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kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

do immediate sparks burn out fast? Posted: 12/9/2008 11:55:23 AM
Deep compatibility with acceptance and understanding AND sizzlin', smokin' hot sex. Now THAT sounds like long term viability to me. EXACTLY! The perfect relationship for me is one with smoking hot, sizzling attraction/chemistry with a deep connection, mutual respect and understanding. You CAN have your "cake" and eat it too if you pick the right dinner partner. BTW, immediate sparks do not burn out fast if both parties do their job to keep the flame alive. Happy Fishing!

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Coworkers, Friendships,and the Relationships Posted: 11/16/2008 11:08:35 AM
Darling, never defecate where you masticate. Happy fishing!

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

number one priority Posted: 11/16/2008 10:44:53 AM
I believe couples should make each other their number one priority and together they will form a united front and raise the kiddies ^^^ I agree 100%. I find the problem is that so many people (men and women) put everyone and everything else before their relationship/marriage and are shocked as to why the relationship failed?? You need to make EACH OTHER a priority. Children often learn life's most valuable lessons not by what you say but by what they SEE so it is YOUR responsibility to SHOW THEM what a loving adult relationship looks like; to lead by example. By having a heathy, loving relationship built on mutual respect and kindness you are literally building a template in which your children will go off into the world with and base THEIR relationships on. There's a saying: "The best thing a father can do for his child is to love the child's mother. And the best thing a mother can do for her child is to love the child's father."

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

Transparent door decision by her parents Posted: 9/30/2008 12:07:44 PM
It's pretty clear that they don't want you having sex in their house. You've behaved poorly and disrespected them so I can completely see why they did what they did. You want to do "adult things"? Then be an adult and get your own place. So, keep your penis in your pants while you're over their house or don't come over their house looking to pull it out. It's pretty simple.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 255 (view)

first date- he farts in the restaurant!! Posted: 9/26/2008 11:02:59 PM
Definitely a class act!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

how mant dates would you go on before you decide you click or not Posted: 4/7/2008 2:03:20 PM
One date. On rare occasions it has taken two. Happy Fishing!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Is this what they mean by playing games? Posted: 3/26/2008 12:27:14 PM
I have zero tolerance for game playing. I can spot most games a mile away and then AVOID, AVOID, AVOID. Here are just some of the RED FLAGS and WARNING SIGNS that the guy you're chatting with online is playing games: 1. Cancels dates on a regular basis so you've never met! ^^^ HELLO! Can you say MARRIED, IN A RELATIONSHIP, an A$$HAT or he isn't the person he's described himself to be?!? If a guy is as interested in meeting you as he says he'll MAKE TIME to meet you and be DAMN SURE to show up for the date! 2. Only emails/IMs/Texts you. ^^^ In this day and age with cellphones and internet calling everywhere he can spend hours writing you but can't pick up his phone to call you?? He can text you but can't dial your number on the very phone he's using to text you?!? Come on. He's emailing/text/IMing you when his wife/gf is around so he "can't talk" but he sure can type! Beware of any guy that says he "can't call" or rarely ever calls. I can guarantee you that there's someone or something on the other end of the line that he doesn't want you to hear, like his wife, his mother, his kids, etc. 3. Only calls late at night or really odd times. ^^^ So you've got a guy that calls but only at 2 in the morning yet you're in the same time zone and he works a 9-5 job?? He's probably calling when his wife/gf/kids/mother is asleep. Be wary. Be very wary. 4. The Disappearing Act. ^^^ He pursues you hot and heavy for months then, BAM!, he pulls a disappearing act that would make Houdini blush! Darling, he's found something, or better yet, SOMEONE to occupy his time. He'll most likely re-emerge after the other relationship falls apart. You're what he considers his "fall-back" plan. He'll put you on the back-burner while he goes after the girl he really wants and once that situation bombs he'll be knocking at your door acting as if nothing is amiss. My moto: Don't waste your time on people who don't waste their time on you! 5. "I'm soooooooooo busy". ^^^ He's so busy that he can't meet you for coffee with a month's advance notice? Then you should be too busy to accept his calls or return his emails/text/IMs. Everybody in this day and age is busy! Why does he think he's special? Again, don't waste your time on people who don't waste their time on you. He's obviously not making dating you even the slightest priority so it should be your priority to find someone else. There are a lot of game players out there. Armed with information, the ability to "decode" their double-speak and bail when appropriate will save you a LOT of headache and heartache down the line. Remember not just "Buyer Beware" but BUYER BE AWARE! Happy (player-free) fishing!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 76 (view)

