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skyliner1001

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Coral Springs, Inner Circle - More fun and games!!! January 31st! Posted: 1/25/2009 7:11:24 AM
I'm sure you've all caught the typographical error in this announcement. It's the STEELERS and Cardinals who are playing in the Superbowl.

skyliner1001

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My glass broke from psychic powers?! D: (Could microwaving disrupt the properties of the glass) Posted: 9/28/2008 10:44:44 AM
If you are using psycic powers to break glass, you are doing it the hard way! A simple tap with a hammer will do the trick. You may also note that glass is a fragile substance to begin with and extremes in temperature from hot to cold can easily shatter it. Now go tell Uri Geller!

skyliner1001

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What defines a straight mans view of homosexuals? Posted: 9/23/2008 10:02:38 AM
I don't think a man wakes up one day and says "Hmmmm, think I'll be gay." Whether it nature or nuture, a gay man no more decides his sexual orientation than a straight man does ( I don't really understand why I like female breasts so much- I just DO!) The way society reacts to a person who chooses to act upon his homosexuality is, I think, the essence of the original question. The basis for society is the perpetuation of the species. Since homosexuals don't contribute to that goal, their preference can not be supported by the mainstream. In fact, it could be a threat to procreation if men spend their sexual energy persuing a gender that could never have children. So, the act is "extremely frowned upon". Thank goodness we no longer stone people to death (despite the Old Testament command to do so) but we shun them, avoid them, discriminate against them, tease them and reject them. A society that understands that there will still be enough male/female contact to keep the population level is one that can allow homosexuals the same rights as its other citizens.

skyliner1001

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What's The Point? Posted: 9/23/2008 9:43:31 AM
There is a path, no simple highway, between the dawn and the dark of night. And when you go, noone may follow. That path is for your steps alone. Be Here Now You decide the "point" of your life, or choose to have no point. For me, I believe the point of my Life has not been realized yet, as I am still alive. If there is a cosmic "point", one that only the Creator knows (and seems content not to divulge to us) than it could be anything. Maybe it's for me to pat this cat with one hand and type with the other. (That's what I'm doing now)

skyliner1001

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What do you think are some of the universal truths for humanity......? Posted: 9/23/2008 6:26:22 AM
Here are two points for consideration: 1. Don't second-guess yourself. You have your opinions and beliefs. Be open to suggestions, but stick to them. Don't be wishy-washy in your belief. Don't worry if it is "wrong". To thine own self be true. 2. Don't dismiss religion. Perhaps the greatest Universal Truth is that humans seek some "meaning to Life", something bigger than themselves. Not that you have to convert to any one belief system, but realize that people do have religous beliefs that are very important to them. Respect others spiritual path. .

skyliner1001

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If aliens landed tomorrow Posted: 9/23/2008 5:43:49 AM
If reports of aliens landing on Earth were to be announced, I would totally disbelieve it. Even if I saw what looked like a flying saucer, I would suspect strongly that it was manufacturered on this planet. There would be some secret "New World Order" or govenment agenda at work. But no real extraterrestrials. The distances of space are just too vast to make a galactic trip likely (Star Trek mentality notwithstanding) and there would be no reason to pick this planet out of billions of others for visitation.

skyliner1001

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What do men feel about Gemini women? Are we too much? Posted: 9/22/2008 6:40:03 AM
I'm a Gemini male. I think astrology is nonsense. However, the stereotype of what a Gemini is "supposed to be" is in the public's knowledge, and it usually isn't good. "Two-faced." "Bi-Polar" and many other labels are applied to us just because we were born in June. I've had many women assume that I am fickle and non-monogomous because of my Zodiac sign (despite my 20 years of fidelity when married). Ironically, I seem to have a good repore with Gemini women. It may be because they suffer from the same prejudice and know that none of the characteristics assigned to us are necessarily true.

skyliner1001

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Does it really matter any more? Posted: 9/22/2008 6:31:10 AM
Of course it matters! Why would we be on a dating site if we were content to be alone? Is it somehow shameful to admit that we get lonely? There's a difference between being alone and being lonely, I understand. Perhaps we don't want a lot of drama or risk having our feelings hurt with involvement in a relationship. But we still need somebody to love- and who loves us.

