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AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/17/2009 10:00:43 PM
It's a given to always be yourself. If you don't like who you are or what you stand for how can you expect anyone else to like you? It begins with you being open and honest with yourself and it will come easily with others. The old saying " you have to love yourself before anyone else can" definitely holds true.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 3:06:41 PM
I am 55 yrs. young. A long time ago women did not pursue men. That's just something we were taught when young. Today if I am interested in someone I have no problem contacting him. We are adults, its 2009. Times have changed. It doesn't make you wrong and its definitely not taboo anymore. The world changes and we grow with it. Be bold, have fun and do what makes you happy.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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How far before you cross the line? Posted: 11/1/2009 12:58:00 PM
Being with the opposite sex be it business, travel, or friends is not considered cheating. A good relationship will have unconditional trust. But when you have to hide something from your partner you have broken that trust with yourself because communication and honesty are an anchor that glues a great relationship.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Have relationships made you bitter? Posted: 10/31/2009 9:08:01 PM
I let the past stay in the past and that includes bitter feelings. Not all relationships work thats a part of life. I think when you hold on to ill feelings then you can never truly have closure. Life is always changing and you just have to look for the positive instead of the negative from your past relationships. One can never have a future when you still live in the past. You never forget but forgiving allows you the freedom to grow. Like reading a book once you turn that page you remember what you read but your mind travels on with the new page. Relationships sometimes begin new chapters. Enjoy life.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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If you got your heart's desire Posted: 2/24/2009 8:34:03 PM
An essential part of life is being open to change. Desires are a givin in us all yet there are many different roads to travel in this journey of life and at times our desires change or become seasoned. Its all about choices yet their are some paths along the way that give us no choice and we can choose to adapt or not. I used to think the world changed around me yet I have learned I have changed with it. My hopes, dreams and values still remain I just smooth them into the new chapters.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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How do you feel about adoption? Posted: 12/30/2008 9:17:05 PM
I was adopted. I was very lucky to grow up with two wonderful, loving parents that have both passed and I miss dearly. My birth family did seek me out and I did meet with them. I feel I was graced by God to be chosen to grow up in a loving supportive family.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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True love.... Posted: 12/29/2008 10:14:42 PM
Amen Czechlee... OP... Follow your heart.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Get to know you questions... Posted: 8/11/2008 9:42:02 PM
I ask this; What lies ahead of you? What lies beneath you? What lies around you? What lies behind you? What lies beside you? What lies above you? What lies within you? The answers define tiny visions of someone's entire life.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Would u re-locate if asked by someone u were serious 4? Posted: 8/9/2008 9:52:54 AM
An essential part of life is being open to change. For someone that our relationship had depth like no other I would be willing to take the risk. In this journey of life sometimes it's the unknown that brings the true colors of your inner rainbow.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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My Ego's Been Bruised; How Do I Cope? Posted: 8/3/2008 11:01:13 PM
He actually saved you by showing his character early on. You are a beautiful woman don't let anyone or anything ever make you feel less. Be yourself and one day someone will walk into your life on the wings of an angel.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Monogomy is it important anymore? Posted: 8/3/2008 8:08:46 PM
It is essential in a trusting, respectful relationship. It should be a given when you care for someone and are in a committed relationship.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Dating your father Posted: 8/3/2008 6:49:01 PM
Should I ever be graced with a man like my father then I will definitely have a piece of heaven on earth.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What makes a woman over 40 sexy? Posted: 8/3/2008 10:31:49 AM
Sexy comes from within. That can be at any age. Over 40 sexiness shines more.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Firearms and Dating Posted: 7/24/2008 11:38:57 AM
As I stated before, for me carrying a gun is the only personal weapon that puts a 112-pound woman on equal footing with a 220-pound mugger. My gun removes the disparity in physical strength, size, or numbers between a potential attacker and a defender. I don't carry it because I am afraid, I carry it because it enables me to be unafraid. If dating someone then eventually it comes up in the get to know you stage. I would hope he would converse his opinion and it would be something we would work out.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Add One And Keep Going - This Ought To Be Fun Posted: 7/22/2008 3:53:52 PM
Mr. Ed Honeymooners Dr. Kildare

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 7/22/2008 2:36:38 PM
hesearchesfor1 I really don't see anything wrong with your profile. You have great photos and you definitely express yourself easily. It speaks volumes of tiny visions of what you are about. Great job!

