Let's just back the truck up.
Have you even MET him yet?
Or has this relationship been over email, texts and the like?

I have a man that i have been talking to and dating now for 3 months

Things changed alot today. Until today i had never told him i loved him i just know that i do. I was just waiting to see what happened with him. He out of no where told me today came out and said I Love You to me. I was not expecting it. HE shocked me when he said it. I think he knows what he wants with me now.

Looking to meet friends and see where things go. Im looking for a man that is honest, caring, respectful, and knows what he wnats in a woman. I dont like players. I want to man that knows what he wants and sees a good girl when he has her. I dont want games.

What you are asking and saying is a little confusing. Are you saying you now think of him as a "male slut" therefore.....not LTR material?

I've noticed recently that I get very anxious when anyone talks about sex or indicates about sex or anything to do with sexuality. I will give you a brief history of myself. I've had a few girlfriends but it's never gone further than kissing, I've never been really intimate with a girl. I believe this lack of intimacy may be causing my anxiety but I'm not sure.

nope......not my thing at all either!!
all this "control" stuff really boggles my mind!!

Am I wrong to be mad because my fiance wants to go with his ex to make a car payment with his ex so he can see his 3 year old daughter?

Now to the whole story and why I was mad or hurt was more like it. We dated 15 yrs ago but we just ran back into each other. When we got back together he had told me how his ex had done him. She cheated on him more than once but he stayed because of his daughter. She ended up kicking him out and then marrying a guy 1 week later. She also told him that whenever he would come to see the daughter that she would be getting sex. Of course he said that wouldnt be happening. Again more to the story that I dont have time to go into right now. I was upset cause at first I was suppose to get to meet his daughter but he changed his mind at the last minute.

I guess I just think that she should be bringing the daughter and leaving her for a weekend but from the stories I hear about this woman is she is the kind of woman to use the baby to get what she wants which is not right.

However, like others have said, it can become addictive. It can become disruptive. Some men that watch and whack too much, have a hard time sustaining an erection. The fantasy has become better than the reality. Some men that whack too much, also become premature ejaculators.

Women that spend too much time with BOB become desensitized and have a hard time reaching an orgasm during intercourse.

When I was single I enjoyed both casually, but now I am in a relationship with a woman with a high libido. Quite frankly I want to save all that energy for when we are together, so I rarely have the urge or desire. I am finding more pleasure in the Victoria's Secret's catalog, planning what to get her, than looking at any form of porn.

Theres that stigma that "your go blind" if you play with yourself.

is masturbation or porn cheating

It can be an addiction, a sort of 'self soothing' and it can have lasting effects.

"Feeling a wee bit "slutty" are we? lol Join the club! "

Just a tiny bit!!!!

I have no guilt about what I did. It felt right at the time.

I must be blaming myself for what I guess is a lack of restraint.

My girl and I had sex on the first date,, she spent the week with me,, and now 3 1/2 yrs later we are still couple.

If he had sex with you on the third date, no telling how many other women he has done so with in the past. Disgusting. Dump the dirty whore-boy and find a respectable man you can bring home to momma.

since when do women receiving oral become known as selfish and or slutty?????????

sex on third date - then I started to find fault with him - maybe it was my guilt because I really want a LTR - why do some women (ok me) sabotage a chance at a relationship?

@heart: regarding factor 1.9
You wrote: "And for the past 4 years, he get's 90% more than he gives."
I'm just a math nazi here. I think you mean that 90% of the oral goes to him, so it's factor 9. But you said he gets 90% more relative to what he gives, which makes it 190% of his giving (or 65.5% of the oral).

Here's a coupon... ;-)

Heart: thanx for the quote destructions- I have tried so many different ways- lol hope this worx

The only tip I have for ya....................the anus is for deposit only

I would have graciously rounded that to 'twice'.
Somebody keeps tabs to come up with a factor of 1.9, eh? ;-)

and the irony continues!! LOL

I simply want the ring back, and in return I would give her paintings back. And if she would just give me a good time to come get it, we could trade and then go our seperate ways. She apparently didn't like that, she purposely ignored me until I texted something mean, then there was this big fight, and she said she wouldn't give the ring back.

Never had any complaints about mine :)

Though the chats online seem after the date very very positive, there is no indication from the person that you will become a couple. The person states that the next date, due to work, won't be for a while.

I work 2 jobs, i am doing a full time uni degree from home, i also have animals to look after and a son i spend time with every day, yet i am managing to find the time to spend with a beautiful woman i am talking to atm

i dont know how to search for dominant women on this site

i tried one of those sites to find a submissive to have a relationship with. i had lots of offers but they just seemed to want to have sex with as many men as possible, they didnt want a relationship with just one man. so where does that leave a dominant man who has old fashioned values about 1 on 1 sex and relationships?

eattoplease55

I am so confused after dating 2 years
I ask him why he dont take me with him to meet his family, he told me he is not ready . and than he said on the way to my family , I will stop , at the beach for 2 days , he told me I culd go but I have to come back on wednesday

my boyfriend said to me he just loves me as girlfriend

I dont know what to to now , if I cut him from my life or what , I know I have strong feelings for him .

