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lady with no name

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London Coffee Meet - Thursday, Nov 5, 2009, 7 - 9 pm Posted: 11/5/2009 4:36:59 PM
What a pity I just found out about this now, they used to send out notices of meetings but I haven't received one in ages.

lady with no name

Joined: 5/6/2007

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London & Surrounding Area: March 5th, Exploring the Stars: An Evening at the Observatory Posted: 2/12/2009 9:01:31 AM
I have done this before but not with POF. Will they we welcoming personal telescopes on lawn as usual weather permitting?

lady with no name

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Why Do Relationships FAIL? Posted: 10/3/2008 5:30:55 PM
One or both partners come to feel their needs are not getting met. There is a variety of reasons why we all have relationships but the bottom line is we are filling some form of need, if those needs aren't met most people seek a solution, often that solution ends the relationship.

lady with no name

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She does not invite me for her birthday Posted: 9/4/2008 7:24:52 AM
Buddy she wants to see you Friday so she can dump you before the party The party is private you can't even see the chat about it, what is she hiding? She doesn't want her freinds to see you she doesn't want to dance with you, what the heck does she want with you cause it sure doesn't sound like this is my boyfriend who I love and am proud to be seen with. She keeps you at bay incase something better might see you with her, and sounds like the party might either have someone else already coming or be a search for him. Cut your losses and find a girlfreind who wants you at her side. Sorry if I sound brutal but you deserve better.

lady with no name

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The worst breakup line ever Posted: 8/20/2008 10:41:50 AM
The day I was to go in to receive my cancer diagnosis I got a call from a woman I had never met she wanted to be the one to take me to my cancer appointment. I asked who she was and my partner of 20 years came on the phone to introduce his current mistress and to tell me that he needed to have fun and cancer wasn't fun, so instead of coming home to be with the kids while I was at the doctor he went directly to her house from work to move in there. Ironically she went into the hospital about 2 months later and he had the nerve to turn up at my door expecting to be let in. It felt good to turn him away.

lady with no name

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Can a woman be trusted in a relationship? Posted: 8/20/2008 9:57:23 AM
Aldoen, there are good and bad people every where. It will not be decided by gender race or color but perhaps by creed. seek a person whose beliefs mirror yours, one whose principles you admire and respect. Look for a person who treats not only you but those lesser then themselves with dignity and respect. (Lessor meaning those whose strength, knowledge, or ability is not of equal capacity). There will always be those of both genders that are not worthy of our time, the trick is to find someone who is.

lady with no name

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Can a woman be trusted in a relationship? Posted: 8/20/2008 9:42:44 AM
Interesting as this was it would be more interesting if they did a census of both genders and presented those facts. How do women compare to men better worse? This is one sided and as such nothing more then gender bashing. I have grave concerns about the legitimacy of this survey. There was a problem years back with IQ testing it kept coming back with black people being of lower IQ, upon further investigation it was discovered that the test it's self was designed to target whites by profiling the questions, to be racially prejudice. This in turn produced inaccurate results and led to IQ tests being rewritten to provide more accuracy. Lawyers also use this technique to flow evidence in their favor, by tailoring questions, it's easy then most people realize.

lady with no name

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I have to do this so i can leave Posted: 8/20/2008 9:33:02 AM
I think she might have a point if anyone looks her profile is gone but her picture is not. I think anyone who feels it is justifiable for a guy to send pics of his genitals to us has to learn the law, it's called indecent exposure, she has the right to be offended. tru218 , shame on you! you are old enough to remember the days when rape victims were put on trial and it demanded they prove they didn't ask for it! All women here have had similar problems of varying degrees and we all know it. Wildman46, I have read many of your forum comments before and respected you, so I'm a lil surprised to see you being so cruel, I would have thought it beneath you. It would be nice to believe that everyone here is techy and knows their way around a computer or internet, what justifies our cruelty to a person who clearly is frustrated, upset and can't figure out how to do it. Has no one here ever been in a position where they couldn't understand something only to feel stupid after they realized how simple it really was. could it be her frustration and distress could be the cause of her not understanding? Let he with out sin cast the first stone. The picture she received should have been reported to moderators or administration, and I encourage anyone who receives such trash to do exactly that, if we all do that then we could clean the problem off this site,

lady with no name

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Guys who want to hang out spur of the moment at the start of a relationship... Posted: 8/18/2008 6:25:34 PM
Prettite Thank you for putting that into words so eloquently, there is nothing I can add except my nod of agreement.

