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 Author Thread: Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 5:29:00 PM

I just saw another post about should I go out with a girl 16 years younger.

In fact, the description post is almost the exact same one as this.

Funnily enough, the consesus in that thread seems to be that the man should most certainly NOT date a girl 16 years his junior. This thread is the exact opposite, with approvals aplenty!
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Abstinent dating, does it exist anymore?
Posted: 8/4/2009 4:29:45 AM

I think sex is a vital part of a relationship. I always compare it to buying a car. When did you buy a car without a test ride? Never I hope, and if you did you're an idiot.


I never understood this comparison. The only thing that you do with a car is drive it, hence a test drive makes perfect sense. There are plenty of things that comprise a relationship other than sex, so a "test drive" is perhaps not as vital.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
ladies and asian men???
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:44:01 AM

he is afraid of the stereotypes that women may or may not judge asian men

Are you talking about the stereotype regarding penis size? In my experience, almost all women share this stereotypical view, to the point where they don't believe it to be a view but "general knowledge", in much the same way as African men's penises are supposedly larger than average.

Then again, I don't know the statistics on penis length versus race so they might be correct.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
men's habits....
Posted: 6/4/2009 2:14:53 AM

ok are men really that horny where they have to be masturbating every day, looking at porn and jacking off or having sex on a regular basis?

Yes, really. 2-5 times a day in fact. The same way that hormones can make you really cranky, they can make us men really horny.


and i've always wondered but why does lingerie turn on guys more than a girl naked?

Doesn't for me. All a matter of individual preference, as with everything.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Chivalry - the real purpose exposed!
Posted: 4/25/2009 9:47:50 PM
Walking on the side of the path closest to the road doesn't put the man behind the woman.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 117 (view)
 
Virginity scares men
Posted: 4/1/2009 10:51:51 PM

What percentage of boys and girls are a virgin from 21or older in the UK? I can't find any statistics about that on the net anywhere.

I've got a bunch of virginity statistics from a doco I was researching for last year. The closest stat I can find is:

[United States]21% of people reach the age of 18 still a virgin.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Wanting to date someone younger.. how young is too young?
Posted: 4/1/2009 10:15:10 PM

what on earth would a 24 year old man (?) want with someone barely out of school - and possibly continuing their education

At the absolute worst, he'd only want the same thing that other 18 year old men her age would want. At best, he may want exactly the same things out of a relationship that she does, so what would she have to lose?
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Trial by jury
Posted: 3/21/2009 12:58:36 PM
The problem is that the jury aren't asked if what the defendant did was wrong or if they should go to jail. They're asked to deliver a verdict based on the exact wording of the law(s) involved.

What happens then is if you get an expensive lawyer they find a loophole that they can use to get their client off the hook scot-free. It's all perfectly legal, and the jury are helpless.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
March 14/Steak and Blow Job Day
Posted: 3/10/2009 5:58:41 AM
I thought Steak and BJ Day was on February 21st. i.e. a week after Valentine's Day.

Has it officially been changed to one month after V-Day now?
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Class Struggle - Capital Versus Labour
Posted: 2/27/2009 9:53:36 PM

I'm not sure that any measures or reforms that take place within a democracy can be labeled anything other than democratic?

Personally I make the distinction between democracy as a political system and socialism as an economic system. Capitalism vs Socialism, Democracy vs Communism etc.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Class Struggle - Capital Versus Labour
Posted: 2/27/2009 7:11:42 PM

Socialism? Coming soon to a government near you?

The bailouts say it's already here.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Can a person with Asperger's find love and true understanding?
Posted: 2/21/2009 6:08:21 AM

I find it extremely hard to believe that you have no interests that could be focused into a career of some sort.

What about me? Video games and internet forums?
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
cure the valentines day blues
Posted: 2/14/2009 12:25:04 AM
I'm spending the day overclocking my computer. Great way to keep me occupied.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 375 (view)
 
Slept with 83 people
Posted: 2/10/2009 9:58:11 PM

If she's been tossing a leg for dudes since she was 16, that's an average of 8+ dudes a year.

