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prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

Have all the really older guys given up? Posted: 1/12/2009 9:02:13 PM
WOW!!! Male bashing can be alive in here but WAIT....Not all older men are single due to being jerks. Some are widows, got divorced due to wives cheating and various other reasons. Times have changed and so have the attitudes that go with the times!! And yes some men maybe jerks-I was married for 24 years-he is on this site so becareful. Dating men now in life I try to be very careful and what I found was that most men that I took intrest in were so far from jerks. They are awesome. And I am thankful!! But I am seeing alot of men who were very hurt by their divorce or circumstances that they are just so AFRAID to commit again. And remember we human are creatures of habit...if he has been single for a long time and older he may not be into admitting to himself that life can be fun when sharing it wih another. So some are saying that they are just friends when the 2 spend alot of time together and they act as if they are in a relationship. Dating can be confusing so communication is the key. And if you find someone you like but he says we are just friends-wave good bye from a distance.

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 343 (view)

Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido????? Posted: 1/12/2009 8:43:41 PM
I have to jump in on this one. As a woman and a redhead almost 50 who has an affectionate and passionate side and someone who does not look or feel their age and is dating I had to comment. This goes by the man and not by the age! Some People not just men have stronger sex drives than others. Some unfortunately almost have none-they talk a good game but when it comes time they make excuses and will even belame the partner that you do not turn them on. Yes as a man gets older he can have issues but that does not mean that part of his life is over-call the doc and get the pill! Do not stop living until you stop breathing!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

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When playing turns into the real thing Posted: 1/12/2009 8:36:05 PM
Think of the old song "fooled arround and fell in love"! It is very possible! Not necessarily a good way to start a relationship that you want to last. But there are always exceptions to the rules! I cannot take a stand here because I have done it and fallen in love. But it was one of those things that I you knew before you did it where it would go and how it would be--it was so awesome! Me who is careful! WOW!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 225 (view)

How do you get a guy to not just want you for sex??? Posted: 1/12/2009 8:27:56 PM
Lets face it men are men. Also there are some women that are the same way too. Lets be fair there!! That is who they are. Communication is the key here! And listening!!! I also have a very lively, silly and positive personality that draws men. Men think that I am a flirt-I do not see me that way. And when I am confronted with a man getting ideas that I am uncomfortable with I subtly say "can we get past this for now" in a nice way! It's the communication between the man and woman that can help get past this point. If a man keeps asking you sex questions before you meet him-then do not meet him and tell him why. If you meet a man and he is ready for bed immediately and your not-then tell him your uncomfortable and why and leave if you are that uncomfortable. In todays world of many diseases and casual sex--think of this--do I like you enough to see you again--or will he even see me again if I give in. There is a tease when dating between 2 people--enjoy it and take your time. Only YOU know when YOU are ready for sex and remember that life is also timing. The trick here is to find the person that you want to get to know and spend time with!! The re will fall into place when you do! Until then relax and enjoy the dating but remember you are incharge of YOU!!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

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What is Passion in a Relationship? Posted: 1/12/2009 8:19:31 AM
I agree with Wholehearteded5. We all need a healthy dose of passion in our lifes and our minds!! Passion for life and all that it offers gives our lives our more meaning, makes our lives more exciting and gives us more motivation to make our lives what we want them to be. Without passion we only exist. With passion we find life as an adventure! How that adventure goes only you can decide. But is not what we are all looking for something that includes true passion in many parts of our lives!! 1.) A partner who we share love and desire with. Who we wake up wanting and cannot wait to see, touch and make love too. But it has to be more than just sex. You have to be comfortable enough with this person to talk them and share anything and/or everything. Learning with and about them and loving them in so many ways!!! Each person that comes into our lives we love differently. Some stay and some go but each leaves us something to remember them by. Hopefully they leave a positive mark-if not then look back and see why and move on. Try not to dwell on negatives-it will only hurt you and your future! 2.) A job that you want to perform so well at that you go above and beyond for-not just for the raise but for personal satisfaction-that high from knowing YEZZZZ - I did it!! (You can love any job you do-the want comes from inside you!) 3.) And a passion for just life itself. Why sit on a couch and exist when you can be a part of life. Its up to you how your life goes and where it all ends up. We have good and bad moments plus we are human! And thankfully we have friends who love us. But its what is inside of you that draws others to you and makes them come running when you need them. Life is a long and complicated journey sometimes--try to enjoy it. Memories are what you are doing this minute--not what you plan to do next week! I never thought I would be single at my age. And I will never act my age! Just a silly, loving redhead here with a passion for life and all it has to offer! Life has been an intresting adventure from which I am still learning from. I thank God for the people in my life. I stick with the positives. Remember also that from the bad does come good also. It just takes some time to see it and feel it. This is your life--get off the computer and live it with someone!!!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 123 (view)

why do people on these dating sites get scared when its time to meet for real Posted: 9/8/2007 2:14:57 PM
...online u can be anything or anyone u want to be--then its the fantasy vs the reality

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 250 (view)

Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 9/8/2007 2:12:53 PM
LOL.. I was once! I was so mad and yet he kept contacting me!! So I made sure that he could not contact me anymore by simply not responding--then came the day when I gave in after he kept asking to see me. I watched im cry his eyes out and listened. But I left. Today we are best friends. The guy? The man that was a womanizer that never wanted to marry again etc. LOL>kept bringing up living together, when we get married and more! I love him dearly but he is not the marrying kind!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 249 (view)

Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 9/8/2007 2:09:29 PM
LOL.. I was once! I was so mad and yet he kept contacting me!! So I made sure that he could not contact me anymore by simply not responding--then came the day when I gave in after he kept asking to see me. I watched im cry his eyes out and listened. But I left. Today we are best friends. The guy? The man that was a womanizer that never wanted to marry again etc. LOL>kept bringing up living together, when we get married and more! I love him dearly but he is not the marrying kind!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

Oral Sex NOT INtimate ??? Posted: 9/8/2007 2:02:17 PM
The issue of is oral sex --sex?? Todays youth believes it is not! This has been deated to death! But oral sex to me is sex and very intimate and personal. It is a very pleasurable thing that 2 people share that like each other!! Not with someone who is only there for a "brief" encounter. But then everyone again is different. Thank God that I have yet to meet or talk to a man that feels that way!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Why for many of you guys/girls it takes so long to meet in person? Posted: 9/8/2007 1:55:12 PM
I need a comfort zone to meet. That is somethng that takes alittle time and patience. Guys who push generally and seem to have little intrest in anything but meeting are not worth it. But there are always acceptions--only you know when its right for you and never let anyone push you into something. Someone that walks away so easily is not intrested or was not available to begin with. It takes 2!!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 302 (view)

Why do women equate sex with committment... Posted: 9/8/2007 1:43:22 PM
We are all different and should express how we feel as subtle or as straight forward as possible --just make sure you get your point accross as to how you feel about the relationship issue. It is not only women that do this: sex vs commitment but men also I have found! We all but off different vibes also but talking to each other just as casual conversation as what each other is looking for will save alot of heartache and headache later. Ex. - the woman who jumps in bed with the man she just met a few hours ago - what signal is she sending? Lonely and wants to get to know u better or horny and see ya later?

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Older Man Posted: 9/8/2007 1:37:13 PM
I love older men and always have. But tat age difference and the fact that you just do not feel the same says it all. Tell him and then if need be tell mom!! There is a diffference between a mutual attraction and a jerk!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 96 (view)

How long have you been doing online dating? Posted: 9/3/2007 8:03:00 PM
I have been doing online dating for about 2 yrs. on and off. I have had fun with it and met some incredible men! I am very careful as to who I meet and where. And have become good friends with each!! So in my search to find that SOUL MATE in life I can say that I have learned alot, grown alot, met some incredible men with intresting jobs and enjoyed the journey along the way! Life is waht u make of it. And I will not be sitting home wondering if MR RIGHT will find me-I will be looking for him also!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 201 (view)

Her sexual past.....ur business? Posted: 9/3/2007 7:29:03 PM
NO...Its best to get to know and appreciate each other. Each person reacts differently to another in life. So something that may have broken ur partner up with the other maybe something the 2 of u may consider nothing. Enjoy and if there comes a time to talk do not give total detail....jealousy and other nonsense that can HURT your relationship can be started from all of that rather easily!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

Would You Compete for a Mate? Posted: 9/3/2007 7:24:40 PM
...No!!!!!!! I believe that if something is meant to be it will happen. Would I fight for or compete for a mate? NO! If I have to fight to keep what should be someone that is mine in his heart then its time to let him move on!!!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Do you know who you're looking for? Posted: 9/3/2007 7:07:54 PM
What are we all here looking for?? From the married man who pretends to be single or the single man looking to get another notch in his belt or the real man honestly looking for a mate...In the end we are all looking for that person in life that turns us on that will make us feel complete. BUT it is not another person who can make us happy-it is ourselves! We need to like ourselves first....then we need to squash the fantasy of the perfect person for us....now once we reach earth then we use some of that fantasy of the perfect person as a guide...then the search begins...but you must keep an open mind and an open heart. And have fun on that search....it is important to enjoy the journey also. This is your life....make every moment count!!!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 146 (view)

Would you kiss the first time you meet? Posted: 9/2/2007 12:54:00 PM
Its that first kiss that will tell all....that kiss that will tell you just where it will all go. Will there be chemistry or only friendship? Ohhhh...that kiss! By all means kiss me!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 813 (view)

Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 9/2/2007 12:51:09 PM
Unfortunately...never ever forgive a cheater!! Its part of who they are....they had a choice not to cheat...when u cheat u take the risk of being caught and no only loosing it all but also loosing the person that has stood beside you and helped you in life. Instead try to put the effort in to changing the reason u want t o cheat! Make it a challenge to make it be like it once was....candles, wine, msic, fredericks of hollywood, kick up the excitement then have fun with it!!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 812 (view)

Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 9/2/2007 12:50:51 PM
Unfortunately...never ever forgive a cheater!! Its part of who they are....they had a choice not to cheat...when u cheat u take the risk of being caught and no only loosing it all but also loosing the person that has stood beside you and helped you in life. Instead try to put the effort in to changing the reason u want t o cheat! Make it a challenge to make it be like it once was....candles, wine, msic, fredericks of hollywood, kick up the excitement then have fun with it!!

prettylady1646

Joined: 5/7/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Is sex chatting online cheating? Posted: 5/19/2007 4:06:04 PM
Sex online is still being intimate with someone. It is like a teenager these days asking do I believe oral sex is sex....yes! I know tat we ALL have issues of somekind in life. But be honest because you will get caught!

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