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Mishigan

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Have all the really older guys given up? Posted: 12/1/2012 9:15:53 AM
Have all the really older guys given up? Posted: 11/25/2012 6:35:02 AM They have less testosterone? Starting to feel the effects of aging due to lifestyle? Feel less in control or manly due to finances? Have retired from" power careers" and feel less important/needed? Are dealing with health issues? I don't think most have given up wanting, they just don't seem to have the energy/mojo to put forth the effort. A lot of the same can be said of women That's smart... thoughtful and thorough...

Mishigan

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Are you still a big kid at Christmas? Posted: 11/12/2012 5:38:59 AM
I just try to take it in stride... appreciate it for what it's SUPPOSED to be... coming once a year... peace, brotherhood, etc. Used to have a fireplace - loved that. Lights down low, candles, tiny lights, a tasteful tree - I have old albums - Doris Day, Nat King Cole, Johnny Mathis, Sinatra, Bing Crosby, Burl Ives, Arthur Fiedler, etc. ... 8^) Hug and snuggle like bugs in rugs... no struggles... no thugs... I like to light a tree outside that I can see through the window. Dear Santa - Please bring me Christmas Carol. I've been a good boy - but, next year you may take her away from me again. 8^)

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Northern Lower Michigan Posted: 1/22/2009 5:27:25 AM
Would like to find a long-term relationship, eventually - but, I'm probably not the greatest candidate for that, presently. Still would like to meet-up with someone, nearby - go out and have a few laughs... I'm in-between Traverse City and Frankfort... northwest of Cadillac...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Across the Universe John Lennon Posted: 1/1/2009 2:36:01 PM
Words are flying out like endless rain into a paper cup They slither while they pass They slip away across the universe Pools of sorrow waves of joy are drifting thorough my open mind Possessing and caressing me Jai guru deva ommmmmmmm Nothing's gonna change my world Nothing's gonna change my world Nothing's gonna change my world Nothing's gonna change my world Images of broken light which dance before me like a million suns They call me on and on across the universe Thoughts meander like a restless wind inside a letter box they tumble blindly as they make their way across the universe Nothing's gonna change my world Nothing's gonna change my world Nothing's gonna change my world Nothing's gonna change my world Jai guru deva Jai guru deva Jai guru deva ommmmmmmmm

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 12/23/2007 10:50:30 AM
I think the most fulfilling and satisfying happiness requires that kind of commitment. That's the door to the level where real, authentic closeness and intimacy can begin to happen. And, I think that having someone reasonably close to your own age can be the most comfortable and least stressful arrangement. I've thought about these things a lot since my divorce. Personally, having someone who enjoyed snuggling on the couch as much as I would while listening to Donovan, The Beatles, The Moody Blues, etc. (performers and messages from my era...) would be a pretty damn nice situation... and, could lead to some serious "bonding" between us (which is what we would all like, I think... if we are honest with ourselves)

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Oh what a relief it is... Posted: 12/15/2007 6:58:39 PM
oshan, I agree with rowdy, as well. I had already copied that message from the preceding page to thank you for it. Well, well....aren't you just the most compassionate carbon unit? I can almost predict that you will, one day, get to experience this type of pain...first hand! When you do, I certainly hope that you will have someone who will show you the understanding and empathy that you are, obviously, incapable of offering. Understanding, empathy and compassion are essential for healing a broken heart. You know, from my own experience, there is nothing in this world so painful as to lose someone you love, and it doesn't matter how that loss came about. Believe it or not, there's a process that human beings go through when this happens. It's call the grieving process. What the OP and other posters are talking about, since you failed to 'get it', is that through this grieving process, the heartbroken griever will sometimes find a way of seeing a positive aspect to the loss. The positive aspects, as some posters have listed, can be anywhere from not having to listen to snoring to not having to be grossed out because of certain behaviors or habits. I was beginning to get a complex about feeling as badly as I had been. I appreciated your enlightened, compassionate approach.

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Do you like taking Showers or baths with your lovers ? Posted: 9/14/2007 4:34:51 AM
From reading all of this - I realize that some of my strongest, fondest memories of my ex-wife are of these two "activities". The rounded, voluptuous femininity of her reclining in the tub - washing her ever so slowly over and under every curving surface - and, in the shower, just admiring her as she stood with her head tilted back and eyes closed - rinsing the soap from her face - her arms raised and elbows bent - hands holding her hair up from the back of her neck - me, being drawn so powerfully to wrap my arms around her stomach from behind and to "weigh" the fullness of her breasts in my two hands - kissing the nape of her neck. And she says I didn't "love" her. What does she know?

