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Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 112 (view)

Astrology Posted: 7/7/2009 12:20:00 AM
Abbicci, yes I remember that video with the college students. That was based on newspaper astrology(for entertainment purposes only),not actual in depth astrology and the students were inexperienced with in depth astrology.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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Why do most people think aliens are friendly? Posted: 7/6/2009 11:45:45 PM
abelian, Star Trek is Science fantasy, no longer science fiction

Bethany2911

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Dating people from different cultural backgrounds Posted: 2/2/2009 11:27:56 PM
What's wrong with dating a fellow human being? It's not a race one has to worry about, it's the attitude and personality of the person of interest. Stereotypes are just idiots that don't get out and have to find a scapegoat for all the worlds problems or for their own personal dilemmas.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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stripclubs... Posted: 12/21/2008 5:08:46 AM
Quazi 100, No I didn't forget about the orgies in the Roman empire for that was one of my points to use for that example of what society has returned to. We are heading back down the evolutionary scale that is not helping our society. Yes it is our nature to be fruitful and multiply,but, we also know to do it in moderation. Man also assets an highly advanced brain to fight those primal urges and a heart to go with it. As far as I know there is no scientific evidence of a cave man bonking a cave woman over the head and dragging her away. Yes! we can HELP what choices we make although some of us don't care to and have lack of responsibility. No need to explain the human body for I already know about the human anatomy. I'm not shocked about the family based porn industry,but, it does make me even sicker to my stomach thinking about it. lol! I never said anything in support of shutting down strip clubs. I just merely expressed my opinion of married couples going to them. And yes, it is up to strippers and every other being to break out of their dysfunction for we all have the free will to do so. Childhood traumas cannot always be held as an excuse or reason for every persons behavior. I personally fought through my horrid past for I wanted to become a better and healthier person which I am today.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 205 (view)

stripclubs... Posted: 12/18/2008 10:54:07 PM
I personally don't care for strip clubs and the lame excuses couples make for going to them. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against strippers for I have befriended a few of them. I may not agree with what they do or did to make money,but, doesn't really give me the right to go to them and judge them for we all have a dysfunction of some sort. But what really annoys me is that people give in to the dysfunction on a permanent level. I don't really understand married couples that are ok with their partner going to strip clubs. Kinda goes against the purpose of love and a committed marriage. If two people were really into each other and content, wouldn't strip clubs be the last thing on their minds if at all? I laugh at people that say "it's the 21st century" when they are confronted by a so called "modest" person that expresses their morale. Little do they know that we are heading back in time to a primitive state. The old Roman empire is a good example,but, without the constant blood battle shows lol! For myself, I don't see the point or reason to view a bunch of naked people making phony sexual advances for a living. I'm very much content thinking about and loving the person that stands beside me and to him vice versa. We do not have to be caught up in fictitious fantasies to be happy with each other.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with? Posted: 12/18/2008 9:28:42 PM
I personally couldn't and wouldn't have any urge to cheat on the person I love. Hell I couldn't even cheat on a person I wasn't really into if that was the case. Cheating is for the insecure beings that don't know what love is or what they have. They confuse love with infatuations and selfish wants (or what they call needs). Of course for some, they cannot handle being with someone that's normal, happy, and settled with themselves that they degrade their nature more and cheating is a good example of that type of insecurity.

Bethany2911

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Disappearing American Coupes Posted: 10/13/2008 10:03:46 PM
Maybe buyers are getting too lazy opening and shutting those long heavy doors coupes usually posses and maybe the fact that people want more room for families and such,but, at the same time want a car that's sporty as well

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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For a million dollars.... Posted: 10/13/2008 9:52:50 PM
If I had a choice to do something for a million, it would be nothing. If it had to be something somewhat extreme then I'd shave my head.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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Can't say I'm sorry or I apologize, why? Posted: 10/5/2008 8:42:19 PM
But basically people that can't comprehend or say those words are too damn stubborn or weak minded for their own good. Or that some don't want to admit that they're wrong because they believe that it would make them a lesser person. But on the other hand I see some people using the word sorry a little too much. People that say they are sorry for the same thing over and over again really aren't sorry.