Is 30's the dead zone in dating? Posted: 3/26/2008 12:01:05 PM
From my observation, I think a lot of people in their 30's are married/in a LTR or are just about to get divorced/separated. That's why the number of single 30's people is smaller than some of the other age groups. Happy fishing!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available? Posted: 3/26/2008 11:35:29 AM
Never, ever "settle"! You'll live the rest of your life always wondering "what if". A life half lived is a life WASTED! Find someone that sets your heart a flutter. Makes you want to leap mountains. Makes you walk on air. Anything less isn't good enough. He/she does exist. It's just a matter of finding them. And it's up to you to turn over every rock, look under every stone to find them. The second you give up and "settle" is the second you guarantee you'll never, ever find that special person. Keep looking. And ALWAYS keep the faith. Happy fishing!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Drunken pictures on a dating site Posted: 3/26/2008 11:29:51 AM
Drunken pictures? Warning bells go off in my head and I hit the "back" button. No thanks! Happy (sober) fishing!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

When is it the right time to ask? Posted: 3/26/2008 11:27:38 AM
^^^ Good for you, Notinit4! I hope everything works out for you. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

When is it the right time to ask? Posted: 3/26/2008 11:14:36 AM
If you've been seeing each other every day for a month and have both said you are not dating anyone else, then it's safe to pick a quiet time when you are alone together and ask where the new relationship stands. You have a RIGHT to be informed about your love life so go ahead and ask. And remember, NEVER ASSUME. Ask outright and you'll get an outright answer. NOTE: You should NOT be asking him to marry you or be your baby-daddy! Easy killer! One step at a time... Happy fishing!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 195 (view)

Separate Bedrooms....? Posted: 3/26/2008 11:09:04 AM
I think if your partner is a loud snorer or has night-terrors (getting kicked or punched out of a dead sleep by your spouse is NOT cool!!) or some serious differences on temperature control, then I say "go for it". Get separate bedrooms. Now, what I'd really like is separate BATHROOMS. I like soaking in the tub, taking my time. I don't need to be enjoying a scented bubble bath with my spouse dropping a "deuce" on the toilet next to my head! Ewww! Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

Lies.. lies... lies... Posted: 3/26/2008 10:49:45 AM
From my own personal experience with online dating I have to admit that those numbers seem very close to correct if not a little low. It's really sad. After getting burned by the height/weight/hair/age lie(s) twice I decided to do my digging and more homework on the guy before even accepting a date. I asked for a multitude of photos including RECENT full length photos. I always ask about the age/date of the photo(s). I asked to be sent a brand new photo with a time/date stamp. I,ve even asked to see the guy on webcam just to ensure he is the person in the pictures and not sending me outdated photos. I do as much as I can to weed out the liars upfront, before ever meeting them. (It saves a lot of time, frustration, disappointment and wasted effort.) I know to some it might seem a bit "extreme" but the data doesn't lie: the guy you're going to meet for that online date probably lied about his height/weight/age/etc. It's best to weed those guys out immediately because there ARE honest guys out there. You should be sending your time getting to know THEM not the liars. Good luck and Happy Fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Are lipstick chemicals giving you a bigger bust? Posted: 1/23/2008 8:43:36 PM
Thank God I don't wear lipstick. Happily, my bust is big enough. I wouldn't want a bigger size. Don't need the back problems or any more stares... Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 140 (view)

