I just don't see it is going to get better (or that she will improve the bits i can't cope with)

A second study, completed in Europe, just a couple of years ago, found that sex actually increased the rate of brain cell growth in males.

Can we add "oozing" to the list of requested new Smilies ?

Are you speaking to me? If so, I AM a woman

Would you go anyway, or would you give in and give up the opportunity?

Control freak, dump her.

I am just asking...

My x is threatening me to steal my hotmail account- is this possible?

That is one of the oldest scams going around the net.

So can you divulge some of your secrets on how to get rid of it or pretty much keep it in check.

I certainly don't go to "great lengths" to determine how others perceive me.

This would be due to bad hair days... or water retention... or *dare I say it* that time of the month

Oh... so when I tell a guy he's ugly and if he walked off the edge of the earth I'd be ok with that... I'm complimenting him? Duh... I knew I was doing something wrong...

35 is middle age now?

putting prefer not to say is just saying that u do, and if u have a child, why would u deny that anyway!?!?!??

As I expected, a flood of responses!

PS. This is not a self pity thread, I really just don't understand.

Dear POFers:
Firstly, I am not writing this for self-pity or sympathy. A little about me, I am in the process of a divorce. During my 11 year marriage my spouse did the follwoing: During our early years my wife would get so drunk she occassionaly would atack me with knives, scissors, or fist. She finally stopped after about the 6th time it happened and did not repeat it. She constantly lied about various things from big things like cheating and taking money out of our line of credit to smaller less significant things. Lastly, she cheated with a guy she knew from high school over the course of about 3 months that she saw him (claims they only actually had sex 1 time though they went out on numerous dates - She was popping a lot of Xanax at the time and probably drinking on it).

You are far too focused on the details of an example than the concept behind it.

It's easier to ignore than to be attentive...

Not owed, just appreciated. And that is only one small example of being attentive.

And another man fails to actually read and understand what the women are saying. Big surprise!

The point here is that if I am talking to you and casually mention "gee, I should get off the phone now because I have a big meeting tomorrow morning and I need to get some sleep" and the next evening when you call you say "so... how did that meeting go this morning?" THAT IS BEING ATTENTIVE. I mention I have a meeting, you not only listen (seems to be difficult) and remember the information, but make a point of brining up the subject again at a later date and actually caring about it (or at least pretending to care).

Does that make sense yet?

Would this be considered a mutual interest or activity?

I realize the trust issue, I have been trying to get her to relax to the fullest to no avail. Anyone have any ideas?

Not to be judgemental or anything, but it sounds that she may be a bit uptight...

What kind of a moron puts himself in a position to get into a street fight?

yeah attention thats all i want.....

I genuinely wanted everyones opinion on the matter, and yes im making a decision based on what you guys are saying. I own the fact that I want to keep them. Yes I agree it would be theft,,

but people are clearly more concerned with a wanting to bash instead

I don't like leading people on. And trust me. I have been led on by some clever photographs....what's the point?? I'm a man, we're visual first, if you're hiding a huge bottom end, NO amount of time invested of email will help me get over that. It's just not the way men are wired.

So, I'm curious. Would you be insulted if I asked to see the rest of you in a polite and humorous way?

your dream could mean different things, not necessarily about falling in love or finally getting yourself that 'dream girl', it could mean that something nice, great is about to happen in your life!

But.... she did NOT see him for 3 weeks... that's 21 days, in case we need to clarify it...

Sure... he texts on occasion...he talks the talk but does he walk the walk?

^^^ Nope. It looks more like Take the Money and Run. You know, like in the song...

Well... she did not see him for 3 weeks...
I would not call that "being around".

this guy has one amazing game if he can get $1000 out of you without giving his heart to you. You're being used -- plain and simple. Don't mix charity and love.

Does "no" ever mean "yes"?

I've heard several opinions on this and can't really seem to get an iron-clad answer as to when

Add me to the clean shaven column...

There's always that brick in a rolled up newspaper! *files serial number off skillet handle*

Go shopping with his credit card and buy a new one - skillet not man.

Psssst: I'm investing in a stock that backs the manufacturing of cast iron skillets... I see a trend happening here.

Stove Top: Every gal should own one!

Men in relationships have proven they are able to commit... ergo they are more desireable to women as mates...

There's no accounting for the psychology of this theory...

Personally I prefer the term "Lady" or "Ladies" but I do use "girls" often enough.

Why do you think the Divorce Rate is so High in North America?

And they say women are teases