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 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Dating Up?
Posted: 4/21/2013 2:22:27 AM
OP, we are what we are.

To me you sound like a superficial guy that he is not into this woman and it is finding silly excuses to justify to yourself the reason why you don't like her.

I don't think there is nothing wrong with it, just be a man and face the reality. You are not the deep profound guy you believe you are.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
just a date
Posted: 2/9/2013 3:30:29 PM
I think men often lost interest when they obtain what they wanted, now you are available, he won the chease so he lost interest.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 194 (view)
 
Would you care if your parents dissapproved of your S/O?
Posted: 2/9/2013 10:30:23 AM
SugarBaby


She has only displayed what anyone in their right mind should strive for. Decency and kindness. She will be here to see another day and help another person. All I can say is god bless her for her efforts.


Thank you again. I don't know why other people can't see this. I don't know too many people these days who would be willing to put up with a spouse who gets sick, nevermind going into it knowing he has problems. Meh, I guess everyones mentality is different.


Sorry to sound harsh but I would like to ask you a question.

As you like this guy, but you are not in love with him, why do you think you are doing this because you are truly kind and amazing person and the next mother Teresa or you are doing it because helping somebody in a desperate condition make you feel a better?

As you know that your actions would cause pain to your loved parents I think you are not doing it because you are the next mother Teresa.

You are putting a hell of a lot weight on your shoulder, this guy have some serious problems, he is an adult and you are trying to 'save' him. If you will be able to do it and maybe move on one day (who knows, maybe when you will be 30 you will want to have children) and leave him, and he would kill himself you would feel responsible for the rest of your life.

It is always about you, never about the other person. People pass by in your life, you stick with yourself. Try to get to know yourself better.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 188 (view)
 
Would you care if your parents dissapproved of your S/O?
Posted: 2/9/2013 9:09:48 AM
barnabyjames1: I meant, I would tell my parents when I can prove them he is the right person for me.

So I would be like, 'look, I know he's much older, but...'

Parents usually want the best for their children (some people are stupid and they are also parent, but let's assume that the majority of the population isn't completely idiot).

I don't know your buddy Mike and I am sure he is a great guy and he treated her right but in some cases are not enough. One of my friend was dating a guy, he was really sweet and kind but he had no job, intention of finding one, or aspiration for the future. He spent his days on the sofa playing with the playstation (or whatever he plays), then he was driving to her work to pick her up, then they were going back to her place were she made dinner or they order a take away (that she paid). They never went out because he couldn't afford it and didn't want her to pay but made no effort in improving in situation. In this way he had really few friends and got upset everytime she tried to go out with her friends because he was going to be left alone. He is not depressed, just plain lazy. You can't build a future with somebody that is in love with his sofa. Fact.

I put my mom through hell and back for a man when I was younger. She strongly disapproved, I ignored, moved in with him, I was totally lost for this guy (in a childish way tbh) but she was clever and wiser then me, she told that she disapproved but if I was happy she was happy and if I wanted come back the door was going to be always open. After a bit, during an holiday back home, I realised I didn't want to come back to him (long story). Lately she told me that she strongly disapproved because he seemed violent so she was worried all the time that he could beat me (of course he never did, I would have kicked his ass).

Lately I felt deeply for a guy, I knew she would not have approved so I decided to keep my private life private (he said he didn't care and completely understood, then later on changed his mind, anyway...) and to not tell her until I was able to prove that this man was right for me. Great decision, he didn't last until boxing day.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 157 (view)
 
Would you care if your parents dissapproved of your S/O?
Posted: 2/8/2013 2:27:40 PM
I would wait until I can prove to my parents that he is the right person for me, even if from the outside doesn't look like that.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
When do the bad days stop?
Posted: 2/7/2013 4:59:29 PM

Having no one to share it with really makes a person feel empty.


I honestly through he was the one. The man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. That was going to be by my side with the good and the bad time but he is gone. I can't stop thinking that after all he was never mine, I got a version of his complex personality but not him.

