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superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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been in love Posted: 6/21/2008 1:41:57 PM
That's tooo soon to be anything more than infatuation. Real love takes longer. It hopefully also lasts longer... and yes, it's normal.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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question for anyone Posted: 6/12/2008 5:27:34 PM
Curious what you hope to gain by contacting her "in an adult way & tell her"??? Do you want him to get dumped? Do you want her to feel the pain of betrayal? Think he'll stay w/ you after she leaves (IF she leaves him?)? I can see no point ... Like others, I think you should make sure your relationships are free of other women from the start. Best wishes...

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Need some help with this one... Posted: 6/12/2008 2:36:07 PM
Some people (women and men) use sex as a manipulative tool . Of course it's YOUR choice to smoke / drink / whatever. Perhaps deep down you agree that you should quit? Maybe you'd like to arrive at that decision on your own? Funny... I didn't think "nice girls" advertised on craigslist??? Hmmmmmm? Best of luck!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Really found someone! Posted: 6/8/2008 10:41:59 AM
Fantastic... I know some will be pessimistic over the long term success of this relationship ... but I'm glad for you!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Internet dating and it's misconceptions! Posted: 6/8/2008 7:54:33 AM
[My post is to try to understand this phenomena and not judge, when people first come here and get on and find the quirts they do get frustration and judgmental because of this. Why so? ] Lots of quirks and hangups... I'm amazed at the baggage and games played. I haven't dated alot since my separation, but certainly am surprised at how people are at this age! Where are the "normal people"??? or is this the NEW normal? Yes, I finding it frustrating....

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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So, how do you confront him about his affairs? Posted: 6/6/2008 11:50:35 AM
If there is no commitment, I guess he should feel free to do as he pleases (and he is). I don't understand why you put up w/ it? I also prefer to get my confirmation of "commitment" if desired, up front, rather than after the fact!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Can I Invest Myself in this again ( ANY CHANCE ) Posted: 6/6/2008 9:19:54 AM
There is always a possibility that things will work. I might be tempted to try some counseling... and take things slow. No need to rush into getting remarried ... Best wishes!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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My son is on drugs....... Posted: 6/4/2008 6:29:57 PM
Counseling can help... IF he's open to it. Communication is very important too, even though sometimes you might not feel like it. It's a rough era for teens - even more if there are other family problems. Soooo sorry... this is a tough one!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Pretty Women Posted: 6/4/2008 6:25:52 PM
I don't think anything puts off the sex chatterers... but as others say sometimes a great friendship leads to much more.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Learning How To Be Single ... Posted: 6/4/2008 6:04:13 PM
Realize that there are worse things than loneliness.... Take your time getting to know prospective "interests", to avoid being bounced back out . Listen w/ your heart and speak the truth in new relationships.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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How many people have actually went on a date using this site? Posted: 6/1/2008 5:14:25 PM
I've been on dates from this site... met some great people. None turned out to be "the one" at this point, but it's okay. I am happy just to meet others and get used to dating again after a long marriage. No site comes w/ guarantees!!! I will say that there are more than the usual amount of "booty calls" attempted. Not what I'm looking for, but I can't blame them for trying...

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Guys are you intimidated by a woman who uses sex toys? Posted: 6/1/2008 4:31:42 AM
"Toys" actually increase a woman's libido... unlike men, self induced orgasms make them want the real deal more. When men self pleasure, the urgency is released and they calm down for a bit. Women end up reving up their drive and wanting more... Sooooo, guys that may be intimidated by toy use, might wish to reconsider- and even encourage them?

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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How do I learn to enjoy being alone? Posted: 5/26/2008 8:14:05 AM
well... there ARE lots of things worse than being alone - or lonely. The first that comes to my mind is hooking up w/ the wrong person. I guess as others said, find hobbies and activities you enjoy, and keep an open mind when meeting people. Don't rush tho... no matter how tempting!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Dating older men is NOT going to solve your dating issues Posted: 5/25/2008 2:14:45 PM
Age is just a number - for men and women past 30 anyway. Some never grow up, some are born "old souls"... just depends on the person.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 5/25/2008 8:14:57 AM
I don't have a problem paying my half , or even more... depending on the circumstances. I do wonder however, what happened to good old fashioned courtship?

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Loving yourself first....... Posted: 5/25/2008 4:01:35 AM
I think it's essential to love yourself first and think that I got there by being involved in causes outside of myself and my immediate family. Volunteer work tend to make one feel wonderful - and produce a tangibly better life for someone else - or the environment - or whatever. Try it.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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She said there was No Spark Posted: 5/25/2008 3:56:32 AM
Like you, I don't know why she would expect to experience a " spark" w/ nothing more than emails to go on... soooo many variables w/ what goes on inside a person's head. Internet dating/ socializing tends to be merely two dimentional at best - people say what they think you want to hear.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Friends First??? I beg your pardon……. Posted: 5/25/2008 3:46:23 AM
Seems logical that all relationships should start as "friends first" - but some feel the need to state it. A romance based on anything else will probably not last...

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :) Posted: 5/12/2008 1:35:07 AM
Apparently, men don't respond very well to early nookie... it's what they want, but it won't give you what you need- security and a ltr. I think it's sad, but a double standard definately continues to exist. You live and learn... Think he'll read this?

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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what would you do, seriously... Posted: 5/10/2008 4:07:58 AM
Personally, trust is a huge deal to me... a complete deal breaker if he can't be exclusive to me and our family. Too many communicable diseases out there for you to be otherwise. Plus, you're young & gorgeous... what else could he need? I'm sorry...

