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tmbmx

Joined: 2/27/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

Does music matter Posted: 10/26/2008 5:41:58 PM
I listen to about everything but most rap. Now if you will not dance at least one dance with me when we are out sorry time for me to move on. What is one dance going to hurt?

tmbmx

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I Need Some Advice, Please Posted: 10/26/2008 5:37:49 PM
Dont you think If he was serous he would have been there or at least called with a great excuse why not. Be more confident about your own life and move on. I am not saying it is it is easy, I know its not. Love your self enough to find your ow happiness.

tmbmx

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Do you still have faith in love? Posted: 10/16/2008 9:11:56 PM
"We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep on watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it." -John Lennon

tmbmx

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Get over it or live alone? not that is the question. Posted: 10/3/2008 9:04:33 AM
I was married for 21 years. We lived together for 17. She fought the divorce and it dragged out for ever. I think she just wanted to keep using my insurance. I am over her. We had a family friend who I always and still do find attractive. My ex for years was pushing me to sleep with her. I did not. I know now that she was pushing this because she was cheating. After I split with the ex we dated a few times always had a great time. I was to raw from just splitting with the ex wife. To be ready for a relationship. She said she could not see me anymore because she was friends with my ex wife. She had morals another thing I loved about her.We never had sex just kissed a couple times. They were the most passionate kisses I have ever had to this day. It has been 5 years since we dated. I still think about her almost everyday. I have been dating someone for a while there but the passion is not the same. She is a wonderful woman. She is great in every way. While she does not stir me the same way. I am thinking of breaking up with before I end up really breaking her heart. It has taken me a while to realize what I am feeling. As far as I know the other woman does still does not want to date me. I am thinking of just living solo for the rest of my time. I am not sure I will ever get over her. I know if we ever got together we would never part. I do not think it will ever happen though. This is as short as I can make it. What to do now? Will I ever get over her? Or am I just fixed on something I can’t have? Or will I be happier by myself? It my sound simple to someone who is not living it. But it is not.

tmbmx

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His Daughter Was in Charge Posted: 8/25/2008 9:31:29 PM
Writing as a single father with custody. My 17 year old daughter can be a large pain. No more than others I hear from trading stories with friends. In the past she has tried her best to run my life. She has tried to make my life revolve around hers.Yes she has tried to run the house sort of speak, I alway put a stop to it. It was plain to see she was trying to take the female role in the house. I think it was from me not dating for so long after my divorce. There are times when yes her thing comes first, but not always. I would say it is not just girls though. I have seen other people who let their kids run there lives. If this is happening while you are dating and you dont like it say something or move on. This his parenting style or lack of one. My personal belief is you should not come between some one and there kids. Unless there is some thing harmful going on.

tmbmx

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The Break-Up Blues!!! Posted: 7/23/2008 3:01:16 PM
This is the time you need to find yourself again. Deal with your own true feeling and habits you dont like about yourself. Make your self happy and you find life is easier. This is not a quick or easy process. It is differant for everyone. When on the other side life will be much better. The hardest thing for me was learning to eat alone when kids went to mom house. It have been several years now and I am happier than ever. Learned always to be true to myself. Treat other people like you want to be treated. Sometimes not easy but needed. Good luck and remember you are worth the work you put into yourself. Only you can make you happy no one else has that power!

tmbmx

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gals....what does take things slow really mean? Posted: 7/23/2008 2:35:04 PM
Taking it slow means just what it says. they would like to develop a relationship based on there grounded issues. Think of the trouble you have gotten in when you rushed something. It si true good things come to those who wait.

tmbmx

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Caregiver Posted: 7/23/2008 2:31:41 PM
The one thing I am sure of is that things happen for a reason. I they cant handle the fact that you take care of a sick parent, they are not for you. Beside think what a rotten spouse they would be if had kids with then and thats how they felt about things.

tmbmx

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How many times have you said I'm not meeting anyone? Posted: 7/23/2008 2:29:25 PM
There is a little voice in your head for a reason. More people should take time to listen to it.

tmbmx

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Wanna Cuddle? Posted: 7/23/2008 2:27:44 PM
There is a lot of healing power in a hug. Cuddling makes it ever more so. Like it or not we need human contact phyiscal not just a conversation. I am not talking about sex here. Just the touch of another human has wonderful healing powers. Let me Quote Bear from the movie Armaggedon "could I like get a hug after this"

tmbmx

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Custodial dads how much money did it cost you to get custody? Posted: 7/2/2008 6:54:28 PM
Nothing she left after 19 years says she did not want to be a wife or a mother anymore. Although it take 5 years to get leagaly divorced. SHe did notwant that part. LOL

tmbmx

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What is the sexiest thing you have ever done? Posted: 7/2/2008 6:44:14 PM
Sex in a secluded cove on the intercoastal water way on the bow of the boat.