I don't want him back, he is no good for me and I am no good for him, but "ain't no sunshine when he is gone", he was my sun, my oasis in the desert, he was 'home'.

It was never real but I love him. I love that version of him he put on for me. I love him more then I want to admit to myself and more then he will never know.

Time to wipe off the tears, fake a smile and carry on. Today was a bad day.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 123 (view)
 
Ever been turned on by a person's accent?
Posted: 2/7/2013 10:45:53 AM


The accent is a huge turn on for sure (gets my sex drive going) and so it is the fact that British men know how to treat a woman PROPERLY and with RESPECT!


Lol, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, eh?
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 44 (view)
 
women and big heels
Posted: 2/6/2013 2:12:47 PM

I can understand a 6 foot tall woman feeling ungainly around a man ½ a foot shorter than her


Not really, I never feel ungainly. When you are 6 ft most people are shorter then you anyway, it doesn't change much.

A man can be truly man being a foot shorter then you and some tall, bulky guy are just girly p*ssy deep down.

I believe if people have a problem with your height is their problem, not yours.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 89 (view)
 
How do you get a womans attention in the real world
Posted: 2/5/2013 4:29:49 PM

Hell if I know. I go into a dance club and sit there for hours and no one ever says a word to me. Except that one time I was mistaken for a bouncer


I am not trying to being funny or rude but why anybody in their right state of mind would torture themselves like that?
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 109 (view)
 
Ever been turned on by a person's accent?
Posted: 2/5/2013 4:20:47 PM

If you met a person who was 300 pounds and out of shape, had snot running down their nose and had missing front teeth, but had an accent, would you find that person sexy and irresistible?


I am not that bad but I can assure you that I gain 1 or 2 points because I have a foreign accent.

No, accent do nothing for me. I am attracted to well spoken men but not turned on. Voices do.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Is this a normal “cooling off” period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?
Posted: 2/5/2013 3:53:43 PM

When a guy says he needs time, you need to back off completely, no further communication until he reaches out to you. You are in your 30's, you should know better than to assume anything. I mean, COME ON!


Do you have to jump off a cliff when he says 'jump' as well? Just checking, I must have missed the 'how to act with your man' lesson.


Lawyers are very sharp people, more mature than their age.
Yeah, right.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Calling 3 months after first date?
Posted: 2/5/2013 3:47:41 PM

I at least hope his name is Mr. Big (aka sex and the city) and he has a really has a big one.


This made me chuckle, lol. Sex and the city must be really popular in usa, seems like all the male yanks are really into it.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Virgin seeking virgin
Posted: 1/13/2013 1:46:22 AM
OP, I think you should analyse why it is so important for you to be with a virgin your first time.

I get it, you fantasied about it since you were younger. When I was a child I wanted to work in a circus but it didn't happened and I got over it. Things don't even go the way we want to be and learning to let unrealistic dreams go is part of growing up, at least it what I believe.

I personally think that each individual lives sex in a different way and it has a different approach to it, looking to find somebody that have exactly your same view about it would be almost impossible.

To rule out the potential love of your life because she is not virgin sounds shallow, lose your virginity with a girl that is virgin just to have sex sounds cruel to me.

Get marry virgin is like shooting in the dark, I meet different couples that break up because they were sexually incompatible, it happens all the time.

I give you the advice I always give: find somebody that you like even with the light off. It means, find somebody that you like for their personality, their views about life, love, work or whatever is important for you and go with the flow.

Good luck.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
I think she's stealing from me...
Posted: 12/28/2012 1:00:21 AM
My ex used to make some of my stuff vanish, mainly they were gifts he didn't appreciate from men before him.

Maybe she didn't appreciate your dvd collection of Desperate Housewives.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Would You Do the “Till Death Do Us Part” Again?
Posted: 12/22/2012 2:32:16 AM
RonMcDon73


love, honor, obey


You are such a dreamer.


When I started looking again I had no intention of looking for true love.


This sounds like a nice story, what happened next?
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Four dates and no kiss in sight?
Posted: 12/19/2012 12:34:20 PM

Three value meals from McD's = obligatory basic missionary style type sex (If a man goes above and beyond this he gets oral too). After a gift of jewelry is accepted by the female this is a firm contract that entitles the male to exclusive use of the female's body, no questions asked.


