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terrestrial

Joined: 6/10/2007

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How do you pick out the good ones? Posted: 9/17/2011 5:45:18 PM
As you get older, hopefully you learn to trust your gut instinct. Pay attention to what they say and do. Are their actions and words consistent? Are there common themes? What traits/criteria are they looking for? What impresses them?

terrestrial

Joined: 6/10/2007

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How long would you date someone before you would expect to be exclusive? Posted: 9/17/2011 5:31:24 PM
You should be putting your efforts elsewhere. You're dating until you both agree to be exclusive. And why are you discussing his other dates? It's hard to respect a guy who disses on dates. If he's saying it to you, he's probably saying it to them.

ignis fatuus

Joined: 6/10/2007

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Would you wear an fragrance named after well known dude? Posted: 12/6/2009 9:31:07 PM
I generally don't like fragrance as it blocks the natural chemical attraction, and when a man does wear it I don't want him to smell like other guys. In college, every guy wore polo, and then as we got older they were all wearing Drakar Noir. Bottom line, however, is to never buy a fragrance because of the name on the bottle, because it's popular, or for some sales gimmic.

ignis fatuus

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Survival Tactics for the Unemployed Posted: 9/24/2009 10:46:06 PM
Sunshine and exercise every day you can, even if you don't feel like it. Avoid the news if it gets you down, filter it, or limit certain categories. Considering context is important. [If unemployment is 12% and 1,000 people got laid off in your city this week, it doesn't mean you are competing against all those people, just the ones with your skills and experience looking at similar jobs, which is a much lower number.] To save money, I sign up for all sorts of clubs/email newsletters/samples from sites/restaurants/stores I buy from. I get much better coupons and deals, and use a special email address so can easily keep marketing junk separate from more important email. I also barter, trading babysitting for hair services for example. Most important, laugh! I stick to comedies, comics, entertaining shows that make me laugh. I laugh at the absurd situation that I found myself in this past year.

ignis fatuus

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CA Orange County - Duvall spanking lobbyists? Posted: 9/9/2009 4:49:11 PM
If the male republicans keep shooting themselves in the groin like this, Sarah Palin may have a chance yet. I do think there are hypocrites on both sides of the aisle but it's the ones that fall farthest from their public high road that provide the best stories. Even if not on microphone, he was at his place of employment. It wasn't as he says a "private matter" since he was bragging about it in our State Capitol building, distracting other State employees, and allegedly screwing two married lobbyists (according to Sempra, their lobbyist denied the reports), which is a huge conflict of interest for any elected official. For someone who headed ethics and energy related committees, it's a mammouth breach of public trust and probably a misuse of public funds somewhere in there as well.

ignis fatuus

Joined: 6/10/2007

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gah, so bored! Posted: 8/28/2009 9:34:46 PM
Now I'm craving popcorn, but I just happen to have some or would now have to make a run to store.

ignis fatuus

Joined: 6/10/2007

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Smut T.V. Posted: 8/20/2009 11:09:38 AM
I wasn't going to like Dating in the Dark, but I watched a few minutes and it's really a very interesting social experiment. I do find myself scolding some of the participants when they walk out the front door though.

ignis fatuus

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Jail or rehab? Posted: 8/17/2009 12:24:21 PM
I've always thought the system relied too much on incarceration and not enough on rehab and education. All the jails are good for is hardening first-time offenders thereby almost ensuring they return. There are a few exceptions. Sometimes people need a time in jail to be scared straight, but overall the system is not a successful model. There are also some who cannot be rehabilitated, although I think it's a much smaller number than the system would like us to believe.

ignis fatuus

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A little overweight, very curvey, ....and I hear this. Posted: 8/10/2009 12:33:40 AM
The most important lesson I learned in graduate school is that you can't put conditions on a relationship, particular the other party. For instance, If a girl says "I love Fred but...", the "but" in the sentence indicates she doesn't love Fred, but loves some alternative version of Fred (perhaps a taller, younger, smarter, or skinnier version) that doesn't exist. She doesn't really love Fred. If this guy puts these conditions on having sex, what other conditions will he place on other aspects of your future relationship? If you make changes for him, will you later resent it?