tmbmx

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Sex in the over 45's Posted: 7/2/2008 6:42:26 PM
In florida the is a twon called the Villages. It is a community of 55 and old house complexes. they have the Highest rate of sexual transmitted diesies in the US. to thym oun self be true. You can catch thing that will kill you. Your choice for me safety first.

tmbmx

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separated women demanding that the male not be married Posted: 7/2/2008 6:35:07 PM
Well it took me over 4 years to get divorce. My ex was doing everything she could to stop it. Even though she left me and was living with other men. SHe want to use my Health insurance. The state would not force her to file her side of paper work or give me a no fault. I think it was because I did not have a lawyer and the county I live in. I was alway up front about my situation with the wemon I would meet. Some did not like and did not watn tosee me because of it. There loss. I under that they are men out there lieing about the status. I was nieve about the number of women out there doing the same thing. Just keep a pasitive attatude about life if she does not want to hear from you move and get over it.

tmbmx

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What are men really looking for on these sites Posted: 12/31/2007 2:14:11 PM
what can I say there are some men I work with I would not let date my dog. In fairness I have meet some woman that I would not want to date either. If a good relationship were easy no one would ever be divorced. LOL Just have to have faith and hope. The old saying kiss alot of frogs before you can find your prince. I found my special someone one line. please dont give up. Just here for the for forums and to chat with freinds.

tmbmx

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Confused by this whole dating thing... Posted: 9/22/2007 6:29:14 AM
I hate to say this but above was right. He told you he was just looking friend and sex basicly if you want move on. Remembe most of us have to kiss alto fo toads before we find our Prince or Princess. Just think about it as a learnign experance with a alittel sex added. LOL Life is ment to be enjoyed so relax and find someone who wants what you do.

tmbmx

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I don't know how to forgive someone and I think it's killing me a little bit day by day... Posted: 9/22/2007 6:22:19 AM
I was in the same situationa as you and still am to some degree. My ex left me with kids say she did not want to be a wife and mother anymore. Now 5 years later I still have not fully forgiven her and I think part of me never will. I can move with what she has done for me. I think i never will forgive her for what she has done to our kids. Hell it took me 3 1/2 years to start dating LOL. The best advice I have ever been given is "living well is the best revenge". You cant buy happiness. If are living your life as you like that is all that matters. To be honest the more happy I am the more my Ex does not wnat to pay her child support or want to argue over the kids and who has them what weekend. So please by all means find yourself and and make your self happy it will make you a better parent and let you ex know that his new life means nothing to you. He needs to get over his sins and move on to being a better person himself. To be honest I dont think my ex ever will. I know my ex lives with so much guilt she will probly never get over it. I can always hope.

tmbmx

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 9/22/2007 6:01:11 AM
Well as a single father of 3. I can telll there are just as many woman who dont understand thet you children have to come 1st. That by all means does not mean there is now room for someone else. I don't think I would date a woman who did not take her oun kids needs above someone she was dating. That is the reality of having kids. Like it or not they are life time resposibitly. You will still worry and try to help them when they in their 40's. Being a parent never stops. If you dont understand that dont have kids. Once you get serous with someone you will take there needs in to account more than when you 1st start dating. I had to cancell a date once because my son got sick. The woman did not want to date anymore because of it. We had only gone out 2 so no lose and better to find out early. This is simple if you see the "children priority" and you are worried about than that person is not for you. THis is what this site is all about. WHy you have a profile in the 1st place to help other people understand a little about you before you meet. Take care.

tmbmx

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"it is not about the truth" has anyone else read it? Posted: 6/18/2007 4:12:41 PM
As a lacrosse parent I read as soon as it came out. Have been around Lacrosse players for 6 years and football players. I know after the first report something was fishy. After reading the book one would have to ask themselfs why would you let your child go to a school like Duke. Since the school would not stand behind there players. Granted if they did wrong the school could off them the same support a parent would in that situation. There are pleanty of example of the sme situation but with football players. To fire the coach with a grduation rate the Mr. Pressler did really sends me a bad message. I would really like to know what other people think.

tmbmx

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Any Formula One Fans here Posted: 6/18/2007 4:00:15 PM
Correct me if I am wrong but isnt the last year world champ driving the smae car and getting beat by the rookie. Not only in the race but in qualifing. Faster lap times dont lie.