Def taking notes here ;D
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Advice?
Posted: 12/19/2012 7:07:29 AM

If I smile at a man he will think he can screw me even though he can't.


Nope, if I smile at a man I am nice to him and he would be nicer. If a man thinks he has chances with a woman just from a smile he is delusional.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Advice?
Posted: 12/19/2012 6:43:26 AM

So 95% of guys banging anything with a pulse is bad, but manipulating a situation to induce a favorable outcome with flirting and sex appeal is good? I'm taking notes...


I said smile, not manipulating a situation. I am impress that you can write ;)
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Advice?
Posted: 12/19/2012 5:49:15 AM
RonMcDon73, being notice for most woman is a confirmation of their attractiveness. I personally believe 95% of the men would shag everything with a pulse (most of them even something without a pulse) so I don't see it as a confirmation of my sex appeal so I couldn't care less.

I don't think it is fair accusing women that enjoy little push to their self-esteem to being borderline flirting, all the women know that if you smile a bit more the guy that is serving you he is going to be more helpful, from there to what you talk about the step is huge.

You have to trust your woman, if you don't like the way she acts it means she is not right for you but you can't suffocate a butterfly under a glass, it will die.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
What are guys truly looking for?
Posted: 12/18/2012 5:48:16 AM

An outgoing, slender 25 year old redhead who loves giving oral........ LOL... well... you asked!


Did you look on Amazon? Sounds like a good place to start.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 45 (view)
 
I cannot figure out why, I have never ever had a girlfriend.
Posted: 12/17/2012 2:48:03 AM
Tbh I believe most people look for the wrong things in a partner.

'But I have to be attracted by her/him' I hear with a winy voice. The truth is that as much as attractive people don't give a change to less attractive mate neither 'no experienced' people do.

I actually have few friends that never been in a proper relationship and it sucks on them, they are really hard on themselves for no reason, I hear constant things like 'nobody want me', 'I am not good enough', etc.

From my experience the truth is that they aren't attracted by anybody that doesn't look is from a magazine.

If you start with the idea that my girl has been 5'6, thin, blonde, C cup, looking like a 9 and expecting she is going to dump her ken-like boyfriend that drives a spider for your amazing personality you are dreaming, because:

1) girls like her don't really care about personality;
2) you are able to show to the rest of the world that your personality shine at closed doors.

I honestly believe that you have to be attracted by somebody even if the light is off, meaning you have to be attracted by their personality. Beauty fades, good conversation keep everything alive.

So if you never had a girlfriend focus on somebody that you have something in common and enjoy do things, relationship may evolve in something else, naturally.

Of course, picking up a drunk chick in a nightclub is easy for most shallow guys but that doesn't classify as relationship neither, just because you manage to get your willy wet now and then with semiconscious women doesn't make you a proper man.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 18 (view)
 
She says - I need space
Posted: 12/16/2012 1:28:40 PM
@RonMcDon73, you def watched too many porn.

I agree with clayart, take the best opportunity, it is never a good idea to decide your future around your actual partner.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
sex and dating- not aggressive enough???
Posted: 12/16/2012 11:00:22 AM

She can go to her own house, sleep and not have any sex. She figured if she was coming over she was gonna get bent over proper.


Totally agree, I expect the man I am dating to try to get into my pants all the time. The respect comes when I say something like 'babe please, not tonight, I am too tired' and he step back without being annoying and or acting like a****about it but if my partner doesn't wants me almost all the time isn't a good match for me.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 127 (view)
 
Picture of another mans erect penis found on girlfriends phone.
Posted: 12/16/2012 10:52:22 AM
Oh fuck, old post.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
New Year Eve ideas for single parents (with teenage kids)
Posted: 12/9/2012 11:24:37 AM
Do you do the christmas tree, Santa coming over with gifts, etc?

