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some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Profile review PLEASE Posted: 11/24/2009 12:35:57 AM
ok so I tried it ya'lls way, and now I'm tryin it mine. So how's that working for you? The right woman for you will find your lying, arrogance, list of demands and controlling attitude very attractive. Anyone else isn't worth a second thought. I don't think you should change a single thing in your profile. It serves well as a warning to any woman who might be interested in you.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

Question about a girl Posted: 11/22/2009 11:00:40 PM
My guess is that it means she talks often to her friend about her relationship problems and you just sometimes happen to be near enough to hear some of many such conversations.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

my page! is it too much??? Posted: 11/22/2009 10:55:31 PM
i seem to get alot of wasters messagin me and the 1s i message say im a player? wat can i change to sort this?! Your attitude perhaps? You could start by taking some of the good advice you've been offered instead of being defensive about it. and also people saying my pics are too fake looking? Your pictures are fine. i thought the idea was to attract people? Yep, that's the idea. What would you think of a woman's profile if it was written like yours? You may find such profiles attractive, but I doubt many others do. any help would b good Except, apparently, the help you've been offered so far. Seems to me you like your profile just the way it is. If so, then don't change a thing.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 114 (view)

Depression and spirituality Posted: 11/22/2009 10:27:51 PM
^^^^sickness and death are the result of sin and disobedience... So are you saying I sinned before I was born because I was born with a birth defect causing an endocrine disorder which is directly related to my clinical depression? I guess I should have reconsidered my pre-birth disobedience before I went ahead and decided to be born. What was I thinking?

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Profile review please! Really not to good with making one... Posted: 11/22/2009 8:52:52 AM
Your profile could use quite a few adjustments, but I'm only going to address the areas that jump out at me most. Your pictures are ok. However, as adorable as your gecko might be, nobody wants to date her, so her picture doesn't belong here unless you're in it too. I'm not sure what impression you're going for, but the impression I get from your pictures (and your statement here that you don't have any others) is that you don't have any friends with cameras. My guess is that's not really what you're after. As a VIP member, you're allowed 16 pictures. If at all possible, find a way to get enough good pictures of yourself to fill all of them. Ahh internet dating sites, its to bad we filter people by their looks first and go by their profile afterwards. Delete. Your first sentence sets the tone for the rest of your profile. Negativity is never a good start if you're trying to attract someone. It also kind of sounds like you're fishing for a compliment about your looks. Do you really think you're looks are so unattractive that you need to do that? Even if... stop it. I'm here to meet new people and see if I can maybe meet the right person for me. You selected dating as what you're here for, so this is unnecessary. Delete. Don't let these basic interests make you run off! , I'm always up for anything , or nearly! Sounds not only negative, but desperate as well. Delete. So your still here reading ? Why don't you send me an email and we can talk? I'm not the type that wants to meet the first week , I like to get to know the person! Same advice as above. You need to say what your Ms Right is like. How are any women to know if they might be her if you don't say anything about what makes a woman attractive to you? You have some sentence structure and punctuation errors that should probably be corrected as well, but I'm not the best person to help you with those.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

