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crushkerry23

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Simple things you remember about someone special - past or present Posted: 10/22/2008 12:47:55 AM
I posted here early on, on the first page of five, and now I have returned. This has just continued with the sweetness and I have to say that it is nice, for a change, to read an almost perfectly sweet topic on these forums. It is nice not to have to read the back and forths of people fighting and angry over the topic or over a developed fued. I know, these forums are here to get people talking and discussing, but this was a lovely breath of fresh air. You all can be so sweet; whether it is sad or tragic, happy or hot, special between just two people, whether the love is long gone or ongoing…ain’t love grand!

crushkerry23

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Simple things you remember about someone special - past or present Posted: 9/30/2008 2:43:23 AM
WOW!...I don’t know if I really have one to share, sadly, but I am still relatively young so I hope to have a special memory that could fit with all these other beautiful ones here…someday. WOW!...very nice everyone.

crushkerry23

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Is it possible to ahve a relationship like Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward in todays time? Posted: 9/30/2008 2:35:47 AM
With the Current Events forum gone, the tie-in with the death of Paul and his long marriage is a good one. This is where I have been learning about star’s deaths lately. The long marriage and discussion on whether a happy and long marriage for life is a good one to start from this happening. A lot of what other posters have pointed out about why marriages don’t seem to work in this day in age have been spot on. People don’t try hard enough, they think there could be something better out there that they are missing out on, and they have no examples of what happy is. Sure, it is possible and I intend on it being just that for me, at least. I have my grandparents, who were married 55 years before my grandma passed away, and together almost 60 all together. People may say that is just proving that it was easier back then, or years ago than it is now, but then I have my parents, who will be married 30 years next June, and although some may say I have no way of knowing if they will stay together to celebrate their 55th, I am certain that they will. Then, there is my sister who is getting married next year, and she and I have all the same values and beliefs and we just actually had this discussion the other day. Both of us believe in marriage and ending and divorce are just not options for us in our lives.

crushkerry23

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Profiles? Posted: 9/28/2008 6:22:23 PM
Well, I can’t see the picture so that has no baring, however I do like it when there is one. I look at all the other things you listed. Though if there isn’t anything or hardly anything written I don’t have the picture to fall back on so then I pass by, with nothing to go on about that particular person. As for others looking at me, I hate it when they don’t even read my profile. I know a lot of people think the content of the profile is a waist of time because nobody really bothers to read it, that isn’t true for me. I struggled when I wrote it with the question of mentioning my blindness in my profile or not, and just where in the profile to put it, but if the person messaging me hasn’t even bothered to read my profile, they won’t know and that will make it more awkward later on.

crushkerry23

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outta here!! Posted: 9/22/2008 9:17:48 PM
Ah, so that is what happened to that one. I really liked reading it. I learned a lot about things going on in the world from reading it every day and I didn’t know why it was just gone all of a sudden. That is kind of silly, that they pulled it. Thanks for telling me and too bad you’re leaving the forums.

crushkerry23

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eating to wellness Posted: 9/22/2008 9:13:17 PM
I now eat whole wheat pasta and breads instead of the white stuff.

crushkerry23

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Husband Fights Charge of Having Sex w/ Comatose Wife Posted: 9/13/2008 10:48:18 AM
I don’t know about the law in the United States, and even about it here in Canada really…I haven’t taken law since high school, but I bet, with the way people get off on techicalities all the time, that he will get off scot free or practically because of the privacy issue. He and his lawyers will pounce on that issue and use it to their advantage, and it will completely override the more serious issue of sex without consent. Rape is not taken nearly as seriously as it should be, in this country, the one this crime was committed in, or any other. Some people…I just don’t know…

crushkerry23

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A date to remember Posted: 9/11/2008 9:46:17 PM
All of this is elarious.

crushkerry23

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Seeking Advice Posted: 9/11/2008 9:30:00 PM
Yeah…angelheart3, jnh456, and all the others…you are doing a good job, seemingly, in making it crystal clear, but also others are right…he is the one with the feelings and that doesn’t always allow for clarity. Yes, he is here and asking for opinions, which is a risky thing to do, but he will end up doing what he wants and that may not be something easy to understand, when to anyone on the outside looking in it seems like there is only one answer. Love is not logical. IT usually does not make any real sense to other people looking in.