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Do you still think about your ex? Posted: 7/22/2008 12:09:18 PM
My ex and I did not divorce because the "grass was greener" on the other side. He is the father of my children and grandfather to my grandkids. We will always remain very good friends. After 20 years I feel we shared a tremendous part of our life together so its only natural to think of them. Answer yes I do. Would I go back? Absolutely not!

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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How do you stay motivated? Posted: 7/17/2008 10:03:40 AM
Self motivation works. Remember why your doing these things and your answer comes from within. I have never had a weight problem but I find working out daily makes me feel better, sleep great and have a tremendous amount of energy. Something I motivate myself to do because I like the results. Don't over due it though. You don't have to work out daily to see results, or diet every day. Have a cheat day once a week. Work it into your lifestyle. Keep it simple and you will enjoy it more.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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The magic age of 50? Posted: 7/17/2008 9:53:34 AM
I will be 54 next month and feel more alive than I have at an age. Age is only a number it's the man that is important. I have found though when I get an email saying "liked your profile would you mind if we chatted" vs. HI babe/hon/chick I really like your tits wanna talk dirty to me? Maybe this is why we prefer a more mature man? You think? All ages are magical and everyone has a preference. Great topic!

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer Posted: 7/16/2008 1:40:14 PM
In the beginning we see outer beauty and that makes the first attraction. Normal human behavior. But the end result is that "inner" beauty speaks volumes ahead of outer beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Inner beauty touches your heart like no other.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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I love you, do you love me? Posted: 7/1/2008 10:16:39 AM
Saying "I love you" is communicating a profound emotion and should not be taken lightly. It is important that other techniques are used to enhance this phrase, or else it merely comes across as trite. You have to pair those words with "actions". If I use these simple words "I love you" then it is spoken truth from my heart. To say it dishonestly is not an option for me.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Firearms and Dating Posted: 6/24/2008 6:06:03 PM
For me, carrying a gun is the only personal weapon that puts a 112-pound woman on equal footing with a 220-pound mugger. My gun removes the disparity in physical strength, size, or numbers between a potential attacker and a defender. I don't carry it because I am afraid, I carry it because it enables me to be unafraid. As for carrying a weapon on a date, I would discuss carrying a weapon before we went on a date. A taser gun is also great for women to carry these days. A zombie cannot fight back with you.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Does intelligence turn you on? Posted: 6/9/2008 10:44:01 AM
Definitely! An intelligent person has so much more to offer; but at the same time it depends on how they use it and if there's anything more to them than brain capacity. Their are many forms of intelligence.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Does the past define your Future? Posted: 6/7/2008 9:03:15 AM
Life is about choices. I do feel the past is a huge part of what has molded who I am but I make choices of how I want to live my life. We all have a choice. The past is chapters of our life journey that we learn and grow from.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Going from love to falling in love...a womans point of view Posted: 6/5/2008 1:23:30 PM
Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful experience a person can ever have. There is a difference in loving someone and being in love; it's the difference between a love thats fickle, wild, and short lived, and one thats tender and passionate, nuturing and lasts a long time. The first is easy, the second, the one that really matters to all of us, takes work because its about a lasting relationship. We have to be able to communicate with each other, we cannot read each others minds. No one is perfect. It is true love which closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth surface of acceptance for each other.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 6/5/2008 12:08:37 AM
Death is a real motivating force. It teaches us that we don't have forever. I have lost a daughter, a grandson, my mom, and most recently my father Jan. of this year. You begin to look at life through their eyes, or you find yourself doing things they loved to do because they no longer can. Grief takes longer than most people think. We have to give ourself time to grieve. Moment by moment, in time, it does get easier to cope with the loss. It never goes away, yet if we let their memories embrace our life then we are keeping them alive and with us always. I am sorry for everyone's loss here and my heart and prayers are with you all. Touching others and being touched back is extremely rewarding. Heaven has many angels who graced us with a bond here.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 5/31/2008 8:25:05 PM
Op..You have been given great advice here. Your a very handsome young man and just need to give more detail about yourself to capture the interest of a young woman. You don't have to add your life history but enough for someone to get an idea of what you are about. Good luck hon!

