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MontrealMT

Joined: 5/14/2007

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Should a guy be up front about his desires to be a cuckold or wait till later to confess it? Posted: 11/13/2007 3:39:53 AM
Hello everybody Again I really want to thank everyone for their point of view so far. I was really impressed by the though put in to some of your posts. At this point most of you feel that I should mention it pretty early on and even right at the beginning. One person thought I should mention it specifically on my profile and another said I should mention I'm looking for someone open minded. I'm leaning towards editing my profile and putting something on it but I'm concerned that being too specific will scare off many potential matches. What do you guys think ?

MontrealMT

Joined: 5/14/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Should a guy be up front about his desires to be a cuckold or wait till later to confess it? Posted: 11/12/2007 10:05:50 AM
Hello everyone First I wanted to say hello to Toby and say that I never wrote that I didnt want everyones input. Actually I believe I wrote somewhere that writing in a public forum is a double edged sword, meaning you get positive and negative. All I'm saying is if your opinion is negative it can still be respectful and I respect your point of view even if I dont share it and so far I don't think you've been intentionally disrespectful. To be clear I'm not a sex crazed neanderthaal, actually I'm highly educated and intelligent and as I mentionned before, respecful of all people. Some have been curious about a few things so I thought I would answer some of those questions. 1. Did I write the add in order to attract response from women who might be interested? The answer is it wasnt my first objective but it was in the back of my mind and I wouldn't be disappointed if some "closest cuckoldresses" as someone put it, did contact me in private. 2. Some of you wanted to know if I was looking for more of a hotwife or more of a cuckold relationship. The answer is somewhere in between. In the 10 years or since I discovered this lifestyle which is a subculture of swinging, I've found chatting with real couples in the "scene" that every couple is different and every arrangement is as different as people are different. Not being someone very extreme, simply adventurous, I'm more middle of the road. I do know that I am not interested in swinging as I'm not really interested in more than one woman, with the exception of saying that I would, if it pleased my partner that I do so. Personally I would decribe myself as a voyeur from a very early age and then it evolved into a deep interest in cuckoldry. 3. I wanted to answer that splendid beautiful Romanian sweetheart that so kindly posted on this thread about the use of the word slut. I didn't use the word in this forum because it is public and I think language is a powerful thing and can awake many emotions running the complete range from rage to extreme arousal. I also think the word can be used meaning different things and differs depending on the structure of the phrase it is in, the tone in which it is delivered and by whom. I also think that the word often mistakenly attributed to women and is a raw deal for those of the feminin gender. Let me explain. If a man sleeps around with many woman...if he is a nice guy or not ...he's described as a "Stud", meaning he is verile, manly, conquering, strong. A woman sleeps around weather she is nice or not will automatically have this label of slut used which is understood by the vast majority of the populations of the world to mean that she is, a woman of loose morals, uncontrolled, unpure, deviant, depraved. The word nymphomaniac is used for woman with a high sex drive but is rarely applied to men but would seem more appropriate given their general disposition to fornicate whenever possible (I don't exclude myself from this point of view in order not to seem like a hypocrite). There simply isn't another word that exist in the english language that describes a woman who is sexually empowered other then perhaps vixen but here again there seems to be undertones of deviousness. Anyway I've gone on long enough. I look forward to reading more of your responses

MontrealMT

Joined: 5/14/2007

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Should a guy be up front about his desires to be a cuckold or wait till later to confess it? Posted: 11/11/2007 8:02:44 PM
Hey everybody…thanks for all your contributions so far even from you Toby. To Tina…I apologize for making you look something up. I would like to say that I have the most respect for woman and that this sort of arrangement is in no way an attempt to demean the woman that I hopefully will build a life with. I could answer every diverging opinion here but I won’t. Posting in a public forum is a double edged sword. But I will say this, there are different strokes for different folks and that regardless of our cyber persona were still human being and I am a very respectful of others so I would hope you’ll temper your judgement in response to my question. Also this sort of arrangement is more common than you think…actually I think it would surprise you as it did me when I first started to learn about it a decade ago. To everyone else, keep posting your two cents, I do appreciate it.

MontrealMT

Joined: 5/14/2007

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Should a guy be up front about his desires to be a cuckold or wait till later to confess it? Posted: 11/11/2007 6:27:11 PM
Hello everybody I had a look at many of the threads but since there are 300+ I stopped at 25. My question to everyone but especially the women on POF is weather or not to tell a woman right away about a desire to be a cuckold (if you don't know what that is look it up on Wikepedia, they have a decent explanation), or wait till the relationship is well established before confessing this desire. Of course I realise that by posing the question I may hurt my chances with my match pool but I really would like your advice and also to know if some women on the site are openly into cuckoldry and would like that in their relationship. For me its not just fantasy it's something I would like maybe not right away but the possibility somewhere down the line in the relationship. Thank you in advance for your input, cheers.

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