What do you consider a no no on the first date? Posted: 10/17/2007 10:58:07 AM
* Cellphone Usage/Ringing: Turn the thing off once you meet. Constantly checking your cellphone is also a "no-no". Turn it off and forget it for the duration of the date. * Groping/Pawing or otherwise too "touch-feely": Keep your paws to yourself, thank you. If I want a breast exam I'll head to my doctor, m'kay? A hug and/or kiss on the cheek is more than enough on a first date. Hand-holding in most cases, on a first date, is premature. When we are headed to couple-hood or are a couple you can hold my hand all you'd like, until then, please cool it. * Poor Manners: Being rude/mean/disrespectful to anyone is cause for immediate launching. * Lying/Dishonesty: About ANYTHING! You lie? You're out. No questions asked. * Poor Table Manners: If you eat like a savage, burp, fart, eat with your mouth open, etc., you can be sure you're not getting a second date. * Poor Hygiene: Bathe, comb your hair, shave, brush your teeth, put on some deodorant and wear some clean clothes. Is that too much to ask for?? For some guys, it seems like it is. Jesus! * Gum Chewing: I'm not into the "ruminating cow" look. If you want to freshen your breath use a mint or a breath strip. Thanks! * Cursing like a Sailor: Leave the potty mouth at home. * Talking Too Much about the "Ex": If you're not over your ex, then you shouldn't be dating someone new. * Checking Other Women Out: Just plain disrespectful. Luckily, I've never had this happen to me, but I've seen a lot of other guys out with what is obviously their S/O and they check me out and other women that walk by. Poor form. Very poor form. * Tardiness: Call if you're going to be late or reschedule. There's no excuse in this day and age of communication that you can't call, email, IM, text, etc., to let the other party know you are running behind schedule. * SMOKING!! Anytime, first date or 200th will get you launched! I'm allergic to the stuff and it smells HORRIBLE. NO SMOKERS!! * Drinking Too Much: Oh, God! Only thing worse than a drunk date is a drunk date smoking. Ugh! There are a bunch more but I'll keep it at this. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

when do you stop chasing? Posted: 10/17/2007 9:32:42 AM
When do you stop chasing? When they start to run! LOL! Seriously, if someone is into you they make an effort to get in contact with you and/or see you on a regular basis. If your emails/phone calls/voicemails/text messages/etc are going unanswered, not returned, then that's a clear sign that they might not be as interested in you as you are in them. Of course, let's be reasonable here: give the other party at least a few days to respond and more time if you know something big in their life is going on-- a death in the family, an illness, serious work deadline/project, etc. But after a week of no contact from them, it's pretty safe to think it's time to move on. Luckily, I've never had to chase a guy in my life -- and never will. Life is too short to spend it chasing people that don't want to be with you. Happy fishing!

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 134 (view)

Must not do drugs....? Posted: 10/17/2007 9:11:24 AM
I have a zero tolerance policy for drug users & substance abusers. That includes pot smokers (yes, cannabis is a drug!!), "recreational drugs" (acid, mushrooms, Ecstasy, etc.), prescription drug abusers, cleaning fluid/glue/marker sniffers, etc., and anyone on drugs for mental/emotional disorders. (I've run into a ton of crazy people on Prozac-- male and female-- and know those sorts of people are NOT the types I want in my life). Sorry, but relationships are hard enough without adding drugs and substance abuse into the mix...

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

more on credit cards Posted: 9/4/2007 12:17:02 PM
Yes, Loyal_T, there very much IS a thing called "Death Tax". It's as real and serious as a heart attack! Just Google "Death Tax" and you'll find tons on it: The Death Tax was initiated in 1916 to fund World War I. It was maintained in the tax code through the 20’s and 30’s to help prevent the concentration of wealth. Since that time, anti-trust laws have eliminated those concerns, but to date the Death Tax remains intact.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

Should I Date A Man Who Doesnt Want to Marry Posted: 9/4/2007 12:05:08 PM
I've come upon this same situation once: A guy that doesn't EVER want to marry. He had a very nasty divorce. I can understand being a little "shy" about remarrying but NEVER? No dice. He had to go. He made a very poor decision on a life partner and is using that bad experience to color me and other women that have nothing to do with his crappy decision or crappy marriage. That's HIS issue and HIS baggage. Not mine. So kicked to the curb he went. Sad, but I do one day want to get married (and someday have kids). If a guy tells me he won't one day consider either, he's not worth my time dating. Sorry. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