skyliner1001

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Use it or lose it, what's your opinion? Posted: 9/22/2008 6:26:21 AM
Men do not "lose it" from not using it. Perhaps they can lose it due to aging, which occurs whether they are sexually active or not.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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A date to stop and reflect? Posted: 9/19/2008 11:46:31 AM
My "reflection day" used to be January 1st. I think that for most people it's either New Years Day or their birthday. But in 2002 I changed (or at least added) the date of September 11th. I remember so vividly how I felt upon hearing the news of the tragedy of the World Trade Cemter. One of my thoughts was "So, here you are, at work- papers on your desk, printers spilling out paper, phones ringing...you're thinking about lunch, your car payment, what you want to do next Friday...when BAM! a plane falls out of the sky and suddenly erases it all." Quite a disturbing thought. And a wake-up call, for me, to stop and smell the roses! Another thought I has was "Is my child OK?" I had an overwhelming urge (so much so that I left work to do so) to just hug her. I now call September 11th "Friends Rememberance Day." It's a day I not only review my Life and realize how short it is, but also to acknowledge all my friends. Each year I send them email or call- just to be sure they are OK and acknowledge their importance in my Life. Because we never know when we may have the opportunity again.

skyliner1001

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Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 9/19/2008 11:33:42 AM
I've found that age matters because of Life goals. If I'm 50 and still working, I'm not going to have the same goals as a 40-something who may still be raising her children nor a 60-something who is retired and has the time to travel. And, having raised my children to adulthood and with no desire to do so again, I really can't consider a woman of 20 or 30 something that may suddenly have her biological clock go off. In the short run, "age is just a number". But, in the long run, age defines your goals, and if you're not sharing the same ones, your relationship will fail.

skyliner1001

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More Major Forum Changes Posted: 9/19/2008 6:09:17 AM
Have you also limited the number of posts a user can make? I made one, then went to another forum and tried to make a different reply, but the system didn't seem to accept it.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Men and sex Posted: 9/19/2008 5:54:55 AM
It's obvious that both men and women enjoy sex. Women, however, need to give themselves "permission" or they can have self-esteem issues (They think of themselves as "sluts"). Men ALWAYS have "permission". It's not an issue for us to be thought of as "easy". Some men are even proud of it. So, it is really up to you. Women are the gatekeepers for sex. Whenever you feel comfortable enough to discuss the issue (which SHOULD be discussed and not allowed to happen spontaneously due to the threat of STDs) is when you should persue it. That can be a first date, a third, a thirtieth, or never!

skyliner1001

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A Date Tonight Posted: 9/18/2008 6:09:19 AM
There are those who "use" people for their own agenda. I've encountered women who feign interest only to get a free meal out of the deal. They're out there. In fact, this all-too-common problem is one of the reasons I don't go to dinner on the first date, or even the second. I have to weed out the "good time Sallys" from the sincere seekers of a LTR.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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A Date Tonight Posted: 9/17/2008 11:15:03 AM
You describe what I call "New Year's Eve syndrome". But, how do you know that things "won't work out in the long run?" It certainly WON'T if you've already decided that it won't. But,why then would you want to date them at all- let alone for a long time. Maybe this thread can be used as a reminder to all of us to check our motivation for dating any particular person on any particular night.

skyliner1001

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The Perils of Paying for a Matchmaking website.... Posted: 9/17/2008 10:44:06 AM
I joined E Harmony to meet someone who "matched me on 27 levels of compatibility", as they advertise. I took the 4 hour written test and told them everything except my blood type. I thought that I would be matched with maybe 4 ladies. After all, how many could possibly match on even half as many compatability factors? So, I expected to save time and money by getting to the right person quickly. I was matched with over 40 women! It was clear that there were no filters, as most of them lived out of state. I think their minimum milage perameter is 200 miles, which is still too far. Nor did I find that I was any more compatible with any of the matches they provided than from any other dating site. Also found the usual stuff that everyone complains about: phony pictures, lying about age (and other stuff) and being ignored to death when I contacted them. Thank goodness for free sites, such as POF!