crushkerry23

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Obsessive-Compulsive Guy Eats 23,000 Big Macs Posted: 9/11/2008 6:22:51 PM
WOW! This is a little bit like that movie a couple of years ago where the guy ate nothing but McDonalds food every day, for one month, just to see what happens to the human body when it is only given fast food for 30 days. I thought that was nuts then and I think this is nuts now. These guys, the one a little more than the other for doing it more than just a month, but still…I got sick and again I get sick, just hearing and thinking about doing such a thing. Sure, I eat food from a fast food place from time to time, I’m not perfect, but I would be so sick if I were to do what these guys have done. Everyone says they have a favourite food, and how much they would love it if they could eat their favourite food everyday, but as much as I love chicken, even I would grow sick of it after the first couple days. There is something in that food that is almost or is addictive in a way, for some, but even once I’ve finished the food I start to feel sick and regret even eating it in the first place. The pleasure I get from it does not last long at all. Oh well…this movie maker, as far as I know, has gone on to make more movies and it sounds like this other guy is still living, but who knows what this sort of food will do to any of us, even if it does effect some more than others, sooner than later. And, he did make a lot of money on that movie.

crushkerry23

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Seeking Advice Posted: 9/11/2008 9:14:29 AM
He's not getting it. Someone be clearer.

crushkerry23

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Scientists hope to find 'God particle' in mini Big Bang Posted: 9/10/2008 9:02:57 PM
I don’t pretend to understand a lot of this, I was never very good with science, physics and astronomy, but as immense and unfathomable as the universe is, it is humans that I worry about. Sure, the debate over God or no God and the Big Bang and all that is ongoing and will never be agreed upon, but I fear the world coming to some sudden and horrific end because of human error, stupidity, or arrogance more than anything else. Some scientists are simply frightening, but then again, perhaps nobody really has the ability to do something like that, as much as some might think they know enough to actually do ig. If I let all the things in the world worry me like they could, I’d have gone out of my mind ages ago though.

crushkerry23

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Men with teenage children Posted: 9/10/2008 8:46:10 PM
To the op: If you are having a hard time with this, it is either talk to him and let him know, without trying to sound like you have a problem with his kids, that it is hard for you. It may be a problem that can’t be worked out. If it can’t, it may not be the relationship for you. I fully understand that not everyone can handle dating someone with kids, if they don’t have any, but it isn’t right to say that all people with kids should only date others with kids and those without only date others without. It can work for some and not for others but that is a situational thing and everyone is different. It isn’t fair to make someone choose between you and their children, because, depending on how long you’ve been dating, the kids always come first, or they should. That does not mean a relationship and the other person in it doesn’t have the right to want time with the person they are trying to build a relationship with. A parent has a lot to juggle but if they ever want a dating life they will have to learn how to balance both things. I am tired of all this child bashing. I understand there are those out there that do not like kids (even though they fail to forget that they were those same kids at one time), or even if you do not have kids yet and still may have them: It is not a child’s fault if they are spoiled and out of control. That is made out like the kid is in charge, and they may be in a way, but it isn’t really that kid’s fault. It all comes down to the parent and their parenting style. They brought up their child to be and act the way they are. Sure, eventually as a child grows into adolescence and then adulthood they must start to take responsibility for themselves, but a bad child didn’t become bad on their own.

crushkerry23

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Losing an entire family at once. Posted: 9/10/2008 8:10:49 PM
I don’t know…I just don’t know. I have lost my grandmother, to whom I was extremely close, and my Opa, my first experience with death, when I was 10, and my cousin from suicide but although it was horrible, we weren’t that close; it was much worse for his parents, sister and brother. My sister lost her first real boyfriend. They had dated for 5 years and then they actually did break up a few months before it happened, but it was all the worse for everything that was still so unresolved and new for her. That is just one person each time, which is no less painful for the people going through it, but the only case of someone I know losing more than one person was a teacher at my school when I was growing up; she lost both her sons, her only children, within a few years of each other, from motor vehicle accidents. She was left with no children after that and I have no idea how she has dealt with that immense loss since. You expect everyone will lose a loved one in their lifetime, and even several, but hardly ever at once, like people do in car accidents, plane crashes, or horrible crimes. That seems to me to be a burden of loss and grief way beyond understanding. I have come to terms with the death of my grandmother, knowing she wasn’t going to live forever, at her age, and the loss of my guide dog, my best pal was hard, but this is something I simply can’t fathom. I think about my sister’s x boyfriend’s family and my aunt, uncle, and cousins and I really don’t know how thye deal with a death like that. I always hear people say they move past it in time and they learn to make peace eventually, but if I ever lost one of my siblings, I would be inconsolable. I just really don’t know.