more on credit cards Posted: 9/4/2007 11:20:37 AM
NO! That debt doesn't die with you! OP, you are SADLY mistaken! Your partner would get screwed with having to pay off those bills or the repo man would be loading everything you purchased into a truck parked on your lawn! Your estate would get levied and creditors would tear it apart, before any of your family could get anything, to pay off YOUR debt! So think twice before going on a credit card spending spree that you don't have the money to pay off. The people in your family left alive will be the ones that get royally screwed. BTW, have you ever heard of the "Death Tax"? Look it up.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Does your junk have to meet my junk for us to get along? Posted: 9/4/2007 10:52:56 AM
I've got ZERO junk in my trunk. I'm starting to feel left out... Yes, Fishbill, some of us actually do exist. We've made very wise, conscious life decisions and do our homework on ourselves before putting ourselves out there. We are indeed a rare bunch. Very few of us left especially over the age of 25. No kids. No ex-drama. No ex-husbands. No divorce(s). No mental problems. No financial problems. No abusive past. No issues with parents. No work drama. No "baggage". Etc. What's wrong with us??? LOL! Actually, I ask the people with all the drama and baggage: "What's wrong with you?" People, you need to get your life in order before trying to drag someone else into it. That's just common sense and common courtesy... But, sadly, I guess neither of those are very common nowadays... I'm all about being a whole person with my ducks in a row. And, just in case you were wondering, that's the OPPOSITE of a broken person with tons of baggage. I have my life in check. I ask that any potential mates do as well and let me tell you, finding a mate without tons of baggage and "junk" is slim pickings... Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet? Posted: 8/30/2007 4:36:33 PM
I had a great first meeting/date. My date showed up on time (always a good thing). Looked like his pictures (an even better thing!!). And we had great conversation and chemistry. We met for lunch @ 2PM and our date didn't end until 11 PM. After lunch I treated him to coffee, then went for a little walk, then just hung out on a bench overlooking the Manhattan skyline and talked and laughed and laughed some more. It was a great first date. It's a shame he had far too much baggage and drama (3 young kids, a nasty divorce, a crazy ex-wife & major financial issues) but it was a great first date. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 120 (view)

so sad Posted: 8/30/2007 4:25:35 PM
Never, ever, ever let a first date know where you live! And never, ever, ever invite him/her into your house on the first date! You're asking for trouble (especially if you're a woman). Rape, murder, sexual assault, robbery, you name it. All of that can easily occur since you don't know ANYTHING about that person and who they really are. Getting to "know" someone in cyberspace does NOT replace getting to know them in the real world! Do your due diligence to weed out the psychos, users, abusers, crazies, wh*res, rapists, murders, stalkers, sexual assaulters, sickos and other assorted nut-jobs. Don't invite them into you home or you're inviting in a whole lotta trouble! RULE #1: Be smart. RULE #2: Be safe. Happy (SAFE) fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

First meeting attire? Posted: 8/30/2007 4:05:25 PM
Wear whatever you feel most comfortable and sexy in without going overboard. Dress appropriately for the place you will be having your date. That's what I do and it hasn't failed me yet. Lastly I feel that the best accessories a woman can wear isn't a pair of earrings or a great handbag but a great smile and an even better personality. (Don't leave home without either!) Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

3 dates Posted: 8/30/2007 3:31:12 PM
Ouch. Tacky. Oh well, some people have no dating decorum. Avoid them. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Too many red flags or am I just being too critical? Posted: 8/29/2007 10:56:18 AM
You share completely different lifestyles and obviously have differing life goals. That in and of itself are the "red flag" and major deal breakers. Unless you step down your quality of life and put aside some of your life goals or he steps up his it's doomed from the start. It has little to do with actual money as it does with LIFESTYLE and LIFE GOALS! So those saying it's "all about money" aren't on the right page. The two top factors in picking a mate should be LIFESTYLES and LIFE GOALS. I've seen far to many relationships fall apart because the two parties involved differed on those topics. He wants to live in the city. She want a huge house in the burbs. He's a complete pig. She's a neat freak. He doesn't want children. She wants a huge family. He thinks sitting in front of the TV all day is fun. She thinks partying until 4 AM, drunk as a skunk is fun. He's a penny-pincher. She's a shopoholic in serious financial debt. Etc., etc., etc. DEAL BREAKERS. It's not going to work. Case closed. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 99 (view)

Helping himself to my computer............... Posted: 8/29/2007 10:37:59 AM
If you don't want anyone on your computer, password protect it or tell them straight out that you don't want them on your computer. You didn't tell him and you didn't put a password on your computer so you can't really blame him for using it, can you? Personally, I feel uncomfortable using anyone's computer. I know how personal it can be and how much sensitive information it could have on it (like financial stuff, etc). I'm all about respecting people's privacy AND property. Unless they EXPRESSLY said I can use their computer I wouldn't even think of going anywhere near it and I would expect them to show me the same respect. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

