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ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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The Dumbest Dump Posted: 8/8/2006 7:42:33 AM
the dumbest reason i got dumped?? we had been dating for about 3 months, he was living with me, knew all about my history, and the fact that i had 2 daughters, and i couldnt have anymore, one morning he told me we needed to "talk"..he wanted to break up with me because i was not a full woman who could have children and that was what he wanted..(even though that was a conversation in our earlier talks)..men can be soo finiky.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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why do married men hit on me? Posted: 4/26/2006 9:12:28 AM
ice, i too get hit on by married men all the time, on here, in public..i just look at them tell them to bounce, im too good to be there dirty lil secret, and i wont be the homewrecker that takes the fall for his mistakes..married men want what they cant have, and unfortunatly for us single ladies were the cake and the icing all in one... ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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How many people do you chat with? Posted: 4/26/2006 9:06:13 AM
i have chatted with alot of guys and i get the statement all the time "oh i bet ur talking to alot of guys" well yes i am, i tell the men i am looking for friends first, gee lets get all anally possisive over me trying to make friends while im looking for the right guy..with a response like that i want nothing to do with that type of a guy..i also get statements about the number of favorites that im on..and that i must talk to alot of them to have them on my favorites..truth be told i dont know half of them they havent contacted me and i didnt add them..they added me..some men can be very possivie, jealous and just plain jerks and those r the ones that we need to stay away from.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Ever feel like you could be falling for someone you've never met? Posted: 4/18/2006 11:33:06 AM
i believe that u can fall for someone u have never met..the possibilities r endless..love works in mysterious ways and its not for us to say what can and can not happen..if that were the case most of us would not be here..arranged marriages, these men and women didnt know one another.but they fell in love..during the wars men would write women that they didnt know..and eventually marry them..or meet them one time and continue a long distance pen pal with them and hello i have grandparents..im not saying they all worked out..but it is possible to meet someone online and just have the connection..that spark that makes u want to get online and talk with them..u cant wait til there on, and when u do chat its 3 hours long or more..that is more time then most dates, and ur actually talking to that person for that time and getting to know them while on a date there r so many distractions..ok granted the end of ur chat may not end up the way a date will..no good nite kisses but that is just adds to the anticipation of when u do meet..and if it is something that is meant to be then it will happen..i am responding to this post in particular because yes i have met someone who brings all those feelings out in me..someone i can not wait to chat with, someone who puts that smile on my face..someone who i can talk to about anything..somone who i am getting closer and closer to everyday..i hope that he reads this and knows i am as serious as he is about the things we talk about..and to the rest good luck..cupid works in mysterious ways..dont fight it or question it..just let it happen..or u could miss ur chance on true love.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Why are you single? Posted: 4/18/2006 7:38:27 AM
im single cause i have in my head this perfect guy..i made him up..looks, personality, attitude, style, way of life...to alot of people that may seem picky..but to me its a way of not getting hurt..if the perfect guy doenst exist, then i cant get hurt again..i guess one day i will sh!t myself if i ever meet him..lol then knowing my luck he will be married or gay.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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is there no hope for large guys Posted: 3/3/2006 6:59:38 AM
I'm with brenda on that one..I have said it before and i will say it again..i love big teddy bear type men..my problem is im just not the one to approach a guy first, so all the great guys r just slippin by cause im too chicken to just send them a message and say hi.. to the op..dont give up, she is out there waiting for u to sweep her off her feet..good luck hon ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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would you be insulted if.... Posted: 2/24/2006 8:24:57 AM