ignis fatuus

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dating etiquette Posted: 8/10/2009 12:21:55 AM
If someone opens or closes, or holds the door for me, I always make an effort to say Thank You, and make sure they hear it. I appreciate it. If one doesn't like this courtesy and gets it, they should still be polite and say Thank You. I think there was a time when many women were unaccepting to acts of chivalry, but hopefully it's made a bit of a comeback. I always notice the differences when I've been out with someone who opens/closes the door for me, offers to go get me a Dodger dog, walks me to my door, etc. in comparison to someone who doesn't do any of it. Those ones I do not think they ever learned the value of the actions and grew up in an environment where it wasn't important. As for a woman's date etiquette, I try to be on time, to say Thank You (and please), not to spend too much time in the bathroom, to only order items that are reasonably priced when we go out (unless he insists), to carry a credit card and a $20 bill in case the "car runs out of gas".

ignis fatuus

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Your romantic ideal? Posted: 8/4/2009 1:05:36 AM
I'm a sucker for John Cusack and Hugh Grant characters, who may not "get" it until the end moments of the movie and then everyone lives happily ever after - except Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil, which was way more than a boy meets girl flick.

ignis fatuus

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What makes someone fabulous/irresistable? Posted: 8/4/2009 1:00:21 AM
It's the voice, kissing ability/chemistry, intelligence, and sense of humor (something other than potty humor). Then, it's the way he treats me, the way I feel when I'm with him. I'm drawn to guys who make me feel safe and who only offer criticism if its requested or constructive and delivered with the utmost respect and support.

ignis fatuus

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Smut T.V. Posted: 7/6/2009 9:31:54 PM
Maury. I think I've seen nearly every show from the past few years. I've learned alot about relationships, DNA tests, and video surveillance.

ignis fatuus

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Letterman v Palin Posted: 7/3/2009 1:39:56 PM
The whole incident so upset her that she's leaving office, early! Oh dear, what will she do? A book, a job, Presidential candidate-in-waiting? Maybe the RNC has hired her to chaperone the male party members' members?

ignis fatuus

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Can you still remain friends after a long serious relationship? Posted: 7/2/2009 9:45:28 AM
It can go both ways. I am friends with several of them, albeit they do not live locally so we don't have to deal with any lingering attraction issues. On the other hand, I don't ever expect that I can be friends again with the one man I was most in love with, who I thought would always, if nothing else, be a good friend forever. The parting wasn't ugly; it was just one-sided, betraying a long-term trust/pact. I wish him the best, but we'll never be friends again, no matter how much time passes. If you have kids, I think you have to maintain, not necessarily a friendship but at least a "friendly" relationship afterwards. I won't date a guy with kids who doesn't make an effort to respect the ex and communicate for the kids' benefit.

ignis fatuus

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King Sized Beds Posted: 6/20/2009 6:28:51 PM
It's not just you. I've watched Martha Stewart fold a fitted sheet and still end up wadding it up because I can't fold it. Personally, king-sized beds are too big. I get lost in one and it takes up too much space.

ignis fatuus

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Letterman v Palin Posted: 6/11/2009 3:32:30 PM
Didn't seem like anything out of the ordinary for late night TV. Palin should have ignored it if she wasn't amused, but then she wouldn't have gotten the chance to once again rally her troops to her defense.

ignis fatuus

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Best places in San Jose / San Francisco ? Posted: 6/9/2009 11:45:34 PM
In San Jose, one of my favorite places was Aqui, there were two - one in Willow Glen on Lincoln and one on Blossom HIll? They make a drink called the Swirl - a margarita and sangria mix; and this great flourless chocolate cake. Anytime I'm in the area, I go to Valley Fair to shop, but then it depends on what you're looking for too. As for places to live, I lived in Willow Glen neighborhood for 8 years and loved it - almost like a small town feel, 5 minutes to the arena (or whatever they call it these days), 15 minutes to the airport, 10 minutes to downtown, just off the freeway, etc. Great location. Great restaurants. Easy walking. However, I did sometimes feel left out without a dog or baby to walk down the street with. Another area that has a similar feel is Downtown Campbell (West of 880), also a lot of restaurants, shops, etc. in that area and convenient to the freeway. I've been in LA for 6 years now and still go to Rage Salon in Campbell for cuts.

