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 Author Thread: Why won't he let me go?
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Why won't he let me go?
Posted: 4/23/2013 9:12:40 PM
You are NOT listening to what everyone is saying on here. It's because you are blinded by your love for him. You will ONLY understand their pieces of advice when the most dreaded thing will happen. And that is when he will ditch you for his wife. Don't say that we didn't tell you so.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 1052 (view)
 
Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 1/29/2013 9:56:22 AM
I am 29 years old and i still live with my aunt and uncle. And I know an older guy who rents a room with a couple he's not related to. It's a downer.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Graduate Degree ?
Posted: 1/27/2013 10:29:06 AM
you also type WRITE thread intead of RIGHT thread.

I think that that woman didn't understand what GRADUATE degree means.

it's not usual that a person who either had a master's or PhD then decided to become a hairstylist instead. it usually is the other way around.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Are my hurt feelings justified?
Posted: 1/21/2013 9:39:22 PM
i do NOT think that she will ever stop doing this, you know, hurting your feelings....i think she is that type of woman that will break your heart and leave you for another guy and you will have a hard time getting over...i think you should kick her big behind right to the curb before you get very, very deeply in love with her...if you want to come out of this alive and not so badly damaged and obliterated by her hurting ways.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
cbc local asian girls are harder to get while i find foreign esl girls a lot easier
Posted: 1/16/2013 6:44:11 AM
well, if you are a canadian born chinese then how come the english that you type here sounds not english enough. i dunno like when you say "what your experience" shouldn't that be "what's your experience?"

am a foreign born filipino girl. and i get that US born filipino girls would prefer white guys than foreign born filipino guys or US born filipino guys. i would prefer guys other than my race.

my female cousin who moved here when she was only 7, she doesn't want asian guys. she would want white guys so all her bfs were white. my male cousin, he only dates blond girls. i dunno.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Ended out of the blue
Posted: 12/7/2012 9:42:03 AM
I knew what happened. When you avail of yourself too much with a girl (even if she genuinely likes you), she will eventually lose interest.

Just like a guy will lose interest if a girl avails of herself too much for him.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Attraction 3 main points
Posted: 11/1/2012 7:40:28 PM
Well, before I didn't care if a guy has no job as long as we love each other and he looks cute and charming. But now I am looking for 1. an older guy, 2. stable, 3. faithful. i don't care if he doesn't talk a lot or can hold a conversation.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Guess you can't judge a book by it's cover
Posted: 10/20/2012 7:32:36 AM
Dude, if you break up with her ,you will regret it. If I were you, be happy she is like this. I think you want someone where you had to work with and when they don't give in, you get frustrated and complain about it to POF. You are handed a silver platter and kept refusing it. She might as well hand it over to another dude who could appreciate her efforts.

PS

Good luck trying to find another girl next time because you'll just get frustrated about how hard they put out.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Cancer firls throwing mixed signals.
Posted: 10/19/2012 4:48:31 AM
Man, I sense that the girl if you ask her what's wrong, she'll just tell you that nothing is wrong. So I dunno. Good luck with your problem at hand. You are very cute though and tall.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Cancer firls throwing mixed signals.
Posted: 10/19/2012 4:40:53 AM
What's up with horoscopes. It's nonsensical
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Ever been turned on by a person's accent?
Posted: 10/16/2012 8:57:19 AM
I like to mimic other accents though. And I can!
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a Hoarder?
Posted: 10/16/2012 5:05:57 AM
Oh, goodness gracious, I am watching the show Hoarders now brought on from reading this thread. I've watch a few episodes of this show before and it's just crazy. Now watching it, I think that I am getting a headache.

I am a minimalist and a neat freak. My mom has resented me for throwing a lot of her stuffs. She's not an extreme hoarder whose stuffs pile up to the ceiling but she's like most people who have a lot of stuffs. I did this to my aunt. She got real angry. I got flack from my relatives. I stopped for a while. But every now and then, without their knowledge, I throw their stuffs out. Man, if you can look inside my mom's 2010 Rav4, it's full of her stuffs. The only seat available is the driver's seat and the seat beside her. You can squeeze it at the back amongst her pile of crap.