When is the right time to say yes? Posted: 8/29/2007 10:15:59 AM
I agree with Gonzofanmel. She hit the nail on the head. Let me put this in all caps and bold letters so that it gets your attention and maybe sinks in: DON'T EVER LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL PRESSURED OR OBLIGATED TO HAVE SEX WITH THEM WHEN YOU ARE NOT READY! NEVER! EVER! EVER! The guy sounds like a total douche. He EXPECTS sex and has the stones to try to invite himself over your house at the end of your SECOND date?!? Holy crap! He'll probably be holding you down and raping you on the 3rd date trying to shove his hands down your shirt, your pants and trying to take what he wants. Launch the guy unless you are harboring some secret rape fantasies. I understand you might have been out of the dating scene for a while but this is just common sense stuff. Never have sex until you (both of you) are ready! Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 62 (view)

Would this be too skanky? Posted: 8/29/2007 10:00:05 AM
Skanky. Definitely skanky, but hey, if you're a skank embrace it. Become one with your inner skank and go for it. Hell, what's the worst that could happen? A. You get a disease. B. You get pregnant. C. You find out after having sex with him that he's a horrible lay & wasn't worth the hassle. D. People will find out you're a skank & still remember when you come back to town. E. He laughs in your face & tells you there's not enough beer in the world that would get him drunk enough to do you. F. All of the above. Take your pick! Have some self-respect for Christ's sake! You've already told us that the guy has very lax standards and will fawk anything so if he's turned YOU down ALREADY that should say a LOT about what he thinks of you as opposed to the other skanks he's been banging. And as hard as this might be for you to read-- obviously, the guy DOES have standards. You simply don't met them. How about you go for Plan B: Get some self-respect. Move to the next city and find a "hot guy" that actually does deem you worthy of banging and date him? I know, seems like a huge stretch of the imagination but give it a thought. It might actually be the best thing to do... Happy (skank-free) fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Plenty of Fish or Plenty of Children?! Posted: 8/29/2007 9:37:27 AM
If you are certain you don't want to have any children get a vasectomy! Even if you find a great gal that has no children and doesn't want any, no birth control is 100% effective so basically, at one point or another, you will get her pregnant... And guess what? You'll both have what both of you don't want: A KID (or an abortion) TO DEAL WITH. Be a man. If you make a decision like that follow through and get your tubes tied. Most insurance covers the procedure and it's an out patient, non-evasive procedure only using localized anesthesia. You're back to work the next day (depending on the type of work you do-- if it's heavy lifting or really physical work you might not be able to go back to work for 3-7 days). I'm all for vasectomies if you are 100% sure you don't want to have children. Heck, I'm all for women getting their tubes tied too if they are 100% sure they don't want to have children or any more children. P.S. There are a lot of women out there in your age group that don't already have children (I'm one of them) but finding one that doesn't ever WANT CHILDREN on top of not having any already is going to be a tough find... But I'm sure women like that exist. You're just going to have to do a heck of a lot of searching and a heck of a lot of waiting. Good luck. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

is a sense of humour really that important to people as much as they say? Posted: 8/24/2007 1:17:39 AM
My whole profile is filled with humor. Humor is very important to me. You've got to be able to find the humor and fun in even the most boring and mundane of things. Also, being able to laugh at yourself and not take things too seriously are important traits to have too. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Are we afraid to be too specific in our profiles as we might miss the ONE? Posted: 8/23/2007 5:52:08 PM
No, because "The One" would fit the bill exactly. I've gotten to know myself, my likes/dislikes, who I am and who I want as a mate. What works for me and what doesn't. Knowing all that, it's easier to seperate the wheat from the chaff; the mice from the men-- or at least the man I want to date, LOL. I believe that you'll never get what you want unless you know exactly what it is you're looking for... Once you know what you're looking for, finding it is just a matter of time... Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 161 (view)

