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Marmite baby

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People are too selfish to become parents.... Posted: 11/8/2009 5:04:24 AM
This sounds like total twaddle and who really has children for patriotic reasons anyway? The one child rule in China comes to mind. Whether or not to have children is down to personal choice but seems odd to hear someone encourage birth rate. I just wonder what he hopes to achieve with that kind of statement and find it difficult to believe that consumerism would win over such a primal need. You need to be able to support children financially but I just don't believe that people could have the warped priorities you describe. Perhaps its just as well they're not parents.

Marmite Baby

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Should Ronnie biggs be a free man now? Posted: 8/11/2009 9:44:18 AM
Its my gut reaction, how many times have you wanted to beat the system? And who supported the credit crunch- yep banks for irresponsible lending? Its true though that if he hadn't been caught late he might have been free now. The justice system seems to give longer sentences for financial loss than rape, child abuse or violent thuggery. Spose thats what annoys me.

Marmite Baby

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Should Ronnie biggs be a free man now? Posted: 8/11/2009 9:28:28 AM
My gut feeling is that banking can be legalised dishonesty and in a perverse kind of way I quite admire Biggs.n He should do time but worse criminals get to enjoy their old age.

Marmite Baby

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Safety Going too Far in schools Posted: 6/20/2009 6:26:42 AM
Ona really sad note, lsa where I work is facing disciplinary action because she apparently shouted at a child. No decision yet. Lady in questionhasa heart prob and has been off for 3 weeks. I think this is relevant because it highlights silly legislation on the physical and EMOTIONAL rights of young people. But teachers and LSAs can get abuse with no come back. In thisclimate I'm amazed that teachers take childrenaway at all. GET TO BED equals disciplinary action

Marmite Baby

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Viagra at boots - available as a non perscription treatment Posted: 6/20/2009 6:20:39 AM
Thought it was really bad for people with high blood pressure. Sounds like irresponsible money making.

Marmite Baby

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What one thing will always put you off someone? Posted: 6/15/2009 11:37:57 AM
Bad teeth. We were limitted to one!

Marmite baby

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Man spared jail for trying to buy prostitute for son Posted: 5/16/2009 2:28:48 PM
Can't help comparing this to the woman who tried to hire a pro for her Downs Sydrome son. Why is this different?

Marmite baby

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Great yarmouth party 20th may Posted: 5/16/2009 2:25:38 PM
Just down the road from me! Will try to make it. Thanks for organising this.

Marmite baby

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Intelligent women enjoy sex more. Posted: 5/14/2009 1:43:54 PM
Imagination is far more important! Intelligence can be a curse. Depends on what the guy wants .

Marmite baby

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I need help with an assignment Posted: 4/30/2009 4:09:41 PM
V confused! The club seems to minimise the damage of drinking ie taxis etc The whole assignment is vague. Surely the club would have a target audience? Would be tempted to complain about said task. Can you have a generic club? Surely club means that people should have something in common with each other? I would imagine that the club is for young people; though perhaps the elderly binge drink , who knows; definitely can indulge in anti- social behaviour ie driving badly, holding up queues in shops. On a more seroius note would ask for clarification.

Marmite baby

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Sex every day for a year Posted: 4/30/2009 3:48:48 PM
From whom? Would look at sub contracting myself. Is she having a little poke at hubby, excuse the pun.

Marmite baby

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Do you believe in love at first sight? Posted: 4/29/2009 2:45:39 PM
Hi Marmite, let me intoduce to dulcet! Still believe in love at first sight, some primieval common sense. perhaps is isn't really first sight if you already know what you're looking for.

Marmite baby

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Flu Pandemic Posted: 4/28/2009 9:02:11 AM
I think it's probably nothing to worry about. Cases outside Mexico are described as mild and Britain has anti- virals to treat it. Am off sick today and will be tomorrow, bad stomach, been asleep for most of today.I always feel a bit paranoid when feeling ill after being abroad (Brazil) and bugs spread in schools. Two children have been hospitalised from infant school with a stomach bug. Still was quizzed when I phoned to say I wouldn't be in tomorrow! Just wish that people would stay at home if ill.