I wouldnt be insulted, but i would have to politely refuse, because my feet r soooooo sensitive and ticklish..my bad i know im missing out, but i dont want my date to lose a few teeth or perhaps get kicked in the, ummm u know male area..im that ticklish..but..any offers of any where else..i would probley accept.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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I love you Posted: 2/17/2006 6:12:59 AM
I tell my daughters i love them every day, i tell my family i love you..my friends i tell I luv ya..somehow "love' and "luv" just have differnet meanings..the word love is overused, abused, and unappreicaited..it doesnt have the same meaning as it did 20 years ago between 2 people..i get guys telling me they love me all the time as there staring at my boobs and wondering where the nite is gonna end up..(lol on there butts as i bounce them out)..i guess when i say i love u to a guy its gonna be the one for keeps..til then those 3 lil words i keep close to my heart.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Pour it all out here, lets see what u got Posted: 2/14/2006 9:30:43 PM
I just wanted a place i could put some of my work and share what i feel..if u like it great..if not oh well..i would love to see what some of u r working with and maybe try a group thing..let me know what u think, and lets see what u got a few of mine; Wishful Thinking People keep on telling me I need to let you go But in my heart a single beat tells me I need you so Not wanting to forget the time that you were here with me Not wanting to forget the flutters that flowed continuously A feeling that I can't let go no matter how I try Can't bring myself to turn away can't seem to say good bye No one has touched me like you have in this amount of time Don't think it was quite possible to have my heart not mine Though if there's one thing I could say in such a simple way Is that u could find it in your heart to be with me one day.. FIRST TIMES A SOFT SIGH, ESCAPES MY RED, WET LIPS WHEN I FIRST HEAR U SING THAT SONG. THE FIRST WORDS THAT U WHISPER TO ME, SEND EROTIC CHILLS UP AND DOWN MY SPINE, AND THEN SOON REPLACED WITH AWARM GLOW. THE FIRST KISS, OH SO SPECIAL, THE LINGERING FEEL OF IT, WILL BE BURNED IN MY MIND FOREVER. THE FIRST THOUGHTS THAT I HAVE OF US TOGETHER, WOULD SEND HEAVEN AND HELL IN ECSTASY.. TO HAVE U PUT UR HANDS ON MY BODY, FOR THE FIRST TIME WOULD BE A DREAM OF ALL DREAMS TO COME TRUE. WHY IS IT IN MY DREAMS THAT THE FIRST TIME ONLY HAPPENS WITH YOU..... have fun!!! ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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He just slipped out Posted: 2/14/2006 9:16:12 PM
I had something happen to me similar to that..but not exactly..this guy and i had been chatting online for about 2 weeks..every day and on the phone..we decided we wanted to meet..he had asked what i wanted to do and i knew he loved homemade lasagna, so i invited him over for some..he was really excited..now we had talked, viewed each others cams, seen pics of each other..so there was no surprise..i went got all the stuff i needed..spent hours making the sauce, and then putting it all together..he came, we talked for like 20 minutes, and i asked him.."did u park in the visitor parking" (where i live we have strict parking rules for residents and visitors..if u park in someone's parking place and r not a resident u will be towed)..he said "oh i think so, let me check while u check on the lasagna" i did, waited for 15 minutes before i went to see if he got lost..the creep left!!!! couldnt call me on the phone and tell me he didnt want to be there just left..a few weeks later he contacts me online and tells me that he just didnt get the feeling that i would be the "desert" he wanted and that was what he was really looking for....so he left instead of wasting his time eating the dinner i had spent time making..oh well his loss..my best friends brother came over, smelled what i made, and we ended up spending the nite together watching movies and eating lasagna..so it wasnt a total waste..but still what a creep... im sorry u went thru that... ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Why is it so many guys start a conversation with.... Posted: 2/14/2006 8:59:58 PM
has the people skills of a caveman, so grunt for us Blackmike....... y worry about conversation, he doesnt have the intellect to carry on a decent one anyway..just give him a club so he doesnt even have to worry about his neanderthal attempted conversation..he can just wave it at his women and "stick" it to them..y bore them w/ unintellegent conversation anyway??? u made ur point w/out words..isnt that what ur basically saying?? ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Why is it so many guys start a conversation with.... Posted: 2/14/2006 7:45:37 PM