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Do you like taking Showers or baths with your lovers ? Posted: 9/13/2007 7:08:23 PM
They're both such a completely different sensation and experience that I sort of resent choosing between them. I love washing a women's body completely in the tub... but, it's more of a thing that I'm doing. In the shower, I can embrace her and feel the wonderful fullness and softness of her and am free to do many other things which are impossible in the tight confines of a tub. It seems to be much more about "the both of us". Seems to make more sense washing her hair there, too... Also... have had sex standing in the shower... but, can't recall doing it in the tub (probably too worried about splashing water all over the bathroom... damn my anal-retentiveness,,,)

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that? Posted: 7/23/2007 1:04:40 PM
My ex-wife wanted to remain friends after she had begun sleeping with the guy she is now living with while we were still married. She said, in her mind, the marriage was already over. Before all that happened, she completely devastated our finances with an incomprehensible gambling problem. She said that if I didn't want to remain friends, "It would be my loss...", because she could "be a good friend". I was reminded of the saying, "With friends like this... who needs enemies?". It seems like it would be allowing her to have her cake and eat it too... if I went along with it all. My instincts tell me to cut her off completely... forever...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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over 45 women, how should we dress for a meet? Posted: 7/23/2007 12:48:54 PM
That's about what I was gonna say. Schedule the 1st date for a secluded spot in the country for a picnic... and don't wear anything...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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People who just write how are you Posted: 7/23/2007 12:42:38 PM
I think I ended my last email with, "You look and sound like a very nice woman/person/individual/biological entity..." Is that better... or, worse? "Reality is a phone call." What's the number?

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Is online better than the bar scene? Posted: 7/17/2007 3:39:26 PM
I've been at this for months - even a bit before my divorce was final in March. The area I live in is very nice - along the shores of Lake Michigan - but certainly no great metropolis. I have corresponded with several women through email - but distance and inconvenience have helped keep me from actually meeting anyone in person. I can walk into town and go to the bars there - and, sometimes do. I have conversations, dance, sing karaoke - have met interesting older women and have even had younger women tell me I am awesome and one that said I had stolen her heart with my dancing. 8^) I like the immediacy of the live meeting. I guess I like everything about it. I'm sure I prefer it right now.

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Backdoor Lovers Posted: 7/17/2007 4:08:56 AM
One of the most gloriously beautiful parts of a woman's anatomy is her gorgeous butt... so, you get the opportunity to make love to it. Also, I think there is something enticing about the fact that you and she are like "co-conspirators" in sharing something which is somewhat controversial and forbidden - one of the last "taboos". Something exciting and mutually bonding about it.

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Love on the 'net, at our age. . . . Posted: 7/14/2007 4:04:16 AM
I completely agree with cdn about the different generations we have grown up in and the climate of fear and paranoia we have descended into. I was going to say that the internet is probably no worse than any other cross-section of people whom you might find in a department store or at a sporting event with regard to the number of unbalanced personalities one might run across - but, it is probably much worse by it's very nature - providing cover and anonymity in a "Wild West" type environment to the more nefarious types to practice their harassment, scams and con-games...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Funny Guys and the BBC Posted: 7/14/2007 3:43:52 AM
Just day-to-day living can be funny enough if you're receptive to the humorous people and situations. "Jokes" aren't necessary. Crotchety old geezers were probably crotchety young geezers and have spent their lives manufacturing most of their own problems in these areas.

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Shedding the Mask Posted: 7/13/2007 3:27:10 PM
I came of age during the 60's when a great deal of the focus in music, and writing and art was on identifying and disposing of these "masks". There were many great teachers and "guides" from that period. I took it all to heart and strove to learn as much as I could from them. I believe that I have been successful in large part in eliminating "masks" from my life... although it takes constant vigilance and the natural condition seems to be that we slip into them more easily than out of them. The things I learned from that time are my "riches"... good thing, as due to the unforeseeable "train-wrecks" in other areas of my life... I am materially and financially lacking when compared to others of my age. Thankfully, I have been provided with some emotional and philosophical tools to help me deal with my unique situation. I am even beginning to feel young again... free and unfettered... As Janis Joplin sang in "Me and Bobby McGee" - "Freedom's just another word - for "nuthin' left to lose... it's nuthin', honey... it ain't nuthin' honey... if it ain't free..."