lady with no name

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If you knew you were dying - Would you have a BUCKET List? Posted: 8/17/2008 8:26:47 PM
I have Cancer, and I remember when I first heard the news. I'm incurable but not terminal The news did prompt me to go out and make a bucket list. The list is a few years old now and has been tweaked a few times, you accomplish one thing and add another. It might sound like a curse to some people to hear the news that you have something like cancer, but it also can be a blessing you stop and think about what is really important, and a bucket list helps define those things. I think everyone should have a bucket list, more then one person has accidentally stepped out in front of a bus with out hugging their child good bye in the morning or having fought over something frivolous or unimportant with a loved one. Like the song mentioned above live each day with that in mind. There is an old proverb about the precious present, a man looked his entire life for this gift, with out realizing that gift was living in each and every precious present moment.

lady with no name

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Is there any faith in relationships anymore? Posted: 8/10/2008 8:49:04 AM
I have the good fortune to be surrounded by many freinds in long term healthy relationships. It's nice because it encourages me that it can be done and happiness can be a part of it. I think the tricky part is finding someone that you can work well as a team, and keep it up for the long haul. It takes two who are willing to work at it, and a base foundation of compatability, in this throw away society that is much harder to find then it sounds.

lady with no name

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Opps..unexpected kitchen accidents. Posted: 8/9/2008 9:40:39 AM
My frezzer broke down and everything in it need to be cooked and refrozen. One of the last things left to cook was a large bag of sliced jalapinos from a friends garden, I tossed them in a dry fry pan and turned on the gas, with in minutes they filled my house with homemade tear gas. This was one case of crying till we laughed.

lady with no name

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pow wow manitoulin island Posted: 8/8/2008 7:49:56 AM
this sounds really interesting, what kind of fees is it to camp on the pow-wow site?

lady with no name

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London/St Thomas – Night of Car Racing August 8, 2008 - Free Posted: 8/8/2008 7:42:55 AM
Beaglebabe did you find a ride? I'm from north of the city, and am thinkng of coming. I tried to message you but you don't take messages from my age and gender.

lady with no name

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London/St Thomas – Night of Car Racing August 8, 2008 - Free Posted: 7/30/2008 2:21:04 PM
The link for the speedway's site doesn't work

lady with no name

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shortest relationship on record Posted: 7/30/2008 5:58:54 AM
I can relate I just ended a 3 month relationship. It was great at first emailing all the time spending time together was hard because of his job but we got together when ever we could. He asked me about 4 weeks ago to date him and I said yes. He immediately has no time for phone calls, emails, and especially not to get together in person. His holidays start on Monday and he told me he could squeeze me in one day after breakfast. My response was to break off with him this morning, that isn't a relationship in my eyes. I think for some people it is just the thrill of the chase. Once they land you they get bored and move along.

lady with no name

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India: Everything Gets Worse With Coca-Cola Posted: 7/30/2008 5:48:24 AM
Stunning how they seem to have no problem providing thierselves with water, while the community suffers through thier actions. I wonder if they hadn't been stopped would they have used water from the contaminated well. Imagine the outcry if we had to sudenly turn off our taps and take jugs into town to get water, that happened in Ontario a few years ao and people died, the goverments responce was only about 7 k per person.

Lady with no Name

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Teenage son Posted: 7/5/2008 1:42:01 PM
A personality change of that degree is more then hormones, something deeper is going on. Take a firm stand do not put up with his abuse especially threats. I would worry he has discovered drugs too given how he became more aggressive, check his stuff it is in your home so you have the right to. Just so you know I am a mom of five, 3 sons of my own, a foster son, and 1 poor outnumbered but lovely daughter, they range in age from 25 to 16. What you describe are warning signs find a local support network. Local churches community centers, tough love all offer support. Best of luck dear

Lady with no Name

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I don't know how to handle her. Posted: 7/4/2008 10:12:52 AM
Is it possible she views you as a daddy replacement? How is her relationship with her own father?