I guess I became a neat freak because my mom is such a hoarder. I remember that our little house was just full of stuffs around. And I never got out of that house until I left for college. When I was in college, my bed and my locker is always neat and arranged. Even until this very second. I live with my aunt so I use her son's bedroom. I threw a lot of his stuffs without her knowledge. She always suggests to me to put his stuffs up in a box so she can put it in a garage. I tell her that I do not have a lot of stuffs so his stuffs are OK in their respective places. Little did she know that I have been throwing this and that of his stuffs.

My aunt is also hoarding stuffs. She and her husband's garage is full of stuffs. They tried sorting it out last Sunday. They couldn't throw a goddamned thing. I told them to throw all of it away. They were aghast at my suggestion. There were this old speakers on the shelves. Books everywhere. Empty boxes. Gift wrappers. Plant containers. Man, just a bunch of stuffs. And my uncle was like he was going to bring it back to the Philippines when he retires. And my aunt was like she was going to bring these stuffs for a garage sale SOON. Yeah, right. All these stuffs sitting for years.

I do not EVER want to be like my family. They are such hoarders although not the ones on the show. I am just the extreme opposite.

When I was living with other people, the place was just usually clean because I always clean up as much as I can. But sometimes I get fed up because they don't care and I get exhausted fighting them about it.

When me and my ex husband lived together, he had all his stuff that looked like junk. When he saw how minimal and arranged my stuffs were, I guess he was put in his place. He was encouraged to clean his act up because my end was neat and his weren't. I didn't have to say anything. He just had to see it with his own eyes how his stuffs are messing the place up.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 37 (view)
 
What women really look at on your profile...
Posted: 10/15/2012 10:36:40 AM
The picture is the correct answer.

The degree of education is second.

The self description is third.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 411 (view)
 
Depression and suicide
Posted: 10/10/2012 4:14:58 PM
I feel extremely lonely right now. but not suicidal. am sick and tired of people telling me to be happy with oneself. you get tired after a while.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
am i being mislead?
Posted: 10/6/2012 3:45:29 PM
girl, he is definitely trying to hook up with other girls. that is all that i can say.

truck driver? going from several places? women from different places? recipe for promiscuity. he may like you but he definitely can't stop making love to other girls. if you can stomach that, salute to you.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
ON AND OFF RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN
Posted: 10/3/2012 12:20:52 PM
Yeah, he cheatin' on ya. He has other girls other than ya.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Should I confess to cheating in the first 2 weeks of relationship?
Posted: 10/3/2012 8:30:06 AM
do NOT tell him. just keep mum. Why destroy a good relationship?
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
When is it time to give up?
Posted: 9/30/2012 8:48:01 AM
There is a song that says ''Never give up, Jesus is coming.'' Lol.

Man, you are a lovely woman. That's weird that nobody is yet in love with you.

While I am having the same experiences as you have.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How to tell a friend to back off without ruining the friendship.
Posted: 9/24/2012 2:12:34 PM
Let her read this post. And our comments.

Tell her exactly what you told us on here. And that you are not there to bring her down. And that you don't appreciate her bringing you down when you are not doing anything bad to her. And that you value both your friendship and don't want to see it go down the drain by this paranoia of hers.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Dating Confusion!
Posted: 9/24/2012 8:22:44 AM
OP, the guy was just looking for sex. Because he couldn't have it with you, he's done with you.

About the chemistry thing, guys who are looking for sex are VERY GOOD with creating CHEMISTRY. so quit tripping about what could have been because you two had chemistry. They are very good at having chemistry with you.

And even if he was able to get sex from you, he will still stop talking to you because that was all that he was looking for. And you be wondering why again he did that when you had chemistry and the sex was good. Just remember guys who have laid plenty a girls are very good at creating chemistry with these girls.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
How can somebody live with no worries ?
Posted: 9/22/2012 8:13:12 PM
Why would she worry about the baby? Once she has the baby, she will get HELP from the government plus she can get child support from her ex. She'll get foodstamps for her kid. Public aid for her kid. Maybe free housing. All those other welfare stuffs. So why worry?