profile review, don't hold back! Posted: 10/3/2009 10:57:52 PM
Hmmm... the harsher the feedback the better... Sorry to disappoint you, but I actually enjoyed reading your profile. I couldn't even find any typos. Looking forward to seeing your pictures once you post them. Oh, and be sure to take the excellent photo advice you've already been given. The only real suggestion I can make is to possibly say a little more about your Ms Right. The more clearly you describe her, the more likely she is to recognize herself in your words.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Be harsh if need be Posted: 10/1/2009 9:22:27 PM
After following this thread for awhile, I almost wasn't going to bother reviewing your profile. Your bickering with canam miles tells me more than enough about your personality to form impressions and opinions. Of course, I'm expecting you to shoot down what I say like you've done with the others, but that's quite alright... my skin is quite thick. It wouldn't hurt you to get a thicker skin as well. You have been given some good advice already in this thread. However, it appears that you don't recognize it. Is your subject line "Be harsh if need be" actually just an invitation to argue? You're still quite young, so perhaps it's just that you haven't yet learned to accept constructive criticism in the spirit in which it's intended. dicho Tommy and a few others have offered you some good suggestions that I'll try not to repeat too much. Where to begin? Unnecessary filler. Delete. ...I love to have a good time. Don't we all? I am very big on humor and I joke around all the time. Don't just say it... show it. I love to travel. I have been to several of the islands in the Caribbean (Jamaica, Bahamas, and the Grand Caymans) and I want to go back. I plan on traveling to Europe and Australia. I'm not sure what exactly I want to do in Europe but Germany is a definite. This is the most interesting part of your entire profile. Ah almost forgot to add what I'm looking for. Unnecessary filler. Delete. I am looking for a girl with a great sense of humor, is nice (cliche),... All guys want this, don't they? And it can describe anyone. After all, who doesn't think they fit this description? Other than myself, I don't know of anyone who believes themselves to be humorless and not nice. ...enjoys hanging out... Doing what? ...and is looking for a great guy... Aren't all women looking for a great guy? Do you have something to back up your claim to be a great guy? It's not apparent at all in your profile and extremely obvious in your forum posting history that this claim is false. ...so let me know if you think you fit the bill. You don't really think any woman is going to do this, do you? So far, none of this says anything about what the woman will be like as a person. The woman you're looking for could be just about anyone and everyone. Hope you like adventure because I find myself on them all the time. This is the closest I've seen to a special quality you'd like your Ms Right to possess. Perhaps you could expand on this so she has a clue whether her idea of adventure is anything like yours. And for the record, canam miles is one of the best profile reviewers on this site. With the exception of seeing him waste his time indulging your need to prove some sort of point, I can't say I've ever really disagreed with his assessments of the profiles he's reviewed. He doesn't sugar coat anything and he never coddles adults. He gives what is asked for, good or not so good, if he feels it's deserved. The fact that you managed to make him unwilling to review yours speaks volumes.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Casual Relationships...... Can they work???? Posted: 10/1/2009 5:30:48 PM
"Casual relationships" or FWB can work fine for their intended purpose, as long as you don't delude yourself thinking it will turn into something else. If that's the only thing he wants you for and you're not ok with only that, then yes, he might be taking advantage. However, since he said that's all he wants, if you agree to it and then try to make it into something more, then you could be seen as deceptive and manipulative. Just because he's willing to travel far to see you, doesn't necessarily mean he has a wife or doesn't want anyone he knows to see you together. Unfortunately, that's the most likely scenario, but that doesn't have to be the only reason(s). I have a long time (years) online friend who has no wife or kids and just an ordinary job, so it wouldn't be a big deal if anyone knew he had an FWB. Several years ago, a few years into our friendship, he said he wanted to drive the 1200 miles to my town to meet me and possibly start a 'casual relationship' with me. Besides thinking that was an incredible waste of time and gas, I just wasn't interested in him that way. To my surprise, he was fine with that and we're still friends. When I asked him about wanting to travel so far for what he could get there at home, all he said was that he couldn't get it from me there. I never did get a 'real' answer, but I just let it go and we continued our friendship same as always. ive not dated for a long time and to me its wrong... whats everyone elses opinion???? If really is wrong to you, then other people's opinions shouldn't matter. As an adult, you don't need anyone's 'permission' if you want to go ahead. You also don't need excuses if you don't.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

I just thought that I would show you what a perfect profile should look like. Posted: 10/1/2009 3:56:46 PM
Yes, I read every word. Is there something you think I missed? If so, please direct me to it and I will take another look. In my humble and honest opinion, I do believe you have the potential to create an excellent profile. This one just doesn't happen to be it. Hahaha about ironing the shirt. I don't even iron my own but I still wear them and nobody has ever accused me of looking like a slob.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

