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~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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4 years 2 LD and now she wants to see others Posted: 11/22/2009 7:26:37 AM
you cant force someone to be with you, when they really dosent want to be there. Yes it hurts and we assume and look for various reasons why...but when it comes right down to it, she says she wants to move on and you must let her. Now I am not about to go on saying things like....,you will be better off and things get better with time...or any other of those old chiches that people use to try to make another feel better. All I am saying is that if you care about her, then you must respect her wishes. Someday perhaps you will see reason in this, maybe you wont. Who can tell. All you can do right now is just go on being you. Good luck and best wishes to you.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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He's still fishing after dating for 4 months... Posted: 11/22/2009 6:35:14 AM
The line from your first post.... for the past 6 weeks and he says "I love you" (which in "male" may translate to "keep having sex with me"). spoke volumes to me. Seems to me that you have trust issues that you have to overcome, and this guy senses it. Do you blame him for not being 100% into this relationship. It could be totally innocent why he is here. I am addicted to these silly forms and I imagine so are alot of other people. (including you). When you show trust in someone it also speaks volumes. If it is true , then a person will more then likely think twice before betraying this trust. If you are going to continue to nag this guy about being here, he is just going to cut his loses and walk away, and who is to blame him. No one likes to be told what to do. They do things because they want to, and it feels right to them. I think you should lay off!! If he is serious about you, then he will hide his profile here (or even delete it)..without you nagging him to do so.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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cheating, how prevalent is it? Posted: 11/21/2009 11:43:15 AM
maybe OP is jealous because all these horny women are sleeping with everyone except him!! LMAO

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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DNA Based Dating Posted: 11/21/2009 11:39:24 AM
hey..you give them 2000.00 and they can make sure they dont set you up with a sibling!! I think you should go for it!!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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what right do they have?!? Posted: 11/21/2009 11:03:04 AM
some people need to insult others to feel good about themselves. Its rude, its pathetic, its childish, but it happens You shouldnt care about what anyone else thinks about you. You should just love yourself, and not give a rats ass about what anyone else thinks.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Kissing....... Posted: 11/21/2009 10:25:06 AM
I love to kiss!! It is one of the most intimate things one can do with another person.. perhaps you just arent a good kisser! and dont say you are, because if you could give references, then you wouldnt have written this thread

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Contact,, what shall I do! Posted: 11/20/2009 10:28:28 AM
The father of this child has every right to have contact with this child. He helped make her and he has as much right to be in her life as her mother does. He should also be helping in supporting her. It isnt a matter of the mother choosing to just walk away. She cannot keep this child from this man. A 6 year old child learns from what they see and hear. They just do not choose to turn away from daddy with no apparent reason. OP you come in here and bad mouth your ex because he hurt your foolish pride, One can only imagine what you have to say to family members and friends within ear shot of that little girl. You have to stop it!! Get a lawyer, make sure the father of this child helps you support her and you get on with your life.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Fort Erie, Ontario POF @ Crystal Chandier Nov 21 Sat 7:00pm-12:30am Posted: 11/20/2009 6:43:52 AM
i wanted to go but I have the flu. I dont want to share it with anyone. I am sure I am missing a great event though cheers

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Contact,, what shall I do! Posted: 11/18/2009 2:30:19 PM
stop using your daughter as leverage. It is not her fault that any of this happened...how she is dealing with everything is how you are presenting it! you shouldnt be saying anything negitive about her father to her or around her at all! It is emotional blackmail and you are the one gulity of it!! as for you and your ex.............................GET A LAWYER! Make sure he supports his daughter. You cant force him to see her but he should be helping and supporting her needs. PS..for the record, NO I dont think you should nail his ass in court. I just think she should meet his obligations to his daughter. You shouldnt try to hurt him...Karma will take care of that. Just get this over with as quickly as possible and move on with your life

~rain~

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What was she thinking? Posted: 11/18/2009 2:04:52 PM
hmm..almost seems like LintSpotter...is the person OP describes in his post.. so defensive!! OP..you walked away from this situation, just like you should have. Alot of wacky people who have wacky ideas are what makes the world go around. It is unfortunate but its the way things seem to work. Chalk this one up to a less then ideal experience and move on. Cant promise you it gets better but sometimes we get lucky.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Complicated Girl Question Posted: 11/17/2009 6:57:54 PM
she isnt into you asmuch as you want to think she is. she may like you but thats about it. Perhaps you are being annoying texting her to much. Try backing off a bit and let her come to you. If she does. it may be because she misses you or it maybe because she is wondering why you turned off all of a sudden..Either way you may get the answers you are looking for

~rain~

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girl i`m seeing-need help in figuring things out Posted: 11/17/2009 5:43:51 AM
you have had 4 dates with this girl and you have probably not had the exclusive talk yet, ...therefore she is free to do or see what ever she wants. the title to this thread is kind of misleading. I dont feel this girl has anything to figure out. Seems you do! until this girl is serious about you then it is unfair to expect her stop her routine and focus totally on you. Talk to her, not us and if you dont like her answers, then change the situation.