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What causes most arguments in a relationship? Posted: 5/31/2008 8:07:28 PM
The loss of communication. You have to invest time to talk and listen in any relationship.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Where do you draw your confidence from? Posted: 5/31/2008 7:23:06 PM
Believing in myself draws my confidence. Confidence is magnetic, powerful, and profound. It's the calm voice amidst chaos. It's the firm hand on your shoulder when your lost in a crowd. It's what legends and leaders are made of. Dare to reach for your dreams and never doubt success. Like who you are and what makes you.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Add One And Keep Going - This Ought To Be Fun Posted: 5/31/2008 6:38:04 PM
The Twighlight Zone...

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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My son is on drugs....... Posted: 5/31/2008 6:26:15 PM
Op..The best thing to do is to just be a mom. Talk openly about your concerns with your son. Teens are painfully aware that they have very little status. They want freedom but can't really do anything about it. Teenagers sometimes think using drugs, or alcohol is a way of showing they are grown up. They tend to believe their invincible which is likely to minmize the dangers that drugs present. Communicate, communicate, communicate. If it doesn't work then you may find yourself using "tough love" and trying rehab. Whatever it takes, do it. You could possibly be saving his life. I was very lucky my children never got involved with drugs but the number seems to be growing these days. I have seen so many teens who have over dosed because they don't have a clue of what damage drugs can do. My heart and prayers are with you. Be strong!

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Intensity of Love and Passion Diminishing with Time Posted: 5/31/2008 5:41:19 PM
Passion can be recaptured and grow to unimaginable dimensions. In the beginning passionate feelings and romantic gestures seem to flow without much effort. As time goes by we settle into our routines and forget to do the things to keep passion alive. You have to make an effort to stay connected and invest time in your partner.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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i just need to know Posted: 5/31/2008 5:16:13 PM
Op, She was very upfront to be honest with you and that makes her a real person. Its better to know early on then to have your heart broken later down the line. Someone will come along on the wings of a prayer for you one day just hang in there. There's nothing wrong with being nice. It's a rarity these days.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Being truthful doesnt always work Posted: 5/27/2008 2:01:43 PM
"Nothing hurts a new truth more than an old error" Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Telling the truth is always the right thing regardless of the cost.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Kids and death Posted: 5/15/2008 5:47:12 PM
Long before we realize it children become aware of death. They see dead birds, insects, and animals lying by the road. They may see death at least once a day on television. They hear about it in fairy tales and act it out in their play. Death, is a part of life, and children, at some level, are aware of it. Communication about death, as well as with all communication, is easier when a child feels they have our permission to talk about the subject and believes we are sincerely interested in their views and questions. Encourage them to communicate by listening attentively, respecting their views and answering their questions honestly. A very young child can only absorb limited amounts of information. Answers need to be simple, brief, and repeated if necessary. It is not always easy to hear what a child is really asking. Sometimes it might be necessary to respond to a question with a question in order to fully understand the child's concern. A child needs reassurance that they have been, and will continue to be loved and cared for. OP ..You handled that very well. Kids are absolutely amazing!!

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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full-time single dads Posted: 5/15/2008 5:04:43 PM
It shows great character in a man to have an active, full time role in raising their children. Single fathers know the true meaning of "abundant rewards".

