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 Author Thread: I think my friend wants me
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
I think my friend wants me
Posted: 10/9/2009 6:00:22 PM
ha ha yeah i think she wants you man, just go for a kiss the next time your all cuddled up, she obviously isnt afraid of being close with you. go for it! either that or she thinks your gay, and see's you as a non sexual threat.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
rules of engagment?
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:56:01 PM
are you new to America or something. your 30 and you need to know how to ask women on a date.....hmmm. and asking these questions with a title like rules of engagement? if you need to have somebody else define your ROE, call your commanding officer.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
wondering what girls really see
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:41:52 PM
yeah, and just like guys claming to be nice, im skeptical of the girls that are quick to claim they are honest and caring and blah blah blah. saying these things about yourself male or female is pointless, if you are a nice guy/girl, let the other person find out on their own. just write a profile about you in general. im a no shitter and it shows in my profile lol
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
women at the grocery store
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:32:48 PM

All I can say is...approach, approach then approach some more!!!!! Every attractive woman you see. The more practice you have the better and better you'll get. Don't worry about losing your job. That's just a BS excuse you put in your head cause you don't feel comfortable approaching. Unless you're totally offensive, nothing will ever happen. This is your life, bro, have fun!!!!


yeah im with this guy, if you were a doctor or an engineer or some other job maybe i would hold my tounge and not say anything. but a grocery store? those jobs are a dime a dozen. maybe losing your job from hitting on women will be a great catalyst to get a better job. unless your the owner or manager of the grocery store, but then hey, who they gonna complain to? my old managers used to hit on women all the time at the store. even the married managers. and if a customer ever complained to them about me, my managers covered my ass. if your boss is such a jerk and worried about the one min of company time you take to talk to a lady, you need a new job anyway. dont let these people convince you to be a corporate slave and not be a human being.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
is trying to be friends first really logical?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:01:38 PM

Oh, Just my opinion, but when you see that 'friends' word on a dating site, it means to me that they don't want to dive right in and be a "girlfriend" tomorrow.
Just be the guy I am seeing and relax and let the relationship develop.


maybe its just semantics, but wouldnt that be the dating portion? i dont know about anybody else, but when i go on dates, and when i hang out with friends, its a totally different situation as far as atmosphere, activities, and behavior is concerned. if im hanging out with a friend (and this is just one example) and they are constantly texting on their cell phone, i would think nothing of it, but if im on a "date" i would consider it slightly rude. and if im paying for both people its definitely not a friend based situation. my friends are self sufficient people lol.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
is trying to be friends first really logical?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:28:12 PM
"I am looking for a friend first. I feel that a good strong relationship is based on a very good friendship." ive have seen this philosophy listed many times in the ladies profiles. and though i dont read them i bet its in some guys too. so heres my question. is this really a logical process? if you meet someone and you "click" so to say, is there even really a friendship forming? being someones friend and being their boyfriend/girlfriend are two different things totally. you can be a friend and not be a bf or gf. but when your a bf or gf your automatically a friend right? if there is a crisis in your life, and its not involving your relationship, who do you turn to for support first? the other person in your relationship right? i dont know about anybody else, but i cant really control when i begin to have feelings of affection for a woman, sometimes its been on the first date. sometimes ive known them for years and just go, damn, and see an old friend in a whole new light, but once those feelings start, and if their mutual, the progression past friendship seems to happen fairly rapidly. while i cant disagree that a friendship is a vital element in a relationship. some of my best relationships started very fast, and a great friendship was forged in the process. including a couple friendships that withstood horrible breakups in the relationship. im sure the bland response will be "everybody's different" which really is true to an extent, but im looking for a little more insight into structuring your feelings for what seems to be a specific process of finding who is right for you. with this philosophy, it would seem that it goes, lets see if we can be friends, then lets see if we can go on dates, then if all goes well a great relationship is the result. my problem with this is it doesnt take feelings into account. who knows maybe its just me. any help?
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Being friends with all the EX’s…Normal??
Posted: 5/14/2009 2:26:56 AM
if it bothers you that she is friends with he ex b/fs and you talk to her about it and cant overcome it, then she needs to stop seeing them, or you need to stop being her b/f and just be her friend like the other guys, i agree its good of her to not just write people off and can be friends with ex b/fs, but have you ever asked her what she would think of you hanging out with your ex g/f's? its a two way street. ask her to put herself in your shoes, what if you were the guy inbetween to ex g/f's in a picture? how would this make her feel? if she wouldnt care, and you believe this is a sincere responce, then your jelousy is is going to cause problems in the relationship. if it would bother her, and she still wants to hang out with her ex bf's her lack of consideration should be a sign to end it.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
What to do ?
Posted: 5/14/2009 2:03:55 AM
im with goodiewich find the anger and the angst, and use it. and maybe talk to your bro about what she did to you and try and save him from her as well, then you two can hate on her together!
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Should i ask a friend out?
Posted: 5/14/2009 1:52:16 AM
the lack of a relationship in his specific case is odd, and i wont dare make any guess as to why this is so, but i have long standing female friends i would date, and those i wouldnt. but breaking that barrier is hard, and ive never done it, however sometimes i wonder if a friend really would be the best canidate for a relationship as well, as you know and trust this person at least enough to be friends, and they have demonstrated enough caring about you to be there for you in time of need, instead of meeting a new person to get to know and try to start a relationship with, and have to build the friend foundation as well.....
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Post-Breakup Clean Up
Posted: 5/14/2009 1:44:25 AM
i gave her all the photos when we broke up, just put them in with "her stuff" when the ritual stuff at each others places exchange took place. jewlery and gifts i kept as memories of the good times we had only, and told her the same when she said something about giving back the jewlery/gifts i gave her.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why does he keep popping every other month?
Posted: 5/14/2009 1:37:11 AM
dont waste your time, your right, if there were serious interest, he would be doing more to correspond/date/hangout with you.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
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how do you change your minds so quick?
Posted: 5/14/2009 12:23:51 AM

