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XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Is it fair to be friends with your ex? Posted: 8/2/2009 3:40:06 AM
I think there's a difference between being "friends" with an ex and being on "friendly terms" with an ex. Most people who say they're friends with an ex actually mean "on friendly terms" meaning they don't socialize with each other but, if they met each other on the street they'd be civil.........

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Have I lost my dignity? Posted: 4/5/2009 9:57:28 AM
yes you have lost your dignity. She's taking care of one lazy ex and calling another to catch up. If it was a good thing for you, you wouldn't be losing sleep or asking these questions. They should all move out of your house not you.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

Are there any people left that date one at a time? Posted: 4/5/2009 8:11:15 AM
how was this woman playing games with you if you knew what she was doing?

xHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 125 (view)

he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you Posted: 3/30/2009 8:03:22 PM
............creepy

xHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Guy your dating is on POF looking for friends? Posted: 3/30/2009 7:41:57 PM
More like 'kettle meet hypocritical pot". First you wrote" not too serious" then you wrote "dating hard"...which is it? How can you be upset that he's on POF if you are??? so yeah, it was a stupid question

XHaligalX

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Msg: 8 (view)

Intermittent explosive disorder Posted: 12/8/2008 9:54:29 PM
I always thought it was called "I'm a selfish brat disorder"

xHaligalx

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Msg: 53 (view)

Is a sense of humour REALLY that attractive? discuss... Posted: 7/22/2008 2:08:43 AM
Everyone has a sense of humour however, everyone's sense of humour is different. I think when people say they're looking for someone with a "good sense of humour" they really mean someone with the "same sense of humour as me".

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Did anyone have any success with following The Rules? Posted: 7/7/2008 9:52:16 AM
If people had success they'd be in that type of relationship and not here wouldn't they?

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Am I wrong in this situaton or should I tell her? Posted: 6/29/2008 4:04:38 AM
Tell her on Monday and apologize for the games you played earlier

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 80 (view)

How can I get my ex to respect me more? Posted: 6/21/2008 5:59:59 AM
re OP: it's more a matter of him not abiding by a judges' decision than not respecting you. re msg 4: it's absurd to suggest that if you aren't getting respect it's because you aren't giving it. That's akin to suggesting that if someone kicks you that you must deserve it. twisted thinking imho.

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

I'm at a crossroads Posted: 6/19/2008 3:12:53 AM
I'm lost- WHY would you go camping with someone you broke up with and, from what you've written, detested at that time? and uh, why would someone you knew at that time rent your apt from him after you had all those problems your apt???? strange, very strange

XHaligalX

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Msg: 70 (view)

Wife has a friend - help :-( Posted: 6/19/2008 3:07:12 AM
no you aren't wrong to be angry - she's playing you for a fool.

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 254 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/17/2008 5:45:16 AM
you're assuming that everyone veiws this site as " a dating site to meet people where we think depending on each other to traverse this journey called life is a plus?" I don't feel that depending on anyone is a plus nor do I feel I'm looking for someone to 'depend' on to "traverse this journey of life".

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

Am I wrong, you make the call... Posted: 5/31/2008 4:26:51 AM
You did nothing wrong - she's cheap and needy. Consider yourself lucky you found out so soon

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 195 (view)

Allergic to Work Posted: 5/29/2008 3:05:53 AM
She sounds like my last bf (except for the cleaning part) He quits left and right. He borrowed a lot of money from me ( has never returned so much as a penny) and preferred that to having someone see him in a job that was "beneath him" well PFFTTT what it is, is laziness pure and simple. People like that have excuse for EVERYTHING under the sun. Yes you have let her become financially dependant on you. No matter how much you talk about it, she has no reason to get a job as long as you provide for her now does she?

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

Would you date someone on antidepressants? Posted: 5/7/2008 7:10:32 AM
^^Another trouble with "modern living" is that everyone is a guru.

XHaligalX

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

is it wrong to surf profiles? Posted: 5/2/2008 10:59:46 AM
I think you're either addicted to the web site or you need to get out more

XHaligalX

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Iran as bad as Bin Laden - killing US troops Posted: 5/1/2008 8:19:10 PM
they aren't "over" the US just sent a missile into Somalia some people just never learn

XHaligalX

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Msg: 25 (view)

Does anyone else notice this? my theory on smothering/suffocating someone Posted: 4/30/2008 8:46:20 PM
Simon: this is what is known as "Blaming others" as in YOU, are trying to blame others for your reactions to things If you keep messaging a woman and she doesn't respond to you, it isn't her fault that you can't take a hint.