crushkerry23

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IS SILENCE (Particularly in cities) A RARITY? Posted: 9/8/2008 1:31:19 AM
I guess the only way real silence could happen is if the world came to an end, after all the explosions and such. I seem to be getting a lot more sensitive to sound or noise. It just used to be a problem for me when I would be getting on an airplane or a train; being right up against that much noise was almost painful to me. Now, every time a big truck, bus or one of those damn motor bikes goes rushing by, I must plug my ears. Being visually impaired all my life, I have studied and learned a lot about Helen Keller, the well-known deaf-blind woman, and then the question about which I could live without easier comes up…sight or sound. I am not in complete darkness so that helps, but I think I would choose this over being in total silence from deafness. Silence of that magnitude is frightening. Nothing else replaces the sound of a loved one’s voice. Actually, I slept last night with earplugs in and that was probably the longest I’ve gone in complete silence in a long time. Although it is not all silent, the closest that it gets, in my view, is on one of those soft winter nights; the snow is lightly falling, the air is fresh and cold, and the whiteness is all around. That is silence to me. I used to live out in the country, but I could always hear the distant roar of the highway, but now that I live in town, I find when out on my street in the middle of the night, it is much more silent. This continues into the early morning, until the first lawn mower of the day. Even though I say I like silence, I don’t really think I can go with total silence. Like everyone has been saing, that gets too quiet. I at least need some sound…birds, cars driving by on my not too busy street, my puppy, or music in the background. I have talked to friends that have had computers for so long that when, say the hydro goes out or something, or their computer is down, they don’t know what to do with that silence, with no humming of a computer to keep them company. No, I can not type this at all quietly because I depend on voice software for my computer, JAWS, to tell me what is on the screen. Although, I will soon be getting a Braille display which will let me feel what is on the screen and at that time I will be able to turn my JAWS off. I used to hate computers so much, but once I do get my braile display, I think I will miss the JAWS voice, as fake as it sounds…it has become a sort of friend to me. But, as for now, I could not type and post this if I didn’t use sound. Well, I could but it would be unreadable.

crushkerry23

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Suspected car burglar gets a dirty dumping Posted: 9/4/2008 9:48:42 AM
HA! This is a bit like that case where the two women tried to rob a donation store or something and in their attempt to evade capture and arrest one of the women hid in a garbage compactor and was killed…except this time it is actually funny and we can all laugh about it, without sounding cold and heartless. Sometimes, carma really gets a shot in. Without meaning to add to the overused phrases already here, this guy ended up in the toilet, or it ended up on him. WOW!...he must have really stunk. You’ve got to feel for the cops that took him in. I wonder if he was allowed to wash.

crushkerry23

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Does Love Expire.....? Posted: 9/4/2008 9:43:11 AM
Love grows, it evolves, it changes, and hopefully it strengthens as the time goes on. I’m not saying it is simple, but if both people work at it, it can last. It might not remain the same sort of love, the same intensity or level or kind, but it should remain in one way or another. A love won’t remain exactly the same when first growing and developing and all the way through the years, but it becomes cemented and confirmed and it changes from new and exciting love/lust/infatuation, to mature, secure, and solid…so that as the time goes on it becomes harder and harder to imagine not loving the other person at all. At least that’s how I’ve seen it.