ignis fatuus

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Why Is It? Posted: 6/9/2009 11:34:01 PM
I've come to the conclusion, at least for now, that we don't find love because we aren't ready for it. I think a lot of people say thay want to find love, want a relationship, but their actions are inconsistent with their words. Right now I'm not in a relationship and, although I think I truly do want to be in a relationship with someone that really loves me, I think there is a disconnect between what I think I want and what I'm doing about it. I still have some lessons to learn, some baggage to throw over the side, etc. And, a lot has to do with timing. The uncertainty of the economy/jobs now can either draw people together or make for bad timing to commit to working on a finding/maintaining a relationship.

ignis fatuus

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You said it Girl !!! Posted: 5/30/2009 11:39:01 PM
I do agree with the issues of consistency in what one says they want and what they do (or show on the profile). The Miss Gold Digger Competition must be open to a very limited number of women that doesn't include me or my single female friends. None of us has competed for, bragged about, expected or asked for $100+ dinners or other expenditures. From my own experience, Gold Digger experiences are urban legend and occasional hearsay from guy friends at parties. There was a much-heated gold digger thread last year, and men seemed to view the phenomenon as the norm rather than the exception, so must be related to who you choose to date and the people you hang around with than a generalization.

ignis fatuus

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Are you happy with this site? Posted: 5/30/2009 11:25:24 PM
I've gotten every bit of value from this free site, maybe more than I ever got from a paid site (Yahoo, eHarmony), which is what keeps me here. There's some very down-to-earth people too. it seemed to me that it was not in the best interests of e-Harmony to actually assist me in finding someone because then I'd stop paying the fee! The same theory applies to diet programs and to gyms. A health club's business plan generally requires that members commit to paying dues but not show up to actually utilize the facilities, since they don't have the resources/facilities to provide to all paid members.

ignis fatuus

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So half of my department just got laid off.... Posted: 5/30/2009 11:16:54 PM
Working over several years with a similar community-based group assisting low income and disadvantaged to buy homes, the loan applicants had to prove they could pay the mortgage (by creating a budget that included the mortgage/costs, following it for 3-6 months) and pay into a rainy day fund. They were given fixed rate mortgages with below-market interest, which was what attracted me to the program. Yes, they required that applicants registered to vote, to increase voter participation of the demographic. However, these non-profit programs issued basic loans, nothing risky or complicated in the actual terms of the loan, and their staff were generally low paid people with the best of intentions (with a few exceptions).

ignis fatuus

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tex sex Posted: 5/28/2009 7:32:14 PM
Is that 140 characters or less Sock?

ignis fatuus

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So half of my department just got laid off.... Posted: 5/28/2009 7:29:55 PM
The first term I learned in my first, post-college job was "RIF". Luckily, I wasn't one of the RIF'd, but I learned quickly that a piece of parchment paper didn't come with job security, expecially working for an old dinosaur of a company that sold supercomputers the size of football fields. After a few months of doing the job of 5 other people, I was burnt out and moved on. Of course, that was another time, and most people don't have the luxury of leaving voluntarily now. The guys may still want/need to play basketball, maybe not at the office but another court, another time. Having been laid off this past year, I can tell you there are times when it feels like I've been abandoned by all those sympathetic ex-coworkers. Then, there was a point where I wanted nothing to do with the old office, needed a period of separation to mentally move on to new things.

ignis fatuus

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making new friends Posted: 5/28/2009 12:33:11 PM
Now is a good time to discover what YOU would like to do with your free time. Some people have found Meetups (online) helpful to find groups to go do things with and get started. How and what depend largely on your circumstances. Let people around you (neighbors, coworkers, family) know you want to meet some new people and get out more. If you get invited somewhere, just go, even just for an hour and make an effort. It's not easy making good friends and a lot of it happens by chance. I've uprooted myself several times and it took longer than I would have liked to build a group of local friends. My current group of friends include people I've known for 20 years (school) who happen to be in the area and ones I've met more recently (e.g., friends of friends). I have found that I really need some single friends; I have good friends with family responsibilities but they have more limited schedules and availability. I have friends for Happy Hour, dinner and/or movies (mainly female friends and their friends); other friends that I just drop by and hang out once in a while and they invite me to their family events; etc. My guy friends tend to either do or just "be" with their buddies --- They hang out at each others' places watching sports, eating, etc.; or they go to Vegas, golfing, bike riding, the gym.