Grabbing ass Posted: 8/23/2007 5:37:45 PM
One of my most recent dates slapped me on the butt. OMG, I was about to slap the mess out of him but I refrained only enough to slap him in the back of the head and leave him with some choice words. Guys, you do NOT go putting your hands on a woman's backside (or any other intimate part) without her expressing (verbally or in writing) a wish for you to do so. Unless you've been intimate (sexually) with that woman, keep your paws to yourself. To do otherwise is sexual assault, molestation and "forcible touching". Wouldn't be shocked if half those guys were featured on Dateline NBC's "To Catch A Predator". Grab this girl's backside? I'll break your arm and I'll take immense pleasure in doing it.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Last relationship has me worried about commitment Posted: 8/23/2007 1:48:59 PM
I'm sorry but I see a "Promise Ring" as a bit "spineless". It basically means "I want you to hang around while I figure out whether or not I like you enough to actually man-up and ask you to marry me" and "I want to raise your hopes of marriage prematurely while still not giving you anything concrete (a real engagement ring) to go on". Unless a "Promise Ring" is associated with the promise to stay "pure" until marriage as in religion it's a cop-out, IMHO, and sending "false postitives", i.e mixed messages. If he really wanted you for his wife he'd have handed you an ENGAGEMENT ring like a real man. But, hey, it's jewelry. And jewelry is always good-- just don't try to see it as more than just a piece of jewelry he gifted you with (still a very nice gesture though). It's not an engagement ring so you can stop picking out wedding dresses, LOL. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Guys, why waste the time?? Posted: 8/21/2007 1:57:04 PM
The guy was clearly a jerk. Don't sweat it. Look at the bright side: He saved you from becoming any further involved with a guy that's a total dillweed. He also freed you up for meet a great guy. Move on. Stay positive and never give up hope. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

what do you ladies think of David Beckham Posted: 8/16/2007 3:32:16 PM
^^^ Yes, Plebayo, that's exactly what I said on Page 1. Sounds like a prepubesent boy, unfortunately. And, yes, I still think soccer for men over the age of 16 is a bit "soft", LOL. I'm entitled to my opinion just as much as you are and I still think even David Beckham is a tad "gay". Especially with that girl-girl voice he's got, LOL! Personally, I like very tall men (6'3" and up) which most soccer players are not. So obviously I find basketball players bodies and tall quarterbacks body types more to my taste. Thank you very much.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Is any of that Axe stuff any good? Posted: 8/15/2007 1:47:19 PM
Axe is the cheapest junk you can get. Nothing worse than cheap cologne on a guy who thinks it'll magically get him some like the commercials say. Guys, PLEASE, if you're going to buy cologne/body spray at least invest in some good stuff. Women will thank you.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

what do you ladies think of David Beckham Posted: 8/15/2007 1:41:19 PM
Ever heard him speak? He sounds like a 12 year old boy who's balls haven't dropped yet. Seriously, he's attractive but he's not my type: Married, 3 kids and plays one of the gayest sports on the planet, IMHO: soccor.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

first date expectations. Posted: 8/15/2007 1:25:19 PM
I'm pretty simple: I expect that my date will be as he described and as his pictures indicated. (I know this seems obvious but you don't know how may aren't as described!) I expect my date to be punctual. I expect my date to be a gentleman. (Again, that should be obvious but you'd be shocked at how often it's not for some guys...) I expect my date to have common sense and manners. (Common sense is often not so common nowadays...) I expect my date to be fun and a great time. I expect finish my date and arrive home unharmed. (Trying to attack me at the end of our date is never a good idea. I'm the one chick that can whip your a$$, LOL.) Where we go and what we do is all secondary after the stuff I listed above. If he brings flowers, candy or other tokens of affection he gets extra special Brownie Points but I don't expect it. I just want to be able to relax, sit down face to face and have a nice conversation over maybe a meal while getting to know my date. Pretty simple, standard fair. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

OMG She knows where I live! Posted: 8/15/2007 1:06:00 PM
I'm shocked only Crazysitter and I caught on... Looks like Tjay's, the OP's, second date is bailing because of this thread. Wow, Tjay... If you're going to talk trash about your upcoming date knowing where you live, don't do it where your date will likely see it.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Sigh... So many flags. Posted: 8/15/2007 11:12:03 AM
I wish I had a "foster parent" to buy me a car... Hell, my real parents didn't even help me with college none the less a car! I gotta go get me one of them's "foster parents", I reckon, like your girlfriend. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Sigh... So many flags. Posted: 8/15/2007 11:00:46 AM
Darling, you've caught on to so many of her lies, admit now that she's a compulsive liar and you're still even considering dating her? Please tell me you're joking?? People like that don't change. They'll keep lying to you even on their death bed. Unless you enjoy being lied to constantly about EVERYTHING and someone always screwing with your head I would suggest you bail. BTW, I think this "foster parent", in reality, is a guy she's dated/dating that's paying her way-- possibly the 7 year guy. That or the Welfare Man. Take your pick. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 24 (view)