Bethany2911

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Can't say I'm sorry or I apologize, why? Posted: 10/5/2008 8:30:23 PM
I say I'm sorry or I apologize when I'm in the wrong. I'm a perfectionist in some ways and can usually catch myself in the wrong.

Bethany2911

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Spirit Guides and Angels Posted: 9/14/2008 12:14:41 AM
This thread died out kinda fast. I hope my told unfortunate stories and experiences didn't have anything to do with it. If anyone is still viewing this topic, I have recent descriptions of my spiritual guide whom was witnessed by a very good friend of mine. I am in a state of wonder and hope. I hope to get some answers from her very soon.

Bethany2911

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Spirit Guides and Angels Posted: 9/9/2008 1:24:14 PM
Yeah that animal would sound kinda genuine being a Kangaroo and not some kind of native species of animals. Oh and my friend is thirty eight now but had that particular experience when he was a teen. I'll mention to him about the meditation for his own personal answers. Now my family and their experiences consisted of my mom, dad, and aunt. This was around the time either when I wasn't born yet or was very young. My mom and dad were sleeping in bed one night when all of the sudden my dad became wide awake from a dead sleep and a few feet above him was this hazy shapeless form (they described it as silhouette looking) just standing still for several seconds. Then the figure began to come down towards my dad's face then come back up again very suddenly. After it proceeded to do this a few more times it's last action consisted of going right through my Dad's head where it disappeared. He felt the breeze of the form as it entered. He turned his head towards my mom and asked"did you see that??" She too have seen it and was very frightened. My Dad told me that he was more fascinated and curious about it then scared. Not too long afterwards on another night my dad said that he woke up again to see my mom jumping out of bed screaming "it's back, it's back!!!" When she awoke she saw the figure come out from behind my father's head. As my mom began running out of the bedroom, into the living room, and into the bathroom, my dad witnessed it chasing after her and hovering close to the floor. There was a coffee table that was blocking the bare floor, instead of the figure going through the coffee table, it leaped over the table and into the bathroom after my mom. They say they haven't seen it after that, but, the household appliances would turn off an on sometimes and other weird activities. My Aunt stayed at our house and claimed when she woke up in the mid morning, a few feet above her was a projection of my dad's face staring down at her and laughing at her then disappeared. This story made me and her laugh hysterically but freaked us out at the same time. The only memory I ever had of a possible presence was when I was two or three years old. this invisible thing kept trying to contact me in my bedroom ( I still slept in a crib then) I was so scared that I crawled out of bed and slept on the couch till my dad saw me from the bedroom and told me to get back to bed. As I was forced to go to bed after a while I started talking to it and it would talk back. Now I really don't know if this was a dream or if it was real. I do recall having nightmares about certain scary movies I watched as a toddler maybe that was the cause. My parents split up about a year and a half after that. My mom took me and left. When we were gone from the house the spirits and disturbances left the house as well.

Bethany2911

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Spirit Guides and Angels Posted: 9/9/2008 1:05:50 AM
Thanks Frog for the encouragement and Constantine for the advice. Diva, your conversations about the animal totems gave me past thoughts about two close friends of mine that had life experiences with an animal. The animal being a Kangaroo. Yes, a Kangaroo in the woods of Pennsylvania. The one friend was a young teen, was walking in the woods near his house one day when he suddenly stopped in his tracks. About ten feet away he saw this actual Kangaroo standing still and staring at him. He was a bit in shock and just stood there, the Kangaroo started hopping around in a continuous circle. inside it's circle was an old foundation. He said it didn't seem to jump like a normal kangaroo would. I'm guessing he meant that it had kind of a animate energy about it. He didn't stay long enough to see what the animal would do next and took off running home. I don't believe he ever saw the Kangaroo again. He started a spiritual discussion with the other friend of mine several years ago and all he had to do was mention the word Kangaroo, she just about jumped out of her seat. Before he could even begin the story she mentioned to him about her experience with the creature and how they seem to hang around old foundations and serve as some kind of guardian. Anyone ever hear of this spiritual encounter before?