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Changes to Forums. Posted: 9/17/2008 6:15:45 AM
Add my name to the list of those "extremely disappointed" to see the deletion of some of the best threads available. POF is different from other dating sites because it has forums! This allows us to exchange ideas and make friends that we would not otherwise contact. I believe a thread such as "Religion" is very much dating related! Next to Politics, it is most likely the area that stirs the passion of the individual the most. As with ANY thread, one can get trolls, but we readers can easily sort them out. As for the number of readers and posters- threads without interest die a natural death. I URGE you to reopen these threads!

skyliner1001

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The Perils of Paying for a Matchmaking website.... Posted: 9/17/2008 6:06:42 AM
One of the things that occurs to me about belonging to a paid dating site is the idea of "getting my money's worth." That is, since a person needs to pay each month, they should contact as many people as possible. Play a numbers game. Quantity, not quality. Another thing is the compulsion to continue contacting others even when you feel like taking a break from dating. Free dating sites, such as POF, allow us to take our time and contact whom we want when we wish to do so. POF also has these forums for members to exchange ideas on a vast array of interests. EHarmony and Match-dot-com don't!

skyliner1001

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Why Doesn't God Heal Amputees? Posted: 9/16/2008 9:04:16 AM
The simple answer is that "This isn't how God works". All other conditions may be healed without Divine Intervention. That is, a scientific explanation might be found. But the regrowth of a limb defies all science. It would truly be a miracle. Herein lies the problem! There would be no Faith needed to demonstrate the power of God. Folks would have to accept it based on locic, science and other proofs. And, God just doesn't work that way. God requires faith. Jesus himself couldn't perform healings without faith.

skyliner1001

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Why are men so bad at asking questions? Posted: 9/15/2008 6:05:24 AM
Just because a guy doesn't ask a lot of questions doesn't mean he's not interested in you! Some guys don't have the verbal skills, and many of us feel awkward when first meeting someone new. Besides, there is nothing more uncomfortable than feeling as if you are on a job interview with a lot of questions being asked. Sometimes discussing just one subject in detail can be more insightful than asking a dozen questions with short answers. Also, actions speak louder than words. One can say anything, give the answers that they think the other person wants to hear, but only by interaction will the person's true nature be revealed. Personally, I never know what to ask a lady, as I am much more interested in her character, personality, and integrity than in a bunch of facts about her life.

skyliner1001

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BURN AFTER READING or THE WAY MIDDLE AGED INTERNET DATING IS PORTAYED IN THE MEDIA Posted: 9/15/2008 5:54:03 AM
The Internet dating sites are seen as the 21st century version of single bars. Had the movie been written in the 70s or 80s, she'd be going to bars to meet the men she sleeps with. Whether it's single bars, the internet, special interest groups or other means of meeting people, there will be those into casual sex and those seeking long term relationships. People don't change- just the method of contact.

skyliner1001

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What does it mean when a woman wears a wedding ring on her right ring finger? Posted: 9/12/2008 6:28:40 AM
Glitterscream summarized the reason for my original post- I'm confused! If the reason for wearing the ring on the right hand is cultural, it would be a lot easier if women would switch to the left when in the USA. If rings have "meaning" it should be universal. If I find a woman attractive and interested in talking with her, I first look for signs she is already in a relationship before I get too flirty. I'm not about to go up to a woman and say "You look great! Are you in a relationship?" I'd like to know ahead of time if a woman would be open to a more romantic approach. Certainly to flirt with a married woman is disrespectful and more apt to getting my hopes dashed. I'm looking for signs that a woman is "available". A ring on the left ring finger means "No". I guess one on the right ring finger means "maybe".