tmbmx

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do I need to calm down? Posted: 4/9/2007 2:25:36 PM
The only thing I can add is to actaul sit down and have serouis talk with him about the situation. Sex is a huge part of your life and You will get angery if the sitation keeps up.

tmbmx

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What to do? In an UNHAPPY marriage?? Posted: 2/11/2007 10:33:18 PM
I would ask you to seek marriage counsuling. You need to talk to him and he need to open up to you. You might need someone elses help to get to the real problems and to help work them out. Good luck

tmbmx

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The Writings On The Wall Posted: 2/11/2007 10:28:16 PM
yes it the job of the magic eraser. True story When my oldest was 2 i was working 3rd shift. my wife was home with the kids all day. He had just got a little sister. He had drawn on the walls few time and got in trouble for it. One Day I wake up to his mother yelling at him for drawing on the wall. I get up to see what is going on and he has drawn all down the hall. Still be in a sleepy state I ask him in a load voice, what is this! He say well this is my siter and this is venus(the dog) and he contuined to explain his drawings. Caught me completely off guard. All i could do was laugh.

tmbmx

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How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help? Posted: 2/11/2007 10:17:25 PM
I have court ordered child support. Of course she has never paid any in 3 years. it is only hurting her kids but she does not care. She see them when it fits into her schedule. and my youngest alway has a bad atitude when he gets home. You are not alone just do the best you can with what you have and pray it is enough.

tmbmx

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Will Abandonment Help In Court? Posted: 2/11/2007 10:13:59 PM
I suggest seeing a lawyer laws vary for state to state it is beeter to know your rights. I know in Fl if you a woman who does not get child support the state will help her out.If you are a male they could careless.

tmbmx

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Things your ex did in bed that your current does'nt! Posted: 2/11/2007 10:08:03 PM
Gee for me it is I did not know what I was missing till I found my new lover. OMG it is so much better is so many ways!!!!!!!!!!!!

tmbmx

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engaged after only a few months Posted: 2/11/2007 9:50:44 PM
Well I will say it is not for me. I have been dating a wonderful woman for almost a year now. We just had our first serous talk about getting married. We agreed if it were not for our kids we would get married in a anoother year. Now my Ex wife meet someone on thanksgiving weekend and was engaged by Xmas. they are getting married on 07/07/07. I do not think this is a good example for my kids but that is her choice. The only I can think of is a least now she does not have an excuse to be late with her child support.

tmbmx

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Does True love Exist? Posted: 2/11/2007 9:42:05 PM
YES IT DOES. It took me 3 years after my divorce to find it but it was worth the wait. I did find true love on the internet. I found someone who live 2 mile from my house I might not have ever meet if it were not for being on line. Now to keep it you have to be willing to work at it. Love is like a garden that always need tending. If both people are willing to work at it it will last forever.

tmbmx

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what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you Posted: 2/11/2007 9:34:04 PM
Having been in this situation i can tell you what I did. I told her no I did not know her well enough. And cut thing off right there. the next day I called her and told her that I did not feel the connection she did not to call anymore. After the third time she called me I told if she kept it up i would get a restaining order. then she left me alone. Not a fun position to be in for any one. Good luck.

tmbmx

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Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women? Posted: 2/11/2007 9:27:34 PM
You have to live with what a person is like on the inside. you can have the best outward apperance but if the inside is empty thing will not work out. There is alot to be said for the saying Beauty is only skin deep. Who is anyone to judge what one person find attractive in another.

tmbmx

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Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Posted: 1/19/2007 10:34:13 PM
OK Here come my inner geek yes I wait at midnight to the next Harry book. I have done so since the 3rd book.

tmbmx

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not ED but i wonder... Posted: 1/19/2007 10:13:06 PM
^^^^^ where were you when my harley would not start? ^^^ Just kidding, yes it was hs problem not your yours.

tmbmx

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snowballing? Posted: 1/19/2007 9:36:40 PM
I will file this under things I did not need to know!!!!

tmbmx

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Letting SO's meet your children Posted: 1/19/2007 9:30:18 PM
Well I can only speak for my experiences with dating. I have alway waited before introducing my kids to someone I was dating. I told I was going out on dates. believe me I went out on quite a few date with people a couple times. I did not think that my kids needed to meet them. I waited till I found someone I thought there was a chance of a serous relationship. For me it was 3 months. I thought is was a good idea to for them to see me dating in a positive way.