Marmite baby

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Should you treat them all the same? Posted: 4/27/2009 11:49:03 AM
Would suspect that the reason she stays is perceived lack of a better alternative. Plus maybe warped priorities, vicarious success. Does she think this guy is a catch, being well off and successful? If she is insecure it sounds like the guys playing on it. Why not find a woman in his own financial league?

Marmite baby

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Detention of children 'must stop' Posted: 4/27/2009 11:20:57 AM
I can't see any alternative but to keep the children at a detention centre. You can't look after all the needy children of the world, even if they don't mind being seperated from parents, who I believe, just want a life for their children. You can't just open the door to anyone who wants to live here. Seems unfair, but such is the lottery of birth place. Life's unfair!

Marmite baby

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Would it be more honest to seek a P/T relationship? Posted: 4/25/2009 10:50:54 AM
I just can't see the point in holding back if you've met someone special, and spending most of your time together. Joint finance could get a lovely home. You could try to protect yourself legally. A happy part time relationship doesn't equate to a miserable full time one. More that your partner will seek something more real. As in a nice house and similar lifestle. It's a question of wanting the same thing.

Marmite baby

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Messy Food Posted: 4/25/2009 10:34:03 AM
Have trouble eating anything low cal over any length of time. Totally blew it last night with barbeque ribs and satay sauce, heavenly messy! I don't do decapitation eg fish or prawns, but scrummy when done for me.

Marmite baby

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whats ur dream job? Posted: 4/25/2009 10:19:33 AM
Very valleys and mountains in my present job.In many ways teaching is my ideal job, but for various reasons don't love it as much as I used to. It probably isn't an exaggeration to say that the ways things have changed broke my heart. Was listening with envy about a colleagues daughter doing a media arts course. Anything to do with photography or cooking would float my boat. The best job I've ever seen was training Guide dogs for the Blind. I love expensive holidays, though live quite modestly. If money was no object, I'd retrain. Should add that I have no talent for above, just enjoy them! My ideal job be to go back to the way I felt about teaching. I really feel that I've lost something.

Marmite baby

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Dongles? Posted: 4/25/2009 6:53:32 AM
I use a 3 dongle, about £45 for device, plus £10 a month, I never pay more than this, and use the internet for about 12 hours a week. Would recommend a stiff dongle as opposed to dangly one (Ooh aah, missus etc), as suspect my dangly dongle re wrecked USB port on my laptop. I wonder if the weight , or movement,caused the port to become bent.

Marmite baby

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You & Teenage You Posted: 4/22/2009 7:44:16 PM
I would love the spirit, but be ashamed now of how awful I was with my mum but also , in hindsight think that my sister and I should have had more help in looking after her. I would hope that I'm a better person now.

Marmite baby

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What you reading right now and would you recommend it ?. Posted: 4/22/2009 7:24:18 PM
Yikes double post but love the school scene from Angelas Ashes. Took me a long time to get into it.

Marmite baby

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What you reading right now and would you recommend it ?. Posted: 4/22/2009 7:21:31 PM
For long lasting impression, An Innocent Man by John Grisham Capital punishnment, and We Need to Think about Daniel, School shootings.Can't remember author. Notes on a Scandal? re author Disturbing. More recently What Came Before He Shot Her Elizabeth George A bit meaningful, tells the shooters story. Last book Two Women Martina Cole. The Surgeon ? v Val Macdermid, ie Wire in the Blood. Plus eg Take a Break. I read to relax or feel or both.

Marmite baby

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Head or Heart? Posted: 4/22/2009 6:03:26 PM
You can't really go with your heart till meeting someone online ie not at all in my case! I think cold facts are better to begin with anyway, plus checking how authentic they are as much as poss. ie e mail, phone calls. Not convinced that meeting face to face in the real world is faster either. Even dated a guy I saw every day on 2 week holiday to be surprised! Have had spot on intuition and the opposite, none happened with the internet which, on another site , has been a slower process. It's easier to keep your cool. Just my experience. It really has to be a combination of head and heart. And state of mind, plus how pro-active the partner is. My headhas played a part in partners I've met in real life. I think it how in control you want to be is up to you, wherever you're looking.