~rain~

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Should I Report This Guy? Posted: 11/14/2009 1:49:45 PM
There is this fantastic little option here called BLOCK! perhaps you should consider using it instead of giving offensive people your phone number. Then coming here bi tching about how this person wont leave you alone!! I smell a drama queen!!!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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is this normal when child involve or thats too much. whats your 2 cents in! Posted: 11/14/2009 7:38:46 AM
when it comes to raising a child together then yes! a good working relationship with an ex is essential. But to be hanging out and having dinner spending hours together..thats seems strange to me. Unless it was a birthday party or holiday to which you should be invited too. Sounds like your girlfriend refuses to let go and move on with her life. You are obviously uncomfortable with all this so you should definatly tell her that it is on your mind. If she isnt willing to take your feelings into consideration, then you should seriously think about ending your relationship with her. Things like this dont get any better as long as you are allowing it.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Ditching a person that's Bad News Posted: 11/13/2009 7:07:02 AM
yeah!! thats brilliant!! just ignore him!!!! (texts and calls) after all! isnt that what most women on here **** about? guys that just go poof without explaination!! laffs......thats funny!!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Ditching a person that's Bad News Posted: 11/13/2009 7:03:26 AM
i am not saying you dont proceed with caution..but RISK WHAT?? do you think he will do??lock you in the trunck of a car and steal your purse?? second information is seldom as reliable as most may think. plus..i am a firm believer that you never say anything about anyone that you wouldnt say to their face...if family member is talking about him..perhaps he should know about it. He has every right to know about it! If your family was bad mouthing you, wouldnt you want to know. In stead of wondering why people keep cancelling dates with you. if you dont want to date him...tell him you dont and be honest!!! we arent in kindergarden anymore!!!!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Disclosing certain information Posted: 11/13/2009 6:55:11 AM
why do you have to tell anyone anything?? if someone asks, you can say you got divorced because it wasnt an ideal situation for you anymore! Why should you open up to someone you have went on a couple dates with. He will see for himself by then that you are not a wackjob...( that is if you really arent) and if things proceed, you can talk about each others past later. The first few dates are not for discussing each others ex,s

~rain~

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Ditching a person that's Bad News Posted: 11/13/2009 6:46:34 AM
why dont you find out for youself?? why should believe second hand information?? Its the problem with people today, they believe what everyone else has to say!! If you dont want to go out with him....TELL HIM! if he asks why.....TELL HIM! So many people on here state they want the truth from others, yet they dont want to practice it themselves.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Should a potential LTR's FAMILY BACKGROUND make a difference? Posted: 11/12/2009 11:36:38 AM
when you are in a serious relationship (marriag etc.) That person is your family. Together you make your own choices to suit yourselves. You go on and maybe expand your family by having children. Everyone else comes in second!!!!

~rain~

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Birth Control for Men???? Posted: 11/9/2009 1:05:37 PM
THATS AWSOME!!! laffs

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Looking to move in with my GF but family doesn't agree Posted: 11/9/2009 10:50:31 AM
Your mom probably just wants what is best for you. But you are an adult and should make your own decisions. I cant help but wonder though.....why would you want to move in with someone when you havent even taken your single status off your profile?

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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How do girls feel when the guy can't finish? Posted: 10/21/2009 4:20:49 PM
as long as I finish...( and I will with or without him) I really dont care!!!!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is he stringing me along or is this goodbye? Or am I the ONE. Posted: 10/18/2009 11:37:47 AM
anything that he is doing that is making you uncomfortable with the situation, He will continue to do because you are enabling it!! If you let him treat you like a door mat then he will continue to do so! the two of you broke up!! put it behind you and move on! Words in an email mean NOTHING!!!! Look at his actions instead

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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My ex-husband cheated = The sex was bad Posted: 10/18/2009 11:30:13 AM
does this theroy work the same way with men who have been cheated on??