Lady with no Name

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The Retreating Game Posted: 7/3/2008 9:29:00 PM
It was asked for a person who retreats to give an honest version of their side of the story. The truth is we have better things to do then stick around and put up with the verbal abuse of those people who refuse to see thierselves as anything but perfect. It is a waste of time and energy to try to reason with people who only can blame others, without comprehending they play a role in things that happen to them. This is why we retreat cause there is nothing to be gained by trying to talk to you. goodnite

Lady with no Name

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The Retreating Game Posted: 7/3/2008 8:35:35 PM
Kyn no offense taken, but it is not a matter of having booboos it is a matter of backing off rather then fight, is this not better then escalating into physical violence? Paumanok I couldn't agree more every one has their flaws if mine is to retreat then I can think of far worse things. ClassyfiedAlly you misinterpreted what I have said every human continues to develop and grow otherwise they are already in the grave. But this is a defense mechanizm the alternative is to open oneself to abuse, which I see as a greater evil. Artistee there will always be people who quit, but a retreat is far different the quitting. retreating to calm a situation can be most productive where as allowing a negative situation to escalate is counter productive. Themedinaman the rules are simple, take time and patience to earn each others respect and trust. Perhaps Custard would have done a greater service if he had retreated rather then arrogantly thinking only about winning? Retreat is not always a negative thing, it can be the wise alternative.

Lady with no Name

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The Retreating Game Posted: 7/3/2008 7:50:16 PM
It is not a disorder nor is it sulking, it is a defense mechanism and quiet frankly from reading this I can clearly see why some of you have encountered it. (please read that as some not all) Let he who is perfect cast the first stone, seems you wish to blame the retreater with out asking what triggered the behavior. Well it is always easier to simply blame anything negative on someone else, especially if instead of defending thierself the person retreats to safety. It takes two.

Lady with no Name

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Making a family or what???? Posted: 7/3/2008 7:33:07 PM
The dad in this case was born with both genders, it is rare but I knew a person years ago in Vancouver with the same condition. Usually parent's decide at birth to have their child made male or female, but if they chose to leave the decision to the child later in life then who are we to decide how this person should live. This person has encountered so many challenges we could never comprehend already in life yet have managed to find a path of normalcy. If they had chosen to be a female we would never even have heard they had a child. I hope all goes well for this family.

Lady with no Name

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The Retreating Game Posted: 7/3/2008 6:53:20 PM
I'm a retreater, it's not a game, and for the retreater can be very painful. I know my reasons are rooted in my past, fears of hurt and injury. For those who have to deal with a person like myself I apologize on behalf of all retreaters. I know it must be difficult but keep in mind that what is causing it is often a previous bad experience. This can vary in degree from person to person. The worst thing you can do is get angry cause that is what we are anticipating. It is hard because you have no control over the past, but consider this, for something capable of making us run today must have been pretty horrific at the time to have left that depth of scars. I can not say here what mine was but I have never met a person not mortified by it once they have known. I hope this offers some understanding. Another aspect is walls, we build them and only calm patience can tear them down, at the first sign of danger we retreat behind them. This might be interpreted as hostility, but it is in reality fear.

Lady with no Name

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/3/2008 5:18:46 PM
Excellent point bringing up Kevorkian, perhaps he will be the next appointed to the Order of Canada. That would certainly ease the burden of those struggling to care for senior parents. Frightening when you realize how truly similar both are. Unfortunately the day is coming.