to 123023: it is a joke, i would think the the obvious horror of such described relationship gives that away almost immediately. there is nothing in it that says it is a joke as that would take away from the humor. this ad has nothing to do with my relationship. or what went on in it.

to sweetnsassy802: one thing i guess i know for sure is that she did speak of loving me and wanting to be with me before she really knew it for herself. but she had me convinced that i was everything she ever wanted, and provided we never get back together i hope to meet someone with many of her same qualites because i could not have imagined a better woman for me, and still cant :(

to Kara07: i agree it is as it is,but i am the type of person that must ask why? as i dont want to repeat the same situation. i agree when people are dating it is to find someone that is a good fit, i guess what left me so confused is how she was so sure i was right for her for so long, and was very expressive about it, then bang snap im not any more. and if she wasnt sure she shouldnt have been talking that way in the first place. bummer for me to have actually believed her.
to imacityboy: the statment i have changed was a statement she was making about herself, not me, i think you may have misread it, and looking over the original post i see how that is possible, maybe it should read" she said she had changed".

a couple of people have mentioned things going wrong way before she broke up with me, but she never mentioned anything like that in the conversations we had as we broke up, it was a decision almost over night for her. she said she thought about it for about a day before actually doing it, and before that she claims she was just as happy as i was with the relationship.

thank you all for your advice and opnions, i know it can be hard to speak of things based on such little information, and only from one person, i have however tried to be unbiased in what was said because i want constructive information, and me b.s.ing the situation will not provide that.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
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how do you change your minds so quick?
Posted: 5/13/2009 7:16:21 PM
well its an ask a girl section so im asking the entire gender, not generalizing them. im looking for opinions on why this happens as im sure im not the first guy to experience it, and maybe a woman who has done what my ex did can shed a little light on such behavior. i understand it happens, as im in the situation.
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
how do you change your minds so quick?
Posted: 5/13/2009 7:03:52 PM
ya know, this thing is making me laugh more and more, as the guys are the ones with the thoughtful responses, the women are just like hey it happens, with no substantial input. what gives ladies? lol
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
how do you change your minds so quick?
Posted: 5/13/2009 6:54:16 PM
so i am glad for everybodys input, but this is the ask a girl section right? why are guys replying? lol just a little bit of humor im noticing here please take no offence
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
how do you change your minds so quick?
Posted: 5/13/2009 6:47:35 PM
i guess there are a couple things i feel i should add. mainly the fact that as we dated she told me she never even imagined being treated so well by a guy,( apparently she had quite the run of guys who just used or abused her in a couple cases), she said the sex was the best she had ever experinced. and now after we have broken up, she told me i showed her what a good relationship is like. so what gives? how do you decide the best thing that ever happened to you relationship wise, isnt for you any more? we never even really had a bad argument, we could talk things out without yelling and screaming. then the reasons i get when she leaves me just seem so empty......
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
how do you change your minds so quick?
Posted: 5/13/2009 6:29:12 PM
my last relationship was about a year and a half. after a couple months into it we were both very in love with each other. not a single day went by that she didnt tell me she loved me. usually multiple times a day. and there was frequent talk of wanting to grow old with me/be with me forever. then after the year and a half, out of the blue she leaves me, and says things like ive just changed. i dont know what i want. its just not there anymore. and the real killer, i dont want to marry a lawyer (as im soon to go to law school) . how do you profess your love for someone for over a year, including wanting to be with them forever, then just decide not?
 hector_cortez
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 90 (view)
 
Since women will only have casual sex with...
Posted: 4/22/2009 4:59:04 PM
wow, i cant even read all of this thread. im a normal guy, i get laid by normal women. everybody has different tastes. i sleep with the women i find attractive, and im sure they found me attractive. but these things are very personal issues. different women find different things attractive about a guy. all this classification of people on this thread really disgusts me. does anybody believe in chemestry anymore? people that just make you go zing! if youve got those feelings, and she does too, sex will happen in its good natural time. if you relax and dont preoccupy yourself with it it will happen much eaiser.....
 
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