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Marriage vs. Living Together - your views and why? Posted: 7/12/2007 1:23:08 PM
After a 22-year marriage and a divorce which has been 5-months - I'm not eager to jump right back into marriage. I'm hoping that I might find a great friendship with strong, natural communication which might develop into a lasting passion and love. The person who I would be compatible with would understand as well as I that living together would be a logical step and the final test as to whether we are truly right for each other and capable of making it for the "long haul". It shouldn't take too awfully long to determine whether or not we are "marriage material". If we seem to be... I wouldn't waste any time in making her my wife... if she felt the same. But, I'm getting too old to make another mistake without eliminating as much of the potential for error as possible.

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Advantages of NOT posting a picture Posted: 7/12/2007 12:45:48 PM
Just wanted to say on my behalf... that I read the profiles scrupulously... even trying to divine what's there "between the lines". I always believed in the concept of a "soul-mate"... and, having just had a 25-year relationship fail - I want to be "more right" this time - if I can be. A picture is necessary for me... and I prefer to have one from the start... as it tells me a tremendous amount...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Advantages of NOT posting a picture Posted: 7/12/2007 7:24:04 AM
I like to think of myself as open-minded and unprejudiced - but, I must be pretty shallow in some ways. I'm very visually-oriented. When it comes to a special, romantic relationship - a woman's face is probably the most important physical aspect to me. I'm not here looking for more friends or to meet online conversationalists - I'm searching for my other half - someone who might grace the remainder of my life with beauty and wonder and happiness. Seeing a profile with no picture, is, to me - getting off on the wrong foot. I think about the reasons that a person wouldn't display their photo - and none of them seem very good - and not worth dwelling on. It puts me in the position of having to ask for a picture early on... which seems a bit awkward and creates a bad situation if you don't like it...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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SHE 45 HE 50 HOW LONG B4 ? Posted: 7/12/2007 6:49:15 AM
If I'm filling a hat with paper slips - there's not going to be any "36" in there! (Maybe 36 slips with the # 1 on them...)

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Should ppl try to dress to de-sexy-fy themselves? Posted: 7/11/2007 2:33:24 PM
I've also purchased some wilder, bolder threads of late. I think you just need to be true to yourself. Am I sexy? To some, I have been... to others, not so much. Different strokes for different folks... that's what makes the world go round. I'm not looking for the the world to love me... just one person. By expressing myself honestly... maybe I have a real chance of meeting them...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Best position for BBw Posted: 7/11/2007 2:12:26 PM
I enjoyed making love to my ex-wife (who was a larger girl than I ever thought I would be with) in all positions... but the one I miss most is when she sat on top facing me... and her voluptuous breasts would dangle down to my face...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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What IS off limits in the bedroom for you?? Posted: 7/11/2007 2:02:49 PM
I agree... pretty sure I don't want to be whipped or peed on... and, certainly no kids around a sexual environment. Beyond that... I'm open to suggestions...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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i cant take it anymore!! Posted: 7/11/2007 1:57:16 PM
I guess I agree with atlast. My first impression was that she loves you but wants to know if you love her enough to not lose her... and that after these many years would like to be married.

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Places you have masturbated. Posted: 7/8/2007 1:22:01 PM
I always masturbate in the same place... just below my belt... in the front of myself...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Are you where you thought you would be? Posted: 7/8/2007 1:07:51 PM
You're learning... and, evolving... and, progressing. You see things with the benefit of hindsight now, that you couldn't see before. That's Life and maturity. Good luck with your new choices, scorpio...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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How important is dressing up for dates or in relationships? Posted: 7/8/2007 1:01:32 PM
I'm just an old hippie and have always gone the "comfort route"... but people have always said that I "clean-up well"... and have recently been considering dressing up more just for a lark... and... I'm wondering lately if certain women don't get a little more "turned-on" by it... (they can be so superficial...)