skyliner1001

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What does it mean when a woman wears a wedding ring on her right ring finger? Posted: 9/11/2008 1:53:58 PM
Many thanks to all the responses to my question! I can conclude that she is unmarried and, perhaps, a widow. If I'm interested in her, I now feel "safe" to approach her. I respect a wedding ring and would not flirt with a married woman. There are some questions that I feel embarrassed to ask in person. That's why this forum is a great service to confused guys!

skyliner1001

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What does it mean when a woman wears a wedding ring on her right ring finger? Posted: 9/11/2008 6:23:17 AM
Occasionally I see women wearing what look like wedding rings, but on a finger other than the left ring finger. I look at the left ring finger ring as a "No Tresspassing" sign. But what should I conclude about a ring of the right type, but wrong finger?

skyliner1001

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How to understand the world if evolution were false Posted: 9/11/2008 6:20:04 AM
The mystery as to the beginning of Life has been explained in 2 ways: Creationism and Evolution. Both have evidence to support it and both have flaws. From the religious view, it's possible that all the "evidence" to support the theory of Evolution is placed there by God to test our faith in the Bible. Many others find such a poition to be absurd. In science, there is certainly evidence of natual selection and mutation within species. The problem is that one species doesn't become another. A virus, after mutation, is still a virus- not an octopus. Creationism can not change its premise that Life began when God created it. Evolution can keep changing its ideas to fit the new evidence that is constantly being found. Creationist believe in God and see Evolution theory as an "evil" attack. Evolutionist are atheists who seek explanations for things outside of a religion. Alas, the twain shall never meet.

skyliner1001

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If God/Jesus Returns, How Will You Know It's Him? Posted: 9/10/2008 6:39:20 AM
According to the Bible, Jesus will return, but never touch the Earth. He will be seen in the clouds and believers will accend into heaven immediately. Although I've seen cloud formations that look a lot like Jesus (traditional representation), believers are still here. So he hasn't returned just yet. Anyone claiming to be Jesus, or the Messiah and walks on this planet is a fraud. The Bible says so, and Jim Jones and David Koracsh (sp?) seem to verify it.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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original sin Posted: 9/10/2008 6:31:59 AM
In message 137 Zoretta repeats my comment and adds one of her own: “...>The serpent did not tell Adam and Eve that they would be immortal (nor their soul). Simply that they would know the difference between "Good" and "Evil"...” I think the serpent might have implied it by the following verse: ASV - Gen 3:4 “And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die.” I sit corrected. This brings up the point that if humans had the abilty to "surely die", then they were immortal at creation. After their disobedience, they became mortal and now all humans die. What, then, was the "Tree of Life" in the Garden for? Had A&E not eaten of the Tree of Knowledge, what would eating of the Tree of Life have done? As to Baptism being a rite that grants forgiveness of original sin, both infants and adults can submit to the ritual. Adults do so by choice (Indeed, there are denominations of Christianity that insist that such practice is essential to salvation). Infants are subjected to the ceremony because their parents have made the decision for them. Whether God insists on Baptism (and then we get into the "sprinkling" and "dunking" debate) or not and if Baptism of babies influences the infant's chances of getting into heaven or not is the topic for another thread.

skyliner1001

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Dating 101 Posted: 9/9/2008 5:36:21 AM
The first thing I notice about a woman is her height. "If you're tall, you're beautiful". I've defined "tall" as 5'7"+.

skyliner1001

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original sin Posted: 9/8/2008 12:55:20 PM
In message 133 Zoretta said "What I got from the Genesis story is that the idea of the immortal soul was introduced by the serpent. From that day on, it seems to me, most people liked that idea better. The “church” just capitalized on it. " >The serpent did not tell Adam and Eve that they would be immortal (nor their soul). Simply that they would know the difference between "Good" and "Evil" (Don't get me started on the subject as to how their decision could be a sin (wrong) insomuch as they couldn't tell the difference!) I had stated that “In Genesis we find that God states (paraphrased) "The day you eat of the Tree of Knowledge, you shall surely die." Since neither Adam nor Eve died physically, we can only conclude that it was their soul that died.” and Zoretta asked if it was my opinion or that of the church. Since the statement from God is that (paraphrased) "The day you eat of the tree of knowledge you shall surely die", and Eve did, in fact eat the fruit (later giving it to Adam) and they lived 900 years afterward, we can not interpret the verse literally. Either (1) God lied or (2) "the day" means "period of time" and not a 24 hour day or (3) it was their soul (which God had breathed into Adam) that died. I think the answer is #3 We could get into a long debate as to whether the soul is immortal or not. For every argument that can be presented that suggest the soul IS immortal another can be found to support the idea that it is NOT. It is the stuff religions are made of!