ignis fatuus

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Memorial Day Posted: 5/25/2009 11:38:39 AM
Everyone, at least once, should attend a Memorial Day event, preferably at one of the national memorials or cemeteries. I found it quite moving.

ignis fatuus

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On updating the marriage vows Posted: 4/24/2009 4:52:15 PM
There's a lot to be said for writing your own, including what is important to you and your's, but the symbolism seems stronger with the more traditional variety. I've never taken them, traditional or otherwise, largely because I was never confident enough in the relationship or the bonafide commitment of one or both of the parties. I would add to your suggested updates that the relationship takes precedence over video games, Facebook and other computer vices.

ignis fatuus

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Women and Toilet Paper Posted: 4/12/2009 12:29:18 PM
It's the 2nd best thing ever invented; Chunky Monkey ice cream being the first. Maybe the urge to hoard TP comes from having been stuck in situations where there is none - e.g., going to a guy's place and he has 2 squares left on the roll and no backup, going on a romantic overnight in the woods and finding out he expected me to rely on nature's supplies, etc. I don't have a Costco card, so my parents and roommate's family both have standing orders for the 48 roll packs. There is a long cabinet in the upstairs bathroom about 6 foot long that contains nothing but TP after a recent delivery.

ignis fatuus

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green energy Posted: 3/27/2009 10:48:20 AM
Some of you seem very knowledgable/passionate about these topics. If you have any interest in writing on green/new energy beyond the POF forum - an article, blog, news - or have something you'd like to get reprinted, contact me off-forum by POF mail. There's no money involved, but the issue in question will be distributed at a global energy expo in China in May.

ignis fatuus

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long trips , car sex ,, and road head Posted: 3/24/2009 10:35:45 PM
Ghostwriter, I assume that "Harley sex" is a step up from doing it on the washing machine during the spin cycle?

ignis fatuus

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green energy Posted: 3/24/2009 4:42:54 PM
Green energy can and probably will make somebody the next Saudi Arabia China possibly? Not my business plan, but I am doing some work for a new energy trade publication that will soon be launched there.

ignis fatuus

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What to do in inclement weather? Posted: 3/22/2009 3:51:58 PM
It was really windy this weekend where we were, so my friends and I did a home spa with home recipes for scrubs, facials, the works. For $20 worth of groceries at Trader Joe's, we had a really fun and relaxing afternoon. Plus we have some hilarious pictures of each other looking like tossed salads to post on Facebook or blackmail each other with later. The best part is that we got the relaxing/bonding experience without dealing with the attitude or pricetag of a good spa.

ignis fatuus

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Thinking of moving - Advise & opinions please Posted: 3/15/2009 9:48:41 PM
My suspicion is that you won't hate it, but as you noted a lot depends on where you end up. Celebrate or ignore the differences. LA is the capital of infotainment and televised car chases. Make a list of what you want and your interests - e.g., easy access to beach, indie clubs, smalltown feel vs. urban. Each of the schools has a different vibe and a different demographic of student. After spending half my life in the Bay Area, I moved about 6 years ago. I'm sort of an educated liberal, art lover, but not a partier. I found a neighborhood were I was comfortable, knew at least one person nearby, and had most of what I needed - access to transit, good shopping, close to work, some artistic and educated liberals, etc. When I bought, I fell in love with the small town feel of a neighborning city. Neither are close to the beach, but then that wasn't at the top of my list. Perhaps there are transplants from LA to Bay Area that could enlighten you on their experiences and particular what areas might fit your interests/lifestyles/needs best.

ignis fatuus

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How many of you have actually had a great experience with online dating? Posted: 3/8/2009 4:25:38 PM
Depends on what your criteria is to evaluate the outcome. Each person is different. If you can relax and enjoy the ride without feeling as though the whole trip was a waste if you don't get to the Vegas chapel this year, then maybe you'll appreciate it more. There are success stories - link is above to the right of forums tab. There is also great value in meeting new people and hearing opinions outside the perimeters of your normal routine and comfort zone. Personally, I've had some fun, met some nice people, eliminated some not-so-nice people, made a few friends, etc. I don't consider that wasted time. At least you have chosen your "category". I was unaware until this week that my demographic sisters have been falsely categorized. After a round of tongue-loosening margaritas, I got an earful from a table of married friends, who seem to think 40 year old never married women are home wrecking predators from which they must defend their families--oh, except me of course, because they told me not to take it personally when they saw my jaw hit the floor.