Plus you live in London, there is Winter Wonderland, Santa Claus pretty much everywhere (http://www.timeout.com/london/feature/1736/santas-grottos-in-london), Xmas markets (http://www.timeout.com/london/feature/1556/christmas-markets-in-london), ice skating (http://www.timeout.com/london/feature/1554/ice-skating-in-london) and so on.

31 IDEAS FOR NEW YEAR’S EVE (WITH KIDS): http://babesabouttown.com/2010/12/31-ideas-for-new-years-eve-with-kids/

12 THINGS TO DO ON NEW YEAR’S EVE WITH KIDS IN LONDON: http://babesabouttown.com/2011/12/12-things-to-do-on-new-years-eve-with-kids-in-london/

Those are some websites I quickly found or otherwise start your own tradition, rent a xmas film, make some popcorn and watch it cuddle up on the sofa.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 156 (view)
 
What's so wrong with cheating, really?
Posted: 12/6/2012 12:58:24 PM
Dear Makeyafamos,

here my 2 pence worth. You seems like a fairly intelligent man, at least for come out with a theory like that all by yourself (I am giving you the benefit of the doubt here, you can thank me later) you must be able to follow a simple logic reasoning.

What's wrong with cheating? I may be old fashion and territorial, but when I ask my man to borrow his hankie I expect a clean one, and not with a green snot store inside.

If I think that on the other side the grass is greener I move there, I am not going to milk my neighbour cow and come back to mine and tell her 'not tonight darling, I am sorry, I have headache'.

Plus with all the effort you use in 'cover your trace' you could find a cure to cure cancer or the economic crises.

Yeah, I get it, you like sticking your ice lolly in places where it shouldn't be and enjoy think that you are enough grown up to have a proper girlfriend but I still think that love may fade, but warts are for ever.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Is it bad that I obsessed with the gym?
Posted: 12/3/2012 3:20:32 AM
Yeah, our society is a strange from this point of view.

If you go to the gym everyday you are obsessed, but if you need to lay down in front of the TV everyday to chill out for at least 2 hours that is normal.

Both cases help you to relax, the first way is just healthier.

I wouldn't worried about the gym addiction, it is a way to relieve the stress, I am the same, if I am having a shitty time in my life I need the gym. What would concern me is the fact that if you can't find a way to realise the stress you seems like you can't manage your anger, that is another thing.

And for the fact that you ditch girl for the gym, you haven't find the right one yet and just because most men says that there's nothing better then **** it doesn't mean it must be that way for everybody.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Don't know what to think.
Posted: 12/3/2012 3:11:34 AM
Mr mcdon,

just because you have been really lucky to met a wonderful, passionate, competent, intelligent, sexy and high-tech engineer doesn't mean that all the engineers are like that.

OP, he's a guy. Just because he's an engineer it doesn't mean he is different from any other guys, mathematic intelligence doesn't make a man a more suitable mate for anybody, or more sensible, or anything else, it just means he is good with numbers and, depends on his field, he's able to create something.

So my advice is, treat him like you would have treat any other guy. Good luck.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 30 (view)
 
The age old debate: Spitting or Swallowing?
Posted: 11/28/2012 2:37:37 PM
"This is a simple case of bad training when you first get the woman. If you don't train them correctly within the first week of getting their ownership papers, you'll be forever spanking them with a rolled up newspaper trying to get them to learn proper protein consumption etiquette.

No woman can choke, gag, gargle and act like they've been shot in the head by a sniper after getting some man goo in their hair-and make it look pretty. It resembles a scene between Born on the Fourth of July and any Jim Carrey movie, highly humorous and horrific at the same time. A fellow has to pay attention right after letting his man geyser go in a woman's grill to take care and lift his feet out of her way so that she doesn't accidentally trip and spit any out on him. This is a felony grade oral faux pas. It's never nice for a woman to give back a gift so graciously given by the man.

Some women respond well to positive reinforcement. For example you give her a nice pat on the head after she's properly swallowed and give her a smile of encouragement to show her she's been a good girl. On her way out of the room to make you a sandwich she will be grateful you took the time to teach her correctly. This is a real lady and should be kept on lock down and have nice things done for her, like overlooking it occasionally when she doesn't vacuum, or raise the toilet seat when she's done using it.