So you would rather someone hide the fact that they are a pervert? You like spending 2 hours of chat, 3 hours on the phone and then learning that they only want to bang the moist out of you and move on? You must have more time to waste than I do. usually i can tell within 10-15 minutes of chatting with someone what there about..im upfront on what im lookin for and what im not looking for..honesty seems to be a thing of the past as does romance to men..sex is not the only part of relationship..maybe u should think of those things before u open ur yap and stick ur foot in it.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Why is it so many guys start a conversation with.... Posted: 2/14/2006 7:22:32 PM
I'd think you'd be happy with a guy who starts conversations with "what are you wearing" or "can I send you pics of my dic". what?!?!?!?! I can not believe u said that...im with the op on everything she said..i cant stand when a guy goes on to tell me what he would like to do with me before i even say hi..what do u think its a turn on for us?? i think its rude, crass, and very unattractive and if its booty calls there lookin for take a stroll down to there nearest hoochie street..im sure some skank would love that kind of attention..because this LADY doesnt!! ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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another valentines day alone? Posted: 2/13/2006 2:07:14 PM
I think falloutgirl said it best..i didnt want to spend the day alone..i wanted to be one of those happy couples holding hands, and spending a nice nite together..and then getting that sweet kiss from my someone special..ahhh oh well i guess there is next year,so for this year i guess i cuddle w/my teddy bear and watch a sappy movie.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Mirror, mirror on the wall ... Posted: 2/13/2006 11:14:38 AM
Coastergal i was thinkin the same thing..what if she wanted to see if u were a shallow creep who was just basing her whole being on her looks?? what if she is a total cutie w/ a bomb personality and u just brushed her off cause u couldnt look past the "half chewed carmel"..sometimes u have to look past the outside of the box to find the hidden treasure on the inside..let me ask u a question op..what if she was really really cute, u got in a relationship w/her and ended up falling in love..and a few years down the line, she had a horrible accident and actually ended up lookin like a "half chewed carmel"..would u still love her?? or leave her?? would love to hear what u and others have to say.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Someone out of your league... Posted: 2/11/2006 5:13:15 PM
i too sometimes push men away from me just because i think there too successfull and im just starting my career, or there way too good looking to be out with me..and i think what could they possible see in me..i guess its a bad habit and one im trying to break..its slow but i just keep telling myself everyday that some man is going to be lucky that he found me.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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do all women her use there kids 4 selfabuse Posted: 2/4/2006 11:03:33 PM
it cut me off and it didnt post it all..here is everything else i said.. we r trying our best and its hard to please everyone..so we start at home..with our kids, u should put urself in our shoes before u complain about how we r trying to raise childrend.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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do all women her use there kids 4 selfabuse Posted: 2/4/2006 11:00:22 PM
They say stupid stuff like my kids come first.Oh i can not have my date meet my kids,they might tell their dad wow us single mom's r getting it all the way around..we r put down and said were horrible mom's for leaving our kids to go on dates, and at the same time were have to put up with remarks like that because were afraid to date..being a single divorced mom..i feel i have alot of imput on this subject..first and formost..any mom will tell u "there kids come first" i dont care if she is married, widowed, single, divorced, in a relationship..whatever..yes ur right my kids do come first..the way i feel is i had a chance to live my life..i messed up and got a divorce, and in the process of doing that i disrupted my daughters lives and stability (ok so there dad sucked and was a bad husband, but no matter what that is still there dad)..its not that were pushing men away..were trying to make time