crushkerry23

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What do you do When No One can See or Hear you? Posted: 9/3/2008 3:36:57 PM
If a tree falls in the forest and there is noone around to hear it, does it make a sound? It is strange, but you could almost believe that other people just fade off into nothing when they are not with you and on their own. Alone time is a good thing for all of us. Without it we’d all go crazy, but some like to be alone more than others. Myself, I read (but it can be fun to read with someone else), watch a tv show or movie nobody else likes, sing out loud to a CD (which is best done by my lonesome because I don’t have the greatest of voices), talk to myself (let’s face it, we all do that), just sit or ly there listening to the quiet or the sounds outside my window, or eat something bad for myself that I wouldn’t like to eat in front of others, and then work out to burn off the unwanted and left-over calories. But my favourite thing to do is write…this is best in the middle of the night when I am alone and I can not sleep.

crushkerry23

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Need advice. Long term relationship breakup months ago. Ex resurfaced Posted: 8/31/2008 10:11:20 PM
I usually try to stay away from these sorts of forums. Even though the people who start them are usually asking for advice, it is a very slippery slope, but this reminded me a lot of one of those teen soap operas where there is a love triangle, usually containing a girl in the middle of two former best friends. I guess this isn’t just a fictional scenario. I always wonder why the dumped guy, in most cases, comes out of it all blaming the former best friend and still loving the girl when both of them played a part in the hurt and betrayal, or that is what the odd one out calls it. Why is friendship less important than the relationship with the girl?

crushkerry23

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Sorry, gotta go , guys. Thanks, for messaging Posted: 8/30/2008 9:36:34 AM
I don’t usually like to post anything on this particular forum, but I wonder why some here are using this occasion to comment, complain, to confirm that marriage sucks…it isn’t marriage’s fault that some take it so lightly. It’s certain people that give marriage a bad name.

crushkerry23

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Death For Man Who Killed Young Boy Posted: 8/27/2008 11:38:40 PM
I would say that the thing to do seems to have been pretty much agreed upon by all here on this forem. It is sad to think of all the children that are neglected, abused or abandoned who are the ones to grow up to be the psychopaths, but once they become adults and begin to harm other children, excuses just aren’t enough. Maybe if the cycles were to end than things would improve, but like the ending of wars on the planet, it isn’t likely to ever happen. It is hard to say if one is born with the brain of a psychopath or if it is caused by one’s environment, but it really doesn’t matter in the end. As seriously as I take murder, the killing of an innocent person, I have always considered rape, and even more child sexual abuse to be worse in some ways. In this case, it is both and so the debate between life imprisonment or the death penalty is a big one. I don’t know myself…both sides have some good points. I just know that I could never put someone to death, to be the one to actually do it, no matter what they may have done. I guess as long as I can’t make up my mind, I am glad there are those out there better suited and willing to be the ones to administer the death penalty. I’d just like to think that at some point this guy and others like him will get what is coming to them, but maybe not until the end, where hell is their destination. It is so very true that the justice system doesn’t punish such people as they should. I mean, they say they care and they pretend that they will give out the harshest punishment they can, and will do all they can to protect the innocent, but it never quite seems to happen that way. I just don’t understand…

crushkerry23

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Marine Facing Justice Posted: 8/25/2008 3:58:34 PM
It is absolutely frightening just how many things are excused, condoned and overlooked in the name of war.

crushkerry23

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Would you open you marriage to save it? Posted: 8/25/2008 3:27:39 PM
NO WAY! When we are kids we are taught to share with others, but this is one thing that I could not and would not ever think of sharing, and I would hope that the man I married would feel the same exact way.

crushkerry23

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Woman killed in trash compactor Posted: 8/20/2008 1:51:47 PM
What an odd story, and an unnecessary thing to happen, all for some money or the thrill of shop lifting. It’s just that when I read the heading of the story, it made me think, automatically, of that guy in the movie Fargo.

crushkerry23

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Great First Date, Terrible Second Date Posted: 8/13/2008 6:37:21 PM
The post about dating being like a book was intriguing to me. Although I love books so that could be part of it. Good one.

