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Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 58 (view)

Dating Out Side YOUR RACE Posted: 8/28/2005 11:50:15 AM
It's all about personal preference... I prefer to date men of the human race, I must admit. Everyone is entitled to date whomever they choose, as long as the choice is mutual, of course. I don't understand what the big deal is... I guess, as long as people continue making it a big deal, it will be... live and let live... cliché, but true.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

Acceptable discrimination Posted: 8/28/2005 8:23:08 AM
YOU are the OP. hehe 'original poster' of the message thread...

Blondie1967

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Msg: 27 (view)

Who on hear has cheated, and is GLAD they did Posted: 8/28/2005 8:06:58 AM
What? Who? Where?! jk

Blondie1967

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Msg: 25 (view)

Who on hear has cheated, and is GLAD they did Posted: 8/28/2005 7:57:23 AM
I have not personally cheated... it's just not in my nature to do so... one man at a time is more than enough for me, thanks. Have been cheated on, yes... and... I have been 'the other woman'... guess that counts as aiding and abetting. Was definitely a mistake I shall never knowingly repeat. DISCLAIMER: THIS statement should NOT be considered an open invitation for ANY married men on this site to message me. You WILL be shot down in a blaze of glory.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Acceptable discrimination Posted: 8/28/2005 7:02:07 AM
Discrimination is not acceptable in any form, but honestly... are we now saying that if one person is not attracted to another(for whatever reason), that person is being discriminatory?? Come on... Attraction is a baser instinct in all of us. What I find attractive is not comparable to what someone else finds attractive... and I can't define on paper what is attractive to me. It goes way beyond what is easily definable, period. It has nothing, and yet everything, to do with intelligence, humour, looks, physical appearance, stature, demeanor, mannerisms, health, habits, nature, charm, etc... I'm not sure 'WE' ever concluded that looks are a negative deciding factor... IMO 'looks' would only be a negative deciding factor if it were the ONLY deciding factor. Look around you... it's everywhere in nature... Check out animal planet some time... 'The male blah-blah preens his feathers, hoping to attract the female...' It's perfectly natural... it's the way God made us... and if you don't believe in God, well... it's in our genetic makeup... People whining about other people being 'hung up' on looks... well... is whining about it going to make that person find you more, or less, attractive? Hmm... I'm guessing less, but that's just my opinion. Some say... 'It's superficial to base attraction on looks'... well, pardon the expression, but... that's a load of crap. Attraction is(initially) based on just that... looks. You don't spot someone across the room and say, 'oh my... what a beautiful mind he/she has... I'd like to date him/her'. Now, if he/she doesn't have the rest of the factors behind that external package, then they aren't going to 'have you at hello'. By the same token someone, whom you didn't initially find attractive, can become so as you get to know him/her; however that is not likely to happen too often with internet dating... not many people are going to take the time, with each person they meet, to see if an attraction will eventually develop. Bottom line is... Attraction is personal, and different for everyone... and one persons 'laws of attraction' is not a form of discrimination against another person... Honestly... that's the most idiotic thing I've ever heard. Disclaimer: None of the comments above are directed at the OP, but rather at the IDEA that this is the level to which society has digressed on the issue of discrimination AND/OR the issue of attraction.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 14 (view)

Have you or would you ever let a loved one set you up? Posted: 8/26/2005 7:43:34 AM
TOO many times in the past... never with any success... but never say never... cuz you never know... someone MIGHT get it right one of these times... Just no more 'spitters' please... it's difficult to shield ones food from flying spittle...

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 269 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... Posted: 6/7/2005 3:46:01 PM
Perhaps, like your profile, you 'preferred not to say' much, and so missed out on the fun.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 254 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... Posted: 6/5/2005 4:56:36 PM
Glad ya'll enjoyed it! :) I know the music could have been better, but most of ya (including myself) were outside all night anyway. It would have been nice to have something good to dance to, tho... sorry about that.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 243 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 6/4/2005 3:02:23 PM
There shouldn't be a line up, and no dress code... And, yes... just show up... I'm sure there will be a few no shows... I just didn't want it exploding beyond reason in the last two days. See you all there!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 240 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 6/4/2005 12:58:55 PM
You're absolutely right... I just went into panic mode, when I saw how high the numbers were getting....

