if she replies to and shows you interest she obviously wants to date bro. So just ask casually.. which is what i do all the time, and most of the time they say "yes" because I know that when I ask I do it after getting a reply back and we have a decent conversation. Girls wanna guy that takes charge so dont be a wussy about it you know what i mean. be a man and ask. shes not gonna say no trust me dawg. once u guys go out.. make sure you claim ur prize ;)

After all these months of being a forum user, do you still need to continually repeat the same thing over and over? OMG...we're all sick of it and your reply has nothing to do with the OP. Get out in the real world if you're still not having success on here. Average looking people can have success with the right attitude - I know 'cause I am average but my attitude doesn't suck.

People lie about all sorts of things as they are delusional. People come on here and say, "I am a good looking man/woman and can't figure out why nobody replies to my messages". Well, in their mind they think they're hot, when in fact they are just average. So, a guy who exaggerates about the size of his penis in some cases may also be delusional

huh? once again, we did not date. It wasn't because he didn't have money. (although we were both in hawaii at the same time, he said his mom paid for his ticket, yeah that was a turn off, definitely). I'm attracted to men that don't have a lot of money. but I wouldn't consider them as part of my future. so why date them? It's true I am attracted to men who are successful, and who follow their passion, those things usually entail making more money. I just don't see the big deal of it. we all have dating preferences, and money is only one preference. except it's more a representation of beliefs about yourself and the world than say, clothes, job, etc.
someone mentioned it being tacky asking about income at first... we don't all think that way and we aren't all so scared about asking about finances and hurting someone's pride. that's includes me being asked as well.

not trying to be rude But it also says ask a girl .. I am ASking women to tell me what the hell is wrong if i wanted an opinion from some 40 year old man id say that. get a grip pops

I couldn't agree more with this statement, and your entire post @frenchamericanhybrid.
people often read into things and see what isn't there because they are measuring them against their own perceptions and values. she's not wrong, he's not wrong, they just think differently. you can see how differently people think just by reading the various posts and opinions here.

Thanks capt. never really thought of that my pics are pretty lame

If my idea of a weekend away is running around in another country and his idea is staying at his best friends home.. we have a disconnect there. Maybe it's financial, maybe it's not. Either way.. how would be plan our "couple" vacations?
And yes.. amazing is second.. because it's hard to be amazing if you are homeless or mommy does your laundry. LOL

I didn't say it did necessarily. I was referring to the traits that I, me, myself, find masculine. that's one of many according to ME

actually, we never went out. I said I was attracted to him, which was the first younger guy I had ever been attracted to

In answer to your first question, call it whatever you want, but I don't consider it very masculine when a guy makes less than me

who said I only go for guys with great looks? that's subjective. of course I'm going to pick someone similar to myself. and I am certainly not going to date a guy who makes less than me, or even the same. I expect more.

does not mean that they are bad, evil, gold diggers, shallow, immoral, what have you. just different.

Yep….you boys are all ugly, and every woman on PoF and in the universe is a hypocrite. Good job uncovering the bitter truth!

If that half naked guy up there made noises like the rest of you boys, he’d be just as womanless as you

Looks are all that matters, you are completely correct. I am a major ***hole and got a girl on here to agree to anal sex in under 5 messages. My buddy, who is average, msged a shit ton of women and recieved no response. Natural selection at its finest

That is the most classic thing I have ever read. It only shows the true hypocrisy of the women on this site.. I love reading about how they are done with the games and all of them are going for the same a## holes.. It is what it is tho.. I suggest hitting the gym and getting out there and giving some back..

Well, I made the first move (which I very, very rarely d0) and sent a "flirt" to the man I'm currently seeing, and this is what caught my attention:

- His profile pic (yes, call me shallow, but after clicking through countless profiles, when I saw his pic I was like "wow, this guy is FINE") It was a clear, non-grainy, professional picture of him in uniform, and I could clearly see his face and part of his body. The rest of his pictures were also very high quality, clear, non-blurry and non-grainy, showing him during his travels. In each picture, he looked friendly, well-groomed, confident, hot (LOL), intelligent, interesting, etc.

- His stated intention - it said that he was actively looking for a relationship. That made me really happy, because that's what I was looking for. Had it said he was "not looking for any commitment" or "hang out", I would have moved on with a heavy heart.

- He is an upgraded member. If he is willing to pay, to me that means he takes the whole online dating more seriously and is not just looking for a cheap thrill.

- He had been married before and has kids - all good, because we have that in common.

So after I sent him my "flirt", he wrote back to me, we had a few nice exchanges, he asked for my number and a few days later we had an amazing first date. I'm very, very happy I made the first move, but if he hadn't taken the lead after that, I doubt it would have turned into more.

And Captain, FYI, I know several very attractive younger women (in your age range) who are married to guys that are not as attractive physically as you are. There is more to it than looks for some of them too, you just have to find the right ones. The good news is that once finding this type of woman, she will most likely be very loyal to you because she has her head on straight and is more mature

When all you do is whine and bash women, saying that we're so shallow? You can dish it out, but can't take it. You are a troll

As for everything else, "attractive" is subjective. Not everyone women shares the same view of what's attractive and what's not.

Hmm, did you ever think maybe women find it "attractive" when YOU approach THEM?