crushkerry23

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World's Tallest Women Dies! Posted: 8/13/2008 6:06:03 PM
Oh, I have heard of a lot of celebrity deaths lately, but this is something different. I have seen many interviews with Sandy and she seemed like a fascinating lady. I know what disability is all about, but I can’t even imagine the stress and strain there would be for her, at her size. I am on the other end of the spectrum, not a little person by any means but I am short enough. She was always very open when interviewed, about the challenges she dealt with, but she lived a great life it seems and she clearly taught a lot of people a lot about life and living it the best you know how. Rest in peace Sandy.

crushkerry23

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RIP Isaac Hayes (Actor/Musician/South Park's Chef) Posted: 8/10/2008 5:23:34 PM
HELLO CHILDREN! I will admit that, beyond knowing of his famous song Shaft, I didn’t know his music or of him really at all. That is, until I started watching South Park, thanks to my brother. Since then it has become one of my favourite shows, even though I have never been a huge fan of potty humour. I have come to love the characters, Butters, but Chef as well. He added something to the show and no matter what his reasons or the show’s reasons for him leaving, he will always be remembered as a big part of what made South Park great. He was too young to die.

crushkerry23

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Crossdressing; tell up front, or wait? Another bad experience. Posted: 8/6/2008 7:45:21 PM
I am the last person to judge anyone, being visually impaired on an internet dating site is not always easy. I know it can be hard to wade through the people, passing the ones that just could never see themselves dating me because I can’t see perfectly like the other girls they know. I am perfectly willing to accept that some won’t wish to date me, simply because I can’t see, and I don’t begrudge them that because it is their right…just as long as they aren’t nasty about it. At the same time, I could not feel comfortable dating someone that cross dressed. It just wouldn’t work for me. I have had my own experience with dating someone that turned out to be gay. I was younger and so were they at the time and so I wasn’t able to recognize the signs of the situation I was in and had to have the truth of it laid out for me. Now, I understand that just because someone may enjoy wearing woman’s clothing, underwear or whatever, that doesn’t necessarily mean they are gay, but that doesn’t make a difference. There are just some things that aren’t really fair. For instance, a woman can wear her boyfriend’s boxers or his shirts and it is all ok, but if a man comes out wearing a pair of his girlfriend’s panties it is weird and strange. I guess there are just those things in society that aren’t equal. Just as I found it a deal breaker when the guy I was dating got a naval ring. I couldn’t get past it and see it for anything but a sign of femininity. Now, cross dressing or getting a navel ring as a man may not mean homosexuality, but everyone has the right to do what is best for them. We should leave the gay bashing out of it and do our best to be compassionate and understanding, even if a relationship with that person may not work. As for when it is appropriate to tell the person you may be dating… Well, I think it is a rather important thing. Now, if it doesn’t matter to that other person than fine, it is out and the relationship can continue to progress. But, if it isn’t going to work for the person than they deserve to have that information early on so both people can move on and not waste time and grow more attached. I guess from my experience when I was younger I feel stronger about this than some people might, but I try my best to be empathetic and kind as that is what I would hope for from others.

crushkerry23

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Help me out of this situation Posted: 8/6/2008 10:37:45 AM
All this is good stuff, all true…and believe me, I’d know. I am always considering this matter and there is no one solution to the problem, if that is what you want to call it. There really are some good ones out there, both men and women, despite what some say on these forums. It is hard to say if putting oneself out there on the internet like this here is a good way to find the one who will look past the illness and the obstacles. It can be good here because people can read about you, contact you and conversation can begin. That will allow you to express yourself and allow your true colours to shine through. IT takes some work, and when you are often exhausted that can seem like a mountain impossible to climb, but love is worth it. I have seen it.

crushkerry23

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2 Hikers Attacked by Yellowstone Grizzly Posted: 7/22/2008 9:21:17 AM
I think this particular forum has some great humourous posts on it. But, I now know way too much about black bear droppings…way more than I ever wanted to know. It is good to remember, like it has already been pointed out here, that we are wandering through their home and not the other way around. The line between human and animal environment is being crossed all the time and this kind of thing is bound to happen. I am glad to see that nobody has been blaming the bear. It is natural to be cautious and even fearful of bears and sharks and other animals that have the power and strength to harm us,if we come to close por are seemingly a threat to them, but what would we do without such beautiful and amazing creatures. I am not much of a camper/hiker and I don’t spend too much time out in the wilderness. I m more of an admirer from afar, but I will watch out for those dangerous coconuts the next time I am on vacation.

