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Is it always cold in CT? Posted: 11/13/2009 2:45:13 PM
We actually do have pretty warm summers. Oh, not what you were asking?

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Bars in CT Posted: 11/13/2009 2:43:02 PM
There's a nice little place in Watertown called "The Red Door". (http://www.reddoormusic.com) On the weekends they have a dance club downstairs and live music upstairs. However, I'm looking to branch out a bit, as I've gone there for years and maybe a change of scenery might get me out. (I've either been sick, broke, tired, or confronted with bad weather most of this year--haven't gotten out much.) I highly recommend it, though. I'll still show up now and then.

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How come you still look when you do not have too? Posted: 8/4/2009 12:29:38 PM
Note to self: take down Christmas tree...

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How come you still look when you do not have too? Posted: 7/31/2009 7:50:30 AM
Knowing me, I'd probably just forget to take it down. :)

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FRIDAY JULY 24 RIDERS C AFE WATERBURY POF MEET UP Posted: 7/31/2009 7:48:31 AM
Also, Riders is a biker bar as far as I can tell, so it's hardly the place to meet someone unless your a biker, too. Not necessarily a bad place; both one of my uncles and a co-worker go there (not together--they don't know each other and he's happily married to my aunt). Just not exactly a romantic place.

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New Britain POF get together ideas and suggestions Posted: 7/31/2009 7:46:04 AM
A bit far down the state for me, but I would think a weekend would be the best bet: Friday night-Sunday afternoon. Except for family events, those who work on weekends, or household chores they couldn't do during the work week, I would think most people would be free and not have to worry about going to work the next day.

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singles events in CT Posted: 12/28/2008 6:53:02 PM
I'd prefer a dance club. That way, even if I don't find a match, at least I can get my groove on.

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No Events for CT Posted: 8/24/2008 8:13:00 PM
Don't forget to send me an invite. I don't get on the forums very often, and I was sick most of this spring. Still trying to catch up financially, or I'd consider putting something together. I know a few decent places in the area.

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Get together on Wenesday June 25th Posted: 8/24/2008 8:07:59 PM
Guess I should check the forum more often. I missed this event (if it happened). Someone message me when they have the next one. (I wish I had the ability to put one together.)

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just a question Posted: 5/27/2007 7:25:32 AM
Try something different to set you apart. I made a comic strip for mine. (I should update the pictures with a good camera while my hair is short and I don't look so big in the tummy. ).

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connecticut Posted: 4/21/2007 7:27:04 AM
I wish you had posted this a week ago. I have to go back to work Monday, so bedtime won't let me go. Maybe if it was Sunday afternoon.

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where did the get togethers go? Posted: 4/16/2007 2:05:44 PM
I'd come if it was just the two of us.

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CT girls Posted: 4/16/2007 2:04:20 PM
If we had more in common, GS, I'd hang out with you. I'd love to find a cool girl to hit a club or something with, be it a date or just sharing company. You just have to find the right guy. We're out there.

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connecticut Posted: 4/16/2007 2:01:32 PM
The Red Door also has some nice jazz on Wednesdays, but it's mostly a drinking-age college crowd, I think. I don't get to go very often since I have to work the next day. It rocks on the weekends, (especially Saturday, where there's more of a broader spectrum of bands upstairs) but there aren't enough single women there. I've thought about renting some time downstairs before the DJ dance portion opens, or maybe a Sunday afternoon event, but I don't have the money.

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where did the get togethers go? Posted: 3/10/2007 7:45:17 PM
I'd set one up if I had the money. I even know a couple good places.

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why is everyone so concerned about a no pressure first date?? Posted: 3/10/2007 1:01:09 PM
It costs as much as it costs. The point is what I spend on a date, first or otherwise, is based on what I can afford, not whether or not I get into her pants. I'm not afraid to spend it. However, if she only wants me for my money, she's in for a surprise. There are dates that can be romantic with little or no money (if your imaginative) and some that require quite a bit. Find a date where you can have fun vs what you can afford. If I ended up spending $10,000,000 on a date (which would be one doozy of a first date, if you ask me, so I must really like her), that doesn't mean she MUST sleep with me. Hopefully it means we had an exciting enough date she'll want to see me again. After I get out of debtor's prison. And to blondblueeyed, I have a sense of humor. I also get tired of women assuming because I'm a man everything I do is about getting laid. Some of us are out here looking for more than that. I can pay for sex. (Not legally, but you know what I mean.) You can pay for someone to pretend they like you, but not to actually like you. The latter is what I want. You can get a woman drunk enough to have sex with you, but that's not exactly an ego booster. (Especially the next morning when she freaks out, calls you a rapist, and kicks you out while sitting there in the bed going "dear God, what was I thinking", so I'd rather keep my record of not experiencing that. 33 years and going. ) However, there is a hint of truth in what I said, if I had a dollar for every first date that asked for sex I would never have to work again. So, in my world it isn't a generalization, Well, in my world, especially at work where I cross paths with a lot of women (mostly older, married women, so that really doesn't help me much), I get to hear the expression "typical guy" quite often when members of my gender are discussed. I even had one female acquittance who assumed my Dad, whom she never met or heard about, had to be sleeping around based on no other information than he's male. (What must she think of me, being single?) Therefore, I get on the defensive when it sounds like I might be stereotyped. I'm not a typical anything, but try telling that to women, especially ones with bad experiences (like my acquittance). So it's become something of a pet peeve with me. When I say "no pressure", it means "I'm not necessarily going to sleep with you or marry you on the first date". If I ever slept with a woman on the first--or 25th--date, she will have invited me in with no prompting from me. Even then I might say it's too early, but hope she'd still date me. And yes, I'm a man, so I don't have a female profile. I'd also like to think I'm not unique (at least on this). Thus ends my rant. Good day.

