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tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 195 (view)

The Challenge is on...Men's opinions are needed! Posted: 8/27/2008 5:33:37 PM
1. Is there anyone out there who is interested in just being a friend. a: If I see "looking for friends" on a profile I am not likely to message you. The truth is I already have a ton of friends that I can barely keep up with. I don't think that most guys join "singles" sites to find more people to hang out with. 2. Do men think that when a woman states "friends" due you interpret that as casual sex a: I think that some guys (the ones who are usually looking to get laid) will tend to CHOOSE to interpret this as casual sex but regular "good" guys will take it at face value. 3. While we're at it, do you think that men and women can be friends without any sexual connection. a: I actually have quite a few female friends that I know I will never sleep with either because I don't see them that way or they don't see me that way or both. Anyway, once a woman has sorted you into the friend pile in her mind you have about as much chance of getting out of there as getting struck by lightning lol.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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do i give him his space or give up! help needed! Posted: 7/26/2008 4:35:25 AM
Speaking as an Army vet myself coming back can be pretty difficult. You think you can come home to this life you had before you left but it doesn't work that way. When you get back you realize that your perception of everything has changed and that there is no one that can relate to what you are experiencing. Additionally the Army discourages you from speaking about these things to anyone so you just suck it up and try to deal with it alone. This often leads to drastic changes in one's social life, isolation, and making drastic changes in general to try and feel like you have some sense of control again. Having said this, none of this is your problem. He needs to figure out for himself what his place in the world is going to be now that he is not a soldier. He needs to figure out who he is again. He needs to figure out what he wants out of life and what is really important to him right now. In all honesty, he most likely doesn't know the answers to any of these things yet and is not really going to be ready to be with anyone for quite awhile. Right now the best thing you can do for him and more importantly yourself is for you to move on and live your life without him. If he figures these things out and wants to come back to you then you can both talk and work out if it is still what you both want or not from the position of two adults who know who they are and what they want in life. Only then will you be able to see if you are still truly compatable.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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He wanted his space............ Posted: 7/26/2008 4:18:50 AM
Ok, something I have learned over time is... If someone breaks up with you for whatever reason and all they give you is they want some space, or they don't know what they want right now, or something equally ambiguous, it doesn't really matter what their reasons are. They don't really want to be with you. Beyond that what difference does it make really? There is a pretty good chance that for whatever reason they where just not as emotionally involved as you were in the relationship ans decided to move on. Whatever their reasons where for that are irrelevant to you at this point. Knowing the why's and how for's will not make it any easier for you or change anything at all. Chances are that if anyone where to ask them what it is they wouldn't even know. Just realize that this person was not as commited as you were and you are better off for not being with this person rather than finding out farther down the line.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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At what age are women at their most beautiful? Posted: 7/26/2008 4:08:25 AM
In my personal opinion this is not really a matter of age as such. I think a woman is at her most beautiful when she is comfortable in her own skin and happy with herself. I think this happens most often in the 35+ age range but it is not dependant on the woman's age so much as her level of maturity.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Big and bold girls Posted: 7/15/2008 1:08:58 AM
Wow! 1) that's incredibly disrespectful to his wife 2) That sounds incredibly insecure 3) Has he ever seen even one episode of Jerry Springer? Every woman who cheats on there is like 200+ Lbs.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 20 (view)

I read that a lot of men are looking for sweet, kind, caring woman is that really true? Posted: 7/15/2008 12:55:59 AM
Yes, many of us want a kind, sweet, caring woman. You need to remember that on a site like this (especially the free ones) that there are also going to be quite a few guys who just want to get laid. It's really not that much different than the ratio of genuine good guys to dirt bag guys you would find in your local bar. I have run into my fair share of gold diggers, desperate validation seekers, and even hookers on this and other sites, but I still try to remind myself that not all women are like that and the "good ones" are the good ones precisely because they are harder to find and worth the wait. Try to keep this in mind with us guys as well.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 61 (view)