ignis fatuus

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Strangest compliment you've received lately? Posted: 2/26/2009 9:59:28 PM
^^^Congratulations! My goddaughter wanted to know why her father always tacks on Dude to the end of my name and I had to explain to her that it's a term of affection earned long ago.

ignis fatuus

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To caught up to really see the beauty in you.. Posted: 2/26/2009 8:21:28 PM
I get what you're saying and it is important not to be too attached to our checklists. Reassessing priorities and revising our checklists to put real needs at the top is part of maturing as a person, and it sounds like that is what happened with your sisters. Having just analyzed the commonalities among the men I've been most attracted to, #1 on my list is a man's voice. Alright, I guess that is a "physical" attribute, but it is not the visual aspects that draw me to him initially. I did once write a guy off as too good looking (out of my league), later became friends with him and eventually fell in love with him anyway. As far as I remember, the only times I've walked away based on negatively-perceived physical attributes were a guy with very bad teeth and another who had an overgrown nose hair that would have been visible in the mirror for several weeks before we met. Both were also way too touchy feely, trying to PDA, before they even had time to gauge my attraction to them. Maybe I wrote them off too fast, but in my experience, my initial reaction/intuition about someone has always been right.

ignis fatuus

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How do you know when the time is right? Posted: 2/24/2009 10:29:23 PM
Interesting Barbe. I was thinking along the same lines last week. I think I want and am ready for a long-term relationship, but (perhaps subconsciously) I am making decisions that keep that from happening. It's something I need to examine closer and to be more honest with myself about - do I REALLY want a relationship and, if so, why am I not in one? Like you said, the issue is mine. Perhaps fear is the enemy. There are good candidates out there; I've met a few.

ignis fatuus

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The California RE market Posted: 2/17/2009 10:14:58 PM
Matchlight, I've spent years studying the impact of immigration, benefits and enforcement. I've read more reports, legislation, regulations and other documents than I can count, and the numbers quoted by the professor don't add up when compared to a large number of other studies. One readily available source of information (paid for by your tax dollars) is the Congressional Research Service. According to a 2007 CRS report, undocumented immigrants are not eligible for any public benefits (Medicaid, SSI, food stamps, etc.). Even legal immigrants have to wait many years after arrival to be eligible for benefits. If I ever collect social security, I will probably have undocumented immigrants to thank for it because many of them contribute but can't collect. As of 2005, the Social Security Administration had tracked $520 billion in payments to the system by individuals ineligible to benefit due to lack of immigration status.

ignis fatuus

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The latest stimulus 'deal' -- a deal or a steal? Posted: 2/17/2009 10:00:15 AM
For me personally, I would see more than $13 per month. The help in paying for COBRA would be a big help, since not only do I have to start paying the monthly premium soon, but I have a $2,000 deductible and letting the coverage lapse right now isn't an option. Obviously, it's far from perfect, and they'll be tuning it as we go, but at least something is happening in Washington. Can't say the same about Sacramento. Don't they know anything about making compromises? I don't know how some of these people got elected if they don't understand that there has to be money to spend money. If state revenues are down, a combination of cuts and taxes is a reasonable outcome, especially considering that the state's credit rating is horrid and it's on the verge of insolvency. I have no issue with an increase in sales tax, especially since all I am buying right now is necessities and food is tax deductible if I buy it at the store and make it at home.

ignis fatuus

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What Either Makes a Relationship Healthy or Not? Posted: 1/28/2009 10:25:43 AM
A healthy relationship requires some quality "us" time on a regular basis, that it be funtime (not spent paying bills or discussing Rover's bad habits) and a priority over work/kids/TV/whatever distractions are there. I've seen the damage that comes from what people say to each other and how they say it. We live in a world where insulting people is looked at as comical and it's too easy to get nasty with your friends and partner. It's one thing to argue/fight/disagree, but if either or both is verbally abusive it isn't ok. Changing the way we argue with each other, when we do, makes a huge difference in how we feel about each other afterwards. As for red flags, if I know a guy has a kid or kids, I ask about their relationship, how often they see each other, whether he has a decent relationship with the child's mother. There may be exceptional circumstances, but generally if a guy doesn't have a relationship with his child then he isn't going to be an active participant in a relationship with me.