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Have you ever been together with a compulsive Liar? Posted: 4/28/2008 1:27:13 AM
For me, trust is a basic component of any relationship... she would not be considered for further opportunities. You haven't said how long you've been "together", but if it has only been a short time, be warned.... it generally only gets worse. best wishes..

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Does it have to be this way. Men get broken hearts too Posted: 4/27/2008 5:01:01 AM
I've observed much pain - in both women and men- by the time they are adults. Many focus on the opposite sex as having caused the pain- and lash out, or withdraw from relationships. Sometimes they jump into a new relationship w/ both feet and not much forethought. That causes more pain - and more frustration. It seems that many of them are drawn to internet dating ... perhaps because of the "space" initially. Often they become infatuated w/ a picture and words that sound sooooo goood. Reality is vastly different and when it disappoints, they become bitter and lash out. Both sexes do this...

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Why I am deleting this account Posted: 4/17/2008 1:19:43 AM
My experiences w/ guys from this site, have been both good and not so good. I find that it is remarkably similar to my real life encounters. I guess one has to be analytical and perhaps a bit wary. There are predators everywhere- not just online, and certainly not just in free dating sites. I wish you luck in your future "fishing"...

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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what went wrong is there a real man out there????? Posted: 4/9/2008 5:04:49 PM
Going out once holds no real commitment - regardless of his suggestion to meet again. Most guys don't know how to say anything else... want to keep the impression good. So they shoot from the cuff and promise to call - or what ever , and fail to follow through. Women do that too... Don't worry... eventually, it will all come together for ya.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Guys i got it! Posted: 3/29/2008 2:38:28 PM
I like taller guys... mainly because I'm tall. I have shorter friends, also. - but gosh... those giaNORmous breasts just smother the little guys!!! heaves one over each shoulder Mmmmm....

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Men Blacklisting Women?? Posted: 3/28/2008 11:44:25 AM
I prune my list regularly... usually if someone added me as a fav w/o even a single communication. How could I be a "fav" if we haven't even said "hi"???? Actually I suspect some people collect favs for "midnight inspiration"- but I could be wrong. laf

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Best Secret Ingredient for Pizza Posted: 3/15/2008 5:50:46 AM
My fav? A white pizza (no red sauce- substitute ricotta, garlic & mozzerella) w/ seafood. Usually a few chopped clams, baby shrimp, possibly some salmon. It's delish- oh and fresh basil. Mmmmmm

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Teased for liking bbw's Posted: 1/15/2008 3:09:28 PM
NO one should be judged by size or appearance. Seriously, I know it's hard to believe, but people should be known by what they do, or contribute ... obviously difficult in this particular medium. I actually do love who people ARE - regardless of what they look like. Yeah I know- you doubt it. But seriously...

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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What have you learned from online dating ? Posted: 1/14/2008 3:55:37 PM
I agree w/ much of what you say, but have also learned that online dating is just about as reliable as "real life". There are liars and cheats everywhere... so I expect nothing different on line. I've met some super people here... and a couple shmucks, but all's fair in this game. It just takes time and common sense to sort'em out! I remain optimistic that eventually I'll meet my match... maybe in real life, maybe here? Who knows?

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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What age does female sexual urge die down? Posted: 12/27/2007 9:05:29 AM
I'd have to say that it depends on what all is going on her life. Hard to feel very sexual w/ 3 little screaming young'uns, or a 60 hour work week. When all things are good, and when presented w/ a clean, sexy man... well, she just may be insatiable for "ever". Of course, sexual attraction always starts between the ears... so finding areas of commonality and discussion works a lot better that saying, "hey Baby, I'm home - spread'em!". LOL

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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The new 'update your car status and income level' Posted: 12/27/2007 8:45:41 AM
I think there are people in real life that are just as interested in your possessions as in here.... at least as many. Stuff is just "stuff"... what's inside a person is what counts!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Plans to meet 6 different times- and 6 times does not show up! Posted: 11/25/2007 5:41:09 PM
Ohhhh my... not sure he's got a bigger problem or you? Please don't go so long before not recognizing such an idiot in the future!

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

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Women cheaters ?!? Posted: 7/4/2007 8:26:53 AM
Jeremy & all, I hate to say it, but many people put that statement in their profile because they have been hurt - badly, and hope to avoid repeating it. I don't think it works that way... if anything, it labels one as gullible and attracts more of the same. AS someone else already pointed out, infidelity has no gender... players abound - especially in these groups! However, it is not exclusive to dating sites... real life is full of it also. I've had wonderful luck meeting people of quality in here and in real life and hope to see the trend continue! I tend to agree w/ you that new relationships should represent a new start! laf

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

Fears In First Meetings Posted: 6/15/2007 4:08:22 PM
I think most people dread not meeting up to expectations.... personally, I believe if you are confident and smiling, fears dissolve. Even if you have misrepresented yourself (a teensy bit), you can overcome it by displaying charm, manners, and good humor. Personally, I worry about dumb, safety stuff... I always meet in a public place, drive myself, and don't divulge too much personal information - but no one knows without a doubt that they aren't meeting a "Fatal Attraction" or "Jack the Ripper". Scary stuff... even after the initial introduction.

superlaf

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score? Posted: 6/15/2007 3:46:08 PM
I like men of all ages... young men can be delightfully energetic, older men tend to be sweeter. I think many men offer a bit of "sex talk" in order to test the waters... and some believe the woman will be offended if it isn't attempted. I think it is in her court to respond in a way that preserves his dignity, and her integrity. Perhaps w/ a joke, maybe a diversion... it's not always a put down. Some honestly believe it to be a compliment!

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