with them..if i go on a date i make sure my daughters r either not goin to be at home, or i invite the man over and we sit in the park during the day, or he comes over after the girls r in bed..and as far as them not meeting a date cause they will tell there dad..if half the women on here have the problems w/there ex that i do, then they have reason to worry..if my daughters so much as mention mom having a date there dad immediatly calls children services and makes all kinds of false allegations..its now to the point if they get a call like that they just ignore it..or the fear of him trying to take the kids cause mom wants to go "hooching" it around and date..u need to cut us moms some slack...its not the kids raising us..but us raising our kids..giving them stablity and showing them how a responsible person acts..my daughters have met my dates, and i do tell my dates my daughters come first..if dating someone w/kids is soo hard for u, then there r lots of single ladies out there w/out kids..date them and stop critisizing (< ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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You have stronger feelings than the other person has for you, what to do?? Posted: 2/4/2006 10:17:27 PM
update _______ i have seen him twice this week, and both times i tried to convience myself that its just a friendship that i want..the first nite he came by he needed to vent on somethings that were goin on in his life..he was at my place for about 2 hours..the second nite he came by was to drop off a very expensive b-day present for my 10 year old daughter..(the collection of brat dolls and accesories to go w/them)...now i know ur thinking thats nothing..those dolls alone run anywhere from 25-75 dollars a doll..and he got her 4 of them..and the lil things that go with them..we argued about that and then when i realized i wasnt getting thru to him we sat around for 6 hours and just talked..and cuddled..no sex..just with each other..and every time he would go to hold my hand i would pull it away..i guess the whole evening just made me even more confused..and when he called me the next day to tell me he was goin to w.va for the weekend, and the house he was staying at had a spa, i was like "well pick up a few hunnies for u and ur boy"his response to me was "well ur the only hunny i would want to take but i know about ur responsibilities to ur girls"..i keep trying to distance myself and not let him in my life so much..he found out about the party for my daughter and was like am i invited? i told him no..i dont want to introduce him to family and friends as "my friend"..am i making too much out of this?? or should ijust go with things??im soo confused its playin games in my head.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Something I have noticed Posted: 2/1/2006 8:23:21 PM
Oh & then the men that approach me first, are ninety percent of the time, in their forties or fifties , divorced & with kids. or there married... ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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You have stronger feelings than the other person has for you, what to do?? Posted: 2/1/2006 8:16:53 PM
I guess i just pretty much want a sound off..here is the story..i have known this guy for about a year..we see each other about 2-3 times a month..talk on the phone constantly..he has been my study buddy, my rock, at times my lover and my friend..sounds great huh?? i confessed to him about 2 months ago, i wanted to progress to a different level of relationship...something that is very hard for me to even think of..he told me that he loved me and i was great and that he didnt want to lose our friendship, he wasnt ready to move ahead..it was awkward for about a week and then things went bk to the way they were before i put my foot in my mouth..everything seemed normal, except for the way i felt..i still have feelings for him..when i hear his voice, or he comes over and he leaves and his cologne is lingering on the pillows..my heart just aches..we have been thru soo much, and have alot more to go thru in the coming months..and to continuously see him and talk to him..i dont know what to do..it hurts and im confused..how can he go on like nothing was ever said?? its to the point where im avoiding him, or having him to even come over..he can tell something is goin on, and i dont want to tell him again and lose his friendship forever..but at the same time i just keep pushing him away..i was wondering, has this happened to anyone else and if so how did u deal with it?? ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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THIS IS FOR THE GIRLS.... Posted: 2/1/2006 6:25:43 PM
this is for the guy who wrote this.......