Bethany2911

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Spirit Guides and Angels Posted: 9/8/2008 2:50:48 PM
I very much appreciate everyone that participated in this thread with there deep minds, wisdom, and experiences and I thank Constantine for starting this thread. You have given many others the chance (including myself) to be much more open minded towards more spiritual development then what we were barely taught. Gives me a sense of hope and awareness even in the negative state of mind that I'm in. I wish that I could share some experiences with you,but, am not sure if I really had any since I was so young at the time. But I know for a fact that my parents and close relative had several experiences with spirits,but, may not fit with this category because of the negativity was inflicted with it. Sometimes I wonder what they experienced is what is attached to me and has been haunting me to this very day? Or is it just me that is doing it? Or both? Don't get me wrong I'm not mentally ill as far as I know but open to the fact that spirits can have a lot of affect with ones self. I so crave for positivity and concentration in my life it's not funny. But who isn't? lol! I'll share my families and my experiences if everyone here is up to listening.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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Ever thought your Zodiac sign could be intimidating to others? Posted: 9/8/2008 7:22:44 AM
I wouldn't go as far as saying that signs are intimidating to me,but, the nature of the person itself. A positive personality or sign is attractive, the negative personality or sign makes me cautious and leary. Every sign has it's own beauty and talent. My sun is in Sagittarius and boy does it show. The love of freedom, a wanderer, highly intuitive, and quite playful at times. Some people call me gypsy,but, little do they know that sags are called the gypsies of the zodiac lol! I can be very restless and anxious for no reason, but, can be a big procrastinator as well lol,but, am overcoming that flaw as I grow older. I also tend to think of creative ideas, but, sometimes grow bored of it after a while, but, not always. But I noticed that I always had that problem of letting go or losing a person in my life. I would go through long periods of depression and sense of loss. Didn't take change all that well. Not usually typical of a sag for they seem to let things go a little easier. I found out that I have a capricorn moon which explains it all. Some signs that I've had more trust issues with seemed to be with Libras and Gemini's. Not saying that I'm not attracted to Libras charm and creativity and Gemini's energy and multitasking brilliant mind,but, would usually tend to lie to me even though they already knew I caught them in a lie, they would either sugar coat it or try to use some logical reason that sounded very illogical to me lol! But that's negative people not positive. A pisces and I can talk for hours going from subject to subject,but, I don't think I'd want to live with them. Pisces tend to make me nervous and emotional after a while,but, I still love em. I usually get along with Scorpios but a controlling one could drive me up the wall! Taurus is very nurturing of me and tends to treat me like their child,but, stubborn as hell! Capricorns can either be my best friend or worst enemy.I'm currently involved with a cap. A lot of patience and putting aside vast differences with a sag and cap can be very rewarding along with any sign or person that has the maturity to do so.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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Do animals get reincarnated or just cease to exist? Posted: 8/29/2008 10:04:11 PM
This question that the op asks of is the very same question I asked a church youth group leader when I was about nine or ten years old. He considered himself the answer man. I asked him the question and his reply was no, that he would not think that animal spirit would go on.I kinda found that very arrogant and thoughtless of him to say such a thing even at the very young age I was,but, I asked nothing after that. I believe that anything with a spirit or energy will never die, maybe the personality, but, not that spirit. Kinda like how recycling works. Once something has been recycled, it will never be in it's original form ever again, but will remain in existence. I have noticed that many pets take after their owners. And have also noticed it in people adapting habits from other familiar people around them. I would believe it's psychological rather then reincarnation. But who knows?

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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City or Country Posted: 8/25/2008 12:42:28 PM
I would say I prefer living in the country. It's beautiful and brings me to as close to nature as I can get. I really don't mind if there are more inconveniences when living in the country for I love having a challenging but simple lifestyle when I'm at home. But I love working and visiting the city as well. The city is an open door to learn and to encounter different people and places. And much history lies in the city.And partying too. Ya can't bar hop much in the country lol! I appreciate the cities for if there weren't any, there would be no country. I do get aggravated with some city people that want to live in the country,but, want all of the luxuries of the city around them. The forests and farmlands are wiped out and placed with shopping centers, offices,gas stations, and houses(town houses? could never figure that one out if one wanted to live in the country and have some space)etc. That would make no more country. Just a few trees here and there. Why not stay in the city where one needs that kind of life style?