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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original sin Posted: 9/8/2008 6:12:02 AM
In message 131 JoyfilledJoanie said (abbreviated): 1. Christ may be Jewish but he's not a zombie (zombies rot) 2. He doesn't grant immortality... we all have immortal souls already" 1. The idea that "Christ is a zombie" comes from the belief he rose from the dead- just as a zombie is supposedly risen after death. Also, zombies are said to eat the flesh of humans, and Christians are supposed to take communion- a ritualistic and symbolic eating of the flesh of Jesus. I'm not supporting such ideas, just explaining them. 2. The words "immortal soul" are not found in the Bible. The idea that the soul is immortal is an idea introduced by the church. In Genesis we find that God states (paraphrased) "The day you eat of the Tree of Knowledge, you shall surely die." Since neither Adam nor Eve died physically, we can only conclude that it was their soul that died. Hence, humans no longer live forever, and risk permanent annhiliation. (Note that the verse does NOT say "...you shall surely die, then be raised up again, judged, and sent into eternal punishment and suffering if found unworthy,") Dead is dead. The hope that Jesus brings is that we can now gain everlasting life! I liked her idea that "original sin" isn't a crime that can only be forgiven by a blood sacrifice, but is rather a "condition" that separates us from God.

skyliner1001

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IQ is a garbage tool for determining intelligence Posted: 9/5/2008 9:20:44 AM
Yes, "Moby Richard"! I didn't realize the POF censors would edit out the name of a classic novel- but they did! The point is that knowing who was an author of a book or where islands are located geographically hardly makes someone "smart". No more than not knowing makes one "dumb". IQ tests (Even the MENSA entrance exam) are filled with such trivia that anyone who had even common sense could look up if they really wanted to know. I contend that such research skills are more of an indication of "IQ" than actually knowing the fact! There will always be something you don't know- but knowing how to find out takes problem solving skills. And, IMO, that shows intelligence.

skyliner1001

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IQ is a garbage tool for determining intelligence Posted: 9/5/2008 6:22:06 AM
I agree!!! IQ tests are little more than trivia contests. These questions from a real test: "Who wrote Moby****" and "What continent is Madagascar nearest?" Knowing the answer to these questions merely means you paid attention is school. And they have little practical application in survival. I present the case that true intelligence is demonstrated by problem solving. It's how we use whatever information we can access to resolve conflicts, improve our lives, earn a living and survive that matters. My IQ scores are usually higher because I have good verbal skills. But the ability to paint, to sculpt, to write and play music show as much "genius" as knowing how to congegate verbs. Those skills are never meaured in a standard IQ test. It has been shown that IQ tests have been racially biased. I'm not certain as to what extent this has been changed, but the reason for administering such tests in the first place can only be to "label" people at best and affect their placement in society at worst. (PS: 1. Herman Melville. 2. Africa)

skyliner1001

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We need More get togethers SWFL Posted: 9/4/2008 11:29:37 AM
This may be stating the obvious, but it would seem that you should host an event yourself!