Marmite baby

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Why Do Woman Love Their Soaps ? Posted: 4/20/2009 11:25:57 AM
Because it's the great arena of human day to day stuff,which combined with gossip elsewhere, I thrive on. Except more eventful, and Thank God , not happening to me! There's never a shortage of people to be interested in. Aka Singles holidays too. I love to hear peoples stories, live and fiction.

Marmite baby

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STUPID HEALTH MYTHS !! Posted: 4/20/2009 11:15:08 AM
Restrict your calories True. Small meals, poss helpful., depending on eating style.However you do it calories in and out would normally be the basis of any diet. Some drugs or thyroid conditions can make it harder.

Marmite baby

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Meds - for bipolar and depression Posted: 4/20/2009 10:41:39 AM
You need a medical opinion, but do know , from experience, that its possible to come off anti-ds without major probs. There is no reason to be afraid of stopping meds, although some have to be phased (all really but didn't bother with Prozac). The most diff to come off was Venlafaxine, Effexor, but it's doable. I took Ambien as well as anti-ds for some time, 14 years on Ambien. On and off SSRIs. and once on Venlafaxine, the most effective drug I've taken.I now take "just" Mirtrazapine. Great for sleep, but can cause weight gain. I've been off sick once with stress and work full time. I can still be a bit of a recluse, but in spite of being fatter, size 16, have more energy. I recently did a tour of Brazil, and was one of the three quarters who wasn't ill.Plus swam regularly. Compared to other women I wasn't that big. Really did me good. When I try to cut down I can't sleep.Really in 2 minds about giving them up.

Marmite baby

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What the Phuck.. Posted: 4/2/2009 12:46:51 PM
It does have to do with algebra in that neither make sense to some people. Alegbra more , because there are constants, as opposed to spelling. Common rules but far more variations.

Marmite baby

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What the Phuck.. Posted: 4/2/2009 12:16:31 PM
Wasn't Esperanto on the cards a few years ago? Major probs with spelling when foreign words are imported.mYou can't generalise. Though Norfolk place names make no sense. Happisburgh Sp? Is Haysburgh, Postwick is Possick. Bizarre vowel combinations on Scrabble plus q not followed by u. Yep really am that geeky! And if if dad thinks of a number, can happily puzzle. Though think he should be doing something more useful. Children are crap at real life Maths Nationally. You have to be able to use puzzling skills in real life. Loads of children don't know the sum and don't equate reading with Maths. The trend towards problem solving is much better than the early Numeracy Strategy, almost Victorian.

Marmite baby

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Major Supermarket to ban overweight customers from buying cakes.. Posted: 4/1/2009 9:48:38 AM
Anyone noticed the date today?! Sorry read posts above after posting.

Marmite baby

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Do we really need Forums on a Dating site??? Posted: 3/31/2009 11:06:19 AM
I'm just a bit all over the place at the mo I can talk with no pressure. I'm not treating this as a dating site

Marmite baby

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Sex education Posted: 3/31/2009 10:04:25 AM
People were talking about the prog in the staff room today. I didn't see it. The opinion was that their teenage children, who already had seen soft porn,,2, should know that a real woman doesn't look like that. One had talked to her son about it. Hardly a survey but it just shows that havin g your finger on the pulse could work.

Marmite baby

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What lurks beneath......your bed! Posted: 3/31/2009 9:46:00 AM
Still play mine . In the front room. Hands off, and buy yourself a turntable!

Marmite baby

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Do men get mad because some of us women prefer large penis's? Posted: 3/31/2009 9:42:16 AM
Men are visual creatures, I don't think that they can help it. But big boobs etc on their own are the MacDonalds of relationships. Most I would hope realise that gourmet healthy eating is the way to go. Any guy, or girl, who judges so much on appearance is an idiot.

Marmite baby

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What lurks beneath......your bed! Posted: 3/31/2009 9:23:23 AM
Drawers, of the storage variety. Stuff I only use on holiday/ travel souvenirs. But in more accessible ones, bed linen. Didn't really know what was there till burgled a few years ago. Photo of me on elephant, maps, tickets, headphones, hotel sewing kits, matches. I can honestly say nothing was nicked! Unwanted Christmas presents; a massage kit which looked interesting but needs FAR stronger batteries.Various redundant hair styling appliances.