crushkerry23

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NY Gun Buy Back Program Posted: 7/19/2008 12:38:00 PM
Oh boy! I am sensing a lot of upset and angry Americans viewing this particular forum title.

crushkerry23

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What's it Worth? Posted: 7/17/2008 9:15:17 PM
I think this is one of the saddest and most depressing forums I have ever come across on this site, and that is saying something. I mean no disrespect or criticism to the op or anyone else but it really is.

crushkerry23

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engaged so soon? Posted: 7/17/2008 8:52:07 PM
From all the posts on this forum so far, it is clear that there is no simple and no one right answer to this question. My parents dated for 4 years, got engaged after about 3, and are approaching their 30th wedding anniversary. My mom’s parents also dated for 4 years, and then were happily married for 55 before my grandma died. They had known each other ever since she was 4 and in pigtails and he was 8 and a good friend of her big brother. Their two families were friends. They went through all kinds of troubles, things they couldn’t prevent, tornado, illnesses, hard work and sacrifice and had 5 children, 21 grandchildren and several great grandchildren. My dad’s parents met after the war, she was 5 or 6 years older and had already been married and had 3 kids with someone during the war. She came out of an abusive marriage, having practically raised her 3 little children all alone without her first husband’s help during a terrible time of war, then her and my opa made the gigantic move to Canada and started a whole new life. They had to rebuild in a country where they did not speak the language and where they had to scrape and reach for everything they eventually got. My sister is now engaged to a wonderful guy, after dating for a year and a half. She had previously come out of a rocky 5 year relationship with her first real boyfriend. He didn’t seem able to give her what she wanted, marriage, kids and a future of stability so she had to end it. Then only months later he died suddenly, before she even had a chance to figure out how to move on from him completely. Now she is totally happy, at ease and in love and this guy is just right for her. I say that just by watching the two of them. They met and haven’t really left each other’s side since. Some people live together before and some don’t, some are young and some are older, but the love and effort must be there. Some of it has to do with hard work and the rest with just a mysterious thing that can’t be explained. Something just fits together with two people when it is the right relationship. I think it also can have to do with examples in parents, grandparents and family, of happy marriages and commitment and problem solving. Then others have seen divorce in their parental examples and vow never to follow in that same path. I know a couple that were together for 6 years and had a baby. Finally they decided to get married and it ended, after another child was born. That doesn’t mean that marriage at any time into a relationship is necessarily good or bad. It all has to do with hard work and rightness between two people. Some things just can not be fully explained. I know that isn’t easy to accept from someone that needs a plan, rules or steps to follow but that is life. You either take a risk, at whatever time seems right for you, or you don’t.

crushkerry23

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Im taking a good look at myself! Posted: 7/5/2008 9:07:09 AM
As a woman with a so-called “disability” myself, I know it adds something extra to all this. The thing is, you can’t really dwell on that too much or it gives off the impression that that is all it is about for you and dating can’t have such things so much in the forefront. I am not saying deny it by any means. I myself knew it was important to mention that I don’t see as well as others, but it isn’t a good thing to use a disability as the reasoning behind anything and everything that isn’t going right. Sure, it plays a role in some cases with some prospective dates, but we must also take some of our own responsibility for how we present ourselves and how we handle things going forward.

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About to drive me crazy....all women are not after your money Posted: 7/5/2008 8:54:16 AM
You mean to say that not all men want only sex from women and not all women only go for men with money? Oh, I had it all wrong there for a while.

crushkerry23

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Should I shave or do women prefer the rugged look? Posted: 7/3/2008 10:44:30 PM
Am I reading all this incorrectly, or is a topic of whether or not to shave here under the broken hearts heading? Does that seem like the best place for it, or was it simply a mistake? Nobody else seems to have noticed, or if they did they didn’t care. I guess it isn’t a big deal, but I have seen so many way more pressing questions and stories on these forums get deleted or suggested for deletion when this one goes on for as long as it has, where it has been. It isn’t a big deal, but then what exactly is the point in having separate headings?