Why are they still saying that they want a girl ............. Posted: 6/25/2008 9:12:39 PM
I really don't think this is a matter of disrespect on the part of the man so much as a percieved slight. From as man's perspective this is simply a term we use that feels more personable as refering to you as a woman may feel more clinical and impersonal. For many men it can be difficult to understand that many women have certain terms that they take offense to and that the term can be completely different depending on which woman you are talking to. I have known women who took offense to a man calling them Maam out of respect because they think that the man must think they look old. I have known other women who take offense to being called "girl" because they feel they are being perceived by the man to be in a lower social station. Have you ever said a guy is "cute" when refering to his attractiveness? If you haven't I'm sure you know someone who has. To a man "cute" is a small fuzzy animal or a kid's stuft toy or something otherwise commonly thought of as "girly", so understandably it is the last thing we would refer to ourselves as. You probably don't mean it as disrespect, it's just a term some women use without thinking anything of it. Most of us (Men & Women) use terms like this as a means to make something familiar as opposed to formal or clinical or even as a term of endearment. For me personally, if I went on a date with a woman who felt this way I would seriously consider whether or not we are actually compatable as she obviously puts a highere emphasis on life's formalities than I would be happy or comfortable with. I'm not saying that it is a bad thing, just that it is not something that most people (the people I know anyway) will understand or care about.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 197 (view)

do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women? Posted: 5/1/2008 9:52:49 PM
Actually, I have always prefered older women for exactly the reasons you listed. Additionally, older women know what they want, they usually aren't afraid to ask for it, and are generally more comfortable in their own skins.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Gaming Girls... yea or nay? Posted: 3/26/2008 10:44:36 PM
Personally I would love to meet a gamer girl. I too play D&D and video games (and DDO lol). Gamer girls where I'm at are about as plentiful as unicorns. Being a gamer here is like being a dating leper. On those rare ocassions when I DO meet a gamer girl they automatically get bonus points for me.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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can guys still be really attracted to Posted: 1/19/2008 10:53:07 PM
It's pretty much thew same for me. There is a girl at work that is beautiful and has an amazing body but our personalities are polar opposites and we just don't get along so there's no way I would ever get involved with or sleep with her.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Best First Date Locale In San Diego Posted: 1/6/2008 6:52:43 PM
Disk golf at morley field is a good one for people who like outdoor activities. It's a beautiful park, very laid back atmosphere, and it only costs like 3 bucks each for the whole day.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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What do guys think about a girl contacting them first? Posted: 1/3/2008 10:38:05 PM
Personally I love it when a woman approaches me whether it's here or in real life. I've always heard that it's more difficult for them so I tend to respect that they worked up the courage to do it.

tienlong

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Are men really looking for a normal relationship? Posted: 12/30/2007 12:19:34 AM
I personally am looking for a good relationship. Like you I have realized that sadly many people seem to cling to many of those old familiar games from highschool or dating books by so called "experts". Rest assured there are men out there who are past the game-playing and just wantr to be themselves with someone who will accept and appreciate that.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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why a man won't want a babygirl Posted: 12/9/2007 4:41:39 PM
I would love to have at least 1 son to carry on my family name as I am the last male in my line. However, the most important part to me is that the baby is healthy and doesn't have flippers I think guys who don't want a baby if it's a girl tend to be guys who have issues with women, but that's just from my own experience

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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What if.. Posted: 12/9/2007 4:32:44 PM
Personally, I always find it flattering when I woman approaches me regardless of the setting. After all it's a compliment and it makes you feel good that someone of the opposite sex finds you attractive in some way. Don't worry about looking like a "goof", you're paying the man a compliment. If he can't take a compliment gracefully he's not the kind of guy you need to have around

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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What do you think about women gamers? Posted: 12/9/2007 4:12:04 PM
I think it's awsome when a woman likes video games. BTW, I just read your profile and you may want to go into hiding. Once the government finds out that the perfect woman exists they are going to send someone over there to try and patent your DNA for cloning

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Workable pickup lines to use on a guy Posted: 12/8/2007 5:43:48 PM
This has only happened to me a few times but each time I was very flattered even if I wasn't interested. I tend to respect the woman for working up the nerve to ask me since I know it takes alot of nerve for me to do it. It shows she is actually interested, confident, and has some courage