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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How many here believe in the fairy tale? Posted: 2/1/2006 5:10:48 AM
The fairy tale?? sure i believe in it..just like i believe in the perfect guy..i hate to say it..neither exists... ladyg p.s. this also goes for the perfect woman too..so please dont bash me guys..

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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The Dreaded V Day... Posted: 1/29/2006 8:38:38 PM
my turn..i agree i hate those commercials that show the couples so happy and i know it sounds selfish and shallow..i guess because at one time i was one of those happy couples..i dont condone it for other people..just myself..vd sucks..what will i do on vd?? curl up on the couch and watch a real tear jerker (a walk to remember..sounds good)..and wait for the day to end..i guess what bugs me soo much is that my best friend has a b/f and i was really happy for her, until, she started to complain about how all he does is work all the time and she wanted the short black leather and he got her a midlength, he doesnt pay attention to what she wants (she is very materialstic)..he got her for there 2 month anniversary had 2 dozen red roses delivered to her..and she complained that they wernt yellow..he brings dinner to her at work and she complains that its not what she wants..my point is she treats him like poopie, while someone like me has sooooo much love to give and i'm alone..she is saying he better get her some kind of diamond for vd..i would be happy with a soft kiss and "happy valentines day sweety"..just not fair ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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he was married....... Posted: 1/29/2006 11:22:36 AM
in my opionon the reason some women want to be with a man who they know is married..they want what the other woman has..they think if he is good enough for that woman then he sure as hell is good enough for me..if he is a good provider for his family then that there is another plus..woman want what other women have..we want that woman's hairstyle, that woman's figure. her job, her car, her home, her lifestyle..it just stands to reason, they want someone else's man..married or not..i watched my sister in law now, go after my brother with a vengence, wormed her way into his life and became good friends w/his then wife..and i watched her take him away from my ex sister in law..i didnt agree with it then and dont agree with it now..it took me along time to accept her in my life..but i will tell u something..even though she tells me that she is deeply in love w/my brother..i will never trust her around another man or even think of leaving her alone w/any of my male friends..u just never know..(i know i babbled a bit).. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone Posted: 1/29/2006 12:55:17 AM
i was married for 11 years..and i when we divorced i got the king size waterbed..(oh he wanted it soo bad)..anyway, i couldnt even look at the bed for the first 6 months, let alone sleep in it..i slept w/my daughters, or on the couch..then i started to go in our bedroom and do lil things, that he didnt want done..i made it more my bedroom..lots of girly frilly things..i sprayed it with floral scents, put out sensous smelling candles, and made it a room that i want to go in..the first few nites were rough, i went to bed on the far side of the bed where i always slept, and as the time went by i just thought to myself, "this is rediculas" i walk around the bed to the other side of the room, just so i dont have to sleep on "his" side of the bed...his side of the bed was closer to the door, and it had the lamp on it..and it was closer to the bathroom..so now i sleep deadset in the middle of MY bed, with 12 yes 12 big pillows, a very pretty flowery comforter and last but definetly not least..my big 3 ft. teddy bear..i had specially made for me at the teddy bear factory..there r ways to deal with it and get over it..u just have to find what is right for u..good luck and dream the sweetest of dreams:) ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Does size matter ?-- {not that size / bad POFrs} the height of your date ? Posted: 1/18/2006 4:58:26 PM
i have to admit i do prefer taller men, but im not going to not go out with someone just because there not tall..i have dated men as tall as 6'7, and then as short as 5'4..my ex b/f was 6'4, and it didnt make a difference to me if he would of been 5'5..i loved him for who he was..(oh im 5'4 1/2) ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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he was married....... Posted: 1/18/2006 1:20:55 AM
princess, i wrote a thread about a date w/a married man, I do not date them or let them in my life..honey, us single women..we are to good to be someone's "dirty lil secret"...dont let him have that much controll over u that u become the "other woman" and have people call u a "homewrecker"..and as far as "his wife did it early in the marriage"??? 2 wrongs dont make a right..u dont want to be in the middle of a "haa haa i got u bk" fight..good luck!! ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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What was the best kiss you ever had? Posted: 1/16/2006 5:02:58 PM
I love to kiss..so the best kisses to me r the ones that curl my toes..it starts in the lips, and then a tingly feeling goes all the way to my toes..i have had some awsome kisses in my life..i cant really say i have had a best one..but if i had to pick i would say it was from a guy, who when he kissed me..would suck on my bottom lip..omg what a feeling..he would run his tongue over my lips, gently nippin on them, and then start a very through kiss, that ended up being a french kiss, and then when we were ready to part, he would suck on my bottom lip and pull me bk to him for more..just thinking of those kisses, how nice:) ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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tell me girls is it shallow to not date someone because they have bad teeth? Posted: 1/14/2006 7:29:41 PM