And she never love you if she can trample your feelings just like that. And don't think that if you try to save her from all this, she will then fall in love with you. NO she won't. she will only use you. so move on to the next girl.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What does he mean by sending me this message after he broke up with me over a month ago?
Posted: 9/16/2012 5:33:08 PM
He don't want you back. He is just apologizing that he broke up with you. He's hoping that you'd be OK after he crushed your heart when he decided to end things with you.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Should I take back my boyfriend (he wants to keep in contact with his friend he had sex)
Posted: 9/7/2012 11:23:31 AM
PLEASE PLEASE STOP talking to him. Don't meet him up tomorrow. Just remove him from your life.

Listen. He will NOT STOP communicating with her. This cycle will go on and on until you feel so destroyed and devastated. This guy is a narcissist or a psychopath. He's just like that guy I had a relationship with. He destroyed me. And now he tries to communicate with me again. Am glad am over him after 6 months of not seeing him. Time and seeing other guys heal all wounds. I thought I wouldn't be able to get over him but as everyone says on here, I will and I did. You will, too.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
That 'something'..
Posted: 9/5/2012 8:50:13 AM
I've been in this situation a few times. I dunno what is that in them that I can not forget them. All I know that I still think of them from time to time.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 52 (view)
 
He wants me to meet his parents - they're nudists
Posted: 9/4/2012 9:15:50 AM
Damn! Good thing your friend doesn't get bothered seeing his own goddamned parents naked like a newborn baby. Seeing that I am curious I would do it. But if he is up to something nasty, I can always go to a hotel.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Do opposites attract or not?
Posted: 9/4/2012 6:57:20 AM
I dunno. I've never had any successful relationships. They will always end after a short while.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 1363 (view)
 
Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/3/2012 1:18:02 PM
Yeah, I feel like I'm going to be alone forever. It's Labor Day today and am off from my job and here I am sitting on my bed in front of the internet. I got nowhere to go. And I have no male friend to cuddle with. Lonely.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Question...
Posted: 9/2/2012 2:53:02 PM
Hey SingleOregon, listen to the above posters. They are all telling you that he MAY HAVE been booted because of HOW he complained. Maybe he wrote bad and nasty stuffs to the report and POF removed his account.

I bet you won't understand what I just said either. Igor surrendered. Ask your friend HOW did he write his complaint. Was it written nicely? Or was it written offensively? because if he wrote it offensively then he will get booted from POF.

On a side note, he can always make a new account.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Cheated on by Narcassistic Man.
Posted: 9/2/2012 2:19:50 PM
i have had a relationship with someone like that. he never changed. i left. took me couple of months to get over him. people kept telling me that time heals all wounds. i didn't believe them then. now i do. time does heal all wounds. you will heal, too. that guy still tries to call or text me. i just don't answer. don't want the drama anymore.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 35 (view)
 
does silence = no interest?
Posted: 9/1/2012 11:45:28 AM
He doesn't like you. You don't need to hear from him say that it's over. You don't need closure. You will just look desperate. Just stop pursuing him. Your friends are right. Just forget him and move on.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Hot for teacher
Posted: 9/1/2012 11:40:38 AM

I'm sure they are not ALL that way, but one that would so obviously flirt with you has probably done that before -- so don't think you're all that special.