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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MADLY in Love? Anyone remember that? Posted: 12/8/2007 5:11:57 PM
I was in a relationship that lasted 3 years once and we were "madly in love" almost until the end

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Some guys complain, but then when it isn't that way they can't keep up: WHY? Posted: 12/3/2007 11:01:42 PM
When I was with my ex we had sex in the morning before I went to work and again that night with other activities in between from time to time. That was ideal for me. I also had an ex that wanted it anywhere from 3-5 times a day (with the 5 being on weekends and days off) and that was too much after awhile. My current gf and I anly have sex about 3-5 times per month (due to distance and she lives with her parents) and I have to say it's really frustrating.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 92 (view)

Does a guy mean it when he says he doesn't mind waiting? Posted: 12/3/2007 10:36:19 PM
I have always meant it when I said it. I waited 4 months for one and another didn't believe in sex before marriage. I respected her beliefs enough not to push it, but if she had wanted to go for it I wouldn't have stopped her lol.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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older/younger sex... tell us about it... what was your experience like? Posted: 12/3/2007 9:22:10 PM
I was 23 and she was 43 We met on the internet and chatted for awhile, then talked on the phone for awhile, when we finally met we went straight to bed and didn't come out for 6 months lol. Our relationship was like something out of penthouse forums. Even after we broke up she would still call me to come "stay in" with her for a weekend. To this day she was the best sex I ever had. I pursued her.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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not cumming during BJ? Posted: 12/3/2007 8:49:12 PM
I can never cum during a b/j. I like it real rough especialy on the back of the glans. Women just dont seem to get that when their with me. I know what you mean. I have only been able to cum regularly durring a b/j when I was with one of my ex-girlfriends. She really got into it and was kinda rough with my tallywacker when she did it. I would get off so good it hurt a couple of times. My current girlfriend is so affraid of hurting me that she barely makes contact with it when giving a b/j or a handjob even though I have told her what I need. I'm not saying I want her to break out the sandpaper and thumb tacks or anything, I just need a little more contact/friction than some. It's really frustrating.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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The best thing a woman has ever done for you Posted: 11/26/2007 9:25:02 PM
We lived an hour and a half from disneyland and I was wiped out by the end of the day. She went down on me the whole way home "to keep my awake". Even better is my current S.O. She sends me texts durring the day to let me know she is thinking of me and misses me. She occassionally cooks for me and brings it to my apartment. She does alot of little things that let me know she cares and is still in love with me. That in itself means more to me than anything.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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What do you think about such category of gals? Posted: 11/26/2007 9:12:31 PM
I would be looking for her friend, the equally common unicorn lol. If the unicorn isn't her S.O. it's on!!!