XHaligalX

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Msg: 31 (view)

finding out your b/f is gay Posted: 4/19/2008 10:44:22 AM
How is it a good thing if he's deceptive?? Someone lied to you right from the start and you're considering keeping him around for whatever reasons?? that boggles me

xHaligalx

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How do you handle being Intimidated by your date's intelligence Posted: 3/30/2008 9:24:14 PM
I agree with a few others....seems it's not an "intelligence" issue but rather a "selfish" issue on his part. If he was sincerely interested in you he would try to find out what YOU are interested in and talk about those subjects as well. There are no ifs, ands or buts about that.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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I really wanna know itf the girl I am speakng to is real? Posted: 3/30/2008 9:19:33 PM
Being as this would be the hundreth time I've heard of such a story, I'd say you're being played with. You could always ask for a phone number....

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

My beef about PART TIME dads who identify as SINGLE dads Posted: 3/30/2008 9:12:44 PM
I don't view the original poster as bashing anyone but rather pointing out a difference between being a single (only) parent and a single (not in a relationship) parent. I get a bit perturbed by it as well ( people who are split parenting) labeling themselves as single (only) parent.s

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 120 (view)

could you live without your tv Posted: 3/28/2008 2:43:15 PM
yes edmonfella you get out of what you choose to peruse but the choices for perusing are crap. The advertising is as well. Continually making brains hard wired to believe that if you don't have beauty, wealth etc you're a bum...spend spend spend

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Spain or Guatemala? Posted: 3/9/2008 8:27:09 AM
for crying out loud if you are going to South America learn South American Spanish if you're going to Spain learn European Spanish How difficult is that to figure out

xHaligalx

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Desire to have kids and money issues... Posted: 3/7/2008 2:18:53 PM
the only reason I can think of is that they don't think

xHaligalx

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Msg: 24 (view)

Question: I broke up but is it possible to be friends with the ex ever again? Posted: 3/7/2008 6:36:56 AM
You'll give it a month? Why? She doesn't want to talk to you "she's cut off all contact with me" hello???????????

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Pomeranian potty training advice. Posted: 2/23/2008 11:23:24 AM
take her outside BEFORE she needs to, so that when she goes, she's outside. It might mean spending a hell of a lot of time outside but, as often is the case, you have to do what you have to do.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

he wants to put my name on his SKIN? Posted: 2/12/2008 6:44:55 AM
question #1 he's an insecure obsessive person #2 yes it is you just met each other for cripes sake!!!!!!!!!!!! if he can love you that fast he can "unlove' you just as fast and then your stuck with the same of some dude you barely know on your butt and won't other guys just LOVE to see that think about it

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Do other countries have a pledge of allegiance? Posted: 2/12/2008 6:41:06 AM
Jip......NEVER ever quote that wikipedia site - do you know where the info comes from? LOL The "oath" you quoted is British and used for military purposes or something like that. When you sign up or something?? Or when one becomes a citizen in a commonwealth country...I forget No, Canadians do not have a pledge of Allegiance . The Acadiens were expelled for not agreeing to take sides with Britain if war broke out with France again.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Approaching servers/bartenders Posted: 2/12/2008 6:21:23 AM
Yes they get hit on a zillion times If she sees you eyeing her and has half a brain she'll know what you're up to. If she doesn't hit on you I'd leave her alone because she IS at her workplace and having been there and done that, the last thing you want to do is check out a guy who hangs in BARS HAHAH Sorry, it is really funny

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Should Guys Get Valentines Day gifts? Posted: 2/12/2008 6:14:20 AM
SLing...all the sexy lingerie you see for sale on Valentines Day who do you that is REALLY for? the women? you silly