Some girls you have to bribe with trinkets and shiny things to keep them distracted as you unload a magazine of DNA on full auto. It's similar to those feathers on a stick you have the cat chase around. Sometimes a credit card tied to a stick will suffice to keep the woman distracted and she won't even notice when the swimmers are shot out of the cannon.

If the woman is a real hippy type you can get her into a discussion on how much you love trees. She will of course agree that trees are a valuable global resource and then lead into that's why you fully support her swallowing your goo. It's how she can help you save the planet and not use paper products after you show her your O face. She will feel morally obligated to swallow and think she's one blow closer to earning her angel wings in hippy heaven.

The ones who don't happily swallow? These women secretly desire a cat harem, it's their destiny. That way she can sit there with all her furry friends and tell them how meany weany the bad old men are for not wanting her non-swallowing self. The cats will be forced to listen or starve-many innocent cats will still pick the latter course over that hellish existence.

Another upside is that women who swallow and like it are much more likely to get a bigger engagement ring. This is known. "

That was my man point of view, who said that romanticism is dead?
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 43 (view)
 
What do men really want in a lass?
Posted: 11/9/2012 2:54:25 PM
Unfortunately most of the time the fact that you are a great person doesn't automatically make you a good match.

Probably yes, having children living with you and not looking like Pamela Anderson owning a pub and a pizza place does not simplify things but don't worry, if you are not looking for a one night stand dating and finding a relationship is a painful and not so much rewarding experience for everybody.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 20 (view)
 
What has your dating experience been like in your 30's?
Posted: 11/9/2012 2:30:23 PM

From what I observed you better snap them up mid-twenties to just having turned 30, or you're going to wake up to Kathy Bates telling you that hobbling is for your own good.


Oh I see.. that explains a lot.


Though if you look like Jesus Gerard Pitt and your wallet is hung like Trigger...


Ugly and poor men have less chance but don't worry MundusViator, I am sure you will find someone that will want to have a 3some and will want to watch Sex in the City with you soon enough.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Do you believe young women can really settle down?
Posted: 10/24/2012 5:06:45 AM
In my opinion, most women don't know what they want until they reach their late 20s/early 30s. Some young women may think they want to settle down at 20, but end up changing their minds a few years later. Both women and men change a lot between the ages of 18 and 25, so it's smarter to wait until you're older and have had all your fun.


Actually I totally disagree.

From my experience woman know exactly what they want, the options are 3:

1) they are lucky and win the lottery, having exactly what they desire;
2) they seattle for a second best;
3) they end up on a dating website :P


That's why Jerry Lee Lewis married his prepubescent cousin but she wasn't allowed to drive a car.


ROFL.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Do you believe young women can really settle down?
Posted: 10/23/2012 4:02:21 PM
It is hard to find a man in his 30s that is ready to stop messing around, good luck with finding somebody near your age.

Good luck anyway.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Do you workout harder/more intense if an attractive female is around?
Posted: 10/21/2012 1:26:13 PM
OP, all the fitness instructors know it.

If you are spotting somebody and a girl walk into the room you must be more careful because the idiot will try to push more and kill himself.

I suppose it is the testosterone pick or simple showing off. She doesn't need to be really attractive neither, any decent female do the job.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Temptation of the flesh
Posted: 10/21/2012 12:34:15 PM

I like hobbits so I look at women's profiles in the UK on a regular basis. It seems that it's rare to find a pic of one without a glass of booze in her hand, apparently wasted or alcohol somewhere in the picture. I figured they post those pictures because they're letting the potential dates know they're willing to blame their bad decisions the following morning on the liquor.


Erm.. I do hold a glass in most of my pics in general but mainly because pictures are taken at parties and nights out where I tend to a have a drink or 2, it doesn't make me an alcholic but I can see your point.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 97 (view)
 
When Will the Job situation improve in the UK?
Posted: 10/19/2012 9:08:34 AM
@Pete, I don't know this is why I said that you 'seems like'. You really say the same things that any lower middle class man over 50 says in this country.