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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THE HEBREWS ATTACK Posted: 8/20/2008 9:33:16 PM
vvendy, that's a very good point. That's where self defense comes in. Either would have to lock up the murderers or take his or her life if there was no other option. I don't know how other people would take the commandment "thou shall not kill" but common sense would tell me that that would mean not to harm others over lust, greed,jealousy, or anger. But killing their children or other innocents that are related but not involved isn't right. And with all those valuable treasures that were stolen from that city could have helped the victims of war. But they were too greedy and didn't know the meaning of the word church. A church is a gathering of people ( a holy family). Buildings (called churches) of wood,stone,metal,gold etc does not make it any holier then a tent. But I must say they are beautiful to look at. - This thread was left open in the hop it might turn around but should have been closed from the get-go as redundant...and perhaps a tad on the bashing/trolling side. Judicious use of the Search function and a little reading would reveal SEVERAL threads on these concepts in particular literalism versus symbolism. As such these are really redundant, and are now closed. -TheMadFiddler-

Bethany2911

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THE HEBREWS ATTACK Posted: 8/20/2008 4:26:26 PM
Phoebus, exactly, there can be no reason for killing at all as you stated, but, some people that believe in the Bible's god believe otherwise "because god said to do it" How do we know that god said to terrorize a city? The story may be true but doesn't necessarily mean that a higher power enforced it.Then again who knows ? I could make up a lie and say that I had a vision from god and god told me to say or do something just so I can gain control of others minds and have them dislike something I don't like. I'm not trying to make excuses for God,but, that if this god was for real,it, was quite different from the God that teaches love and forgiveness. When I said earlier that the Bible is full of fictional stories and parables, I didn't mean this one in particular. I would think that the Bible is filled with half truths and hidden meanings. My apologies if my words seem to be a little confusing. Some people perceive them differently from what I actually meant. I try to clarify the misunderstandings.

Bethany2911

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THE HEBREWS ATTACK Posted: 8/19/2008 7:56:20 PM
phoebus, I never denied the truth and if it is true, I would damn any God that would do such a horrible deed. Don't get so serious on me I still KNOW that man finds an excuse by hiding behind his or her religion to destroy everyone and everything in their path.Not all of the religious but many. You should know the dark sides of human nature by now. Why would you think I was wearing rose colored glasses just because I state right from wrong? Because I think that many people need their heads examined and also the fact that they are not being realistic? That would mean that I can see a lot more clearly then you think. Please re read my comments before you jump to the conclusion that I thought opposite of what I thought.

Bethany2911

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What is Wrong with Nudity? Posted: 8/18/2008 11:19:29 PM
Other then being too cold and having your skin unprotected and sagging a lot I really don't see anything morally wrong with it, if it was natural in our society. I'd prefer to wear something. I would think it was us and not God that have shamed ourselves of our bodies and the fact that we have been accustomed to covering ourselves up for a very long time. So of course we would be uncomfortable of something out of the ordinary. That's society for you. I myself love wearing clothes most of the time (especially vintage wear) and wouldn't really want to have or see tits and dongs nearly sagging down to the floor. Talk about having a bad back and tripping over those puppies.

Bethany2911

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THE HEBREWS ATTACK Posted: 8/18/2008 10:42:22 PM
Well I don't believe a good God would command such terrible blood shed.That would be like you or me living in our neighborhoods when someone states that we are evil because of a few bad apples residing in our area, we are all to be destroyed and our possessions taken. Imagine yourselves and your children "babies" being massacred over someones else's evil doing. Anyone that would accept that and state that was God's doing needs to get their head examined quickly! I'd believe it was in man's doing and so is the Bible. Being written in many different views and opinions by many different people makes it very complicated and contradicting. It tends to cause mass confusion and chaos trying to figure it out yet believe in it all. I wouldn't say to not abide by the Bible all together though. It does have some very good life lessons and morale from some good authors. I just don't recommend believing in many of those stories literally. It can lead to more confusion, lack of common sense,narrow minds, and stupidity. If God is trying to teach man how to love, why would God command man to destroy what he is supposed to love?