skyliner1001

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Anti-black Racism in Religion! Posted: 9/3/2008 9:21:06 AM
I'm wondering if the original poster is referring to a group called the "Black Hebrews"? This sect believes that those who call themselves "Jews" today are actually Romans, and that the real jews fled to Ethiopia and other parts of Africa after the destruction of the temple. Hence, the black race are "the chosen people". Yes, it's a very racist organization. Still, the idea is fascinating. The common portrait of Jesus is taken from the Shroud of Turin. The image thereon seems to be of a European male. This is the main reason it is considered a fake. It has always puzzled me why blacks are some of the most deeply devoted Christians in America. I can understand that they were kidnapped from their native soil and forced into slavery here in the United States. The religion of the slaveowners would be forced upon them, and their original religion gradually disappeared. But, in the 60's there was a "back to the motherland" movement and blacks started doing things like wearing traditional African dress and changing their names. Yet, there has not been a surge in new churches with African-based religions. ( I don't even know what they might be!) I would think that it is because Christianity appeals to the downtrodden. However, Cival Rights have allowed for blacks to have the same opportunities as whites. Yet, blacks still are predominantly Christian. If I didn't know better, I'd think the Black Hebrews were onto something.

skyliner1001

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Problem with Jewish women Posted: 9/3/2008 8:13:05 AM
My understanding of the Jewish practice of circumcision (I'm not Jewish) is that it is a covenent with God. Basically, an act of obedience. As with Kosher, the dietary laws, it seems as if there are some health benefits! But, times have changed. We can cook our pork and wash our penis to prevent transmitted diseases. In fact, I contend that uncircumcized men are cleaner! We know that there could be a problem if we don't wash carefully, so make sure we do. Any girls who have issues with uncircumcized guys need to tell us before we get too "frisky". I've been out with Jewish women who have been brainwashed into thinking that an uncircumcized man is "dirty", my assurances to the contrary notwithstanding. I've had the question asked all but immediately by a woman who I was interested in dating. We talked on the phone and when I told her I was not "cut" (as she put it) she told me she wouldn't even go out with me. But, this is better than starting to get physical only to be told to stop when things heat up and only then discovering it is a psychological issue.

skyliner1001

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HALLOWEEN \GET TO GETHER IN BROWARD - WPB Posted: 9/3/2008 6:10:51 AM
Usually there is a showing of "The Rocky Horror Picture Show" on Halloween or close to that date ,in Hollywood. This may not be a "party" in the traditional sense (it starts at midnight and is in a theatre, not a bar) but may be a lot of fun. Certainly, there will be costumes! If enough people are interested, I could look into the details

skyliner1001

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law of attraction Posted: 9/2/2008 6:40:47 AM
There is something to be said for the power of positive thinking! I like to play disc golf, and play at a park with Par 3 on each basket. Starting in June, I finally developed a semi-consistant drive and usually wind up 30-40 feet from the basket after 2 drives. I kept missing these putts and got in the habit of scoring a 4 each time. But then, I started saying "One of these days, I WILL make a 3 putt!" Each time, before and after throwing (and missing) my third disc, I'd say it- usually our loud. Saturday, I 3- putted three baskets! I don't know if I "attracted the energy" to do this, or if it was my practicing that was the underlying factor. But I do know that the "positive thinking" kept me trying. Now for the birdie.....

skyliner1001

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How have you been pampered/spoiled by a woman? Posted: 9/2/2008 6:22:39 AM
I like to play disc golf. My girlfriend went with me to "just be with me", even though she didn't play and I was working out on my own. On one basket, I threw the disc into the water and had given it up for lost. She found it, and even waded into the water to get it. Later, she accidently stepped on a pile of red ants and got bitten a lot. She had already been bitten by the mosquitoes in the wetter parts of the park. This woman spent her time with me, suffered the pain of insect bites and went out of her way to retrieve a disc. This is the most "pamperred and spoiled" I have ever felt!

skyliner1001

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Mary Magdalene - what if.. Posted: 8/29/2008 6:55:52 AM
For many centuries Mary Magdeline has been portrayed as a prostitute. Now she is said to be the wife of Jesus. This wide range of opinions results from the lack of historic documents that might offer the "proof" you seek. It is all speculation. Catholicism emphaiszes the importance of the male. God is male, Jesus is male. All the apostles are male. Women are portrayed as servants. Female Goddess religions challenge this emphasis on male supremacy. Christianity encounted many such religions as it spread throughout Europe, and usually succeeded in wiping them out. But the belief in a strong female image persisted. So, Mary, the mother of Jesus, was given elevated status. She is the only "sacred female" in the New Testement. I think that if Mary Magdeline were elevated in status, especially to the rank of "wife" it would challenge Mary (the mother) position and seriously damage Catholic doctrine. Look at names of Catholic churches and/or schools. "Our Lady of Heaven" "Our Lady of Lourdes", "Our Lady of LaSallette". "Our Lady of...fill in the blank". Catholicism seems to emphasize the importance of Mary even more than Jesus.