Marmite baby

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Thinking out loud, or talking to yourself Posted: 3/31/2009 8:42:56 AM
I don't really, but sometimes laugh at what I'm thinking. Talking through answers in Maths helps me to think; and I'd often talk to my cat. I've got no curtains in my kitchen and was in the middle of What do we have here etc with her at the food cupboard, followed by choice of flavours, reading from back of tin ( cats care about e numbers too!). And then special offer for T shirts, Oh Dear! Too big for you etc, when noticed guy with dog directly outside. Then fit of the giggles. She would mieou in return. Probably Feed Me you stupid woman in cat language.

Marmite baby

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Why have we become a country of anger,selfishness and fear? Posted: 3/28/2009 10:15:52 PM
Perhaps I'm living in cloud cuckoo land,but I don't feel that the OPs premise is true. I think there are more extremes, especially in cities. I don't think that childrens 'behaviour has changed that much, but ways of disciplining them definitely has. I was laughing at Lenny Henry tonight. A neighbour would hit him for misbehaving in the street and his mum would thank them when taken home. Plus his Carribean Super Nanny. (You had to be there.) I don't agree with corporal punishment in schools,but unless you want complaints you have to be v careful about what you say if a child misbehaves. No shouting, never been my thing, but I feel that I have to cover myself if I make any comment deemed to be negative. I feel that I'm playing the game rather than acting in the best interests of the class. Fine this year, a by and large lovely class, but I'm dreading next year, v challenging children.Last years also were and I got into trouble with management for issuing too many sanctions, amongst other things.Using the word vile to describe behaviour was top of the list of misdemeanours.The class were min teenagers.I'm hard wired to be careful about what I say in the classroom in particular critising behaviour rather than the child. Another teacher said that she had swept a childs desk out of sheer frustration. Fortunately no hassle.I tried to move back to the younger children I'd been teaching before for 16 years,I was told that I'd been put with the older ones because they were more robust. Which really upset me. I was also very kind when children had problems.The bottom line is that the Head thinks I'm too strict. Looked at vacancies tonight because I no longer agree with the ethos of the school. In two minds because I don't know if whats happening where I am is a National phenomena.L Last year was horrible Before Stressed out children would do a job, the wool, on the steps of a mobile. Children who should have been off.

Marmite baby

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annie lennox Posted: 3/28/2009 8:42:04 PM
I also watched it, but find music on TV a bit frustrating as it doesn't have the sound quality of a stereo. I really relate to the Savage album, in fact maybe the lyrics to I Need a Man should be on my profile! Also love You Have Placed a Chill.. Shame and Brand New Day. I'm not that fierce- really.

Marmite baby

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Housing Estate installs Pink lights to stop teens anti social behaviour.. Posted: 3/27/2009 10:31:26 AM
Think CCTV cameras could be more useful, or a mirror for squeezing, yuck!

Marmite baby

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Fern Britton did she lie? Posted: 3/27/2009 10:16:26 AM
Not a good ad for Ryvita, I can see why they'd drop her. Couldn't give 2 hoots re gastric band- her decision. But implying that healthy eating caused her weight loss... You'd be a fool to believe ads anyway, does a certain car make you sexy, or phone make you cool?

Marmite baby

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What Impression Do You Think You Give? Posted: 3/25/2009 12:10:09 PM
I'm good at giving a fairly confident persona, but really realise just how my confidence has been knocked and is generally low since, but not because of, a weekend hen party at work has been organised.It's about sharing rooms.I feel that any partner may feel that they've drawn the short straw.The others are all coupled up. I've had a diet of criticism just lately. Strange that I go on Singles holidays and don't worry. Not everyone has been invited on this weekend, I was flattered, but don't feel popular. Never have been. I can't really see why I've been invited. I have friends outside work. I know that my probs are exacerberated by what's going on in my head. I'm taking anti- depressants,some of the reason I feel the way I do about myself may be depression, the rest is due to other factors. I probably see myself in a more positive light than others do. The public shame element of some of my probs is worse.

