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Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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Are they all from the same father??? Posted: 5/27/2005 7:11:21 AM
I have 3 kids, by 3 different fathers. Yes, men do ask this question. I don't mind answering it, because if the answer bothers the guy, then he can move it right along. Just because my kids have different dads doesn't mean I love them any less...so it really shouldn't matter. Some guys are quick to judge a woman about stuff like that. They should wait until they hear the whole story before concluding that the woman is scandalous or sleeps around. There may be underlying circumstances...maybe one of the fathers turned abusive after the baby, and maybe one was unfaithful but you didn't find out until after you were already pregnant...it just all depends. Just get to know the woman first before judging her.

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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Do you dress to your satisfaction when you meet girls? Posted: 5/26/2005 1:36:27 PM
It may sound really weird, but I'm not comfortable around guys who "dress up"~~you know, with the pressed pants, button-down shirt, dress shoes, etc. I like when guys look laid-back and casual, like they CARE about how they look, but they just aren't comfortable in the dressy stuff. Because then when they DO dress up, you get bowled over by how hot they are in a suit or whatever...THAT'S what I find attractive...

Alyristay

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finally a true soulmate Posted: 5/24/2005 11:33:21 AM
@ Sir and Sexy~I wish u both the best of luck!! I love to hear stories like this...they're sooo inspiring! @ Jenna~Even if the person isn't your ideal in the looks category, the emotions and connections are what really matter. Don't go based on looks (although looks are important to most people...they're DEFINATELY not everything). How do you feel when you're with him? Does his personality make him irresistable and adorable? Go with your gut, jenna...I think if you really like this guy, make it work! The good ones don't come along very often! Speaking of good ones, I have also found someone on POF. He's absolutely perfect in my eyes. We have so many things in common, so many weird things...it's strange that we found each other on here and we joke about it alot. It's kinda like some unseen force led us to each other, as crazy as that may sound. He loves my kids, and he's talking about possibly moving here to be with us. He lives 150 miles away, so this would be a big step for him. The fact that he's thinking about this means alot to me. We've only been seeing each other for about a month, and alot of people would say, "That's not alot of time to know if this person is the one you want to spend your life with..." My rebuttle to that is this: Love knows no time limit. When it happens, it happens, no matter how long or how short the time frame is that you've been together. I know that this man is beautiful, amazing, and I can honestly say that I love him. As long as you both feel the same way about each other, who's right is it to tell you that you haven't known each other long enough to decide that you're soulmates??

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/19/2005 5:04:02 AM
nevermind...over your head, tdots...

Alyristay

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How do you know when you're falling for someone? Posted: 5/18/2005 8:31:53 AM
There's no such thing as going too fast, I agree. But, there's such a thing as being cautious. It's usually when things develop pretty quickly that someone winds up getting hurt. I'm talking to an awesome guy right now and we both were in really bad previous relationships. We're trying to take things kinda slow, but it's very hard to do because we have everything in common, and we like each other VERY much. We've met, and all I want to seem to want to do is see more and more of him. We live 150 miles apart, so we don't get to see each other that much, but we talk every day. With him, I get the butterflies, the weak knees, the school-girl giggle...and I'm sooo not like that. So, I'm just taking things one day at a time, to see how I feel about everything and about him...I'm scared...scared to death. But, I'll be damned if I'm gonna let him get away if he's the one I'm supposed to be with!! Good luck everybody!

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/18/2005 7:48:58 AM
I aim to please! Just ask tdots.... Oh WAIT!! slaps hand to forehead He CAN'T use his fantasies as proof of my skill and expertise!! What was I thinking???

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/18/2005 6:44:23 AM
You lose...