Dealing with 'macho' guys--annoying personality traits in general~~!! Posted: 8/14/2007 2:48:30 PM
Marm, you should bail. This guy will soon be picking fights with YOU and beating YOU up next. Trust me, these guys are crazy. They'll pick fights about anything with anyone and everyone including YOU. I'd hate to see you hurt or worse, beat up, so bail before he turns his rage and anger on you. You're a great woman and you can definitely do better. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

I think I'm too honest for online-dating! Posted: 8/12/2007 4:25:59 PM
Hello?? Your user name is "Moist_Lips"! What do you expect a guy to think?!? SEX! Moist, kissable lips. Moist pssy lips! OMG! Yuck. What were you thinking when you picked that name? You're purposefully trying to attract pervs? Seems like it. If not then you shouldn't have a username like "Moist_Lips"! 1. Change your username to something non-sexual! It doesn't take much to get a guy thinking about sex so don't help him out on that matter, LOL.* Umm, you list that you are looking for "Other Relationship". Hello?? That could mean a booty-call, a threesome, an ongoing FWB, ANYTHING other than a normal relationship and dating! If you are looking for a NORMAL relationship and dating you need to pick a choice that reflects that. "Other Relationship" sure as heck doesn't. 2. Change "Other Relationship" to "Dating" or "Long Term". In your email preferences, you don't block people looking for intimate encounters and just sex so obviously those guys will be able to write you. If you don't want folks that are looking for straight up pumping and dumping, hit and run, one-night stands then BLOCK THEM from writing you, the best you can, by setting up email preferences to keep most of them from contacting you. 3. Change your mail preferences to not accept mail from "Intimate Encounters" people to try to filter some of them out. Also, you should have some recent and clear pictures posted on your profile. Do the math: Sexual username + "Other Relationship" + Didn't screen out "Intimate Encounter" Email + No Pics = Booty Call-ville. 4. Get a few recent pictures posted on your profile. The good guys are out there and some of them are actively looking for good girls on this very website but they're not going to stop and waste their time with a woman that looks like she's only out for sex and "other relationships", has no pictures, "prefers not to say" on a bunch of really important stuff AND still accepts email from "Intimate Encounters" guys. He'll pass you right over and all you'll be left with are the guys that you say you DON'T want: the scumbag, one-night, Intimate Encounters guys. Make some changes to your profile and I'm sure you'll reap different, BETTER results. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

non attentive stubborn sports mad boyfriend...advice please Posted: 8/12/2007 3:04:20 PM
I know this might be hard for you to read, but your new relationship is doomed. He's lost respect for you and doesn't value you or your opinion. He's already taking you for granted and has mentally checked out. There is NOTHING you can do to change him or get your relationship back to where it was 6 weeks ago. Only HE can do that and he's made it pretty damn clear that he's not interested in doing that. The "Honeymoon" is over and the charade he was playing is over. Now you see the REAL him: self-centered, controlling, disrespectful, emotionally abusive, dismissive, argumentative and a sports addict. Get some self-respect and DUMP HIM! You can do better than him. Happy fishing.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 509 (view)

does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do? Posted: 8/12/2007 12:41:33 PM
^^^ Love it when smokers can't admit they have an addiction and get pissy when people call them on it. With an attitude like that you'll get no sympathy here, smokey. BTW, my nicotine-fiend friend, I RARELY drink so a hypocrite? No sir, I leave that title to you. Buh-bye.

kitnbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 507 (view)

does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do? Posted: 8/12/2007 12:15:12 PM
Smoking is an immediate deal breaker. Crack-wh*res, dope fiends, booze hounds, nicotine addicts, etc need not apply as far as I'm concerned. I live a clean, healthy life. I don't consider anyone addicted to anything, including nicotine, as a potential mate. Happy (addiction-free) fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

Full of crapola? I dont know Posted: 8/7/2007 5:02:17 PM
She's making a quiche full of crapola. I suggest you bail before you take a bite. She's either a liar, a player, married, psycho, has so much drama she really shouldn't be dating, a combination of the aforementioned or all of the above... Either way, don't waste another second on her. Cut her off. Happy fishing.

KitNbootz

Joined: 5/31/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Anyone had a stalker for a girlfriend? Posted: 8/7/2007 4:55:43 PM
An ex-boyfriend stalked me after I dumped him. Guess he went coo-coo for my cocoa puffs. Couldn't take "no" for an answer. Well, I guess the time he spent in jail and getting sued civilly straightened him out because after that he stopped stalking, LOL! Happy fishing.

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