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echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 705 (view)

If you're single and not dating, what's your reason? Posted: 5/25/2009 8:42:18 AM
I was active on this site for a few years but I dropped out about 1.5 years ago, probably because it seemed more like a meat market than a meet market. Meeting men online was originally a godsend to me because it is difficult for me to meet men due to being a workaholic and slightly shy. But my experience here has been disappointing due to (what I perceive to be) a lack of sincerity here. I'm trying to force myself to do more things and to go out solo in the hopes of meeting someone in a more natural setting. I'm not dating due to circumstance, not due to preference.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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How do you get a guy to not just want you for sex??? Posted: 1/4/2009 5:33:44 PM
Good luck with that. Seriously, we all want that eventually, but I think you have to know yourself and be confident that you are worth knowing for more than your physical self, even though that might be the icing on the cake. I think confidence is key.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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What is the best way to let go? Posted: 1/4/2009 5:25:32 PM
Give it time, and find an activity that you really enjoy to distract you and help you feel good about yourself again.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 2/24/2008 10:30:30 AM
Well, be honest with yourself. How interested in a woman are you if she has a terrible and low-paying job, a kid or two, and you know you'd have to foot most of the bills? It's no different. I can carry my own and I guess my expectation is that my man can carry his own too without putting an additional burden on me. Call me crazy, but by the time we're grown ups, I think it's ok to have the expecation that a partner has enough education and or skill to be able to make his or her own way through life.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 123 (view)

Longest sexual performance. Is it better quick or lasting? Posted: 2/22/2008 1:42:48 PM
I like when it lasts and lasts...:) blushing

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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ankle jewelry Posted: 2/22/2008 1:37:34 PM
I love wearing ankle bracelets. I especially like it when a man buys me one as a gift because it's a little bit of an unusual gift to get and it's kind of sexy. I don't know why I like them so much.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 458 (view)

would you marry for money? Posted: 2/15/2008 4:31:34 PM
No, I couldn't do it. (If I did I'd have to have a very cute pool boy.)

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Is It Those We Date That Are The Problem...Or Is It US? Posted: 2/15/2008 2:39:43 PM
I definitely think it's me.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 96 (view)

Men not making plans or attempting to make plans on Valentine's Day? Posted: 2/15/2008 2:33:49 PM
I think Valentine dates are better for couples. I think it's too much pressure meeting a blind date for the first time on Valentine's Day. I realize that to many people it's a stupid holiday, but to a romantic person it's a special day and I'm not sure I'd be comfortable meeting someone for the first time, unless it was a very happy accident.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Lost The Woman Of A Liftime Posted: 1/31/2008 4:07:28 PM
I'm sorry that happened to you, but it sounds over. I guess the explanation is simple, she didn't feel the same way. I don't know what to suggest. It isn't easy. Good luck.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Hook-ups and those who say they'd never do it but.... Posted: 1/27/2008 3:51:32 AM
Ms. Beavenhouse, I understand what you're saying about kids. But then you post that you're kinky in a very public forum. One day your kids or their friends may stumble upon it, and then you won't get a reputation from small town gossip, it's your own written word. Just food for thought.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Hook-ups and those who say they'd never do it but.... Posted: 1/26/2008 5:58:03 PM
I think alcohol is the catalyst. I suspect most of us older than 30 or 40 have done it at least once. What's the big deal? I suspect I'm gonna get bashed now.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 104 (view)

Would you ever get your partners name tattooed on you? Posted: 1/26/2008 5:06:33 PM
Nope. Stupid idea.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Are people over analysing relationships to much? Posted: 1/25/2008 6:33:01 PM
Yeah, I think you're right on this one. I think there is a lot of over-analyzing here. But it is entertaining sometimes. Makes me feel good about myself. I'm not as wack as some people.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Genital Herpes Posted: 1/24/2008 3:49:04 PM
I'd appreciate their honesty and keep on fishing.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 77 (view)

What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him? Posted: 1/24/2008 3:43:15 PM
It means different things to different people. When I say it I mean that when I'm with him I don't feel threatened or pressured into things. I can also mean it in the sense that I can relax and not feel as though I have to worry as much, like he's got my back. It's a great feeling for me.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 52 (view)

Semen acts as an Anti-Depressant Posted: 1/20/2008 5:06:34 AM
Maybe it's just really good sex that makes a woman happy and not the semen. Just stating the obvious.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Should women write first? Posted: 1/19/2008 3:01:54 PM
diamond wrote "Neither do I, but I was hoping you'd have a great personality." I thought it was kind of clever. Very witty. Touche.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Panic,why does this happen with the sleep overs? Posted: 1/19/2008 2:58:41 PM
LOL, that hasn't been my experience.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Should women write first? Posted: 1/19/2008 2:54:41 PM
That's exactly what I do. And I only keep on my favorite's list, men who really are my favorites.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Wait for someone you like? Posted: 1/19/2008 2:42:38 PM
Sounds like a coupling of convenience until something better comes around for guy. Maybe for girl too, but she likes to think it's more? Just my 2 cents.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Sensitive question Posted: 1/19/2008 10:49:43 AM
The proof is in the pudding. Even if you do ask he's likely to say, "Of course I can." I agree about oral only relationships. Well rounded talent keeps me a happy camper.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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218-486-4516 x 203452 Posted: 1/19/2008 7:20:00 AM
Thank you cms. I'll try that now. Hmm, It looks an icon like any other that means bash the moderator. Wouldn't want to do that.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

Of which astrological sign are most divorced people? Posted: 1/19/2008 6:56:10 AM
Hmm. I'm a Leo. It happened that way for me too. Uncanny.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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218-486-4516 x 203452 Posted: 1/19/2008 6:45:22 AM
Yes, it was within the pof instant message window. Who do I report it to?