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Ever been to Panera Bread? Posted: 3/8/2007 6:55:25 AM
For something a bit more relaxed (like a lunch date), try a Panera Bread place. It's techincally a sandwich shop, but they make their own breads (I think right in that branch), the atmosphere is more like a "traditional" sit-down resturant (except you pour your own soda from the dispenser, like a Target or Wal-Mart eating spot), and if you've never had peanut butter and jelly or grilled cheese on gormet bread, you're missing out. Their "home"made pastries are also very good. Just don't try the pre-packaged potato chips they give you with some sandwiches. They're not so good. I wouldn't take a woman to dinner there, but it's good for a lunch date. The seats are comfortable, the music adds to a relaxing atmosphere, and the food is good. What more can you ask?

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Do Men REALLY Like to Cuddle? Posted: 3/8/2007 6:42:58 AM
I enjoy a good cuddle with a woman I'm involved with. I don't even need sex to cuddle. Especially when I'm sick--then I NEED a good cuddle. :)

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how do some people have sex with no attachment? Posted: 3/8/2007 6:29:19 AM
I went through a period of casual sex after my first relationship broke up (which included my "first time"), and I thought I was willing to do anything to feel a woman's presence even for a short while. I actually found I didn't...last as long compared to someone I connected with more than physically. That realisation got my head on straight, and now I know what I want. Sex is a poor substitute for love.

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why is everyone so concerned about a no pressure first date?? Posted: 3/8/2007 6:29:02 AM
In a male profile it means "I don't want to spend money on you". In a female profile it means "I don't want to have sex with you". Let's watch those generalsations, now. If I have the money to spend, I will spend it. Part of the reason I'm on the date is to get her to like me, but if all she wants is my money, she's in for a surprise. I don't want a woman who has to have sex on the first date, or thinks, unless we're married, the relationship isn't working because we haven't slept together. If you have to force sex with someone you aren't completely attracted to (and some of us guys need more than a hot bod to stay turned on), that's pressure to perform. Speaking from experience, you can't give as much in the bedroom from physical attraction alone as you can the "complete package".

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Threesomes Posted: 3/6/2007 8:14:59 AM
Oh, I also wanted to note how interesting it is how long this thread's been going on. For one thing the original poster no longer has a profile.

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Threesomes Posted: 3/6/2007 8:13:00 AM
It might be something to try for a special occastion (maybe for my birthday ), but I couldn't ask that of a lover because I couldn't "return the favor" and bring another man into the bed. It would have to be her idea. It might be fun, but could I handle some of the consequences (ending relationships, extra pressure of pleasing both lovers)? Maybe if it was just meeting two women at a club (which almost happened, but you'll have to ask me that story ) or (unlikely) platonic friend(s) on the right night, except I'm not usually into one night stands. I'd be concerned with a girlfriend/wife, however.

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Dont you feel more like writing when you see a picture? Posted: 2/24/2007 6:57:58 PM
I do want to add one thing that I like about PoF as far as pictures go. On the last dating site I was on (aka "a waste of money") too many pictures were not of the woman's face but their breasts and...that other area. Guess I had the wrong idea when it said "adult dating site". Live and learn. Even here you get the occasional default pic that is of the chest area (but clothed, this time). That's a turn-off for me. I want to see your face as well as your body. The face is often the first thing I notice on a woman. The best bod on the planet can come with a face that has no life in it, or just not attractive. Some girls that other guys wouldn't look at because they aren't built like a Playboy centerfold I've found rather attractive in part because of their face, how it looks and the persona it radiates. Maybe I'm just wired different. Show me the face first ladies, then show off your...other assets if you feel you must.

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Valentine Day POF get together - anyone interested Posted: 1/12/2007 3:35:49 PM
Put one closer to Litchfield County and it's neighbors, and I'd love to go.