skyliner1001

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why men want women to have all this.. Posted: 8/26/2008 6:52:15 AM
Ambitious Libra said "you guys are totally missing the point OP is basically asking why do men have to go with visual first then personality". The answer to that question can be found in Biology 101. Men are driven to provide the seed for procreation. It's our chemistry, biology and social programming. When the "urge to merge" strikes, a man is attracted to a woman that gets his attention. Clothing ( or lack thereof) certainly can do that. Men don't stop and ask "I wonder if she has a nice personality"? Personality helps develop a bonding after the initial biological attraction has been resolved. This is the difference between a one night stand and a long term relationship. FWIW, I've seen many a womans profile that insists that a guy provide a picture if he wants to get a response. Women are attracted by the visual as well.

skyliner1001

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Chemistry Posted: 8/26/2008 6:24:23 AM
When meeting a girl, if I mention sex then I am accussed of being a "pig" (or worse) and told that "that's all you are interested in". If I don't mention it, a woman will tell me there is "no chemistry", and move on. This is a very tricky situation- one I would think many other men have encountered. It seems we need to get it "just right"- show enough interest so there is "chemistry" but not so much that we come across as jerks. I think the balance equation differs from woman to woman, but is there any general advice you gals can offer to help us out of this "Catch 22"?

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Romance Posted: 8/25/2008 7:30:51 AM
What is "romance"? Is it a courting ritual wherein the male wines and dines a woman, gives her flowers, and recites poetry? Is it ONLY these stereotypical, trite and traditional actiions- or is there more needed to define it as "romance"? How do women act "romantic"?