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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A Different Sort of Broken Heart Posted: 5/14/2008 2:09:17 AM
When those we love go away, they really never leave us; they are with us now, wherever we are. Those whom we have cherished, live on forever, for love wraps itself around the heart. Although it's difficult now, someday beyond our tears and all the worlds wrongs; beyond the clouds and all that we can see and touch, we shall all understand. My heart and prayers are with you. Embrace the memories for they shall remain alive within you always.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What makes a good conversation ? Posted: 5/14/2008 1:45:16 AM
The key to a good conversation is to be a good listener. Ask questions that will get to the interesting part of someone, then truly be interested in listening. Be comfortable with yourself.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is kissing more or less important to you in a relationship as you get older? Posted: 5/14/2008 12:36:25 AM
Ahhh..that first kiss; so nerve wracking and exciting. Was it a dare? Was it Spin the Bottle? Was it all that you had dreamed? When your young "anything" is possible. As we grow older it is still nerve wracking and exciting; it is not a dare and we don't spin the bottle. Was it all that I had dreamed? When your older "all" things are possible.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love Posted: 5/8/2008 7:11:52 PM
Making love requires feelings for the person you are having sex with. Having sex with someone you truly care for involves passion and a knowledge of what they want. Connection on an emotional level cannot be copied in any way. Having sex is great but it is the act and nothing else simply for pleasure.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is Intelligence Captivating............... Posted: 5/8/2008 6:50:07 PM
Intelligence fueled by a solid emotional foundation is definitely captivating.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Smarter ladies have worse sex Posted: 5/8/2008 6:30:40 PM
Intelligent women do not have worse sex. The mind is the most powerful, hypnotic and intoxicating force in the universe. It's like the greatest and most natural aphrodisiac of all time. Foreplay of the mind and that intellectual and sexual gratification that follows last longer and we can forever bask in the afterglow of this spiritual and mental consumption.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What is happiness to you? Posted: 5/8/2008 5:32:38 PM
Happiness is a state of being. It is something you are. You can't find happiness outside you. It will not be found in the attainment of material things, or in finding the "right" person or community. You can't have enough stuff to make you happy. Happiness is only found within you. It is experienced in your travels along your life journey. It is in this moment, right now, if you choose it. I find happiness when watching the stars glisten so brightly above, or smelling the lillies while running barefoot in the field. Feeling the sunshine on my face is a true happiness. Touching the hand of a newborn baby; Feeling the first snow flake as it falls and touches my cheek; Time with family and friends makes me extremely happy. In the moment, if you choose it.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 5/6/2008 10:02:08 PM
No it is not ok for a woman to hit a man. Violence rarily solves anything. If you cannot reason with someone walk away.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Can men and women be friends without sex? Posted: 5/5/2008 11:29:59 PM
Absolutely. A true friendship between a man and a woman is golden.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Is there love after 44 ? Posted: 5/5/2008 10:14:20 PM
Like a matchless pearl, love is endless and bears no age. Yes, there is love after 44.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Love vs. Security Posted: 8/16/2007 3:32:41 PM
Love is he security so to speak..Well Said! Someone in love tends to have a sense of security and a feeling of trust after considering everything involved in their relationship with the other person. Financial or otherwise.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Love at first sight? Posted: 8/16/2007 1:59:05 PM
I cannot say it was love at first sight yet the moment our eyes met I knew we would spend a lifetime together. When it comes to matters of the heart it's times unspoken words speak volumes. We met, had four wonderful years together, he was killed in the line of duty. Our memories I will cherish forever.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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What does music do for you Posted: 8/16/2007 9:50:02 AM
Music gives soul to the universe, wings to my mind, flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and to everything.

AngelnGa

Joined: 6/9/2007

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Most important thing in a relationship? Posted: 8/15/2007 8:04:36 PM
Respect Communication Honesty Passion Trust Friendship Sacrifice You The other person

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