Lady with no Name

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/3/2008 2:29:02 PM
almostavgjoe has made a valid point about what concerns me most Had Morgentaler organized protests, marched in the streets, or made speeches at pro-abortion rallies, I could see him as the crusader for human rights that some want to view him as today. But as a crusader banking hundreds of thousands of dollars? Sorry, I question his motives at that point. Morgentaler got rich breaking our laws and is now honored for that it's an issue when you compare Rosa Parks, who made her protest without hurting a soul for no financial gain, to Morgentaler. Rosa Parks sought equality for all persons whereas Morgentaler. chose to ignore the laws that provided unborn children with equal right to life. He decided they were less equal and therefore it was ok to kill them, isn't that exactly what he suffered in the concentration camps? Should an honor be bestowed on those responsible for that too? Peacethx your examples..... Katy was 22. She had a relationship with a guy and became pregnant, she chose to have relationship and become pregnant, Cari, aged 20. She got pregnant in a summer fling with a younger guy who was only 15. only 15? in Canada that is called sex with a minor and is a crime Laura, age 35. She got pregnant in a passionate affair with a grad student, Older woman an affair and then refusing to take responsibility of the consequences Each of these examples is of one who refused to prevent pregnancy and then demanded an easy way out. We have created a throw away society where even human life is tossed out like trash. What in this day and age is not disposable, and why should our greatest honor be given to those who broke the law in this manner? Bottom line he broke the law and was rewarded for it. Previously candidates for this honor have received unanimous election to the position Morgentaler did not in fact it was only 52 percent in his favor in some universities or colleges this is a failing grade. Would you honor your child if that was thier report card grade? No you would be concerned. Morgentaler did nothing but profit off breaking the law, for this we should be very concerned

Lady with no Name

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Person puts first name at end of email? Posted: 7/3/2008 6:36:47 AM
I agree with msflis there is a bigger risk to a woman to casually give out our names to complete strangers. On the internet we have no way to verify who they are. Imagine giving your name in your first reply and the next letter contains for you a lovely picture of his gentiles. Now imagine this person who knows what you look like and your first name encountering you in public, perhaps out on a 1st date with another POFer, how about in the mall with your kids, or with your boss. How many women here have encountered these creeps on POF, we all have and we know it. Giving your name should be a sign of trust. Those who go to events know the sign in book specifies POF name.

Lady with no Name

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Person puts first name at end of email? Posted: 7/2/2008 5:12:44 PM
I use my POF name to sign letters when the letter is upgraded to my real name yes that is a signal that I trust that person with the information. Lady

Lady with no Name

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/2/2008 5:09:50 PM
Abortions were legal under life threatening circumstances. I believe one should exhaust legal recourse before breaking the law. Rosa Parks stood up to racism and is that is completely different from abortion. Pregnancy is preventable keep your legs closed.

Lady with no Name

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Men are like.......dogs Posted: 7/2/2008 3:41:57 PM
I wondered where all his sporting gear went to..... just kidding The tazer one nearly killed me laughing

Lady with no Name

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WHY GUYS DON’T WRITE ADVICE COLUMNS: Posted: 7/2/2008 3:32:32 PM
You know I could actually see that in the relationship advice column LMAO! Perfect reply skaj

Lady with no Name

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada [Thread Closed/Derailed] Posted: 7/2/2008 2:39:50 PM
"Controversial abortion rights advocate Dr. Henry Morgentaler has received the high honor of appointment to the Order of Canada. Morgentaler has been a controversial figure for decades, playing a key role in striking down Canada's abortion laws in 1988. He had been openly performing illegal abortions -- which had been only allowed on limited terms in some hospitals -- since the late 1960s. His appointment to the Order of Canada has outraged conservative politicians, religious leaders, and ordinary citizens alike. Rideau Hall makes these appointments based on the recommendations of the Advisory Council for the Order which is chaired by the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court of Canada, Morgentaler was made a member of the Order of Canada for "his commitment to increased health care options for women, his determined efforts to influence Canadian public policy and his leadership in humanist and civil liberties organizations." As much as one must agree that he clearly dedicated himself to this goal, what message as we sending when what was considered criminal at the time is now recognized as worthy of the highest honor. Many will disagree with me but I feel such an honor should be reserved for those who can work with in the law. I know this is a can of worms I am opening but someone needed to add it to forums. Opinions people, pro con, or any suggestions what might be done about it now?

Lady with no Name

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Canada Day and patriotism Posted: 7/2/2008 2:24:10 PM
LonewolfAB, I am Canadian born and raised, I have native roots on my father's side that trace back to a time before the English or French came. You clearly missed an important word in my post the word was "survey". No organization is telling us what to think but has asked us what we think and shared the results of the inquiry with us. The governor general's job is to represent the Queen, it is a figurehead position as we do still have limited ties to England. Is Canada perfect? No, but we can walk down the streets in relative safety, allow our children freedoms with out fear. We have education and health care that is open to all. If we see tanks or military on our roadways it is because they are on parade or being moved not patrol. I too am not happy about the decision to grant someone who broke the law to the order of Canada but as I said not even Canada is perfect and that is a entirely different thread. Despite that I am still glad to be Canadian.