HeartOn64 – I would like my clothes back but not enough to call /see my ex. It would be much too painful for me to see/talk to him right now. Not sure how you get I can’t make up my mind by what I wrote.

Also, I will get over his leaving me suddenly at my own pace. When you had nothing but kindness and good feelings about a person, without having had anything negative go on in the relationship with that person; it takes some time to move on.

hearton64 is really a man who comes on to encourage women to be slutty.
no decent woman would take half her positions on forum matters.

This has got to be the most ironic statement I have read on here in years!!
Obviously gina...you aren't paying as close attention as you think you are!!
Hearton is not only a woman........but a woman who recently earned my
respect for expanding her mind and letting go of some very judgemental opinions.
You might try that yourself...

I assure you Hearton64 is very much a woman ..keep foruming with her and sooner or later you will stir up..her womanly demeanor... some issues she defiantly takes a womans point of view and a very vehement one at that

I agree with you hearton , if you won't eat don't f.......k it
Show me a guy who doesn't eat his wife and I'll show you a wife I can steal.

You would think someone that routinely accused me of cheating would really accuse me of it after I tell her I have an STD, but she seems fine with this. Does this mean she knows she gave it to me and doesn't want to fess up?

It's not actually a huge of a deal as everyone is making out.

My sentiments, somewhat, although it's more about the indignant attitude for me. What's with all the scorn being heaped on this guy for saying that he had a BJ from another guy? So, what? It seems to threaten a lot of people's perception of masculinity in this forum, perhaps more so for the women. Everyone is entitled to their preferences, but there's no need to degrade this man's personal experience. Why should he keep it a secret if he's cool enough to be open about his past? If a woman takes umbrage with it, then they're not a match.

Yeah, yeah, heard it all before, and wondering why I am even reading this nevermind replying.

I have a double standard and I make no apologies for it. I do not mind seeing two women doing it. I do not mind participating in it. However, I do not like even seeing men kissing.

We see this come to life in the “gay chicken” videos on YouTube. Gay chicken is a game in which two straight, alpha-male types make-out, and the first one to pull away is a “pussy.” In the linked YouTube video, two athletic-looking young men make out, while a crowd of people holding plastic cups, cheer them on, their phones held out. The boys only wear underwear, pressing against one and other as they kiss, not coming up for air for the full three minutes.

I was not exactly a natural at this and found I struggled to think of what to say, so I said "suck my cøck whøre" at which point she started screaming at me demanding to know why I called her THAT name. Shortly later she stormed out never to be seen again, although 12 years later she is still on pof (as am I)

Count me in the "does not like it" group.....
To me it is equivelant to saying "Feck me harder ... you a$$hole"....wonder if a man would enjoy it then?

whatever !

He told me he was going to mail me my things but after a month, I haven’t gotten them back. These were just clothing items, easily replaceable so I’m not going to contact him to get them back.

Knowing my guy pretty well, I would say he meant to send me my things but he is a chronic procrastinator, so unless I contact him, I’m not getting them back.

most guys want a lady in the streets and a slut in the sheets

I have found that a majority of women either like or dont mind being called names during sex.

and I dont really think it has anything to do with the woman's past

sadly in this day almost all women suffer some kind of sexual abuse at some point in their growing up..I cant comprehend how this is true or so prevalent because I know I have never abused or even thought of abusing anyone especially a child ..but almost every woman In my life has had a story to tell about some older man in their life that has abused or attempted to abuse them ..usually a relative..so sad so sick

Ok, I'm not gay or bi but in college I had a Mfm and
in the heat I the moment the guy gave me a bj.
It's not something I sought out it just happened.

When this comes up in discussions of sex the women always get disgusted.

But several of them have had women go down on them and they want 3 somes. So what gives?

To clear up a little more i guess that i should have included was that she ended her last serious relationship because of me. She wasn't happy in her previous relationship and as much as she didn't cheat on him physically she did emotionally. She left him to be with me. Probably doesn't change much but I wanted everyone to know that extra bit of knowledge.

I told her it was still being easy and gave her a bunch of crap about it.

Oh, we are ridiculously close-there's no judging just messing around. You should hear the stuff she says to me :)

But I'm sure you'd turn down full on intercourse or pull out the flashlight, right? lol

I agree when it comes to women as well! If you're a 'turd' inside, not much your outward looks can help to overcome that.

hi

yes Heart ..this thread is a joke that I don't really know how it made past being deleted ..that is why I don't mind going so far off topic ..this thread has no valuable topic ...in my opinion

and your right its been some time since anyone has criticized my spelling /grammar ..I don't know if its me improving or people have just learned me ...because as you of all people know I don't steer away from controversy..I love to argue ..and you are one of my favorite people to argue with ..and though we often don't agree I always respect your opinion..and Love the person you are

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