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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sure i like it Posted: 10/18/2009 11:22:43 AM
if something sounds to good to be true... it usually IS! how does one "cheat on line for two hours"?????

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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When Posted: 10/12/2009 9:42:31 AM
sometimes it is as simple as someone saying as emailing you and saying..lets meet and me being in a spontanious mood saying..ok..is an hour to soon? then there are times when you could go a very long time before it seems right and that time may never come.. its an individual choice. You have to do what you are comfortable with. and Yes sometimes people have to cancle, and you should give th em the benefit of doubt..ONCE! If he keeps cancelling..then walk away

~rain~

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imposssible climax Posted: 10/12/2009 7:38:02 AM
Well there is no such thing as "impossible" Anything is possible! But, You are not alone with this situation. one of my favorite phrases is "no one can do me like I can" There have been a few times in my life where a guy has been able to get me off, but those times are few and very far between. You just have to find that special trick and make you sure you give him very specific instructions how to perform that trick. Dont ever hold back telling a guy what you want! The other thing is..................you have to RELAX!! Good luck hun!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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'I love you' during sex Posted: 10/12/2009 7:27:44 AM
Sex is usually somewhat a religious experience for me. (screaming "OH GOD") The last thing I think about is loving someone. Someone told me they loved me for the first time during sex once. I got up, got dressed and got the hell out of there. To me, there is SEX, and there are those mushy times. The two should never go together. hmmm...(thinks about that earlier post) Maybe it is their way of making sure you are gone when they wake up Maybe thats why he did it!! LMAO...........IT WORKS!!!!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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I am not sexually attracted to my own ethnicity Posted: 10/8/2009 5:01:42 PM
so then dont date them!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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My crazy friend Posted: 10/3/2009 8:08:58 AM
first of all OP.. You are NOT this person's friend. If you were, then you wouldnt be on here airing her dirty laundry. You DO love the drama or you wouldnt be on here sharing this story with a bunch of strangers. Then going to brunch with her so you can create more gossip to share. I think that you are into this crap as much as your "friend" is. I just feel sorry for the innocent 13 year old boy. He will grow up hating women because of what his mother does to him.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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10/04/09 Buffalo/Tonawanda Football Party 4:00pm Posted: 9/22/2009 5:31:52 PM
sounds fun Angel but I am afraid I will have to miss it. I will be WAY up north that weekend....SOO looking forward to the 5 hour drive.. I hope everyone has a great time though..Slick Willies is an awsome venue.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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male hiding his virginity( women's opinions only) Posted: 9/14/2009 4:38:30 PM
if the only reason she wants to hang out with you is to hook up..then can you imagine how many other guys she has done the same thing with?? She probably isnt worth your time so dont worry about it. Be honest with her and if she bolts, or laughs, then my theroy of not being worth it..is true. If she sticks around then you can take it from there. oh yeah! the first thing that popped into my head when I read your post was.. watch porn. (grins)

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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OH WOW Ive done it now Posted: 9/13/2009 2:17:45 PM
gawd!! just act like it never happened....if he brings it up then just say "I made a mistake saying that because I dont love you yet"

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Problems with my mother Posted: 9/7/2009 10:24:01 AM
I dont understand how a town can throw you out of an apartment because you have someone staying with you! but anyway, thats now the issue at hand. If you have these restrictions with where you live, then I would suggest you move! As for your mother medling, I think it is time you became a man!! Your 27 years old for petes sake. Time to tell mommy that you are a big boy now , and you are capible of making your own choices. It is obvious that your mom still wants control over your life. Either you let her and stop ****ing about it, or you can grow some balls and tell her (in a nice way) that you dont appreciate her calling cops on you and sticking her nose where it is none of her buisness. You are only "caught in the middle" because your allowing yourself to be. Time to grow up!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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ST. CATHARINES POND PARTY AUG. 29TH PICS!! Posted: 9/2/2009 2:41:10 PM
thats ok Lushies, I didnt find my clydesdale either!!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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ST. CATHARINES POND PARTY AUG. 29TH PICS!! Posted: 8/30/2009 1:59:40 PM
I had a fantastic time last night... to host and co hosts for a job well done!! Great venue as well!! So where are the pics??

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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what is it about Posted: 8/23/2009 4:49:50 PM
What guy would wrestle his package out of someones mouth. What if the person he is wrestling with...clamps down!! eeeekkkkk not cool!! My dear Whyt, You play here because it keeps you amused... still thinking about................................24!! .......................

