extent. There are things in life we change, and others things we cannot prevent but learn to deal with. Astrology to me is about focus, there are constantly hints at things we can improve on and learn about, but there is alot of other situations and traits that are unavoidable and we have to do the best we can at learning to accept them... astrology helps to point out or remind of the obvious or not so obvious... its a basic guide for daily/monthly/yearly and doesnt apply the same to everyone. The same sign can be told the same thing, but it applies to each person differently, and when you apply it to your own situation it becomes completely different. I think that is why some people get so confused or dont believe in it.. because they are seeing it for the main obvious, what it says instead of what it could be or could mean. Like other religions it focuses more so on the futures outcome, but also more so on each day and how many things are affecting and contributing to our lives..... I am worried to visit a palm reader, card reader or psychic for what they would say to me, or think....because what means something to one person, is seen different to another, and means something different to me. I think they would get my hopes up, or let me down, tell me things that could apply to my life but from their perspective and not my own. I like numerology its a little more personal and indepth than astrology, but it all depends where your getting the information from there are many people who give readings, but they do it in different ways and believe in different things. I think putting your faith in what someone else tells you instead of what you believe on your own can be harmful to yourself over time. But only believing in yourself can be harmful to others and eventually to yourself if you cant learn to change, or accept things for how they really are and what they could be.

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Msg: 22 (view)

Partner trying to change the way you look Posted: 6/29/2007 1:48:36 PM
you cant expect someone to change for you, they have to want to...and if they do that relationship will continue to grow and move forward...change is good! depends if your trying to get someone to look better so they feel better about themselves. or if your trying to make them look more unappealing to someone else so they have a more difficult time leaving you for someone else. I always liked to dress up and look good, different style...etc.. and my ex would always want me to wear sweatpants/tracksuits... I didnt know if it was for me to be more comfortable..or just look lazier.. or atheletic...whichever... one time that I was wearing a sweat suit..his friend commented that I looked pregnant..and he had to tell me..and say something about what I was eating/drinking etc...when he was the one who always bought me junk food in the first place..I got really upset, felt bad about how I let myself become while with him...and the fact that his friend was critizing me...and then him having to be a hypocrite and agree with his friend..made me even more angery..so that night I got mad..left, broke, up with him..and he let all his true colors show..and got defensive and mad at me for leaving...and I think mostly just embarrised around his socalled friends... turns out they wernt even that good of friends anyways... but choosing to care more about what they thought, than how I felt and thought ended that relationship, not only once...think I would have realized he wouldnt change and shouldnt have gone back to him again.... when people refuse to change for someone or themselves they are loosing out on alot of good new things in life.. and unforchantly they have to loose a few times to realize what their real problems with them are and not what the problems with everyone else are... easier to blame someone else...but eventually its not going to get you anywhere...except for reliving the same old situations you were in before. being able to live with anothers imperfections is what makes a strong relationship...helping them change for their own benifit is a positive influence..but trying to change them for yourself will only contribute to more negative affects for both people.

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Msg: 60 (view)

Momma's Boy? Posted: 6/29/2007 1:30:05 PM
maybe the real problem isnt him depending on his mother for everything..but just the fact that she likes doing things for him..and really takes it to heart..that is what makes her feel the best in life..probably because she doesnt have alot else going on.....now trying to compete with that kinda attension I imagine would be difficult. different types of people. you cant replace or compete with a mothers love.. if he is trying to turn you into his mother that is where the problem begins... just as I think some sisters/close girl friends try to turn their brother or guy friend into the perfect man... might be perfect for them...but not for someone else.. and it usually worries me trying to get invovled with any guys that are tooo close to other females...as they might persaude him into thinking things about you that arnt always correct...because they are protective of their man just like a mother is. some people just have to learn to let go... if the man is smart enough to realize the other women in his life are pursausive constantly or pushy...then its something you can work around... if he favours their oppinion because they are so close...its going to be even more difficult to work around this..and get their respect..and the mothers/girl friends/sisters respect also... you cant change someone for yourself...they have to want to change for you

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Msg: 136 (view)