The poster who wrote the above statement is right. He has probably done that before and will do that as well in the future as attractive female students always come around. He's presently doing it with you.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
whoawhoawhoa
Posted: 8/28/2012 1:43:24 PM
Well, she likes you a lot. I can understand her though. I understand your point. But I can understand her side. All that I can say is that she likes you a lot and is going crazy that you are responding like that. It sucks on her part that you are cutting her off. But I am pretty sure that she likes you. Why don't you give her one month? If you can't take it, cut her off. You will never know, she might actually be the one that you are looking for.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
How would you respond? Am I finally POF paranoid?
Posted: 8/26/2012 6:27:07 PM
He is either a Nigerian scammer trying to get money from you or a married guy looking for a discreet affair. Basically, don't talk to him any more because he is just bad news.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
The accidental boob graze
Posted: 8/25/2012 8:12:19 AM
Nobody has ever done that to me on a POF date. damn, they ALL ''accidentally'' grazed your boob at LEAST once? Damn.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Do You Mind if I Take Your Picture?
Posted: 8/25/2012 7:41:28 AM
Ha ha. I have taken pictures of guys I have met before during first meet, 2nd meet, 3rd meet, etc. Most smiled for the camera. Some did mind. Some suspected I stole a shot of him. And the reason is that, I just like to take pictures of them. Maybe for memory's sake. At least when I reminisce, I would be able to see that guy's face again. It's not weird. Am not posting them on the internet. And one guy used the photos I took of him and posted it here on POF to attract girls.
Of all those guys, there were only 3 I wasn't able to take photos of. The two I forgot to do it and 3rd one am shy to ask him.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How to deal with being dumped
Posted: 8/24/2012 4:42:52 PM
hey i have been to a more devastating situation just 5 months ago than you are having right now because my husband left me for another woman. i thought that i could never get over it. i just cried every single day. every second i think of him. but as time passes by and meeting up other guys, you will get over it little by little. especially if another guy takes your breath away, she will just be a thing of the past. but if it doesn't work out, you tend to think of this girl again but not as obsessively as you are doing right now. they are right, time heals all hurt. and dating the opposite sex, too.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name
Posted: 8/24/2012 2:03:35 PM
i listed my location on my profile as chicago but i actually live in the suburbs. and i will only tell them where i live if we agreed to meet up and we ALWAYS meet up. and if they ask for my name, i usually tell them my nickname or my mom's maiden name which is NOT my last name and i tell them that that's what people call me.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 108 (view)
 
No job, no ambition and poor grammar... Is this the norm?
Posted: 8/24/2012 7:15:59 AM
I have a good paying job, and proper grammar i hope. ambition? i dunno about that.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Are women with crappy cars a turn off?
Posted: 8/23/2012 3:39:44 PM
i don't think it matters. i drive a 2012 nissan versa and i don't think that matters.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Women and their best friends talk about....?
Posted: 8/23/2012 2:36:57 PM
i talk every single detail of my current relationship to all my family that are all females, my filipino co workers, and a black female co worker and a mixed female co worker.. and anyone who ask!
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I was a rebound...
Posted: 8/21/2012 12:02:38 PM
sorry you had to feel that way. i dunno how to comfort you.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Thoughts
Posted: 8/20/2012 4:27:13 PM
sorry to hear that.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Is there really a right one, or just compatible?
Posted: 8/15/2012 5:59:41 PM
I say that if a guy messages the girl and the girl likes how the way the guy looks plus coupled with credentials like the guy having bachelor's or master's or doctor's degree or has a business and awesome personality typed on his profile then the girl falls hard for the guy right there and then.

I would say that the girls look at the guy's pictures MOSTLY. if they like what you look like, they will fell for you.
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Inappropriate text from wife to man at work
Posted: 8/11/2012 5:33:43 PM
It always start as that then progress to something more eventually. That happened to me and my husband and the girl that he is living with right now. I was angry and confronted him about it and it just made him go to her even more.

It's not yet too late to fix the issue. Don't be confrontational about it. Just try to be nice and calm and i dunno. Ask the people here. I dunno because my marriage didn't work out.

Am sorry this has to happen to you right now. The feeling sucks. It hurts. It pains. It devastates us. It makes us do crazy stuffs all for the name of love.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Where have the older men gone?
Posted: 8/7/2012 1:06:52 PM
Oh, goodness gracious great balls of fire. I wonder how I will become when I grow old. I hope I just become an old lady that people usually think of old people.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
she looked up and said You know how bad being bro-zoned hurts?
Posted: 8/2/2012 3:21:13 PM
gimme her phone number, i'll text her and tell her that you genuinely, absolutely, without a doubt like her.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Separated, says he wants true love, but then runs....
Posted: 8/2/2012 3:10:07 PM
because he doesn't think that you are THE ONE?
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 52 (view)
 
No job, no ambition and poor grammar... Is this the norm?
Posted: 7/29/2012 8:11:07 PM
man, you're not the ****ing only one. all guys do that. the ones that don't, haven't met them yet
 tresemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 36 (view)
 
The choice between me and the nightlife - I lost.
Posted: 7/25/2012 4:09:02 PM
i feel you. i too, was in love with a guy like this much.
 TRESemme1
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 53 (view)
 
How rare is it to find someone you feel strongly about?
Posted: 7/25/2012 3:33:39 PM
happened to me a few times. it's not rare. maybe because i fall in love easily.
 
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