tmbmx

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Do any dads get child support from the moms Posted: 1/19/2007 9:21:25 PM
yes you get child support from the court. On the other hand no one will enforce on a woman like they would a man. My ex has not paid me n over 2 years. My only option is to send her to jail. WHat good would that do. It would only hurt my kids. My older understand the situation. they resent there mother for and have no respect for because of what she did to them. I have alway incouraged them to have a good relationship wth her but I will not force them.

tmbmx

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Too Old To Bike Or Skateboard With The Kids? Posted: 1/19/2007 9:14:20 PM
National Bicycle League (BMX organazation) has A over 55 divsion for people to compete in. So no your not to old. My mom is 69 and she bike over 50 mile a week and Roller dance at least twice a week. I am in my forty still surf and bike. Doing thing with your kids will only help you build your relationship with them. Keep having fun.

tmbmx

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Do women date single dad's who live with there kids Posted: 1/19/2007 9:05:52 PM
DO NOT GIVE UP. It took me 3 years but i finaly meet a great woman and have been with her for 9 months. At this point in time I can help but wonder why God would not have let me meet her first. I guess I had to go through hell to get to heaven. Just dont give up and be honest and true to yourself.

tmbmx

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What is the #1 turn off you've encountered with the opposite sex? Posted: 11/15/2005 6:43:54 PM
Someone who is not comfortable in there oun Skin.

tmbmx

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How long should u wait?OH GOD SLOW DOWN''''' Posted: 11/15/2005 6:38:44 PM
you are 19 you can take a couple of weeks to be sure of everything. if you are really in love with each other it will not matter. Just remember you are the most precious gift you can give to another person. Good Luck and hope thing work out for you.

tmbmx

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Do you like to watch when he is eating you? Posted: 11/15/2005 6:02:45 PM
Well if I am doing it right her eyes are not going to open anyway and her head usualy tilts back. So what differance does it make.

tmbmx

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What is your Life Principle? Posted: 11/15/2005 5:51:22 PM
Living life on my terms. I have certian value that I hold dear i will not bend them sorry. I treat people as i wish to be treated. I an honest with everyone. Even when it gets me into trouble. Life is to short not to try and enjoy it. Most of all try and not let the negitive people get me down.

tmbmx

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what book (if any) are you reading right now Posted: 11/15/2005 5:36:45 PM
rereading goblet fo fire before i see the movie on thursday. ( am i a total geek or what)

tmbmx

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Two date and you want to get married? Posted: 11/14/2005 12:33:03 PM
I completely understand the what are you looking for long term conversation. I believe that is important. That said what I am talking about is woman who become instantly attached to me for some reason. Sorry i need a little time. I might really like them but I am not one to be so open as to tell another that I am going to spend the rest of my life with someone I have meet twice. I know in my heart it is not all woman but lately I wouild propably swear it were true. I was married the first time for 18 years. I would like to find something long term but I just dont think I will know that in two dates. I would like to think I would know I was really interested in someone in two date but knowing I want to marry them in two is something else. Thank you for all the helpful comments.

tmbmx

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eh hem.... Posted: 11/12/2005 5:41:28 PM
ok its saturday night i am about done wiht a bottle of sparmkling wine and a pizza watching the Wizard of Oz. DOes this mean I am bored?

tmbmx

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What music are you listening to right now......(with a twist) Posted: 11/12/2005 5:39:12 PM
dont take this the wrong way and remember i have almost finished a bottleof wine by my self but how about the Who "kids are alright" in my pants

tmbmx

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Two date and you want to get married? Posted: 11/12/2005 5:04:13 PM
Is it me or have woman go physco. Lately I go out and on the 2nd date they are talking about being together for a life time. I am sorry it is only two dates I dont even know them yet. Is it like this for everyone? Or is it that I just cant meet a normal woman. My answer is to sit home on a Saturday night and have some pizza, watch the Wizard of Oz, and a bottle of Rosa Regale all to my self. Ok so i am sharing the pizza with the kids but the sparkling wine is all MINE. Plaese someone tell me there are normal people out there some where. here's to hoping you'll have good luck fishing.

tmbmx

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Naming past lovers Posted: 11/6/2005 11:30:45 AM
there is only on name lately that is why I have backed off dating for a while it has become realy scary for me. PHYSCO!!!!!!!!!

tmbmx

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what put a major smile on your face today? Posted: 10/28/2005 9:52:08 PM
even though it was cold today in the 70's I was aable to put on a coat and drive with the top down.

tmbmx

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Rondele Spread Posted: 10/24/2005 9:42:29 PM
i like the sun dried tomato

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Friends Posted: 10/14/2005 1:00:23 AM
I am still friends with my ex wife. I am almost sure that if it were not for the kids we would not be. I am not sure on this but I think it is possible if you work at it.

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