I just thought that I would show you what a perfect profile should look like. Posted: 10/1/2009 3:11:56 PM
Wow... I must say I completely agree with canam miles and Irish Eyez. You might believe your profile is better than anyone else's, but you can't honestly believe it will persuade any woman to want to date you. You don't... do you? Really?? If you are serious, you need to tell us something about who you are and what's important to you. I don't mean saying all the things you think everyone else says or does wrong. Your profile is supposed to be about you and the woman you hope to find, if you're truly hoping to find one. Woman bashing is not the best way to create interest. It's a huge turn off. Or use Chrome as your browser, it has a built in spell-checker! Is "deap" sea diving anything like 'deep' sea diving? Just sayin'... And please do put on a shirt.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

My friend says my profile sounds gay?...does it? Posted: 9/23/2009 9:30:54 PM
The first half of this profile is plagiarized... there's a woman somewhere here in the fora who has the exact same for her profile, which I'm sure she didn't come up with on her own either. Plagiarism aside, you need to take this to Profile Reviews.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Profile reviewers, come on down! You're the next contestant on my profile ain't right! Posted: 9/16/2009 8:39:39 PM
With the exception of the full-body photo you're going to get tomorrow and the minor adjustment (in bold) below, I can't see anything about your profile that you should change. It's a good read (gsoh, imo) and I really got a sense of who you are, what's important to you, and what you're looking for. People often accuse me of being bubbly and vivacious. Good luck and happy fishing :)

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

So Jehovah's Witnesses showed up at my door... Posted: 9/16/2009 7:57:58 PM
Answering the door with "Crisis of Conscience" by Raymond Franz in your hands will usually make them leave and not return.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

What's Up With All The Falling Leaves ??? Posted: 9/15/2009 4:48:38 PM
The trees where I live are changing color much the same as those by you. It also seems to be only a tree changing here and there, rather than several in one area. Perhaps someone will have an understandable explanation for the interior maple leaves changing color while the exterior are still very green. I can't recall ever seeing that before, but saw quite a few trees changing that way last week. I'm glad I'm not the only person who has noticed this and thinks it unusual. This summer has been cooler than any others I can remember. We had a long dry spell and days with temps that were anywhere near 80 degrees were few and far between. It seemed to warm up a bit after we finally got some rain. What was most different here so far was the complete lack of thunderstorms and tornado watches/warnings for all of May and June. We usually have many of each every year. I think we may have only had two or three thunderstorms all summer and not one single tornado alert yet in this area.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Any advice would be appreciated. Posted: 9/7/2009 8:00:36 PM
What you already have is pretty good. What you need to add is a description of what your Ms Right is like so perhaps she will recognize herself in your words.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

Disabled dating ? Posted: 9/5/2009 2:51:40 PM
“My partner has a disability but never had problems finding relationships because of it.” He certainly never found anyone online.... Are you absolutely certain about this? And how exactly do you know? OT... I think people (not just men) who use disability as an excuse for not finding the relationships they want are just unwilling to consider the idea that it could be something entirely different and far more important about them that turns people off. It may even be their own "crazy fantasy expectations" that make it so difficult.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Is it decieving to upload a picture without glasses Posted: 8/25/2009 9:17:20 PM
I don't know if it's deceiving really, but if that's not your usual look then someone else might think so. Personally, I like the way most people look with glasses. I like the picture of you wearing yours better than the ones without. But that's just me...