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sex on the first date Posted: 12/1/2006 1:20:51 PM
Let me spin this in a different direction: would you mind if he/she didn't want to have sex on the first date? Personally, I'd rather not even think about sex. I'm nervous enough trying to make a good impression OUT of the bedroom without the extra pressure of being good in bed. That's my vote for waiting. Plus, the last time I became "active" too soon with a woman, I soon realised that we had a friendship but no real romance. Just the occasional "heat". That was the beginning of the end of the relationship, and I felt bad because of how it went. (That's me, though.) Not that I regret being with her. I learned a few things about myself, at least, and how I should approach a relationship. So I guess I'm advocating waiting until you get closer, but I wouldn't be surprised if the right girl on the right night, with the date going well enough if I didn't slip. But I won't sleep with a girl I just met (like at a club or something). Probably make out at most (and that's still iffy--maybe a big hug and kiss), but I'd want to get her number and at least set up a real date first.

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Intimacy after sex how important is it? Posted: 12/1/2006 1:05:46 PM
Heck, I could cuddle without sex. After sex, the cuddling and cute coversation is a nice way to come off the "high". Plus, for all you know, you may be only "taking a break". Post-sex intimacy is a good way to bond with your partner, I would think.

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finding a date at the supermarket Posted: 11/24/2006 1:51:22 PM
I can say I haven't. And I'm in one often enough. Granted, it's tough for me to be "on my game" there, since I'm at work, but still...

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NEW YEARS SINGLES GET TOGETHER???? Posted: 11/24/2006 1:48:35 PM
Ok, I meant it as "New Year's Rockin' Eve". Sorry for Mr. Clark being censored by the system.

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NEW YEARS SINGLES GET TOGETHER???? Posted: 11/24/2006 1:47:30 PM
Beats being alone at home watching**Clark. Not that there's anything wrong with**Clark, but he's not my type. :)

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LOOKING FOR SOME NEW PLACES TO HANG OUT Posted: 11/16/2006 5:41:52 PM
I would recommend the Red Door in Watertown. They have live music upstairs and a hot dance club, Barfly, downstairs Fridays and Saturdays. Saturdays are the best, since they have more variety in bands, rather than the usual cover/party bands on Fridays. Wednesday is Jazz Night, which is another good time to go, but no dance club. http://www.reddoormusic.com

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Dont you feel more like writing when you see a picture? Posted: 10/8/2006 2:39:04 PM
I prefer a picture, so I get an idea as to what she looks like. However, if a profile says practically nothing, or is practically a novel I won't bother replying to it. I like to know what I'm getting into, but the "life story" should be saved for drinks or dinner.

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CT girls Posted: 6/8/2006 4:28:54 PM
What good is a relationship where your not having fun? Fun should be part of a serious relationship.

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POF Get together August 27 2005 - Milford, CT at the Milford Bowl - All are welcome Posted: 9/12/2005 6:26:13 PM
What happened to the pictures?

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POF Get together August 27 2005 - Milford, CT at the Milford Bowl - All are welcome Posted: 8/30/2005 6:26:00 PM
Awwww. :) I did end up going out Sunday, to a benefit concert in Watertown. But, yeah, if it's closer or in the afternoon, I'd have a better shot. I get tired on long drives, and when your behind the wheel, that's not considered a good thing. :) Looking forward to the pictures. Hey, what about a beach party before Summer passes into Autumn?

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POF Get together August 27 2005 - Milford, CT at the Milford Bowl - All are welcome Posted: 8/28/2005 7:57:21 AM
I know a couple of spots in my area. We have a bowling alley just down the street with a couple lounges, and I know some clubs as well. (Of course that mostly benefits me, but still... )

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POF Get together August 27 2005 - Milford, CT at the Milford Bowl - All are welcome Posted: 8/27/2005 8:05:39 PM
Sorry I didn't make it out there. Hope everyone had a good time. Hopefully the next one will be a little closer, too, but what can you do?

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POF Get together August 27 2005 - Milford, CT at the Milford Bowl - All are welcome Posted: 8/15/2005 2:52:23 PM
Thanks. If I can make it, I'll be there. If I can't, I won't. :)

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 8/13/2005 9:33:08 AM
You're cute. And I probably should introduce myself, although I don't log in more than once a week. Less so on the forum, usually. So, um...hi. Everything's in the profile (which I may rewrite) and you can ask me almost anything. (Somethings I won't give out to strangers, even on a dating group.) Well....I guess that's me.

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POF Get together August 27 2005 - Milford, CT at the Milford Bowl - All are welcome Posted: 8/13/2005 9:27:46 AM
Is there an address I can look up on my Streets & Trips program?

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POF Get together August 27 2005 - Milford, CT at the Milford Bowl - All are welcome Posted: 8/11/2005 2:06:25 PM
Where is this Milford Bowl? I've never been to Milford.

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Casual meeting of the minds....all are welcome! Posted: 8/8/2005 1:20:26 PM
Are guys still allowed to get into this? I can't seem to find a lot of single women in my area. At least in my age group. The only "singles dances" around here are for older women.)

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