Lady with no Name

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Would you do it? Posted: 7/2/2008 10:23:58 AM
This question makes me think of the movie Out of Africa, which was based on a true story, that relationship worked in it's way but ultimately failed when they both met someone else they preferred to be with.

Lady with no Name

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Viagra and the Arab culture Posted: 7/2/2008 7:01:25 AM
facts sited from the World Health Organization, and Amnesty International, ..... Female circumcision, (or more accurately a clitoradectomy) has been labeled as "Female Genital Mutilation" by the World Health Organization, it is a traditional cultural practice that can range from cutting to total removal of the external female genitalia. Millions of girls and women have undergone FGC for reasons that include beliefs about health and hygiene, women's sexuality, and adulthood and community initiation rites. FGC causes serious pain, trauma, and frequently severe physical complications such as bleeding, infections, or even death. Long-term complications can bring recurrent infections, infertility, and obstructed labor. FGM / FGC, covers all procedures involving partial or total removal of the external female genitalia or other injury to the female genital organs whether for cultural, religious or other non-therapeutic reasons. There are different types of female genital mutilation known to be practised today. They include: Type I (FGM 1) - excision of the prepuce, with or without excision of part or all of the clitoris; Type II (FGM II) - excision of the clitoris with partial or total excision of the labia minora; Type III (FGM III) - excision of part or all of the external genitalia and stitching/narrowing of the vaginal opening (infibulation) Women who have been subjected to the most serious form of FGM ("FGM III") will have on average 30 per cent more cesarean sections compared with those who have not had any FGM. Similarly there is a 70 per cent increase in numbers of women who suffer from postpartum hemorrhage in those with FGM III compared to those women without FGM.* The performance of the procedures range from operations on anesthetized women or girls by skilled medical professionals in sterile clinical settings to the use of glass shards, tin edges, razor blades, or other slicing implements -- without anesthesia. Clitoridectomy, also called "female circumcision," involves the removal of some part of the clitoris. While the least severe procedure for clitoridectomy involves the removal of only the clitoral hood, there is more commonly very little consonance between this practice and male circumcision: most often, a clitoridectomy procedure removes most or all of the clitoris. (It is noteworthy that many advocates within and beyond the medical communities also currently consider male circumcision to be an unneccessary procedure amounting to "genital mutilation.") Excision is the removal of both the clitoris and all, or part of, the labia minora. Infibulation, also known as "pharaonic circumcision," is by far the most severe form of FGM: the procedure involves clitoridectomy, excision, and cutting of the labia majora to create raw surfaces, once the vulva, which are then stitched or held together, using thorns, silk, catgut sutures, or thread. Often, a small piece of wood or reed is inserted in the body, developing a small hole through which urine and menstrual blood can flow. Less conventionally, smaller amounts of tissue are removed, leaving a larger opening in the body. According to Amnesty International, In many FGM-practising societies, it is difficult to impossible for a woman to marry, if she has not undergone mutilation. Many proponents of the procedures argue that FGM enhances fertility -- including the belief that a woman who has not been mutilated may not bear children. Worse, "hygeine" and the enhancement of male sexual pleasure are often cited as reasons for performing FGM. Women are considered "unclean" without the procedures, and in some communities are not allowed to handle food and water until the "initiation" has been performed. The genitalia of women are considered "ugly" and unwieldy: in some FGM-practising cultures, there is the belief that the genitals of a woman will grow and hang between her legs, unless the clitoris is removed. Others believe that a man will die, should his penis come in contact with the clitoris, or that babies will die during birth, if the head touches the clitoris. Connected with this is the perception in FGM-practising communities that women's unmutilated genitals are ugly and bulky. The physical consequences of FGM can lead to shock; hemorrhage; serious chronic infections of the urinary and/or reproductive tracts; the development of stones in the bladder and uretha; kidney damage; excessive scar tissue; dermoid cysts; the spread of HIV through repeated use of unsterile implements; even death. Beyond medical health risks, women who are "sewn shut" after FGM procedures must undergo painful dilation of the opening, in order to experience first intercourse. In many instances, further cutting is necessary to widen the entrance to the woman's body, before intercourse can occur. Some new wives experience severe physical damage at the hands of husbands unskilled at this cutting. After childbirth, some women are reinfibulated, to make their openings "tighter" for their husbands. My 2 cents... Many cultures also believe in "The Law of Tenfold" (also known as Karma), which for those unfamiliar means everything you do shall return to you ten times over. It has been suggested that these men feel impotent in other aspects of their lives and compensate for it sexually. One could almost use this as a religious example of the power of tenfold. The OP is correct, their feelings of inadequacy has caused them to compensate through sexuality, thus their idolization of a drug to enhance sexual ability.