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Is it really that odd to not have a pet? Posted: 8/21/2009 4:43:45 PM
Some people may think it's odd not to have a pet, but I believe some people simply have no business having them. Also, there are lots of people with allergies and shouldn't be thought odd for not wanting to endure those symptoms just to please other people. Back in my younger, healthier and wealthier days, my family lived on a farm with a dog, a fish, a bunny, a house cat and more barn cats than I care to try to count. My children grew up with animals throughout almost their entire childhoods and both have pets now as adults. My daughter brings her kitten whenever she visits. She used to do the same with her fish until she got settled into a house where she feels ok leaving him overnight. When my son returns from school out of state early next year, I'm sure he'll bring at least his dog to visit when he comes to see me. He also has a cat and a chinchilla and used to have exotic birds as well. I gave my brother my cat after we lived with him awhile and then moved to an apartment where pets weren't allowed. My cat has grown very attached to him and is very well cared for and happy living there. He enjoys her company as well, and since they live next door now, I can visit them any time I want to. I don't feel I could give a pet the proper care and attention it would deserve, so I feel it would be wrong to have one just to say I have one. I love children and animals, but at this point in my life, I prefer those I can send home after awhile.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Your personal forum history Posted: 8/11/2009 11:17:10 AM
I generally read my own posting history every few months, usually as I'm updating my profile. My memory isn't very good anymore, so I like to review my posted thoughts in case there are any I'd like to include in my updates. Since I post the same way I think and speak, I have never (yet) regretted or felt embarrassed by anything I've said here. I've caught a few typos and some bad grammar that I sometimes wish I could have corrected before the 15 minute edit time expired, but all in all my posts are an excellent representation of me. I agree with Write Time about this: Y'know, a photo is a superficial image, and a profile is the contrived message that we want to send to the world. Forum posts tend to be the real deal, and I think they do say a lot about a person. Near the bottom of my profile, I actually suggest reading my forum posts if anyone wants to learn more about me. I sure wouldn't do that if I was embarrassed by them.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Two Way Street Messaging Posted: 7/30/2009 10:02:56 PM
Since I'm not single/not looking, I have absolutely nothing to lose, I have no problem sending messages to people with interesting, funny, or exceptionally well written profiles. I have much more courage and confidence now than I did when I was new here and single and looking... and a much thicker skin. Because I just hang around the forums here, I usually only look at profiles of other forumites. As I read through the threads that interest me, I see people with similar interests or else they wouldn't bother posting there. Sometimes I send messages because of something they've posted and other times because of something they've said in their profiles. Almost everyone I contact first replies, usually thanking me for kind words or some such nonsense. I always appreciate the replies, even if that's the last contact we ever have. However, a few have become my friends over time and I feel very fortunate for that.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 109 (view)

why can't people just be who they are Posted: 7/28/2009 7:42:47 PM
When people ask for profile reviews, if anything sounds negative, most of the advice they're given is to remove it or at least put a "positive spin" on it. Since the man the OP met didn't actually lie (imo), even though what he said was pretty misleading, perhaps this is what happened with him. Or maybe he had been in a much worse situation before and had some sense of pride and self respect for working his way up as far as he had. Or maybe, like another poster suggested, he's really quite well 0ff and this was just sort of a test to see whether the OP could like him just for himself. Not that I think that would be most likely possibility or the right thing to do, but it could be what happened. We don't all try to make ourselves sound or look better than we are. Some of us are absolutely truthful with our words and photos. Back when I was single and looking, I highlighted all the positives about myself that I could. I received my fair share of first contacts from men, just like most of the other women here. Now that I'm no longer available and have very bluntly expressed my perception of the truth about myself, I receive more email from interested men than ever before, in addition to those who only write to give me grief. I can't imagine why I hear from so many now, but maybe they just appreciate my candor and honesty.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Am I intimadating or something? Posted: 7/26/2009 4:03:49 PM
No, you're not intimidating at all. It's just kind of the nature of the beast around here that men want to say something to the ladies but don't always know what to say. Actually, in my opinion, with the exception of a few spelling errors, your profile isn't too bad. Your pictures are good too. The one thing that really jumped out at me as needing to change is that while you say you're looking for friends, you have 'part time love maker' as your profession. I know it says 'student' there too, but I doubt too many of the guys will notice that part. That may just give some people the wrong idea. Or not. Just thought I'd mention it.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