Saying what you MEAN and MEANING what you say.... Posted: 6/29/2007 12:59:23 PM
like someone said in a post before...what means something to one person means something completely different to another...which are probably the reasons why people get so defensive...and seem upset or angery.. even though they are really not, and just trying to explain themselves......I guess thats why a choice of certain words is important when trying to explain yourself. at least he was considering being friends with you... people change their minds constantly.....especially when it comes to other people. If everyone was more upfrount about what they thought it would be a way harsher world, especially when it comes to communication... people would more so just refrain from talking...to not upset everyone instead of talking about how they really feel. so people would be even more confused.....and if you always did say what you really meant it would still be confusing........because people will always have their own ideas of what someone is really trying to say than what they actually meant in the first place. Some things are just not meant to be said...and I think there is alot of people who just ramble off at the mouth...saying what they think about this or that..or whoever...and they are really distracting from whats going on in the current situation, or whats happning around them....to the point where you cant even think for yourself...because your too busy listening to someones upfrount bullshit... alot of things are just obvious,...and if you werent too busy worrying and trying to be upfrount...and saying what you mean...trying to get someone to understand you...then maybe you would just realize on your own...without having to be told everything.. sometimes actions speak louder than words... would you rather just be told to **** off instead of nicely put as im not interested? then you would sit around wondering why someone is so mad at you and what you have done to upset them..instead of just moving on forgetting about it and talking to someone else. talking nice definatly has more benefits for both people...instead of being mean, angery and turning the situation into something more complicated than it should have been in the first place. unforchantly..the truth hurts sometimes...especially when people get their hopes up..,and have certain expectations... its good to have hope...but planning out the outcome of every relationship or situation...is only going to make you disapointed,.... some peoples words are not meant to be taken seriously....dont over think simple comments...you will just worry yourself to death.

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Msg: 91 (view)

MFM threesomes and sharing your wife? Posted: 6/17/2007 12:09:02 PM
sorry jealousy is something I cannot get over.. and its not because im insecure or untrusting.. when it comes to certain issues in life yes I can see past my jealousy and move on but not when it comes to relationships. maybe because I think relationships are the most important things in life. when I have a partner, a boyfriend, I enjoy giving myself completely to them, putting my whole heart and soul into the relationship and I dont think invovling anyone else would be healthy or right in that situation. I believe in committment, trust and loyalty, maybe to extremes, but I can be quite obbessive and definatly dont enjoy sharing when it comes to the person I am with. I wouldnt ever have a threesome in general weather it be with another woman or another man. codedout... I liked your post and the reasons why it just doesnt work... makes too much sense.

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Msg: 17 (view)

New Baby Posted: 6/13/2007 10:00:49 PM
keep busy and you dont have time to think about every little thing and worry so much.. I find when Im sitting around not doing much is when my hormones take over.. I think what you eat has alot to do with it also and how well the baby will behave also. When I didnt know I was pregnant I thought I was PMSing hardcore.. so I feel alot better now that I know and only have another month or so to go.. I find talking to my baby helps alot too as it calms myself and the baby down alot.. instead of listening to other people talk or just talking with someone else can get frustrating.. quiet time is wonderful for stress, but as long as your keeping your mind occupied on something, kinda like meditation, reading, drawing, I am crocheting a blanket and even though it is tiring it does keep my mind more focused. listening to music at night has helped me to sleep better, and I think thats another important part, so enjoy your rest :) I know there is alot to think about when having a baby, but instead of worrying about all the things, concentrating on the good things is what is going to do you and your baby good. Shopping around looking at toys and clothing, even without buying them can be really fun too! Its a lucky year to have a baby! Congradulations!

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Msg: 47 (view)

Manipulation and Trust - How We're Lied To.... Do We Ever Trust Again? Posted: 6/13/2007 9:34:18 PM
someone has a concious after all... surprise surprise... She feels bad for the wife so she started a thread for her.. and decided to finally tell her after what everyone else posted after.. she sent this link to the wife so she could get over it and move on so she could have another attempt to get into his pants again... and I thought you understood learning things the hard way through pain and greif was just a part of life... lmao! You should have started a new thread called: "Get over being cheated on and move on so I can move in" trust is something that is built and earned over time.. not something that is created over night..

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