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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What the hell?!?! Posted: 11/2/2007 2:01:08 AM
I know I'm opening myself to alot of critisism here but here is my situation: I met a girl on here and we have been trogether for a few months now. Things have been going wonderfully. We have met each other's families and get along very well with them. She and I get along extremely well. I know byond a doubt that I am in love with her and she has said that she is in love with me; we've even discussed getting married some day. She lives over 200 miles away from me but I drive there every weekend to see her and until recently stayed in a hotel while there. I have even quit my job to be free to look for jobs in her area so I can relocate to be closer to her (after we discussed who should move). Tonight she called me and out of the blue says she doesn't know if she wants to be with me anymore because I am behind in some of my bills and have bad credit (which I have been in the process of rebuilding). I explained to her that I only need about 2 months to get my bills back up-to-date and am currently being considered for 2 positions that pay more than enough to take care of myself and us when the time comes. However she still says she is confused and doesn't know what she wants to do. At this point I am alittle confused myself. Here I have made sacrifices that we discussed and mutually agreed upon, she says she loves me, but she is still willing to throw away our relationship over some bills? Now emotionally I know I want to be with her more than anything, but intellectually I don't know that I want to be with someone who would toss me away because I have hit a rough patch that is so temporary. I would just like some female perspective so I can try and understand what's going on here.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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10 Reasons Geeks Make Better Lovers (from Wired) Posted: 4/22/2007 6:07:57 AM
I am a total geek and proud. However, here in San Diego being a geek is like being a social leper lol. I would love to find a nice geeky girl to lavish with my geeky attention but they seem to be like unicorns; I have read about them (in monster manual of course ) but I have yet to meet one.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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How Much is Enough? Posted: 3/23/2007 12:47:44 PM
I completely agree with you on this. At this point in my life I'm really not into all the games that people play in this area. If I'm interested in you and I put it out there that I would like to take you out but get rebuffed, I'm going to take it at face value and move on. I think a person with a certain level of maturity will actually mean what they say. If you turn me down I will assume that it means you're not interested and leave it at that. If you turn me down and it's just so you can have the whole "cat and mouse" experience you're probably too immature for me to deal with anyway.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Of Sex Drives and Self-Control.... Posted: 3/22/2007 9:07:43 PM
When I am in a relationship and in love I can't get enough. I had a relationship where we had sex at least twice per day durring the work week and up to 6 times per day on our days off. The longest I've gone is 6 years after the end of the afore mentioned relationship. That was hell for the first year or so but after that it got a little easier. I'm at 3 months now in my current dry spell. I don't do the casual sex thing so I know I'm not going to be getting any any time soon and I'm ready to climb up the walls right now lol.

tienlong

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Living TOGETHER Posted: 3/22/2007 7:53:27 PM
I think it is always best to live together for awhile before getting married. There are things you just can't know about each other unless you have lived together.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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~fOr ThE gUyS oUt ThEiR.~ Posted: 3/21/2007 10:53:26 AM
Personally I prefer the girl with little to no make-up. I would much rather be able to enjoy a woman's natural beauty rather than the kind that washes off. I used to date this girl who wore alot of make-up and she was beautiful, but when I kissed her I ended up with her make-up on my face and on my clothes. I hate the way the stuff smelled when she was close and when she took it off at the end of the day she looked completely different. It was like she was wearing a mask durring the day and I only got to see her at night.