Review please :) Posted: 7/26/2009 3:48:12 PM
I agree with the other posters about pictures. You also need to say what kind of woman you're attracted to. Suggesting to them to shoot you a message is the least effective way to get women to do so. Especially if they have no clue what you're looking for. Oh... and don't bother paying for your membership. I doubt it helps that much and might even make you seem desperate.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

Why Did You Get Divorced or Break Up While You Were Pregnant Or Had Young Children? Posted: 7/24/2009 4:21:34 PM
Yes, my mother wanted me to stay with him. He blamed me for everything that was wrong with his life and she agreed with him. She insisted I provoked him into doing everything he did and told me I deserved whatever I got. She also blames me for his throwing our daughter across the room. She's still extremely close to him, referring to him as "the son she always wished she had" (she already has a son) and treats him better than she treats most people in her biological family. No, I don't still speak to her, but for a totally unrelated reason. People sometimes don't realize how difficult it is to get out of such situations and that staying together for the sake of the kids isn't always in their best interest.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

Why Did You Get Divorced or Break Up While You Were Pregnant Or Had Young Children? Posted: 7/24/2009 3:47:02 PM
My children's father never wanted to work. He was angry that I was trying to "change him" by expecting him to get a job. He was very abusive (all forms) from very early in our marriage. However, my mother always took his side no matter what, which only seemed to give him permission to continue to abuse me. Being pretty young and without any support system, I tolerated a lot that I wouldn't dream of putting up with now. We split up when the kids were 1 and 4. The day he threw our daughter literally across the room and then tried to beat me to death was the day I decided to divorce him. My mother was furious with me for that decision, but I could no longer let her anger sway my choices. Our staying together was in nobody's best interest, especially our children's. I could not risk their safety or make them grow up without a mother if he would have successfully murdered me at some later time. I'm glad they were young enough to not have any memory of him living with us and all the abuse they saw. I know I should have left him sooner, but didn't have the resources to do so or anyone to turn to for help. My second ex-husband helped me raise my children from only a few months after my divorce from their father until they were out on their own. He still has an excellent relationship with him and does whatever he can to help them. He is the best dad any kid could ever ask for, and knowing just that fact alone makes me certain divorcing their father was the right decision.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Interesting new show depicting today's relationships... Posted: 7/23/2009 9:20:53 PM
am wondering if these folks that date within their own body type do it by preference or because they feel they should or they just feel as if that is the best they can do. There are probably a lot of people who lower their standards because they don't think it's right to expect from someone else what they don't have to offer themselves. I would hate to be the person someone settled for. Once in awhile, I think my SO only stays with me because he doesn't think he can do better. However, I also think that if that's the case, it's his problem and not mine. I was not a better person before I got fat and I would not be a better person if I lost the weight again. I am who I am either way. Even when I was painfully thin, which I was until only a few years ago, I was always most attracted to big cuddly men. I was only ever with one man who was also thin, but only because I was attracted to the person he was and not what he looked like.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Education Posted: 7/23/2009 7:21:43 PM
Why is it people pre judge a person for not knowing what they want to do? You're only 20 years old, just a couple years into adulthood. I don't think it's necessary to have your life all planned already. Even if you did, nobody really knows what the future will bring. I tried that when I was your age, but it turned out life had different plans for me. I was told, in simple terms, that because I don't have any post secondary education, I am considered stupid. I highly doubt you're stupid. Some people are smart enough to understand that they aren't ready for post secondary education right after high school. The most intelligent man I've ever known never even finished high school. I earned a degree many years ago and I'm still no more intelligent than I was before I received it.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 7/23/2009 5:16:38 PM
I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman expecting a man to be as self-sufficient as he expects her to be. If I can do it on my tiny fixed income, there's no excuse for others to not be able to do the same. Expecting a man to be able to support himself and not become a financial burden to the woman is hardly gold digging, even though way too many men believe otherwise. Edit: My opinion is that any legal form of income is ok and as long as he can get himself where he needs to be whether he has a car or not, that's ok too.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Sooooo how bad is it? Posted: 7/21/2009 5:03:56 PM
Is that just reality on here? Yes. You've only been here about a week. Fine tuning your profile is a good thing. Asking for advice how best to do so is a good thing. Accepting constructive criticism and applying all useful suggestions are also good. Having no patience is not so good. There are some really terrific men who have been here for a long time (way longer than a week) and still don't get first contacts from women or replies to many of their emails. Keep tweaking your profile until you're satisfied with it and then give it some time. Just remember you will have to send out many many more messages than you expect to receive.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Who can you call? Posted: 7/19/2009 9:07:34 PM
One of my kids lives two hours away, the other two days away. If they lived closer, I'm sure they would do whatever they could for me if I needed anything. My friends are all long distance as well. My brother lives next door and has helped me more than anyone else ever has. I don't even have to ask him. If he knows I need something and he's able to do something about it, he just does it.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

