I suppose we often "excuse" these peoples behaviors by giving them labels. I do not, but social norms often do, and we are supposed to feel sympathy while they do their deeds.

Alright, so we're dealing with a heavy hitter of a topic. So its only fitting that my reply will be a bit...serious, and uncomfortable. But I think NPD is simply a nicer way of saying "sociopath". To say that a sociopath has a mental/personality disorder is to invalidate the experience with a sociopath, and only serves to give them an "excuse" for there behavior. Anyone else agree here?
Charity

How have you guys dealt with all the rejection?

I'm not sure how others deal with it but it bothers me; I won't lie about it. I'm someone well aware of my personal inadequacies and shortcomings, so a lack of interest on the part of someone I'm interested in... Phew, just nails all those insecurities home. But I take everything personally, I'm a natural sensitive and always have been. Fortunately and delightfully though, I'm finding that as I get older, rejection as well as other areas of life, are in fact becoming easier to accept. I don't expect it to ever be just a breeze where things roll off me like rain, but still... a little easier.

'He has never been known to use a word that might send a reader to the dictionary.' - William Faulkner (about Ernest Hemingway).

Apperntly he has been diaganosed with rapid cycle bipolar, is there any good advice someone can give me, or an opinion, I am lost and fear a great deal for my girls mental and physical well being.

That being said, I'm very far from being an aggressive person, but just because I tend to be shy and quiet doesn't mean that I have to be passive when it comes to finding a man. And once I've made a move, I let him reciprocate; I don't drag him off by the hair. If he wants me to do all of the work, I move on.

Do Men have to initiate everything with Women? Geeze, do Women ever take charge and initiate things?

Oh for the love of God!! Men and Women are both Human .. beyond that - yup we are 'different' .. some more obviously so than others! .. and to that I say: "Vive la difference!" ..

A perfect example:
We were at a pub in a small town on the south shore of lake ontario. We were dancing, partying, having a great time. AWESOME time. It was a perfect summer evening. Not too hot, not too cold, dancing under the stars......PERFECT.

Well we were sitting at our table and all of a sudden she clams up. Totally shuts down. She is FUMING. I am like wth????? What's wrong, NOTHING really, what's wrong NOTHING. She gets up and storms off the patio.

I rush to catch up to her and What's going on? NOTHING.....she storms off down the pier and returns about 20 minutes later.

Well after 3 fricken hours of begging cajoling, she finally opens up and says: if you want to go F that waitress, just go do it!!!!

I said "what waitress"?

She said "the one that was serving the table 3 down from ours".

I had to laugh...really. I said "I don't know what you are talking about"

She said "well you were STARING at her".

I then almost lost it: I said "I wasn't staring at her, I knew the group of guys at the table but couldn't remember where I'd seen them before and was trying to remember their names and it was bugging the heck out of me".....