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 221 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 6/1/2005 3:06:52 PM
I HATE TO EXCLUDE PEOPLE, BUT WE HAVE REACHED THE LIMIT FOR THIS PARTY. THE VENUE CANNOT ACCOMODATE ANY MORE PEOPLE. IF YOU ARE NOT ALREADY SIGNED UP, YOU'LL HAVE TO WAIT TILL NEXT TIME, I'M AFRAID!! THOSE WHO ARE SIGNED UP... PLEASE... IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY DONE SO, LET ME KNOW ASAP HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU ARE BRINGING. Please try and limit the guests you are bringing with you. Thank you.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 188 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 5/27/2005 12:23:35 PM
E=MC2 -- I know... tell me about it! Some have messaged me directly... but I certainly haven't heard from all 98! At my count, I have about 25 people down. That's including their guests. I don't know... can ya'll read English, or what?

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 5/22/2005 6:23:29 AM
Okay... once again, people... PAY ATTENTION NOW... READ THIS CAREFULLY!!!!!!! lol [cut 'n paste from above] Hi... once again, PLEASE... could everyone who's signed up here go to the Ontario Forums and click the signup button on the first message of the thread with the same name as this one! THE FIRST MESSAGE on the thread on the ONTARIO FORUMS will also be the place to check for updates as details are worked out. Thanks!!! sorry, guys... this is my fault... I shouldn't have posted it in two places... I posted in the Ontario forums first, then thought it might get more exposure here. Hey... look at it this way... if I hadn't posted it twice, you might not have found the other posting. hehe The problem is... I can't post the link here in a message... POF wont let me. SO Try this.... Type http : / / into your browser address bar, no spaces, then cut and paste the following beside it forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts674224.aspx OR... Click on the link over my picture beside this message, and it will take you to the forums that I have participated in... you will see both of the get together forums listed there... Failing all that... as I have suggested before, email me directly, and I will send you the link in a message. Thanks. ALL THE INFORMATION ON WHERE THE EVENT IS TAKING PLACE CAN BE FOUND IN THE FIRST MESSAGE OF THE THREAD IN THE OTHER FORUM!!!!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 162 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 5/22/2005 6:10:21 AM
I appreciate the fact that ya'll want to get to know each other a little before the event... that's great... but this forum is meant for the sharing of information regarding the event. I really don't want to have to weed through your personal foreplay conversations while trying to do a head count of those who do respond to my request to: LET ME KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU ARE BRINGING WITH YOU (PLEASE) Please respect that. Thank you.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 158 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 5/21/2005 11:38:47 AM
Thanks guys... it's really no trouble at all. My partner in crime has helped a great deal, including coming up with the suggestion to have it at Bobby C's... Thanks Di!!! And thanks to everyone for ALL the suggestions and offers to help! Well, the list keeps growing... this is good! But, please please PLEASE... If you're coming out... remember to email me directly, or post here, how many friends you're bringing with you! Looking fwd to meeting everyone!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 134 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 5/18/2005 6:35:15 PM
Thanks Di... I definitely owe you a few drinks!! :)

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 128 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 5/15/2005 5:02:22 PM
Everyone!! Check the first message in thread... I've updated it with info on the location!!!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Deleted, blocked what is the deal? Posted: 5/8/2005 1:20:08 PM
Could be they don't want to play Bonnie to your Clyde..? Just a thought...

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 124 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 5/8/2005 8:15:53 AM
It's still a month away... patience patience! lol I'll have an update on the where soon. I'm narrowing down the possibilities. My apologies for the delay, but I've had other things going on that took priority. Again, updates will be posted on the FIRST message of this thread.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 118 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 5/6/2005 10:32:58 AM
You can edit your posts when you've posted 100 messages. You're gonna have to overcome your 'post-shyness' first. :) We'll overlook your 'misunderstanding' for now. hehe

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 79 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 4/30/2005 11:03:30 AM
Yes, it is June 4th... The whole May 7th thing was a misunderstanding. I will update the first message when the location is determined.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 71 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 4/28/2005 7:41:28 AM
^^^ Ah... you found your way. Stay tuned, people... should have more details soon... lots of time yet. Keep the suggestions coming, tho... I'm looking into the Bowmanville Marina (great idea Di!) as well as a couple other suggested venues.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 4/28/2005 7:11:23 AM
Okay, first off... sorry, guys... this is my fault... I shouldn't have posted it in two places... I posted in the Ontario forums first, then thought it might get more exposure here. Hey... look at it this way... if I hadn't posted it twice, you might not have found the other posting. hehe The problem is... I can't post the link here in a message... POF wont let me. SO Try this.... Type http colon / / into your browser address bar, then cut and past the following beside it forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts674224.aspx OR... Click on the link over my picture beside this message, and it will take you to the forums that I have participated in... you will see both of the get together forums listed there... Failing all that... as I have suggested before, email me directly, and I will send you the link in a message.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 148 (view)

Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 4/27/2005 10:53:30 AM
There are plenty of good men (and women, I'm sure) left... in here/out there.... I've dated a couple guys from here who were very nice... Too bad 'being good' wasn't enough to spark chemistry... for either of us. tongue-in-cheek Maybe if everyone would stop bashing the opposite sex in these forums, and spend that time on something else... like, oh I don't know... self-improvement . . . (myself included)

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Oh what tangled web we weave.... Posted: 4/27/2005 7:32:03 AM
Sometimes PEOPLE (men AND women!!!!!) get tired of opening themselves up, and having their feelings/hearts walked on. Maybe it's not always a game, but a cautious venturing back into a realm that was not so kind on the last trip there. Speaking for myself... ya, I'm bloody tired of 'playing the game'... never enjoyed it, and have never played it well. But I'm also bloody tired of opening up to Mr. Wrong. So.. I'm reserved... I will tread lightly, and walk slow... if that's considered a game, well... shrug It's my heart... if I don't protect it, who will? Lets face it... the dating dance sucks... but what other option is there... but to keep

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 14 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 4/26/2005 4:58:56 PM
Hi... once again, PLEASE... could everyone who's signed up here go to the Ontario Forums and click the signup button on the first message of the thread with the same name as this one! THE FIRST MESSAGE on the thread on the ONTARIO FORUMS will also be the place to check for updates as details are worked out. Thanks!!! p.s. if you need help finding the right forum, msg me directly, and I will send you the link!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

what's up with this: Posted: 4/26/2005 7:52:20 AM
I'm sure she wouldn't be picky about five months, but... guess she had to put the cut off somewhere.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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what's up with this: Posted: 4/26/2005 7:09:55 AM
In agreement with 'free''... It's not only women who do that... men too. What cracks me up is when I get a message from a man, who has all these criteria listed at the bottom of his profile, and I DON'T fit his criteria. lol Hmmm....

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 59 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 4/25/2005 9:54:40 AM
DJHottRocks - I really don't want to get into organizing a huge even here, ie renting a hall and such... not at this point, anyway... but thanks for the offer to DJ such a event... will definitely keep that in mind for possible future events. If you have suggestions for venues, however... feel free to throw them out here.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 56 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 4/25/2005 9:15:15 AM
I'm checking out a couple places this week... The Liverpool Mansion, or Fox Mansion, whatever it's called... The Tartan as well... and a couple other suggestions. Lots of time yet, but I will try and narrow it down soon! Stay posted!!!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Why do guys do this? Posted: 4/25/2005 6:26:01 AM
See... this is why guys, AND girls, should come with references. A similar thing happened to me not very long ago... and he's 38... you'd think by now, he'd have learned how to say 'I can't see you anymore', but no... just dropped off the face of the earth. I met him out there in the real world, so it's not just 'internet people'... we were dating for a couple months... he came with me to my family gathering Christmas Eve... I haven't brought a boy home since I left my ex 10+ yrs ago. Everyone loved him, and he seemed to 'fit in' really well... Him and some of his friends came with me to a New years party at a friends place... we had dinner a couple times after that, then our schedules got busy, and we didn't see each other for a couple weeks... he comes over for dinner, tells me how much he missed me, asks me did I miss him too. I thought, huh... he's starting to get serious... we had plans the following week, and he cancelled them, because something came up... didn't hear from him that whole weekend, and then he just disappeared... I called twice, left a message... nothing. So, bully for him. Ya, it hurt... It had been a long time since I'd felt the 'stirings of love' for a man... didn't think I was capable of loving again... but, if that's all I got out of it... the knowledge that this ol heart is not completely cynical and used up, then it was worth it... The point I'm trying to make is... the hurt DOES go away, and in the end you're stronger for the experience. It would be nice if you could 'pin him down' to get some closure, but that's not always possible... sometimes you just have to move on. Hang in there...

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 4/24/2005 12:39:48 PM
Springload - A venue hasn't yet been chosen, but check back again... I'll be updating the first message of this thread when all the details are worked out... click the sign up button on the first message to 'be counted'!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 45 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 4/24/2005 11:23:43 AM
Thanks April... Looking for ideas for a 'cool' icebreaker... something to introduce everyone, so we can translate who we are on POF to who we are in the real world... that does NOT include wearing nametags. lol Suggestions welcome!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 4/24/2005 8:44:51 AM
Melting - sounds like you have a connection at the Mansion?? Can you do some inquiries, and let me know? Maybe I should email you directly...