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Are you where you thought you would be? Posted: 7/8/2007 12:15:16 PM
About a year ago, I would have said that I was completely happy with where I was at... actually felt really blessed with the way everything had turned out. Three great sons... a pretty... though somewhat chubby wife... I thought we had funneled the profits from our previous 3 homes into our 4th and that we had a ton of equity, health care and pension plans. Then, my ex-wife's horrible, secretive gambling addiction came to light... she was fired from her $60,000+ a year job in banking for trying to float a $5000 check... and we all found out that she had wiped us out and left us $30,000 additional debt. She was black-balled from banking (and most other jobs) and took a job selling AFLAC for straight commission. They paired her up with a partner who became her lover and she filed for divorce - it was final last March. I am back to ground-zero and even worse... with no lover. In answer to the question... I am not where I expected to be...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Sex longer than a minute, does it exist...? Posted: 7/8/2007 11:56:35 AM
I don't generally last a tremendous amount of time (I'm passionate and I get excited... what can I say?) There have been occasions, though... when I've lasted for hours... but I'm not really in control of them and don't exactly know the how or why or when that it will happen that way...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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User Names - Attract Or Repulse? Posted: 7/8/2007 11:48:17 AM
The name can sometimes be your first insight into the person and how they think. I like a bit of creative thinking in my friends... so, it can mean something to me... not necessarily, though...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Should ppl try to dress to de-sexy-fy themselves? Posted: 7/8/2007 7:58:15 AM
A person needs a basic sense of style - or it can be easy to slip into a caricature of what it is you are hoping to portray. Beyond that... 95% of the people are always recommending that you "act your age" - mainly, so that you will look and act like they do - old. I won't listen to them and I couldn't care less about what they think. "Fairy-tales can come true... it can happen to you... if you're young at heart..."

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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smell of semen...why do they smell the way they do? Posted: 7/5/2007 3:25:01 PM
I've never heard anyone talk about "Javex" other than Joni Mitchell (singer/songwriter). "Javex bottles on the shore..." Not sure of the song... but, might be "Banquet" from her album "For the Roses"... (come to the dinnerbell... tables are laden high... fat bellies and hungry little ones... sidle up and get your share...")

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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smell of semen...why do they smell the way they do? Posted: 7/5/2007 2:48:15 PM
I was with the same woman for 25 years... but, no sex of any kind since February (divorced). I've actually been wondering lately if all women's pussies smell and taste the same... I mean, I assumed they all must be pretty similar... but... maybe I'm wrong... (not talking about those that are not hygienically "maintained"... geez... am I really saying these things?)

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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men.. your honest opinion please Posted: 7/5/2007 2:34:52 PM
I wouldn't take any of it that seriously. I've been without any sort of relationship since February... and I think I would take a faulty one which requires work and has no guarantee of ever becoming much at all - over nothing. Look at it as an opportunity to practice on the communication. Obviously, something keeps the two of you from putting a complete end to things... maybe it's only the sex and intimacy... but, once again... it's the difference between having the longing for sex and intimacy constantly dominating your thoughts... and actually having an outlet and release for those desires - not always an easy situation to attain. Maybe there is something there worth salvaging or growing... you're the only two that know for sure... many long-lasting relationships have both elements of hot and cold...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Is visual attraction what draws and keeps our attention? Posted: 6/26/2007 2:17:02 PM
I agree... in most circumstances, it HAS to be the visual which first stirs our interest... after that, we find out if there is any substance to what we initially hoped would be there...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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WHY ARE PEOPLE AFRAID TO FALL IN LOVE NOWADAYS??? Posted: 6/26/2007 2:07:50 PM
My ex devastated everything we had financially with a terrible gambling addiction, and then emotionally with an affair. I was at first destroyed and afraid to start again... but have recently realized that I have a new chance to get things right and to possibly have the partner and relationship that I had always dreamt of... falling in love again is my greatest desire...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Who has better luck in real life versus the web? Posted: 6/26/2007 1:52:49 PM
My experience so far with the web is something like being blindfolded and trying to pin the tail on the donkey. There's nothing like real interaction with real people. Everything is the way it should be... spontaneous and exciting... you look into their eyes... see them smile... watch them dance... it's natural and exciting and you know immediately who arouses interest in you and who doesn't. In comparison, the web has been a big disappointment bordering on uselessness. It's good for passing time in the evenings, though... but that's about all, in my experience...

HuronEarth

Joined: 6/8/2007

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Age Differences Posted: 6/26/2007 1:30:36 PM
I think you're probably right about the 10 year range... but I have been trying to evolve over the last six months... and, I think that it's really more about compatible personalities than anything. Of course, I am a 54 year old male... so everyone can say, "Oh, yeah... right... we've got HIS number!!!" 8^)

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