I don't really see that as a big deal. Although my status as a virgin probably disqualifies me from this discussion.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Should I have to fake it to make it?
Posted: 2/9/2009 9:45:02 PM
I'm in a somewhat similar position. I don't really enjoy social activities. For several years I forced myself to go out and be social, hoping I'd grow to like it. That didn't happen, so I guess I'm now back to "being myself". Playing video games and going on internet forums.

Supposedly I'll eventually meet someone who'll like me for who I am, but I'm somewhat doubtful of that.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Should I out a friend that cheats?
Posted: 2/8/2009 10:01:05 PM
In a lot of these types of situations, you may try to tell her that he's cheating on her, but she may choose not to believe you. Or alternatively, she decides to ask her bf if he's cheating on her, in which case he denies it. Then you've just turned both of them against you, leaving you in a position to help no one.

I'll second the idea of talking to him about it first, and try not to insinuate any threats that you may tell his gf if he doesn't clean up his act, since that'll most likely alienate him.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Economic Stimulus Package
Posted: 2/6/2009 2:13:26 AM
Just heard on the news today that if the latest stimulus package goes ahead, people earning less than $11,000 per year will get no cash handout. Something's amiss here if someone who earns potentially $75,000 per year gets a $950 handout from the government, but someone getting less than $11k gets nothing.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Distinguishing between shyness and disinterest
Posted: 1/24/2009 4:50:34 AM
I know everyone recommends that you always have a go and ask the girl out in this kind of situation, and from other threads on POF that's the recommended thing to do in a lot of other situations as well. If in doubt: ask!

The problem with that is, you quickly develop a reputation for being desperate if you're seen as asking out anything and everything in the hope that one will take you. Asking out every lady who takes your fancy is not always a good idea. I'm sure I don't need to remind everyone of how much most women despise a man who reeks of desperation.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Wealthy men give women more orgasms
Posted: 1/19/2009 11:28:50 PM

This was a single study, in one country, based on 1,534 women.

I don't think you guys need to go CRAAAZZYY and run out and get jobs or anything....

Phew. Thank goodness for that.

*sits on couch. fires up video game*
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Are you shallow?
Posted: 1/19/2009 12:20:31 AM
Well if people aren't shallow about looks they're shallow about personality or wealth etc. There are a lot of people who will find just one tiny reason to dismiss someone instead of looking at the entire package.

And yes I choose to use a very unique definition of the word shallow.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
dopey photos = shooting self in foot?
Posted: 1/17/2009 2:46:07 PM
Oh gee. I don't fall into this category, do I? I know I'm already guilty of the taking-a-photo-in-the-mirror-with-a-cell-phone thing.

Suppose I just have to do the prerequisite shirtless photo and I'll have the trifecta.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
should i bite the bullet?
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:32:38 AM

never stand in the sun with butter on your head

Please tell me you didn't learn that the hard way.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Do you remember your first kiss?
Posted: 1/7/2009 12:34:47 AM

And so far I'm the latest bloomer here, I was 21.

Egads. Don't feel too bad, though. In half a year I'll be that age.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 443 (view)
 
simple question - do you believe in a god?
Posted: 1/6/2009 4:15:41 AM

What’s with all the talk of giraffes in the loungeroom? Didn’t you guys check the garage for the fire-breathing dragons? Sheesh!

Sorry, I was going to use Russel's teapot as an example but thought it a little too obscure, and the dragon in the garage slipped my mind.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 426 (view)
 
simple question - do you believe in a god?
Posted: 1/5/2009 1:54:03 PM

It does amuse me that "rational atheists" do in fact offer no evidence in support of their belief. Rather they point the finger at the lack of evidence given by theists, which I must say, is non existent.

If a belief harms you, then it is not a very good belief to have.


Lack of evidence to prove existence is thus evidence proving inexistence. If it is not possible by any means to detect a giraffe in my living room, there is thus no giraffe present. (Of course, people then make claims about God existing in a spiritual realm separate to the physical).

As to your second quoted comment, it's when the beliefs of one harms another is when I begin to take issue.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
30 day Abstinence
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:38:50 AM
As one of the many virgins of POF I find it hilarious that abstaining could be considered difficult. Geez, fella. All you gotta do is stay home and not talk to any women.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 396 (view)
 
simple question - do you believe in a god?
Posted: 12/31/2008 12:19:08 AM
Funny that people say that the universe "can't be an accident" with such conviction. I'd like to know what makes people so sure that they somehow KNOW that there MUST be a divine creator.