tienlong

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straight to the sourse!!!! Posted: 3/19/2007 9:58:22 AM
In response to your origional question, yes, I would give her up if I know I'm not going to be 100% in the relationship due to not being 100% through with the old one. 5 years is ALOT of time with someone. If they just ended things last fall he may not be 100% over it yet, especially if she is still around trying to get him back. I'm not saying he is tempted to get back together with her at all but her still trying to get him back would retard the healing process. He needs to be able to get completely away from his ex and find his piece with the break-up before he can be emotionally ready to be in a new relationship. He probably knows this and is trying to keep from hurting your friend or starting something with someone he is genuinely carring about that he can't put all of himself into right now. Just give him some time and see how it works out.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Is it my destiny to be single??? Posted: 3/18/2007 8:06:12 PM
Do you like a challenge;are they just out to get it as easy and fast as they can? This really depends on the guy in question. Some guys (usually the younger ones) are just out to get laid plain and simple. These are also the guys who are into the "challenge". They enjoy the challenge of making you believe they are genuinley interested in you and overcoming your guard, gaining your trust, and getting you into bed. However, there are also those of us who are more interested in the "challenge" of getting to know you and find out if there is the potential for an honest to goodness relationship. This is the real challenge for us as it usually involves picking our way through all the BS left in the wake of the guy that came before us in the first scenario. They see sex as part of a healthy relationship but not as an end unto itself. Is a confident (not stuck up) woman intimidating?/Is an intelligent woman a turn off or intimidating? These two questions really have the same answer I think. My observation has been that there are some women who exibit these qualities simply by being who they are and it just comes through naturally. These people in my opinion are some of the most attractive. Is a confident, intelligent, or independent woman intimidating or a turn off? No. Maybe if the guy involved is particularly insecure. But an over compensating **** (I'm not implying that you are one) certainly is. Some women will have a tendency to go out of their way to tell and show that they don't need a man, they are smarter than any man they meet, and use every opportunity to prove it. This is usually a turn off for any of us when meeting anyone, whether it's a potential friend, romantic partner, or whatever. Are you really interested in what a woman has to say;does her opinion matter? If the guy is really interested in you as a romantic partner and not just a sex toy then yes, he will be interested in what you have to say, respect, and value your opinions. Is it a turn of for a woman to be blunt; while having tact of course. I think this just depends on the subject matter and how secure/insecure the man is. Do you pick women based on looks? I think this depends on the scenario and on picking for what. If he's looking to get laid, then yes. If we haven't had the chance to get to know you in some way before hand (like seeing you from across a room or bar) then yes. Simply because we don't have anything else to go on at that point. It's the packaging that get's your attention but it's what's inside that keeps it. Do you think all blondes are dumb and easy? I would say this is a silly question if I hadn't met some people in my time that are actually this stupid (not all of them blonde). Hair color has nothing to do with intellect. We (men) know this. However there are always people who are actually stupid enough to believe these kind of stereotypes. Is it possible for you to stay in a relationship when sex is put on the back burner till way later? This depends on the guy inquestion. I think alot of us are certainly capable of this. It just depends on the goals and maturity of the guy. I was in a relationship for a year with a girl who didn't believe in premarital sex. We never had sex and I loved her just the same even though there were certainly some very frustrating times. Is it always,"bros b4 Ho's"? LOL... pardon the terminology This would depend on the scenario and the guy involved. Is it all bad when a woman can hang out with you and the boys once in a while and not complain but really enjoy herself? Of course not. Most of us want this I think. However, we also need to have time with "the guys" once in awhile that doesn't involve you. It gives us a chance to relate/bond with other men and replenish ourselves why do you hotties pick some of the less attractive women?/Is an attractive woman intimidating do you think she will be a bad choice in the end mabey turn in to a psycho all of a sudden? This just depends on the guy and what he likes. In my opinion what a woman thinks is attractive is not always what we think is attractive. Could it be that this less attractive girl has a heart of gold and an outstanding personality? To the guy she's with she may be the most beautiful woman in the world. Why begrudge them that? Sometimes the "attractive' women are high maintainance, vain, spoiled, and have come to expect that their looks afford them certain privilages. Some guys understandably find these qualities unattractive in a potential mate. What is the most attractive about a woman is it the way she walks,talks,smells,looks,her hair? I can only answer this one for myself. Initially, it will be something about her looks, the way she moves/walks. When I get to know her a little it will be her personality. If she shares some of my interests, views on life, has something she is passionate about etc... These are just my opinions/observations and I do not present this as being representitive of all men (how can I?). I hope this helps. -Z

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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What about expert advice? Posted: 3/14/2007 3:02:50 AM
In my opinion, the only guy you're going to get by playing games like that is a guy who likes playing games. It sounds alot like highschool to me. I personaly love when a woman approaches me first, it's flattering and shows me she has some self confidence. If I noticed the person I'm dating is dating other guys at the same time and we have been seeing each other for awhile I would think she must not be very serious about dating me and start looking elsewhere.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Is Height an issue to Men? Posted: 3/10/2007 2:40:06 AM
I personally have nothing against it at all. I often just wish the tall women would give us shorter guys a chance. Although I have <5'9" listedon my profile because my experience is that seems to be the tallest a women will consider dating me lol. If she is everything else I like in a woman I don't care how tall she is.

tienlong

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Do you still want to talk if you want kids and I don't? Posted: 3/7/2007 2:06:10 AM
I don't think you should waste your time or his on something like this. If it's not something you are willing to budge on chances are it's not something they would be willing to budge on either. Then where does that leave you? It's a path that leads nowhere. There is just no reason to start something you know has such a good chance of ending in sorrow and heartbreak. There are plenty of guys out there who have no intentions of having children in their lifetimes. No need to go through the trouble of having a relationship that is just going to end badly with the ones who already know that's what they want.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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cellulite. Posted: 3/7/2007 1:56:54 AM
I would have to say yes, we notice. Now whether or not we care is another thing entirely. One of the previous posters said something to the effect that if they want you for YOU then it wouldn't matter, which is true. I once had an S/O that was 111Lbs when we met but after a year of my cooking (hehe) she had 174lbs on her 5'4" frame and I loved and wanted her constantly, but if they don't know you and are just seeing you on the beach, they're just looking at chicks in bathing suits and checking them out. There is no deeper thinking of who the women are on the inside. It's all just scenery to them for the most part. On the other hand, men for the most part are not nearly as critical of all the little imperfections that alot of women seem to worry about on themselves.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Calaveras Celtic Faire Posted: 3/7/2007 1:38:58 AM
There is one here in San Diego every year in Morley Field. Sorry I don't know when the next one is.