Bethany2911

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I'm glad I'm not a man! Posted: 8/18/2008 9:09:27 PM
Wraidder, never heard the term "living in a vacuum" before,but, if you're referring to my thinking patterns as that such way, you may be mistaken. No one said to skip this topic or are "too good for this kind of stuff" as far as I know or read. But it would be the most mature and wisest option to solve a problem and listen then to whine and complain about it all the time. It does seem that many thrive on chaos because they find it" more interesting." But as I said before, I would agree that women tend to get dates more easily then men,but, the quality is a whole different story. And much so for the highly attractive ones. So as I see it everyone has their share of problems when it comes to dating in many different ways and cultures. And in order to find better quality dates, one must find and know themselves and be happy with it. Much of the time it is ourselves that is the problem.Observe and get to know that person first if you're looking for a steady relationship in the future. And that would make a permanent date. A guy friend of mine seemed to never have a problem getting a date and I always wondered why. Then I figured it out. He had a very positive and intuitive personality, and whenever we hung out, he would just laugh and have a good ol time by himself. He would rarely ever flirt with any girl that was around because it so happened that the girls would come over and flirt with him. I would say he is average looking so it wasn't really based on looks,but, how he displayed himself. Sometimes life is too short to be serious about certain challenges we all posses and we must make the most of what we do have. I've been burned and rejected before,but, now I'm kinda glad I did go through such experiences. Although it made me very disappointed of how people can be so cruel, if I didn't endure those challenges I would never have learned and gotten where I am today. And that also made me find a better quality of people. Ok I'm done rambling lol! I hope this advice helps some of you folk in the future.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

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I'm glad I'm not a man! Posted: 8/18/2008 12:39:02 PM
Momarks, you hit the target with that statement and very much appreciate you expressing your truthful views to others. Whining and moaning doesn't do anything except make the person that is expressing it miserable and confused along with every other easily influenced person that hears or reads the others whining. Too many people living in fantasy land. However sometimes when a person is stressed out and needs to vent, they need to rant and be heard. But too many people make the mistake of mis usage of words that end up insulting the other gender or anyone of that matter. Then some other negative posters just add more fuel to the fire and the thread gets no where except eventually deleted. And that makes no answers, no learning, no wisdom, and unhappiness. And with that kind of attitude, don't expect to get anywhere or with anyone of good quality. You express negativity then you will get negativity. It will cling to you like a magnet. And treat others the way you would want to be treated. That's a pretty common statement,but, rarely followed. The world would be a better place if it was.

Bethany2911

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Sleep Paralysis Posted: 8/7/2008 3:21:48 AM
When I have sleep paralysis, they usually happen for several days in a row through out they year. But a lot of times I can get them multiple times in one night. I've gotten so used to them that I can control it and wake up before it gets scary. At first I wanted to find out if it was an actual OBE so I would try to relax in that state and let it run it's course. But it would get worse where I'd eventually force myself awake.I would feel like I was awake and could see everything in the bedroom for it was all the same as it was before I fell asleep. First I would feel paralyzed. Second, I would start feeling paranoia that someone or something invisible was near me watching me. Third, my heart would start pounding. Fourth, a loud breeze would blow out from my body. Not towards me,but, actually blow from my body out. That's when I got scared and woke myself up. I would wake up with my heart beating very fast. Now I can usually wake myself up when I start to feel paralyzed.

Bethany2911

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For those who believe in God? Posted: 7/30/2008 8:17:21 PM
Haha! you guys are sooooo funny! lol! but, I really don't see people being mortal after death. Meaning we wouldn't have to eat. But the thought of prime rib right now mmmm! I think I'm going to go outside and terrorize the garden. The veggie killer that I am!

Bethany2911

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For those who believe in God? Posted: 7/29/2008 9:35:06 PM
My heaven would be a place where chicken grew on trees. Along with steak, crab legs, and prime rib. Then I would no longer have a guilty conscience of how those poor animals were slaughtered. Side dishes and desserts would be sweet potatoes, sliced carrots and broccoli, mashed potatoes, cherry cheese cake and key lime pie

Bethany2911

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Monogomy is it important anymore? Posted: 7/29/2008 8:18:32 PM
Monogamy is very important to me. I believe people that are not monogamous are usually self centered, immature, indecisive, greedy, unsatisfied, and hopeless individuals. I'm not saying all are like that,but, most are. I love to put all that I got on a person that I love and trust for I feel lucky to have such a person in my life. Sex is important to me,but, not that important and two people that really care for each other can work that issue out. I'm mostly thankful that I have a very caring, wise, loyal, and honest friend by my side which makes me feel complete. What else could a person ask for? So no, I can't understand a person that wants more then that. Are some of us falling back into the evolutionary charts? Don't we want to better ourselves into a higher being and evolve? Maybe some of us don't know how to yet.Or are we afraid to?