Alyristay

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/18/2005 4:50:37 AM
@Jenna~ Thanks, girl!! @tdots~All I can say to you is this is lotsa fun! Don't you get it yet??? I'm not biting my nails, anxiously awaiting your responses to my posts. I'm logged into POF almost all day while at work, and I just happen to notice when you post. I just find your responses humerous and so entertaining that I can't help but reply to them. You pissed me off on the other thread by calling all women "whiners", but I got over that real quick when I realized that your juvenile mentality is preventing you from using your common sense...you can't help but be idiotic, sarcastic and rude. It's who you are. I respect that. But, in the same aspect, YOU need to respect MY need to slam someone who repeatedly uses his insufficient amount of common sense to make rude comments directed at people for no apparent reason. Therefore, I MUST call you a Cheesedoodle...I simply MUST!! And, oh yeah, you'd LOVE to think I was stalking you...if I were a stalker, honey, I'd pick someone that didn't look inbred...and that could hold a remotely intelligent conversation...hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but you're not worth stalking. Ick.

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/17/2005 5:24:34 PM
Oh, I forgot to mention that you need to get a spell checker for your computer because your intelligence (or lack thereof) is showing through with the bad spelling. Get you, bub, calling other people idiots. What's up with that????

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/17/2005 5:22:35 PM
What's really sad is that you think we all really care what you're writing. We're just responding to posts on here, just like you, Cheesedoodle, so if you really think we're just sitting around here waiting for your next post so we can be all "emotional" about what you write, oh, boy are you wrong. Nope, most of us are out there dating and enjoying life and not planning to go "find you and beat you up" because in all honesty you're not worth the time or the trouble with your attitude. Thing is, you COULD be a nice guy if you wanted to, but it seems that somewhere along the way you decided that to be a rude son-of-a-b**** was the way to go in life and then you got the nerve to get all defensive when someone decides to tell you you're rude. I'm just offended by rude people in general and you just happen to fit into that category. I guess we could just all ignore you, but then what fun would that be? We enjoy calling you names like Cheesedoodle and seeing how offended YOU get by how "offended" we are. Sad is someone who feels the need to perpetually interject his idiot opinions into conversations when they have absolutely no relevence to the topic at hand and then wonders why "all women are whiners". Hmm...did it ever occur to you that maybe your personality brings out that trait in women. They're probably whining and complaining because you won't leave them alone! Ok, that was fun. Now, it's your turn. Cheesedoodle.

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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Artist Name? Sara Brighton?? Posted: 5/17/2005 10:58:25 AM
Sarah Brightman has a beautiful voice!! There's another singer named Charlotte Church and she's only 14 or 15 years old, but my God can that girl sing! I get goosebumps every time.

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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What is art to you? Posted: 5/17/2005 10:55:22 AM
I have a passion for all types of artwork, being an artist myself, but my main weakness is fantasy/faerie art. I especially love David Delamare, Amy Brown, Jessica Galbreth, Brian Froud, and Jasmine Beckett-Griffith. I can just sit there and gaze at one of their pieces and just become totally engrossed in it. There's something so mystical and enchanting about fantasy art that gets me every time. I also get that way when I'm working on my own pieces. I'm totally oblivious to everything that goes on around me, and before I realize it, 3 or 4 hours have gone by. You can do so much with fantasy art...there's no limitations. And that's one of the things I love about it. There's no restrictions...nothing seems out of place.

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/17/2005 7:58:11 AM
"nice" is not in his vocabulary...actually, I don't think there are too many words in his vocabulary...he seems to be a few beers short of a six-pack... the wheels spinning but the hamster's dead...ok, tdots, go ahead with your oh so witty comeback...

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/16/2005 11:09:31 AM
SEE WHAT I MEAN TDOTS??? ^^^^^YOU'RE RUDE AS HELL!!!

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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R Kelly's Trapped In The Closet Posted: 5/16/2005 7:00:22 AM
R Kelly has NEVER appealed to me. The whole scandal w/ him made me sick, but somehow, I'm addicted to trying to figure out how this song is gonna turn out. It's almost like this song (any chapter) comes on and taunts me....

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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Music - III Posted: 5/16/2005 6:53:50 AM
"Swamped"~Lacuna Coil

Alyristay

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/13/2005 11:08:37 AM
shaking head in shame Sadly, yes...