tienlong

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Playing it cool Posted: 3/6/2007 4:16:37 AM
I've actually read a couple of other threads on here from women who say that they prefer for the guy to NOT tell them how they feel up front because then they are not "challenging". They prefer the whole cat and mouse chase thing. I myself have actually encountered this response. Alot of women will percieve a man as boring or even weak if he lays his cards on the table and shows interest. You're right, it is a game, and it's childish but many of us are just used to that being the game we have to play to even have a chance. Sadly it seems more and more to me like the lost art of being yourself is being looked down upon in the dating arena these days.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

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Super short women wanting WAY taller guys? Posted: 3/5/2007 6:18:52 PM
Blueguy I can see some of what you're saying. My previous girlfriends have all commented on my "protector qualities". Many people are often surprised to learn that in my time I have been among other things: 1) A martial arts instructor 2) A hand to hand combat instructor in the military 3) A kickboxer 4) The Head bouncer for a popular nightclub And at 5'6" and 175Lbs. I have torn down some pretty big dudes well over 6' 250Lbs. However, unlike many of the bigger guys that I worked with in bars, I always tried to talk the guy out of the bar first rather than taking things to a physical level to prove who is more macho lol.

tienlong

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Super short women wanting WAY taller guys? Posted: 3/5/2007 6:12:26 PM
-What's better then having a long legged beautiful woman's legs wrapped around you? A short one trying! LOL that's awsome! I hope some day I get to verify that

tienlong

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Women with a tattoo on their chest? Posted: 3/5/2007 6:35:35 AM
I don't have any problems with a woman having a tattoo regardless of where it is. Hell, I'd probly be covered in them if I had that kind of money but hey that''s just me. I currently only have one lol. Anyway, I don't think having a tattoo says anything about a person's personality or state of mind other than they have a tattoo. The only ones I tend to discourage people from getting if they ask me about it are the ones you see on the walls. If you get one it should be something that has personal meaning to you as an individual, not something mass produced that 100 other people have.

tienlong

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Super short women wanting WAY taller guys? Posted: 3/5/2007 6:28:27 AM
Some of the responses on here have given me some insight and others have given me a laugh just when I needed it thanks alot for posting. Women, please understand that I am not trying to generalize. It's just been an observation of mine and several of my buddies when we worked in a club. Many of my buddies are over 6' and had many shorter women hit on them in a night, while I and my shorter buddies have a somehwat harder time because alot of taller women (taller than us anyway lol) want a guy who is taller than them while alot of the women who are shorter than us want the WAY taller guys (6' +). Just an observation on our part I agree that height shouldn't matter and for the most part with me it doesn't. On my profile is does say that I am looking for someone 5'9" and under but I would be willing to go as high as 6'. I only cut it off after that because I don't want to have to carry a stool around with me to kiss you tall ladies

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 12 (view)

Why are guys always looking for the next best thing? Posted: 3/5/2007 6:06:49 AM
Are you kidding? I'm hoping for the day I can retire this thing lol. Alas I am pretty much on here for the forums at this point, I'm not sure it's even possible to meet someone on here. I think if you are together and have ahd the "exclusivity talk" that it is perfectly reasonable to expect them to retire the ole profile. Or at least state somewhere on the profile that he is no longer looking as I have seen on many here. Chin up kid, not all of us are constantly on the make for a new bird. In my last relationship we each had a profile on another site and we deleted them together when we decided we were it. It was a bonding experience lol.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 12 (view)