You could flip a coin and get it to land on heads 5 times in a row. According to the mathematical probability, that shouldn't have happened. Does that mean God manipulated the results of your coin flips? Or simply that an event, whilst unlikely, happened to transpire?

This leads us towards discussion of the Anthropic Principle, which I fear is beyond the cognitive grasp of people who ask questions like "Who created the Big Bang?"
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Im 20 shes 16.
Posted: 12/28/2008 11:52:29 PM

some states a person 18 and over dating a person 17 or younger is classified as statutory rape.

Oh for god's sake. Dating is not rape. Sexual activity is, but going to the movies and kissing is not illegal with that sort of age difference.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Observations at the mall
Posted: 12/27/2008 7:27:23 PM
I'm sure there are plenty of women who'd think the guy is a creep for watching her at work each day and file a restraining order.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 218 (view)
 
Would you pay for sex ?
Posted: 12/21/2008 2:00:26 AM

Comparing a soldier to a sex worker is insulting to all our ANZACS.

On that note, a lot of the ANZACs who came home after the war were disgraced by their families for having an STD that they caught from a sex worker they'd visited in Egypt during training.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Different weapons of war
Posted: 12/18/2008 6:34:17 AM

This is something i bet nobody has ever thought of............Lets fight wars with money, first one to run out is the loser

As the USSR will know all about.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
joint written erotica?
Posted: 12/15/2008 11:17:57 AM

Where is the core sense of morality she should have been raised with?

Wow, hello there. What's writing raunchy stories got to do with that? I mean, unless she's been raised by a very strictly religious family, it shouldn't be a problem from a moral standpoint.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Women, Sex and Cars
Posted: 12/6/2008 5:49:21 AM
What happens is people may come up with one idea and want to test it. Then during analysis of the test data, unexpected trends may emerge. If they're crazy enough, they just might make the news.

Chances are they were monitoring people's reactions to different sounds. Both genders would've been tested, and a variety of sound effects used. Strap something to their heads to monitor brainwaves, and see what happens.

Among all the other data that comes out of it, a significant percentage of the women tested may have had a slight increase in sexual arousal at the one sound effect of a Ferrari that was used, and a slight decrease in arousal with the sound effect of the Escort used.

This makes sense as it can simply be a result of their mind linking one idea to another. The sound of the Ferrari reminds them of the rich ex-boyfriend who was great looking. The sound of the Escort just sounds like a generic car, and cars themselves don't usually turn women on.

Remember, that didn't necessarily happen for ALL or even MOST of the women involved in the study. If the researchers deem the number of women to react in such a way as significant, they report their findings to try to gain publicity.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 482 (view)
 
is it rape if...
Posted: 12/6/2008 5:01:28 AM
Women invented Kevlar to protect men.

Sorry, couldn't resist.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 836 (view)
 
Sex with minors I think this is unacceptable
Posted: 12/4/2008 3:09:34 PM

It is beyond the legality and "I know 17 year old that are nympho's" crap. Do you ever wonder why they act that way? Most likely it is due to being sexually abused as a child.

Sorry, I can't agree with this. I don't think the reason that most people are sexually active at 17 is because of sexual abuse at a younger age. Otherwise we have about 80% of the population being abused as a child, which seems a touch unlikely.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 821 (view)
 
Sex with minors
Posted: 12/3/2008 1:05:12 AM

I have been in law enforcement and am going back into the field as we speak and I agree. My only reason would be I ran out of bullets as well. Sick bast@#$%.

That's not exactly reassuring. Aren't you meant to just arrest people for committing crimes? It's the role of the judicial system to hand out the punishments.

I still find the "an eye for an eye" attitude of a lot of people on here surprising. One reprehensible crime justifies another, does it?
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
random thingies to check out...., !!!
Posted: 12/2/2008 3:03:12 AM
It's actually Jupiter and Venus.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
No love or no sex?......forever!
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:46:06 AM

Whether it's a case of just thinking they have learned what girls want to hear, I'm really not sure.... but I tend to think a guy who say things like "There's more to life than sex" or "its not all about sex" is usually prewarning me that something is amiss.