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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What is Wrong with Nudity? Posted: 8/22/2008 6:31:33 AM
If I'm not mistaken, the ancient Romans had public baths wherein everyone was naked. No big deal.If their society degenerated, it was not due to nudity. However, since our modern society has made nudity taboo, it would be extremely difficult to return to an acceptance of public nudity. In Art, (and, IMO, the entire world) there is nothing more beauitiful than the nude female body. Guys like it (even gay ones!) and women like it (even straight ones). When presented in the context of "art", nobody objects to nudity. I've been to a nudist colony and found it was anti-erotic (my fear of walking around with a perpetual erection proved to be unfounded). However, I was uncomfortable. Not due to shame (although who'd want to look at MY body?!) but because rocks hurt my feet when walking without shoes. The sun burned my white bottom, despite sunblock. Clothes offer protection from the elements which is why we wear them.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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The Mars Hoax Posted: 8/21/2008 6:32:47 AM
The event has already occurred. I recall seeing it about 4 years ago. Mars appeared to be bigger than the moon! The email is a hoax only because it has been circulated past the occurrance date.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first? Posted: 8/15/2008 11:56:31 AM
Interestingly, in my experience, it has always been the woman who opens up this topic. One of them told me that sex is a crucial part of a relationship and she said that if she could be satisfied sexually "everything else will work out." Certainly heterosexual men are dating women (and vice versa) because they want sex . It is part of a relationship. How important of a part may vary between each person, but the subject is bound to be discussed sooner or later. (Remember the "Three date rule"?) I supposed that the more important it is, the sooner it will be discussed. Just because a man (or woman) brings up the topic does not mean that is ALL they want. But it may be such a critical area that the subject is introduced quite early. Of course there is a correct and polite way to discuss it and there are ways to be a complete jerk about it. If a guy (or gal) can't discuss the issue in a cival manner, they are not apt to discuss other areas of concern either.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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THE HEBREWS ATTACK Posted: 8/15/2008 9:47:52 AM
The genocide was jusitifed by saying that the victims were all wicked. This could not have been the true reason because childern and animals were also slaughtereed. It is hardly fair to massacre an entire city for the crimes of a few; neither is it right to murder a child for the crimes of its parents. The real crime, according to the bible, was that the natives of the region had become disobedient. The more obedient Hebrews were therefore elected by Jehovah to wipe out the natives and replace them. You may find that the "wickedness" is that these places worshipped a different God. Or should I say "Goddess", as their diety was female. This would explain the need to wipe out all traces of the city, its believers, and thereby its religion.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Money spent on dinner dates Posted: 8/15/2008 9:43:49 AM
Ageless Wonder wrote "I don't believe it ever was a "tradition" that a man pay and expected to have sex or keep the woman subserviant. I don't know where this idea came from but I have never found that to be a fact. A man would pay because he wanted to take a woman out on a date, and was interested in her. She, in return would invite him over for a home-cooked dinner if there was interest on both sides. If the two became exclusive, either party would pay for a date, or go dutch. Times haven't changed that much, but it seems attitudes have. IMO" Of course it's "tradition" that a man pay for the date! It's extremely rare that a woman would ask a guy out and pay the costs. Many men would object to such an offer as it may make them feel like "less of a man." This idea is the result of social programming. I always get a lot of flack from both genders whenever I suggest that a change is needed in this custom. Whatever argument can be made as to why a man should pay the costs of dates can easily apply to women as well (she wants to impress her date, or show she is interested in him, etc) It would seem to me that scenerio Ageless Wonder describes is backwards. If we are friends (as most women state that they want to start a relationship as "friends") than each should pay their own way. Most friends pay for themselves- until they become "good friends". Then, they may offer to treat the other to a meal or movie. Likewise, a relationship should start off as friends with each paying their own costs until the point wherein they advance the relationship to something special. Then you start buying gifts for each other, remembering birthdays and other ways of expressing your love.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Money spent on dinner dates Posted: 8/15/2008 6:19:46 AM
The tradition that a man pay for the dinner comes from a time in history when men made more money than women and used it to keep them subserviant. Many guys who pay for a meal are "expecting something in return" (sex). A woman should at least offer to pay her share. By doing so, she keeps her independence and isn't obligated to do anything she doesn't want to. Why is a guy considered "cheap" if he agrees to share the cost? Women never offer to pay the entire costs, but are not considered cheap. It has to do with the social expectations, the way we were raised, and tradition. But the times have changed and we need to be freed of this ritual.. When everyone shares costs, true friendships can develop.

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Why is Pot cosidered a taboo? Posted: 8/14/2008 6:48:07 AM
Ahh! So YOU'RE the one! I notice that each and every profile I view has the question "Use Drugs?" answered "No". I figured there had to be someone who is. As for the answer to the question, rent the movie "Reefer Mdness" (The musical) and watch the commentary about how hemp became illegal. Powerful people like Randolph Hurst who owned the newspapers began a propoganda campaign to irradicate a plant that could be made into paper- thus threatening his timeber business. And Dupont joined him to sell nylon to the Navy, which was using rope made of - you guessed it- hemp. Even the word "Marijuana" was made up by Hurst to connect it with "undesireables" (Mexicans). Before then the plant was called "hemp" (and still is by those making clothes and other articles out of it)

skyliner1001

Joined: 5/26/2007

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Hey guys...what is going wrong here? Posted: 8/14/2008 6:31:26 AM
Guys have similar experiences! I go through cycles of wanting to date, then find I'm running all over the state, spending all kinds of money and come up empty. So, I decide to quit dating. But then, I get lonely and the desire to share Life with someone special comes back and I start dating again. I've found that the more you focus on a persons positive attributes, the easier it is to be drawn to them. And the more you look at the negative, the more you will want to get away from them. I see many "laundry lists" of things a woman "must have" and/or "can't stand". If there are 10 items on the list and I match 9, they may focus on the 1 point in which we are incompatible and decide to break the communication. Just remember that relationships are special because they are rare and that nobody is perfect.

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