Yeah! That's it! Give it to me! Posted: 7/19/2009 4:23:29 PM
haha! sweet! mission accomplished then. I didnt want to sound too nice. Im really glad that its not being perceived that way. No worries there. Not only do you not sound too nice, you don't sound nice at all. Oh. I should put a bunch of lies in it hah? Like, I volunteer twice a week at an orphanage for kids whos parents were killed by a belligerent band of Sasquatch impersonators. Nope, no sense lying. If your profile truly reflects the kind of person you are, then I would suggest not changing a single thing about it. It serves as a good warning to any woman who thinks she might be interested in you. If a woman decides to give you a chance anyway, at least she can't say she was deceived.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Paralyzed Posted: 7/19/2009 4:14:07 PM
From your profile: itd be nice to actually see someone want more with me Give them a good reason to want more with you. Guilt tripping women into giving you a chance isn't going to work.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions? Posted: 7/19/2009 12:27:28 AM
Since I'm not looking for a man here, my profile is pretty blunt and completely lacking charm and pleasantness. It's not really all that interesting, and because I have no desire whatsoever to "sell myself", it serves its intended purpose exactly the way it is. Near the end of it, I actually direct people to my forum posts. Anyone who is truly interested in learning more about me will also read my posting history. I have actually developed friendships with several of those people who have done so.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Should I change my looks to get a date? Posted: 7/7/2009 10:26:39 PM
Tryin to be someone your not is the same as lying, right? In my opinion, yes. do YALL think it would be ok to change for alittle while to find a good friend, then lover, then spring it on her who I really am?? How would you feel if you suddenly found out she's really totally different from who she led you to believe she was? Not such a great idea, in my opinion. Stay true to yourself. I don't think anyone should change themselves, looks or anything else, solely to try to find a potential partner. You know... the one that might possibly come along some day and might possibly be interested just because you look the way she thinks you should look. Meanwhile, you could be missing out on Ms Right who is really attracted to men with long hair and mustaches and would think that and everything else about you is just right for her, but she never even gives you a second glance because you look like what Ms Potential prefers. My SO recently cut off about 13" of hair and about 9" of beard to try to look more professional for his new career. He is very unhappy about it because the look doesn't fit his personality at all. He's tried it before, for a woman last time, and wasn't happy about it then either. Keeping it the way she wanted it didn't make her stay with him anyway. She still did whatever she did and was gone in the blink of an eye.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Why cant we all tell the truth? Posted: 7/7/2009 4:03:11 PM
Oh yeah, here we go again. Yet another 'fat women lie about their size' threads. You would have found dozens of threads just like this one if you had bothered to do a thread search.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Views but no messages...ladies help me out here Posted: 7/7/2009 3:10:04 PM
You don't say anything about the type of woman you're typically attracted to. How are any that view your profile supposed to know if you might be interested? I think the music stuff and the travel stuff are fine. I think the pics of you in the red shirt suck. I know you're just trying to show how you look with your beard, but they're so dark it's almost impossible to see what you look like.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