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Super Awesome Date Idea Dilemma--suggestions? Posted: 8/23/2009 1:06:12 PM
Now, now, hang on. There could be some reason why a pub is okay but a picnic wasn't. hmm..I have an idea.... she doesnt want to do the more intimate , romantic thing because she is more into being in a crowd of people then just being with you!! Sounds like she is a bit immature. You should tread carefully with this one hun...Dont let her take advantage of you

~rain~

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what is it about Posted: 8/23/2009 12:59:40 PM
eek!! I cant lust you! Your 24!! damn! Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread. ...................................................................................................................................... ;.................................................................................................................................... ..................................................................................................................................... I hate being told I cant do something!!!!

~rain~

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what is it about Posted: 8/23/2009 12:56:50 PM
its a actually a defensive mechanism against woman with orange wedges in their mouth. I think I lust you!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Super Awesome Date Idea Dilemma--suggestions? Posted: 8/23/2009 9:39:47 AM
ya know what sweetie!! I have to agree with the lady that said "sounds like this girl is dangling a string in front of you" for someone who doesnt care about how much money you spend, she sure is being difficult. Just plan something amazing, alot of people have given you so many great ideas. You shouldnt have to clear it with her first. Just suprise her. If it turns out not to be good enough for her, then RUN!! You deserve someone that will show you she cares and appreciates you as much as you do her.

~rain~

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what is it about Posted: 8/23/2009 9:28:32 AM
they do it because it is fun!!!! where else is he suppose to cum?? eeash!

~rain~

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Super Awesome Date Idea Dilemma--suggestions? Posted: 8/22/2009 4:16:51 PM
aww..this is so sweet! may I suggest that instead of a rose!! ( SO over done) ...maybe a Gerber Daisy They come in so many colors. They are sweet and so romantic. maybe do dinner picnic style..even if it's on your living room floor. Checked blanket, a bottle of wine. simple finger foods.. and YES!! desert!! something decadent, but simple. Or perhaps some fresh fruit with something chocolate to dip. You could feed each other strawberries...(sighs) Good luck with this one sweetie!! I am sure everything will be fantastic! Its the thought you put into everything that will matter the most.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is he lying?!! Posted: 8/21/2009 4:04:53 PM
Ive only said it twice and meant it both times. so does that mean you need a tie breaker then? O.P. How many blow jobs has this guy had? You very well maybe the best..if this what the first time he ever got one.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Sex with no emotion-different poster similar situation Posted: 8/21/2009 3:55:58 PM
He has been honest with you! He has told you where you stand! You cant tell him what he is feeling or showing, you are only assuming. Especially since he is saying something different. Either you accept it, or you move on!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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3 days... worth starting something? Posted: 8/20/2009 7:05:07 AM
why cant people just go with the flow?? Why must they always over think EVERYTHING?? You are leaving in a few days! So make the most of the time you have together. If something happens then so be it. If it doesnt, then that is ok too. The reality is....YOU ARE LEAVING! you probably wont see him again. SO.. Do you want to be intimate with him knowing it is a one time thing? Or do you want to enjoy time together, laugh and play and just live for each moment till it is time for you to go? Both things have their pros and cons! What will you be able to handle better? If you are intimate with him and then you go home, will you be able to stay in contact via..eg. Facebook, where you will be seeing his life move on without you? See him have other women in his life. Will you be able to be happy for him when this happens? Or you can have fun now and stay in contact somehow until it fizzels out. Face it! This guy is not going to wait for you if you live far away. best wishes which ever you decide to do

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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ST. CATHARINES POND PARTY. AUGUST 29TH, 2009 Posted: 8/20/2009 6:28:15 AM
sounds interesting. There is alot going on around the area that night, but dinner and spending a couple hours with the fishies will be fun.

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is there any way to get it so i like giving bj's? Posted: 8/17/2009 11:31:25 AM
omg not going to bite or talk to it im not crazy! Talking to it is crazy????????????? hmm..ponders....

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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any guy ever have this happen? Posted: 8/15/2009 9:03:10 AM
The issue is that sometimes when I'm with a girl its difficult for me to maintain an erection. Why is that? If I can maintain one by myself, shouldn't I be able to maintain one with girl. Its cause no one can do you like YOU can muffin!! stop masterbating before you have a date!!

~rain~

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Couldn't get an erection Posted: 8/15/2009 9:00:54 AM
.... Bad, bad penises !! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA No treats for a naughty penis!!

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