Working in the dental field i see all kinds of teeth..i have ignored someone w/bad teeth...yes its not someone's fault if they have stained teeth from antiboitics..however, if they dont brush, floss, use a good mouth rinse, there in need of dental work, (amalgom or composite fillings), or just have them pulled..then yes im gonna be shallow..i see it all, and u wouldnt believe the things that r just nasty..would i kiss them?? oh hell no..tarter, gingivitis, cavity decay, plaque..it all adds up to bad personal hygiene..and if there not to concerned about there grill...then makes u wonder, about other things, soap, pit spray, body spray, shampoo..eww all this talk..makes my skin crawl and teeth feel fuzzy.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Anyone else frustrated??? Posted: 1/13/2006 5:58:32 PM
I get a lil frustrated also..i get alot of "wow ur pretty" or like u "wanna chat?" "i wanna know more about u?" ok tell me what u want to chat about, or what do u want to know..sadly, my crystal ball broke and i cant see what u want to know..u need to type out what u want to chat about, ask me question..i swear i wont bite..and i always respond bk to my mail..unless its vulgar..then y should i?? i never said "talk dirty to me" anywhere in my profile..ok so that was my rant.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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he asks u out and then u find out he is married!!!! Posted: 1/12/2006 2:30:05 PM
All i can say is that, that was a life lesson learned..i hate to be sneaky and do things to try to catch someone in a lie..thats just not me..i thought i had asked all the right questions..i guess u can ask all the questions u want..but if the person is an accomplished liar and have all the right answers, then i guess there is not much else that u can do, until something like what happened to me sadly happens to others.. and i do agree, its not just men who r dogs, women can be just as bad..but my post was not on bashing men, just the one creep who ruined my trust in men.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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he asks u out and then u find out he is married!!!! Posted: 1/10/2006 12:56:39 PM
i do have his phone number and i would post his name but i think its a posting code violation to do so..if anyone finds out that its not..i will have it up here pronto..i have seen him on here alot since that nite..i guess he is moving on to some other unsuspecting woman..and just what does having a married man try to play me have to do with "having some1 lavish u with attention?" (message #12) what just cause im single and older i should be happy to have men even look at me?? maybe u should try something most men dont do and think before u post..moving on..religion..he is non religious..and i would never be someone's 2nd or 3rd wife..thats just ughh..well anyway i hope this doesnt happen to any other lades but as long as there r lyin dogs out there we will continue to be decieved..good luck ladies.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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what do i do and what do i not do on a 1st date? Posted: 1/9/2006 11:58:02 AM
my advice..make sure the person is not married or involved in a relationship already..start the date off with a smile and a hug, have fun, be urself, let things move naturally and dont force things..women give off lil hints as to how the date should go, be it a touch on the shoulder or grabing ur hand to look at the size of it..thats a good indication that she would like to hold hands..at the end of the date..end it with a kiss..nothing flashy or sloppy..just something to make her want to see u again..good luck.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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he asks u out and then u find out he is married!!!! Posted: 1/8/2006 5:30:14 PM
I met this really "great" guy on here..yes pof..we talked, had alot in common, and finally he asked me out..i was soo excited..then the time comes, he picks me up (he was almost an hour late)..he looked awsome and was soo sweet..but kind of nervous..i figured it was due to first date jitters..so we get to the restuarant and we sit down and he goes on to put his hands on the table..he then tells me that, he had an allergic reaction to a medicine that broke his hands out and he didnt want me to think he was gross..however its not the scaley hands im looking at..noooo..its the BIG GOLD WEDDING RING on his finger..i was like whats up with that..all he could do was look away..and ask me did i want to go home..i said "what did u do forget to take it off?" again all he could do was ask me if i wanted to go home..i said yes i do..we left so quick..the ride home was horrible..i told him i could chalk this one up to another date from hell and put in my book..and then i had to ask.."what were u hoping to achieve by asking me out..finding out all about me, giving me that great story about u being single, and raising 4 kids alone" all he could give was the famous "i dont know" answer..i so didnt desearve that..i was very honest and upfront with him and told him and every guy i talk to that i dont date married men or men who have g/f's..i have to much self respect to be someone's dirty lil secret..as we were pulling into my driveway i told him to take me off his list and never contact me again..i dont know whats up with men, and then they wonder why us women dont trust men..i am just soo upset and i think i may just take my profile off this site..and live the life of a nun.. ladyg "