Lady with no Name

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Can love really be bought? Posted: 7/1/2008 10:34:51 AM
Umm ok worth a try...... For sale, Fixer upper house in small rural community comes complete with somewhat run down but repairable present lady owner ...... sighs somethings not working here

Lady with no Name

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Trying to convince you Posted: 7/1/2008 8:32:32 AM
I agree with all the good advice above. It's an issue of respect, and they aren't offering any so you aren't obligated to accept their abuse. You can also send a message stating that because of their refusal to accept that your decision you don't wish to have further contact with them. No one has to accept being harassed if you feel uncomfortable definitely use the block option. Sometimes when we are too nice bullies believe they can get away with anything. Best of luck dear.

Lady with no Name

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NEED HELP PLEASE PLEASE!!! Posted: 6/30/2008 10:47:58 PM
If they have DNA evidence the "rape kit" would have had to been collected very quickly. Dna of that nature can only be collected a very limited time, I believe it is a 3 day max but often after 12 to 24 hours they can't collect. This means someone had concerns about the rape very quickly and promptly took the girls to the hospital for the kit's collection. Angel this is a very dangerous situation and your child's future is at stake, you do not want a repeat of this involving your child in the future. He is confessing to the act but trying to downplay his role in it, either way his actions were inappropriate.

Lady with no Name

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Money issues Posted: 6/30/2008 4:29:19 PM
I actually have personal experience in a similar situation. for the last 8 weeks i have been dating a man who lives 50 k from me, he is working, I am retired neither of us have any real money to spend on gas but I do have more time. We split the driving, and the cooking is provided by the person whose home we are at. He usually pulls out his wallet for the entertainment which i really appreciate, however I have sprung a couple of times also simply because it was videos from the store where my son works. If a relationship is potentially long term the you must learn to share, Tell him how paying for all the gas in impacting on you then you will see how serious about you he really is about you.

Lady with no Name

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NEED HELP PLEASE PLEASE!!! Posted: 6/30/2008 4:11:27 PM
Angel If the law considers these girls to be at risk adults why in the world was he sleeping with them. And the fact that there is 2 separate incidences raises huge red flags for me. Get yourself a support network, you are going to need it. I would watch the trial very carefully, if he is found innocent make sure you know exactly why or how, was it on a technicality or on evidence that proved his innocence. Even if found guilty he could force his way into the child's life so make it happen on your terms, terms that will keep the child safe like supervised visits. Do keep us informed how it works out Angel, I for one will be praying for you. And to who ever wanted this thread deleted you should be ashamed this is a serious issues.

Lady with no Name

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a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no? Posted: 6/30/2008 3:58:05 PM
When I get contact of that nature I usually just write something to the effect of..... Thank you for writing me it was nice to meet you. I'm afraid I am going to be unable to meet you but I do hope you find what you are looking for. best of luck fishing This usually works although I often get a reply or 2 from it I just keep wishing them the best of luck, and reinforcing that I hope they find someone. You can make any number of alibis but this opens the doors for them to try to problem solve, or negotiate so best to keep it simple. If they pressure too much be blunt and say I'm sorry I have tried to be polite / kind but I feel we are incompatible. I will add it is nice to see someone who is concerned to make a reply as so often here we hear people feeling frustrated because they never get replies. For this you get a gold star.