I may seems like I am the classic university drop out but actually I am not. I am close to finish my second degree without university founding (hurray) and applying soon for a PhD. I do have 3 A-levels (one in economy) and many other qualifications.

Through one of this qualification the Ozzy offered me a job where I would get paid almost as double as here in the UK. The only reason why I am not there yet is that I have an elderly mother and it would be problematic for the Visa for her. This is one of the issues that what you suggest would create.

Yes, I do believe that closing the borders and getting out the EU won't help the situation but it will actually make it worse.

1) Immigration is a social phenomenon really complex, making it more complicated you will reduce the possibility for the skilled people to enter this country;
2) Milk and fishing quotas have nothing to do with the lack of organisation that lead to waste food;
3) I don't believe that teachers are prepared enough atm to teach to children that have english as foreigners language, but I think it is a school issue not the immigrant's fault;
4) Scottish education is free because they have less students and they are trying to raise the education level, why student still prefer to do a degree and have a massive student loan on the back in bournemouth then scotland? Because the nights out are great in bournemouth. Life isn't fun.
5) Have you ANY idea how that feels? - I actually do, so if you have seen the situation you still prefer paying benefits to alcoholics in this country and still pointing your finger to people that are escaping to have a health service?
The fact that we have elderly not able to pay for their heating is at least shameful but it is not the immigrant fault.
Actually people can't really come over here and cure themselves, well they can but they will need to pay for it. The only free cures you get if you are a tourist in UK is the A&E and if they discover that you have a new pathology.
6) "I have lived rough, been unemployed, and lived through more austere times in this country than you have." You can't know this.
7) You don't seems wiser, sorry. Again, you seems just another brooding hen ready to protect his little chickens and shoot all the other species just cause they are different.

The problem aren't the founding or the immigration, but they way they are spend. Again, the system should not allow itself to be milked by anyone, independently from the race, sex, age or any other thing.
The immigration is a way to remove the attention from the real problem.

Anyway I am sorry that you felt patronised but this discussion won't lead to anything, I wish you all the best.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 93 (view)
 
When Will the Job situation improve in the UK?
Posted: 10/18/2012 4:12:05 PM
@Pete, you have no clue of what you are talking about.

I am sorry to say that but seems to me that you are the classic 50 years old man, with no higher education, that never been abroad (a part from holiday in english village, build by english people that speaks english), he has idea that seems reasonable but the truth is that he has no clue of what it is out there.

What always worries me is that the biggest majority of people who vote are like you, really easy to trick.


A rich country? Tell that to our indiginous homeless, tell it to the pensioners and unempoyed who will not have the money to pay for heating this winter? Give me your definition of "Rich" If that is having enough moeny to pay for decent meals each day, clothes,heating etc then there are enough people in this country that fall below that definition.


You are talking about 'quality of life', I am talking about 'right to live'. Seen the difference so far?


Withdraw from the EU altogether.
It costs us far more than any economic benefits we may receive - Europe will not stop trading with us if we were to leave because they cannot afford not to. The tax payer has already bailed out Ireland, Greece, Spain, Italy and Portugal. British business is shackled by Euro directives and ridiculous legislation. The Human Rights Act has been abused and used by criminals to the detriment of the people it was meant to protect and at the expense of the taxpayer. Tons and tons of food is thrown in skips every night rather than given to charities that could provide meals for the homeless - Thanks to EU legislation.


UK exports less of what it imports. I can't tell you that haven't bailed anything at all because I don't know but I really doubt it but I can tell you for sure that you haven't bailed out Italy. The EU supported the UK when it was needed cause of the swine flu and it will always be there in case of other natural disaster.

Plus the bureaucracy costs to install a system like Australia (do you have any clue of how much bigger is Australia then UK?) and exit from the UK will rocket sky the tax. Plus a lot of people come to the UK because it is easier and the bureaucracy is less. Do you think that if a doctor with a PhD in biology should go through all the process will he prefer to move to Adelaide or to the middlelands?