Bethany2911

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I'm glad I'm not a man! Posted: 7/28/2008 3:23:49 AM
I can agree with the men that they are more likely to get rejected when asking women out then women asking men out. But women also get rejected as well. And in the end it's not always easier for the very attractive women. Reasons being is that she is attracting all kind of men and many of them are the bad ones(scum bags). So you may see the pretty ones constantly having a hard time finding the right guy. I'm not speaking for every attractive woman,but, it's what I've witnessed. When I rejected someone, reasons being that I did not like their character and knew that I would eventually get taken advantage of or controlled. When I was younger I would easily get taken advantaged of so no, it is not always easier for the woman. The women are also taking a chance just as well as the men. Everyone has their problems with with the dating world.

Bethany2911

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High Court: No Death Penalty for Child Rape.. Posted: 7/26/2008 9:37:36 PM
Bigshrek, the abortion topic was an example.It wasn't supposed to lead on to a longer conversation about the wrongs of abortion,but, I was coaxed into it by another post stating it was ok. It's quite Hypocritical that it isn't ok to humanely take the life of a criminal that will never do harm to another innocent person again,but, it's ok to take an innocent life away like babies for example. No confusion here Bigshrek. Just pure compassion and respect for the innocent here. Another poster stated that it is our society that creates criminals and immoral behavior. Yes, she is correct.That would play a big part. But I'd believe poor upbringings would be the main factor.

Bethany2911

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High Court: No Death Penalty for Child Rape.. Posted: 7/26/2008 12:10:20 PM
A baby is not non living organic tissue. These babies are or were aborted when they were nearly fully developed. A doctor I knew once told me that because he used to abort. Now he no longer does it. Kinda screwed him up in the head along with other issues.I'm not too sure about what stages that abortions are practiced today,but, it is one of the most irresponsible and sick acts a person can do. Unless that child is deathly sick or is a hazard to the mother's health it should be a crime.There are many forms of birth control available. Teens can get birth control without the consent of a parent or guardian for free. One of my relatives was molested and abused throughout most of her childhood until she was old enough to get away and report this criminal.Her younger siblings also told of their abuse, but, were too young to be able to testify. It was her testimony that got him in prison. He got 20 to 25 years. He's been in prison since 1997 and no he hasn't been fixed. He is still the same. Still writing letters to her and the rest of his children that were also abused. Like he's never done anything wrong. Sorry to say this but some people don't want to be fixed and will continue to hurt others throughout their life. That's where the death penalty comes in. It's basically putting these people out of their misery. And think of all that money we could be saving helping victims of crime and other nationwide organizations if we brought back the death penalty? Instead of the rapist and murderers getting three square meals a day, cable TV, internet access etc, we could fund the homeless children, low income working single mothers and fathers, better systems of education for children, and so on.

Bethany2911

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High Court: No Death Penalty for Child Rape.. Posted: 7/25/2008 4:59:02 PM
What do you expect from a society that murders babies and considers it legal and ok? But heavens no don't be inhumane to that poor child molester! Makes me sick to my stomach!!!