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Losing it..... Posted: 7/3/2008 10:33:38 PM
Oh my…so so sad. I am really sorry. My sister is only a few years older than I am and she lost her first real boyfriend just a few years ago. They were together for 5 years and by that time things were starting to go rocky and it ended, but just barely…that didn’t really matter in the end, after what happened next. Soon after that, before the healing over the end of such a monumental relationship could have possibly been dealt with, he died suddenly in the night. He was only 25 and he died, of a mysterious heart condition which was never discovered. She had had no real time to move on from being with him and then without him and she was left with guilt and shock and so many other feelings I can not imagine. I have to admit, that that was the hardest funeral I have ever been to. Just listening to my sister speak broke my heart in a way I never knew possible. My grandpa lost my grandpa after 55 years of marriage, plus 4 more years of being together before that even. They had known each other through their families since he was 8 and she was 4…a real love story in my eyes. No matter when it happens, at whatever age and stage of life, it is the most difficult thing a person can live through, when the one they love has not. I am only recounting these two specific stories of loss because I have seen myself how deeply and forever the death of one you love will effect you. This is all so beyond words, for you I am sure and for anyone that has lost the one they loved, for however long it may have had a chance to last.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Slavery By Another Name - How Abolition failed to put an end to America's shame Posted: 7/3/2008 10:17:50 PM
I often wonder what the world would be like if everyone on it were blind…a disaster, I know. smile I would like to think, not that it would be possible, but that if it were possible that such a horror as racism wouldn’t exist, but I know that there would still be the bad with the good. Human beings would still find ways to be nasty and cruel to one another. It is just something interesting I think about. I can sometimes tell by the accent or sound of a voice, but usually I have no idea of someone’s difference in skin colour. What would people be like to other people and what would they think of toward others if they couldn’t tell if they had a different colour to their skin than themselves?

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Slavery By Another Name - How Abolition failed to put an end to America's shame Posted: 7/3/2008 10:10:45 PM
Sure, the Civil War was labeled in history as the end of slavery and all that, but that really isn’t anything at all when you look at how slow the change has really been. It was 100 years after that that Martin Luther King Jr. was fighting. The Civil War was only a stepping stone. It is really sad just how change for the definite improvement of the world is always so painfully slow. Sure it is better, but how much better will it actually ever get…? Wars and prejudice and hatred and oppression will always exist on Earth. As many good and decent people as there are on this planet, there will always be enough of the other side to keep such horrors going. Scarey!

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

Does the way people pose in photos reveal their mentality? Posted: 7/3/2008 10:45:37 AM
So, what does it mean that I have my picture up on my profile where I am posing with a life-sized model of the Simpson family…a promotional display in the lobby of the movie theater before the big movie hit? Or with my first guide dog that died last year? Just wondering.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Good idea or abuse of power? Posted: 7/3/2008 10:31:07 AM
I have always felt that people complaining about cameras in public places were making a big deal out of nothing. Afterall, if you’ve got nothing to hide, who really cares. I would say I still believe that, but it is the people that use such protective and security means to dishonest and unfair and unwarranted ends is the frightening part of it all. I am not one to jump onto any panic band wagon but you can never be sure what is happening behind the scenes. It is absolutely terrifying to think of what this world is coming to, and to how it might end.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

Favorite drinks Posted: 7/3/2008 10:21:08 AM
Ah yes…definitely Belinis!