Stop providing Scotland and Wales with free education and other benefits that the rest of the UK is having to fund.


Mate, you need more higher education people in this country and you won't to cut the education founding? Why do you think they have free education? When was the last time you met a British doctor?! Seriously. Reality check.


Withdrawl from the EU will mean that we no longer have to worry about milk Quotas or fishing limits. Dairy farmers will be able produce and sell at whatever quanties they can market. Fishermen will no longer have to throw back thousands upon thousands of tons of quality fish (Dead fish that is) back into the sea.

This is simple against all the market rules and logic, it is not the way the market work and how customers requires a product and how producers provide it. Real life does not work this way.


Education
We need to cut the several tiers of educational management and the increasing administration by teachers - We need to get teachers teaching more. In areas where there is a hign number of children where English is not the first language then it would make sense to insist that such children stay behind for an extra couple of hours each week for language instruction - You cannot integrate into a soceity if you cannot speak the language of it .


So what's the plan? Shoot them all? Or maybe invest more in education and provide more prepared teachers? There is a girl school in my area

I do agree with the token for the change in the benefits systems through, a bit too much like 1984 of Orwell for my liking but I think it is fair. They are government money, I want to be sure you are spending them in the right way.

'No man is an island' and even if this is an 'island' it is far away from being able to provide for itself by itself. I don't think nobody can't. A part from a little island in holland (but they still working on it).

Another point is that if you introduce a selective migration system you will need to offer higher benefits, so if I am a doctor and I want to move abroad you need to pay me at least double to go through all the migration process and giving up that beautiful flat on the beach overlooking at the san francisco bay area.

You will need to raise up the salary and give more benefits to polish moulders as well, closing the borders importing products will cost more and increasing the price of the product produce over here will cost more. In general the cost of living will be higher so you will afford a lost of costs and risks for obtaining a worse result.

An open market is always the best option for the costumers. I am not an economist but those are basics.

Do me a favour, stop believing what press and politicians said, of any kind, and research by yourself. Doubt about everything and ask question, if they don't answer you ask louder and after you will have developed a big knowledge you can propose plans that can't be attached from any point. That is a winning plan.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 91 (view)
 
When Will the Job situation improve in the UK?
Posted: 10/18/2012 10:32:49 AM
@Richard, a citizen has rights but also duties to his society.

A part that I believe that rich country have the moral obligation to help who is less fortunate (especially cause often they become richer yielding their sources) but I know that is something that british citizen really don't appreciate but since they (partially) joined the Europe, they open the borders so we are an unique country. A bit like America.

If you have the right to move wherever you want you have the right to milk the benefits system.

The fact that a country allow itself to be milked (by anyone) is the issues for me, not who is milking it.

Personally I am not ashamed of the fact that some poor country people come over to have health service and I am happy to pay for it, there are many no profit companies in Canada that sponsor children from poor country to fly over there to use their health service, I think it is the way a modern and honest society should act.

I am ashamed that I need to pay to allow some lazy people to have free booze and I need to pay service like ambulance or police cause people are too drunk to realise that jumping from the pier at 3 am isn't a good idea.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 81 (view)
 
When Will the Job situation improve in the UK?
Posted: 10/17/2012 5:05:19 AM
@Pete, can you ship off the chavs and all those british citizens that have no educations or skills but claim benefits making children or stating that they are too ill too work? (of course you are too ill, you start drinking in the morning)

I don't think the fact that you have been lucky to have been born in a wealthy country gives you the right to milk the system.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Badoo - People Shown As Online When There Not
Posted: 10/16/2012 12:37:10 PM
Dude, you confronted her about that and she told you that she is not doing it.

Now you have 2 options:

1) you can believe her and carry on seeing her, trusting her;

2) not trusting her and moving on.

Your choice.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Good Looks
Posted: 10/14/2012 6:16:50 AM
@MundusViator, man I was joking!

I agree with everything you said but sex isn't the issue, find a relationship is the drama.

This is why I said 'at this rate', it was a nice way to say that I am forgetting things but I suppose is a bit like riding a bike, you never really forget.