How can you loose your salvation. Posted: 7/6/2009 3:16:42 AM
A couple years ago, I had a friend who belongs to a certain religion that disapproves of use of the internet, reading books not previously approved by the organization, and conversations with people with different belief systems. The logic of the church she belongs to is that participating in any of these activities will stumble her in her faith. I asked her if she honestly believes her church teaches the only truth and she is absolutely certain and steadfast in her faith, how could hearing about other beliefs possibly stumble her? Couldn't that only happen if her faith was fragile because she already had some doubt, or at least some questions of her own? She told me she could no longer talk to me because she did not want to sacrifice her salvation by listening to the evil I was speaking. Apparently, one can lose salvation simply by listening to someone else's questions, reading books and/or using the internet. I still miss her sometimes.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

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Need your feedback, please Posted: 7/5/2009 12:49:11 PM
The only thing I can see that your profile needs is a really good description of the type of woman you're typically attracted to. Otherwise, it looks fine to me. I really like your pictures. I don't think they need changing at all. Just speculating, but perhaps a lot of the women you contact don't think they'll be able to keep up with your activities. See, many people claim to be really active doing really fun and interesting things, but their reality is somewhat different. Your photos show that you really do all that stuff, which might be a little too much for those who only wish they did. Of course, I could be wrong, as is frequently the case. If not that, then I have no idea what the problem might be. Hopefully some of the better profile reviewers will show up and help you out.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

wanting to know what is wrong with me or my profile please comment Posted: 7/4/2009 1:31:25 PM
You have no patience at all. This is your second profile review request in one day and only minutes after your first one. Ask the mods to delete them both and then post one request and try not to sound so desperate. In other words, don't say "please comment" at the end of it. You'll probably get a lot more people willing to help you out that way.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Please translate....what does this mean? Posted: 7/3/2009 3:21:33 PM
Although I disagree with spf30's notion that Canada is across the ocean from Seattle, I totally agree with her that your money would be best spent finalizing your divorce. It would hopefully bring closure to you both and you could both move forward with your lives.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Please translate....what does this mean? Posted: 7/3/2009 2:35:12 PM
She could be calling you a hell of a lot worse. I was going to say something like this but Silent Steel beat me to it.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Brutal and unrestricted honesty required Posted: 7/3/2009 2:03:12 PM
Look at the posting history of the guy/gal giving you advice. If they've done it for more than 10 people, IGNORE them. It's the old some people teach some people do syndrome. Most of the people pushing advice here couldn't get a guy/girl if they PAID for it. And some of us are in very happy, committed relationships that we didn't even have to pay for, and have a really good idea what works. Of course, advice from clueless folks might work best for some people too. (In no way is this comment intended to mean that single/available people are all clueless. I'm only referring to the ones who have no idea what they're talking about. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out who those people are.) Although for different reasons, I must agree about reading posting histories. In my opinion, that's one of the very best ways to see what a person is really all about. The best advice I can offer is this: When asking for and/or receiving advice, take what you need, apply what you can, and discard the rest.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Does my profile say SEX please!!!!!! Posted: 7/3/2009 2:01:44 AM
Unfortunately there are a bunch of bottom feeders out there that figure any woman who wears a 14 or larger MUST have low enough self esteem to screw even them. Wow... now there's an assumption or two for you. You must be kidding... right?? OP, I see nothing whatsoever that would lead to this conclusion. ^^^^^ I completely agree with all the advice to delete with no reply and block the losers who send you offensive messages. You don't have to tolerate such nonsense.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 176 (view)