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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R Kelly's "Trapped In The Closet" Posted: 5/13/2005 6:35:16 AM
Has anyone heard Chapter 2 yet?...I just heard it about an hour ago. R Kelly had scrambled up the last line of it before releasing it to radio stations so it wouldn't give too much away. But, the station I heard it on managed to unscramble it, and now I'm hooked. I don't really like R Kelly much and Chapter One got on my nerves a little bit, but ALOT more goes on in Chapter 2. Now I have to wait about 3 more weeks for Chapter 3!! Oh, the humanity!! LOL

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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what do you think of when you listen to music? Posted: 5/13/2005 5:51:46 AM
I have such a varied taste in music, so it simply depends on what I'm listening to at the moment. If I'm listening to a kick-a** female lead (i.e. Amy Lee, Stevie Nicks, Lita Ford), I think about how I could be the lead right now in my brother-in-laws band and I get kinda depressed, but I declined the offer so I could focus on being a mommy. I think in a few years, tho, the world will ready for me and my kids won't miss me as much! It's something I've always wanted to do. If I'm listening to rap/hip-hop, I think about dancing. It doesn't matter where I am. People look at me strange, because I wind up dancing in my car all the time. If I'm listening to 80's pop, I reminesce about my childhood, and looking up to my sister. It just all depends.

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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Ok, Help me out Posted: 5/12/2005 1:24:16 PM
Looks pretty good to me! No caps, no desperation, no pickiness...I think you did very well!!

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/10/2005 7:07:52 AM
LMAO waspleg! That was great! I didn't know what the hell you were talking about til I looked at the guy's profile... good times!

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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TOO ALL THE MEN Posted: 5/9/2005 12:54:22 PM
** Sorry! First paragraph on above post is from polarunion's earlier post. I forgot to put it in quote block! **

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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TOO ALL THE MEN Posted: 5/9/2005 12:52:48 PM
wakeup. fat isn't attractive. it's a degredation to society and it's not healty. obesity will become the leading cause of heart and stroke in both countries soon while smoking is on the decline. I was gonna direct my angry, yet dignified response to polarunion's insensitivity, but he deleted his account. I think he's just got very, very low self-esteem. Insecure people tend to be very judgemental and love to point out other people's flaws. They do it to feel better about themselves. So, I guess I'll just say this: Who's to say fat isn't attractive? As polarunion so eliquently put it, "it's a personal preference." Yes, this is true. But, it all depends on how you carry yourself. There are so many beautiful overweight people in the world that carry themselves with pride and don't let anyone's comments bother them. There are also some people who are overweight BECAUSE of serious health problems. Unfortunately, that's happened to my mother. It's something she can't do anything about. So, for some little arrogant, insensitive moron to sit there on his pedestal and say offensive things about overweight people makes me want to invent a new use for duct tape...if it's your personal preference, fine. You don't need to explain yourself any further if all you're gonna do is discriminate and offend people. Shall I go into explaining why I don't like self-righteous, insensitive idiots?

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I found THE ONE on POF Posted: 5/9/2005 9:17:19 AM
BTW, please forgive me for not saying "congrats" to everyone on this thread that has found their fish...sorry!! I'm a little preoccupied...

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I found THE ONE on POF Posted: 5/9/2005 8:57:36 AM
I just wanted to say that I, too, have met an incredible person on POF. He's sweet, hilarious, respectful, romantic, crazy in a good way, and not to mention gorgeous as hell I'm so excited! We've been talking for about 2 weeks now and just met this past weekend. We're both trying to take things slowly because we've had bad luck in relationships in the past. We don't want either one of us to get hurt by rushing into things. But, I have to say, I've been out on many dates since leaving my ex almost a year ago, and I never felt anything with any of them. But, ever since this awesome person first messaged me about 2 weeks ago, I've had extremely strong vibes. He lives about 150 miles away, but I'm not at all worried about it. I know if things are meant to be, they will be, no matter what. Distance or not. All I know right now is that I'm happy. This person is making me happy. And if he ever reads this, he's gonna know my feelings have gotten stronger since meeting him. They were strong enough already, just from talking to him, because we have SO many things in common...things that alot of people wouldn't understand. Our minds are so incredibly unique, yet so similar, so it's strange that we would manage to find each other. It's awesome. It's almost as if he KNEW me before he even sent me the message... To you, baby, you know who you are...you will never know how happy I am that you sent me that first message (I still have it, btw...I refuse to delete it yet). I have such a good feeling about you and I hope everything keeps getting better... Love, yslb