Bethany2911

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Wow!! Can you believe this one? What should I do? Posted: 7/23/2008 2:06:52 PM
You poor thing! I went through the exact same experience,but,the only difference was that I work with the creep. After a while he faked a terminal illness and had me heart broken. He fooled all of us until later I found out. I thought I would never be able to live that one down and never trust anyone again. But I did learn to trust again. It took a while but all the horrible things he did was a lesson for me to be more aware. I turned the situation into a positive experience and it did me well. But I felt the same way about wanting to let others know about him. My friends insisted that I let him burn himself . I listened to them,but, it is hard to see him do this to other people nearly every day. All of that for a piece of ass? How pathetic. Those kind of people have lied so much in their lives that they eventually become pathological liars, believing in their own lies. That's when they eventually get noticed. I stayed cautious yet open and found someone that treats me better then I could ever have imagined and we've been together well over a year. Don't give up just because you crossed paths with some weirdo. There are many good men out there.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

Was I right to end things? Posted: 6/26/2008 4:41:20 PM
I'm the kind of person that can't just dispose of people in my life unless they have seriously wronged me and others and won't change for the better. I am still friends with my ex. That doesn't mean that I am hanging around him all the time.We agreed that we were much better friends then partners. I talk to him from time to time,but,it has never gotten in the way of my relationship with the one I love. But I can see where the op is coming from with this. It does appear that he has no respect for your feelings. He should be spending time with you most of the time if he was really into you. If what you say is true then I would agree that it was the right thing to do by leaving him.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 363 (view)

Should a woman buy a round of drinks? Posted: 6/21/2008 2:36:41 PM
I believe that a man or a woman should pay for themselves on a first date. A first date should be considered more of a friendly meeting of two people that want to get to know each other,not trying to act, impress and please each other over money and food.But if the man or woman wants to show a friendly gesture in paying the tab then that's fine. But,it should not be expected of each other. This is how mature couples act.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 537 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 6/15/2008 6:23:01 PM
I can forgive someone that's skips a letter in a word or spells something wrong here and there. I've done that before because I may be typing too fast,upset, or deep in thought. I usually do not misspell that often and if I do I correct it. Now people that misspell and use slang words frequently piss me off. It's funny that some people actually think it's cool to do that. I see it as someone that has lack of education nor cares to learn.Yes, I would agree it is a major turn off.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 58 (view)

How can I get my ex to respect me more? Posted: 6/14/2008 10:01:25 PM
"How can I get my ex to respect me more" The title should be more like,"How can I get my ex to respect and care for our children" The courtesy and cooperation towards you should be listed as a secondary issue.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

We need to talk Posted: 6/14/2008 8:05:01 PM
Exactly took the words out of my mouth bucsgirl

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

We need to talk Posted: 6/14/2008 8:03:36 PM
I hate sports,hmmm that's an interesting name. . . . . anyway,Why not? She's not here for dating anymore,but, is here for talk/email and seems to respond to the forums regularly. There is also a friends option as well. That's what I like about this site is that it has many options and isn't completely based on dating and sex. Op, I hope that term that your boyfriend used wasn't very serious or negative on your behalf. If you need to talk about it,don't hesitate to talk about it to us immediately. I've had bad experiences with people that have used similar words like that towards me and a lot of times those words have indicated something was wrong. I hope for you though it was something very positive and surprising. Would also like someone here to give us good news as well lol! I wish ya the best of luck

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 142 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/13/2008 12:56:35 AM
We're not done here yet?? This minor problem hasn't been solved yet?? Well,one more time I will TRY to clarify mine and some of the other women's intentions of such a word.I myself would never realize that so many people would take offense to the word "independent" this badly. If I had used that word in my description,I definitely am not asking for a pat on the back,but,expressing that I'm not seeking out for someone's wallet and for the most part take care of myself and my life.I don't believe people should have to waste space in their profiles to express a single word.Extremely long profile descriptions can be annoying.If a person wants to know what that word means to someone they are viewing, send a message and ask them. The only words I see now for some of us in this post is"CONFUSION OF THE GENDERS" lol!

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Will this fix itself? Posted: 6/13/2008 12:27:56 AM
And for some of you ladies, if a man that you've been in a long relationship with dumps you and almost instantly starts banging other women,most likely you'd be pissed and call him a scum bag. But why is it ok if a woman does the same thing?