Marmite baby

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Is mum right in appealing for a woman to have sex with her Downs Syndrome son? Posted: 3/25/2009 11:11:38 AM
Better no shag than a sympathy one. Love, respect friendship are all far more important than clinical sex, think he'd be better off doing it on his own.

Marmite baby

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emergency contraception by text for girls as young as 11 Posted: 3/25/2009 10:30:26 AM
It's damage control, which is a good thing. What led up to it is a different issue ie sex at a young age. Would refusing birth control or the morning after pill stop minors having sex? Think that earlier sex ed could be worth a try. I can't see why it would traumatise children. I knew the facts of life from 7. Why isn't it taught earlier? I think it has to be all or nothing. If young people are having sex at a younger age in our society, and nothing appears to be stopping them, then STD clinics, birth control, including the morning after pill should also be there. Is there a root problem or does everything happen much younger? Seems that people were sowing their oats over the legal age of consent when I was young, with adult services ie family planning clinics. Didn't stop the broken hearts. Sadly now learnt from experience much younger.

Marmite baby

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When did you REALISE you may not have a happy ending Posted: 3/25/2009 10:17:09 AM
The fat lady ain't singing yet, and there are always diets. I'm fairly content at the mo, but realise that fate can strike at any time. I have no idea of the ending, but realise that less things are under my control than I thought when younger. What I'm getting at is that happy endings, or sad ones, may not be as self engineered as I thought. Some outcomes are fate.

Marmite baby

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famouse local musicians who made it Posted: 3/23/2009 12:19:28 PM
The Darkness, Mylene Class, the blonde one from S Club 7.

Marmite baby

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Is mum right in appealing for a woman to have sex with her Downs Syndrome son? Posted: 3/23/2009 12:05:25 PM
The emphasis on sex, in isolation and out of context,bothers me.If you chose to have sex with no strings, knowing that it could be in the context of a loving relationship and all the emotional stuff which goes with it, you can make an informed decision. I do feel that, with Downs, vulnerable adults are involved, who could be operating emotionally like children. No child or young person, should have sex portrayed in this way.

Marmite baby

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Men and crimes.. Posted: 3/23/2009 11:41:41 AM
If the crime has a sexual power element, I assume man. Likewise house burglaries. The rest unisex. I think that violent crime committed by women seems to be on the increase, and more vicious. I would believe sexual abuse committed by a woman on another female. A step further from face scratching or hair pulling. Glassing seems to be on the increase, I wonder if women like to disfigure. No stats to back this up, just a gut reaction.

Marmite baby

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Migranes caused by workouts, diets, or what? Posted: 3/21/2009 8:09:54 PM
I found some foods and types of alcohol could trigger mine, plus lack of sleep and stress. A hollistic approach helped with mine. Plus Migraleve.Since they've stopped nothing triggers them, if you get my drift! Should add though that I know what to avoid, but eat some former suspects now with no prob. I still don't know what caused them. I would guess hormones. Hope you find a solution OP.

Marmite baby

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Integrity and Sincerity Test.. have you taken it? Posted: 3/21/2009 7:47:42 PM
Apparently I have integrity and am sincere. Shall buy a hat tomorrow, you're all invited! Oops, no man!

Marmite baby

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'Snoops' To Nag Their Friends To Live Healthier Lives !! Posted: 3/20/2009 10:11:48 AM
As if my sister's weight loss and attitudes to smoking aren't enough! Give me strength! And another glass of wine. Plus fag. Has the health of the "snoops" been taken into consideration? Especially their nose hitting a burger en route to a mouth? I do not need someone to give me health education. How many people truly have no vices? Surely being a complete pain in the a*** is worse than the odd health slip.

Marmite baby

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Why do men have to lean on things? Posted: 3/19/2009 10:21:53 AM
A casual way of showing off your biceps? People who stand in doorways really irritate me,.Surely there's a better place for a conversation? I think this comes from most of my daily walking taking place in corridors, and witless children blocking them!Think this may be a design fault for school buildings.

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