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together... June 4th Posted: 4/23/2005 6:11:40 AM
Hi... everyone who's signed up here, could you please go to the Ontario forums and click the sign up button there, if you haven't already done so?! Thanks... It's posted there under the same thread name. Sorry for the 'run around'. Gennie - information will be posted on the thread in the Ontario forums as it becomes available.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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First time encounter: Posted: 4/22/2005 1:12:56 PM
I think it means 'Houston, we have a problem'. You know... maybe he wasn't able to, ah... accomplish liftoff, or touchdown... or maybe his rocket took off too fast...

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 154 (view)

How a nice guy got even in the end...a POF dating story Posted: 4/22/2005 1:08:33 PM
Well, actually... Jesus did... but I don't think He minds me quoting Him. :)

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

First time encounter: Posted: 4/22/2005 1:06:56 PM
Like Thal said... it depends... on a number of things, but basically... how much she likes you and what she wants from you. Some people are not immediately comfortable with each other nekkid, but that can get better with time and practice.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 152 (view)

How a nice guy got even in the end...a POF dating story Posted: 4/22/2005 12:57:33 PM
it's all how you interpret what he wrote about what she said There's a term for this. It's called hearsay. 1. Unverified information heard or received from another; rumor. 2. Law. Evidence based on the reports of others rather than the personal knowledge of a witness and therefore generally not admissible as testimony. We are so quick to be both judge and jury. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone"

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 128 (view)

Wow! Posted: 4/22/2005 6:06:12 AM
I'M in between jobs right now, but I'm certainly not looking for a man to rely on to provide for me, or to be my meal ticket... I'm managing well enough on my own, thank you... and God willing, will have a job REAL soon, so I'll have less time to spend on here... lol If I go out on a date, I certainly offer to pay my share... right now I keep it simple, however... a nice chat over coffee, or a drink... and some companionship with someone who helps me forget for FIVE freakin minutes, about my troubles... that's all I'm asking. I'D like to hear HER side of the story, too... instead of hearing so many people here ripping a strip up one side of her and down the other, and her not even knowing, let alone being able to defend herself. It's IS nice to see that not everyone thinks this guy is a hero! There is hope for humanity after all.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 4/21/2005 9:00:00 AM
Thanks Kazzy, I'll look into those as options as well!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

Whitby/Oshawa/Courtice area get together...June 4th Posted: 4/21/2005 8:01:29 AM
Kazzy - Not yet... I'm still waiting to get a feel for exactly how many are coming... I will update the first post on this thread once all the details are worked out... I'm going to make some calls this week/early next week to see who can accomodate us, and be flexible on the total number... I will include The Tartan in my inquiries... I think that would be a good choice. Check back often, people... and make yourself counted by clicking the button on the first message. p.s. Thanks to Admin for adding that, and Franmac for helping!!! ADMIN: If you're reading this... I created another thread under POF get togethers forum, thinking it may get more exposure there... any way you can combine the two?

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Admin? Anyone? Problems with Mail feature... Posted: 4/21/2005 7:30:47 AM
I'm somewhat relieved to know it's not just me... Hopefully 'they' are aware of this problem, and it will be fixed soon?!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Admin? Anyone? Problems with Mail feature... Posted: 4/21/2005 7:03:51 AM
Anyone else having problems with the mail feature this morning, or is it just me?? I was able to reply to one message this morning, but the next message I replied to didn't seem to work. What happened was this: I hit reply, typed in my message, hit send message, and instead of appending me back to my inbox, the screen flashed briefly, and brought up a blank mail screen... I then went to my sent mail to see if the message was there... it was not. Was my message sent, or wasn't it? On top of that, I've been getting run time errors when trying to 'get into' sent messages, and when trying to view some messages period. Anybody know what's going on? Is POF having problems, or is it me? Thanks!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 45 (view)

Oog Sheen byene awul om by gou!!!! Posted: 4/20/2005 11:41:01 AM
You can demonstrate June 4th.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

Oog Sheen byene awul om by gou!!!! Posted: 4/20/2005 11:17:04 AM
sigh a southern drawl speakin celtic at me... swoon and so handsome, too! I do declare!

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 53 (view)

Okay, guys, let's start therapy of handling rejection Posted: 4/20/2005 11:08:17 AM
Go right ahead... there's more where that one came from.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

Do some people just NOT have fetishes? Posted: 4/20/2005 10:36:46 AM
< - fetish for frosties.

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 22 (view)

Do some people just NOT have fetishes? Posted: 4/20/2005 10:26:55 AM
Right you are... I'd forgotten about that side of the story. hehe

Blondie1967

Joined: 3/12/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

Oog Sheen byene awul om by gou!!!! Posted: 4/20/2005 10:23:18 AM
Sounds Celtic, almost. Céili, anyone?

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