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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218-486-4516 x 203452 Posted: 1/19/2008 6:40:04 AM
A pof friend and I were instant messaging this morning, and inside our dialogue box, as an entry from him on my end, and an entry from me on his end, we each received an invitation from the other to join in a phone chat at this number. Neither of us initiated that. Has this happend to anyone else and how did that get put into our chat? Creepy.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 129 (view)

How do you perceive loners Posted: 1/19/2008 4:46:03 AM
I go to movies by myself too. I don't think that's creepy and if it is, then I guess I'm weird too. So you keep a low profile. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Could work in your favor as being the mysterious kinda guy.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 186 (view)

How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off! Posted: 1/17/2008 7:30:09 PM
Oh brother. Not another one of these posts.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Instead of Hello, endless email JOKES? Posted: 1/17/2008 4:46:21 PM
If I get another, "Hello, hello, hello" Echo greeting I'll scream.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 68 (view)

Do you think this is creepy? Posted: 1/17/2008 4:40:39 PM
I personally prefer a few e-mails before jumping into a phone call. Jumping into phone calls right off feels like he's in a real hurry or he's desperate.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

how do I get a woman to get past me not having a drivers liscence? Posted: 1/17/2008 4:19:57 PM
Why don't you wait to date until you get your life in order? Just a thought.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

New Years Eve date from hell! Posted: 1/17/2008 4:14:43 PM
LMAO!! Happy New Year.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

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Should what you post on the forums be included on profile page? Posted: 1/17/2008 4:11:19 PM
Frankly, I wish more men would read my forums. They'd have a better idea of what they're getting into. ;)

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

The sex sucked and the person you've been dating is... Posted: 1/17/2008 2:35:36 PM
I wouldn't go out of my way to hurt someone even if he made a scene in public. Count your blessings to be free of someone who can't control their behavior in public and move on.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 117 (view)

What have you learned from online dating ? Posted: 1/17/2008 2:28:02 PM
Not to get my hopes up.

echo*

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Msg: 81 (view)

E-Harmony Posted: 1/17/2008 2:25:05 PM
Exactly said uberjules.

echo*

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Msg: 1336 (view)

Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met? Posted: 1/17/2008 2:08:26 PM
HUGE mistake. IMO.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Would you be willing to shorten your life, if it meant finding the love of your life? Posted: 1/16/2008 3:10:29 PM
Great question. I really don't know. It's all the more incentive to live longer.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 90 (view)

Should disabilities be listed on profiles? Posted: 1/16/2008 2:36:37 PM
Impotence is a good one to mention. I dated someone who failed to mention that he was diabetic and no drugs helped. I wish he would have mentioned it . Obviously not on a dating profile, but at some point before we tried to become physical. It was a real disappointment. I felt that he lied by ommission.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 150 (view)

SEX AND WOMEN OVER 40 OR 50????? Posted: 1/15/2008 4:30:19 PM
That is only one woman's experience. I'm 49 and just as randy as ever.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 112 (view)

Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith?? Posted: 1/14/2008 6:47:56 PM
This is a trick question, right?

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

Do divorced women have to settle for any man that will take them? Posted: 1/14/2008 6:41:30 PM
That Caribbean option doesn't sound half bad... Since my divorce 3+ years ago I haven't been able to sustain long-term relationsips of substance. It may have to do with my own fear of feeling trapped for another twenty years with the wrong man. I'm not in any hurries and I'm kind of taking one day at a time and doing my own thing and I figure when I least expect it it will fall in my lap. But no, I won't settle. I'd rather be alone than enter into a bad marriage or long-term living arrangement.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 247 (view)

Question - please decipher this email response for me Posted: 1/13/2008 1:35:59 PM
What kind of response did you expect from, "gosh you are cute!" ?

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

tell me something.... Posted: 1/13/2008 12:38:12 PM
Lol, well the trend is at least 20 years passed so you're a bit late to catch on.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 130 (view)

Are women over-inundated with expressions of interest? Posted: 1/12/2008 11:23:29 AM
Hardly anyone ever writes me. I get maybe two or three notes a day. I guess I've lost my touch. sigh.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 317 (view)

Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 1/11/2008 7:01:31 PM
The exact phrase, "My children are my top priority" sounds defensive, like you're ready for battle. Anyone with any intelligence knows children are a priority. I guess it's just my own knee-jerk reaction for people who feel the need to state the obvious.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 315 (view)

Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 1/11/2008 6:23:37 PM
It goes without saying. If you have to say it, it sounds like a red flag for stupid.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 135 (view)

Why do people put so little on their profiles? Posted: 1/11/2008 6:18:23 PM
I can't read long-winded profiles. Frankly, they're boring and tedious. The proof is in the pudding and if I'm not attracted to the man all the poetry in the world won't change that. I revise mine every so often and have discovered that the less said the better.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 110 (view)

Can sex keep you in a relationship? Posted: 1/11/2008 5:47:34 PM
I have recently rethought my position on this one. It can postpone my departure, but if nothing else is good about the relationship, I eventually stop going back for more. I just proved this to myself to be true.

echo*

Joined: 5/23/2007

Msg: 112 (view)

Is there anything better than being the in between guy? Posted: 11/24/2007 6:14:06 AM
I don't think you're her second choice. I think you're her first choice and she's waiting until she's yours as well. She keeps coming back in the hopes you will change your mind and want something more substantial with her. Until she senses that from you, she will go for the ride with someone else if the opportunity presents itself (if she thinks he might have potential). She's smart enough to do that, she's not putting all her eggs in your basket so to speak.

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