Lady with no Name

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Canada Day Posted: 6/30/2008 3:36:23 PM
Vancer, Timmy's came in number 58 lol and yes oddandy Canada has the highest populations of "beaver" (sighs) I agree with you Skydds Canada has truly become a very diverse nation, I feel pretty lucky to live here

Lady with no Name

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Canada Day and patriotism [Thread Closed/Derailed] Posted: 6/30/2008 3:03:06 PM
With Canada Day fast approaching many Canadians are thinking about what makes them feel Canadian. The survey by The Dominion Institute and Citizen and Immigration Canada was released on Monday, just ahead of Canada Day, in the form of a list of the top 101 things Canadians named. Here are the top five: * Maple leaf * Hockey * Canadian Flag * Beaver * Canadarm I think of our natural recourses, water forest and farm lands. Multiculturalism and the wide variety of people who now call Canada home, I also think of the people who lived here first the Canadian natives the Namerians. ( hope I spell it correctly) What makes you feel patriotic about Canada?

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why do alot of country girls wanna go to the city and the city girls dont wanna come to the country Posted: 6/30/2008 5:22:12 AM
I was born and raised in the city, but I'm a country girl now. After living in the country for 18 years I find the city noisy dirty and it smells funny, yeah I know country has it's "fragrances" too but those are natural. I find that most people who leave the country are either young and looking for excitement or work. Lots of people would love to come to the country but who can afford to buy a farm? How many people grew up here but have no choice but to leave to town or city because there is no way they can afford to purchase the land.

Lady with no Name

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HAVE THEY EARNED IT? Posted: 6/26/2008 10:41:27 AM
If you can't give with out getting first what makes you worthy of what they have to offer? You become the very thing you are trying to avoid.

Lady with no Name

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what is my problem? Posted: 6/26/2008 6:05:15 AM
This reaction is perfectly normal it is actually an instinctive reaction that dates back to our days of living in caves. Back then to break up was a death sentence as a single human could not survive alone. This is why breakups have such a powerful and even physical effect on us. we needed a partner or tribe to physically survive. Today things are different but that survival instinct lives on in us. You have you head on right you don't want him or his nonsense it the rejection that you are feeling the effects of. this is why so many people get back together just so they can break up again. Recognize this and remind yourself of it when you are tempted to see him. Then look around at all the freedom you have now. Hang in there it will get easier

Lady with no Name

Joined: 5/6/2007

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Packing on the first date Posted: 6/25/2008 11:13:42 AM
I guess it would depend, was he a cop a body guard, some professional who required a gun? If he was carrying it for good reason then ok it makes sense. If he had it on him cause he was a thug or trying to impress me it most certainly have the opposite effect.

Lady with no Name

Joined: 5/6/2007

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Two years later and still in Love thanks POF Posted: 6/23/2008 8:41:17 PM
congratulations Tuishou, it is nice to hear form someone who doesn't need a pic to give a person a chance so glad it worked out for you. I am curious though why after 2 years do you still have your profile?

Lady with no Name

Joined: 5/6/2007

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How to convince a mature woman Posted: 6/23/2008 5:29:36 AM
It is hard for an older woman to understand why a younger man would want to be with us. You need to help her understand, then you need to give it time so she can see it isn't just a line.

Lady with no Name

Joined: 5/6/2007

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EXTINCTION CRISIS FOR AMPHIBIANS!!! Posted: 6/19/2008 6:56:59 AM
It really is long past due for man to realize he is part of the food chain. Man seems to have come to the conclusion that he is omnipotent a dangerous assumption that will soon have us all eating solvent green if anyone remembers that. I've lived on a creek for 18 years, and I have seen a steep decline in the frogs, dragonflies, and other amphibians, and a correlating increase in mosquitoes! West Nile was unheard of when I moved here, but my neighbor contracted it 2 years ago. There will always be scientists who will argue pro and con, but I say it is a fool who doesn't open their own eyes and look around for themselves. Incidences of cancer, asthma, birth defects, and other defects are skyrocketing, the evidence is all around us one only has to open their eyes to see it. For those who do not know what solvent green is... it's a term from a movie about a future like the one we are headed to. we had killed off everything except ourselves. People didn't know where food came from and didn't want to know, ( do you know what is in your food now?) Old age was illegal and all people were expected on their 40th birthday to come to a special area. They had no concept, or understanding of what death was or that it awaited them there, it was an expectation that they go and they obeyed. Solvent green was meat, human meat produced at these special areas. Science fiction is well known for becoming science fact, lets hope no one we love is around when this one does.

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