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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what are acceptable questions to ask and not ask when your getting to know someone Posted: 1/7/2006 1:48:56 PM
I'm sure this topic has been done already, however, i missed it and i needed to know what are good questions and bad questions to ask when trying to get to know someone.. i have met someone from here and he seems soo sweet but i dont want to lose it by asking a "bad" question..so please help.. ladyg

ladygediva

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What Women should never wear on a date Posted: 12/31/2005 9:04:55 AM
wow ur harsh...

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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What Women should never wear on a date Posted: 12/30/2005 11:10:31 AM
ok i see ur point on some of the fashion date fo-fo's..however...what if the date is at the woman's home..she is cooking u a fantastic dinner..and since she is in her home she is wearing her slippers (which happen to be fuzzy and purple) the main reason she has her slippers on is becuase she has a no shoe in the house rule..then does that make it bad? cause that is me totally, and it gives a very comfy atmosephere to the nite.. ladyg

ladygediva

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What single act would convince you he / she is the one ? Posted: 12/28/2005 11:59:13 AM
it would be the look..the dark, smoldering look that when i walk across a crowded room and there r other beautiful women about and im the only one he has eyes for..never breaking eye contact with me..letting everyone know..im his someone special..and then giving me that sweet special kiss..i also have 2 songs..i am saving for that special someone i have never danced with anyone too..when we dance to them i will know for sure then also..it hasnt happened yet..but im patiently waiting.. ladyg

ladygediva

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Does not owning a car curb your dating chances? Honestly? Posted: 12/26/2005 10:06:22 AM
i feel that not having a car does curb ur dating potentials..i..yes i killed my car due to the fact that while i am knowlegeable in alot of areas mechanics is not one of them..i was hit had to replace the whole front end..but lil did i know that the whole frame was cracked..and i kept hearing knockings and figured it to be nothing more than the tires needed something done to them due to speed bumps in my area..and i now know that when the lil check engine lite comes on it does not mean pour a whole bunch of oil in ur car and put some window cleaning stuff in the lil plastic thing it goes in to wash windows..and ur good to go..nooooo..so needless to say i had to junk my car and the promise that if i ever do get one again..i will not attempt to read into the noises and make my own diagnosis..oh yea anyway..i hate telling people i dont have a car..well especially for the reasons i told u..but i guess if they really wanna date they will find a way to meet u:) ladyg

ladygediva

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Marry an ugly woman Posted: 12/21/2005 6:55:43 PM
I sooo dont agree with the title of this thread..i think u should marry someone who u love, repect, admire, feel safe with and when u go to sleep at nite be the last person u think of and when u wake up want to see the smile on there face first thing in the morning..while looks r somewhat important, they r not the basis for getting married..im not a total bow wow but i would feel so insulted if someone married me cause he felt safe cause i was ugly..and as far as ugly women dont cheat..oh hell no..dont u watch "jerry springer" damn he has some butt ugly girls on there married, doing there husbands brothers uncles cousins dad..so anyone is capable of cheating..i hope u find what ur looking for..but dont base ur happiness on looks.. ladyg

ladygediva

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Have you hated your ex so much at one time that you wished death upon them? Posted: 12/17/2005 4:22:23 PM
i actually hated replying to this thread cause i am guilty of such feelings towards my ex husband..but after all i put up with for all those years?? the abuse, both physical and mental, the cheating, the stealing and lieing, him putting me in the hospital and while im in there he has the nerve to run off w/my daughters..so yes i harbored alot of ill feelings towards that foul man..so much that here was my wish every day for 2 years after our divorce..i had it all planned out..i could see him standing in the middle of his yard, and i wished with all my might and broken and crushed heart...that just like in the wizard of oz, a house would fall on his head. just like it did to the wicked witch of the east..i know not a very realistic wish, but its the worse i could come up with and it did help me out to now 1 year later, i just wish for him to be happy with his life..i figure what goes around will come around and he will get his but its not for me to do.. ladyg

ladygediva

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What's the difference between divorced and single? Posted: 12/16/2005 2:19:47 PM
its all just about being labled..so ask urself which r u single single not looking single but in a relationship long term relationship single but looking married married but looking separated (i love that one) divorced widow/widower (isnt that the same as single??) no matter which one u put, except for being married, ur just single..no matter how u look at it.. ladyg

ladygediva

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My kids don't need a father figure they already have a dad Posted: 12/16/2005 12:18:52 PM
ok here goes my 2-cents...im a single mom..i have 2 great daughters..10 and 13..my thing is i want a whole family..again..mom, dad, kids..but i dont want a man to think that i am after him for just that..to be a replacement for a father figure to my daughters..yes my daughters have a dad, and while he is not the best in the world, we are not looking for a replacement for him..we are looking for a new man to become a part of our family and make it more complete than it already is..any man can help make a baby, its how u raise that child that makes u a dad..make sense?? ladyg