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Serious question about dating for someone who has finally moved out on their own Posted: 2/12/2008 5:58:40 AM
I don't agree with mrvitamin at all and stunted vision it is. he went on the FREEBIE education via the military so don't listen to him > His math doesn't work out. If everything he did was SO great he wouldn't be on a website like this would he if he is STILL a married man now would he? pfftt never mind him he has a redneck vision of the world. Be yourself and don't worry about what you've done or haven't done In Europe it's very common, living with parents til one is set. The granparents sit, not daycares. in North AMerica people have made a habit of moving out in their teens, scrounging, crap jobs, kids and BIG debt, BIGGER REGRETS, parents alone, then sent to nursing homes or state homes WORSE acckk but here in N.A. no, it's all about what " other people think" and other assorted crap ughh I can't read these forums, they're too depressing knowing people like the vitaman are out there.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Should Guys Get Valentines Day gifts? Posted: 2/12/2008 5:48:25 AM
tejas...it means he's single now but when he was in a relationship he never received such a thing and of course they should

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

Ettiquette regarding keeping ex sexual partners as friends Posted: 2/12/2008 5:41:17 AM
ettiquette?wtf??? your date should NOT ask you to a party at his EXES house without TELLING you that she's an ex first!!!!!!! pffttt friends pfftttt he left out CRUCIAL information that put you on the spot How can you not know what to do? tell him to FO

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Jewelry from others Posted: 2/12/2008 5:31:53 AM
I don't think it's jealousy jugular. He told the woman the piece was attractive. He didn't ask her who gave it to her! I think the woman has no class/manners

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Hug or a Hand Shake? Posted: 2/12/2008 5:28:46 AM
To me, hugs are for people you know well. I'd find it creepy otherwise.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Valentine Friends Posted: 2/12/2008 5:25:33 AM
well maybe you're her special booty call

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Jewelry from others Posted: 2/12/2008 5:21:55 AM
That's one hell of a tacky thing to say yes it would bother me...I'd think EWWW what am I doing with such a tacky person

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Can some SMART girl please explain to me what the problem is..? Posted: 2/11/2008 12:14:42 PM
I agree with Charlea - you seem a bit demanding Plus, lighten up - it's only Valentine's Day for cripes sake

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

Can cell phones help us maintain a nutritious and healthy lifestyle? Posted: 2/10/2008 4:57:55 AM
I agree with Smitty. People are getting wider and lazier

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

cranberries and UTI's Posted: 2/10/2008 4:55:41 AM
Finding the cause will be your cure. One of you has something/ or does something that is triggering it.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

getting rid of bags Posted: 2/10/2008 4:52:43 AM
Nothing in preparation H makes the skin tighter, it reduces swelling. And yes it does work.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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I think a girl fancies me from work Posted: 2/10/2008 4:50:28 AM
you better be prepared to be out of the closet at work if that's your real picture. You could always let on you have a gf elsewhere

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

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Double-edged Sword of Unemployment Posted: 2/10/2008 4:39:42 AM
Why is it that we are focusing so much attention on illegal immigration when there is a bigger problem, or is outsourcing not a problem in yours eyes? ^^^^^^^^ I'd rearrange that previous post: Because outsourcing reaps large profits to big companies. These are the ones that give to political candidates. Illegal immigration benefits the politicians who need things to b^^ch about.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Are younger people more immature than thirty years ago? Posted: 2/10/2008 4:33:28 AM
crayon, I think the poster meant people in general, not just the flower children of the 70/s. re the original post...teenagers sure seem more immature. Especially young girls. All they do is yell and squeal like buffoons

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 338 (view)

Online Dating............. Posted: 2/10/2008 4:25:49 AM
TheseHazel...you did the exact same thing you're getting mad at him for! He just got to the website before you did.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Need some help here, any opinions are appercaited... Posted: 2/10/2008 4:22:18 AM
I don't think she's hiding anything. It would seem she got more than a tad annoyed when you let her know how you felt about her meeting up with her friends after you. Why did you have a problem with that??

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

8559 miles of distance. Never meet. Does it work? Posted: 2/10/2008 4:15:37 AM
petitis pieds...it seems he doesn't care about making you upset! Why do you want to be with someone who leaves you guessing? wondering? how awful. I think you definately should not wait.

xHaligalx

Joined: 5/28/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Why is it important Posted: 2/9/2008 9:24:15 AM
I try not to read too much into thet question "what do you do?" more often than not it's a conversation starter.

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