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Will this fix itself? Posted: 6/12/2008 11:27:27 PM
Maybe it's due to the fact that you slept with three men in a short period of time and didn't appear to be that sensitive and caring after you two broke up. He may see it that way and also assume that sex is your top priority and that you don't give him much value. That may be why he's embarrassed around his friends. Now I understand that people must move on,but,if your relationship with him was valuable to you at one time,you would have given yourself some time alone to recover from that loss. And Sleeping with other people shortly after a break up is not going to help either. It's a crutch and for many it's a big insecurity on their behalf unless one loves sex that much and are open about it. But you have admitted to your mistakes and hopefully will learn from them and never to do this again towards others because in the end you are really hurting yourself. But of course it usually takes two to make or break a relationship so hopefully your boyfriend will gain some knowledge as well for whatever he did to making the relationship break. If you guys seriously want to resolve this matter and still care about each other, go see a counselor. If he loves you he will go.If not and his behavior doesn't change within a couple of months, then you'd best let him go for both of your sake. You two may be better off as friends.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

What is Going On These days With MEN??? Posted: 6/12/2008 10:29:49 PM
AEL75,I understand where you're coming from,but,she may not be comfortable letting a stranger know where she lives on the first date and would maybe prefer to meet him elsewhere.He may be a stalker or one of those obsessive types. Rarely does that happen on the first date,but,it's good to be safe

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

What is Going On These days With MEN??? Posted: 6/12/2008 8:42:56 PM
No, those kind of men or women have no consideration for their dates unless they had no other form of transportation or was handicapped or other reasons similar to that. For example being me,I would be hesitant going to a complete strangers house or someone that I barely knew for my own safety. Going to someone's house is not going out on a date. He or she should be asking you what you like to do or what you had in mind for the first few meets. Or Both persons could choose and negotiate where they want to meet until they come to an agreement that makes them both happy if that be the situation.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 92 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/11/2008 3:03:40 PM
Maculon,from what I'm picking up you've just described the respect a man would and could have for a woman like opening the door for her or helping her carry groceries if she'd just take it as an act of kindness. Hell, I wouldn't say no to such respectful gentleman just to prove I'm independent. I know I'm independent(or self reliant) lol! But some women do take offense to it. Don't mind them. They don't know the difference between someone that's being kind or someone that is treating them as inferior or weak.Chances are that they were belittled in their past and won't see it any other way. It's not you or anyone else's fault. And don't regret posting this because to tell you the truth I kinda enjoyed this post. I hope some of what I said answered your question

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 90 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/11/2008 2:38:10 PM
Mr. Captain,from what I see I think you do understand so I feel I won't have to say no more about what I had explained in my last post. Yes,true you haven't made any claim about your independence for I was using you as an example for really none of us are completely independent.I too agree with you in believing in personal responsibility. Too bad some wouldn't agree with that lol! I guess for now on instead of saying I'm independent on my profile descriptions I will be more accurate and choose self-reliant lol!

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/10/2008 10:47:33 PM
capitano blaugh, No one male or female is entirely independent nor do we exist to be alone. Everybody needs everybody in one way or another. You needed your mother and father when you were young. Your boss needed you to work for the company and you needed the boss's help so you would get paid. Or even if you own your own business you are entirely dependent of your customers.And right now you need someone to talk to to get your opinions across lol! Ravenstar had expressed her words of wisdom very well and I was thinking the same along with others that felt the same way. I always speak for myself obviously lol! and I have when I made that last comment. But sometimes I can be tactless along with other people that are and can be taken the wrong way. Ravenstar has a gift with her clear expressions and words. What she said a lot of people would agree with. Doesn't mean we don't have minds of our own. We are just on the same wave length. Do you understand now or shall I make it a little more clearer for you?

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/10/2008 9:07:41 PM
Great post Ravenstar, speaking for all of us And for the nice and intelligent guys out there,thank you for being respectful about this topic

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/10/2008 6:22:49 PM
I believe what women mean by stating they are independent is that,they are not after a man because of what they financially possess,they have their life together and take care of themselves,they have a good job and have no problems supporting themselves,they have self respect,they feel that they've reached maturity and make wiser choices,they do not have an extreme insecurity of being alone,but,would rather have a partner to compliment and share their life with.Now I don't know if all women that claim they're independent follow all of the reasons stated above,but,that would be my definition of a completely independent woman that I myself am looking forward to being one day.

Bethany2911

Joined: 5/21/2007

Msg: 418 (view)

Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....??????????? Posted: 6/3/2008 1:27:19 AM
friends with benefits. . . . . . . . .YUCK!! how gross!!

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