ladygediva

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Why are girls --- single mom's especially afraid of falling in love Posted: 12/16/2005 12:15:18 PM
personally, yes i am afraid of falling in love again..i have been hurt too many times..but i dont think its just single moms..i think its all people..especially those who have been hurt, used, abused, lied to, or just treated like crap..i too have been with men and as soon as they start to get alil closer..i just freeze..push them away with one excuse after another, even though we hit it off and things seem to go right..its the big "R" word that freaks me out..but i want it and i know i will achive it with the right one..they say there is someone for everyone out in the world..sometimes..there right under ur nose and u never know it..its my wish for everyone to find honest and true love..good luck.. ladyg

ladygediva

Joined: 3/12/2005

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Would you date a diabetic? Posted: 12/11/2005 7:45:24 PM
OMG!!! i saw the title of this thread, and thought, "WTH"..how is someone gonna not want to date someone with that..i have diabetes, and asthma..both life threatening but very very treatable deseases..i have both under controll w/out the aids of medication..its all on how u handle ur life and habits..i know smoking is not good for me, hence i do not smoke or allow it in my home..i know alchol, sweet stuff and carbs r not my friends..there gone..(well im addicted to mountain dew..i know baddd me )...if someone does not want to date me cause of that..then they can bounce out the door..and hope that the next girl finds out about some funky crotch desease they have and not date them..(wishful thinkin..)..everyone has something..be it toe fungus, diabetes, cancer, bad teeth..everyone desearves a chance.. hugs, ladyg

ladygediva

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Guys do you think scrubs are sexy ?? Posted: 11/22/2005 10:51:30 AM
I too am in the dental profession and wear scrubs daily..and they r very comfy that when i get off work i can do my running around in them and i know im getting looks..most of my male friends r like "u gotta let me take a personal pic of u in ur scrubs" no im not letting anyone take a pic of me like that..while there comfy for work and other things, sexy is not one word i would use on them..or use to intice men..does that make sense? ladyg

ladygediva

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Am I the ONLY one who hasnt found their fish here? lol Posted: 7/11/2005 5:41:37 PM
sweet, im still lookin for my fish..thought i had one..but i was wrong..i think i may be using the wrong bait..im fishin for a fish..but i want my frog, that can turn to my prince..so instead of using bologna im gonna start using flies..lol..and have a good time..honey dont worry about it, ur mr. right will come around..when u least expect it..it will happen and probley be right under ur nose..good luck.. ladyg

ladygediva

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I thought I found love and ended up with pain. Posted: 6/27/2005 7:11:31 AM
im so sorry u had to go thru something as sad and hurtfull as that..i too have been hurt and try to pick up the pieces..i was married for 11 years to a man who was controlling and a wife beater..when i finally left the scum bag i was the happiest woman..but i wouldnt let a man close to my heart again..until..i met someone..about 6 months ago..it was almost instant..i had never believed in love at first site..but it happened..one of the disadavantages though of dating me is i am unable to have any more children and i am very upfront about that..the man i was dating knew this, accepted it (or so i thought)...accepted my daughters, we had talked of other options if the time ever came that he wanted children, and was ready to move on with me..and things were great..then about 2 weeks ago, he started to act weird..now this is the first man i have told i love u in 3 years..and he tells me on a monday i love u, on wed, he has fallen out of love with me, and wants kids of his own..we broke up..my heart felt like it was torn in 2..but i realized that i have to move on with my life and just be soo much carefull of who i try to make a future with..make sure that we both want and need the same things in life..so i wish u good luck, and hope u do meet the lady who puts that smile on ur face.. ladyg

ladygediva

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Can ya attract a nice guy if ya have a boob shot up? Posted: 6/23/2005 9:21:00 AM
lol..ok i guess we can see who has a boob shot..(damn i think the grand caynon is lost in there somewhere..lol)..actually the only reason, i have this pic up is because its the only half way decent one of me..sure i get all kinds of responses, but its that way with everything..i have been on sites where i dont even put my pic up and i get responses..and to the jerk who said that if a woman puts a boob shot up she must not be able to hold a conversation..well i guess the conversations go both ways, so since all women have boobs and eventually u see them, cause gee clothes dont cover everything i think u owe all us boob shot women an apology...i know i can hold up my end of a conversation with noooo problem..so i say keep the boob shot..if we got them...be proud of them..there r nice guys out there..(i hope)

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