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Farmer's markets Posted: 7/1/2008 2:16:01 PM
It is true, that the atmosphere of a market is unique and can’t be found anywhere else. I love the seasonal fresh fruit and vegetables, but for me it has always been more from my family’s own private farmer markets. My grandparents always had currants…boy were they sour but it was fun to pick them with Grandma. They also had grape vines at the side of their house. They got the whole family started on freshly picked strawberries, but just add a bit of sugar and some rhubarb. Also, they started it and then my mother continued it, peas. I love it around this time of year, coming in a week or so, fresh peas in the pod. I haven’t really been able to find them anywhere else but my grandparent’s garden and then my mom’s garden. I love to pod them just as much as eat them. By the end there are none to freeze because I have eaten all of them. Not too long to wait now…my favourite! Then there are always raspberries, cherries (if the birds don’t get them all before we do that is), eldaberries (which we used to try to sell in little bags at the side of the road. Other kids had lemonade stands but we had something different. Unfortunately we lived on a fairly fast moving highway and so people never really stopped.), and then by the end of summer more, peaches, corn on the cob (I love to husk corn as well as pod peas. It is a fun thing for me to do.), apples and blue grapes/Concord. My uncle and aunt lived on a farm and had an apple orchard. There were no apples anywhere like their apples…the sourer the better. (Sourer not a word…oh well.) It is also true that it is a good thing, in a way, that these things only come around once a year. It almost makes me love them more, with the strong anticipation beforehand. I appreciate it all so much more when I’ve had to wait all through the long cold winter for the fresh stuff that comes and goes before you know it.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Martian Ice Discovered Posted: 6/22/2008 5:15:05 AM
I don’t know how much of an amazing discovery this actually is. I have always been intrigued by the vastness and unknown of space as I have of the undiscovered depths of the oceans here on Earth, but we should watch out. If other life was discovered on other planets out there that would just provide this planet with other worlds to invade and take over, like what is going on here and now. Of course it is perfectly natural for inquiring minds to want to know what could be out there beyond our world, but hopefully it is for the right reasons. Maybe if we did ever encounter other civilizations on other planets they could teach us a thing or two about living and surviving with one another.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Bizarre Foods Posted: 6/16/2008 6:08:16 PM
Well, I haven’t posted on any of the food/cooking related threads before, because I am not really a great cook, still starting out, and so I have never really had anything of interest to offer. I do read them a lot though to try and learn. I just thought this one was a good one and I have a few to add. Pancakes with KetchUp on them instead of syrup. Of course, before this sounds too strange, the type of pancakes I am talking about are different, made differently, but it has been a favourite not only for breakfast but for any meal in my family. Most people look at us strangely when anyone in my family mention it. My Oma has always made them the best. She is getting older though so she won’t be making them too much anymore. Then there is meat wurst…another beloved food in the family. It is not as unheard of but many people find it revolting. IT is a meat spread and those can take some getting used to. It is best on rye bread.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Thank You Dad - What do you want to thank your Dad for? Posted: 6/15/2008 11:45:01 AM
I would like to thank my father, although he will not view it here, for his kidney. That’s one painful operation. Smile

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Breaking the ice with Nerdy girls Posted: 6/15/2008 11:42:05 AM
So, if a girl likes to go shopping that automatically places her out of the “nerdy girl” category and if a girl likes, what, computers or books, that puts her squarely in the “nerdy girl” category? This is awefully confusing…so ambiguous. Everyone is allowed their preferences in relationships, but this seems stereotypical. For instance, I enjoy shopping with my sister or friends, but I also love books and other less social activities. I can’t figure out if I have any “nerdy girl” in me at all, by the definitions from here.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

Any Oenophiles Out in this Sea of Fish? Posted: 6/6/2008 1:39:26 PM
It’s a shame that Frasier and Niles Crane are just fictional brothers from a television sitcom. HA HA!

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Wartime PTSD Up About 50% in 2007 Posted: 5/28/2008 7:16:01 AM
Yes, I don’t know how anyone could possibly be surprised by these sort of findings. Maybe it is possible for some to kill and to witness the killings of little children and other fellow human beings without a problem, but most times humans can not make it through something like that without much damage to every part of them, to the depths of their souls. War is often not taken as seriously as it should be…it is pretended to be but, mostly by those who have not seen any of the carnage. Yes, I know I have not seen it myself, but I have a grandmother who has and I am a human being like any other and it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to get the whole entire brutal picture. That is why, PTSD or whatever you want to call it, whether or not a licenced psychiatrist would call it that or would categorize it as serious or not, there is damage done.

crushkerry23

Joined: 6/6/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

So she says she loves me Posted: 5/25/2008 5:45:02 AM
One partner cheats on the other and so it is decided that they will have an open relationship, in the hopes that if both are open about seeing other people maybe the trust will be found again. If someone is going to be dishonest enough to stray why would anyone think things would become less complicated and painful once more people are brought into the mix? Sure, what I just said may sound like a piece of psychological babble, but it sounds about right to me.

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