ignis fatuus

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ToonTown Posted: 1/22/2009 9:31:15 PM
Alice in Wonderland, who is both a literary and a cartoon figure. BTW: Stewie is one of my favorite characters, as is Mominatrix.

ignis fatuus

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What's on your bucket list? Posted: 1/18/2009 2:05:55 PM
SNB - You must see a good snowflake before kicking the bucket. I lived in Boston area for 2 years and the first time it really snowed, I skipped all my classes and just stared out the window the whole day. I had seen plenty of CA foothill snow before, but I swear those flakes looked like minature versions of the paper variety we used to make as kids. I'd never seen snow like that in California. It really was magical, until it started to melt or ice over.

ignis fatuus

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how do you know it's worth it? Posted: 1/10/2009 5:02:51 PM
I'm not a big Dr. Phil fan, but I caught one of his soundbites this week that was really good A kid would rather come from a broken home than live in one.

ignis fatuus

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women that want sex Posted: 1/10/2009 8:35:59 AM
Very good questions Mz. Taken. I'll pick a few and add my 2 cents. are single people doomed to a sexless life to satisfy the judgment/moral code of his neighbor? No, just make sure your lover wears some kind of occupational attire and drives an appropriate vehicle for the job (e.g., work truck with handyman's belt, Geek Squad VW with geeky narrow tie and suit, white fleet vehicle with blue or black FBI style suit and white shirt, white reverend's collar with suit). Rather than get the evil eye over the fence and hear the "tsk tsk" of the neighbor's moral compass, you get an easily respondable question like "Is there something wrong with your computer?" A little white lie will do you, but just make sure to include costume rotation in your budgets. It is unfortunate, but "primiscuous" is a label put on by other people and each of them defines it at a different level of activity (as you suggested above), which is one reason I generally don't discuss numbers. One person may think ___(fill in a #) is too few, and the next may think it's too many. I would rather not give someone the power to make that judgement based on one fact and a life they haven't lived.

ignis fatuus

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Doo Dah Parade Posted: 1/4/2009 10:13:07 AM
The Doo Dah Parade is the "anti" Rose Parade - low budget, less crowded, fewer floral arrangements, shorter route. You might see a garbage can band or synchronized nappers (including pillows). See online at pasadenadoodahparade.info When: January 18, 2009 Where: Old Town Pasadena, Raymond and Colorado Parade steps off: 11:30AM, as usual Reminder: Bring your own lawn chairs!

ignis fatuus

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Labels! Get your sexy labels here! Posted: 1/3/2009 9:53:13 AM
I always read the labels when I'm shopping, whether its food, clothing, or _____. I'm a bit obsessed about content and expiration dates. However, with the exception of arsenic and polyester, if I find something on the label that isn't good for me, it doesn't mean I won't buy it anyway!

ignis fatuus

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Nice little old style Italian restaurants... Posted: 12/27/2008 7:18:52 PM
Haplucky, I've walked those tracks to the Nantucket many times in the past 3-5 years. Very low key, cool venue, and out-of-the-way. It's one of my parents' favorite places.

ignis fatuus

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Limited? Posted: 12/24/2008 7:02:27 PM
Never give up. I distract myself for a few months until the pond is restocked - is it ever restocked? One cannot live by POF alone, but I've found the community equal to any I've paid for in the past, so log on periodically to check in. I agree with opening your mind to the possibilities around you, but am not interested in a long distance relationship.

ignis fatuus

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KISS ME UNDER THE MISTLETOE Posted: 12/22/2008 4:44:24 PM
Another "yes" for the misteltoe tradition here! One of my other favorite things is checking out old ornaments/decorations. We have this cheesy angel tree topper at home that's been around since we were kids, but no way she'll ever be replaced! Then there are the ones we made or received/gave as gifts. You know - the popsicle stick nutcracker, etc. A lot of stories and memories with them all.

ignis fatuus

Joined: 6/10/2007

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LA to the bay area... Posted: 12/14/2008 11:52:25 AM
Seems to me that Santa Cruz may have a First Night celebration. San Francisco usually has at least one big party with different tents/rooms and themes.

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