Oh come on, that's hardly fair. Like if us guys started thinking something was fishy if a girl told us she didn't like shopping.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
No love or no sex?......forever!
Posted: 11/23/2008 2:23:01 AM
As a virgin I don't know what I'd be missing, so love. Duh.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
decision regarding circumcision of newborn
Posted: 11/22/2008 6:19:40 AM

So a mom should cut a perfectly healthy part of his body just because she has hangups about teaching him hygiene? It doesn't sound as "wanting the best for him".

Well put. Just gouge his eyes out so you don't have to teach him to read, either.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Would you?
Posted: 11/22/2008 6:17:51 AM
Shaving leaves stubble, don't it?

Maybe if she got that lasering thing done where it doesn't grow back.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 407 (view)
 
is it rape if...
Posted: 11/22/2008 5:56:28 AM

She still has the right to go about her life as she sees fit. She should not have to modify her behaviour to protect herself from being raped, no more than she should have to modify her clothing style, or the colour of her underwear, or even whether or not to wear it, to protect against rape... The Onus is not on her.... To imply differently would mean that anyone who is mugged, is at fault for carrying money, or being perceived to carry money by dressing well etc...

And I should be able to drop the soap in prison in front of Bubba without being raped. But it's not gonna happen, is it?

Seriously, to use your mugging example: This isn't a case of someone just having money and being mugged. This is a case of someone taking the money out of their purse, putting it on the table and then turning their back. Stealing is still wrong and a crime, and they certainly shouldn't be stolen from, but that sort of behaviour is more likely to result in money being stolen from you than if you otherwise didn't do it.

Life is full of compromises. We curb our behaviour in certain ways because we know the ill that can come from it.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 337 (view)
 
how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 11/22/2008 3:31:33 AM
To be fair, using a prostitute (and yes, that's all it is: use) isn't really a valid option for people wanting to lose their virginity. Apart from the obvious damage it'd do to their self-esteem (What, no one but a hooker who I have to PAY will have sex with me?), it's not something everyone's comfortable with doing.

I've had people tell me that I'm a virgin by choice, because I CHOOSE not to rape someone. Of course the logic there is flawed, but extend it to hooker use and you kind of see the point I'm getting at.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Pervert on the internet goes after my brother's young daughter....
Posted: 11/18/2008 8:50:24 AM

They do have a clinical technical term for pervs who go after teens, but I forget what they call them. The pervs that go after little kids are pedophiles.

Ephebophile.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 307 (view)
 
ARE VIRGINS MORE ATTRACTIVE
Posted: 11/15/2008 8:40:22 AM

Totally ridiculous. Good luck in finding a virgin in this day and age. I thought this
nonsense was dead after the 60's.

I see a lot of these types of posts saying something similar in the many virgin threads on POF.

Is it meant to be a joke, and if so, who actually finds it funny?
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 308 (view)
 
simple question - do you believe in a god?
Posted: 11/13/2008 9:25:01 AM
I'd like to point out that one can't really "preach" athiesm, as it is not a faith. It's a scientific analysis of data. There is no proof God exists, therefore God does not exist (to athiests).

Faith, believing in something there is no evidence for, is something one preaches. We can't know for sure if God exists or not, but just believe in him anyway, please.

FYI I'm not an athiest, so please don't flame me. Sauce be upon you.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Im 20 shes 16.
Posted: 11/11/2008 5:00:53 AM

I can see it now. You buying a tux for her prom and attending highschool football games with her.

Don't forget to get a second set of prom pics for your family.

Just thought I should mention that at least half of the girls at my Prom had dates who were several years older than them.

I guess it's the norm here?
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
The Aussie Choice Of Smart Phone?
Posted: 11/8/2008 9:27:31 AM
If I were in the market for a smart phone, I'd go for the Sony X1 Xperia.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Facial hair on Asian guys?
Posted: 11/8/2008 1:51:02 AM
I can grow facial hair but pretty much everyone I've spoken to says that they don't like the look of facial hair on an asian guy, so I choose to shave regularly. Go figure.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Holding Out with You but Boinking Someone else
Posted: 11/4/2008 12:29:03 AM
We all knew this kinda thing was happening based on all the other threads here on POF, right? Typical case of girls playing a nice guy while enjoying all the bad boys.

Nice to hear a woman express concern about her own friends conducting themselves in such a way.
 
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