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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I haven't found my better half Posted: 5/6/2005 1:36:34 PM
Ditto on the previous suggestions. Juan, you are being WAY too critical. I understand that there are obviously gonna be personal preferences when it comes to meeting someone you might spend the rest of your life with. But, there seems to be way more don't s than dos. Don't you think it would be better to just limit your list to the things you REALLY can't tolerate (such as smokers and women with kids) and then go with the flow. You may find that something that bothered you before doesn't really bother you as much now that it's wrapped up in a sexy package! Have an open mind! Life's no fun if you put restrictions on everything! Good luck!

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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something fun to do! Posted: 5/5/2005 11:56:39 AM
old Metallica-"Master of Puppets" ok, someone else can pick a line this time...

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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something fun to do! Posted: 5/5/2005 6:57:39 AM
Okay, this is for people on here that become very bored while they're at work or what-not and like to do silly, mindless trivia. I'll quote the line of a song and someone will guess what it is...then THEY have to quote a line from a song (in the same post) and someone else has to guess. Sound stupid? I'm up for anything right now! I guess we'll give it a shot and see if it works! Ok, here goes... "hell is worth all that natural habitat just a rhyme without a reason neverending maze drift on numbered days now your life is out of season"

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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best song to stripe for your lover to? Posted: 5/4/2005 11:28:33 AM
"Just A Lil Bit" by 50 Cent, OR "Some Cut" by Trillville Sometimes, if I'm in the mood and feelin freaky, I like "Got You Where I Want You" by The Flys (from the movie Disturbing Behavior).

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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A girl has needs and you're a good looking guy. Posted: 5/4/2005 11:05:00 AM
oh yeah, btw...thanks Jenn!!

Alyristay

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A girl has needs and you're a good looking guy. Posted: 5/4/2005 11:02:46 AM
chris ~ I've learned from experience not to base my happiness and self-esteem on relationships gone wrong. I've had one of the worst relationships anyone could ever have, but I stuck it out because I loved him. Over time, that love faded because of the way he treated me. I still have feelings for him...and it hurts that things didn't work out. But, why sit here and cry about it when I know there's someone better for me out there? I'll find someone else that will treat me soooo much better than he ever did. And all the happiness that I'll feel then will make up for all the heartache I was ever put thru. You just gotta keep a positive outlook, Hon. Past relationships are just that...past relationships. Look to your future; get excited about how you'll feel when you finally find "the one".

Alyristay

Joined: 3/15/2005

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A girl has needs and you're a good looking guy. Posted: 5/3/2005 12:02:45 PM
chris--you gotta have more confidence in yourself than that, sweetie!! I spent a long time chasing guys that were "hot", and while there were a couple of nice ones in the bunch, a majority of them were extremely arrogant and annoying. My ex of almost 9 years is beautiful, but he's a completely self-absorbed jackass. I'd rather stick my finger in a light socket than be with someone like him again. I'd rather find someone I'm attracted to that isn't "model material" and then fall in love with his charm, personality, and cute quirks. I don't want a man for me to "flaunt" because he's so attractive. I want a man that will show me PDA and have other women get jealous over how sweet he is. I'm NOT saying looks don't matter. They matter (or don't matter) to the individual. YOU, not the rest of the world, have to be attracted to a specific person. You can find someone beautiful that your best friend could think is ugly as hell. It depends on your tastes and what you consider attractive. Unfortunately, there is too much emphasis on dress size, measurements, height, etc. I, for one, like taller men (5'10" +)...not because that's society's ideal for a man...but because I like to feel protected, and when I hug him, I like to rest my head on his chest. Could I fall for someone that's my height? Probably. But, it hasn't happened that way...it's a personal preference. I'm 5'6", and just because I'm not a size 2 or 4 (I'm a size 12/14 and not afraid to admit it), I am not considered "healthy" or "attractive"? I think I'm a reasonably attractive person, I'm pretty damn healthy, so if some man doesn't like me because of my size, he can keep on walking...but he's missing out on one awesome chick!

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