Is it racism when.... Posted: 7/3/2009 1:22:22 AM
I guess Grand Prairie, Alberta must be swimming with asian chicks for the OP to specifically list them. I can count all the times an asian woman has contacted me through POF on zero fingers. I mean, in the off chance an asian woman were to contact you (probably like 100,000:1 odds) why not just respond with "Thanks, but not interested"? I couldn't agree more. Did anyone notice the OP hasn't been on this thread for awhile? Did anyone bother to look at his profile lately? It doesn't say anything about Asian women. Apparently, he made some sense out of all the replies he received and adjusted his profile accordingly.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

Thoughts and opinions on antidepressants Posted: 7/3/2009 12:33:09 AM
Chameleon Girl's explanation, especially being completely without judgment, is the best I've seen so far on this topic in the fora.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

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Does my profile say SEX please!!!!!! Posted: 7/3/2009 12:20:53 AM
The only thing I can see that could be interpreted/misinterpreted to have any sexual meaning at all would be your headline. I think men who are only after sex tend to loosely translate "my horns hold up my halo" to mean "get your free and easy sex here" even though you might not mean that at all. You know, the devil/angel thing. Any tiny hint of naughtiness is enough for some of the men like that to think that's all a woman is after. As for the rest of your profile, you don't say much of anything. Maybe telling more about yourself and the type of man who usually attracts you will help eliminate some of the unwanted messages. Or maybe not, but it's worth a try.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Brutal and unrestricted honesty required Posted: 7/2/2009 10:58:19 PM
The talk and hangout restrictions are the ones I'd pull Excuse the ignorance and just humor me, but which one(s) are you referring to? Thanks in advance for any input. When selecting your mail settings, you can choose who you want to restrict by what they're looking for. You selected 'talk/email' and 'hang out', so people who are looking for that can't contact you. I agree that you might want to get rid of those because it's not likely those people will contact you anyway if you're not looking for the same. Also, one never knows for sure what could develop between people who really thought they just wanted to talk or hang out.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Is it like baby bear's porridge?! Posted: 7/2/2009 10:38:12 PM
Because someone near and dear to me has a sense of humor, intellect and attitude very similar to yours, I think I can say with all confidence that your profile is 'just right' for you. I don't think you should should dumb it down or try to make your humor more subtle. The right woman will get it and she'll appreciate that you've put it out there the way you did. I'm actually not really actively looking. I'm just here as I really enjoy it and it's a great laugh! Perhaps the women you'd like to attract have already sussed this out and the women you're hearing from haven't quite picked up on this yet? Of course, they will now if they bother to read your posting history. I sure wish more people would do that anyway, because our forum posts usually say a lot more about us than our profiles do. The only two suggestions I can even think to make are to add more photos, at least one with a smile and no sunglasses, and to describe the kind of woman you'd like to attract. Since you don't really say what your Ms Right is like, those who are ill-suited to you have no real way of knowing that they aren't her. I've tried to construct my profile in such a way to be clear about what I look for! ...I'm so clear in my profile about what I'm not looking for ... It may seem clear to you, but most people need an actual description of the type of person one is normally attracted to. I suspect it's especially unclear to those women who don't 'get' you. Oh, and just one more thought. If you're receiving lots of messages, even if it's from women who aren't your type, you're still miles ahead of a lot (dare I say most?) of the men here. There are many really terrific men on this site who can't even seem to get replies to the messages they send, let alone receive initial contacts from women, whether their type or not.

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Tall Girls who wear heels Posted: 7/2/2009 8:40:50 AM
I'm 5'8" and dated a man 5'6" for a couple years. I don't wear heels, but it wouldn't have mattered if I did. He was already shorter than me, so what's a few more inches?

some woman

Joined: 5/16/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Guys ONLY Poll: Long Hair or Short Hair Posted: 7/1/2009 11:50:56 PM
If such is the case, then why are there two distinct forums to 'ask a guy' or 'ask a girl'. Why not merge them into one forum called 'ask a human' or 'ask anyone' ? Read the rules and find out.

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