EDIT

No need mind reading when you can read body language :D


Finding the relationship is the fun part, everything after is the real effort.


Totally the opposite for me.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Good Looks
Posted: 10/14/2012 3:11:38 AM

You looking to read tips on getting better? ;D


That would be a waste of time, at this rate I will probably need something like the 'A-B-C of sex' :D


Granted some of those things will just make you boring rather than bad


As I said, it is probably just laziness.


Just how happy is anyone that goes for only good looking people?
Ecstatic, probably.


And probably really lonely if you don't look like Jhonny Deep.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Indian (Asian) girls at a POF event
Posted: 10/14/2012 3:03:08 AM
Why don't you buy a bride?

I am not joking or being judgemental, I am actually pretty serious. It is full of website like that about russians and asians brides, if this is what you want why not help somebody and obtain what you want?
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Do I have too many relationship requirements?
Posted: 10/14/2012 2:58:21 AM
If I were I bloke I was going for hotness and sanity, intelligence is overrated.

Eyes contact is a tricky one, if you look for them all the time without blinking you appear aggressive.

Probably I think the hardest requirement is 'attractive to you', the others are easy to spot but the attraction it is all another thing..
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Good Looks
Posted: 10/13/2012 3:55:52 PM
I never understood how you can be bad in bed.

Sure the only way to be bad is being lazy but otherwise...
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Is it possible to turn moodiness and irritability into a positive?
Posted: 10/13/2012 1:23:37 PM
@Pshyco, free gift:

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kq98ytzTmm1qz7e9oo1_500.jpg

It isn't really rocket science.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Is it possible to turn moodiness and irritability into a positive?
Posted: 10/13/2012 6:34:32 AM
Gym, lots and lot and lots of exercise.

Why do you think I am always calm and smily? More then two days without a workout and I would kill someone with my bare hands. Endorphin is the cure for everything.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Teenagers sleeping over
Posted: 10/13/2012 6:10:25 AM
OP, it seems to me that you made up your mind and personally I find it a good decision.

Tell your son that it is ok with you to let her sleep over when you will be sure it is ok for her parents, otherwise she can not. If he does not agree he can find a new girlfriend or a new place to live. Simple.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Age gap....
Posted: 10/13/2012 6:04:39 AM
I think it really depends on the guy.

Older men they usually know exactly what to tell to make younger women fall, it is not something related to maturity or intelligence, I suppose it is just lack of experience.

My advice is to try to set to yourself some personal barriers and stick with them. For the rest, enjoy.
 avalava
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 59 (view)
 
When Will the Job situation improve in the UK?
Posted: 10/11/2012 8:05:51 AM
@Norsewind1: I have read what you wrote but I decided to ignore the part where you describe foreigners as a group of animals. I know a lot of foreigners that have low paid jobs, often they are here with all the family (so yes, 5 member, a husband, a wife and the children, often a dog as well) or the people that share are usually under 30s, often brits share flats as well to divide living expenses.


they do not show up in the police car mounted automatic number plate recognition cameras even, as they can only scan British number plates. I know of quite a few cars round with PL, AL,LT..etc etc plates that have been here for the two years i have lived in this town and i bet they do not have tax or MOT in any country.


You bet, you have no proof and you can't accuse someone without proof. The fact that the police camera don't scan their number plate is a police issues, it is not a problem of foreigners drivers. It is a bug in the system. Like personalised number plate.

@vlad dracul: what you are talking about it is called 'social conscience'. I am probably a romantic but that people would act in the same way if they were aware of some situations (that the employers tend to keep it secret). Of course, between two identical product I tend to go for the cheaper one because for me there are no difference but when you find out that the difference is the way the employee are treated I prefer to spend a pound more. It is a long topic.


for the insurance .... well this is where europe falls apart, could get a quote for a normal car or whatever for 600 quid but phone some company in poland or any of the eastern countries and no doubt be under a hundred quid is that fair?


Are you sure about this? I will look into that and let you know, it does seems a bit unlikely because Poland is Europe..
 
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