Lover or sister Posted: 3/5/2007 5:30:14 AM
I'm sorry, but perhaps as you yourself mentioned he simply doesn't know what he wants and at this point is trying to have a commitment free/sometimes sexual relationship with someone he is comfortable with a la FWB. After reading some of your other posts and your profile you sound like an awsome woman with alot to offer a guy who can appreciate it. I think it's time you put your foot down with this guy and define what your relationship to each other is going to be. If friends, then no more "intimate moments". That's not a friends thing to do unless it's FWB. If more, then he needs to step up and fill that role to the best of his ability and not be lazy or "wishy washy" about it.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 179 (view)

height question???? Posted: 3/4/2007 3:16:23 AM
Heh, I was just reading the Ask a Girel forums and saw this. It seems to contradict what alot of the women were saying on here. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6742424.aspx To the women who dig us shorter guys: You Rock!!!

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 22 (view)

She ordered the lobster! Posted: 3/4/2007 2:13:41 AM
I had one that kept telling me about she is a dominatrix on the side and all the fun things she was going to do to me later LOL. Another one asked me how much money I made at my job and whether I owned or rented. I hate when they talk about 1 or more of their ex's excessively. I met one girl at a restaurant down the street from her apartment and then walked her home after because it was after dark and I wanted to make sure she got there safe. When we got there I gave her a hug good night and said I would call her ( and meant it). She gave me this look of astonishment and said she thought I was just walking her back to get into her pants and isn't that what all guys do? There was no 2nd date for her either. I'm not just after sex, anyone can get laid I actually want a realtionship with a good woman. I am not my bank account, nor do I want to be a sugar daddy. I am not every Tom,**** and Harry that has ever wronged you. If a woman treats me as any of these things I'm gone. Life is too short to waste on anyone who does not see and accept you for who you are.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 177 (view)

height question???? Posted: 3/4/2007 1:43:11 AM
Funny that you posted this, I posted a similar one in the california section. You should read some of the responses I got there. I am very secure n myself. I know who I am and I don't see myself by other people's values. However, I have noticed that most women want a guy who is taller than them. I once asked a very special woman that I knew (who is now one of my best friends) to go out with me and she told me straight up that I was too short for her lol. She is 6'2" and I'm 5'6". I like being 5'6" and have no issues being with someone taller. I don't suffer from "Nepoleon syndrome". In fact most of the people I meet comment on what a "great guy" I am. However my experience has been that most women will politely tell me I don't meet their height requirments and move on to the 6' + guy. I have tried seeking women my height and below and strangely enough I often find that their requirments are often even more wstringent on this (often over 6').

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 43 (view)

Why do guys say they are good looking in their profiles? Posted: 3/4/2007 1:27:59 AM
I would have to guess that it's the same reason so many women list "sexy" on theirs; Insecurity. Either that or there are alot of men out there that have no idea what women find attractive and a hell of alot of women out there that have no idea what men find sexy. And while I'm at it, what is up with women listing "I like to live life to the fullest" in their profiles? Do you guys get some kind of women's handbook when you register? I see it in like 7/10 profiles I read on any site. This is my pet peave equivalent of the women who complain about the shirtless guy pics lol. Which I also find annoying btw

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 48 (view)

What drives you crazy? Posted: 3/1/2007 7:34:39 PM
I had an ex that on our days off would putter around the house wearing nothing but one of my shirts. For some reason it made me want her all day long. The same girl was also constantly playing with "Mr. Happy" kind of absently while reading a book or while we watched TV, or while I was driving. I aslo used to love when she came and she would bury her face in my neck. I don't know why but that always put me over the top.

tienlong

Joined: 3/18/2004

Msg: 59 (view)

So what is 'bad sex' to you? Posted: 3/1/2007 3:04:41 AM
- 'bunny humpin'. (I heard a POF member call it that a while back and hurt myself laughing!) You know, when the goes at it 'speed of light' fast. It's like a carnival ride gone wrong... LOL, I just added that to my personal dictionary Thanks!

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